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The time Khalil made a Woman Cry: Etiquette, Behaviour, and Public Menace-Episode 1
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What happens when someone decides the gym is their personal phone booth? A showdown, apparently. In our first episode, we dive into the unspoken rules of shared spaces, from gym etiquette to public phone calls, and why some people refuse to read the room. Khalil recounts a gym conflict that escalated just a little too far, sparking a bigger conversation about confrontation, personal space, and when it’s actually worth speaking up. Plus, we tackle dating etiquette, social pet peeves, and the fine line between standing your ground and just being that person.
INTRO/OUTRO MUSCIC: DIVA @NOISEDIVA
GRAPHICS: IMAN WWW.ABSTRACTALI.COM
EDITING: KHALIL @ARABFORLIFE12
CREATORS: KHALIL & ALI ---> @FEEDINGSEAHORSES
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Transcript
Introduction and Show Overview
00:00:07
Speaker
everyone, another episode of All of People. To our weekly show, mother f***er. We had the fun having a weekly show because it's like, it doesn't actually, like a show is literally just this.
00:00:18
Speaker
Like, i do we just have to show something. That's absolutely the word. Absolutely. and And I mean, we look good doing it. I really like your sweater. Everyone loves this sweater. Yeah, it's pretty cool. Where'd you get it from?
00:00:30
Speaker
No, I don't want to shout at this person out. No, I'll bleep the name because it's like, actually, they're not getting free promo. What if this is big? Yeah. um But his name's Pander in Toronto. Pander Shirts in Toronto. If you look look up his website.
00:00:45
Speaker
Sweet. Okay, I'll look it up. But I'm not putting that on the pod. Unless they want to sponsor us. Code olives. Code olives. Olive sluts.
Gym Etiquette and Confrontations
00:00:56
Speaker
Okay, so today's episode's on etiquette. It's very broad, very general. I have some notes. Do you want to kick us off? Yeah, because this was my this is my episode. And...
00:01:07
Speaker
and It was because I made a girl cry at the gym. Tell us. And i did tell you, I did tell you this story already, but we're rehashing. um Essentially what happened is, and I've also told a million people this story. So I'm down to a science.
00:01:22
Speaker
I was down in the gym and it's a small gym and some lady was on the phone and I was doing like, I was just, I let her talk on the phone for a little bit because she was solving some technical issues with some smartwatch she had on.
00:01:35
Speaker
And then i was just getting more and more restless as the time went on because I'm just trying to do my little ab circuit. Also, the other thing I'll give myself a negative point for starting this whole application is that I was finishing up my workout.
00:01:48
Speaker
Okay. I didn't know this. Okay. I was at the last... thing I had to you were the last leg you could have just so abs ah but I really actually like doing abs like for me I actually quite enjoy being at the gym it's like it's good meditation now it's a like it's a good time I'm not like a gym bro by any means but like when I'm into fitness I'm into fitness so I really like actually and I have my favorite exercises like I like doing pull-ups I like doing the bench I like
00:02:21
Speaker
um I've seen you do pull-ups on your doors before. I'm like, how is your form so good? Like that. I do as many pull-ups anymore. That's bad. But still, anyway. on it might be Anyway, so I also like doing, i love doing abs.
00:02:36
Speaker
I think it's fun. You get to lay down. It's nice. So I'm doing my favorite part. And then she is just like, yap, yap, yapping. And then I'm like being pissed off, like sighing, like nonverbal cues.
00:02:48
Speaker
I like look at her once. She's like still yapping. Keep going, whatever. Look again. And then she asked, why are you looking at me? And that's when it kicks off. Cause I'm like, cause you're on your phone. And then she's like, well, I'm on my phone, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, I don't give a fuck.
00:03:03
Speaker
And then she's like talking to the person on the phone. She's like, yeah, I'm at my gym. i was like, it's not your gym. Like we all pay rent here. And she's like, I'm on the phone with my dad. but of a plot And I'm like, um and then she's like, I'm not talking to you. i was like, well, I can hear your whole conversation. so hell And then she's like silent, silent, silent in the corner. She's like trying to be more discreet about the phone.
00:03:28
Speaker
The infuriating thing about hearing someone peep every like 15 seconds is like, bitch, just step outside. Yeah. you Like also, this is my building. Go up to your like place where you live and handle it. Like it just seems like common sense. Like I just feel like if I'm in an enclosed space with someone, I'm where like, I don't know. I think it's, i i I thought it was common sense that you shouldn't be on your phone at it in the gym.
00:03:54
Speaker
I don't know. But like if I'm on the bus, I don't care. Like for example, on a bus or a train, i don't really care if you're on your phone. If it's like a long haul train, like between cities and you're on there for a couple hours, okay, don't be on your phone.
00:04:06
Speaker
But like on the city bus and on the, like when there's traffic and there's people chatting anyway, like sure, be on your phone. If it's like, actually, i disagree there. I think even in public transportation, you need to be mindful of your surroundings because in New York, you'll have people blasting their music.
00:04:25
Speaker
But that's just part of it. Like, I feel like being okay, like a public good is like where anyone can just get on it. Anyone from the world, like anyone who's a visitor, I think is very different than like a gym.
00:04:39
Speaker
Because you can talk in a gym, but even then, like, I actually don't want to listen to two people f***ing yapping in a small gym about whatever. It's like, you literally should be here to work.
00:04:50
Speaker
or like Right. be like sir not up saying You started off saying two people f***ing. I was like, I kind of want to hear that. And then, yeah, anyway. Two people f***ing? I didn't say that. No, you said two people f***ing yapping, but my brain paused that f***ing.
00:05:04
Speaker
No. Anyway, and being in this girl got into it. Her dad later comes downstairs to help her fix this watch, which is also just so like this bitch, you couldn't go upstairs to your dad. Like you like that would never that. I would never do that to my parents personally.
00:05:19
Speaker
And they would also never do that. They'd be like, bitch, just come upstairs. Like what is wrong with you? yeah we're just like figure it out another time like what stop being crazy yeah and then she's like down with her dad and then she was like calling me mean and I was literally just like I was I was making fun of her at this point or as it does down at this her dad is down fixing the watch at this point he's not like he's not really coming at me like he is on her side he's like well it's not a library and I'm like Sir, I don't know how to explain etiquette to you guys. Like, you just have to Google it. Like, this is pretty common. row and But, like, he's not really that involved. She's just, like, going going at me being, like, you're mean, you're mean. And I'm, like, it's the moment's over, lady. Like, this moment has long passed.
