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Speaker: What's up, Classy Crew?
Speaker: Welcome to episode five of Classy on Occasion.
Speaker: On today's episode, Julie and I are going to share with you some leaps of faith that we've taken in our lives that in some cases impacted us in a really big way, both personally and professionally.
Speaker: So we're excited to share with you guys.
Speaker: We look forward to what you think on the other side.
Speaker: Hello.
Speaker: Hello.
Speaker: Hi, friends.
Speaker: Oh, man.
Speaker: We're having hair technical difficulties.
Speaker: It's not a thing.
Speaker: I found a lucky penny this morning, though, so.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: We're off to a great start.
Speaker: Hi, everyone.
Speaker: We are excited to be here again, catching up on the last couple weeks.
Speaker: I'm busy over here.
Speaker: I'm actually staring at it right now.
Speaker: So my six-year-old is obsessed with chess.
Speaker: Miss Frances, her, thankfully, my husband knows how to play because I do not.
Speaker: So I'm also in the process of learning.
Speaker: And can I tell you that it's a lot easier to learn things as from a six-year-old's perspective than an adult's perspective?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: We just overanalyze everything, I think.
Speaker: And she's super smart in getting it.
Speaker: So that's been a lot of fun.
Speaker: Amazing.
Speaker: Can I just tell you, my son tried to teach me and I'm not afraid to admit, well, maybe I'm a little bit afraid to admit, but I'm like, wait, it's way too much.
Speaker: Remember, what does the night do?
Speaker: And one can go diagonal and one can go up to an over one or is it over to an up?
Speaker: I'm like, oh my God.
Speaker: I need a cheat sheet.
Speaker: My brain can't.
Speaker: I just can't.
Speaker: It's too much.
Speaker: It's a lot.
Speaker: It is.
Speaker: But I'm just I just am in awe of her.
Speaker: I'll have to show you her little picture.
Speaker: Like she came down in the morning.
Speaker: It was like, I'm ready to play.
Speaker: I'm like, oh, my gosh.
Speaker: So we're taking donations for chess camp.
Speaker: Go fund me.
Speaker: Go fund me, Frances Chess Camp.
Speaker: And then I just want to shout out.
Speaker: I'm enjoying this delicious cup of coffee right now.
Speaker: I was very fortunate on our retreat to meet Sweet Emily, and she's the owner of a Sulon Collective in Nashville.
Speaker: So I'm a little jealous that Heather has the opportunity to have her coffee a little bit more readily available.
Speaker: But she does have an incredible subscription service.
Speaker: So you can have the single origin whole bean coffee.
Speaker: It's from Guatemala.
Speaker: It is amazing.
Speaker: It's so good.
Speaker: This one's sweet cinnamon honey chocolates, red cherry honey crisp apple.
Speaker: That's a lot of words, but sounds delicious.
Speaker: So good.
Speaker: But I also love that her message is just bringing people together through conversation and coffee.
Speaker: So if you see her in person, you get a really cute conversation starter question, but there's also one on the back of the bag.
Speaker: So this one is, if you could share a cup of coffee with anyone, who would it be?
Speaker: So I'm going to answer it.
Speaker: For me, it would be my grandmother.
Speaker: Especially right now, like having such an adult relationship with my mom as I'm going through motherhood, I'd love to pick her brain about how
Speaker: her journey was through motherhood, raising my mom, you know, like, um, just having that perspective.
Speaker: So, Oh, I love that.
Speaker: Who would you have?
Speaker: Anyone?
Speaker: I'd really want to think about it.
Speaker: But when you said your grandma, I was thinking someone that was alive, but if I could go and have one with my mom, who's not, who passed away a while ago,
Speaker: When she passed away, Wade was three, who's now 22.
Speaker: So obviously I've learned so much through motherhood and on these years since she's been gone.
Speaker: So I'd want to really talk to her and just tell her I'm sorry.
