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Speaker: What's up everyone?
Speaker: Welcome to episode four of Classy on Occasion, to quit or not to quit.
Speaker: Did you know that 80% of resolutions are forgotten about by February?
Speaker: Kind of mind blowing.
Speaker: In this episode, Julie and I are going to catch you up on what's been happening over the past few weeks, but also talk a little bit about where you are with your goals, how to evaluate those and check in on your progress.
Speaker: So we're excited to have you on episode four.
Speaker: Hello.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: I'm so excited we're here.
Speaker: I wish we were together.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: We had a little taste of it, so now we're like, ugh.
Speaker: Get me to Nashville right now.
Speaker: Direct flight.
Speaker: Can I tell you something really cool that happened on Tuesday?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: So I was at the gym, my beloved little gym cult, as my husband calls it.
Speaker: And one of my friends that I made in the gym came up to me and said,
Speaker: when's your next podcast episode coming out?
Speaker: I was like, oh my gosh, you know, like, thanks for listening.
Speaker: And she goes, you know what?
Speaker: My, I think her daughter's five.
Speaker: She was like, my daughter asked, when are we going to listen to your friend from the gym?
Speaker: Oh my God.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: So anyways, it was so, so good to get some positive feedback.
Speaker: But yeah, I was like blushing in the gym.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I know it feels good to get some reinforcement that what we're doing matters.
Speaker: Um, I feel like it's only like maybe like four days late in recording this, which is okay to say, but I feel like there's so much to catch up on and talk about before we even get into our topic.
Speaker: Um, I loved, you know, I'm unfortunately our, our time together got cut short, but, um, I always love being with you.
Speaker: Julie was with me in Nashville, actually in Alabama via Nashville.
Speaker: Um, gosh, was that weekend before last and, um,
Speaker: we've talked about this before, but there's just such power in being around someone that, um, uplifts you, that your energy is so contagious, Julie.
Speaker: And, um, I know again, we were both so sad.
Speaker: She had to go home two days short because her, both of her, both of her daughters got sick.
Speaker: It was like, is this really happening?
Speaker: Um, so that was sad, but, um, I really do just love being around you and I'm so grateful for our friendship.
Speaker: Me too.
Speaker: I mean, the,
Speaker: I think I was crying within the first five minutes, laughing, crying within the first five minutes of being with you.
Speaker: So you're my best friend.
Speaker: I'm so, I'm so thankful that Southwest has direct flights to Nashville because I'm on my way.
Speaker: And just, just, you know, talking about goals today, and we'll get into that in a second, but that talk about commitment to yourself and you personally, but in your business, you guys, I had a retreat in Alabama with another friend of mine, Tammy Osborne.
Speaker: And it was a small retreat.
Speaker: It's the first one I've done that was multiple.
Speaker: It was a weekend or three-day retreat.
Speaker: I've done day webinars.
Speaker: And it was really about setting your vision for 2024, for your business, for your life, and really leaving with an action plan.
Speaker: And you guys, Julie flew from Virginia Beach to Nashville, got in a car with me.
Speaker: We scarily, is that a word?
Speaker: Scarily?
Speaker: Sure.
Speaker: Drove.
Speaker: We almost died.
Speaker: Alabama at night on dark dirt roads with cliffs on either side.
Speaker: But anyway, that I just, I just love how you are so committed to yourself and you left a
Speaker: two young girls and you know you have a great husband and a great family that supports you and I love that but people don't have excuses guys get over it it's worth it I mean I'll let you say if you thought was worth it but just being with you alone I hope was worth it but you know everyone says we're busy life is busy and yes it was money but
Speaker: I hope you feel like it was worth it and you can certainly speak to that.
Speaker: But I really feel like even I came away from that retreat feeling fulfilled, inspired with even some takeaways of my own.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And just a little bit of peace in your life and then clarity and what direction you want to go personally and professionally.
Speaker: I mean, I feel like I had just as many personal takeaways as I did professional, but we are already in a
Speaker: the world is busy, your home is even busier, right?
Speaker: Because something always needs to be done.
Speaker: I didn't have to cook for anyone.
Speaker: I didn't have to do a lot.
