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never say never, mom edition 💀
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Remember all those things you said you’d never do as a mom? Same. In this episode, we’re talking about all the little ways motherhood has surprised us. From falling in love with a vacuum mop, to embracing fall routines and school drop-offs, to getting way too emotional over tiny bikes and big feelings. We're also reading your best "never thought I would" moments. Turns out, a lot of the things we thought would never be us... totally are. And honestly, we kind of love it.
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Introduction to Park Bombs Podcast
00:00:00
Speaker
Hi, welcome to the Park Bombs podcast where you host Haley and Becca. This is the place where we laugh and chat about the chaotic bliss of raising young kids. So whether you're about to take a hot mom walk or start a little laundry, let's get to yapping. Let's get to it.
00:00:13
Speaker
We still need a little jingle. We need jingle. Something get it started.
Defining Success in Podcasting
00:00:16
Speaker
I didn't include it in the last podcast because we talked about it for like 20 minutes, but the context of the unsuccessful podcast, if you didn't see it on Instagram, is that we had someone comment and say like, why would you do this for an unsuccessful podcast? And it just is like humorous. It's like...
00:00:32
Speaker
Who cares? We're unsuccessful. No, but we decided we are successful. Yeah, we define success. So yeah if you missed that, that's where that came from. Also kind of a catchy name, the Unsuccessful Podcast.
00:00:43
Speaker
I think that when we're no longer park moms in 10 years. We still have a long time to go. i mean, I'm pregnant, so...
Emotional Parenting Moments
00:00:50
Speaker
We have a long time to Wait, no. mike Colson told me tonight when I laid him down for bed, he's like, don't worry, mom. You're going – okay.
00:00:56
Speaker
I'm going back up with some context. I read him the story tonight and started crying. I love you forever. do you know that book? The one with the mom. love you forever. yeah. Do you sing – is there that like a common tune? Does everyone know that tune?
00:01:09
Speaker
I, sounds familiar to me, but I don't know. Anyway, she rocks her baby to sleep and it like made me cry because I'm like, it talks about them like being two and then they're old and then she dies. And anyways. one where, is it the controversial one where um the little boy is sitting on the mom or. Yes. Yes. And everyone's like, that's so creepy.
00:01:26
Speaker
Have you heard that controversy? No, but that's actually one my life updates is exactly that topic. So I'm definitely going to go into that. um All that to say, at the end, Colson said, don't worry, mom, you'll be my mommy forever.
00:01:38
Speaker
So we're going to park moms forever. You know what I mean? We can be grandmas and be hot mom walking around the park. Going to the park. Play pickleball. That's what grandmas do now. Yeah, actually, that's true. ah The park mom to pickleball mom pipeline is very it's very clear.
00:01:53
Speaker
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Humor in Parenting and Stereotypes
00:01:54
Speaker
so clear. Okay, I actually posted a video about Colson biking, and he's gotten so good, and I'm absolutely so proud of him. And then the search bar was, Mom, who's too obsessed with her son. What?
00:02:06
Speaker
Wait, was this TikTok? TikTok. That is terrible. It had me rolling, but that's the context, right? Of like that book of like, yeah. Basically moms love their sons too Actually, I've never asked you this. Do you feel like you get that as a boy mom?
00:02:27
Speaker
I I understand the controversy, right? Like you don't want to be so obsessed with your son that you like make it hard for anyone else to love them. I think yeah it's almost daughter-in-laws saying this about moms. Totally. However – You don't want to be the crazy mother-in-law.
00:02:40
Speaker
You don't. And so like I have some guardrails in my mind to like not be that person eventually. the obsession is real. Like – And yeah you're just obsessed with your daughters. It's not like it's specific to sons. No, it's just different.
00:02:52
Speaker
It's different. It's not more. I remember I posted a video after Graham was born and I was like, something about him like healing me. And it was just because his It wasn't him, like him not, but it was, the birth was different.
00:03:05
Speaker
It was a lot better. Like just something in him. Like I really slowed down with him because I thought he was my last baby. And i got the most hate comments I've ever gotten about people just calling me a crazy boy mom. And what if my daughter saw this? And like, I was like, no, of course, like I don't love them the same. I love them equally, but not the same.
00:03:24
Speaker
Exactly. but it's different. And I think boy moms get such a bad rap. Do you feel like you're a crazy boy mom? No, but I think like Graham is my youngest. People will ask me
Challenges in Parenting and Child Treatment
00:03:34
Speaker
like, is he your favorite? I'm like, no, you can't have favorites.
00:03:37
Speaker
But like your youngest is just your youngest. Yeah. you know, and I really, I thought he was my baby. Spoiler alert, I'm pregnant. Just kidding. Everyone knows. But like I thought he was my baby. And so I feel like I did baby him maybe a little bit more than my first two.
00:03:51
Speaker
Yeah, i I understand that. Like almost last child energy. Yeah. i I see the... Which is problematic too. I see the pipeline of becoming a crazy mom because I can see how obsessed you are with your kid and like no one's good enough for them. But then suddenly do you just like turn it off? Like you're so obsessed with them you're supposed to be obsessed with them. Not obsessed but like they're your world.
00:04:11
Speaker
And then one day do you just, does that just turn off? Yeah, I guess that's a good point. I think I was actually talking to my husband about the Sam. I do think it's good to be able to see like all of the greatness in your kid as well as have like, what's the right word? Like a reasonable, not no their flies, but like a reasonable, like your kid isn't perfect. And like, yeah I think if you're kind of giving them It's like a bad fault for them if you're constantly being like, nothing's ever your fault. Totally.
00:04:41
Speaker
I think like thinking, oh, my kid is never the one who's like instigating everything or like... No, I think that actually creates like the worst adults. You kind have to just be self-aware. Yes. But like you have to be self-aware for your kids and because a five-year-old isn't
Positive Parenting Techniques
00:04:53
Speaker
really self-aware. Yeah. And you teach them. You help them learn life lessons. Yeah. And like you're just like...
00:04:58
Speaker
I hope that I'm that as well, but I do think the obsession is real. We're getting really deep really fast on the podcast today. Wow, we just jumped right into it. I don't think it's bad to be obsessed with your kids. No, I don't think it is either.
00:05:11
Speaker
But I think that's so true what you said. Like, be obsessed with them. Obviously, like, they're your kids. Yes. But also being able to, like, be self-aware for them. So what would you call that? Because you're not being self-aware. You're being just, like, aware that, like, your kid isn't perfect and they make mistakes. And it's your job to help them learn to – Like do their best when it comes to making mistakes. Yeah. And like talk through situations and I don't know. Okay. So I think last time we talked about how like our rope has been very short.
