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Nicest Thing Someone’s Ever Done for You as a Mom🌸
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Being a mom is a full-time job with zero days off — but sometimes, the world surprises us with a little extra kindness. We’re sharing the most thoughtful and heart-melting things people have done for us as moms. Plus, a some Mother’s Day ideas and dreamy travel talk sprinkled in (because moms deserve vacations too). 💖🌸👩👧
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Introduction to Park Moms Podcast
00:00:00
Speaker
Hi, welcome to the Park Moms podcast where your hosts, Haley and Becca. This is a place where we laugh and chat about the chaotic bliss of raising young kids. So whether you're about to take a hot mom walk or start a load of laundry, let's get to yapping. Let's do it. Do you think the word yapping is going to go out of style?
00:00:15
Speaker
Probably, but it's very in right now, so we're cool. And like yapping describes, like it's it's more than chatting. It's more than talking. Yapping is very specific. I don't know what word would replace yapping. It's like hard to explain, but it makes so much sense. Like yapping at the park. Yeah, yapping.
00:00:31
Speaker
Yeah, what else could doing? But then think dog, like a little yappy dog. That's exactly what I am. It's like, it. We're little just like, weep, weep, weep. I do talk so much that I do feel like I am a little bit of a yapper. Well, that's why we started a podcast.
00:00:44
Speaker
So thanks for being here. Actually, Haley, you to know something kind of of sweet? A
Community Building and Listener Engagement
00:00:48
Speaker
lot of our like listeners, week over week, are like retained. like they all like They listen every week. I love that. Isn't that sweet?
00:00:55
Speaker
Yes. I'm like, we have our little park mom community here. It's actually amazing. would rather have 10 consistent listeners than 1,000 just random people because it shows that we're really building community, like you said. Haley had some good ideas. um You texted me these. One was like a park mom meetup, which I think would be super fun. It was so fun. You had another idea too for the community. I can't remember what it was. like But it was a way for us all to connect together.
00:01:18
Speaker
I don't know what it was. I just was like, you know those days when you just like have a bunch of ideas? So I was just like texting you like boom, boom, boom, boom. If you don't text. What's other one? If we don't text each other, then we forget too. Yeah. So it's like it's like our notepad it is our text.
00:01:31
Speaker
But thanks for being part
Family Adventures and California Insights
00:01:32
Speaker
of the park moms community. We have a fun episode today. We have some. trip recaps um we're gonna talk about mother's day coming up on sunday we're gonna talk about i think this was a really sweet episode because we're about some of the nicest things that people have done for you or could do for you as a mom and so it's gonna be a really really fun episode also hayley and i like have been like ships in the night passing so we have a lot to catch up on just like as our friendship so i literally leave at 4 a.m tomorrow was gonna say should we talk about trips yeah let's talk about trips you go first no i want you to go first okay
00:02:06
Speaker
um i'll start so we went to california too last week we were gone for a week it was so nice to just unplug the weather was like good it wasn't like crazy good but it's just you know what it's like to california actually i made a tiktok of this of my son saying like we go to california we get to california and he starts sniffing there and he goes smells like california it's so cute that needs to be on the pr for california like the way he's standing he's standing next to the window like ah Smells like California.
00:02:33
Speaker
like As soon as we got there too, he actually said it in the car earlier. And then my husband's like, what does that smell like, Colson? He goes, like salt, salt water. And I'm like, so true. And like California, my husband and I met there. It's like our happy place. I mean, you're from there. I would love to live there one day once I'm rich and famous. But... Keep listening, guys. yeah Keep listening. So you can send me to Orange County. But it's just so beautiful. We had such good family time. And sometimes trips are just chaotic. And they're honestly not that fun.
00:03:01
Speaker
We've been there so many times. We can have our flow down that it's super fun. We have the restaurants we like to go to, um like all the beaches we like to go to. And we just hung out with the family. and it was so nice. And actually, part of the trip gave me the idea for the episode because...
00:03:15
Speaker
One, being in California makes you feel like having three kids is crazy. No, yeah. And in Utah, it's like three kids. Like, that's nothing. But you go anywhere else, anywhere else. And it's like, oh my gosh, you are cheaper by the dozen.
00:03:27
Speaker
Truly.
Kindness and Parenting Moments
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Speaker
And like, the spaces are like made for smaller families. Yeah. it's true. Like, most tables are like tiny with two And you were in a fairly family-friendly area still. Yeah. But I was so like, that this feels full here. yeah And I will be honest, like, there were so many chaotic, chaotic, chaotic. There were so many chaotic moments.
00:03:46
Speaker
um But yeah, so many chaotic moments of just the kids, like, you know, they're on vacation. They're eating ice cream. They're off their sleep schedules. They're, like, falling off their chairs. And of course, there was, like, those loud gasps. my God.
00:03:57
Speaker
what are these parents doing and then there was like so many sweet moments too like there was one specifically when this older lady came over to me and she's just after both my kids had fallen off the chair at the breakfast she came over to me she's like you're doing such an amazing job she's like I remember those days and your kids are just so beautiful you can tell they're such good kids and it was so nice yeah Well, feel like too, when they're your own kids, you're hearing of like the crazy noises and you're so worried that they're disrupting other people. And other people don't hear what you hear. They just like, are like, oh my gosh, look how cute those kids are. Like, it's just different. And I especially think they like miss kind of like what that time was like. And it's...
