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Speaker: Hi, and welcome to Classy on Occasion, episode two.
Speaker: On this podcast, Julie and I are going to talk about some of the most important life lessons we've learned so far.
Speaker: So thanks for listening.
Speaker: Thanks for tuning in and enjoy this episode.
Speaker: Hello.
Speaker: Hello.
Speaker: Episode number two.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: We are continuing to do it.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I'm so excited.
Speaker: I love it.
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Speaker: At first, I guess, first I wanted to say thank you to everybody that has made comments, the review, gave us feedback.
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Speaker: Well, it's been a great week.
Speaker: It's been snowing here all week.
Speaker: It was like negative degrees in Nashville, which is crazy for us.
Speaker: And looking at my window right now, everything is just white.
Speaker: So pretty, but no, thank you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I like one or two days.
Speaker: And then, you know, because of the temperatures, you have your –
Speaker: Nice fur blanket on.
Speaker: I was like, I feel a little furry, but it is applicable.
Speaker: Is that the right word?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Given the weather.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: What is wrong with it?
Speaker: If we don't get snow, we're going to have to put her on a plane to Nashville because she actually, she put on some snowflake socks this morning.
Speaker: So she's trying to manifest it.
Speaker: She is.
Speaker: She is.
Speaker: So I love it.
Speaker: I'm hopeful for her.
Speaker: Yeah, I hope you get some too.
Speaker: It is pretty.
Speaker: I know the girls, they're not with us this week, but they've been sledding and playing in it every day.
Speaker: So it's the best.
Speaker: Kids love it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Well, awesome.
Speaker: So today I'm excited to kind of talk about some of the biggest lessons we've learned and we put in the title so far, because I certainly feel like I'm learning lessons and gaining wisdom probably almost every day.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: It's funny.
Speaker: I was talking to my mom about that.
Speaker: She's retired and I never want to get in that mindset of, well, because I'm retired or I don't know, I still personally want to continue to evolve and become a better person in general in all my roles.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I know you and you will.
Speaker: One reason for kind of covering these issues
Speaker: um, we're going to talk about 10 or 12 of our, some of our lessons we've learned.
Speaker: It really is because certainly some things you can't, you can't learn until it happens, right.
Speaker: Until you go through something.
Speaker: But I do always think about if some of these things were spoken to me, um, advice given to me when I was younger, you know, would anything be different?
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: I think probably there is some power in that and shared wisdom.
Speaker: So we're going to touch on some today.
Speaker: And then I certainly feel like, I think I've said certainly like three times now already.
Speaker: We will certainly, oh my God, that's four.
Speaker: We will do podcasts and build on these in the future.
Speaker: So that's exciting too.
Speaker: So one of the first ones I want to talk about
Speaker: I kept tiling it different things, but I ended up putting on it, you know, who do I want to be when I grow up?
Speaker: And really what I mean by that is like really being grounded in who we are and our values, the kind of person we want to be.
Speaker: And why I said who you want to be when you grow up is I was thinking, you know, someone actually said this to me in the past year or two.
Speaker: When they were younger, they're like, you know, I said, who do I want to be like?
Speaker: and not just professionally, but like a person of character and values and strength and confidence and really identifying with who that person is.
Speaker: And then as you're younger, making decisions based on that, right?
Speaker: If you know you want to be a woman of strong faith and a mother of strong faith, then you need to make decisions like going to church or being in Bible studies or whatever that means for you to actually become that person you want to be.
Speaker: If you want to be someone that's respected, you have to respect yourself.
Speaker: So what decisions when you're younger are you making decisions?
Speaker: that align with that.
Speaker: So, and again, I think we, that will grow and evolve as we learn more, but I think really, if I would have asked myself when I was younger, you know, what kind of woman do I want to be when I look back?
Speaker: I think it would have, I believe it strongly, it would have molded some of my decisions that I made.
Speaker: I think it also, I mean, a big part for me personally, if I'm reflecting, um, at what age are you, are you making those decisions?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And, and at what age have you heard those conversations?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: If I would have heard from,
Speaker: a strong mentor at 14 years old, man, my teen years would have been a lot different.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: I could have made a couple better decisions.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: You and me both.
