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Unapologetically You ~ The Magic of Owning Who You Are
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This episode is all about stepping into the version of you that you were always meant to be.
We dive deep into what it really means to be fearlessly yourself….how authenticity creates connection, why it can feel scary, and why doing it anyway is one of the most powerful things you can do for your life, your manifestation practice, and your happiness.
I share some personal stories (and a few lightbulb moments!) along with fascinating research that proves this isn’t just emotional fluff ~ it’s science-backed self-development. We chat about:
🌞 Why it feels uncomfortable to be unapologetically you
🌞 The fear of being “too much” or “too different”
🌞 How being your most authentic self attracts aligned people, opportunities, and experiences
🌞 The power of living true to yourself instead of who others expect you to be
I also open up about some personal requests I’ve received from my community that left me feeling overwhelmed. It led to a really honest conversation about boundaries and how society often expects us to just give and give. I share what I’ve learned about saying no with love, and how you can still be kind, giving and open-hearted, while also being bold, strong and clear on your boundaries.
And at the end of this episode, I give you a behind-the-scenes update on my Pass Around the Smile tour ~ the excitement, the limiting beliefs, and the wild ride of manifesting one of my biggest goals ever.
I hope this episode inspires you to create big, beautiful goals of your own and to step into the fearless version of you. Feel the fear… and do it anyway.
💬 I’ve popped a post in both my Instagram channel and my Facebook community so we can chat about this episode! Here is the link to my Facebook Community and if you go to my Instagram here, click 'Cleo's Magical Community!'
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The Pass Around the Smile podcast is recorded on Bundjalung Country, in South East Queensland, Australia. We acknowledge the Yugambeh people of the Bundjalung Nation, the traditional owners of this land. We pay our respects to Elders past, present and emerging.
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Introduction to Podcast and Host
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Pass Around the Smile is like your go-to friend, the one that lifts you up and backs you to the end. She's there to guide and inspire, challenge and teach, and remind you that your best self isn't out of reach.
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Self-development, manifestation, self-love and more, it's time to trust the process more than ever before.
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Welcome to Pass Around the Smile, the podcast. I'm your host, Cleo Massey, and I am so glad you're here. Let the magic begin. Hello everybody and welcome back to the Pass Around the Smile podcast. I'm so happy you're here. We have another exciting episode, of course, because every episode that I create for you guys, I want to make sure it is exciting and inspiring or educational or funny or something in there, something in
The Power of Being Unapologetically Yourself
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there.
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ah Today's episode, I'm not exactly sure what I'm going to call it yet, but it is around becoming fearlessly yourself. I really do believe that this is one of if not the most powerful thing that you can do in your life is to become fearlessly unapologetically yourself, the person that you will put on this earth to be, to just be them completely and wholly, to understand them,
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to know what's going on in their mind, to accept who you are, to be who you are loudly, boldly, and clearly. However, it can be hard to understand who that human is, who that person, who that soul is, because of course we tell ourselves stories, we see things, we experience things, we develop fears and limiting beliefs. And this episode is kind of a flow on from the last episode, which it was of course the Fear vs. Intuition episode.
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I think it's such a big topic to unpack and stepping into the version of you that is wholly you is so important because when you do that, when you're unapologetically, fearlessly yourself, not only is it very, very powerful from a manifestation point of view, but it is it's the way that we we enjoy life. We will enjoy or we do enjoy life when we are fearlessly ourselves because nothing is in our way. Nothing is stopping us from feeling how we wanna feel. Nothing is stopping us from saying what we wanna say, from doing what we wanna do.
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As I said before, it can be hard to get to this place, but we all have the power. We all have the tools. We have this podcast that can help you get to that place. And it's so exciting. When you are fearlessly yourself, life flows with you. Instead of against you, you gain access to the signs, the coincidences, the people, the opportunities. You become a magnet to the things that you want because you are fearlessly you.
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And this is when also manifestation can just become so easy. Like it just happens without you actively trying to manifest because you are just you are on the vibration that you are meant to be on you are seeing things you're like i want that i want that experience for example because that is going to light me up and that feels good and it's right it's a match to my values and beliefs because i know my values and beliefs i'm so sure of who i am of what i want and of course you then just attract that or something way way better into your life so it's a really exciting topic and
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ah yeah, I'm excited to talk about the little intricacies that is involved in becoming Fearlessly You. So I hope you're excited. Thanks for coming along for another Pass Around the Smile episode.
