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Speaker: Hi friends, we're super excited to have you join us for today's episode, Generational Voices.
Speaker: We took a few questions and asked them to each of us, someone who is under 35 and someone who is over 35.
Speaker: We hope you enjoy this episode.
Speaker: I hope you guys could see the countdown.
Speaker: Heather always makes a funny face or just makes me laugh.
Speaker: And then I have to recompose myself.
Speaker: Actually, I don't.
Speaker: This is fun.
Speaker: So today on occasion, on occasion, on occasion.
Speaker: First, I have a sweet little coworker.
Speaker: I want you guys to meet Maggie.
Speaker: Wait, get her over some more.
Speaker: Hi, Mag.
Speaker: Say hi.
Speaker: My name's Maggie.
Speaker: So cute.
Speaker: Oh, she's like, what are you doing?
Speaker: I can't pick her up.
Speaker: She's a golden retriever and she's huge, but she's laying right, right here.
Speaker: She would, so Molly's the sweetest.
Speaker: She would climb in your lap, but then if she gets in trouble, she goes like this.
Speaker: She does.
Speaker: She does.
Speaker: She's a little stinky eye.
Speaker: Her and she pop her head up.
Speaker: Aw.
Speaker: Hi, Molly.
Speaker: So we are going to play a fun game.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: It might be painful.
Speaker: We'll see about that.
Speaker: So I, should we say our ages first?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: I am 34 years old.
Speaker: I'm almost 54.
Speaker: And we're going to play a game.
Speaker: We're going to ask a question.
Speaker: I have not looked at these questions.
Speaker: They're super random.
Speaker: I'm going to answer them as someone under 35.
Speaker: And Heather's going to answer them as someone over 35.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: What?
Speaker: Oh, I love this one.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: How have your priorities and goals changed over the years?
Speaker: I'll go first.
Speaker: Okay, good.
Speaker: I have more years than you to sort through.
Speaker: Do you have that card in the front of your head?
Speaker: Insanely, the last, I mean, the most pivotal moment was when my
Speaker: first child was born, my first girl.
Speaker: I did not have clear goals in life.
Speaker: Like I had clear, like I wanted to have a successful career.
Speaker: I wanted to become a mom, like overall goals, but like financial, clear financial goals, clear career goals, like opportunities that I wanted to be able to provide for my children and
Speaker: With my time, especially, and then financially and physically.
Speaker: I mean, I tell Frances this all the time this morning.
Speaker: She made me give her a piggyback down the stairs.
Speaker: She's probably 45 pounds while carrying the toddler because I don't trust her going down the stairs yet.
Speaker: And I always tell her, I'm like, I go to the gym every day so I can carry you as long as you want me to.
Speaker: So time, financial, and physical exercise.
Speaker: kind of reset since having my children.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Mine in a different perspective perspective, because now I'm in over 50 and now I'm like, I need to take care of myself because not to be morbid, but I'm on the latter half of my life.
Speaker: And my sister, I died at 45.
Speaker: My mom died at 60.
Speaker: So I'm taking care of myself is even more important now because I feel like time changes.
Speaker: is of the essence, right?
Speaker: And things impact me more physically for sure.
Speaker: So definitely exercise.
Speaker: We got the infrared sauna recently and all the benefits from that, you know, taking supplements, trying to eat cleaner for my body.
Speaker: I know infrared sauna.
Speaker: So my, my priorities haven't changed as far as I've always taken my health seriously, but now for different reasons.
Speaker: But I'm going to use a cliche cause it's, and I know you've heard it and we've, we've all heard it so many times, but don't sweat the small stuff.
Speaker: Um, you know, through, because of all my life experience, the small stuff just doesn't matter.
Speaker: It just doesn't matter.
Speaker: And we have got to let things go that aren't serving us, you know, whether that's relationships, um, whether that's something silly or fighting with our spouse with, whether it's something that our children are doing, it doesn't really matter.
Speaker: It's not going to hurt them.
Speaker: It's not going to impact the rest of their lives.
Speaker: Really asking yourself, why is this upsetting me?
Speaker: Why do I care about this?
Speaker: My husband's eight years younger than me.
Speaker: And we often sometimes will say things like, why doesn't that bother you?
Speaker: And I'm like, it doesn't really matter.
Speaker: Why does it bother you?
Speaker: You shouldn't let it bother you.
Speaker: In the scheme of things, it doesn't really matter.
Speaker: So really trying to just let things like that go, especially relationships that don't serve me, that's harder to do, right?
Speaker: But putting boundaries, shifting how I really define family.
Speaker: I mean, I have a great family, but as I've gotten older, I realize how important my true, true friendships are.
Speaker: And I've made it a priority to spend time with them, like really spend time with them.
Speaker: And, um, more so than I ever have, because again, I know time is limited and, and they, their relationships mean a lot to me.