Speaker: I mean, those are like the small things, but they can be, they can take up so much space in your day and your mind, right?
Speaker: Like as women, we just have these running checklists going on.
Speaker: Um, so being able to commit to myself, my business and say, Hey, I'm
Speaker: this is worth every penny.
Speaker: Not only just, again, that stillness of nobody needing anything from you, but to be around really empowering women with great ideas, it was worth every penny.
Speaker: And then, of course, I immediately got home and I'm like, how is there one in my area?
Speaker: Like,
Speaker: how can I get myself in this kind of environment?
Speaker: Maybe not as, um, you know, time consuming, obviously, but if I could do that quarterly or is it like every six months, I really need to do some sort of two day focused retreat because I really felt like it gave me a month worth of focus time.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: Kind of a side note to that.
Speaker: When you just said that I thought of this, one of the ladies, so I know Tammy Osborne who did the retreat with me from a women's workspace that I, that I joined.
Speaker: So I get, I go there once a week or twice a week to work with amazing other women and Tammy owns it along with some other businesses.
Speaker: But I was in there last week and one of the other entrepreneurs in there was saying about once, I think she said once a month, maybe once every other month, she will literally go and check into a hotel in Nashville or Franklin.
Speaker: and away from her kids and husband and just go and have focus time just because of what you just said.
Speaker: No one needs me.
Speaker: I'm not worried about dinner.
Speaker: I'm not trying to do the laundry.
Speaker: I'm not trying to be started by the door ringing.
Speaker: I mean, I,
Speaker: work, computer, whatever.
Speaker: And I thought, that's so brilliant.
Speaker: But I think as women, especially sometimes we're like, we can't do that.
Speaker: We can't do that.
Speaker: But she said the ROI, the return on that investment in herself, but also in that focus time for her business is so impactful.
Speaker: So, you know, hey, all of you women, mothers, entrepreneurs, do what it takes to catapult yourself in your life and your business.
Speaker: And I think we all deserve 24 hours, right?
Speaker: Or 36 hours once a month or twice, you know, every other month to really focus on ourselves.
Speaker: I think we're better people, better leaders, better women for that.
Speaker: Also, I just want to shout out this necklace that we got from the retreat.
Speaker: One of the, Emily Winters is her name, and she owns a business called Strings for Hope.
Speaker: So this is made out of strings.
Speaker: And Julie got one too.
Speaker: The transstrings from Nashville.
Speaker: Oh!
Speaker: And she, it's a natural.
Speaker: It's in the mailbox and I'm, I'm glad you don't have it on.
Speaker: I know she donated these.
Speaker: We got to choose something.
Speaker: Um, so thank you and shout out to her and her company, but look them up strings for hope.
Speaker: Cause it's pretty impressive organization.
Speaker: Um, and, um, I love to support local businesses and other women businesses as well.
Speaker: Um, so I wanted to shout that out too.
Speaker: And it looks really good on you.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: It might be a little sweatsuit too.
Speaker: The other thing that's happened to me, which I do want to talk about a little bit as I just got back from Vegas late last night.
Speaker: So if you see these gray circles and I need to know the real, the real question is how, how much did you win and or lose?
Speaker: Actually, I didn't play very much, but I did play and I came up $125.
Speaker: Well, technically a hundred because I found in my purse a $25 chip.
Speaker: Don't tell my husband.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So I have to go back to Vegas.
Speaker: Somehow that net profit or net difference doesn't seem right.
Speaker: I have to go back to Vegas to get my $25 back.
Speaker: But I'm up a hundred.
Speaker: But I went for the company, another company that I, that I, I guess work for work with is called three.
Speaker: It's a proactive wellness company.
Speaker: And they had, I was, I was very grateful to get invited to their leadership conference in Vegas.
Speaker: So,
Speaker: I spent a day and a half in leadership conferences with amazing, amazing people.
Speaker: I love my group that was going, I loved and I knew I'd have a great time with them.
Speaker: But to hear these other men and women, a lot of women talking about just this company is really, it is supplement business, but they really, the CEO had me in tears the first time he talked in the beginning because he really has a passion
Speaker: to fulfill people, to fulfill himself, to make a difference, to live a life with purpose.