Speaker: I mean, I really would want – I've learned so much from being a mother, and I'm like, I'm so sorry I was such a shit so many times.
Speaker: I'm so sorry that I blamed you for stuff.
Speaker: And I would want to talk to her just because I want to –
Speaker: to be able to tell her I'm sorry and I love her.
Speaker: She knew I love her.
Speaker: She knew I love her, but I would never love her.
Speaker: And she knows you're sorry.
Speaker: Oh, I know.
Speaker: But I could think about that some more because there could be lots of people.
Speaker: We've seen one is very stressful.
Speaker: I feel very overwhelmed right now.
Speaker: I have to pick one.
Speaker: There you go.
Speaker: So I guess ask yourself this question every morning, but go follow Emily.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Like I said, no matter where you are, you can enjoy her coffee.
Speaker: But thank you, Emily, for sharing your message with us.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: She's a special, special, special person.
Speaker: You guys, I love what she's doing and she's doing it.
Speaker: She's so passionate.
Speaker: So in her coffee, I will tell you, she made it for us at the retreat was delicious.
Speaker: So definitely support and follow her.
Speaker: Good.
Speaker: Thanks, Emily.
Speaker: We're going to leap in today's episode.
Speaker: And she snorted, yes.
Speaker: Julie is a snorter.
Speaker: So we're talking about leaps.
Speaker: Leaps.
Speaker: It was hard for me when we were kind of chatting about this before.
Speaker: I was like, what's a personal leap?
Speaker: I actually took one this morning.
Speaker: Took a big personal leap.
Speaker: So fitness has not been, I'm not an athletic person.
Speaker: I played a little soccer and growing up, but I very much 30 years ago.
Speaker: But I very much like as a teenager, like had that kind of worker's heart and I was like, get me into a job.
Speaker: I want to earn my own money.
Speaker: I want to get out into the world from that aspect.
Speaker: So finding this gym three years ago,
Speaker: I didn't know like how much I needed mentally fitness in my life.
Speaker: And this morning I somehow was, it was 5am and I was convinced by, I was delirious maybe.
Speaker: I was going to say.
Speaker: Convinced by the girls in my gym to sign up for this level up competition in April.
Speaker: So I've got just over, you know, six, seven weeks to prepare.
Speaker: So yeah, I was like, you know what?
Speaker: I'm just going to do it.
Speaker: Why not?
Speaker: Why not?
Speaker: And I kind of immediately had – I said why not and then I immediately was like, there's girls in here that are more experienced and they're in better shape and they have more endurance.
Speaker: And I was like, what?
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: You're still going to have fun training.
Speaker: You're going to get stronger.
Speaker: Just do it.
Speaker: So I very quickly silenced all those negative thoughts.
Speaker: But
Speaker: yeah, huge personal leave this morning.
Speaker: So I'll share my journey with you guys.
Speaker: I'm so proud of you.
Speaker: I feel like you're always trying to challenge yourself.
Speaker: And I love that about you.
Speaker: And those are all leaps.
Speaker: You've taken so many leaps, which I know we're going to get into.
Speaker: But there are so many reasons why you could have said, I can't.
Speaker: I have two young kids, one of which is still a baby, right?
Speaker: I work a lot of hours.
Speaker: I have a husband and family.
Speaker: And there's no way I can do it.
Speaker: There's all the reasons why you could have said, that's not, I can't.
Speaker: And yet you said, why not?
Speaker: And I am.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I will say my final kind of push is the night before I was talking to my husband about it, Stoney.
Speaker: And I said, you know, they're kind of, you know, keep getting in my ear.
Speaker: Like you haven't signed up yet.
Speaker: Are you going to sign up?
Speaker: And I said, so, you know, if I sign up, you have to make me like a big tacky poster, you know, to cheer me on.
Speaker: And I'm going to cry right now.
Speaker: And he was like, well, there will be three posters and my little 18 month or 19 month old now will be holding one.