00:04:37
Speaker
It's just, and those little things when you're in kind of the craziness of being a mom, like do mean a lot. So yeah, we'll talk about more of those nice things later on, but that's what was, when I was on the trip, I'm like, wow. I inspired it. Those kind people really do make you like be so much more grateful for motherhood.
00:04:51
Speaker
Okay. I want to know your favorite place that you ate and the favorite, your favorite thing you did while you were there. Cause we're going tomorrow. So. Oh, okay. There's a new restaurant in Laguna Beach called Abba. Have you been there? No. A-B-H-A. hope I'm pronouncing that right.
00:05:03
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it's like aba the bur they're famous for their burgers but like it's nice because you can go and love me a burger order and then sit down it's a little fancier abha how do you spell it a b h h a b h a h a i saw all over tiktok was it laguna beach I'll go Laguna Beach. Okay, make sure you go there. Wow, this looks like vibes.
00:05:25
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It was so good. See, that's the thing. I need new recommendations because obviously I'm from there. And so when we go back, we want to go to all the places that are nostalgic. Yes. And so people are always like, where should I go? And I'm like, I almost don't want to tell you because it's not necessarily good. It's just where I went growing up. It's like the memories. Yes. like For me, it's like Thrifty's ice cream, A's burgers, zucchini fries, like random little things, but I need to try new things. So I'm excited about this.
00:05:50
Speaker
Have you been South Swell? The kids love It's like an ice cream place. It's just soft serve with like dipped cones and toppings, but the kids really like it. It's super cute.
Travel Tips and Ocean Fears
00:05:59
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um And then the favorite thing we did there, i mean, you already probably know that I'm going to say this, but we love this one beach. It's called Salt Creek Beach. We literally went there every day. And the best part which was just like, we'd spend like five or six hours just like hanging at the beach.
00:06:12
Speaker
Playing in the sand, like walking into the ocean. like Wait, Camden's not a beach guy though, right? Yeah. Yeah. So if you listened to the podcast at the beginning, you know that we, on our last beach trip, had a little scare with my daughter of almost losing her yeah and thinking that she drowned in the ocean.
00:06:29
Speaker
And my husband was like, I am not going back to the beach. So this will be our first time back at the beach since October. Is he – like, have you talked about it? We haven't talked about it. I'm just like, we brought floaties, and I'm going to make them wear them their floaties the entire time. Yeah.
00:06:42
Speaker
But it will be good. I also will say the ocean's really cold right now, so it's not like the kids are really yeah wanting to get in. And my kids are crazy. It's not busy right now either, and so I do feel like I was a little more relaxed than I am when I'm there in the summer because you can see your kids. And then I just like far enough back – That like, they really can't get into the ocean. Yeah.
00:07:01
Speaker
I'm scared of the ocean as well. The ocean's scary. I feel like if you didn't grow up there, ah but for me, I'm scared of it. Sam's not scared of it at all. If I think about it, I won't go far out in the water. But if I like just go through the motions, I will. Are you scared of drowning are you scared of the animals?
00:07:17
Speaker
I'm scared of the animals. I'm not I'm scared of drowning. No, no. Sharks, to me, are actually the scariest thing in the entire world. Really? And I've had an obsession with sharks since I was so little because I'm so scared of them.
00:07:29
Speaker
Like, when I was 11 years old, I would watch Shark Attack YouTube videos, which I think is where my fear, like, came from. Yeah. But sharks? Are you kidding? See, I'm not scared of sharks at all. I'm scared drowning. I feel like statistics, I'm more like a statistical fear.
00:07:43
Speaker
I feel like statistically the chance of sharks, like people drowned. My dad almost drowned once in Laguna Beach. I mean, like you hear stories all the time. Yeah. This is morbid. but Anyways, so your favorite thing was Salt Creek Beach and your favorite food was Abba?
00:07:57
Speaker
Yep. Okay, we're going try Abba. Check it out. Is it Laguna Beach or like Dana Point? It's Laguna Beach, but I feel like it's like ah pretty south of Laguna Beach, so almost to like where the montage is.
00:08:08
Speaker
Okay, so like almost Dana Point. Yep. Okay, it's fine. Okay, so anyways, cal Southern California,
Balancing Parenthood with Personal Time
00:08:13
Speaker
babes, hit me up if you need to write some recommendations. What was the hardest part about traveling with the kids?
00:08:20
Speaker
I've told this on the podcast before, so sorry for repeating myself, but both my husband and I, we make a pact before we go on a trip, and it's just like we can't be at each other because we know it's going to be chaotic. Yeah.
00:08:32
Speaker
And so we do try to just like keep our calm. Otherwise, we don't enjoy We're on the same team. We're on the same team and just like little things that I would normally be annoyed about. I try not to be and vice versa. We still had one little tiny fight.
00:08:44
Speaker
That's okay. That's really good. I'm impressed. I'll take that. ah The hardest part. Honestly, the kids were really good. and Good. And we stayed in a little bit of a bigger place, and so they had, like, a little more space, and, like – That gives hope.