Speaker: So yeah, it's like at what point, you know, do we have those mentors?
Speaker: And then at, you know, at what point in our life, what age are we able to at least let it make a small dent, right?
Speaker: I'm 14.
Speaker: I don't,
Speaker: really care what you're saying mom or aunt or whoever that person is for you but at least it can make that small dent and then making sure that you are starting to reflect on the choices that you made your actions so that's super super important again it's hard at that age because you think you literally know everything I mean my six-year-old thinks she knows everything so true
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So I think that's important.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: And you just, you just mentioned my next one, which was like really the power of self-reflection and personal growth.
Speaker: And I know you and I both feel so strongly about that.
Speaker: And, and I, I put self-reflection first because we need to really be aware of, of our, who we are, our limiting beliefs, what we're good, strong in areas that we're not in, you know, what are we putting,
Speaker: limitations around ourselves.
Speaker: And I wrote in their therapy, and I know you and I both go to therapy.
Speaker: I go to couples therapy with my husband too.
Speaker: And I'm such a believer in it.
Speaker: And I wish it was mandatory at a very young age.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: The tools that you're provided and then the self-reflection tools, especially when you think something's like happening to you or someone is doing something to you.
Speaker: And then it's like, well,
Speaker: Are they doing it to you or are they projecting, you know, something that happened to them?
Speaker: And then as you're processing that, you're immediately like, well, wait, do I do that to people?
Speaker: Like the self-reflection, it just opens your mind up to truly like break down your life, break down the way you react to things.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And why.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Why?
Speaker: And then allows you to then change it the next time.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Or work through whatever past trauma or whatever you're dealing with causes you to react that way.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And by the way, it's super powerful in all aspects of your life.
Speaker: Relationship with yourself.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Certainly with your partner, your husband, really identifying and being self-aware.
Speaker: But also in your business.
Speaker: I mean, those things that we're talking about, limiting beliefs, strengths, weaknesses,
Speaker: empathy, that all plays out in business too.
Speaker: So you're really missing the boat if you aren't taking the time to grow, but also reflect, be self-aware.
Speaker: Some of the strongest leaders, and I've read about a lot and studied a lot, are learners.
Speaker: Leaders are learners, right?
Speaker: And when I say learners, it means they're committed to investing in their own growth.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: I want to make sure we're going to, you and I could spend hours on each one of these and we're going to do future podcasts.
Speaker: So I want to make sure we don't spend too much time on each one.
Speaker: But the next one I had
Speaker: which is, I wrote down, which can kind of go into this too, personal growth, but stepping outside of our comfort zone.
Speaker: And that's really where true growth lies.
Speaker: And this is so important.
Speaker: And I believe when I was reflecting back on my life, I thought I really did this relatively well when I was younger, but it wasn't intentional.
Speaker: As I got older, it became very intentional, right?
Speaker: I know, first of all, this podcast, I know we were both excited about it.
Speaker: Sure.
Speaker: But it's made us both uncomfortable too, right?
Speaker: So
Speaker: it was a perfect example of stepping outside of your comfort zone.
Speaker: What about for you?
Speaker: You know, going back to, I don't know why this, all of these things are immediately making me reflect on like my teenage years.
Speaker: And I think that's because you have this, like stepping outside of your comfort zone, you have this, um, what's the word?
Speaker: Like Hulk aspect of yourself, right?
Speaker: Like I can do anything.
Speaker: And then are you just applying that in the right ways, right?
Speaker: So being brave, keeping that kind of blind braveness sometimes when you're doing something.
Speaker: I don't know how this is going to work out.
Speaker: I mean, like we've done two podcasts.
Speaker: I hope that people continue to listen.
Speaker: I hope that there's still excitement.
Speaker: But just, you know, we're going to keep doing it.
Speaker: We're enjoying it.
Speaker: We hope that it's going to change people's lives.
Speaker: So having that kind of brave braveness
Speaker: blindness to continue.
Speaker: And then, I mean, just the growth from our first podcast to this one, right?
Speaker: If we just stopped, we would be doing ourselves a disservice because we didn't know how good we could get, right?
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: So continuing to do it.
Speaker: Keep putting one foot in front of the other to step outside of your comfort zone.