Speaker: And I'm like, oh my gosh, my girl's like watching me do something hard.
Speaker: And that's really cool to be able to show them that they can do hard things in their life.
Speaker: I mean, it's something small, but it felt really big when he said that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I love Stoney, aka Shybro.
Speaker: Shybro.
Speaker: We probably should explain that.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: I think we should leave it alone.
Speaker: We'll put you guys in later.
Speaker: Try to figure it out.
Speaker: We'll see.
Speaker: If anyone can guess, put it in the comments on our podcast.
Speaker: Little hint.
Speaker: I have it too.
Speaker: I love Stoney.
Speaker: He is great.
Speaker: So what's a, what's a personal leap you've taken Heather recently, not recently.
Speaker: Oh, so many.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: No.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: More recently when I agreed, when Tammy Osborne asked me to do the retreat, I have done some workshops before and I loved them, but I haven't done them in a long time and had a lot of life transition since my last one.
Speaker: So when she asked me, and it was coming up pretty quickly, I looked at her and I was like, yeah, I'll do it.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: And I'm like, oh, shit.
Speaker: Here we go.
Speaker: So that was, I mean, I love doing them.
Speaker: So I don't know how much of a leap of faith it was, but it kind of was throwing me back into a platform that I haven't been in in a while.
Speaker: So that was certainly, I would say, to some degree a leap.
Speaker: And it's so cool to see you.
Speaker: I've obviously seen you in a...
Speaker: physical, like being around people physically, um, in a coaching kind of environment.
Speaker: And I know how much pressure you put on yourself and how much prep you put, like you pour your heart into it, leading up to it.
Speaker: Um, and then it's so seamless when you start speaking and you are very clear with your message because it's all coming from your heart.
Speaker: Like
Speaker: It flows so perfectly.
Speaker: But I also see all of the work that you put into it beforehand.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: Because I'm like going, oh, I could have done so much different.
Speaker: But it's true that when you do something that fires you up, that you're on fire about, it's a lot of work, but it doesn't feel like work.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So that was certainly a leap.
Speaker: When I opened up, I was telling you earlier, when I opened up the fitness franchise back in 2014, made the decision to do it.
Speaker: I was a single mom at the time with two young boys and to make that kind of investment and owning a business, albeit a franchise, which certainly was very intentional, right?
Speaker: Not just trying to do it from scratch.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But that was super scary.
Speaker: And that was a big leap because I was putting really...
Speaker: you know, all of our eggs in one basket from a financial, um, situation.
Speaker: And I was scared, but I'm like, I felt it in my gut.
Speaker: I'm like, I can do this.
Speaker: I can do this.
Speaker: And not only did it support me and the boys financially, it absolutely, um, changed my life and, and really helped me discover my purpose, which was, um,
Speaker: feeding into people.
Speaker: And in turn, they were fueling me.
Speaker: I thought I was servicing them and I was servicing them outside of just physical, like giving them a platform to come physically exercise.
Speaker: But how many of us, especially women, really all go through so many of the same emotions and have the same questions about our self-worth and go through difficult times.
Speaker: And I just loved...
Speaker: I loved being with them every day.
Speaker: Now I'm going to cry.
Speaker: I mean, I just loved when they walked in my studio, you can ask a lot of my members.
Speaker: I just lit up and I just got to talk to them and be with them and help them realize that they're special too.
Speaker: And how that fueled my heart.
Speaker: It was huge leap, scary, but one of the, one of the best decisions I've ever done in my life.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And that goes into like comparing what your kind of financial risk reward looks like.
Speaker: And then when you stripped out away,
Speaker: the value on everything else, right?
Speaker: The taking, um, I've been in my position at this, at I love kickboxing for three years.
Speaker: I think this month, I think it's this month.
Speaker: Um, and you know, thankfully it led me to you.
Speaker: Um, huge, like how do I put a price tag on that?
