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Stop Making Permanent Decisions In Temporary Situations
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This weeks episode is about Stop Making Permanent Decisions In Temporal Situations. Sometimes we find ourselves making decisions based off our emotions, feelings and/or our temporary situations. If you plan on being successful you have to look beyond the here and now and focus on the future. It's time to plan and live our lives beyond the current. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter! I'm @elianeanita! If you want to send me an email you can email me at [email protected]/elianeanitatwitter.com/elianeanitafacebook.com/elianeanitashowSnapchat: ElianeAnitaIf you like to read and want a community to chat with join me! I would love to hear your perspective on the book of the month! To sign up click here: http://bit.ly/2snA6dgTrack Produced by: Devo BeatsRecorded, Produced and Edited by: Éliane Anita
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Introduction to Permanent Decisions in Temporary Situations
00:00:20
Speaker
Welcome to the Alien on the Needle podcast. I'm your host, Alien, and I'm so excited to have you join me for today's show. Today, I am going to be talking to you about making permanent decisions in a temporal situation.
Lessons from Esau: Poor Decisions in Temporary Situations
00:00:35
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I wanted to discuss this because this is like a burning issue for me. I was reading in my Bible, Genesis 25. In this particular verse of the Bible or this chapter in the Bible, it was talking about two brothers, Jacob and Esau. Esau was the older brother and he was more of the hunter. He went out and gathered and Jacob was more of a mother's boy, so he stayed around the house with his mom.
00:01:04
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And so Esau came in one day from a hard days of work and he was starving. So his brother was cooking soup and he said, brother, let me have a bowl of it. And Jacob told him, you know what, sell me your birthright and I'll give you a bowl of this soup. So Esau agreed to sell his birthright in exchange for a bowl of soup.
Reflection on Missed Opportunities and Fear
00:01:26
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And that stuck out to me so much because at that time, Esau was very hungry. Now he didn't have to go get a bowl of soup from his brother. He could have went and made his own meal or he could have had a servant bring him a piece of bread or something just to subside his hunger. But he decided to sell what belonged to him, the biggest part of his life. He decided to sell and throw away for a single bowl of soup.
00:01:54
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And I started to think about how that applied in my life, how I had become Esau in so many situations. And I was talking with a friend not too long ago, maybe sometime this week, telling her how I am starting a company now that I had had an idea about nine years ago.
00:02:12
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And nine years ago, I could have been doing a tremendous amount of things. I had more freedom. I had more time. I had less responsibility, but I let everything get in my way. I let other people problems get in my way. I let fear and doubt and insecurity get in my way. And I just gave up. And I mean, I started to try to get the business and then
00:02:36
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I stopped and then I would get discouraged and then I would get some inspiration and say, okay, I'm going to do it this time. And then I will stop because I got discouraged. And finally, I just started to put the rubber to the road this year to make things come to pass. And I thought, man, where could I have been if I would have started nine years ago?
Delaying Dreams for Temporary Situations: A Barrier to Success
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And I feel like a lot of times we find ourselves in very temporal situations.
00:03:03
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and we make permanent decisions based off what's temporarily happening in our lives. So many of us say, I'm going to start that business once I get my kids through college, or I'm going to go after my dreams once I pay off my dad, or I'm going to go back to school once I get more time on my job,
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you know, once I get myself settled on my job, then I'll start that company. I'll do whatever I need to do or whatever. But the truth of the matter is, this is the only time you're ever in your life that you're ever going to have this much energy.
Overcoming Obstacles: Start Now Regardless of Age and Responsibilities
00:03:37
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I require, now that I'm in my 30s, I require more sleep. I need vitamins. I need to, you know, allow my body to rest itself and recuperate. But nine years ago, I didn't need all of that. I could
00:03:49
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stay up all night and pull all nighters and do all kind of stuff because I had more energy and I had less things on my plate. And so this is the time in your life where you're only going to have this situation going on. So why not build now? Why not start now?
00:04:07
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You know a lot of us get afraid and you know we shrink back and say we're not going to do it because we're too busy or we have too many bills or it's too many responsibilities on our plate. Maybe you're afraid to try and fail or you don't even know where to start and you or maybe you just don't want to do it alone.
00:04:25
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But the truth of the matter is that if you continue to move forward and you begin to take steps towards your destiny, you'll find exactly what you need as you move forward. The point of it is having the courage to just start. That's the thing. You just have to start. So I want to give you a couple of tips as you begin to start, what
Maintaining Focus: Healthy Living and Eliminating Excuses
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to do, what
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to help your mind stay clear and focused. So the first thing you need to do is get rid of unhealthy living. That can be physically, that can be mentally, that could be people surrounding you. You need to exclude out every factor that will hinder you. You cannot build if you're not here. So if you're not taking care of your physical body, now is the time. You need to make sure that you have a well-balanced diet and that you're exercising often and that you're taking care of yourself.
00:05:18
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The next thing you want to do is stop living short term. Stop living for today and hoping for tomorrow. You have to dream and live as if you have a future and as if things are going to change within the next day or two.
00:05:34
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You have to keep your mind focused on the future and not right now because we know this thing to be true. Things change. People come and go.