Speaker: He called it a movement across the world globally.
Speaker: And he gave me chills.
Speaker: He got up there.
Speaker: Some of us had never met him before personally.
Speaker: And went into his testimony, not about his life.
Speaker: He was a foster kid.
Speaker: I mean, he's got a really powerful moving testimony.
Speaker: But he got up there and said, listen, I first just want to say, you know, I've made a decision to change my life.
Speaker: And I want to apologize.
Speaker: I'm paraphrasing.
Speaker: Because I really looked in the mirror about 12 days ago and looked at me and thought, I'm a mess.
Speaker: I'm not fulfilled.
Speaker: I'm not experiencing joy.
Speaker: I have tons of success financially.
Speaker: And we've been open for one year.
Speaker: It's been crazy successful.
Speaker: And he said, I have all the financial things I could possibly want.
Speaker: But yet, who am I looking in the mirror?
Speaker: Is this a successful multimillionaire CEO telling this to a group of a couple hundred people?
Speaker: And he said, I look, I had my stomach was out to here.
Speaker: I'm unhealthy.
Speaker: I'm not being the best father.
Speaker: I'm not being the best husband.
Speaker: I'm not being the best leader to my team and my family here.
Speaker: And I want to get up here and just say, I'm changing that.
Speaker: I've spent the past 12 days.
Speaker: I hired an amazing coach.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: Anyway, he just ran this whole thing, but he got there and really was like, I suck.
Speaker: I've sucked.
Speaker: And I'm so sorry.
Speaker: And I'm like, whoa, wow.
Speaker: He said, but I'm committing to you right now in front of all of you.
Speaker: I'm changing myself because I know if I'm my best, I can be my best for you and help you be your best.
Speaker: And it was, you know, we talked about that a lot, Julie, but to hear this successful man, he's had a lot, a lot of success in his life financially, get up there and just be so real and honest.
Speaker: And then to hear, we had a couple other testimonies, um, again, a lot of financial success, but hearing the, um, fulfillment and the prosperity they're feeling from just the ability to have an impact on people.
Speaker: There's a large Asian community in this company, which I love, but they had a few people give testimonies.
Speaker: And this just goes to speak to the power of being in person, but also the power of language outside of what we say, our words.
Speaker: One of them got there.
Speaker: It was an Asian lady who moved here, I forget how many years ago, had very broken English.
Speaker: Very broken English.
Speaker: So I probably understood every fourth word.
Speaker: So first of all, she stood in front of a group of 200 people that she doesn't really, she knew her team, but nobody else.
Speaker: And was telling us a story that was hard for us to understand.
Speaker: I think everyone in the room was crying.
Speaker: Like she had, I mean, her body and what she was saying, I got enough.
Speaker: I could feel, um,
Speaker: I could feel her emotion and her energy coming out and what she was saying enough to get me in tears.
Speaker: And she had broken English.
Speaker: And like, if she'd come over here and do this and she's very successful, I'm like, what are our excuses?
Speaker: It was just so moving to be in a room of people that are driven on this with a similar purpose.
Speaker: Some of them successful.
Speaker: I'm just starting this business.
Speaker: I'm not anywhere near their financial success.
Speaker: It didn't matter.
Speaker: We were all like together and supportive and I got you and you got me and we're been open a year and what we're going to do in the next three years.
Speaker: And we're really all about relationships and people and less about the financial success, although that is certainly a component of it, but more about
Speaker: How can we make a difference for people in their lives?
Speaker: And also all different types of people, women, men look different from different backgrounds.
Speaker: Some started, some never.
Speaker: I mean, it was just, I left there going, I am on fire for life.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And to know that like all of these people, you know, are kind of wearing their heart on their sleeves in front of strangers and knowing that
Speaker: you know, going back to what the owner said, all of this financial success, but then there was just still this emptiness.
Speaker: And it's somebody you're looking up to, you're like, this is going to be, you know, just, you know, here's all my success, but no, I'm still human at the end of like, just people being able to bear all of that to strangers, I'm sure is really powerful.
Speaker: It was, it was.