Speaker: I leave them feeling better about myself.
Speaker: They leave, they leave the same.
Speaker: And, um, so I've like, I've got to make time for this is important.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Now my kids are older.
Speaker: That does help, but, um, it doesn't really mean we don't know when our days, I don't want to mean, I don't want this to sound so sad and morbid.
Speaker: So it's not, I don't know.
Speaker: Every day is a gift.
Speaker: So we have to prioritize what's important to us and then spend time on that and energy on that.
Speaker: And what makes us happy.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: Another, this one's kind of fun.
Speaker: What has, excuse me, how has technology changed the way you live and work compared to where you are?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: This will be funny for me because I can't remember how old it was when I got a cell phone, but it was, I was not eight, like my 10, like my girls were, my boys were.
Speaker: I mean, when I was younger, I had the rotary phone that spin and fax machine.
Speaker: And I had the internet that went do do do.
Speaker: The movie proposal.
Speaker: That was really what I had.
Speaker: Like, so it has obviously changed dramatically in my lifetime.
Speaker: And of course, social media is new to all of us, but certainly was not in my childhood whatsoever.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: So the exposure that our children, even we have to a lot of good things, by the way, I mean, a lot of valuable things, but also talk about comparisons and also just exposed to a lot more so much sooner.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: It happened very quickly for me.
Speaker: I was 15 when I had my first cell phone and I think cell phones had been out, you know, a little while.
Speaker: I did have a pager for a little bit.
Speaker: So, you know, let me find a pay that there.
Speaker: I don't think there's a pay phone in anywhere in Virginia, Virginia beach.
Speaker: But, you know, go walk up to the shopping center with my friends and go get a Wendy's frosty, but make sure I can reach my mom at a pay phone.
Speaker: Um, but the, the thing that, and I was just at this incredible retreat last week.
Speaker: Um, and one of the speakers was,
Speaker: was talking about how we've lost that sense of wonder because of the internet.
Speaker: And the funniest thing he said, he was like, do you know what size Kevin Bacon's shoe is?
Speaker: Like you would die never knowing it, but now we have the internet and you can just Google like a random fact like that.
Speaker: That's theory.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So, you know, just, I almost did it the other night.
Speaker: We were at the dinner table and Francis was asking a question.
Speaker: I don't remember what it was about.
Speaker: And I almost got up from the dinner table.
Speaker: Like, I feel like I was like committing a sin to go get my phone to be like, oh, and I'm like, wait, let's take this opportunity.
Speaker: Let's talk about it.
Speaker: You know, what do we think the answer could be?
Speaker: Why do we think it works like that?
Speaker: So, yeah, just that sense of wonder.
Speaker: And, you know, thankfully, we're not at that age yet where phones or, you know, she doesn't, you know, have to use a computer for school yet.
Speaker: So how do I, how do I keep that sense of wonder in her to use that little brain?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: Ooh.
Speaker: How do you stay motivated and inspired?
Speaker: Hmm.
Speaker: I think for me, I'm just always wanting to grow.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: I mean, I think I'm,
Speaker: self-inspired, if you will.
Speaker: I also, not, not consistently through my life.
Speaker: Is that a question?
Speaker: Self-inspired?
Speaker: You are.
Speaker: I didn't know if that was a word.
Speaker: That's why I did the question.
Speaker: Is that a word?
Speaker: But I, and I've done, done this better at certain times in my life than others, but really trying to be around people that inspire me.
Speaker: I think that's super important.
Speaker: And it's sometimes easier to be around those that you can feel good about yourself around.
Speaker: You know what I mean?
Speaker: Like, Oh, they don't challenge themselves.
Speaker: So look at how I look or if I'm around, like when I'm around you and you, you inspire me really because you just, you're working out ethic right now.
Speaker: Um, and just how committed you are to this goal.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: And every morning I talk to you and you're coming back from the gym, I'm like, her ass is up every morning at 4.30 to go to the gym.
Speaker: Yes, I'm older than you, but I have no freaking excuse.
Speaker: So, you know, but I could look at it the other way.
Speaker: I'm like, I don't want to talk to Julie more because I feel bad about myself.
Speaker: But instead, I'm like, I'm going to take it as, first of all, I'm proud of you.
Speaker: That's what motivates me first.
Speaker: I'm proud of you, not even about me.
Speaker: But then I'm like, okay, she's going to inspire me to do it.
Speaker: So I get tried to intentionally be around people that are going to make me lift myself up versus let me just live in mediocrity.
Speaker: But I, I'm also just not okay with the mundane and I'm not okay with just sustaining and the status quo.
Speaker: Like I really want to always be challenging myself and to get better personally, professionally in relationships.
Speaker: And I'm very curious about all that.
Speaker: So I think that keeps me inspired too.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: I would answer the question the exact same way.