00:05:39
Speaker
So I actually was like, you know, I'm a solutioner. I'm like, okay, how am I going to solve this? I need to like be a better mom. Ultimately was my problem. So I got this app. It's called Good Inside.
00:05:50
Speaker
yeah I've talked about her before. Becky is her name. Dr. Becky is something. And like, it's like little prompts every day. And it tells me little things like help me see the good in my kids. Download this right now.
00:06:02
Speaker
Download it it. It was a little pricey. I'm not going to lie. So I can just send you the prompts if you want. Every day. Or like, you get a lot even just following her on Instagram or TikTok. Okay, I need to do that. But here, I'll give you a little snippet of what she basically is saying.
00:06:15
Speaker
There's like a whole mantra that you're saying, but a lot of it is like, I have a good kid going through a hard time. Instead of saying, i have a bad kid. Yeah. And so I think it's just like, that's like the whole circle moment is that like you're understanding where they're coming from. You understand that they have big feelings and you help them work through those feelings rather than thinking
Validating Children's Emotions
00:06:34
Speaker
they're like a bad kid. yeah Or even saying, I have a hard kid. Like yeah maybe there, I remember seeing that quote when I was having ah hard time with one of my kids. I remember I saw it somewhere that said, they're not a hard kid.
00:06:45
Speaker
They're just going through a hard time. And it completely switched my perspective. Like I had a newborn, i was stressed and like they were just reacting that. and I remember I kept telling everyone like, yeah, they're my hard kid. They're my hard kid. I kept labeling them as my hard kid. And then I really stopped saying that because I was like, do you know what?
00:07:02
Speaker
They're not my hard kid. They just need different things from me, which might be hard for me or might feel hard for for this like season of life. That doesn't make them a hard kid. Yeah. And I think like labeling of that, like even reinforces it in your mind too. Totally. And reinforces it for them. Yeah, exactly. and Not that I would tell them that they're a hard kid, but I would tell other people like, yeah, she's my hard one.
00:07:21
Speaker
Yeah. And well, and like the book or the prompts were basically telling you like a lot of it's not verbal. Like the way you treat your kids can be just like how you treat them, necessarily what you're saying. And anyways, and then the other thing that's been helpful, she says is like, try to like look at their behavior as a window. So how they're acting maybe is like insight into how they're feeling about something.
00:07:44
Speaker
And so like try to think and get curious and be like, okay, like what would make them maybe feel this way? Like, are we they going through a big change? Like yeah are other things happening and then like label the feelings and say like, okay, I can tell your, which it sounds so cheesy to say this. Like I can tell you're frustrated right now.
00:08:02
Speaker
Like, you don't want to say that in the moment, but it does help. Like, I've noticed when I say, like, okay, I can tell you're feeling really frustrated right now. Yeah. Do you actually say that out loud? Are you saying it? Okay. Like, you're labeling their emotions. Yeah.
00:08:13
Speaker
And yeah I think it gives them validation of, like, okay. They see me. They see me. Like, yeah. Yeah. Or I can tell you're really mad. Or let's say, okay, here's – I'll play out a scenario for you. I'm really getting deep here.
00:08:25
Speaker
So let's say a toy gets stolen from them. I can see why you're so mad that that would happen to you. However, like, we cannot hit. Right? And so, like, you're saying first, like, I get why you're mad. I'd be mad too. Yeah.
00:08:38
Speaker
And I think that just helps them feel more comfortable in their feelings. Yeah. Like, validating but saying – I saw something last night and I'm going to like really mess it up. But it was basically saying the same thing. Like you can have those feelings. Yeah.
00:08:50
Speaker
But you can't react that way or you can't act that way. Which like, yeah, validating their feelings so that they just don't feel frustrated and unseen. And holding the boundary on like the behavior. Yes. Yes.
00:09:02
Speaker
Exactly. So anyways, it's been helpful. I think it's just changed my perspective and I think even – trying to like maybe get where they're coming from versus only seeing my perspective has been like helpful yeah no that's really smart i should have been doing that today
Empathy in Motherhood
00:09:16
Speaker
there was a point where i was just like shut up she actually says for moms that you need to like be saying that to yourself too like saying what i'm not a bad mom i'm going through a hard time like i think it's like just as much of your own like no yeah i'm like i need to step away from this like i need a moment
00:09:33
Speaker
And like showcasing that shows your kids how to do it And say that to your spouse too. Yeah. Be like, I need a moment. Exactly. When I say that, my husband's like, a hundred percent. He's like, please go upstairs.
00:09:44
Speaker
Okay.
Back-to-School Transitions
00:09:45
Speaker
How are you doing? Speaking of changes though, yeah we've gotten, we've gone back to school. have to say something about back to school. What do you think? Everyone was so sad to send their kids to school. So we're there in the morning yeah and we're dropping off our kindergartners. Why does that sound so weird? Yeah, kindergartners.
00:10:03
Speaker
Kindergarteners? Yeah. For the first time full day and everyone's really emotional. Like they're really sad and I the only one not crying. I'm just like... stoked and it it was either my prozac for my lack of like emotion but i i don't know maybe because i felt like elsie was so ready to go and she was so excited and didn't have a hard time at all but i did not have a hard time with it am i heartless no you're not heartless i didn't i didn't cry either but you felt sad i think i just felt sad more because of like
00:10:35
Speaker
It's like symbolic of change. Yeah. And I think – and I'm like, wow, they've grown up so fast. That's where I felt sad. See, I didn't even feel that. I was like, she's ready. Maybe it's your pregnancy. It could be my pregnancy. This summer, being so sick, which I'm 20 weeks today. Yeah.
00:10:50
Speaker
Which is crazy. I have my anatomy scan tomorrow, so I'm not going to sleep tonight. You know how it is before your anatomy scan. Like you're so excited, but also like can we talk about how nerve-wracking it is? Like I feel like no one told me that with my first that the anatomy scan is kind of nerve-wracking. Yeah, it's a lot of anticipation. A lot of anticipation and like usually everything's fine, but if something's not that's when you find out.
00:11:13
Speaker
Yes. Anyways, but being home this summer so sick with three little kids that needed constant entertainment, I think I was also just so ready for them to be in school. Yeah. That like the first day came and i was like, we are ready. We are ready. The structure has been nice. She's been thriving. Yeah.
00:11:27
Speaker
She loves it. Yeah. So I pick up her from school, Haley's daughter, Elsie. And like, I love just hearing them chit chat. They're so funny. I know, they're funny. I didn't tell you this the other day. She's like driving the car. She I love life.