00:08:57
Speaker
It actually wasn't bad, like – How was the drive? Honestly, so easy. Okay, good. Jack's also, like, nine months is such a good age. Yeah, because they can go a little longer without nursing. Your other kids, you can, like, give them an iPad. passed bottle on the way back, like, if i need he needed, like, breaks. Yeah, the other older kids, like, almost, like, one and a half is harder.
00:09:14
Speaker
Yeah, yeah. We like don't normally, I'm not virtue signaling, but we don't normally give the kids iPads like on a normal day to day. And so I feel like that helps when you do travel because they have their iPads and it's like fun and exciting.
00:09:27
Speaker
Does Graham like TV though? No, not Graham. So I'm a little worried about Graham. Yeah, it's hard when they... They're not at the phase where they're like easily entertained, but they don't like TV yet. But he's my most patient kid, if that makes sense. like Usually if he has snacks, he'll be good. And he does like trash truck, actually.
00:09:43
Speaker
So like if we need to put on trash truck on one of our phones. Okay. Yeah. But it's a long drive. Yeah. I feel like I used to use Mace Rachel on my phone when Walker was a little younger. Yeah. i actually do have one tip for traveling in the car. I didn't have to do this this time because the boys are older and they don't care.
00:09:57
Speaker
But you buy just like a few things you could probably buy at the dollar store. We would just buy the dollar trucks and you just keep them stored in like the front. This is my next thing I'm going to say. And you literally just give them, like the as they're being good, they get their toys a reward and they get open it in the car. And like it was a lifesaver. And we just got like seven or eight of them.
00:10:16
Speaker
Okay, so guess what I did today? Dollar store, huh? went to the dollar store. And my mom did this growing up and I loved it. It was seriously better than Christmas. It was the best thing ever. When we would get into the car in the morning to do road trips, and it was the opposite. We would come from California to Utah.
00:10:29
Speaker
on our seats she would have trip bags. um And it was the cutest thing. And there was like crafts in there and coloring books and like a new book to read and all this stuff. So I went to the dollar store today and did that for my kids.
00:10:40
Speaker
And I got like new coloring books and like some flashcards, some stickers, just like random stuff. Because we try to go as long as we can. Without a show. Without a show. And then give it to them. Yeah. So like I'm hoping that hold them over for like an hour. Like pass.
Motherhood Challenges and Connection
00:10:53
Speaker
I feel like you can do a I feel like you can make it to St. George without an iPad. Okay. and Even better for you since you leave in so early. That's super cute though. good job on your mom. Thanks. It was like the one thing I did today where i was like, I'm a good mom.
00:11:05
Speaker
Otherwise I was like... Well, it's pretty affordable, but like entertaining. And I also think if you can do a little less TV on the drive, they don't get over it as easily. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So tell us about your trip. You just went somewhere really fun too.
00:11:17
Speaker
I just went to London with my mom and my sister and it was so fun. It was so nice to turn the part of my... brain that's a mom off. Yeah. Like I truly feel like I just chilled and enjoyed things and like looked around and enjoyed my food.
00:11:31
Speaker
Like it's so crazy how much you don't eat an actual meal when you have kids. And it was really, really fun. I missed my kids like crazy though. Yeah. It was the longest that I've been away from all of them. Yeah, definitely the longest. It was about, was a week.
00:11:46
Speaker
Exactly. And i was literally like on the plane, like shaking so excited to see them oh but so it was fun I think like when you leave your kids for a little bit it does give you a little bit of an appreciation when you come back to them and it's yeah good my mom always says this like it's good for you to miss your kids and it's good for your kids to miss you yeah I do think Graham had a hard time and now he has been so clingy like he thinks I'm gonna leave again because literally like all last week he just wants to sit on my lap won't do anything without me like I'm not leaving I promise but it was really fun
00:12:16
Speaker
Yeah, and I also think like it also gives the people watching them a chance to bond with your kids in a way they couldn't if you were there. Like you only get to watch one for a few hours. You're not like being able to create those moments as much. And so like I also think like whoever's watching them, it's like a really good opportunity of them to really connect with your kids. yeah Can we talk about how you asked my husband, Camden, how he was doing on what, day at day five? No, it was Saturday, so you were like almost home. I didn't get home until Wednesday. Oh, wait, Tuesday. It was Tuesday at soccer.
00:12:44
Speaker
Oh, so it was the day before I got home. Yeah. And what did you – can you please tell me about that conversation? I asked her husband. I'm like, okay, how's it going? it been without Haley? He's like, honestly, been good. Hasn't been hard. He said, hasn't been hard at all. I – that, I can't. Like a slap in the face because when he was gone on a trip by himself, aye was not well. Granted, it was in February during the craziest yeah snowstorm of the year.
00:13:07
Speaker
We couldn't – like, lit Becca's husband had to come snowplow – snowplow? Yeah, that's that what called? Snowplow in my driveway because I couldn't – Snowblow. Couldn't get out of my driveway. And so I was stuck at home with the kids, couldn't go anywhere. Yeah.