Speaker: You know,
Speaker: being able to ask questions to people who not only age, you know, I obviously look up to you because of your life experiences, but people in other careers, people in other walks of life.
Speaker: And that goes back to
Speaker: you know, being curious about that, taking those leaps.
Speaker: But that goes back to what, you know, we talked about earlier, the time that we have, this is our one life.
Speaker: This is it.
Speaker: So how fully can we live it and keep that motivation by talking to strangers and keeping people in our life who are going to hold us accountable, question us, encourage us,
Speaker: So I would, yeah, 100%.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: We're going to wrap this up with one more question.
Speaker: What advice would you give to a young individual who is just starting their journey into adulthood?
Speaker: Mm-mm-mm.
Speaker: Adulthood does not start when you turn 18.
Speaker: No.
Speaker: No.
Speaker: Sometimes it doesn't even start when you're 30.
Speaker: Mine started about when I was 30, I feel like.
Speaker: Maybe 25.
Speaker: I think some things we've talked about before, certainly trusting your gut, getting uncomfortable, like really
Speaker: stepping into your fear, trying a lot of things that, that not only builds confidence, it gives clarity, either gives clarity that's made you want to do or give clarity that you don't want to do.
Speaker: Don't settle.
Speaker: Don't settle.
Speaker: Don't settle.
Speaker: Don't settle for a relationship.
Speaker: You know, don't settle for career that you don't relish in and thrive in and are passionate about.
Speaker: Um, don't settle for friendships.
Speaker: Don't settle for mediocrity, just believe and dream.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And have,
Speaker: really just doing what you can to build your confidence because I feel like so many bad decisions, mistakes we make are really come out of lack of self-worth or self-confidence.
Speaker: So finding, finding your confidence in your faith in Jesus and the Lord, honestly, because that's where you're going to be ultimately fulfilled, right?
Speaker: Life is really hard.
Speaker: Life is beautiful.
Speaker: But it's also really hard.
Speaker: And I don't want people to find fulfillment in another person and another thing and close and,
Speaker: purses addiction, right?
Speaker: Addiction.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Um, so I think for sure that, um, and to try, just try things.
Speaker: Don't just get stuck in your ways and ask yourself when you get to the end of your life, what do you want to be remembered?
Speaker: Remembered as, what do you want to have accomplished?
Speaker: And then make those decisions when you're in your twenties and thirties, don't wait until you're my age and going, Oh shit, which I would have done.
Speaker: I still can.
Speaker: I don't, you know, it's not too late, but, um,
Speaker: Just believe in yourself.
Speaker: Find yourself worth.
Speaker: You, we are all here.
Speaker: God made us just who he wanted us to be.
Speaker: And we all have something to give.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And to that, I would say, think about how others have made you feel as you're going into adulthood.
Speaker: The teenage years can be brutal.
Speaker: And now you have social media and a thousand more comparisons in your face.
Speaker: Bullying.
Speaker: I mean, the list goes on.
Speaker: So as you go into adulthood, think about how people have made you feel.
Speaker: Good, bad, pretty, ugly.
Speaker: And make sure that you are, everyone that you come in contact with, that you are making them feel worthy and good.
Speaker: spread joy, spread love as you go into adulthood.
Speaker: So huge, huge opportunities.
Speaker: And then obviously that will lead to personal and professional growth.
Speaker: You know, when I think we're most fulfilled, I shouldn't speak for all of us, but a lot of us, we're most fulfilled.
Speaker: We also can grow the most when we're serving others.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And that can look great a lot of different ways.
Speaker: But when I'm doing something for somebody else, whether it's a charity, whether it's
Speaker: the person that needs me, whether I'm feeding into somebody, whether I'm serving food, whatever, whenever I'm serving others is when I feel the most alive and like, I'm really living my purpose.
Speaker: And you do a really good job of, um, specifically serving and not fixing.
Speaker: Um, I think that's a hard balance for women.
Speaker: Um, because we are the kind of bandaid for the family all the time.
Speaker: Um, we were out of paper towels this morning and guess who has to fix that?
Speaker: It's growing.
Speaker: Um, but you, you balance that server's heart so gracefully where someone doesn't feel like, you know, you could, you are fixing it.
Speaker: You're, you're solving a problem for them, fixing a problem or, um, fixing their heart with a conversation over coffee.
Speaker: but it never comes off in a way that like, Oh, I'll fix you.
Speaker: You're broken.
Speaker: I'll fix, you know what I mean?
Speaker: You just, you, you do have such a great, a graceful servant heart towards others.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: Goals.
Speaker: Hashtag goals.
Speaker: People split your hashtags.
Speaker: Let's do this again.
Speaker: Cause I love these questions.
Speaker: This is fun.
Speaker: So good.
Speaker: I hope you guys enjoyed our questions for under 35 and over 35 today.
Speaker: Bye everybody.
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