00:05:59
Speaker
You know? Like, what I said what I said. i don't care that you think I'm mean. And then I literally was, like, to her, what like what are you going to do, cry? And then she's, like, I am going to cry. And I was, like, okay. Wow. Crying on your hands is such a flex.
00:06:14
Speaker
But seriously, like, I'm very much, when people are hurt emotionally, i really, i jump to, like, get over it. Look, I totally agree with the fact that she's unreasonable and taking up space unnecessarily.
00:06:28
Speaker
I feel like in this world...
00:06:33
Speaker
There is a way to deal with people where you get what you want and they get what they want. And unfortunately, some people just do not deal with confrontation well. And I know your answer. You're going to say that's not your problem. That's your problem.
00:06:46
Speaker
But... To get out of a stressful situation, i feel like sometimes the best way through is to be like butter. You know, like not escalate the situation, kind of like detach yourself from it.
00:07:00
Speaker
The second you started noticing she was making it all about her and being very whiny, to just kind of like, I think way i understand what you're saying. I could have said what I said and I could have stopped at a certain point.
00:07:12
Speaker
Yeah. But like, honestly, sometimes I'm just like, it's not even, it's not even like, I understand we both didn't get what we wanted, but like, I don't know. I just feel like I'm going to make my presence known and I'm going to just make my opinion Hell yeah. And honestly, especially because i feel really territorial over that space specifically. Yeah. Like it's not my space, but yeah,
00:07:34
Speaker
I honestly don't see people treating it properly. so I'm like pseudo becoming the Karen of this space where it's like, you're going to put your weights away properly. Like you're going to wear proper fucking footwear. You're like someone needs like it. yeah Just the thing that annoys me the most at the gym, we go to a gym that is packed 24 seven and there's so many people using the facility. So like if you're going to take the 50 dumbbell, put it back in the 50 spots. Yeah.
00:08:02
Speaker
why are there 50-pound dumbbells in the 15-pound spot? I'm like, who's doing this? Who's this evil? like You literally took it from one place and put it somewhere else.
00:08:13
Speaker
And that just disrupts the whole... you know There are layers. There are like, I think there's layers of offenses to that. Like that's lower level to me than like talking on the phone or like wearing flip flops. Honestly. Oh, flip flops is a no go. If it's, oh my God, the old planet fitness I used to go to. I hate planet fitness, by the way. Do you know what that is?
00:08:34
Speaker
Yeah, it's just I used to go to Platinum Fitness. It's affordable. so yeah even where It is available in Canada. that but I guess I wasn't sure if it was there. But it is affordable. But I one time saw this guy working out barefoot.
00:08:47
Speaker
o And I had literally, that is the first time that I was like, I really am praying for your death. Like, i find that so... I'm praying for your death.
00:08:59
Speaker
It's so bad. I'm praying for your death, especially... Yeah, I just actually... I don't know why it really pisses me off, but it's like... i was down already I don't want to see the black soles of your feet. You know, like, from how the floor You don't even like when people take off their shoes to squat. I get annoyed.
00:09:13
Speaker
I'm like... yeah That is annoying. like Also, you don't even need to do all that. When I squat, I don't do that. Look, I will say, ergonomically, it makes sense. But there are shoes that are specific for squatting, as in like flat feet shoes. I don't know. I feel like people who take off their shoes to squat, they're doing too much. It is extra.
00:09:34
Speaker
It is still extra. But it's better than barefoot. I mean, like it there's just no reason for you to be barefoot at the gym. You're going to get every single a STD known to man, like wiping your foot on that floor. Right.
00:09:46
Speaker
but But I do agree that misplacing your weights is not that big of a deal. We previously discussed how if I'm at a squat rack, and let's say there's one 45 pound left, you better ask for permission before you take that.
00:10:01
Speaker
Because I might use it. But then you disagreed and said... Yeah, but that's just like if you're not using something at the gym, if you're not using it, lose it. But how do you know you're not using it?
00:10:13
Speaker
But you you're not using it. It's not on the thing that you're using, so it's you're not using it. you But I'm currently warming up. Okay, this is like property rights. Like when you have a house, you don't own the air and the land below.
00:10:27
Speaker
Right? So at the gym, when you're on a machine, you don't own everything that's attached to it. but i that's fair but then how do you secure that 45 of left 30 years and use it but you're not using it and slap them up if you're doing some like like um i forget what those reps are called where you use it you're in you're using incremental weights just put them in front of the thing like take what you need and put it in front of there or just go get up there's i've never seen a gym run out of 45 plates in my life just walk get up and go somewhere else and get them This gym gets so fucking busy. But I guess my point being is how simple is it to just like give little smile?
00:11:04
Speaker
i don't want to talk to strangers at the gym. I don't want to talk to you. I'm not in the mood. This is like my time. But I think the same way that you're saying this is a shared space, part of it is the fact that you're going to be insur interacting with other people.
00:11:16
Speaker
as then Exactly, and then I need to, and for that I don't feel like I need to. I don't even ask your permission to take something that's, if something is in a shared pile and you're not using it, I do not need to ask your permission to take it.
00:11:30
Speaker
Okay, in the comments, let us know, do you think yeah people should ask permission before taking weights from a squat rack if you're using it? Like, yeah, where it's like a same squat rack and there's like the cones of like all the different size weights. I don't think you need to talk to the person who's like at that bench or at that squat rack, but I want to move on from gym etiquette. Yeah.
00:11:52
Speaker
And I want to talk about dating etiquette because
Dating Experiences and Authenticity
00:11:55
Speaker
I kicked out. Okay. Actually I went on two different dates yesterday. two yeah let's see oh my god i can barely do one and i want to kill myself um how'd you do two because i just like i'm not doing like for example like what was yesterday saturday all i literally had to do saturday actually got a lot done like i mop my floors i did vacuuming i like did all that and that very healing for me It was very healing for me too. like i just like but For me, it's like get starting is really hard, but once I'm doing it, I'm like into it.
00:12:27
Speaker
yeah ah Do you get high when you do chores? I'm high all the time. so Moving on. All I had to do was buy oranges for Chinese New Year. Like that was my mission for the day.
00:12:40
Speaker
And then I was, I recently redownloaded hinge. And then some guy was just like, let's go get coffee. And I was like, you know what? Like someone asking me out being spontaneous. Like I love that. And I'm like, I literally just have to get oranges today. So I was like, I'll just like meet you in the area that I want to go get oranges.