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Before we get into it, I want to thank today's
Sponsorship and Promotions
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sponsor. They have sponsored the Pass Around the Smile podcast before. I genuinely love this brand. It's LSKD and it's exciting that they are sponsoring at this very moment because they are having a Black Friday sale starting November the 20th up to 70% store wide.
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Yes, up to 70% store wide. Crazy. i am going to put all the details of the sale plus a link in the show notes so you can go and shop. My personal favorite at the moment is my LSKD flares. I wear them all the time. I'll put the exact length or the name of the flares in the show notes because I'm not sure of them at the moment.
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but I had other flares and they just weren't flattering. They didn't feel good. The material was, you know, and then I got these and I was like, oh this is what flares are meant to feel like and look like. And I just, I'm obsessed. I will never wear another brand of flares again. i also, I literally have pretty much everything of theirs. I have their sport bras. I have their t-shirts. I have a jumper.
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I have their tights and I have their shorts. So I love LSKD and you guys know that I only, allow brands to sponsor the Pass Around the Smile podcast if I genuinely love them or endorse them. So yes, LSKD, their sale info is in the show notes. Beautiful activewear brand as well with beautiful principles, the way that they run their business and show up online, their community, the way that they work and what they promote is really in alignment with Pass Around the Smile. So Very happy for them um to be a partner.
Podcast Insights and Listener Engagement
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Guys, by the way, two things. I noticed something. In my analytics on my podcast, I can see that, you know, my behind the magic little series I did for you guys, there were four parts.
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I can see in my analytics that part three was not listened to anywhere near as much as one, two, and four. And I think what happened was because I put two and three up on the same day, which I never, ever do, you guys missed that there was a part three.
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And then of course I had the wonderful Astro Tash on before I put part four out. So if you did the behind the magic series, or if you are wanting to start it, please make sure you do both part one, two, three, and four, because it's a really powerful series. Like I'm actually so proud of how that evolved.
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And the feedback from you guys was amazing. So please go back and listen if you miss that. And if you're goingnna gonna listen, just make sure you listen to them all. um And the second thing is, this is the first podcast where I'm going to dedicate a segment at the end, as I promised you guys, to let you know how I'm going emotionally, actionable, step-wise for my Pass Around the Smile Tour. There are some big updates.
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There's been ups, there's been downs already, but I just think it'll be so cool to take you guys along the whole way, the entire process.
Tour Updates and Emotional Connections
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I'm not gonna get keep anything. I'm not gonna hide anything because want you to be there with me like emotionally as we go So that hopefully when you are in the audience next year at my tour, you are like, oh my God, it happened and I'm here and you're here and it's gonna be beautiful.
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Okay, so let's get into the episode. Being fearlessly yourself, is the most authentic thing you could do. And you know what authenticity creates? It creates connection. And connection is something that us humans crave and want and need.
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And when we have connection with the people that we love, people that are around us, even like it can be a connection with a stranger. Like let's say you're on a walk How good does it feel when you look someone in the eye and they smile at you when you smile back?
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Or they say, morning, I hope you have a great day. That connection has the ability to change your whole day. And again, this can work into your perception of things. If you perceive that someone else has the ability to make it a beautiful impact on your day, then they do.
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So let's start our days open with our hearts open to receive. And we perceive, if we choose to perceive, beautiful things like that as a miracle, as something beautiful.
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So authenticity creates connection. And when you are fearlessly yourself, you are your most authentic self. And when you are your most authentic self, people are inspired to do the same.
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They almost feel the permission to be themselves because they are inspired by seeing you be yourself. So when you are unapologetically you, when you are speaking your mind, when you are, you know, making people laugh or when you're speaking boldly about your dreams or when you are just relaxed because you are happy, because you're finally doing what it is that you wanna do. You're not letting other people dictate your lives.
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Maybe you're feeling free because you're finally setting boundaries. This is all a part of becoming fearlessly you because the version of you that you were always meant to be has to be on your terms.
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And if you are living life on your terms, you have to create boundaries. You have to put up energetic protection bubble walls. You have to make decisions that might disappoint others.
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And this all probably seems right now scary. And you're probably like, you know what? I might even turn off this podcast because this is not made for me. I'm just comfortable right now. i don't want to have that conversation or I don't want to try that thing. i don't want to speak on that stage. I don't want to put that application in.