00:13:21
Speaker
I think it was one more day that he was gone. That one more day really set me over the edge. But he handled it like a pro. Why is that? I also think when dad's in charge – Okay, you kind of like suck it up when you're in charge. Like you know you have to do it. So you're like, okay, we're gonna make it happen. and We're to make it fun. yeah And like if it's me, I'm eating out. I'm not like cooking at home. Like I'm trying to do things to yeah make it easier on myself.
00:13:42
Speaker
But I feel like dads are just a little more chill. Like I think like things probably weren't done to your standard or like when I'm gone to standard. and i know that. And he did an amazing job. Like amazing job.
00:13:53
Speaker
He didn't complain to me once. But I did get home and I was like – All right. So like this hasn't been cleaned or like there's fingerprints all over this or like yeah there's crumbs under – like really?
00:14:05
Speaker
The girl's hair were done though. Yeah. The girl's hair was done. I'm surprised about that. I was very impressed. No. Okay. Wait. You didn't say a highlight of your trip or your highlight your The highlight of my trip, we saw Wicked in London and I was a little bit nervous because, you know, our obsession with Wicked the movie. And I had seen Wicked a long time ago, the musical.
00:14:23
Speaker
But like in my mind the last wicked experience I had was the movie and I loved the movie I thought the cast was so good So i was a little nervous to go back to the musicals like am I gonna like this as much? It
Thoughtful Mother's Day Celebrations
00:14:33
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was outstanding like literally People in musicals are so talented. talented. So talented. So that was probably My top one the weather was so nice, which I had never been to London before and so I didn't know but like so sunny so nice And then yeah, that was my highlight ah So it was the full wicked Wicked, right? Like, know the movie's only part one? Yes. So it's kind of nice to see part two. And I forgot what happened in part two.
00:14:59
Speaker
Because I knew you. yeah Because I knew you. I have been changed. That's the best part. I might literally get the chills. That's such good part this movie. No, it's so good.
00:15:10
Speaker
We have to go together to the second part when it comes out in the fall. Well, I want to watch the first one again. It's been a minute. um I have it. I bought it. So if you want to over. Oh, okay. I actually do have like one other like topic I want to discuss. It's not a life update, but I'm just curious your opinion.
00:15:26
Speaker
I've already kind of talked to you about this, and I've been talking to a few of my other mom friends. It's kind of like a weird part of life when you have to start like making new mom friends. Like.
00:15:37
Speaker
Yeah. Do you know what saying by that? Yeah. Yeah. Just like your kids are at like athletic events. You need to make friends with the moms there. And like, I don't know if anyone else out there feels this way, but I get like self-conscious. Like, am I good and like good enough? Like it's a weird phase where i'm like.
00:15:52
Speaker
I feel make friendships again. I think it's hard to meet mom friends when you're with your kids and like – which obviously you are. Like especially the scenarios that you're saying when your kids are like interrupting you and you're like kind of overstimulated and you're also trying to meet someone for the first time and you're like, no, like stop, be quiet.
00:16:10
Speaker
Yeah. i With your friends that you were friends with and you become moms together, it's a little bit like they know that that's not how you are all the time. Yeah. do you know what i mean? It's true. I think it can be kind of harder. But I'm running into situation where my oldest is making friends for the first time where I don't know their parents.
00:16:27
Speaker
And I don't know how to navigate this because they want to have playdates. And I'm like, well, I don't know. i don't know them. Yeah. And like I want to just be like, oh, yeah, totally. Like – They're probably a great family, and and they they are, but how to like i don't know what to do about that. Yeah, what advice do you – or what are you going to do? I've gotten advice from people that are older than me and have older kids, and they say, like, go do a meetup at the park or something, but it's hard when you're a working mom.
00:16:53
Speaker
I do think, like, a little bit of Thelma being a working mom, but I will say it's been nice tracking with talking with some of the other moms because I realize that I'm not, like, the only self-conscious one of just, like – Feeling like I fit in with the other moms and even like other moms judging my parenting style or thinking my kid's a good kid. Like, I don't know why I worry about that.
00:17:12
Speaker
But it is like nerve wracking putting yourself out there again and remaking relationships. We already did that. But I also think it's good. Like, I think it's so fun to meet new friends. Does it scare you at all or is it like, okay, this is chill? Yeah.
00:17:26
Speaker
I'm like, I promise I'm not always the psycho. I will say one thing that's a good talent of yours is you're really good at talking to like random strangers. Like even if we're like hanging out and you see someone else, like you like include them and start talking to them and like- That's nice. Are just super nice. And like I- So are you.
00:17:41
Speaker
You're very good at that. Well, thank you. I appreciate that. But on the inside of your self-conscious- I feel like it's more like, okay, do you know when you would go somewhere and you like have conversations and then after you're second guessing yourself?
00:17:52
Speaker
Not every conversation I've ever had ever in my life. I'm like, oh, I word vomited and overshared all my – like maybe I didn't have to tell them all my trauma in the first five minutes I met them.
00:18:02
Speaker
I don't know. Like that's
Community Stories of Kindness
00:18:04
Speaker
my problem. You know that happened when I met you? Yeah, we met. That's how we bonded. So I mean at least I'm being up front, but – When I met Becca, I just trauma-dumped on her. Okay.