Taking Risks: Progress Beyond the Comfort Zone
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Situations change all the time. But if you think further in the future, if you keep a mental picture of where you want to be in the future, you will work to obtain that goal every single time.
00:05:58
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The next thing you need to do is stop playing it safe. Nobody has ever made any impact in Earth or in life by playing it safe. Everybody took risks. So you may feel like right now you're just overwhelmed with this and it may even sound crazy to start a business. But listen, this is your only opportunity now
00:06:22
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in this position to do it. So don't be afraid to take risks. Stop trying to play it safe because it's not going to happen in the safety zone. It happens. The magic really happens on outside of your comfort zone. Remember that. You need to get rid of every excuse that you
Eliminating Excuses and Fixed Mindsets
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have. It's a saying that says excuses are the tools used by the incompetent, used to build monuments of nothingness.
00:06:48
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Those who use excuses very rarely become anything. You need to exclude out every excuse that you have to stop you from building your dream and living your dream life. If you want to do it, it is totally up to you. And you have to make that come to pass. You're going to have to roll up your sleeves and work hard. It's going to take a lot of grit and effort, but you can do it. And if you really want to see it happen, it can happen if you let go of every excuse.
00:07:18
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The next thing you need to do is get rid of fixed mindsets. There is no right or wrong way of doing or building a business or losing weight or whatever your goal is. There is no right or wrong way. The right way is doing it the best way that fits and suits you.
00:07:35
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So you have to be flexible with yourself and you have to be flexible with your goal. The point is reaching the goal and whatever you have to do to do it, do it. Don't try to get to a textbook answer to finish or get your goal accomplished.
00:07:50
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The next thing you need to realize is that nothing is going to magically happen. You're going to have to roll up your sleeves and get to work. The next thing I want to talk about is letting go of perfectionism and control.
Starting Without Perfection and Adapting
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Listen.
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Nothing is going to be perfect. There is no perfect time to start. You're just going to have to do it and you're not going to be able to control every situation. So you need to be prepared to respond as things pop up. So don't get to the point where you feel like I can't do it because it's not perfect.
00:08:24
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And I don't have no control over it. Listen, learn to respond to your situations as you need to and let go of the perfectionism mindset because nothing will ever be perfect. You need to let go of the idea of being liked by everybody and trying to fit in.
00:08:41
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Very rarely have you ever seen people be successful and memorable by just fitting in. You have to be okay with your difference. The thing that sells, the thing that gets people attention is the thing that is different. If everybody is alike, why should I buy from you when I can go and buy the same thing from somebody else?
00:09:02
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Why should I do what you do if yours is similar to somebody else's?
The Importance of Uniqueness Over Emulation
00:09:07
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Be your own person, be your original. You know, I was looking at an Instagram meme and somebody wrote on there, it says, be the Oprah of your field, right? And we know that Oprah is an amazing, amazing woman. I mean, she, Oprah is like the bomb, right?
00:09:29
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But why do the world need another Oprah? We need you. So even though Oprah is amazing and I think that she's extraordinary and I can talk for days about how incredible Oprah is, the truth of the matter is is that we don't need another Oprah. We need you.
00:09:47
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So stop trying to be like everybody else or try to fit in with what the status quo is and just simply be who you are. We need your difference. And the final tip that I want to give is stop doing things that will put you in opposition of your goal or stop hanging around people that put you in opposition of
Positive Influences and Success Habits
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your goal.
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you have to begin to be to surround yourself with like-minded people. Maybe these people are not doing the same thing that you're doing, but maybe these people are doing something that's inspiring and something that will spark the flame in you. So you want to make sure that you're hanging around positive people and that you have a circle of people that is inspiring you and challenging you and pushing you towards your goal into the next level.
00:10:35
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You also want to implement goals and habits that will help tee you up to be a success in your life. You need to make sure that you exclude out everything that will hold you back or keep you in the same place or keep you in the same patterns. You want to make sure that you are surrounding yourself with the things that will push you towards success. If you want to be successful, you need to start now.
00:11:04
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And not only now, but you have to break the mindsets that you have that will keep you stuck in the same place. I know that it's not easy, trust me, I know, but you have to make your mind up now to say this will be the season that I do this because this is the only time that you'll have this much energy to do what you need to do now.
00:11:26
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I hope and pray that you be encouraged and that you be inspired and motivated to go after every dream that you have. It's not too late.
Pursuing Dreams and Eliminating Negativity: Conclusion
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Throw away your excuses, get rid of toxic environments and toxic people, and begin to build your God-given dream. I pray this podcast blessed you, and if it did, please be sure to share it with your friends
00:11:52
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If you have any questions, you can e-mail me at alienanitashow at gmail.com. Feel free to follow me on all social media platforms. I am Alienanita everywhere. If you want to see when I'm reading and check out my book club, I have a book club on goodreads.com. It is called the Alienanita Book Club. I have the book that I'm currently reading now.
00:12:17
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So you can join along with me, read the book, comment. You can even comment on my Instagram feed and tell me what you think. And so I want to thank you again for tuning in to this podcast. And as always, stay blessed and be relevant.