00:11:41
Speaker
She is going to be a theater kid. She, which is like so opposite of my husband and I, but she will be a theater kid. She loves that shit. No, but today, Coulson was getting out of the car when I dropped him off after.
00:11:52
Speaker
Elsie's like, bye, Coulson. Love you. And he's like, love you. Head down. was like, love you, bye. was like kind of embarrassed. That is so funny. Which I feel like they've said love you to each other ever since they were like little. Good talk. Because they've known each other since they were babies.
00:12:08
Speaker
But it was just funny because the first time today you could tell was like kind of embarrassed. Yeah. like, love you. And Elsie was like, she's like, bye, Colson, love And he's like, love you. It was really funny. yeah You're being too cool.
00:12:19
Speaker
And then two-year-old grandma was like, bye, Colson, love you. So he was love-bombed by my family today. That's sweet. I actually love the bond. like got It makes me so happy that our kids are friends.
00:12:30
Speaker
Something else funny about Elsie is she's very good at expressing how she feels. Like, she told me. you could say that again. She's like, I am extremely stressed out about that. And I'm like, how does she even know that word? She's stressed.
00:12:43
Speaker
How do you think she does? How do you think she does? She's like, sometimes, when Colson was telling a story, sometimes... My mom tells me this. You're not telling the truth. And that's what Coulson's doing right now.
00:12:54
Speaker
Like, oh, like I was saying to Elsie that she doesn't tell the truth. Yeah, she said it in a better, more articulate way, though. I'm just like so surprised. She is very articulate. She's so articulate. I'm like, wait, like, how do you know all these adult words? If it comes back to me, I'll tell you exact verbiage. The other day we walked into someone's house and she was like, oh, I love your coffee table.
00:13:10
Speaker
And I was like... I was like, I don't know if I'm ashamed or proud. I don't know. But it's really cute. and She does home decor. I'm proud of I feel like i'm she's just a little woman. She's not just a little baby anymore. Well, and Coulson today was like, Hailey, is it okay if I eat in your car? i was like, what five-year-old boy is like asking permission? like How sweet was that? I was like, look around, bro. there's There's McDonald's french fries on the ground. like I promise you can't do any more damage.
00:13:38
Speaker
I love seeing insight into our kids. Okay. Don't you kind of wish we had like little cameras at school? Yes. A hundred percent. Because you don't really know what they're like. You ask them about their days. And actually this is something that I did that is a good tip.
00:13:49
Speaker
Cause on, after her first date, my first, like Elsie is very expressive, at the same time she's not like, I'll try to ask her details and she'll be Oh, I don't want to talk about it. i'm sure Colson does that too. Sometimes to me, and so especially he'll do it more if like Elsie's in the car. Totally. Like, and I've noticed that too. Elsie will talk to me more when Colson's in the car yeah and vice versa. Yeah.
00:14:06
Speaker
But um I asked chat to just like give me a list of questions to ask her after her first day of school. So I did that every day for the first week. And I feel like it was – there was really good questions on there that I wouldn't have thought of. like What were some? Very specific questions. I'll have to like maybe post the list or something. Yes.
00:14:22
Speaker
But it was just like did anyone have a – I don't know. just more specific. Like did you learn something new about one of your friends? Like did you guys do this? Did you – like was something – Did you, were you surprised at something that you were able to do today? Like they were just specific, not just like, how was school? Yes. i know So those have been good. I've been trying to do more specific questions. Because I'll just be like, good.
00:14:45
Speaker
Which is so funny because I sent Blair for the first time to school yesterday. Yes, yesterday. Why is that for like preschool two years ago? The last couple days have been like a lifetime.
00:14:57
Speaker
But she gets in the car and I was like, how was school? And she's like, I drew two pictures. One of them I left at home and one of them is in my bag. And I'm going to draw another picture tomorrow. And then we read a book about a blue monster. And then we had this. Like literally, she i told me the whole itinerary of her day. Like there was actually nothing else for me to ask because it felt like I was there.
00:15:16
Speaker
Wait, that's so cute. So she's so opposite. Like Elsie's like, it was good. I'm tired. Blair's like, and then she used a blue marker. And then I'm like, oh my gosh. She's gonna be thriving. Yeah, she loves it. It's really good for them. Is this first year of doing school? Yeah, she's never done it. Well, okay. She thought that the gym daycare was school because I told her that it was. Yep. There you go.
00:15:37
Speaker
So because we would drop off Elsie and then we go to the gym and drop off Blair. And I'm like, this is your school because obviously she wanted to go to school. They activities. They do activities for 45 minutes. So in her mind, she has been to school before, which actually think it was less scary for her because she was like, I'm used to going to the gym daycare.
00:15:53
Speaker
i do think they're just so ready at like four too. Yeah, she's ready. She's for sure ready. I love it. Oh, that's sweet. know But how has back to school been for you? Getting back into a routine? I've liked I feel like...
00:16:04
Speaker
It's sad because it's end of summer, but I also have, like, kind of, like, already embraced, like, the structure of, like, fall and school season. Like, I feel like my house is cleaner. I feel like I have more, like, quiet moments. Like, I just feel the, like, need to cozy up.
00:16:17
Speaker
Also, fall is the best time in Utah. It really is. Like, the leaves are already changing on the mountains, and it's, like, getting a little chilly at night. You can open the windows. I've been drinking hot coffee in the morning. Yes. Like, there's just something about fall.
00:16:30
Speaker
You can hang out outside um Speaking i like, my house being a little cleaner, though, we've brought this up on the podcast before, but I have
Robot Vacuum Revelations
00:16:37
Speaker
to tell you. oh i think the best thing that's happened to me this year is the robot vacuum. telling you.
00:16:44
Speaker
I am not It really is the best. It is the best. It is so satisfying and it feels like I'm being productive, but I'm literally clicking a button and then it's like clean. it It feels like it's cleaning more than just my house.
00:16:56
Speaker
Yes. Because I turn it on and I'm like, i Camden keeps joking that, well, we I told you we named ours Vac Efron. Have you given yours a name yet? Robocop. Oh, cute.
00:17:07
Speaker
I also call him Sharky though. Oh, because you got the nice one. So I will say you got the nicer one that like self-empties, maps out your house a little better. Mine has like a little bit of dementia. Like it runs into the walls and everything.
00:17:19
Speaker
But you know, it gets the job done. yeah It's fine. And it's crazy the amount of dirt that it gets. I can't believe it. i can't believe it. It's so satisfying. That was in my house. That was in my house. I swear we're going like breathe easier now.