00:12:55
Speaker
Two birds, one stone. Mm-hmm. And I was actually pleasantly surprised. I like this person was um he was like cute enough. Like my threshold for cute, like once you're cute enough, like i don't really care how much hotter you are.
00:13:08
Speaker
Like, you let's say my minimum is like a six. I don't really care if you're a 10. It's like a six and a 10 is the same thing to me because it's like you have checked that box. A 10 is actually a red flag for me.
00:13:20
Speaker
like you But you're saying my 10. I shouldn't have a red flag 10. Like if someone looked like Ken, I'm just like, youre you're probably a Nazi I don't want to hang out with. But like my... what What's your etiquette on dating apps themselves? Do you have photos that represent your best self or your mediocre self?
00:13:38
Speaker
i yeah I can show you. I can literally show you right now. Please do. Because I really believe that... Oh, my book's going to be kind of funny. Okay, so I started off with That's a very serious photo. Oh my goodness. But it's also, it's like face card. It is face card as fuck.
00:13:54
Speaker
You look like a Middle Eastern person. have my prompt is it give me travel tips for Columbia. Okay. um I have this picture. It's just a good photo.
00:14:05
Speaker
It's just me looking hunky. yeah i have this photo because it's just like, hee hee funny. Give it a beer. beer. Okay, that's funny. ah bear um okay that's funny But it's like body, it's like, you know what? The thing is, gay men are actually insane about like body politics. So it's like you have, I feel like a rep.
00:14:25
Speaker
Anyway, I just put a picture of my body on there because I'm just like, I'm not trying to hide on anything. I'm just like, absolutely. Because there are the people who will just be like, and no abs, no me. And it's like, ah I'm just, but the thing is, I catfish those people.
00:14:39
Speaker
where And those people, because they present nice when they think you're like up to a certain right right is it right standard. And I have big arms and a nice chest and a tank top, and you can't really see my stomach. So then they're like, people don't really know what's going on there.
00:14:53
Speaker
So I feel like some people will think I have abs when I don't. So I usually try to put a picture being like, that's not there. yeah And then I have this rent this picture acts I put by accident.
00:15:05
Speaker
But I was like, you know what? It's cute. It's fun. It cute. Where is that? That was in a club in, like, Vietnam. It was a balloon bar. I was, like, doing whippets.
00:15:15
Speaker
This is me smoking weed, and there's a little sign that says Gaza. and my smoke youth This is my neighborhood smoke spot. you I literally love being there in the summer. And then another...
00:15:26
Speaker
Picture me cutes on the beach vibing. So that's my Hinge profile. I feel like it's actually very like it's representative me. It's cute. It's fun. Yeah. I totally think your Hinge profile or whatever profile has to actually reflect who you are. I don't get people...
00:15:45
Speaker
who their whole profile is not them. As in, they like put their best, most like angled edited photos. And they're like, what do you expect is going to happen? And I will, my dating app experience has been ah so much better when I actually treat people holistically. Like,
00:16:03
Speaker
When it's like, okay, this person is sexy and I would have sex with them, but I'm just looking at how they're answering the questions. I'm looking at the types of pictures. I'm also like, especially if it's a white person, it's like, oh, all these pictures are also with other white people.
00:16:15
Speaker
ah Right. mac Like, yeah. So, i like, I feel like the algorithm has been really good this time around. Like, I've been having more good dates in, like, the past six months because I've really just, like, made that shift to be like...
00:16:29
Speaker
I don't I'm actually not here just to just if you're if you're fuckable, that's actually not enough to get a swipe for me. Fair, fair. So you're actually looking for like a relationship. I'm not even looking for a relationship, but I was just like, i don't want to just have sex.
00:16:43
Speaker
And if I do have sex, I want it to be with someone that I actually like, like like but we don't, i it doesn't, I'm down for like little flings or whatever. I'm open to a relationship if it works, but like, I also have a lot going on in my life. So it's like, I don't know. We'll see. Like I, I i said, give me travel tips for Columbia on my Hinge profile. Cause I literally want to go Columbia in a couple months.
00:17:06
Speaker
and Like I'm gonna be around sexy Colombian men. So Like I could be in an open relationship maybe for that part but like that the absolute that I you know what I mean It just adds layers. So I'm not absolutely up it just comes when it comes can I did i need to get to oh That date was good.
00:17:22
Speaker
So that day was cute fine. I met him up. He was a great he was cute. He was cute enough great intellectual match and um He like Honestly, I really like having, like, we had a philosophical debate and he, like, really proved his points.
00:17:37
Speaker
And i I was like, oh, I learned something from this person today. Nice. Nice. And I was like, i like that, I feel like really makes me more into somebody when, like. I get that. I get that.
00:17:49
Speaker
So when they I feel challenged, I felt like intellectually challenged. um And he was very respectful and blah, blah, blah. And then, you know, now we're just like light texting. So we'll see where that goes. And then later i had planned. I had already made plans earlier with this other guy to come over around seven and um come over your place as a first date.
00:18:10
Speaker
Yeah, and I told him, like of like, with the expectation, like, we're not having sex. Like, we're literally just going to like, watch a movie and chill. it's like, we have sex, we have sex, but, like, let's not. We're not, like, I was very explicit about not putting the expectation.
00:18:21
Speaker
Yeah. So he came over, um and we watched, like, shit pretty, like, I found a really good movie. but What's the movie? It was The Apprentice 2024. It's like a loose documentary on Donald Trump, but it's very cinematic, have heavy propaganda on Donald Trump, but like ah like crazy.
00:18:42
Speaker
I recommend people watching it. okay um But yeah, he was just a little bit of a catfish, not a super catfish, but it's like You are mut you are you are a like a five in front of me and in your pictures you were like a seven. Yeah.
00:18:59
Speaker
So you look like you and it's fine. like I was just down to just like be nice and watch a movie together. Here's the thing. I'm going to double down and say it's fine, but it's also not fine. Because in my head, if in my head I'm envisioning a seven and you show up as a five,
00:19:15
Speaker
you're a one. But if you look like a five and show up as a five, that's so much that's so much better. You get what I'm saying? It's just the fact that you're not what I'm saying.
00:19:26
Speaker
Honestly, like sometimes like my face doesn't always look like my best face picture. that's i so all right no I didn't really blame him. It was like, the thing is, he was very, I could tell he was very much trying to get me to have sex with him, which was also more annoying because it wasn't picking up on my signals of like, do not make me tell you we're not going to have sex.