Speaker: And I say all that to say, um, we, and I know you do this, but everyone should take
Speaker: invest in yourself, do something for yourself, make it happen, find a way to make it happen.
Speaker: For me to leave my family for two and a half days was not the best timing.
Speaker: I just had the retreat here.
Speaker: There's never the great time, but if, when I come back, um, motivated, inspired, uplifted, I am like on fire for my husband.
Speaker: I'm on fire for my children.
Speaker: I'm on fire for my other jobs.
Speaker: I'm on fire to be a great friend.
Speaker: Like,
Speaker: It's we just do it, do it for yourself.
Speaker: You guys do it for yourself.
Speaker: And I met some amazing, amazing women that will be in my life forever now.
Speaker: That's huge.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Anyway, thanks.
Speaker: Let me share.
Speaker: No, I'm glad I'm glad, but I'm sad that I wasn't with you.
Speaker: So that's enough about your trip without me.
Speaker: I'm just kidding.
Speaker: So it is February.
Speaker: What is today?
Speaker: 21st.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Like it's the end of February already.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I really interesting data that we pulled as we're talking about like New Year's or setting your goals, staying on fire throughout the year.
Speaker: How are you doing that?
Speaker: Finding your group.
Speaker: I pulled a little bit of data from Drive Research.
Speaker: Only 9% of people who make a resolution stick to them all year long.
Speaker: 80% of new year's resolutions are forgotten by February.
Speaker: I have a, um, that's crazy.
Speaker: What's it called?
Speaker: I have a confession.
Speaker: See, my brain's still half in Vegas.
Speaker: I'm like, what's the word I'm trying to say right now?
Speaker: Cause when I was kind of thinking through this myself, I'm like, what were my goals?
Speaker: I'm like, oh my God, that's embarrassing.
Speaker: Here I'm doing a podcast about goals.
Speaker: I'm like, what were my goals?
Speaker: So the fact that I can't let go, boom, here is my goal.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: It was my first problem.
Speaker: So it caused me to reevaluate and sit down and actually write them down.
Speaker: In fact, thanks to you, they're on my mirror.
Speaker: No excuse.
Speaker: That's one of our huge tips for in this podcast.
Speaker: If you want to hold yourself and your spouse, hold you accountable and also hold your spouse accountable, write your goals on your bathroom mirror.
Speaker: With the Expo marker, guys.
Speaker: I don't know if it's not the best.
Speaker: Just be clear.
Speaker: But I love looking into this.
Speaker: And then I reached out into our community.
Speaker: Thank you to our listeners who participated or gave some responses.
Speaker: So I asked, have you stuck with your 2024 goals or resolutions?
Speaker: Sometimes people like the word resolution.
Speaker: They're like, I'm not setting a resolution.
Speaker: Well, you still have goals for the year or from last year or whatever.
Speaker: So if so, why?
Speaker: And if not, why?
Speaker: And then one of my favorite, the first one, her goals, she said they were not as aggressive as maybe they should have been.
Speaker: It's the middle of February.
Speaker: Well, I answered last week.
Speaker: So it was the middle of February.
Speaker: She had already assessed where she was in her goals and said, I need to make a change now.
Speaker: I was like high-fiving her class.
Speaker: I'm like, you're amazing.
Speaker: It's not October and you're like, oh, shoot.
Speaker: whatever.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: That's, that's a January 2025 problem.
Speaker: That's amazing though.
Speaker: Good for her.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: And I was like, I'm inspired.
Speaker: So of course I went back to my little drawing board and said, I'm not meeting these goals.
Speaker: So I, you know, made a couple appointments that I needed to make and reached out to a couple of friends that I needed to reach out to.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: But again, and now I'm going to kind of stay connected with her because I'm like, can you be my accountability partner?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I mean, great point.
Speaker: And I know we're going to talk about a couple of things, but I guess the first thing is with her case, obviously her goal was the right goal, but now she's saying I could have been more aggressive, but I'd rather do what she did than set a way too aggressive goal.
Speaker: And then you just can't get there and then you feel overwhelmed, defeated, and you just quit.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So I love, I'd rather be in her shoes and I love that she knows that she's already taking the next steps to create different goals.