00:18:13
Speaker
I'm not going to tell the whole story, but I'm just going to highlight one small part. Is that like something I love about you is that you're just so real and you just kind of- Too real. You let other people be able to be real too. And in that scenario, I think I was just like, again, in a phase where i was making new mom friends and you just like, I instantly felt bonded to you because I'm oh, sweet. I can be open with this girl. She's amazing. so That's nice. And you were pregnant and so was I, right? Yeah. We were both barely pregnant with our firsts, which- crazy because that feels like yesterday. Yeah. But I am trying to be a little less like, huh, right away.
00:18:45
Speaker
Do you know what I mean though? Like I think sometimes it's a lot and I'm like, maybe I can just be like a little more demure. Like a little more and just like, oh, I'm not going to tell you. But then I was at our kids' soccer game when you were in California. And I was just like yapping to the moms, telling them about how hard my pregnancy was and how sick I was and how depressed I was and how I needed medication. I'm just like throwing it all out there. And afterwards I was like, I probably could have just like kept it to pleasantries.
00:19:13
Speaker
But I don't know. think it's fun to like... make connections quickly with people. And if they're not your vibe, then you're not wasting any time. It's so true. And I think like you can't go wrong with just being yourself, but it is nerve wracking to be yourself sometimes. Yeah.
00:19:26
Speaker
I will say the more you do it, the easier it gets and the less insecure you get about it. Something that's been such good practice for me and probably for you too is the gym we go to. Yeah. I feel like It's a lot easier to meet someone who already knows like one of your friends. And so the gym that we go to, everyone kind of like knows someone once removed or like, you know, everyone's connected. And so it's been good for me to be like, oh, like, hey, you look really familiar or hey, I think you're friends with my friend and like do that almost daily now yeah where I feel like I'm meeting and making new relationships at the gym.
00:19:57
Speaker
Yeah. And think like, don't be nervous to make the first move. Like yeah you have, I think it was you that had like someone send homeless sticky note and be like, Oh, my girl wants to play with Elsie. Was that you? She sent me a text. Yeah. text Or like, I think it is nerve wracking to make the first move to make a friend, but don't be nervous.
00:20:13
Speaker
Like don't be nervous too, because I think everyone's feeling the same way you are. Totally. Even though you think it's just you. Yeah. So this Sunday we have mother's day coming up. First off, describe to me your perfect Mother's day Day and then like maybe one or two gifts that are like, this is like must have as a mom. Well, first of all, I'm going to say something controversial.
00:20:31
Speaker
Oh, I know what she's going to say. Mother's Day. and this is my sixth year being a mother? that fifth year? Yeah. but is So the after this – is probably your sixth Mother's Day.
00:20:43
Speaker
Okay. So after five Mother's Day, I've learned Mother's Day is for active duty only. Okay? Okay. You can definitely, like Mother's Day as a whole, you can celebrate the moms and the mother-in-laws and the grandmas.
00:20:56
Speaker
But I know so many people who don't, and moms our age, that are in the trenches of motherhood. Yeah. Like literally trenches. That are spending their Mother's Day, like, just doing stuff for other people and their moms and mother-in-laws. Yeah. And I think that's kind of hard.
00:21:13
Speaker
Yeah, I agree. i What do you think? Like, what's your recommendation for, like, mothers and laws? Well, our friend Maddie had a really good suggestion to do something with them that weekend, but not on Mother's Day. Like, have them over for dinner, she said. And I think that's a really good idea.
00:21:26
Speaker
And I also think, like, this is just my opinion, but do feel like it's the spouse to plan Mother's Day. So, like, if, like, either the father of, you know what I'm saying, like the grandpa or the husband. We actually always plan the Mother's Day for my mom though just because our parents got divorced and so we always plan something for her. so I'm like, it's hard because you obviously want to celebrate them, but I agree like the day itself should be relaxing for you. Yeah.
00:21:53
Speaker
But I'm like, I'm down to go to a dinner or something, but I don't want to plan something for someone else. Like I need to re relax. Or go to something that you don't want to. Yeah. Like you just want to do the things you want to do. Exactly. We're going to be driving home from California on Mother's Day. oh your perfect Mother's Day is driving home. that's My perfect Mother's Day is – no, I think my perfect Mother's Day – I'll explain it – is probably sleeping in until as long as I possibly want. Yeah.
00:22:19
Speaker
And then waking up to breakfast. of course. Which you have to have. Camden, if you're listening, take notes. Yeah. um Waking up to breakfast and then doing some sort of like outdoor activity – With the kids. Like a hike or going to the park and having a picnic or like doing some sort of like active activity.
00:22:38
Speaker
And then coming home and taking a nap while my husband cleans the whole house. Do you want a gift? I am not a gift person. If there's something I want, I would so much rather buy it for myself. Yeah.
00:22:51
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I do like, like, it's nice have a little something, but this year I was like, do not get me a gift. Like, we're going to be going to California. Like, yeah do, I don't need a gift. So, not really. If you were going to give a gift to someone for Mother's Day, what would you give?
00:23:04
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Who is it? Like my mother-in-law? It could be a friend, mom a sister, or a mother-in-law. I think like sentimental gifts are really fun or self-care gifts are yeah really good. Yeah. i I want to know your perfect Mother's Day.