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i don't want to go for that promotion because I don't want to step on this person's toes. Enough is enough. I'm going to bring up Bronnie Ware's first lesson of her
Living Authentically and Avoiding Regrets
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book right now. I wasn't planning to do this until later.
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But the first lesson in Bronnie Ware's book, now i've talked about Bronnie Ware a lot on this podcast. This is where she interviewed the dying. The first thing, the most common thing that they said was, I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
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The fear of judgment, the fear of disappointing others can lead to lifelong regret. And I hope you can take this and use it because this is your life. You
Setting Boundaries and Energy Management
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have been given this life. Do you want to sit here in your life and just watch other people do what they want, succeed, become happy, take risks, you know, and see them living a happy life?
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and you're just like, oh, it's just too hard, it's too scary, I'm gonna fail, I'm scared of this person judging me. We don't wanna get to the end of our lives and think, what if? So becoming fearlessly you, what does that take?
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It takes understanding who you are. It takes understanding what it actually is that you want, quietening the outside noise. I don't care what society says. I don't care what your family expect. I don't care what your friends do.
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I don't care what the person on social media looks like or does with their career. What do you want to do? What lights you up? How do we get there? You're not going to like my answer. It's through meditation. It's through journaling.
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Again, this is not meant to be like a selly point, but I have the tools that can help you. I have online courses. I have meditations. I have journals that actually have the prompts that can ask you the real questions. Of course, my card decks. Do you know, actually, the amount of times that I pull from my very first, most special deck,
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Well, it's ah it's ah the most special deck to me, I think, because it was my first creation. But the positive guidance cards, the amount of times I pull the Be Fearlessly You card. And it's always when I'm giving other people too much of my energy.
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And not other people like Luke and Indigo or my family. It's when I'm giving people who don't respect me, my energy and my time, i will pull out that card. And it's like a slap in the face of like, Cleo, wake up.
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Why are you giving these other people these situations that are not yours, not your situations, not your problems, and the people are not the kind of people that you want to be involved with or not the kind of people that you need to impress or get validation from?
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Why are you giving them so much of your energy and your time? I am stepping into a version of myself now that I'm really proud of and it feels really empowering because i am saying no to so many things.
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Now, I, I talk so openly with you guys, but one thing that I am aware of is that my Pass Around the Smile community, we are full of really kind, real people.
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We wanna create positive change. We wanna be the best versions of ourselves. So sometimes I feel like I need to hold back when i when I have some personal stories because I don't want you guys to, here I am, I'm fearing judgment.
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But I think what you guys, love about this podcast is my authenticity. So I'll just say what I was about to say. So I get DMs constantly, DMs like a direct message on Instagram or emails, asking for people to pick my brains on how I created card decks, on who my manufacturer is, on how I started the podcast, on, um,
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you know they'll kind of tell me their life story and want me to almost be their psychologist or a psychic and i kind of have to say i'm not a psychologist i'm not a psychic but what i have started to do is these messages coming in and in and in and i am here to serve you like i that sounds very preachy don't want to sound like that but i am here to help you i'm here to guide you i'm here to inspire you and i will until the end of my time do my best to do that. And I'm doing that now through podcasting, through like, there's so many free resources as well. I'm not here to just try and sell my business. I honestly, I'm not because the things that lift me up and make me feel the best are the reviews that I get from you guys, from listening to my podcast or doing my meditations, the specific messages that you get from my card decks, when you're feeling so lost, it fills me up to no end.
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However, back to the point, I have started to say no, to not open these messages, to politely just say, i just do not have the time and energy now.
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And it feels honestly at the start, it felt so uncomfortable and it still does, especially like it could be people that I know. And I'm not saying don't reach out to me guys, by the way, I love when you reach out. I love talking to you. I love helping you when I have the capacity to, i will And, but some of the questions I guess are just like, literally I'll get a message and it's like, hi, um I love what you do. Can we please have a meeting so I can pick your brains? And I'm like, i don't know you I just, I don't know why I should give you two hours of my time and energy.
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I've never met you. I have no idea who you are to tell you everything so you can go and do what you want to do. And I used to do it, honestly, I would give so much of my energy and my time away. And now I have a daughter, sorry, but that two hours is going to her and that two hours is going to my family. Anyway, the point of this story was even though you want to be, because I'm sure you want to be a kind, helpful person who listens,
00:14:56
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who guides your family, your friends, who is there as like a light, right? You wanna be that person because we all wanna be helpful to those that we love or to even those that we don't know. We want to be a good person, right?