00:17:31
Speaker
I can feel it in here. Like it just feels clean. If you're a mom. Yes. You need a, if you're a parent, you need one. I completely, I think it is so worth the investment. The mental clarity is given me. Yes.
00:17:44
Speaker
And like now I have my little routine every night. I lift up all the chairs, put everything away. So because nothing can be on the floor because the robot vacuum will get it. Everything's put away. And then I wake up in the morning, spotless floors. Honestly, it's the best thing ever. It's satisfying. like run mine maybe five times a day. It's like kind of excessive. Or I'll like be out and about and I'll be like, I want the floors to be clean when I get home. Yes.
00:18:03
Speaker
Turn it on from the app. Yes. Finish eating crumbs the floor. Is yours on schedule? I actually just do it on my own time because I was doing the schedule and like I kind of am like, there's times I want it, there's times I don't. In general, after the kids go to bed, it does the full deep clean and mop and then throughout the day I'll just it.
Intentional Consumption
00:18:19
Speaker
no nothing Okay, I feel like it's really hard for me to be a quote-unquote person content creator influencer, which I've kind of like gone into the past six months because I do feel like we're just constantly buying things.
00:18:30
Speaker
Yeah. All the time. Don't you feel like that's like just what we're doing? Yeah. And I think like when I saw that, it made me think of, I went to Hobby Lobby the other day. I'm like, okay, I want to get some more fall things.
00:18:42
Speaker
And I saw this ginormous diesel unpacking all this stuff to go in there And it's just like boxes and boxes of just stuff, junk. And I'm like, why are we buying this?
00:18:52
Speaker
I know. It's just overpriced junk. No, it's true. And I was like thinking, I'm like, it's so fun to shop. It's so fun to buy things. And then I'm like, but the dopamine rush goes away so fast. It goes away so fast. I'm like, we we really do have this culture of like overconsumption. And I'm like, I don't have an answer or a solution, but I just, it was kind of like a feeling of like, when you feel like you need to buy all this stuff, you really don't.
00:19:12
Speaker
No, you don't. No. And sometimes it feels icky to buy it, but also like I totally get... the allure of like buying new stuff for a new season or like yeah getting new clothes for a new season or of like going and getting that decoration from Hobby Lobby is going to make your mom life feel better that week, then I totally get that.
00:19:30
Speaker
But also i think the more that you shop, the quicker that dopamine rush goes away. Yeah. And I think i mean maybe the solution is like, Just buy things you really love. Don't buy just to buy. Like, I think there's sometimes this need of like, oh, I need x Y, Z for whatever. But like, I think like when you really um are excited about something and love it and you're like, okay, this is like something I know I'm gonna love forever.
00:19:54
Speaker
That's the stuff worth buying. Yeah. And be more intentional about your purchases and not just spend money. Buy everything. But I will say fall season is fun. Like I'm already like Uggs, slippers. Oh, I know. I have three pairs of Uggs though. That's the thing. I don't need to buy another pair this year. But then they come out with a new style and I'm like, it's a new year. It's new way to do it. I just think that there's a balance. Yeah. Did you see the new slip-on Birkenstocks?
00:20:13
Speaker
Yes, they're so cute. They're I'm like, maybe I could get away with a dupe for those because I already have the other slip-on Birkenstocks. You know, there's a good time for a dupe. Great time dupe. There's always for dupe. will say.
00:20:24
Speaker
One good fall purchase of the dupe. You've gotten it too. Uggs. The dupe Uggs off Amazon for kids. Because they're going to trash them anyways. And, like, they, my kids wear their Uggs. No. That aren't actually Uggs all winter long. I feel like there's certain kids name brand shoes that are worth it. But for the most part, they're going to wreck them. Yeah. Anyways.
00:20:43
Speaker
And they're going to grow out of them. Yeah. Except I did buy the, um. faux crocs this year and by the end of summer they were literally hanging on by a string like the flap was like not connected anymore graham was like he didn't have an insert in one of them like it was it was looking rough there at the end so those but those things went straight in the trash did you get them from target no i got them from amazon we did the target ones this year and honestly they worked fine but i think they're not as cool as the regular crocs but it's fine did you see that i showed up tonight wearing my platform crocs No, I haven't seen them, but I know those are In my boating shoes. Really?
00:21:14
Speaker
Well, I was just slipping something on to drive over here. Yeah. And i was like, well, perfect time for the platform Crocs. I love it. Okay, should we get into the subject of our episode?
Parenting Realizations and Attitude Shifts
00:21:24
Speaker
Yes. Okay, so I think, like, in general, we want this podcast has to be, like...
00:21:30
Speaker
mostly lighthearted and humorous. And so I was thinking of a topic and I was like, okay, what would be funny is to share like what we said we would never do as moms that we do now.
00:21:40
Speaker
Because I remember um like seeing like my nieces and nephews and being like, oh my gosh, I am never gonna have- 100%. My three things I specifically remember is like, I'll never let my kids have boogers on their nose.
00:21:52
Speaker
Yeah. but Do I say that right, boogers? Yeah, yeah. Okay, or like runny noses, because it's disgusting. Another thing is I will never let them wear like ugly, weird, like action figure clothes.
00:22:03
Speaker
And the last thing is I'm never going to like let them be like super dirty in their clothes. My kids are all three all the time. So. No, but your kids dress cute. I feel like they don't wear a lot of action figure stuff. Yeah. I will say that you always dress kids. the three, that's probably the least boogers all the time, especially Jack. He hates getting his nose wiped, and I'm just like, it's the fight. It's so hard, and then you wipe it a ton, and then they, like, I've wiped it so much, especially with my first, that, like, she would, like, bleep.
00:22:26
Speaker
I'm like, okay, what's better, like a bloody nose or, like, yeah a little bit of a runny nose? And like, you just can't always stop them from like jumping in puddles, getting dirty. Like it just is what it is. showed up to Walmart today and there was a big puddle and Graham went and jumped in it, mud all over me, all over him. And I was like, he's like, I jumped in mud, mom.
00:22:42
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I was like, oh my gosh. You're like, you could get mad or you could just be like, whatever. It's life. it was happy for him. Yeah. um Okay. I need to think of a few of mine, but while I'm thinking, I know I definitely have some.
00:22:53
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I think actually off the top of my head, my biggest one is that I said I would never stay up late. Yeah. um After my kids went to bed so that I'd be so tired the next morning. Like you wouldn't stay up too late? Yeah. Like wouldn't stay up too late after the kids went to sleep because I had like a few people in my life, specifically my aunt, who would stay up so late and then she would be wrecked the next morning. and Yeah.