Speaker: Well, and I think trying new things, doing things make you uncomfortable, it's either going to set you down a path
Speaker: That's going to be amazing and great.
Speaker: And, or it's going to close a door, right.
Speaker: Or shut down that path or put a detour in that road.
Speaker: And that's powerful too.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So I think there's so many things to try and you think it builds confidence.
Speaker: I mean, every time I did something, even like a skill or an adventure that really tested my, you know, fear or you become more confident in that too.
Speaker: So there's just so much, um,
Speaker: so many good things that come from getting uncomfortable and on our future podcasts.
Speaker: And we talk about this one more, I'll share my Bible study story, but, um, making the decision to host a Bible study with no real biblical background was a huge step, um, out in fear, getting super uncomfortable and it absolutely changed my life in a huge way.
Speaker: So we'll talk about that in a future podcast.
Speaker: kind of along this too.
Speaker: And another lesson that I think is super powerful and I've learned a lot is growth and success comes through our mistakes and failures, right?
Speaker: I mean, someone said this to me and it's so true.
Speaker: If you aren't failing at something, making mistakes, you're not trying enough things.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So I think...
Speaker: not being afraid of that.
Speaker: And what's, I think the next one, but we're looking going to here too, is like not giving a shit what people think.
Speaker: And that I'm a people pleaser at heart.
Speaker: I've come a long way from that, but I don't want to look stupid.
Speaker: I don't want to feel stupid.
Speaker: I don't want to disappoint anybody.
Speaker: I don't want to make anybody mad at me.
Speaker: I don't want too much attention on me.
Speaker: Period.
Speaker: Like if it's positive or negative, even sometimes I'm like, yeah, someone came up to me at the gym last week and I was like, Hey, podcast girl, because we're promoting it.
Speaker: I'm like,
Speaker: Oh, my gosh.
Speaker: Don't talk about me.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But it was also immediate out of fear that there was something that they weren't going to like.
Speaker: Oh, for sure.
Speaker: In fact, this morning I thought, you know, if I hope this explodes, I really do because I just love to feed into people and I love being with you.
Speaker: especially in this environment.
Speaker: But part of me this morning was like, you know, we're going to, people are going to be naysayers.
Speaker: Someone's going to say, you guys suck, or this is terrible.
Speaker: How do you guys, you're not qualified to be talking about these things.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And it, it caused a little angst inside, but I'm like, you know what, but if, if we impact one person, then it's worth it, but still have that, you know, we don't know, like you said, this is going to be a success or not, but I'm still willing to do it.
Speaker: But somebody that can go back to my life and we'll do this in another podcast too, but where I've made mistakes, where I've had failures,
Speaker: And just the growth that came out of that and catapulted me in another direction is mind-blowing and life-changing.
Speaker: So I'm excited to share some of those stories with our viewers and listeners too.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And our next lesson is one of my favorite lessons.
Speaker: I think this lesson, it was exactly three years ago.
Speaker: I heard this from Heather.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: If it's not a hell yes, it's a no.
Speaker: I meant to bring my coffee cup that says that, and I forgot to bring it this morning.
Speaker: It is so clear.
Speaker: It's just, if you are not feeling it in your gut fully, it's a no, right?
Speaker: And it could be a no, not right now.
Speaker: It's still a no.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And I, this came out of talking about, I actually learned it from my mentor, Kelly, who,
Speaker: who used to be in my position and fed into me a lot business and personally, but she's, when we're talking about recruiting and hiring people, she, that was her lesson.
Speaker: So I actually stole it from her was like, if it's not a hell yes, when you're looking to hire somebody, it's a no.
Speaker: And it, and now I've hired hundreds of people throughout my career.
Speaker: Now I can look back and go, Oh my God, those times that I hired someone because I thought I have to get somebody hired and they were on a hell yes.
Speaker: It didn't work out.
Speaker: But then we started, I think you and I were talking about this, that you can really apply that to every aspect of your life, whether it's a relationship, a friendship, a business decision, right?
Speaker: And you have to really kind of dig in there to identify, is my pause because I'm fearful, right?
Speaker: Failing, right?
Speaker: So that's not what I mean.
Speaker: But if everything else aligns, right?
Speaker: It feels right, aligns.