00:15:09
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You can still be bold and strong while still being kind and giving. And I think that's what I'm leaning into now is saying no and then moving on and not feeling guilty about saying no.
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so Where do your boundaries lie? Where are you giving too much away? Where are you feeling guilty when you shouldn't? I think one of the main, like one of, i would I would say the top three questions or stories that I get, whether it's in our Facebook community, in my DMs on comments, or in my courses or events, is people that say to me, I have someone negative in my life, whether they're a family member, a friend, or a colleague,
00:15:53
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that kind of like bleeds them for energy or validation or attention or brings them down when they're like speaking their truth or sharing their their dreams or whatever it is. I'd say honestly, that is one of the main problems that I hear from you guys.
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And I guess kind of like intertwining with the story, well, the example that I just told you guys about my DMs and the messages and the requests that I get that can just honestly make me feel so anxious and become so overbearing. And again, I'm not saying don't reach out, please, please still reach out to me.
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um But there's, you know, there is a way to do it. um And I've also had these people when I have politely said, you know, i i get So many messages like this a week, um I can't just you know tell you this or I can't just give you that, I can't meet you for coffee for two hours because I don't know you.
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um Some of them have got really angry and been really nasty back. and they're not the people that I want to be involved with. So putting a bubble of energy around myself in that time, we've got to remember that energy can be photographed with machines. We are all made up of energy.
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Not only are the people around you that may be bringing you down are made up of energy, the opportunities that you want are also made up of energy. So seeing yourself putting that physical bubble around you, allowing your good energy to stay in and not allowing their negativity negative energy to suck out of your kind of bubble is a really helpful way to do this. But in the process of becoming fearlessly you, these people, whether they are strangers on your social media or strangers within your business, colleagues at your work, family or friends, it can really take you away from being fearlessly you because they snap you back into almost what society demands of us, which is give other people your time, give other people your energy, tell them your deepest, darkest secrets to make them feel better, bring yourself down, misery loves company, hurt people, hurt people, all of that.
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It's like society encourages us or it's expected that we conform to what other people want or expect of us in that very moment that they need it.
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And I'm here to say, when you are on the journey to becoming fearlessly yourself, you cannot do that. As I said before, we can still be kind. We can still be great friends, a beautiful sister, a great partner, whatever it is, loving, giving. We can still be all of those things while still being firm, saying no and not feeling any guilt attached to that. As we know guilt is one of the highest, sorry, highest, guilt is one of the lowest vibrations that we can feel. So when we are feeling guilty, it's just not doing ourselves or those we love any favors at all.
00:18:45
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I went on a real tangent there, but I do really feel like my examples help you guys. So please let me know as well if you appreciate these examples. And I really just don't want you to like not reach out to me from what I said.
00:18:57
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It's just, I've had some like hectic messages and you guys, my smileys, my smileys that reach out are beautiful and I love talking to you and I love helping you when I have the capacity to, so please do.
Authenticity in Leadership
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So I think this study from Harvard Business Review kind of ah reaffirms what I am saying now. what are i guess the examples that I have just given you. So studies from Harvard Business Review show that authenticity in leaders increases trust, engagement, and fulfillment, proving that it is not just emotional fluff, it's science-backed self-development.
00:19:37
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I think what I struggle with personally running Pass Around the Smile is I want to be that person. Like in my intro, Pass Around the Smile is your go-to friend, the one that lifts you up and backs you till the end. She's there to guide and inspire, challenge and teach, remind you that your best self isn't out of reach.
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I want to be that person for all of you and I can be that person for all of you through you know, my courses and my events and my live tour that I'm planning and my podcast episodes and my card decks and whatever.
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I can be, but I think what I struggle with is I think I need to be that friend and that person for all of you all of the time. And when I do get these messages that are like full on,
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I freak out that I am mean or I'm nasty or I'm not giving enough because I also had someone message me back so angry at me when I wouldn't tell them who my manufacturer was for my card decks ah because, the and they said, you promote um sharing the love and that there's more than enough for everyone to go around.
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I can't believe you're not telling, like, and they had this huge go at me. I didn't know who they were. i I get like 30 messages ah month, I would say, asking who my manufacturer is.