00:23:13
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it makes the morning so hard. And so I always was like, I don't want to do that. Some nights you're at a girl's night and you're up till 1am. Yeah. And you know what? It's worth it. I will say like you pay for it the next day. You do. That is something I do.
00:23:24
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Yeah. And I also think like you always are telling yourself, I'll be in bed by 10, but then it's just like you're scrolling or your show's good. And you're like, yeah fine, I'll stay up till 11. Yeah, my biggest one, and I think someone probably put it in too, was letting my girls wear princess dresses out of the house.
00:23:37
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And I've gotten better at this. At first, I was the mom I said I was going to be, and it was more like an OCD thing that was actually just like inhibiting my happiness as a mom um because I was so hyper-focused on like all these rules and concepts that I had created in my mind and parameters of what I thought being a good mom was. But I realized I wasn't being good mom because I was letting those things stress me out. I'm getting real deep.
00:23:58
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But it stressing me out to the point where like, It was more beneficial to let them wear the princess dress out than for me to try to control every little thing. Yeah, and it probably wasn't worth the argument too, because you do have to fight them. You have to choose your battles. You have choose your battles, 100%. Choose your battles. Okay. I'll read the first one.
00:24:15
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um Yell at my kids, but I always say sorry, which is something my mom never did. We all yelled our kids, right? Yeah. I think we talked about this one episode, but it was like good moms it was like good moms sometimes yell and good moms always repair. Yeah. And I think like try to make it right. You know what I mean? I think that's like what she said. Like maybe we grew up in a generation where there wasn't that repair and like the repair is the most important part. Like we're all going our limits. Well, and I think it shows your kids too. Like when they lose their cool, like...
00:24:39
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We get that, but then also apologize. Yep. Like to their friends or siblings or people around them. Yep. Okay, do you want to read the next one? Okay. Eat candy or junk food. Ha ha ha. It's Choose your battles. Choose your battles. We tried for a while not doing any red dye, not doing any like added sugar, at any of that stuff. Like we even bought dye-free otter pops.
00:24:59
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Are you guys still doing that? No, we're not doing that because... I didn't want my kids to be so obsessed with... I mean, we don't buy it all the time, but I don't like putting parameters around food.
00:25:09
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Yeah. Like, I actually realized that that was just, like, causing more stress for them because they would start to ask, like, about everything. And so it wasn't worth it. Like, we try to eat healthy. We've talked about this on the pod, but, like, try to eat healthy and have healthy options when you can. But also, like...
00:25:24
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let them eat the birthday cake or like let them pick out a sucker at Home Depot or like let them have fruit snacks when you're in the car. Like, yeah, there's just, yeah, you really just have to choose your battles with that one. And I do think there's also like a time and a place, right? Like when you have the mental energy to do everything homemade, you have them and like the, like even the financial um freedom to like buy the expensive of organic, like,
00:25:48
Speaker
Sometimes you can do that. And like sometimes you have that space and sometimes you don't. And like then you're going through McDonald's drive-thru and it's fine. Totally. I always joke that I'm the kind of mom where like my kids are eating dino nuggets on the stainless steel plates. They're not getting the microplastics, but they're also not eating real chicken. And that's just like the kind of mom I am.
00:26:04
Speaker
And I'm doing my best. Isn't that scrunchie or something? Yeah, scrunchie mom. Giving my kid my phone to watch something to make them shut up at a restaurant. we like We've all done this. I think...
00:26:15
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My, like, what I try to do is go into it and not give them the phone or the iPad right away and see how long they last, like try to prolong it. Because i think if you give them the benefit of the doubt, sometimes they'll do great. Yep. But sometimes you're at a dinner and you have the only kids in the family or like you actually want to enjoy a meal or youre like you're spending a little bit more money so you want to actually enjoy your food.
00:26:37
Speaker
So like give them the freaking YouTube and like let them watch it for a minute. Exactly. It's fine. Yeah, it's like such a short period of time. yeah Sometimes you need to How often do you go out? We don't go out a lot. So I feel like if we're going to go out with like one of our families, I'm going to enjoy that meal.
00:26:52
Speaker
Exactly. i completely agree. Okay, let my daughter go to school without her hair done. She's nine and we're luckily she still at least brushes it. I wish I could do this. I wish I could do this because this my biggest fight every morning. And we're all almost in tears every single morning because I have to get two girls' hair done. Yes. And I don't know what my girls do in their sleep, but they wake up and their hair is literally, they have like very fine hair, but they will have a rat's nest. Yes. Literally up to here of just Frizz.
00:27:19
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Frizz. And so actually hack. I've been doing this with our early mornings. Okay. um I'll wash it at night and then I'll put it in like a loose braid so that in the morning it's way easier to brush out and it literally has made it half the time.
00:27:32
Speaker
But also there are some times, especially the summer when we weren't like we're going to the gym or something, just like throw their hair in a messy bun. Yeah, they're fine. They're fine. I will say being a boy mom and it's kind of nice. My kids both have long hair. So i still have to like spray them and style them. Yeah. But I'm like, it's not like the full on hairdo.
00:27:50
Speaker
I feel like that would be a lot. And they even complain about brushing just their hair. And then I do their hair. So like this morning I took the time I did their hair. So cute. They both took it out and then they just look like absolute feral children because there's like crimps.
00:28:03
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in their hair have you always like been a hair person like do you know how to do girls hair easily like no I feel like that would not be a talent no no it's definitely I thought that is something that I thought I thought I would do the cute hairstyles every single day my sister's really good at this I thought I would do the bows and the cute hairstyles and like all the things who has time for that who has time and also like it was fun for maybe the first like few months yeah of me being a mom after that I'm like I'm tired bro yeah Like throw it in a ponytail. Yeah.
00:28:32
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I do love the cute hairstyles though. Like the TikToks of them, even though I have girls, I'm like, they're so cute. No, they are cute, but they take a long ass time and your kids are moving their heads and you're getting so frustrated with them. feel like they always watch a show on TikTok. Like they let their kid watch a show. I think i should do that.
00:28:47
Speaker
But then I feel like it's so hard to give them a show in the morning and then try to get them out the door for school. yeah they're like brainwashed at that point. Honestly, that's why we buzzed Graham's head because I was like, I can't do three little humans' hairs. No, too much. In the morning. Okay, I'll read the next one.
00:29:01
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Sugar before they turn one years old. Did you know this was a thing? No. didn't know. Tell me the backstory about this because I feel like I've heard. I probably know just as much as you as like you're really not supposed to give them sugar until they're one.