Speaker: But I guess the first question is when you, when you're kind of looking back and reflecting on the past 45, 50 days, did I set the right goal to begin with?
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Was it the right goal in my case?
Speaker: Do I even know what the goal was?
Speaker: Clearly it wasn't the right goal.
Speaker: If I don't even know what it was, I do, but I mean, I want to be able to just spit it out.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So making sure that you're,
Speaker: Was it because we could all some of us get super inspired new year, let's start throwing things out there.
Speaker: And maybe it wasn't the right thing to begin with.
Speaker: Maybe it was too many goals to begin with.
Speaker: So I think that's the first question to ask is, was it even the right goal to begin with?
Speaker: Yes, I feel like I went on a too many goals thing.
Speaker: And I was, you know, I think that's why a lot of people.
Speaker: probably fall off of their resolutions is either too many goals, wrong goal, like you said, but then you're also on this January high and then life's a lot slower in January, especially when you're looking at December, the holidays.
Speaker: For me, we have a thousand January birthdays in our family.
Speaker: And then you're on this January slope.
Speaker: You have time, you have this fresh energy.
Speaker: February comes around,
Speaker: You're not meeting any goals.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: That's huge.
Speaker: And I think we talked about this in our retreat, but, and this is where you can get overwhelmed, right?
Speaker: If you have goals and you sell these action items, hopefully you set action items to hit a goal.
Speaker: right?
Speaker: If your goal is to lose 10 pounds, um, first of all, why?
Speaker: So let me tell them my little Joey story.
Speaker: So Joey and I were talking about two weeks ago, um, for anyone that hasn't listened so far, Joey's my husband.
Speaker: Um, and he, we both have, have had certain goals, but one of his was, he's been saying he wants to lose weight for a while now, probably a year now.
Speaker: Sorry, honey, love you.
Speaker: Um, and so I said, when he said to me again, a couple of weeks ago, I said, Joe, you've been saying this for a long time.
Speaker: Let's talk about it.
Speaker: Like why?
Speaker: And you're just, cause he said to me, that's it.
Speaker: I said, I'm losing weight.
Speaker: And I'm like, okay, love you.
Speaker: Um, let's talk about what's different this time.
Speaker: Cause you've been saying that for a long time.
Speaker: So let's figure out how we can make that feel different to you.
Speaker: I said, why 10 pounds?
Speaker: Or what are you ultimately trying to achieve?
Speaker: Or why is that important to you?
Speaker: And he said, well, I just want to feel better.
Speaker: I want my clothes not to be tight.
Speaker: I'm tired of being foggy brained.
Speaker: I feel like that I can be short tempered or just not less patient or less tolerant with my team, with my family.
Speaker: I want to live longer.
Speaker: Well, he was saying that about losing weight.
Speaker: And I said, well, I want you to almost to shift away from
Speaker: the number and like, I want you to be healthy because I want you to live a long time.
Speaker: Now I know you're younger than me, Joey, but more reason why you have to be healthy to take care of me when I am.
Speaker: When I'm wobbling around.
Speaker: So I need you to be in good shape to take care of me selfishly.
Speaker: But I got him to go into the place of how he wants to feel.
Speaker: He's also in sales, right?
Speaker: So he's like his whole every day with his team, he leads a pretty decent sized team.
Speaker: It's all around numbers and what you're doing that day to achieve that goal for that day, for that week, for that month.
Speaker: So I'm like, you need to have that kind of focus too.
Speaker: So let's apply that to this goal.
Speaker: So thanks to Julie.
Speaker: Here's a spreadsheet, Joey.
Speaker: Here's a spreadsheet out.
Speaker: And then I took the expo and I put it right on his mirror and I put, you know, kind of like his why on one side.
Speaker: And then I did this little checklist of how are you moving your body?
Speaker: He wanted to set up a sauna here, infrared sauna.
Speaker: And that's very good for,
Speaker: recovery and detoxing so I put little checklist on his mirror and he puts old marks every time he does what he's you know what he's supposed to do but we also he first said okay I'm gonna work out every day I'm like no you're not right I said so how about three times and if you do five great right right anyway so I think really trying to get your why if you have to identify with your why and your why for your goal has to be bigger than your excuses
Speaker: 100%.