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It's, I can't answer them. Like, you know, and I just, it's really hard for everyone, no matter what you do, to find that medium of being nice and giving and forthcoming versus stepping into your self-worth and when is enough enough?
00:21:15
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you know? And I think, yeah, there really is that fear for me that like my community will see me as this like fake or this, you know, person who is pretending they're like giving and loving and helpful when like she's actually
Fear of Rejection and Judgment
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not. And this is like very, I feel like I'm getting teary.
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um But this is what I want Pass Around the Smile to be. I'm going to keep being authentic with you guys because I think you can all relate to this. Now, this study being Leaders increases trust, engagement and fulfillment, proving that it's not just emotional fluff, it's science backed self-development.
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So I'm talking about authenticity in leaders here. You are all leaders. You are listening to this right now. You might be the leader in your family. You might be the leader in your friendship group. You might be the leader at work.
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You might be a leader ah within your church, within your dance troupe, within your community. online community. You might be a leader in like you own your own business. You are a leader.
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You might be a leader in your group assignment at the moment. There are going to be times in your life where you are a leader and authenticity in leaders increases trust, engagement, and fulfillment.
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And this inspires other people to do the same. So I hope that I am doing that every day for you guys, especially in this episode, which I did not even plan to share all of that, but here we are.
00:22:39
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please let me know. Please write. I might even actually, what I'm going to this episode in particular, I'm going to start a thread in the Instagram channel, as well as the Facebook community. All links are in the bio. You're all welcome to join the Pass Around the Smile community.
00:22:56
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I'm going to create a little um post about this episode where we can just like chat about it. I'm going reply to all the comments. I'm going to be there. I would love to hear what you guys think and feel about your own journey to becoming fearlessly you. I would love to hear what you thought about my examples. Like let's create a little chat about this episode and like, and share and help each other. Okay.
00:23:19
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So why does it feel so scary to become fearlessly ourselves? so this is, I'm reading this evolutionary psychology shows that we are wired for belonging.
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Thousands of years ago standing out meant risk of rejection from your tribe. Our brains still treat social rejection like physical pain.
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Now this is, I read this in, I think it was um Joe Dispenza's book, the, It's like a textbook. It's the crazy one, Becoming Supernatural. um I actually don't think I finished it because it's like so full on. It's a great book. But I think in that book, there was this study where in one room, they, like the people watched a movie where people had a car accident and they said to them, you're about to watch a movie, it's fake. These are actors, not really having the car accident, it's fake blood, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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And then in the other room, they said, watch this, this is real, this happened and this is this is real. Both of the groups had the same like physical, I'm not saying it right, but I think you get what I mean. Like they had the same physical reaction to what they were watching.
00:24:31
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in the way that their brains, even if they were told that it was fake, thought it was real. So this study is saying that our brains still treat social rejection like physical pain.
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We do not want to experience physical pain. Therefore we do everything in our power so we cannot experience social rejection.
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rejection from someone that you're asking out on a date, rejection from your boss when you ask for a pay rise, rejection from the competition that you are entering, rejection from the you know, there's so many ways that we experience rejection. And what we do is we tell ourselves, I will stay safe, I will stay comfortable. So I don't have to experience that rejection because I know that that rejection actually stimulates and feels like physical pain.
00:25:25
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However, if we hide away from the things that we want to do, which often the things that we want to do does put us at the risk of rejection. And as I said, thousands of years ago, risk of rejection from your tribe meant like you are kicked out of your family pretty much. So we're humans, we're still wired to kind of feel and um believe that that is the way.
00:25:48
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So this is why being too much or too sensitive or too difficult or too different feels way too scary. And we dim our shine, we stay quiet because it's It's scary how that will be received if we step into the version of us who is sensitive, who is loud, who is funny and maybe a bit inappropriate, who is whatever, whoever you are, it's scary because even when you know that you are living fully in alignment, you put yourself up for the risk of rejection, of judgment, for being too much, too sensitive, too difficult, too different.
00:26:33
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But as I said before, the fear of judgment and the fear of failing even, the fear of what other people think can lead to lifelong regret. It's not just something little that in the moment you're going like, oh, I won't do that, it's too scary, I'm just gonna move on and pretend like it never happened.