00:29:12
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And like they're never what supposed to watch a show until like three, right? Okay. That one we're definitely not doing that one. No, I'm sorry. But have heard that. Like what kind of sugar? Like baked goods? I've even had friends not make a birthday cake with sugar because you're they're not supposed to have it.
00:29:29
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Really? Yeah. So if you know more about this, please like comment. I want to know because actually so curious. But I guess like, I guess the point is that like if you don't have to give them sugar, like you're kind of choosing what they eat. So I guess you could just not give them that option. It's true. But also I have the first grandchild on both sides.
00:29:50
Speaker
So they're getting it from the grandparents. If I wasn't giving it, I remember Elsie was probably like three months old and my brother was feeding her a Cheeto. a Cheeto and then like someone else was feeding her gushers or something. And I was like, okay, like, and you can be the sister that's like, stop doing that. But after, I mean, I'm having my fourth. Now I'm like, just make sure they don't choke.
00:30:10
Speaker
Isn't that actually kind of funny that like you can definitely be the mom with all the rules, but like you can't really stop family from doing whatever. No, no. And so like, yeah, anyways. Okay. The next one is drive down the street to church with them not buckled into their car seats.
00:30:24
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We do this for the pool. Oh my goodness. I know. i You're farther away the pool than I am. I'm pretty strict on it, but... The thing is, this one bites you. It's anxiety. and This one bites you in the butt because you don't... So Graham will not do car seats because it's literally just like down one little street to the pool.
00:30:45
Speaker
No one calls CPS on me. But then he doesn't understand the difference. Exactly. then we're getting in the car to go somewhere and he's mommy, I drive, I drive, I drive. And I'm like, no, you can't drive, buddy. And like he doesn't get that concept. So we actually halfway through the summer switched it because I couldn't deal with the like – It is a lot to always buckle the kids. I think, okay, there's two things. i think there's a reason why I'm so strict. One, I think my dad being a firefighter, like we had to wear seatbelts all the the time. yeah Like we were drilled on seatbelts.
00:31:13
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And then the second thing is like, I randomly know this quote in my hand, my mind, I mean, in my hand. don't know said that. You know quote in my hand? Yeah, this quote in my hand. ah It's something like most accidents happen within like a mile of your house. know, I've heard that. I don't know if that's actually true, but that rings I don't know that's true or if it's fear-mongering of just like – Sometimes I'll let Colson ah go to the mailbox and not buckled, which is like literally – That's like literally two doors down.
00:31:40
Speaker
I'm strict on seatbelts though. That's good. I think it's a good thing to be strict on. um But no judgment. Yeah, no judgment. Okay. Do you want read the next two? um Yes. Okay. Let my boys wear Crocs. They love them though.
00:31:53
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Crocs are the best kids summer shoe. They really are. Minus that they're sweaty. They get so sweaty and gross, but you can put them in the washing machine. True. And like they're so easy for kids to put on. Yeah. I'm a Crocs mom now. They're like cute ugly.
00:32:05
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They're cute ugly. I think there's a lot of things that I wouldn't have probably done from like a style perspective that I definitely do now. Yeah. 100%. Okay. Screen time, LOL. Screen time, we've talked about this, is a tool.
00:32:18
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It's a tool. It's a tool. Yeah. And sometimes you need to use the tool more than other times. Yeah. Sometimes you're in survival mode and like, I don't know. I don't know all the philosophies on screen time, but I do think there's one, there's sometimes better options than others.
00:32:31
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And two, like... yeah you need it sometimes I do I just think it's impossible for your kids to never watch a show yeah okay let oh this is the one you said let my daughter wear princess dresses every day of her life during the age of three yeah like what that when finally switched my mind on that like what harm is this causing
Choosing Parenting Battles
00:32:52
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No, fine. going want to wear a princess dress forever. Yeah. No one's looking at sweet little two or three-year-old going, my gosh, I can't believe she's in a princess dress. And if they are, says more about them than it does about my two-year-old.
00:33:04
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Yeah. And kids are obsessed with costumes. They love make-believe. Yeah. Walker has one costume he'd literally begged to wear all day long. That was like his privilege to put a costume on. There's worse things. Yeah. There's worse things. And it's just not worth the fight.
00:33:16
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Oh, that's funny. This is like the same one. Wear character shirts with mermaids and unicorns. Bribe with candy. Shop secondhand. Shop secondhand a good one. That's actually like a Yeah. i have I didn't think I would shop secondhand for myself or my kids, but now I love it.
00:33:31
Speaker
It's so smart. Like, I do think if you have the time and bandwidth, like you should because there's actually more quality stuff secondhand, think. Yeah. I feel like there is. Like OG Levi's. Like my sister got my – Cute overalls.
00:33:43
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One of my – I guess it was probably for Kohl's. Yeah, was for Kohl's. Like the cool Levi jacket. It's so cool. And I passed it down. they thrift him overalls too. Yes. Yeah. They always thrift him cute stuff.
00:33:54
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Okay. LOL, everything. Everything. Honestly, like eating our words. I don't know like what's more relatable than that. There's like all these things you think you're going to do. Yeah.
00:34:06
Speaker
And you just don't. like Yes. I think that's of the cool part about like being a mom is like you evolve over time. Totally. Totally. Okay, character clothes, Crocs. Wow, these are popular ones. Tablets for peace and quiet, bribing with candy. Okay, we haven't talked bribing with candy. what do you think about that?
00:34:21
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I did it today. I'm a big briber with candy. I'm also like, I wanted to make a TikTok about this. And I was going to say, like, my kids will be a dessert after dinner. Oh, yeah. People, because we are a dessert after dinner family. My kids call it zert.
00:34:34
Speaker
Zert. Zert. Can we have dessert? Yeah, don't say the D. Can we have dessert? it's like a zert. Yeah. So today, today they were like, they're always like, what's our dessert? And I'm like, you don't always get a dessert. but then in my head, I'm like, I guess I always have a sweet treat at night. Like, like but it's routine now. My kids expect it.
00:34:52
Speaker
Yeah. What do you, what's your like go-to desserts after dinner? Just like a piece of meat? Whatever. Whatever we have. Yeah. Like we always have like chocolate in the house, even like chocolate chips. We have cookies. Oh. Sometimes we have ice cream. Sometimes we have popsicles.
00:35:03
Speaker
What else do we have? But I don't think that's a bad thing. Like obviously everything in moderation, but also we all had the friend who wasn't allowed to have sugar and then they would go to the birthday party and they would just go ham. And that's called binge eating.
00:35:17
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And we don't want our kids to be binge eaters. Do you make your kids um eat dinner before they can have dessert? Yes, but I've heard that you're not supposed to do that. Same, but I still do it.