Speaker: So we'll see.
Speaker: We're in week two now, how this goes.
Speaker: But I think it did click.
Speaker: I saw this little click in him when I talked about how do you want to feel and why do you want to feel that way?
Speaker: Because he's such a family man and he loves his children.
Speaker: He loves me.
Speaker: He loves his job.
Speaker: He wants to be a great leader.
Speaker: He takes a lot of pride in being a great leader for his family and for his team.
Speaker: So when I took that goal of
Speaker: losing 10 pounds, which was not clicking for him, even though he wanted to lose 10 pounds.
Speaker: But when I put it to, you will be a better leader, better man, better father, better husband.
Speaker: When you feel better about yourself, whether to me it's five pounds or 15, I don't care.
Speaker: You're going to feel good about yourself.
Speaker: So that's, we'll see again, like I said, we'll kind of see how it goes.
Speaker: But that, I did see a click and kind of a shift in mindset for him.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And if he sticks with it, you know, the trickle down effect of having at least one or two, you know, healthy weekly activities.
Speaker: So I'm excited.
Speaker: You got this, Joey.
Speaker: He does have it.
Speaker: If not, we'll remind you of what you wrote on the mirror every day.
Speaker: He told our housekeeper, we have a housekeeper that comes every once in a while just to give me a little break.
Speaker: And he wrote on there, don't erase this Myra.
Speaker: I'm like, our mirror is going to be like gross with scum because he doesn't want it to get erased.
Speaker: You have to.
Speaker: What I've done in the past, I take a picture and then you have to eventually you have to wipe it down.
Speaker: But I have to take a picture and then rewrite everything.
Speaker: It's a pain in the butt.
Speaker: But going to accountability, one of our listeners answered the question also and said she had two New Year's resolution goals and she's sticking with one because of accountability and failing at the other because of accountability.
Speaker: A lot of accountability?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: But she knows, like, she's like, accountability is there for the first goal.
Speaker: And then the second goal, she's like, I have not even touched it because I truly know that I need a partner to hold me accountable in that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So important to know what you need.
Speaker: And by the way, most of us need someone to hold us accountable.
Speaker: There is that small percentage of people that will just go out and do it.
Speaker: Whatever people.
Speaker: No kidding.
Speaker: I'm great.
Speaker: I'm very envious of them, but most of us need someone.
Speaker: And, um, one of the things with Joey is to get, for him to get up early and work out.
Speaker: And I usually, I can, he has to get up early.
Speaker: I don't have to, I get up at six.
Speaker: That's still early, but he'll get, he gets up at five.
Speaker: Um, so I've been getting up with him at five and doing this little workout with him.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: I'm really just because I know he needs accountability and I need accountability.
Speaker: So I'm like, and we're doing it together.
Speaker: And it's something you guys get to do together.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And that's what I challenged her when she said that she knew she needed accountability.
Speaker: I said, so your goal, a goal that you should have put was to find someone.
Speaker: So she wanted to do, um, like a Bible study.
Speaker: I was like, your goal then should be, I need to find someone who'd like to do this Bible study with.
Speaker: So.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Super important.
Speaker: And I think part of accountability, which I'll tell you truthfully for me, sometimes I will say things out loud because I don't want to let somebody down or somebody go, how are you doing?
Speaker: So I think first of all, saying if you're not telling anyone, if you're not telling your friends and family, I am trying to lose some weight.
Speaker: I don't want to drink as much.
Speaker: I want to eat healthier.
Speaker: Here's what I'm doing.
Speaker: Here's my plan.
Speaker: I need your support.
Speaker: If you're not even saying it out loud, I feel like you're not even all in.
Speaker: I think you're half.
Speaker: 100%.
Speaker: So you have to be able to say it out loud.
Speaker: And then tell your friends.
Speaker: If you have friends that don't have that same goal, and it's okay if they don't, you need to tell them, listen, I'm getting ready to go on this.
Speaker: I really want to try to eat healthier for my life.