00:26:47
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No, the universe is like, okay, well, I won't give you what you deserve then. Because you're not like, I am open, I am deserving, I am willing to be myself so I can live this life of fulfillment.
00:26:59
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I've said this a million times as well, but I think we become really fine with being happy enough And it's like, no, you deserve to be fully happy, like really happy, genuinely fulfilled.
00:27:13
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Not a hundred percent of the time, because we're human. We're going to have days where we're angry, where we're resentful, where we're guilty, where we're jealous. Of course we are. We're going days where we're disappointed in ourselves and how we acted and what we said and how, you know, but but What's worse? Like making the change in that moment, being uncomfortable for a little bit versus lifelong regret versus getting to the end of your life and being like, why didn't I just try that?
00:27:39
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Why did I care so much about what that person thought? Why was I worried so much if I failed? Because we know like I have failed so many times, but every single time I failed, I was redirected.
00:27:50
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If I didn't fail the amount of times I did, i would not have passed around the smile. And pass around the smile brings me the fulfillment that I craved for years and years and years. But I was too scared to unlock it.
00:28:02
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I was too scared to see what was on the other side for me. When you are authentically yourself, when you are fearlessly you, you are in alignment. When we are in alignment, we become really powerful because we are clear,
00:28:15
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We know what we want. we become a magnet for the things, the people, the experiences that we crave. It just happens. What also happens is our self-worth rises. When we become fearlessly ourself, we're not looking for that validation. We're not looking for approval because we are like, this is what I want.
00:28:34
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And I'm going after it unapologetically. i have felt this. Like I really have felt this. There have been like years and years and years where I have, been like so low from a self-worth perspective.
00:28:49
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And I'm literally like messaging people to get validation, like to get approval on a certain thing or something I did or something I said or something I didn't do to get the approval from like a friend as to, no, it's too scary. That's what, it's okay that you didn't do it. Like just rest, like just, you know, and it feels so like desperate, you know, when you're in that state where you just want other people to tell you that,
00:29:14
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it's okay or like, and not from like it, not if you're, I think if you're sad and if you're going through something, it's definitely like, normal and okay to want people like okay let's say that you're feeling really anxious i know that when i'm feeling really anxious my mom and i talk about this so like when i'm feeling anxious i just want you to tell me that everything is okay that everything is fine and i think that's sort okay of course like i'm not saying don't be like a compassionate person who is like loving and um it gives you know good advice and listens i'm not saying like don't be that
00:29:47
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I'm saying find that balance in, are you just having a hard day and you need a bit of love and
Journey to Self-Worth and Internal Validation
00:29:54
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care? That's okay. Grab it, ask for it, ask for help um and receive it with love and and know that you deserve help and love. and you know But there are the days, there are the weeks, there are the months, there are the years where we are grabbing for any type of validation to affirm to us that we are not doing that thing because it's not the right time or it's too big or it's, you know, it's for other people, it's not for me because you were scared.
00:30:25
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So really try and work out that difference. With my example, when I did step into myself a little bit more fearlessly, my self-worth did naturally rise and it felt so empowering. And what I felt in that moment was no need, no need to ask anyone, did I do a good job? Should I do this? Tell me what I should do.
00:30:46
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Oh, I just, I need some like, ah just some guidance. I don't have it. and it's like, yes, you do have it. You have it inside you. You have it within your heart. Meditate quiet the outside noise. It is there.
00:30:58
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Okay, so to end, before we get on the little segment of I ah tell you how my tour is unfolding, ah want to read you this. Every time you honor yourself, you rewire your nervous system to see authenticity as safety, not danger. I'll read that one more time.
00:31:15
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Every time you honor yourself, you rewire your nervous system to see authenticity as safety, not danger. I love that because we are literally rewiring our brains. This is safe. It's okay.
00:31:29
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Putting yourself out of your comfort zone. It's okay. It means there's exciting things on the horizon. It means that you are telling the universe, I deserve this. I want this. I am open to this. We cannot keep thinking or expecting that we are going to experience this huge physical pain every time we experience rejection, right? I just said experience a million times, but you know what I mean.
00:31:53
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Okay, now I want you to reflect. Where are you still hiding? Where are you still lowering yourself? Where are you still being quiet? Where are you still feeling scared in your life?
00:32:06
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And come back to this, look at the time on the podcast now, wherever we're at, come back to this and journal on it later if if you want. Where are you still playing small? Where are you dimming your shine?