00:35:29
Speaker
But I'm like, I also want them to get full on real food and not just get full on treat. Why they not to do that? Because it like shows good food and bad food. Yeah. think that's it. I like totally love the concept of like there's no good food and but there's no bad food. Like yeah food is just like either healthier or not healthier.
00:35:44
Speaker
But it's so hard for me as a mom. To, like, remember that in the moment and be like, that's not good for you. One, it's not like you're going to be like, you can have as many, like, Reese's as you want and then, like, no chicken.
00:35:56
Speaker
But I also, like, I'll be like, no, that's not really good for you. And I'm like, wait, shoot. I just said that. It wasn't good food. Maybe if you, like, teach about, like... Okay, I have no idea if this is correct. I'm just but thinking aloud.
00:36:08
Speaker
What if you, like, teach about, like, what the food, like, does for you? Does for your body. Because would tell kids about protein and stuff and be it gives you a lot of good energy. Yeah, Camden's really good at that. He'll be like, this has, don't know.
00:36:20
Speaker
He makes some protein shakes all the time. This 90 calories in it. So it means that you can go this far. Yeah, seriously. We're just trying to reverse all of the damage that happened to us when it came to food.
00:36:31
Speaker
Yeah. I feel like I don't know. I feel like maybe I'm not the perfect person at that, but I i would imagine like what you – like you set the example, right? Like how you think about it is probably going to be how they think about it. Yeah. Okay. Was that all of them? Because I have a question that we can finish off with or do more. No, there's still more. oh let's keep going. Ask your question.
00:36:47
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I was going to say, what do you
Generational Parenting Differences
00:36:49
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think? So obviously – Like, but our generation jokes about having almond moms as moms. Okay. Diet culture. as I was thinking this. are what do you think our almond mom is going to be? Like, we are as moms. Oh, okay.
00:37:04
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um Like, what's going to be our kids, like, joking, teasing us about that, like, maybe is, like, an issue we all have? Caffeine moms? Like, no. No. I feel like, honestly, these are probably too deep. One that comes to my mind is, like, we change our minds a lot. Like, I think, like, there's a lot of, like, and what we think is good and then what is bad. Like, I think it's just constantly changing because of, like, social media and, like, what's out there. Yeah, and the information we're constantly getting fed. Maybe we're just, like, mixed signals. And then I think, like, this is going to sound pretty bad, but I do feel like I do think like the generation is kind of getting tired. And so I think like I hope we keep the like intentional parenting because I think it's gonna be easy to not. Like just instead of being almond moms, we're just like burnt out. Burnt out moms. I really think that like that's – It feels like people that way. that to be our kids' trauma is that we're just like burnt out all the time or stressed out all the time?
00:37:50
Speaker
i think so. But I feel like our moms and parents are probably stressed too. Yeah. I didn't feel that. was like – I don't like look back at my childhood and think, oh, my mom is stressed all the time. Do you? Sometimes. Sometimes.
00:38:01
Speaker
Sometimes, but I love her for it because I feel like she did a really good job of like, I knew what motherhood was, I knew what was coming for me. Yeah. Because my mom was very good about like being honest about like the hard parts too. And she was, honestly, I remember as a kid, like she did a good job of showing like, I'm having a hard day too. Yeah, that's good. And that's probably a positive thing.
00:38:22
Speaker
Like, probably not when I was, like, two. But, like, I feel like I had a good idea of what motherhood would be like. I don't feel like I was shocked. Yeah. does that makes sense. Whereas I feel like I have a lot of friends that were like, I had no idea this was so hard. Yeah. And I do think, like, maybe that's, like, the change of generation, right? Is that, like, maybe they protected their feelings from us and, like, maybe we'll just be showing them all of our feelings. Showing too many feelings.
00:38:42
Speaker
I think that we're going to be... Pinterest moms. Really? think that's going our kids' trauma is that we wanted everything to look a certain way and we had to take pictures of everything. Absolutely. Like we were Instagram, Pinterest moms. But like I think we're kind of moving away from that, don't you think? Yes and no.
00:39:00
Speaker
Like the beige mom is out for sure. The beige mom is out, but like we're all still a little beige. Yeah. And I think like we still want to look a certain way. And so did our parents. Yeah, it's true. They just didn't have Instagram.
00:39:13
Speaker
We're just going to be the Instagram moms. I think that's what it's going to be. Like, the Instagram, Pinterest moms, and that, like, I don't think we're going any more over the top with, like, parties or anything, but I do think we're all very, like, I don't know. Did you see all of the back-to-school signage that was happening? Yeah, you're right. Like, those were done to the nines. Like, picture-perfect moments? Yes. Okay.
00:39:33
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To be determined. When you hear this later, Colson, as an adult, let us know what you thought. are. Okay, um... Let my daughter have unicorn-themed party, wear unicorn clothes and costumes.
00:39:44
Speaker
The obsession with unicorns. Do your kids love unicorns? Are you kidding? I don't think Coulson and Walker even know about it. but I don't know where my kids came up with unicorns, but they're obsessed.
00:39:54
Speaker
Is that? That's kind though, right? It's just the age thing. Is it not? i embraced it. embraced We embraced it. They have unicorn piggy banks. They have unicorn clothes. They have unicorns. We just embrace it because I know they love it. And that's the thing too about these like character things.
00:40:08
Speaker
Kind of cute. Unicorns. No. I would – there's a lot of other things I'd rather them be obsessed with except they're obsessed with cats right now. Cats. Ooh. I don't know how feel about that. You know I hate cats.
00:40:20
Speaker
You do? Oh, I'm like very – I shouldn't say hate. That's like such a strong word. sound like a mom. um I am a mom. I strongly dislike cats. I do not like cats. I don't like mine then but I don't really want one. No, but like cat culture – when If with little kids.
00:40:35
Speaker
Cat culture runs deep. People love cats. And I have told my kids literally like cats are mean. Like cats are evil. And for some reason they're obsessed with cats still. Some cats are cute. No, of course. But I was trying to like stray them away. i was like, no, dogs. Like dogs are so cute. They all. Even Graham is obsessed with cats.
00:40:54
Speaker
Really? Yes. They are so though. actually can't talk about it. kind of makes me mad. didn' you almost get one though? Like just a house. Wait, was it you that I was talking to Was it like a ranch cat that just like lives outside? No. No, see, I will never have a cat.
00:41:04
Speaker
Ever. Watch me out get a cat. They get the mice away. I don't care. Are you more scared of mice, snakes, or spiders? Snakes.