Speaker: And it's just the fear that's causing pause.
Speaker: then that's still a hell yes.
Speaker: You have to be able to kind of distinguish between the different emotions you're feeling.
Speaker: But you know, I mean, when I go back on my life on things I did that I knew I shouldn't have, there was always, my gut was not telling, I knew not to do it.
Speaker: And I didn't do it.
Speaker: You know, tiny red flags.
Speaker: And then as you're going down this path of whatever that decision was, relationship, job, those red flags become absolute headaches for you.
Speaker: And you're like, I, you know, so then you're,
Speaker: you're wasting more time, energy, navigating how to break the situation or get out of it.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: I was talking to someone recently who was like, she said, I don't want to give her away because it was a confidential conversation, but she said, you know, blah, blah, blah, but, and the but was trying to talk herself into the decision.
Speaker: And I'm like, you're saying, but no, it's a no.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: That, but to be the, but can circle it and go, I'm saying, but, and so that means I'm, I'm,
Speaker: qualifying it or making excuses for it or, you know what I mean?
Speaker: You're finding a reason justifying it.
Speaker: But you're saying, but, so you know you shouldn't be doing it.
Speaker: And you're going to continue to do that if you say yes.
Speaker: And it's going to be a big pain in your butt.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: The next one's like a big, big lesson, which we can't, we cannot, this is going to happen to us whether we like it or not, but change is no joke.
Speaker: We're going to have change in our life.
Speaker: I mean, it's big change a couple of years ago with the pandemic, right?
Speaker: I mean, our whole lives were turned upside down.
Speaker: So we have to have grit.
Speaker: And I wrote, you know, if I wrote grit, don't have to have a grit.
Speaker: I thought I wanted to have some grits all of a sudden.
Speaker: Maybe we want to go have some cheese grits.
Speaker: I love cheese grits.
Speaker: I diverse.
Speaker: But we have to be able to be prepared for change.
Speaker: It's going to happen.
Speaker: It's going to happen in our personal life.
Speaker: Most of the time we have no control over it.
Speaker: So looking for the opportunity and change, I think, and just being willing to go with it because we really have no choice.
Speaker: It can be very limiting if we try to wrestle with change.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And you could stay in a very dark place for too long and miss out on other opportunities.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It doesn't mean – and we didn't put this in here, but we talked – it doesn't mean you don't grieve whatever happening, the situation, what you thought it would be.
Speaker: It's okay, but then you have to move on, right?
Speaker: We can't – Joey was talking to me and my husband about just electric – all these things, electric cars.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And I'm like, well, they're here and they're not going away.
Speaker: I mean, they're going to learn from and make them better because I know there's issues now with charging and that could be a whole other segment on that.
Speaker: But I don't, they're coming.
Speaker: They're here to stay.
Speaker: They're going to, this world's going to come AI.
Speaker: People that are fighting AI, for example, AI is here and AI is not going away.
Speaker: So, but we need to learn it, figure it out, embrace it.
Speaker: And how can we use it to our advantage?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And that goes with anything and the change in our lives.
Speaker: people in relationships, someone has an affair, divorce, whatever the case may be, those things are going to happen.
Speaker: And we'll talk about that in future episodes too, because obviously I've been through a lot of that.
Speaker: But there can be a lot of beauty in what comes out of that change.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: So I'm excited to dig into that somewhere too.
Speaker: The next one, relationships and friendships, and just how they can be in our lives just for a season sometimes.
Speaker: And that was really hard for me
Speaker: about 15, 12 years ago probably when I lost some friends due to circumstances.
Speaker: And it took me – it was really, really hard on me.
Speaker: And then I just realized that God was just cleaning people out of my life that didn't need to be there.
Speaker: And I had to trust that, but I had to really lean into that because it was hurtful.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And then you go down the path of, well, what did I do wrong?
Speaker: What did – and you kind of self-sabotage at that point.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But again, at the end of the day, what was, what were they holding me back from?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: What relationships was I missing out on because of the limiting friendship that they were offering me?
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: I'm stealing from somebody else too, but they talked about drains versus fountains.
Speaker: This goes for anybody in your life, but is someone filling you up or taking everything out of you?