Speaker: Um, but when, you know, you called me and you were like, Hey, come work with me.
Speaker: I was like, maybe, I don't know.
Speaker: I'm like, oh, you will.
Speaker: I'm going to find a way.
Speaker: And then looking back, I cannot believe it's been three years.
Speaker: That's insane.
Speaker: But looking back, not only meeting you, I mean, that's no price tag, but the amount of professional and personal growth that I've experienced.
Speaker: Like, I don't think –
Speaker: I would be as committed in my fitness journey.
Speaker: I don't think I'd be as committed professionally.
Speaker: And then obviously all of those, all of those things,
Speaker: attributes that I've been able to gain just trickle down into everything in my life.
Speaker: Everything.
Speaker: The way that I feel my body.
Speaker: I mean, it's wild.
Speaker: My work-life balance.
Speaker: I'm very much an early bird.
Speaker: I could probably do eight hours of work from four to seven some mornings.
Speaker: Then I get to get my girls ready for school.
Speaker: When you're looking at something and
Speaker: The dollar amount can sometimes be very present, whether it's, again, your risk of investing into your own studio or maybe this isn't as much money when I look at the time that I'm investing into this position, but what am I going to get out of it if I strip that away?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah, a lot of that is even just your mindset of how you look at it, right?
Speaker: And being open to all
Speaker: the growth opportunities in that.
Speaker: Um, I was telling you to another, when I, when I moved to Nashville without going into a lot of that background, um,
Speaker: My mom took me and my sister.
Speaker: We went to church.
Speaker: Just we weren't real consistent.
Speaker: My mother loved the Lord.
Speaker: And she was a believer.
Speaker: When she was dying, she had no fear of dying.
Speaker: So we went to church.
Speaker: We just didn't go.
Speaker: It wasn't like a part of our everyday life.
Speaker: So I would tell you that I knew scripture, the Bible.
Speaker: I'd be lying.
Speaker: My dad and my bonus mom, my stepmom, when I was with them, they would certainly, they are avid believers, still go to church all the time.
Speaker: So I had some exposure here and there and I did FCA in school, but I really felt very like I was in my infancy around my faith when I moved to Nashville.
Speaker: And I joined a church when I came here with the boys and loved the church.
Speaker: And I remember the pastor, Pastor Pete, asking from, it was a huge church.
Speaker: He was asking for volunteers to run these small groups.
Speaker: And he was up there on the stage talking to all of us.
Speaker: He's like, look, I promise I'm going to give you what you need to run these.
Speaker: All you need to be able to do is open a bag of Doritos, bag of pretzels.
Speaker: I'll give you everything else.
Speaker: We did it a couple of weeks in a row and I felt like this twinge.
Speaker: I moved here.
Speaker: I had my sister and brother were here, but I just felt like I needed to find a community.
Speaker: I was longing for someone, for people to
Speaker: film me because I was in a very vulnerable place in my life.
Speaker: And so I thought, I was sitting there going, oh God.
Speaker: So I thought, I just kept feeling this pull on my heart.
Speaker: So I was like, okay, I'm going to do it.
Speaker: I'm going to do it.
Speaker: I don't even know how to pray really.
Speaker: And I certainly can't read, can't really say any scripture besides John 3, 16, because my stepmom and dad got me to know that one.
Speaker: So I was like, okay, I'm going to do it.
Speaker: I don't know why I'm saying yes.
Speaker: The Lord is, the Holy Spirit is speaking in me.
Speaker: So I said yes.
Speaker: And
Speaker: was, you know, thinking, okay, God's going to bring me all these women that are my age.
Speaker: And they're going to come and tell me it's going to be okay.
Speaker: And they're going to hold my hand.
Speaker: They're going to pray over me.
Speaker: And in walks all these 22, 23, 24 year olds.
Speaker: And I'm like, wait, this is not God.
Speaker: You're not answering my prayer.
Speaker: Not what I wanted from saying yes to this very scary thing that I'm not going to know how to pray.