00:41:15
Speaker
Snakes. Oh my gosh, snakes. Did you know that they've been finding a bunch of rattlesnakes by our houses? Ew. Yeah. Don't worry, it's cold. I just think like a spider, I'm like strong enough to like handle.
00:41:26
Speaker
Yeah, but black widows are freaky. Yeah. i Yeah, they're freaky, but could smush one. i'm like I'm just like – bugs don't bug me, actually. No, snakes are scary. Mics are gross, though, too. But, okay, if there's going to be one, like, in your basement, snake, a mouse, or a spider, which one? I'd least want a snake to least. Yeah.
00:41:45
Speaker
I feel like that's not a hot take. Okay. Make them – oh, this is cute. Make them stop reading bedtime stories. I wish I could read forever. It's true, but there is a point where we're done. I think she was saying, like I would never wish I wouldn't.
00:41:58
Speaker
I'd want to forever. Oh, read forever I could. I am skipping pages. I am skipping pages, and we have – I've shared about this before, but we have chat – read the stories yeah to them.
00:42:10
Speaker
Sometimes I'll read them, but by the end of the day, I'm like, I'm tripping over my words. I have a headache. I'm tired. like but Here's a 30-second story. Hey, you're still reading. and like I do think like reading is – Maybe this is a hot take. It's like such a good way to connect with your kids. That's like so good for them. No, it is.
00:42:30
Speaker
I need to make more time for it too. Okay. Let my daughter out of the house out looking pristine. Peace is better than perfection. Okay. Yes. We completely agree. Put that on a t-shirt too. My sister-in-law did say, you do need to make two shirts. She's like you need to make bellies out, mamas. Yes. And then moms still need their moms.
00:42:47
Speaker
Yeah. It's true. I'm like, it's so true. And now, what was that one? Peace over perfection. The Park Mom podcast. Okay. Let my kids sleep in clothes and let them wear them again the next day.
00:43:00
Speaker
That's so true. Do you ever do that? I bet you don't. No, no, I do. Especially. do. I promise. I promise. I promise I do. No, okay. Especially if they changed into the clothes like in the afternoon.
00:43:12
Speaker
Yeah. Like in the summer, we'd go to the splash pad or something and then they'd come home, take a shower or not even take a shower, put on clothes and then they would just like hang out inside. No, 100% you can sleep in that. I won't let them like wear it to school two days in a row. Yeah. I'm not like for school, but like I'm down with them like whatever they s slept in, they can wear for the next day for a while.
00:43:30
Speaker
Yeah. If there's nothing it. always change in pajamas either, into pajamas. Do you? I feel like you probably do. Yeah. But mostly like my kids want to. oh But sometimes they'll be like, I just want to sleep in this if it's not dirty.
00:43:43
Speaker
Yeah. let them I'm not going to fight them on that. That's less laundry. Yeah. We'll do anything to do less laundry. Laundry is wild. Okay. Eat school lunch. Get a minivan. Oh, this is get a minivan. i was this close. Are you to get a minivan?
00:43:56
Speaker
Dude, with four kids, what else do you drive? Suburban. But it doesn't have the features that... I think a Suburban makes sense when your kids are older. Listen, I was against the minivan for so long. Yeah, you don't like your 15-year-old getting into a minivan. No, getting picked up from high school. He's like, eh, hi, mom. He's the automatic outdoors. but I feel like when... Hop in, honey!
00:44:16
Speaker
When you have little kids, a minivan makes sense. When you have four little kids under the age of six... Have you seen the ones that have coolers in the middle console? Yeah, I mean, I think they're lux.
00:44:28
Speaker
i I could get convinced on it. I could get convinced it. Yeah, especially if it's like totally... This is the last one. Okay, wonder. You ready? um Ikea childcare. I've never done it because I thought that they didn't have it anymore.
00:44:42
Speaker
and when I think they have to be certain age or something. No, but every time I've gone to... I'm going to go to Ikea tomorrow. Yeah, go to Ikea. And take my kids. Did you ever do that as a kid? They did stop it from COVID. think that's what thinking of. That's what thinking of.
00:44:54
Speaker
Because that was like really my Ikea era. Yes. All of us were in our DIY because we're home all the time. Yeah. And we we're still pretty poor. We're still poor. What am I saying? I still can't afford the nice furniture, but.
00:45:06
Speaker
Do you love Ikea? i don't hate Ikea. There's good things at Ikea, but I think the challenge is like they haven't, nothing's changed since forever. Like they have the same stuff. They have some stuff that has like stood the test of time. Okay. Like what?
00:45:22
Speaker
Like the Ikea Farlop. Farlop Sofa. Don't make me say the names. The Ikea Hilltarp Sofa. Like the mountain bed is out. Are you like knowing the names of the sofas and listing them off?
00:45:36
Speaker
I have the Ikea dresser. I mean, it's a classic. You have the Ikea dresser. Yeah, for my girls. I think there's a lot of good Ikea hacks too. Also, there's that company that you can buy the Ikea, like they have couches and beds and chairs and then they make really nice covers for them.
00:45:52
Speaker
It's called BEMS, B-E-M-S. Okay, Z. Are there couches like too tiny though? Like I feel like the couches that we've sat on when we went to Ikea are for like tiny people. Do you know what? I am in the market for some new couches and I have a few. That's why I know.
00:46:06
Speaker
names you're like so what do you think ikea i'm like well i just went there no but i do know the names because i feel like i'm always looking but they do have some classic stuff really and they're like kind of nancy myers like yeah vibe is in and they have a lot of slip cover stuff which that is very nancy myers vibe Okay. So I feel like there's some good things. Maybe link some of your favorite IKEA things.
00:46:28
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Okay. I wouldn't even know how you do that because you can't shop IKEA online. Well, you can. That doesn't make sense. Yeah. You should go into the store. But they have some good like... I love in the winter yeah going to IKEA with a fam and then getting the dinner.
00:46:40
Speaker
Which is like fun to walk around. actually know that it about you. You love like the meatballs, right? The meatballs are good. No one can actually argue with me on that. Their dinners are so cheap for kids. Yeah.
00:46:51
Speaker
and go cheap Their chocolate bars are good too. Have you ever had them? No. Get them. The mashed potatoes with the jam. Like I'm kind of craving that right now. You should go to Ikea tomorrow. Let me know how it goes. Make a quick video of it and be like, hey, Ikea slaps. I'll try to do that with all the things I have to do. Okay.
00:47:06
Speaker
Anyways, guys, we all are still great moms, even if we're not the moms that we thought we would be. We're ever evolving. And I think like that's kind of the cool part of it. It's like things are always changing and yeah. That's okay. Okay, guys.
00:47:19
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See ya. Bye.