00:23:16
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Honestly, mine's like very similar. I feel like sleep in, guarantee you need to do that. Or nap. Yes. And then breakfast made. Flowers. Flowers. That's not a gift. Did you see my what I posted on Instagram? That people just want the tulips from Twitter Joe's. The tulips and the peonies from Peonies, Peonies, whatever you say it, are so much better than the- I love those from Trader Joe's.
00:23:36
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I don't know what kind that is though. I have no idea. But I'm like, I'm not a florist. This is just what I think, okay? But Camden, again, I love you so much. Take notes.
00:23:48
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I would rather tulips from Trader Joe's than the Costco, like, pre-made... Bokeh. Bokeh. Or, like, the grocery store. Costco's tulips actually kind slap, though. The big just tulips. Yes.
00:23:59
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like, the bouquet, it's like there's always something in there that I don't like. And maybe this is just me. Maybe I'm wrong. It's a bit odd. It's a bit odd. But I'd rather, like Trader Joe's flowers, then grocery store.
00:24:09
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Okay. As far as the gift goes too, I always do a favorite treat, but like an actual like thoughtful favorite treat. Like one your favorite things. I feel like you really can't go wrong with like a gift card to a drink place or like a cute shop or spa gift card.
00:24:25
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Pedicure gift card. Pedicure. Like anything that's going to go for self-care. We posted on our um on our TikTok or on our Instagram too of some ideas. And i a couple of like self-care items I personally would really want. I pulled you that mask from Summer Fridays. It is so rejuvenating. That would be a good one. The jet lag mask. Yes. I want that.
00:24:44
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It's just like one of those things or like the Laneige lip gloss. Like just things you're not going to buy yourself because it's too expensive. it feels very luxury. Feels luxury. But going to buy something expensive. Yes. A red light mask or a red light.
00:24:55
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Every mom wants one. I promise. Have you been on the red light journey? Do you love it so much? I love it. I have two now. Really? Yeah, I have the face mask and then I have the Lumi box. We should do the red light the whole Just the whole time? Yeah. Well, you're only supposed to do it for 12 minutes. Okay, 12 minutes of the podcast. So it'd be a fast podcast. True self-care.
00:25:12
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yeah And we had some of our listeners write in some things that they would want to. So husbands – girls, send this to your husbands. Yep, send it to your husbands or like also – nor Just like being honest with what you want.
00:25:24
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Like you don't feel like you need to wait for the perfect day. Just like, hey, here's my perfect day Please make sure you accomplish it. Yeah. Well, I was going to say when you said like it's the husband's job to plan everything, yes. But also it's okay if his plan is an itinerary that you communicated.
00:25:39
Speaker
Exactly. Because they can't read our minds. And like that is something in marriage I've had to learn – If I want things a certain way, I've got to tell them. And there's something you, like, really want, just give it for yourself for Mother's Day. Yeah, that's true.
00:25:51
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Yeah, and, like, be i' be communicative. Like, here's what I want to do. And, like, obviously the thought counts, but it's also fine to, like, show what your expectations are in this day and age. um Okay, a professional massage, original art, pedicure, time alone to do whatever I want, a new minky blanket, a new vacuum mop.
00:26:10
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The brand is Tina Co. Oh, the vacuum. Okay. Have seen those? am going to say that if you're a mom and you want to get a vacuum mop, you shouldn't wait for Mother's Day. You should just get that because you're doing so much cleaning. Mother's Day gifts need to be for you.
00:26:24
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A vacuum mop is for your Get that for Father's Day. Okay. No, but think about it. Imagine how your husband would would feel if he got a vacuum mop. That's true. For Father's Day. He's doing the vacuum. maybe would he be happy with like a leaf blower?
00:26:37
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i I think that's boring. Okay. Well, get yourself the vacuum mop. Okay. Flowers, homemade Yeah, that's a great gift. I'm like, no. Some peace and quiet. I mean, it's not true though. Yeah. I think everyone
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00:26:49
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just needs a relaxing time. And then I think cute ideas like – did you see that the Caxi clips launched like a motherhood? Yes. They're so cute. And the little – That's a good like friend gift or like um like mother-in-law or sister gift. Yes. And then i also think – The hats, what brand is that? Momday.
00:27:08
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I'm obsessed with them. Anything brand with like mom or motherhood or park Especially if it's like, yeah, with park mom. Wait, I acted like was wearing need to sell these? No, I love the mom day hats because I think there's a lot of cheesy mom stuff and Caxi.
00:27:21
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There's a lot of like cheesy mom stuff out there and that stuff is like cool mom-esque. Exactly. Give us the cool mom vibes. Oh, the last thing I'll actually say that can really elevate a mother's day is not having to get your kids ready and like them like having cute outfits and then a drink.
00:27:38
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Yes. Yes. The perfect drink for the day. Yes. Wait, were you saying what's the perfect drink for the day? Yeah, what would be your perfect? I didn't say that. Oh my gosh, it depends on the day. i feel like I've lately been loving the Dr. Pepper with the lime that you suggested to me, the true lime. The true lime. True lime elevates life like nothing else.
00:27:55
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But I also need a morning drink, of course, like a caffeinated. Have you tried those sips? No, but we should try them. I want to try them because it's someone we know and she's awesome. But um my friend was saying that they're even better than like the butter greens.