Speaker: And then these women, these girls, young girls were just what God was what I needed.
Speaker: They were amazing.
Speaker: They were looking for me.
Speaker: So all of a sudden,
Speaker: It took me out of me.
Speaker: Like I was like, I'm going to, they need me to mentor them and guide them and love on them.
Speaker: And that filled me.
Speaker: But I met my friend, Danielle, one of my best friends in case she listens to this, cause she gets really upset if I don't make sure everyone knows that she's one of my best friends.
Speaker: Um, shout out to Danielle, but I met her and we became great friends.
Speaker: She's like one of those people that no matter what happens, she has my back.
Speaker: She'll take the, she'll kill someone if they try to hurt me.
Speaker: My business, she was like, we're going to be number one.
Speaker: And we were, I mean, she's like that friend that if she, if you, she trusts you and you trust her that she'll do anything.
Speaker: But she, through the years, we've been great friends.
Speaker: Um, she's a singer songwriter now she's living in Tampa, but she introduced me to Joey, who is my husband.
Speaker: So by me saying this to a Bible study, not only served so many purposes and filled my heart and God gave me just what I needed.
Speaker: And I think I gave a lot to these girls that were looking for just someone to believe in them.
Speaker: Then through time, then here, Danielle introduces me to Joey and here I am married to bonus amazing daughters and
Speaker: You just never know.
Speaker: But I was super scared to say yes to a Bible study when I thought, oh my God, I'm going to have to pray with these people.
Speaker: And they could be, by the way, these 22 year olds could pray better than me all day long, but that's not what they needed.
Speaker: They didn't care.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Exactly.
Speaker: God, God was playing the long game with you on that one.
Speaker: She said, I know, I know you're feeling down right now, Heather, but I'm going to need you to go to this Bible study because you're going to get a husband out of it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: See, that was a big leap and look what happened.
Speaker: Look where I am now.
Speaker: It's crazy.
Speaker: That's wild.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And just as we're talking, there's so many tiny leaps we take every day too.
Speaker: And some of them pan out and are the absolute best things in our entire lives.
Speaker: And some of them don't.
Speaker: And that hurts.
Speaker: So I guess I would love to ask you, what kind of advice would you give someone who
Speaker: you know, maybe did take that leap and fell flat on their face.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And that, I hope that happens.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Listen to me loud and clear people.
Speaker: I want, if that's not happening, you're not taking enough jumps.
Speaker: You're not leaping enough because it's in those, I've made so many mistakes, made decisions when I did not follow my gut, by the way, I need to put my pen down, that those are lessons, life lessons too, if we're willing to look at them and reflect on them and learn from them.
Speaker: Those are not mistakes.
Speaker: I mean, I said mistakes and I guess, you know, in hindsight, you can say they're mistakes, but something came out of that.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So I want everyone to take leaps and make mistakes and fall on their face because that means you're doing enough.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And that's a great way to build trust in yourself, right?
Speaker: You take a leap.
Speaker: Was it something?
Speaker: Was it an external factor or was it internal?
Speaker: Did I completely misjudge the situation, the person?
Speaker: So what about that leap?
Speaker: And then that way, the next one you take, you have better trust in yourself to make that right decision.
Speaker: Yeah, so true.
Speaker: You have to be so self-aware.
Speaker: I'm one of our podcasts.
Speaker: I think we talked about EQ, but you have to be so self-aware that you're looking for those patterns and you're asking yourself those questions.
Speaker: But I mean, I think we take some type of leap almost every day if we allow ourselves to, whether it's going to a gym, taking a challenge, whether it's deciding to go to a networking group or a meeting or, you know, take a phone call that someone's asking you, you just don't never know.
Speaker: where that will lead, who that will bring into your life.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So, um, I look for the opportunities and all of those.
Speaker: I mean, me,
Speaker: taking this phone call from Danielle to join this company three.