00:32:17
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Who are you letting walk all over you? And the next question is, where can I let myself be seen today? So where can you really step into yourself and let yourself be seen? Is it, you know, you're going to dinner with your friends tonight and you think, actually, I'm going to tell them about my goals.
00:32:34
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I'm going to, I'm going to tell them what I'm working toward. Is it at work, you know, you have just been letting other people take, you know, merit for the work that you have been doing. Maybe it's time to say, hey guys, I just like actually want to say like, I,
00:32:49
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I came up with this great idea and I'm feeling really good about it. And like, you know, I, ah came up with this, you know, came up with this again. This is like, this episode actually feels quite uncomfortable. Like, does it feel uncomfortable for you guys? Or is it just because like, I kind of like told you like the things I said before I'm feeling uncomfortable.
00:33:08
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um But I think it's uncomfortable for a good reason. We have to step into the next version of us. We have to step into the version of us who is fearlessly unapologetically ourself. And if that means that we have to stand up for ourself, if it means we have to stand up for others, if it means we have to create boundaries, if it means we have to say no, then let's start doing it. And it does not mean that you are mean.
00:33:29
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Who cares? Who cares what people think about you? Cleo, take your own advice. Who cares what people think of you? i think Because I genuinely love and appreciate my smiley community so much. I do care what you guys think of me. I will be open about
Tour Plans and Dream Pursuits
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that. Of course, I care what you guys think of me.
00:33:47
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But I have to know that by sharing by being authentic, I am practicing what I preach. And I hope that by being authentic, you are learning to do the same yourself and you are feeling safe to do so yourself.
00:34:00
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And please let me know if this is changing things in you, because this is what helps me keep going. When you guys say, when you said this, it made me feel this. Or when you said this, or when I pulled my card, it told me to do this and I did that. And oh my God, this is what fills me up to no end. And also I'm creating content now for my tour, which is a nice segue.
00:34:19
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i am trying to get every single bit and piece that you guys love the most on the podcast and create into a show. So guys, oh my God, where are we at? So you know how I told you, if you're if you're just tuning in for the first time, welcome to Buzz Around a Smile.
00:34:38
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I am planning a tour that will start with Gold Coast, Sydney and Melbourne, but the goal is that they go so well that I then do the rest of Australia and hopefully one day i can definitely do New Zealand and then go even further overseas.
00:34:53
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However, for now, it's gonna be Gold Coast, Sydney, Melbourne, I am manifesting it to be in theaters. i am manifesting this to be a show. Like we are lifting the scale.
00:35:05
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Is this scary? Yes. It's the scariest thing I've ever done in my life. Am i like just going a little crazy in my mind with what I want.
00:35:18
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Yeah. Do I feel like I'm Beyonce or something going on tour? Yeah. Am I? Absolutely not. So I, okay, where am I at? You know how I said it was happening in October. I was like, this is going to happen any in October.
00:35:32
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Guess what? It's happening in May. It's happening in May guys. And I hope this excites you. I hope you're free. I hope if you're listening, even if you're not from like Gold Coast, Sydney or Melbourne. And I just like, if you can make a weekend out of it, I don't know, but I just want you there so bad.
00:35:48
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um So where are we at? I am very close to hiring. a production tour manager. I'm going to tell you a little bit more about this next episode because we're going to lock some things in today, but it's a huge manifestation story, not just from my point of view, but from the amazing lady I'm hiring.
00:36:08
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it's a manifestation story from her point of view as well. So once I lock everything in, I'll tell you guys that because I think that's gonna really inspire you and excite you. um But basically where we're at now is it's time to create the show.
00:36:21
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I started getting really overwhelmed with the sheer amount of things like i was very in over my head. Basically I had emailed all of these theaters and they had written back to me things like, okay, please send me your technical writer and how many audio guys will need? How many lighting guys you need? Like someone to work on your merch table at the front. And I was like, what?
00:36:43
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Like, oh, okay. They're like, what rehearsal time will you need? How many ushers? I'm like, what? So that's when i I thought this is so scary because I have never hired anyone except for my mum who I'm like, mum, can you like work for 20 minutes? Because that's the only amount of orders that I have or like, you know, sometimes it's a whole day. It's my mum. So I can be very flexible with that.