00:19:46
Speaker
And then anyway, what ended up happening was like, he had an emergency because like, so 40 minutes into the movie, he's like trying to brush my leg. Like, and I'm just like stonewall looking at the movie being like, hey, isn't this a great movie? Like,
00:20:01
Speaker
let's talk about the context of the film. He's also not even biting in conversation. so I'm just like, okay, if you even tried chatting me up and being like yeah interested in anything else, maybe you would get a kiss at the end.
00:20:14
Speaker
But you're just like, you're not giving personality either. So anyway, he's not getting what he wants. He like makes up a thing about his friend's dog being sick and then he leaves after 40 minutes. But he also brought... What the weirdest thing you've come up with to get out of a situation like a date?
00:20:29
Speaker
I'll just say I need to. I don't want to be there. I don't i don't even come up with a lie. I'm just like, I'm going. Damn. I've never been able to do that. One time I went into like a Grindr hookup and I showed up and it was like two old guys.
00:20:41
Speaker
I was like, I left something in my car and I left him. I did that when I was like 18. Yeah. yeah But now I'm just like, no, I'm leaving. Okay.
00:20:52
Speaker
I'll just literally be like, no. That actually happened at the door where like so my old man showed up and it's like I was literally just like, no. No. Honestly, good for you because I feel like for so long. it like You know what you did. First of all, if I'm like no and then you try to come at me, like I'm so ready to read you into the fucking ground. I'll be like, are you fucking kidding me?
00:21:11
Speaker
You're lucky I don't embarrass you for what you just did. You're lucky enough that I'm just saying no, this is not happening. like we say And most people do.
00:21:22
Speaker
They cut their losses and they don't argue because they already know. They know. I have 911 on speed dial, like ready to... But yeah, a younger version of new... They should have 911 on speed dial. Yeah, that's true. That's true. They're the ones that would need... There's a sound where it's like, call an ambulance, call an ambulance for you.
00:21:41
Speaker
I know that one. I know that one. um Yeah, when I was younger, I feel like it was easier to just go with the hookup than say no. Sometimes. yeah you know and i've also been in that situation where not like where i didn't want to i'm like i didn't want to have sex but i was just like having sex because like everyone else was having sex again yeah yeah and like also it's like a little bit of like a self-worth thing like if you're feeling shitty like a great way is to like go feel desired by some man but i've definitely been like like like i just like some stupid top like trying to figure it out and then they just like can't put it in i'm like
00:22:17
Speaker
I guess we're not doing this today. No, like they're trying to literally like put it in my back. I'm like, are you fucking kid? Like,
00:22:25
Speaker
I'm not going to help you out. yeah i don't want to do this. Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Saib, did you have any more things to add on the end of that dating escapade? um No, but like I think in talking about dating etiquette in general, I think it's important to just like be it as authentic as possible because what's the point in... I mean, everyone says this, and down the line, like...
00:22:55
Speaker
Like you're if it doesn't matter if you're attracted to to each other, you need to like, honestly, just think about things in real terms. Like I'm actually like, I think being realistic about my life has just made me so much calmer because it's like, um girl, if you're about to like move your life in September, are you really going to be in a relationship?
00:23:13
Speaker
Exactly. And like you, you just unlocked memory in my head that I have to share. So one of my good friends in *** reached out to me and was like, he reached out to me and he was like, hey, Ali, he's *** and he wants shamia.
00:23:27
Speaker
Like he wants somebody from the Levant area to marry. And so he was asking me if I knew anyone. And then my sister overheard and she wanted a woman.
00:23:38
Speaker
Yeah. And my sister wanted to set up her husband's sister, who wanted a c***** person. Anyway, long story short, we connect them together.
00:23:49
Speaker
They start dating. About a month or two in, he calls me and he's like, hey Ali, like, no big deal. But where's her mom from? And then I was like, oh she's from c*****.
00:24:04
Speaker
And knowing in the back of my head that geopolitically in our climate in the Middle East, that's a big deal. Yeah. But then he's like, okay, totally. No worries. I just wanted to ask blah, blah, blah.
00:24:16
Speaker
And then a week later, he calls me again and he's like, actually, Ali, the reason why ah reason I called and asked is because she told me her mom is from Spain.
00:24:29
Speaker
um So picture this. Like, this is so multilayered. The fact that you yourself are ashamed of where you're from.
00:24:40
Speaker
The fact that you're lying to someone that you're intending to marry about where you're from. Yeah, like, they're gonna find out. That's exactly to your point about why are you lying?
00:24:52
Speaker
You are literally, like in your head, you think that getting married is the end game. Like once you're married, boom, happily ever after. No, bitch. When you're married, that's when life starts.
00:25:03
Speaker
So he didn't take her because her mom was a**? No, no, no He stayed with her. They're going to get married. The point being is that she shouldn't try to trap him.
00:25:14
Speaker
If you're worried that this man is going to see you as less than because of where you're from, then wouldn't you want to know? Yeah, b that's why and that's why I started putting body pictures up for the same reason. Because it's like, I don't want someone who's only going to value me if the difference, if they're okay with my arms, my face, my everything in a tight tank top, but I take it off and all of a sudden, because there's not that. It's like, that's crazy. It's like, no, you want to be with someone who wants you for you. you You're not supposed to change who you are.
00:25:46
Speaker
it just doesn't make sense to me because eventually the real you is going to come out. But I will say my... is being bald. But you don't hide being bald. No, I don't. But I think more guys are like more like I can't be with a bald guy than can't be with a bald guy. Right. Right. That's so fucking true. man ah you I didn't know that was true until more recently. I'm like, oh, people actually do kind of like you can be hot and bald, but people are still like love or something about.
00:26:16
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Love a baldy, honestly. i use has like It's just like, can I, why do we, why don't, why is there a category of bald and not bald? Like it's just a different hairstyle. There's a cat. Exactly. There's a category of bald. There's a category of curly. There's a category of but people aren't like, oh, I don't want a straight haired person. don't want to. I feel like.
00:26:34
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I'm more attracted to people with like curly hair, for example, or blah, blah, blah. But I know it's kind of like a physical appearance. and I don't, I'm not, I don't have, there's nothing specifically that like, I feel like any kind of type of thing you could look like, I feel like it looks cute to me in some way, depending on how it's like presented. Yeah.
00:26:55
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Yeah. ah yeah I'm going to edit my response. It's more about if you look weird, I'm into you. As in if you look like if you look crazy, if you look very different than what I am used to. Do you get what I'm saying? Like I like variety. So I like that if somebody has something that's like like atypical, like for example.