Speaker: And I've definitely had some friends that were just exhausting.
Speaker: And I don't mean someone going through a hard time,
Speaker: Cause that's going to happen and you want your friend, you need your friends then, but you know, someone that just constantly is just taking from you emotionally and you're just, you leave them.
Speaker: You're like, Oh my God, I'm exhausted.
Speaker: I love when I get together with my college friends, we always say there's five of us and I'm like, we leave and we always feel better.
Speaker: Like we always want to be, be better, live our lives better.
Speaker: Like it's just, and we've all been through a lot together, but you want to be around people that actually uplift you, challenge you, that make you want to be a better person.
Speaker: And I was thinking about this earlier.
Speaker: I thought, you know, I see it in my circle that people will have friends in their lives that make them feel better about their choices, but not in a good way.
Speaker: You know what I'm saying?
Speaker: Like, like.
Speaker: You've got agreeable annies over there who are like, yeah, Heather, that's a, that's great.
Speaker: And then it's like, is it?
Speaker: Or yes.
Speaker: Or their life is, they're not doing a lot with their lives.
Speaker: So as long as I surround myself with them and I feel good about mine, even though I'm not doing with my life what I want to.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Because when you're around people that are more successful or doing things that you want to do, you can either go, I'm going to level up my life.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Because I want to be like that too.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: or you're going to be like – you're going to feel like a constant failure because you're not living like they are even though you want to.
Speaker: Does that make sense?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: It's like I might have just talked in circles, but does that make sense?
Speaker: No, absolutely.
Speaker: I mean you want to have people that are going to challenge you, right?
Speaker: You also need to know that their success is going to look different than yours, right?
Speaker: Like I am not going to be X successful.
Speaker: I might be Y successful.
Speaker: Like everyone needs to remember that our lives are not parallel.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: we have completely different journeys and completely different destinations.
Speaker: So as long as you're with people that are challenging you, but also you're not saying, oh, I'm not as successful as I could be.
Speaker: I'm not as, no, they're great people.
Speaker: They're inspiring.
Speaker: You're still trying to level up your life versus I'm not doing as well as them or I'm not doing anything at all.
Speaker: So my life just sucks and they're lucky or whatever kind of words you want to put in your head to
Speaker: beat yourself up.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: So I think the friendships that are important to you, relationships are important to you.
Speaker: You have to feed into them because you get out of it what you put in, but also knowing that, you know, it's not really a number.
Speaker: We don't need a lot of, a lot of friends.
Speaker: We need quality relationships, right?
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: So that was a big one for, for me.
Speaker: And then this kind of leads into you are the average of the people you hang around.
Speaker: I know the quote is five people.
Speaker: I took five out just because I feel like it could be more, could be less.
Speaker: And this is the same with your friend.
Speaker: We just talked about that with friends.
Speaker: But also, this is where we've talked about professionally and who you're putting yourself around.
Speaker: Because the people that we hang around are going to reflect our decisions and the life we want to have, right?
Speaker: So we have to be very, I hate to use the word intentional again, but it's the best word, who we're putting in our lives and who we're surrounding ourselves with, especially professionally.
Speaker: Because they're going to expose us to things we wouldn't otherwise be exposed to.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And you need to be mindful of how you are, how people receive you professionally, right?
Speaker: Like, am I somebody that people want to come to?
Speaker: Because you're going to have people that you have to work with.
Speaker: Right, right, right.
Speaker: No choice there.
Speaker: But am I, am I somebody who, am I reflecting what I want to receive if I have to work with someone else?
Speaker: Like, am I somebody who's going to be open and helpful and
Speaker: you know, challenging, but in a good way to my coworkers.
Speaker: So that's, you know, that's just reflection on people who you don't really have a choice to hopefully help you professionally with growth.
Speaker: A good example of this too is like, I joined a mastermind group last year and talk about being uncomfortable going into this room of all women successful.
Speaker: And, but that putting me,
Speaker: in that group really exposed me to some new opportunities.
Speaker: So, and one of which I'm with a lot right now.
Speaker: So that's an example, a tangible example of what I mean by the average of the people you hang around.
Speaker: I know you love this one too.
Speaker: And I lived it, especially when I had my fitness studio, but you're only one workout away from a good mood.