Speaker: I really want to quit drinking during the week or quit drinking whatever.
Speaker: I need to say it too because if you ask me for a happy hour, if you ask me to come over for a glass of wine and I say no, I want you to know why and I need your support.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So you have to set boundaries around that.
Speaker: Don't put yourself in an atmosphere and environment over and over again.
Speaker: When you know that's going to be super hard, you're probably going to cave, right?
Speaker: Don't then just, at least when you're first initially going all in, don't, don't put yourself in those situations and verbalize what you're trying to achieve to your friends and family.
Speaker: And they should support you.
Speaker: And if they don't, that's a whole nother conversation.
Speaker: Those are your drains that we talked about last week.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: And I think something I've done as well and talked about this a little bit at our retreat in Vegas was just our self talk and a lot of times very self sabotaging talk or justification.
Speaker: Oh, I can eat this or I had a hard day.
Speaker: I can have this glass of wine or what are we saying to ourselves that's limiting us and preventing us from achieving our goals, feeling our best, living our best life.
Speaker: You have to kind of check in with yourself on that too.
Speaker: It can be loud and very easy to tempt yourself.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: Or you search for that friend that will feed you what you want them to feed you, not what you should be fed.
Speaker: It's okay, Heather.
Speaker: You did have a bad day.
Speaker: I have a glass of wine.
Speaker: You deserve it.
Speaker: Yeah, you deserve it.
Speaker: No, you have to get up at 5 a.m.
Speaker: and work out with Joey.
Speaker: You're going to have a foggy brain if you do that.
Speaker: Go for a walk.
Speaker: Come on.
Speaker: Let's go for a walk together.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Include your family.
Speaker: Another listener responded, and this was obviously very touching to me because I am one million percent in my mom era right now.
Speaker: But she said she included her kids.
Speaker: It was a reading goal.
Speaker: So what was great is her kids set a goal.
Speaker: But she also, she didn't meet her goal, I think last week or the week before, and her kid was holding her accountable.
Speaker: But then she also gave her child the tool to like see how the mom reacted when she didn't meet her goal or, oh my gosh, I didn't meet my goal this week.
Speaker: I'm going to read one more book next week or, you know, I'll add one more book to next month.
Speaker: So giving your kids those tools to set goals, make sure they're attainable.
Speaker: Um, but then how you react if you fail.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Great life lessons.
Speaker: Huge.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: When it comes down to, as I was saying to myself, as I was thinking, coming back on the plane last night, um, even though I was brain fogged, uh, listen, all these things, this is what I was talking to Joy about.
Speaker: All these things take discipline, your mind controlling your thoughts takes discipline.
Speaker: And where your thoughts go is where your behaviors go, right?
Speaker: Getting up to exercise, not eating that thing that's not good for you, not drinking that glass of wine or having that drink, setting boundaries around your friends and family that are toxic to you.
Speaker: That all is just discipline.
Speaker: So, you know, we can try to find the magic pill, the magic tool.
Speaker: It will not be sustainable or lifelong if you don't have discipline around it, period.
Speaker: I said to Joey, I know you don't want to work out today.
Speaker: do it anyway.
Speaker: You just have to get up and do it.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: There's no trick.
Speaker: There's no easy answer.
Speaker: There's no like, ah, boom, ding, ding, ding.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Do not, do not even think about it sometimes.
Speaker: Just put your feet over the side of the bed, get up, start moving.
Speaker: Um, and then it does those, I will say being disciplined over the last, especially the last two months.
Speaker: I mean, I've been hitting a 5am gym class and Stoney asked every week.
Speaker: He was like, is everyone in that class just an absolute crazy person?
Speaker: I'm like, yes, we all are crazy.
Speaker: We get up at 430 to go to the gym.
Speaker: But those days when I don't want to aren't as heavy anymore because I've kept that discipline.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And you've created and you go, I mean, you love those people you work out with.
Speaker: I mean, you know them right now.
Speaker: That helps too.
Speaker: And finding what's going to work for you, but you're right.
Speaker: Just, just keep doing it.
Speaker: It's like brushing your teeth and it just has to become part of your life and do it even when you don't want to, because you'll be glad you did.