00:27:18
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this is just an example like blue eyes, but really dark hair or like whatever, like something like that. word I think a lot of people like that kind of shit. Yeah, I'm not saying a lot of people don't.
00:27:29
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I'm saying it's like it is. I mean, you are a Twilight fangirl and it's gibbba like, oh, someone with two toned eyes or like whatever. Like we're sectoral hypochromia and I'm dead.
00:27:41
Speaker
Do you know what that is? Or like one eye is a different color than another. I'm very like, I don't know. I like a package. like a package deal head to toe. I like something that's defined.
00:27:53
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Fair, fair. i want to I want to jump to one I have here, kind of related to dating and not really. Don't be drunk in front of me. That's crazy. Don't be drunk in front of me.
00:28:05
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I have such an issue dating.
00:28:10
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Like, alcohol in general, i just... I will drink. But if we're drinking, it's to party. It's not to socialize. you get Like, I don't understand the culture here in America where it's like, oh, we're hanging out after work.
00:28:24
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We're grabbing drinks. Yeah. I don't like that. I actually prefer... Like, I would literally rather, like, give me any drug. Any... For some reason, alcohol...
00:28:36
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Maybe it's because I don't talk. Oh, alcohol specifically. Okay. Okay. I just understand. Okay. Maybe it's because i don't tolerate alcohol well. so i don't know either.
00:28:46
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Like I end up getting like nauseous right off the bat, immediately hung over. I'm not having a good time. And then when I see other people that are drunk, I'm always like, get off me. You know, like you're there's now they're like, I'm more like, that's also people on Molly. Oh, I hate touching someone's sweaty, like wet, cold body. There are pupils like this and they want to talk. Oh my God. It's freaky.
00:29:14
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And their jaw, their like tight jaw yeah and Time and place There's a time and place I feel like if you're doing something Don't overdo it i can don't Okay, but okay can I correct this? I think it's like match your date's sloppiness Yes yes And you have to go defer to the person Who's the least sloppy Absolutely.
00:29:35
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And then also don't judge the person for not wanting to get sloppy. Like there's this expectation when you're on a date where it's like, you don't want to drink or like whatever. It's like, I want to talk.
00:29:48
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I don't need this lubrication like have a conversation. Yeah. You might need it, like somebody, like an American might need it to actually be themselves because they're repressed in their society. But I actually don't need alcohol.
00:30:01
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I can go and have a whole night out completely sober and I'm fine. I actually don't like doing that anymore. That's fair. That's totally fair. It's not, I'm not like alcohol, but like, I don't mean or anything.
00:30:14
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No, like especially dancing, honestly, I don't like, I don't want to dance with people unless I'm like on a little bit of ketamine or like at the minimal, like, I mean, I'm always stoned, but I need to be like stoned.
00:30:26
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I get you. I feel like ah for me, the only reason it's easy for me to be sober is because no one else is. Right. As in, if I'm in a dance floor, like, listening to fucking techno music.
00:30:38
Speaker
I know for everyone fucked Is anyone fucked up? Exactly. That kind of thing. yeah where it's You're the fucked up one is the sober one. Exactly. So that I'm just able to, like, match people's energy. I could match. I could, like, if it if I'm in a... bru Like, if it's an intimate party with, like, just people I like, it's like, I'm not...
00:30:55
Speaker
a stick in the mud but i just feel like out in public at least in the right like in the techno scene in toronto it's like it's a lot of creepy losers out there so it's like yeah do you just want to i feel like i need to be fucked up so i'm not so thinking about right i'm shit people are aware of yeah yeah yeah the weirdos that's true that's true okay eating etiquette for our listeners khalil is holding up a sport I was using this work to actually clean my
Dining Etiquette and Social Norms
00:31:23
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grinder.
00:31:23
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and But i was it made me think of eating etiquette because I hate eating noises. Cleaning what? I have this little like platinum grinder. And it gets like, it literally like there's like a bunch of weed that gets stuck to the side.
00:31:36
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And it proved prevents it from turning. So I was like, I just was using this actually earlier to like pick it out. But I fucking hate eating noises. Like. Yeah, we talked to laura earlier.
00:31:47
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or um um teeth clinking against a spoon. Or just like people who are, honestly, some people are so ghastly about their eating where it's like they're chewing with their mouth open. Yeah. They're making like the the smacking noises. They're like audibly being like slurping. I don't.
00:32:07
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Yeah. Yeah. i recently asked John, I was like, do I? Because I i was under the assumption that I do. And he says, he's right there also playing video games. He says that I don't, but I disagree. I think he's just being nice. I think I do smack sometimes, especially when I'm comfortable. I'll let you Yeah.
00:32:24
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If I know you don't like it, I won't do it. But at home, i totally like love food. Like I'm making love to food. You know, I'm just like yeah eating it. It's all over my face.
00:32:36
Speaker
It's everywhere. Yeah. um i'm I'm a messy eater too. Like i I'm definitely ah hard visually to look at when I eat, but we don't. don't, um, don't, ah you don't hear me.
00:32:47
Speaker
Yeah. and you won't i hate her i I was also raised eating with my hands, which like is also an adjustment to hear as in like from like, love eating with my hands too. You know, me too. I, I'm a very, like, I love feeling things. So I feel like,
00:33:02
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Yeah, it's like fun. eating really deek i will like If I'm eating a Big Mac, I like deconstruct it like piece by piece. Oh my God, I do that too, where you like take the top part off. You have a bite where it's just the bread and the meat.
00:33:14
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and A little open-faced thing with the soft pun. Yeah. Just to eat Big Macs like us. i mean i Okay, I want to say about, because we brought up John. Yeah.
00:33:28
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who I don't I hate actually I feel weird about talking about like when I talk I'm very like I don't like i don't like strangers if I like if I don't know you I'm just like I I'm very neutral but I'm neutral like wary yeah yeah yeah so I'm just like this man your stranger your boyfriend and I understand you guys you love him whatever blah blah blah I don't know this man but he does have the tragus piercing that would just what's that try get that toss the arliz pier thing I asked him actually and he said no actually it was horrible exactly I knew that yeah yeah knew that I don't know why I thought it was easy he said because he got it before we met and he said that actually for like months sometimes he'd wake up holding his ear like this
00:34:13
Speaker
Literally, it looks so cute on my little ear that sticked out here. du But the problem is, okay, so when I got my lobes pierced, I had a hard time healing them. And that's like one of the easiest pierced things to heal. Do you have your ears pierced?