Speaker: The supplements have been amazing.
Speaker: I feel amazing.
Speaker: My body feels better, but going to that leadership conference in Vegas, which was part of three, I met so many great people.
Speaker: So, so many great people.
Speaker: And then to bring it to today, where last night we had an event and two of the top leaders are here from Florida.
Speaker: And I had coffee with her this morning and her name's Holly Roush.
Speaker: And I just left there going,
Speaker: thank you again, God, what she's an amazing person, believer and passion for people.
Speaker: You know, so outside of this, the business, we just talked and I thought, and I just connected with her.
Speaker: I'm like, wow, wow, wow, wow.
Speaker: I get to, you know, connect with this person who's amazing, who influenced me in a 45 minute coffee that, well, who knows how that'll play out in my life now.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Because I said yes to a phone call over something I really had no interest in at the time, but
Speaker: I trusted Danielle.
Speaker: I'm like, okay, let me just listen.
Speaker: And lifelong friendships have been made from me saying yes to that phone call.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: You just don't know.
Speaker: You don't know what opportunities are going to lie, what lessons are going to, I mean, even if it's not an opportunity, I feel like, you know, sometimes we go into certain situations, like what can this person offer me?
Speaker: Also, what can you offer them?
Speaker: But it's also, is it just a lesson?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So that's awesome.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So many stories like that.
Speaker: I mean, over and over.
Speaker: And I'm not sitting here saying, say yes, everything, please hear me clear.
Speaker: It's not what I'm saying, but I think sometimes we don't say yes because we're fearful.
Speaker: Um, right.
Speaker: And we find an excuse not to when it's really a knock on our door.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: If we will open it.
Speaker: And sometimes we perform better under a little bit of fear.
Speaker: Oh, fear is a good thing.
Speaker: People.
Speaker: It really, um,
Speaker: It really is.
Speaker: I remember reading something.
Speaker: I'm going to paraphrase this so wrong.
Speaker: Wait, does that make sense?
Speaker: What I just said?
Speaker: I'm going to paraphrase this.
Speaker: Something about like, I remember someone saying to me, like the times when we don't want to go to church, we don't want, we have resistance against something like, Oh, I just feel this resistance.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: That's oftentimes when we need to do it the most.
Speaker: That church service is going to be when the Lord is going to speak right to me to what I need to hear that day.
Speaker: The days that I'm fighting against going.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Or I don't want to go to that event because I just, oh, people are there.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: When I feel it pulling on my heartstrings or pulling on my, it keeps coming up in my brain again.
Speaker: That's when I have to say yes.
Speaker: Because that's when there's something there that I need to hear or see or someone I need to meet.
Speaker: So I think just really listening to your instincts and
Speaker: making sure your reasons or your excuses for not doing something you're saying no are valid.
Speaker: Like if it's my child's sick.
Speaker: Yeah, that's different.
Speaker: That's black and white.
Speaker: But not when it's like, I don't feel like it or I'm scared.
Speaker: Yeah, I don't know who's going to be there.
Speaker: I mean, that's a huge one.
Speaker: But obviously that's stemming from something else.
Speaker: So someone that you might meet there might ease whatever nerve is currently going on and pull you out of that funk that you might be in.
Speaker: Um, so yeah, do it.
Speaker: I'll say about that.
Speaker: And this goes to many things in my life, but trying to be open-minded and getting rid of any judgments, um, misconceptions of something and willing, allowing yourself to be open-minded and open-hearted to something.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Cause why is that limiting belief in our mind anyway?
Speaker: Why are we judging it that way?
Speaker: You just don't ever know.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So take a leap through your fear, through your judgment and see what you come out with.
Speaker: Take those leaps, guys.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Thanks for joining us this week.
Speaker: And we can't wait to see you guys in a couple of weeks.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Thanks, everyone.
Speaker: Have a great week.
Speaker: We hope this week's episode inspires you to take a leap.
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