00:28:08
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so And I just ran out of better days. So we should try them. Let's order them and try them We'll do a taste test. Wait, um... Going back to drinks because I can talk about this all the time. In London, they had pistachio lattes everywhere. oh my gosh. Was it so good? Yeah.
00:28:23
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Okay. Now we're into the bulk of our episode, which is – what would we call it? Something nice that someone's done for you as a mom that's, like, made a big difference and just brightened your day a little bit. Yeah. Honestly, some of those little kind things, like paying for someone's drink or saying a compliment, like, they can mean a lot, especially when you're having, like, a hard day. And, like, they stick with you.
00:28:41
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We had some good submissions, so we're going to read those and give some ideas. Okay. This is such a good one. Friends loving my kids and being like aunts to them. It really takes a village. I love that. I feel like we have that, which is so nice. i When I dropped my daughter off at school today, your son, Colson, was at the fence and I like rolled down my window and i was like, hi, Colson. And he's like, hi, Hailey. He was just so happy and I was like, he loves me. I literally just went downstairs to tell him we were doing the podcast and he goes, oh, nice, mom.
00:29:10
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Can't wait to listen. And he's like, will you say hi to Haley for me and tell her to sleep over so I can see her in the morning? But it is fun. And it's fun when you're people you love have kids you love and like you get a love on them and just like – It's so true. And like – I think like complimenting and loving on other people's kids, like it's the biggest reward to a parent. So it's a very easy way to like connect with people. Yeah. Another way to connect with moms if you're self-conscious is just connect with their kids. Totally. i'm Okay.
00:29:37
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Bringing me a care package. My baby was in the hospital. Yeah. That's always a good one. It's sweet. And like some of those things like can mean a lot as well. Like you just need your comfort item. Yeah. And it doesn't even necessarily matter what is in the care package. It's just like that they thought of you.
00:29:54
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Exactly. Okay. Watch my baby so I can go work out. Let's go to a workout class when my husband was out of town. That is so nice. So nice. Yes. I love that. Okay.
00:30:05
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You're doing a good job. i I've said it a lot. I've gotten it a lot. That really does mean a lot, especially in those crazy situations. Yeah, because sometimes you're like, am I? Am I doing a good job? And then someone tells you, and you're like, yeah, damn straight. I am doing a good job.
00:30:18
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That's so true. I love it when people say my girls are cute. um Yeah. it is like but Do you feel like that as a girl's mom? I love it when my people say my boys are cute too. Yeah. No, I do. I do love it. I'm like, it's a good thing they're – I'm always like, it's a good thing they're cute because they're driving me nuts.
00:30:33
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But I do think you spend so much time just like – Helping them become who they're going to be. Yeah. And, like, even choosing cute outfits. Like, some of it's physical appearance. it's just, like, their behavior. And, like, of course you think they're cute, but it's such a compliment when other people think that When other people it. true.
00:30:47
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Okay. Invited my kids over to play during a busy season. Yes. Love that. It's crazy how like an hour or two without like one of your kids can feel like a retreat. My husband just took the kids on a drive while I was finishing packing and cleaning the house. And i was like, wow, the amount of stuff I can get done without the kids is crazy. It's so true. And like actually having a friend over sometimes is like not that hard to have the actual friend over, but it can mean a lot to other people. Plus, obviously they're getting to hang with their friend.
00:31:14
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Okay. Dropped off my favorite treat in an ounce. Oh, that's a good one. um Okay. Brought healthy snacks and baked fresh bread for us. It was so kind and I still think about it. I do think that is one thing, like especially with postpartum or pregnant moms, like sometimes those healthy snacks versus a meal, like I think it's good to do like protein shakes and pull protein balls and like yeah fruit and stuff.
00:31:37
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Um, versus like, and beef jerky, whatever, versus like, um. whole meal. A whole meal. Because sometimes you just need stuff to like make it through the day. Yeah, that's so true. you don't have time to do a meal. So.
00:31:47
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and love that. Treats too, of course. Um, my baby was in the hospital at three weeks and sent, and a friend's, oh, at three weeks old and a friend sent a DoorDash. That's so nice. Yeah. DoorDash are like so easy, but I feel like it's so... you know what actually my go-to is? DoorDash is the best what?
00:32:04
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You already know this. I like love a Starbucks gift card. Becca is almost to the point where she's too good at it. I'm like, I'll be venting to her. I'm having a really hard day. I'm having a really hard week. And she'll just like send me a Starbucks gift card. I'm like...
00:32:16
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I love you, but you didn't do that. But it really – but then, like, okay, the last time you did it, truly – don't think I told you – made my day. The next day i was having such a hard day, and i was like, I'm going to go get Starbucks, and – Well, you don't always treat yourself, and so having the gift card allows you to treat yourself.
00:32:30
Speaker
Yes, yes. And it's really cute in your messages. You can just, like, easily send it, and it actually shows up. It's like, have a great day or something. Yeah, was – I was going to bring that up if you didn't, because it is, like, the best. It's my go-to, and it's just such an easy, like – And for me, I'm like working and stuff. So I'm like, I don't sometimes have the time to go drop off something, but I can always send that.