00:34:26
Speaker
So i had I pierced this ear twice. Twice. And very similarly, it refused to heal. But then I traveled one time to Jordan and my mom basically had a meltdown.
00:34:39
Speaker
And forced me to take it out. So since then I was like, this is too much work. I have my... Salim Tiktas is going to be like, this was Allah's will. Yeah. As fuck. They're going to be... Mine wasn't... Like, it just... It literally was my own fault. It didn't heal well because I did it like ah three weeks before I went to Europe for like three months. And then I was like...
00:34:57
Speaker
running always running around, sleeping in hostels, hooking up with guys. But the thing is, guys are so inconsiderate of like... Dude, that's the thing. I would never get this pierced because... that because ah back okay sure They're going to grab that shit.
00:35:10
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And they still it's just so annoying how you literally will have to like restrict someone's movement or like guide their hands because you can't trust them to be like gentle and careful.
00:35:21
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And even when I had hair, I remember... And like never in a strategic sexy way are they pulling your hair. Like literally just like they just fucking yank your head to the side just for fun. Just like I want to throw you around. And it's like you're messing up my hair. You didn't even like do it to like act get access to a certain space. Right.
00:35:42
Speaker
It wasn't to bring me closer. Like it literally just pissed me off. And then I literally will have to like, like I literally will grab people and just like, no, like do not do that. Yeah. Yeah. Very similarly, i have my nipple pierced and sometimes someone will like,
00:35:58
Speaker
How is the healing for that? That, ah honestly, still healing as well. Like, I've gotten it two years ago. Like, if if I bump against something really hard, it'll crust over and, like, get inflamed.
00:36:13
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Like, it's, yeah, still. So your nipples, so people can't play with your nipples? No, they can. They can. That's the thing. Gently. But if they yank on it or bite or anything like that. You guys love to go in on nipples because... because children have nipple sensitivities. No, I like nipples, nipple play. But again, be mindful that's pierced.
00:36:33
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And again, very similarly to you, I'll literally tap their little head. Nipples are not sensitive like that. But you should ask. You should know that my nipples aren't... They're not sensitive. They're not sensitive. Yeah, that's the word I'm looking for. But they're not... I have some feeling... I could feel in my nipples, but it doesn't do anything for me.
00:36:54
Speaker
But I mean, I understand it's like a thing for people, but it's like when people go right on and they bite, it's like, it's like a beer holding a leash. I've literally smacked them before. No. Some guy in Germany, we were making out at the club and he was biting my lip so much and so hard to the point where I was literally like, I stopped kissing my pulling back and it's like, he's just like hanging onto my bottom lip. It's like, youre like pray hit them I literally slapped him.
00:37:20
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Why is he trying to get away and he's literally hooked. Wow. That's so funny. That's so funny. I want to ask you about if you're invited to someone's place, do you bring something? Do you not bring something?
00:37:34
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Do you ask? if i'm If I'm going to your place for the first time, it depends on how excited i am. If I want to impress you, I'm going to ask. If I don't really care, I'm not going to ask.
00:37:45
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Okay. I invited a couple friend of ours over for dinner that I fully cooked. I said, you bring nothing, I'm going to cook. Okay, so we're not talking about like bringing a date over to your house. No, no, no, no, no. Like longstanding friends. This is not just anything.
00:38:00
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Honestly, just as you described. First time, not first time, whatever. depends. I guess there is a context, but I'm going to give you this scenario and I want you to tell me what the appropriate thing is. So I invite you over for a seven course meal where I'm going to be slaving in the kitchen, by the way, for a whole week. This this was like a whole week endeavor.
00:38:18
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and And they asked her, should we bring anything? In my and and how I grew up, you say, no, just bring yourselves. Yeah.
00:38:29
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With the understanding that it's just, it's hard for me to ask. It's hard for me to say, can you bring dessert? Can you blah, blah, buth It's just not in my nature because that's just how we grew up.
00:38:40
Speaker
Yeah. it was very different where it's like, you do not ask. You do not tell someone what to bring. It's just expected as like this reciprocity thing that's unsaid because then it becomes transactional if I start saying, you bring half the meal.
00:38:55
Speaker
You know what I mean? So I just said, and this is my fault. I'm learning. This was like early on when I was in the States. So I don't do this anymore. But I invited them over for a seven course meal.
00:39:06
Speaker
They come, they bring a six pack of beer. No one drinks the beer. On their way out, I'm looking at John Casino's story. On their way out, they take the beer with them.
00:39:19
Speaker
Okay. I find that insane. I find that insane. I kind of get, no, I can, I can understand where, how that would happen because I would look at it and be like, well, no one drank it.
00:39:33
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Like these people clearly don't like this thing. It's like, well, we like it. I'm taking it. I would do it. But see, the thing is, is you just had a full free seven course meal with, by the way,
00:39:44
Speaker
Like, yes, I have no expectation for them to reciprocate, but the fact that they actually never reciprocated, like never have been like, hey, you want to come over like pizza on us?
00:39:55
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Something like that. For dinner? ah Right. Like to show that it's like a give and take. But no, they saw that this stupid ethnic man was willing to give. you invited to your to who um cooked all this food for?
00:40:09
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literally just a couple, like a couple. and other Are you friends with them? Yeah. Why are you friends with them then? No, to be fair, they're John's friends. Oh, wow.
00:40:21
Speaker
Wait, no, no, no. It was... They are my friends too. Like, look, I started to understand like the culture. I'm stuck at the part of why haven't they cooked you dinner? Because I don't, the thing is, I don't care because it's like, well, the thing is we, and the thing is I don't do things for people that they don't do for me. I will do something initially, but it's like, if it never happens again, I must i keep having you over for dinner. Exactly. But I would never, I feel like your mistake was going so hard for these randoms. absolutely no you're absolutely right i was in my like hostess era like feeling in my bag of like oh my god i have a huge kitchen i want to be able to like you celebrate that and do i i do enjoy hosting maybe also they don't maybe they just like aren't capable of that that's have they had anything nice for you can you think of anything you know they they have that's equal to a seven course dinner in your mind
00:41:13
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We stayed over at her Narragansett. No, not Narragansett. What's Narragansett? That's the Rhode Island, somewhere in Rhode Island.
00:41:23
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like ah They have like a family home there that's like really nice. You guys stayed there yourselves or they brought you with them and they were also there? They were also there. And it was just like, eh. You know what? Actually, yeah, you need to shut up.
00:41:35
Speaker
Like, you're being a baby. hi look but Maybe these people can't fucking cook. Okay, in other situations, this happens where, let's say I offer to pay for something. Let's say I'll get get the bill for dinner.