Speaker: I've never heard anyone say, darn, I worked out.
Speaker: Sure wish I would have done that.
Speaker: There are a couple of Mario days that I could miss.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I'm so proud of you.
Speaker: And when I was with you at the women's retreat here, I think I told, I know I told you, but I'm like, you look amazing.
Speaker: Oh, thank you.
Speaker: You look amazing.
Speaker: I know you feel good, which is, which is what we ultimately want out of that is to feel good.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But you look fantastic.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: Thank you so much.
Speaker: But the feeling and the clear mind and how it increases my focus and everything else.
Speaker: Like I want to be the best in the gym and everywhere else in my life right now.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I mean, and you've been dealing with a lot.
Speaker: If anyone knows Julie, well, I mean, her kids have been, they have been sick in her household nonstop for a year.
Speaker: I mean, like it's like mind blowing.
Speaker: You've been in the hospital with one of them three times, I think.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And if you weren't taking care of yourself, I mean, I know you've had a few moments, so I know that you had a breakdown, as I would.
Speaker: But if you hadn't taken care of yourself, you would be a mess.
Speaker: Oh, my gosh.
Speaker: I mean, sometimes I go in there and you don't think about anything.
Speaker: So I encourage you to find a hobby, meditation, whatever it is.
Speaker: You will be the best mom and the best wife.
Speaker: And business owner.
Speaker: I mean.
Speaker: And friend.
Speaker: I mean, everything.
Speaker: We're better at everything.
Speaker: So I hope anyone can help.
Speaker: that hasn't hit their goals or forgot their goals, didn't set goals.
Speaker: I hope they don't want, they're not discouraged at this point when we're at a 9% people that actually are still on their mission to hit their goals or achieve their goals.
Speaker: Or, um, I don't want people to feel discouraged.
Speaker: I want them to just reevaluate and reflect and go, okay, today's the day what I want and how do I want to feel and what's my why.
Speaker: And set yourself up.
Speaker: I would just say for small successes and small wins and let them build momentum and build on each other.
Speaker: And then find someone to support you through it.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And why did you set those goals in the first place?
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: And not the number, how you want to feel.
Speaker: And I am not great at visualization, but I've been trying to work on it lately.
Speaker: And I think really, and I've read tons about it, but visualizing how your life be, how will it get down to the details of it once you are progressing towards that goal?
Speaker: Maybe not even at that, maybe not even there yet, but you're already taking steps to start to achieve it.
Speaker: How does that feel to you?
Speaker: And let that encourage you and support you in those times of weaknesses.
Speaker: Yeah, because that journey, I mean, holds so much value in itself.
Speaker: It does.
Speaker: So I hope this is encouraging to someone.
Speaker: I love sharing my failures.
Speaker: And I will say real quick before we close, because I know we're a little bit longer than normal.
Speaker: But I have been, I've tried a few other gyms.
Speaker: That was one of my goals is to get out there and try some other fitness concepts to figure out what really, since I left kickboxing because of my ailments.
Speaker: So I have done that.
Speaker: Another goal was to put myself out there to be around other women and entrepreneurs and CEOs to start just to look at other paths for my life.
Speaker: And I've done that.
Speaker: And I did this women's retreat, which got brought to me by Tammy.
Speaker: I'm so grateful because it really lit me on fire again.
Speaker: And then going to this other retreat, which I would have said no to.
Speaker: I feel like I have made some progress.
Speaker: I'm not where I want to be yet, but I do have momentum.
Speaker: I think that's important to acknowledge.
Speaker: You are killing it from my point of view.
Speaker: I mean, you are stepping out of any sort of comfort zone and just taking on any opportunity that comes along.
Speaker: And obviously you're just doing an incredible job of inspiring others.
Speaker: So.
Speaker: Thanks for bringing me along.
Speaker: Oh my God.
Speaker: Doing it with you.
Speaker: What are you kidding?
Speaker: Thanks everybody.
Speaker: And we'll see you in another two weeks, two weeks.
Speaker: Thanks everyone for tuning in this week for classy on occasion.
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Speaker: We can't wait to see you next week.
Speaker: Classy crew.