00:32:48
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It's fun because then I'm like, I was like thinking about you all day. The next day when I was drinking, it I was like, oh, she's such good friend. The kindness goes all the way. like does make you feel so much better. Okay. I had a friend drop off $40 worth of Trader Joe's snacks. She totally knew what I needed because she was a nurse herself and she knew I'd be starving.
00:33:04
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Fast forward five years later, I moved across the street from her She just had her third baby and it was a really traumatic miscarriage. And so I brought her a bag of Trader Joe's snacks. She's super strong and smart and I've always connected really strong with her. So really brought together our friendship is how we actually became friends.
00:33:20
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I love that. Isn't that sweet? I love that. What goes around comes around too. You can always return the favor, pass it on. And it is a great way to make friends, like you said, is like she said, I mean, it's just like acts of service.
00:33:32
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And sometimes those little things truly can be like – So big to someone and it really can bond your friendship. Yeah. Okay. okay Do you more? Yeah. I have a couple. Okay. Let me open them up.
00:33:44
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Okay, let me cut in line at the store when my infant was hungry and crying. This needs to happen more. Needs to happen more and is so nice, especially if you don't have a ton of stuff. Like, I feel like if someone's in front of, I don't know, if someone's in front of you and their baby's losing it and you know they're like counting down the seconds, like I wish I could do this more. I can't wait till my kids are a little bit older and I can see young moms and be like, you go ahead, you go ahead. Because this does make a big difference.
00:34:11
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That's amazing. And I think we all should be like doing that more. Yeah. Just because it there's nothing more stressful and like other people don't really care about but hearing your own baby scream. Kids were mid meltdown. They told me it was a compliment to my parenting because when a child is loud, it means they there's feel safe to express their true feelings.
00:34:27
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So I'm their safe place. Oh, that's love that. And she said meltdown suck, especially with two, but then their mom can make you feel comfortable, comforted, not isolated. I actually love this idea of like ah something, someone, I think my mom told me this, is when your kids are the hardest for you, which they usually are, it means that they feel safe with you.
00:34:47
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And it's something that my mom warmed me about actually when our oldest were going to school for the first time. She was like, just so you know, when she comes home from school, she might be just like a little hard like she might just be like very emotional and that's because when she's at school not that she doesn't feel safe but she's kind of like putting on her best self putting on her best self and like kind of hiding like and so that is so true have you ever noticed that oh yeah like when they get home from school they're just kind of like a little bit emotional because you're their safe place which is like hard but also really beautiful that you can be their safe place
00:35:18
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I completely agree. And I think when another mom can talk to you about that kind of stuff in a nice way, not a condescending way, because I think, like, sometimes you can – as long as it comes like, good intentions, like, it just makes you feel like we're all in this together and you have your community. Totally. Okay. i We'll end with this one.
00:35:34
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um Took my newborn pictures for me, which she was saying that I did this. – i do not make meals for people because I can't cook. I don't even like making meals for my own family. And so it used to really stress me out because I wanted to help my friends after they had babies and I wanted to bring over food and I wanted to bring over meals.
00:35:50
Speaker
And I just like, it would send me into a spiral. And so for my best friends now, I take their newborn pictures and it's just like my favorite way of, I get to go like see their baby and see them interacting with their baby and create these beautiful moments in pictures and way better than cooking a meal.
00:36:05
Speaker
As a recipient, I feel like it's one of the best things you can do for someone. And, like, not that you feel like you have to, but I think it's just, like, being able to capture that moment is so sweet. And, like, it's something you want to do, but you, like – now don't necessarily want to because you're like postpartum. and so themselves Aren't you so glad you have those photos? I'm so glad. love all of them. I'm always like forcing my friends when they're like I don't know. I'm like, let's just do it. I yeah promise I'll make you feel beautiful. Like, let's just do it.
00:36:30
Speaker
And you always do make your clients feel like so confident as well. I've like stepped away from doing photography, but i will always do my best friends' newborns because I think it's just like such a special thing. And it's like a talent that I can share I feel good about sharing.
00:36:45
Speaker
That's such a sweet one. Okay, any other good ones? think that's it. Okay. Well... where Haley's headed out on another vacation. We actually have another fun vacation coming up soon, a girls trip. We do. We'll talk about later. we're like traveling soldiers now. I know. After that, though, I don't have any more trips. Do you?
00:37:01
Speaker
I have one in August, but... It's a little farther away. Yeah. For summer, summer in Utah, that probably shouldn't say, but so more people move here. It is elite. Summer in Utah is the best. Like, you talked about wanting to live in California. I actually recently have like completely switched. People are going hate me for saying this. I would rather live in Utah. Yeah.
00:37:20
Speaker
Utah summers are so fun. People move here all the time. I know. There's a reason. the winters are so The winters are so hard, but we made it through. i feel thawed. We made it through. I feel like the pink is coming back. Yes. As we've talked about.
00:37:31
Speaker
It's like spring flowers. Even though it's like a rain tonight, it's like a good rain. I'm like, I'm good with rain. No, it's like warm. Like you could go run out in the rain if you wanted to and have a romantic moment with your husband. Should we Let's go do that right now. Okay, bye guys. We're going to run out in the rain. See ya.
00:37:43
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See ya.