00:41:49
Speaker
for that couple not just them not just them little in general with anyone like a friend yeah that's how I operate in the sense like I'll get this one you can get the next one yeah like as in I don't like nickel and diming like the bill and saying like oh I'm gonna Venmo you for 5.3 dollars for this like side I feel like for me it's a very unspoken delicate balance of like a mutual understanding but I feel like as soon as someone talks about it it throws shit out of whack for me Fair. So then what do you do? on a Like, let's say let's say you and I were to hang out.
00:42:24
Speaker
I'm going to pay for the bill because I'm going to sneak past you and like pay for it. For example, next time we hang out, wouldn't then make sense... But like, I don't, you don't necessarily know my situation. I feel like it's like, you have to give the other person a couple, give them like maybe like two or three hangs to do their thing because it's like maybe the next hang I'm like still in between paychecks. It's like this month I like spent a lot of money.
00:42:48
Speaker
Like you just don't know per se. And the thing is, it's like, you can't put an action on somebody that someone never asked for. but I guess splitting the bill to me just feels so painful. No, honestly, splitting the bill is great because then you get to both walk away.
00:43:05
Speaker
um um no iszzie Unless if it's splitting the bill literally halfway. like Because in this world of temporary relationships, I want to walk away and not feel like I wasted anything. So that's why I'm very careful about it.
00:43:17
Speaker
So I at least make sure. only ah As long as if it's like actually splitting the bill. Like let's say, for example, I get an entree, you get a salad and a drink. I'm not going to sit there and think who whose dish costed more.
00:43:30
Speaker
I'm just going to say split it down the middle. of Half. Sure. Unless it's something crazy where it's like you were drinking a bottle of wine and I had water. I'm not going to do that. i'm if it's like Actually, even then, I'm like, well, it was your choice to drink water.
00:43:43
Speaker
Because I'm usually the one drinking water, by the way. And so I'm willing to pay for your drink because I understand that... I'm not down for that. i don't know. Comment below. Yeah, let us know. Second thing.
00:43:55
Speaker
I forgot the first one already. but because It's just easier. And the thing is, I'm okay to do that in a relationship that I know is reoccurring. Yeah. Also in a relationship where I feel comfortable like asking for something.
00:44:11
Speaker
Right. Know what I mean? Yes. If I'm getting my friend something, like I'm getting, like i have this one friend, it's like I was getting all the Ubers back from the bar because we also, we party together and we also live like across the street from each other. so it's like, I would be, I would usually be the one to initiate, be like, I want to go home. And be like actually, I want to go home too. I'm just going hop in with you.
00:44:31
Speaker
And then I was like, okay, actually, this is starting to annoy me because every single time I'm paying your way home. Aren't you already going the same direction? Yeah, but every... Okay, but the thing is, I'm going home when I want to go home, and they are taking advantage of that and getting a free ride every single time. But just like if you're going to just do that, I'm going to stop ordering it right away and ask you. I'm going to be like, hey, I'm thinking of going. Are you going to go?
00:44:55
Speaker
And they're like, yeah, I'm going to go. Then it's like, okay, you you order it then. Otherwise, I'm like... That's very fair. That's very fair. But if they didn't exist, would you have still Ubered home?
00:45:08
Speaker
I wouldn't have been, I mean, maybe I would, i yeah, I would, but, like, the thing is, I don't want it to be, like, I'm not, like, this isn't, up i'm I'm very gonna be, like, a very aware of, like, brave who is doing what for me and what I'm doing for them. Absolutely. You should keep stock of the fact that And the thing is, I like our relationship. So I'm not going to build resentment over something if it's like, hey, I'm noticing you being greedy and it' pissing you off.
00:45:32
Speaker
And this person was very receptive to it because we have a good relationship and they want and they want to fix it so that it's that. But it's like if we don't have that relationship where we can have that conversation, I would I would never do something for you multiple times.
00:45:46
Speaker
It wouldn't just it wouldn't even happen. Right, right. Which, yeah. i mean Irish could buy them. Yeah, that that honestly, that's so what's happening with me where I'm like, okay, I'm sensing, just like you said, see how it is the first couple of times.
00:45:59
Speaker
For me, I just find it an investment like that I'm willing to make in a friendship or a relationship or whatever where I'm yeah showing you what I'm willing to offer.
Friendships and Social Dynamics
00:46:09
Speaker
And if you're not willing to offer the same, just like you said, bye-bye.
00:46:12
Speaker
Or I'm just not gonna... Or you just like adjust to the level. Yeah, yeah. um Because it's like, yeah, i want I feel like for a first date, I rarely ever will pay for a date. like ah and i've been People will pay for me sometimes, and I'm like, that's great, but also I don't mind.
00:46:27
Speaker
The thing is, like i on on a first date, splitting the bill is totally okay with me, but if you really impress me and I really like you, I actually don't mind paying for like the bill just to be like, I'm just trying to like win favor with this person in hopes that you know it'll win me another date, but also it's not like...
00:46:44
Speaker
That's just more of like, you know what? like I feel like I never have good dates. so it's like this was like i I feel like paying for this is fine. yeah yeah it's like I actually appreciate it today. so you know like This $100 doesn't matter.
00:46:57
Speaker
yeah Yeah, I get that. Honestly, like... I feel like what I'm describing earlier, Southern hospitality is where it's at. In the sense, when I lived in ah Boston, there was a a friend of mine, I think I mentioned him before, the guy who lives in Arkansas.
00:47:12
Speaker
He would host dinners all the time where he'd invite me over and he'd have a dinner cooked. And like it would be very and unexpected or like just like, ah hey, I'm making dinner, do you want to come over?
00:47:23
Speaker
And then I started doing the same and we got into this perfect rhythm where it felt like You get what I'm saying? Yeah, I would be like that too, but it's like not everyone's like that. Yeah, I agree. i get that though. I'm very much like that. I feel like anytime anyone's over, I'm feeding them.
00:47:40
Speaker
and But I feel like that's kind of an expectation of like whatever is in your kitchen is like open to, you know, whatever. I mean, time depending. It's like, okay, I'm asked to cook.
00:47:51
Speaker
You're not going to cook this chicken I have in my fridge if you're only here for an hour. Absolutely. But like, yeah. Absolutely. Do you believe in love languages?
00:48:02
Speaker
Yes. What's yours? Oh, good question. i I like, um, I don't, okay. Words of affirmation literally mean nothing to me. Literally at the floor.