Speaker: And I added in there in a better life.
Speaker: Oh, the importance of moving our bodies, right?
Speaker: It is the ultimate trickle down effect of what your day looks like, what your life looks like.
Speaker: And I have been in a fitness routine-ish for three years.
Speaker: The last three years of my life have been the most clear.
Speaker: Personal and professional growth has skyrocketed.
Speaker: And that doesn't look like I'm in the gym every day.
Speaker: Okay, when I say move your body, I'm like, go take your dog on a walk.
Speaker: And if you have small children like I do, sometimes you don't go in the gym at all.
Speaker: So give yourself some grace, but figure, figure out what works for you during the season that you're in, but know that it truly will change your life.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: In every aspect.
Speaker: We preach this a lot when we were coaching our members.
Speaker: But it's, it's so the truth.
Speaker: I mean, it, when you move your body and you exercise, it's going to impact every aspect of your life.
Speaker: You're,
Speaker: you personally, professionally in your relationships, it just feeds mental clarity.
Speaker: It's stress relief.
Speaker: You sleep better.
Speaker: You feel better.
Speaker: You think you look better because even whether you've lost weight or didn't lose weight, it doesn't matter.
Speaker: You, when you see yourself, you, you see someone you're proud of.
Speaker: So I huge, um, proponent and listen, I've had my challenges over the past couple of years.
Speaker: I have back injury.
Speaker: I had a shoulder surgery, couldn't kickbox anymore.
Speaker: I had to find other things that, um, that could feed my body and my soul.
Speaker: So there's always going to be obstacles and challenges.
Speaker: You just have to figure out what's going to work for you in that time of your life.
Speaker: But moving your body and listen, aging and how we age.
Speaker: My biggest why recently, now that I'm 53, is really going to be 54 this year, has really been wanting to exercise for health, not just physical weight loss, right?
Speaker: Or physical appearance.
Speaker: Really knowing that I will live longer if I feed and feel my body the right way and move my body the right way.
Speaker: So super important.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: A couple more and then we'll wrap this up.
Speaker: But I did write in here because this is so important is just the importance of laughter in your life, laughing at yourself, with yourself, with your partner, spouse, with your friends.
Speaker: When I'm with you, we laugh constantly.
Speaker: When I'm with my college girlfriends, we laugh constantly.
Speaker: Life is so serious and so hard and we have to make sure we take a second to laugh, right?
Speaker: It goes back to the workout, right?
Speaker: It's a full body workout.
Speaker: You're releasing all of these negative endorphins and you're just, I mean, the high that you're on after a weekend of just laughter.
Speaker: Again, with your spouse, with your friends.
Speaker: I have a girl's dinner tomorrow night and I just know I'm preparing my abs for the
Speaker: incredible stories and laughter that we'll share.
Speaker: And then also on Sunday morning when we wrap up what happened last night.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But yeah, life's short.
Speaker: Life's hard enough as it is.
Speaker: And when you're reflecting on silly things that you've done, you know, have a little humor to it, right?
Speaker: Yeah, for sure.
Speaker: And sometimes this is kind of laughter, but more a mindset.
Speaker: I told my niece this, like,
Speaker: She's in a new relationship.
Speaker: I've been – obviously, I'm older, and I've been with Joey longer.
Speaker: We had our anniversary yesterday, actually.
Speaker: But he – one of his little –
Speaker: nuances is he likes to leave his clothes all over the floor, like many husbands and probably some wives do too.
Speaker: And I don't know where I heard this, but it might be probably a podcast or writing a book, but something said, it's all what you're saying to yourself when you see that.
Speaker: So now like when I pick up his clothes off the floor, I say to myself, oh, I had the pleasure of picking up Joey's clothes.
Speaker: And I kind of laugh because otherwise I'm going to, and I get so frustrated.
Speaker: My body tenses up.
Speaker: I'm angry.
Speaker: Now I'm just like – and she told me when I saw her last week, she was like, now I do that when I pick up Steven's stuff.
Speaker: I'm like, ah, I had the pleasure of picking up Steven's clothes.
Speaker: I'm so thankful you love these clothes for me.
Speaker: I'm not saying it works every time, but it does – you can even just feel it in your body.