00:37:08
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But I am now hiring someone to help me bring this dream to life. I don't know if I have enough money. I don't know if I... look the limiting beliefs are pouring over me who am i who am i to do this show who am i to fill a theater am i really going to fill a theater how am i going to make a show where people leave feeling so guided and inspired and excited like the overwhelming thoughts i'm up late every night at the moment thinking how am i going to do this guys this is the biggest
00:37:44
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goal that I have ever set in my life. It's the biggest dream. And I want this and this whole process to inspire you to do the same. What is something big that you want?
00:37:55
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Now we know that the universe can't tell the difference between big and small. So the universe is probably like, Cleo, if you just change your perception to be like, I can do this, this is fun, this is exciting, I can fill a theater easy, which I'm working on, the universe would just provide. And I know that, but I'm not quite there yet.
00:38:10
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So I'm working on it. But I want to tell you guys how I'm feeling so you know that when you feel this in creating your own dreams, you know that it's normal, you know that it's part of the process. So what is something that you want?
00:38:22
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Even if you think, if you perceive this dream to be big and scary right now, that's okay. we're talking about fear. We're talking about stepping in to the version of us that's fearlessly and unapologetically ourselves. I am doing that and I want you guys to follow suit. I want you to do it with me.
00:38:39
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And like the tour can be like the party where we all have like moved on, moved forward or received our manifestations already. So that's where I'm at at the moment. The limiting beliefs are pouring in. i started feeling a bit anxious, but then I thought I'm going to delegate and I need to trust that I will have enough money to pay this girl.
00:38:58
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And i ah by hiring this beautiful person, i am giving her a great opportunity. i am making things easier for myself, for my family.
00:39:13
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And I'm saying to the universe, no, no, this is the real deal. This is not my pass around the smile events that I started out with where i you know, booked a local place and put it on Facebook.
00:39:24
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No, this is like, there's a box office guys. Like we're doing this. Do I feel ready? No. Will I ever feel ready? No. So why not do it now? Why not jump head first in?
00:39:38
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First head in? Head in first. Head in first. head It's getting to that time. You guys know when I start talking gibberish, it's time to stop. But i love you guys. Join the Facebook community. I'm going to make a thread on there and in the Instagram channel as promised on the day this podcast goes live so we can start like a little chat about it so we can inspire each other, get excited.
00:40:01
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oh my God, now that I'm talking about the tour, I'm like so excited to go and work on it today. And this is the other thing is we get to make choices that lead us to living a life that excites us.
00:40:14
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However many years ago, those years and years on end that I talk about where I was desperately trying to become this successful actress, I was so unfulfilled. If I could tell myself then, c Cleo, you're gonna be working, gonna own this company,
00:40:27
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And every day you're going to be so excited with what you're
Taking Action Despite Fear
00:40:30
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creating. I would not have believed. I would not have believed that. And maybe you're not believing me now that you can also have that because you might have a belief that's like, no, I have to just work for money and I have to work hard to get what I want. And I have to do things I don't want to do to get what I want. I used to believe that.
00:40:46
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Now I do not. Like, as I said before, the amount of things that I say no to now simply because I just don't want to do it. And then it's like the universe almost rewards me for being fearlessly me in that moment and going, no, I actually don't want to do that. That doesn't serve me.
00:41:01
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Or even sometimes it might be like, oh, we can't pay you, but can you do this? Or we can't pay you. much And now I'm going, no, that doesn't serve me. And I am better than that. And of course, sometimes it's like, no, no, I do want to do that thing for free because that does feel really good. Or I do want to help this person or I do want it. There's times where it's okay to do that, but there are other times where you need to go no, thank you And it's like the universe will then reward you for stepping into your power for saying no, and they will send you something as like a little reward. That's what I'm feeling is happening at the moment.
00:41:39
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But I guess the lesson in what I'm doing with the tour at the moment is I am creating it to make it big and exciting. And I can step into that version of me now. I used to think, oh, when I'm like maybe 40, I'll be way more established and I can do my tour then because my audience will be way bigger. I will have a lot more experience and I will really feel like I know what I'm doing then.
00:42:02
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not I'm doing it now. I'm creating it now, even though I'm scared, even though I don't feel ready. So I hope you guys can do the same thing. Thank you so much LSKD for sponsoring this episode. Make sure you check the show notes for their up to 70% off sale. How exciting.
00:42:17
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Thanks for listening to the Pass Around the Smile podcast. I'll talk to you all soon.
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