00:48:15
Speaker
Um, I think acts of service, um, gifts, quality time, like anything that is like, tangible tangible and it's like you're doing something like because words are just words i'm like i need a person who's walking the walk that's this right and what i realize is it's one thing to know your love language actually not even physical touch don't touch me to show love like absolutely yeah i get that that to me is also like a handshake it's like oh thanks
00:48:47
Speaker
you know yeah Oh, a hug? Okay, whatever. But what I will say is something I'm learning as I grow older is that I need to start realizing people do have different ways that they feel like you're loving them.
00:49:01
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As in like, if my love language is words, like let's say words of affirmation, for example, I need to understand that maybe that other person has a different way of showing their love or maybe a different way of wanting to be loved.
00:49:14
Speaker
And I think that's also etiquette that a lot of people just don't have. But I think it's like part of like what is nice in a relationship is being seen. So when someone's adapting and catering to you to being like, oh, this is how you perceive this. So I'm going to do this for you because that is what's useful to you. Like i'm very utilitarian.
00:49:35
Speaker
Don't do shit for me that you would want done for you because I'm different. has bleaking So it's like I like when people notice the things in my life. If you don't smoke weed, but you buy me weed, like I would love that. Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah, that's a perfect example.
00:49:49
Speaker
Like growing up, for example, my dad is a giver. Like his way of showing love and receiving love is money. But that's not how I want to be loved. I want you to care about the TV shows I watch. I want you to like want to hang out with me. I want you to want to get to know me. but blah but you know Give me money.
00:50:06
Speaker
Literally don't talk to me. That actually would be perfect if you were just like gave me money and like, I yeah i don't really need you to show that much. and We could discuss whatever, like if you have an interesting occupation or you have a lot to say about but whatever, like I'm totally down to just like live in your world and talk about it and talk about it with you.
00:50:23
Speaker
If you're a provider. Oh my God, I would love that. Right, right, right. Because like actually... um My ex is a doctor and his career like took up.
00:50:33
Speaker
It takes up a lot. And like, we're still friends to this day, but like we but honestly more recently, we have stopped talking about medicine so much, but like for the seven years I have known him, 80% of our conversations like medicine um related things, but I love it.
00:50:50
Speaker
I love, I literally know. I, I like, and I know so much random shit and I like love getting the tea. What's your randomest facts? um What were they? What kind of doctor?
00:51:01
Speaker
he's um He's an emergency room physician. Or he's like a... He's seen some shit. He's seen some shit. Or like, I was like helping him study for like board exams, like verbal ones.
00:51:12
Speaker
um So I just like learned about like a lot of just like random procedures or like just terminology or like different things, like what to do. what I don't know. Just, I don't know. I guess you could... I know about like...
00:51:24
Speaker
it's like I can't remember the name of it, but it's where you like cut along the rib here to like get into the cavity that's around the heart to like let the like let blood pool out in case there's like some internal hemorrhaging.
00:51:36
Speaker
Jesus. That's horrible. Or like, i don't know, how to like warm up someone if they're like severely hypothermic. Don't think it's those like weird golds, like aluminum looking. You can also it like introduce warm fluids into someone's body in like very extreme situations. That makes sense.
00:51:56
Speaker
That makes sense. Talking about ECMO. Oh my God. We love, we, we, I mean, also cause the good doctor, they always are using ECMO left and right. the rush o I love the good doctor. I find it impossible to watch.
00:52:10
Speaker
That's my shit. I love that show. That autistic man needs to write. Every 10 seconds. So for people who don't know, ECMO is literally where you you have a whole machine that does what... It does heart and lung stuff.
00:52:23
Speaker
Yeah. yeah And it's like completely separate for your body. Very intensive, very expensive. these And I think in Canada, because the public health care system is like, ECMO, you are not getting ECMO at just say any random hospital.
00:52:36
Speaker
um But they're just fucking giving people ECMO left and right. In this show. but didn To be fair, it's American, right? It is American. I feel like they'd probably give Ekomo to a person that's sprained their ankle here.
00:52:50
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they They're just going to try to get as much money out of you as possible. you know Could you imagine? FYI, I'm pretty sure an ICU stay is like $10,000 a night.
00:53:01
Speaker
That's like the most expensive hotel in your life. Get insurance, y'all. Yeah, it's hard out here. What's his name? Luigi. Yeah, we need some Angione this shit.
00:53:15
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Honestly, smile It's not that hard. like i think Oh, you're annoying. It's not that hard. like People that just have a frown on their face twenty four seven just enter a room with a smile. It makes the biggest difference in the world.
00:53:30
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For you and for others because then people see that you're welcoming and you're reassuring. And they're going to want to you know, and i feel like don't be storm. Don't be Eeyore where you're constantly bringing so storm clouds with you.
00:53:43
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Yeah, I agree with that. But like also, you know what? Like, come as you are. But like, if you're going to walk in miserable, be prepared to talk about it or I'll stay home.
00:53:54
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But no, even like, that's the thing, the talking about it thing. Like sometimes some people are just so doom and gloom or whiny or complaining, especially in work settings where it's like, we're all going through the same thing.
00:54:06
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We all know this is annoying. Can you at least bring some positivity into the space so that we all pretend we're not hating our lives, you know? I think, though, it's like when, okay, if you're going talk about something, I like when people are, like, solution-oriented.
00:54:21
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Yeah. They're not just, like, complaining. As I'm talking about something, like, I complain about Toronto a lot and where I want to live, but I'm, like, also plotting my escape, being like, I'm going to do this to, like, fix this issue that I'm currently talking about.
00:54:35
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Yeah. Hold yourself up by the bootstraps. Yeah. I'm a conservative girly. Help yourself. Yes. Be accountable for your own, like, life. And not yeah think that things are out of your control or that everyone else is at fault.
00:54:49
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Because it's really true. Like no one can help you unless you want the help. Yeah. And you have to ask, you literally have to just be like being vulnerable is literally just being like, you have to tell people what you need.
00:55:01
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Absolutely. Even if it's just like, it feels crazy. It's just like, you have to just do it. Cause also like, I feel like if you ever actually have a problem where you're like, i need I don't know. No one can ever really make fun of you if you're in a pickle and you're feeling a type of way. be I mean, if someone does make fun of you, you need to draw a smile your life. Yeah, that's on them.
Closing Remarks
00:55:20
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Yeah, but that's not normal. Yep, so this is Etiquette. You're welcome. How to behave. Yeah, be good in school, etc. ah This is the All of People podcast.
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00:55:44
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