Speaker: My therapist taught me that.
Speaker: It was like to really listen to your body and how something makes you feel.
Speaker: At first, I was like, ah.
Speaker: Patients don't know how I'm feeling right now, therapists.
Speaker: But it's so true.
Speaker: Even that slow switch of your mindset can change how you feel inside your body.
Speaker: And it's even more important when you have little ones.
Speaker: I have, you know, little sponges staring at me every day.
Speaker: And not only like how I react to things that I do, but especially things that they do.
Speaker: You know, like pouring – my six-year-old now wants to pour her own cereal.
Speaker: That's awesome.
Speaker: Am I just like, all right, let me get the mop out and sweep up cereal the rest of the morning.
Speaker: And so she spilled the first time, of course, spilled it goes everywhere.
Speaker: And I just started laughing.
Speaker: And I was like, all right, we got to work on those muscles.
Speaker: You're pouring that milk.
Speaker: You have to be a versus.
Speaker: Damn it.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: She's going to.
Speaker: have that situation happen.
Speaker: And I don't want her to beat herself up.
Speaker: Not only that, like I want her to be able to laugh at somebody making a mistake.
Speaker: Hey, it's no big deal to have that empathy for that person, but especially for herself.
Speaker: Don't beat yourself up, girl.
Speaker: Laugh about it, clean it up.
Speaker: Let's move on.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Love it.
Speaker: So make sure you laugh this weekend.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: Last, we'll wrap this up is finding joy in the small things.
Speaker: And I really discovered this after something pretty awful happened in my life.
Speaker: I think it's when I really started looking around and just paying attention to
Speaker: the mountains, the sunrise, the sunset.
Speaker: I mean, I kind of always would relish if I was at the beach or something like that.
Speaker: But I really took a moment to even, I'm just driving to the grocery store to just look out and go, wow.
Speaker: Being a smell of coffee, the smell of, you know, crock pot food in the crock pot cooking, your child laughing.
Speaker: you know, finding a sock that you've lost six months ago somewhere and you find it in the dryer.
Speaker: If you're taking socks around for six months without a pair, we need to talk.
Speaker: Find one.
Speaker: I'm like, oh, there's that sock.
Speaker: There's that sock.
Speaker: I threw its match away.
Speaker: Finding joy in the little things is so important.
Speaker: Life is so short.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And my number one tip is
Speaker: for you to challenge yourself is to put this away so that you can find more joy in the small things.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: That's so true.
Speaker: We're trying to document a lot of times with that.
Speaker: But also we're just, we fall into this scrolling hole, black hole.
Speaker: We're like, just going and going and going and going.
Speaker: So definitely.
Speaker: And it,
Speaker: to that too, I was at a concert with my husband and we were watching some friends of ours had their kids there and they were videoing and taking pictures the entire concert.
Speaker: And I was like, I'm all about documenting and getting it.
Speaker: But I also like, did you even take a breath to just yourself in the present moment to go, wow.
Speaker: That's amazing.
Speaker: Feel the emotion, right?
Speaker: And how many times are you going to go back and watch that video, right?
Speaker: Probably none because you have 70,000 photos in your phone.
Speaker: So I'm the complete opposite.
Speaker: I'm bad at that.
Speaker: So he's like, my husband, he's like, you didn't take a picture of that?
Speaker: I'm like, no, I'm watching them.
Speaker: Or I don't have my phone on me.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So finding that balance.
Speaker: You miss photographer.
Speaker: Can't believe you don't have a phone documenting stuff.
Speaker: Well, we have so many other lessons too, but I think we're out of time.
Speaker: So I hope that for our viewers and listeners that maybe one or two, or maybe all of them resonated with you and maybe you make a commitment to yourself to go and kind of dig into one of those areas that, you know, you want to work on and improve in.
Speaker: And then we'll certainly dig into a more in future podcasts.
Speaker: We hope you all have,
Speaker: some true reflection from some of these and they make a little impact on your week.
Speaker: And we can't wait to see you guys on our next podcast.
Speaker: Have a great one.
Speaker: Thanks guys.
Speaker: And that brings us to the end of another episode.
Speaker: We hope you enjoyed today's conversation as much as we did.
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