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Pt 3 ~ Behind the Magic ~ Pressure, Patience & Divine Timing
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I’m back …. Already! Make sure you head back and listen to part 1 and 2 before this episode!
This part was recorded on September 22, and is a check-in on where I’m really at in my monthly goal setting journey. After starting the month feeling expansive and aligned, I hit a point where I felt discouraged, uneasy, and honestly a little anxious. I even experienced the Sunday Scaries for the first time in years.
I share openly about:
✨ The pressure I felt as the end of September approached
✨ How I slipped into controlling energy by obsessively checking analytics and my bank account
✨ The lies I started telling myself ~ that I wasn’t capable, smart, or worthy enough
✨ What happens when we stop honouring ourselves and our goals
✨ Why divine timing and the universe’s rhythm with time are so important to remember
This is another tell-all episode ~ because I know how common it is to feel wobbly when you’re working toward something big. My hope is that it reminds you you’re not alone, and that the dips are part of the journey too. If you’ve ever felt the weight of your own expectations or the fear that you’re not “enough,” this one’s for you. Let it motivate you to keep going, trust divine timing, and continue honouring yourself on the way to your dreams. I’m SO excited to come back for a little ‘review’ on this ‘behind the magic’ series, which was a little accidental to be honest! Thank you so much for listening. Join the Facebook community below and get connected, I would love to hear from you!
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The Pass Around the Smile podcast is recorded on Bundjalung Country, in South East Queensland, Australia. We acknowledge the Yugambeh people of the Bundjalung Nation, the traditional owners of this land. We pay our respects to Elders past, present and emerging.
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Introduction and Host Introduction
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Pass Around the Smile is like your go-to friend, the one that lifts you up and backs you to the end. She's there to guide and inspire, challenge and teach, and remind you that your best self isn't out of reach.
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Self-development, manifestation, self-love and more, it's time to trust the process more than ever before.
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Welcome to Pass Around the Smile, the podcast. I'm your host, Cleo Massey, and I am so glad you're here. Let the magic begin.
00:00:31
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Hello and welcome back. I don't even know if it's a welcome back for you because it might just be a continuation of the same episode for you as you're listening. I still don't know how I'm going to structure this, but what I do know is that I am going to release this up till what I'm recording now, like now, like today or tomorrow or as soon as I can, because I really want, I started freaking out being like, well, how am I going to get to the end of September and report to my smileys how this has gone and then also get it out with a few days later?
00:01:08
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like still to go of September. So you guys can get ready for this to happen for you in October. Um, gosh, that's where my head's at lately. That's where my head is. Um, so what I've decided to do is i will record this segment now, which will be the last segment of this first kind of section, I guess,
00:01:27
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Uh, I'll put it out that will give you guys maybe like a week before October starts. So you can have time to listen and think about what you like, what goals you want to set for October.
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And then during October sometime, i will then release like an episode that will wrap all of this up more as like a chit chat reflection. So i can let you guys know how I went Uh, but I'll let you guys know how I, how I'm going
Personal Milestone Celebration
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right now. Right. It's the 22nd of September now, which is actually a very special date for me because my little baby's 18 months today can, oh my God, i actually can't believe it.
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I remember sitting down recording the podcast when I was pregnant and I often still go back to old podcasts to listen every now and then. And like those ones, God, I was just so puffed. I was like, anyway,
00:02:16
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You guys have been on the journey with me. It's just so special. Okay. So it's the 22nd of September. How am I going? Not as well as I wanted to be going. I've got to be honest. I'm still going well. Don't get me wrong. I am meditating more than I have meditated in years.
00:02:36
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ah So as I mentioned, Josie and i we have like a notes that we're sharing. She's going very well. She has done every single day. i I don't know where I missed a day, but I didn't think I missed any days, but I'm actually like two days behind on the notes thing. So I must have missed a day here or there, but I also must admit there have been two days or three days where I have just done sleeping meditations. Now there is nothing wrong with a sleeping meditation. Oh my gosh. Sleeping meditations are incredible and magical and
00:03:10
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a really powerful time to meditate because you're in that theta state. And also i really find when I'm doing sleeping meditations that they like really help me have a deeper sleep. Like I wake up feeling more refreshed and kind of more hopeful and excited.
00:03:26
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However, for my September little mission, my mission Through meditation was to really connect with myself, with my higher powers and to really be able to get into that meditative state, meditative state really quickly and feel really like powerful and connected.
00:03:44
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For me, sleeping meditations don't do that. because they just relax me. So on those days, I hadn't meditated during the day or during the afternoon. So I just did a sleeping meditation to like tick it off um because that this is my, you know, my little challenge for this month. um So for me personally, that was a bit of a cop out.
Meditation and Mindfulness Goals
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So what I'm going to try and do for the last week of September is really challenge myself now, whether that is through two meditations or one longer one, but I really am wanting to focus on doing them during the day because when I'm meditating during the day, I'm like sitting up and I could be doing other things like I could be cleaning or I could be you know, with indigo, or I could be going out or scrolling on my phone, but no, I'm choosing to meditate.
00:04:33
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And that way I'm actually training my brain and my mind to really listen and hone in. And that's when you slip into that state where you're like, Ooh, I'm in it. I'm powerful. Whereas when I'm falling asleep, I'm like, Oh, this is so nice. I'm just falling asleep.
00:04:47
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So that's where I'm at with the meditation side of things. I, I'm definitely feeling a lot better and I can feel the days I actually texted Joss when I didn't, like those two days where I was like really busy and I didn't prioritize the meditation like I should have, my mood shifted.
00:05:08
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I was not as hopeful. i was not as positive, as optimistic, and I was lacking clarity. I felt really clouded. And it's crazy that literally just a couple of days,
00:05:19
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And I was still meditating, like ah doing sleeping meditations, but a couple of days, not like honoring myself and my goals in that month. Just the, uh, the flow on effect that that hit had was quite huge.
00:05:33
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And what I have felt as a result as well is I'm overall feeling a little uneasy and anxious. Like I had the Sunday scaries yesterday And handle my heart.
00:05:46
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I don't think I've had the Sunday scaries. I would have had the Sunday scaries like a handful of times since I started working pass around the smile full time. But like I'm talking like I could maybe three times.
00:05:58
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I used to get the Sunday scaries like all the time when I was working my other jobs, when I was acting, when I was auditioning all the time. I'll get it. Wow. A lot. But now I get to Sunday and I am just so excited for my week ahead. I'm so motivated. I'm so ready. i am like full of hope. And yes, I'm like, oh, I've got a big week or like I'm feeling nervous. Sure. But yesterday it was like the full blown Sunday scaries. I was not dreading. I was, I think I was dreading my work day a little bit today because I had some projects that felt really big and scary. But what I've realized is that I did not have the emotional ability to filter out all of the lies I was telling myself about these projects.
Dealing with Anxiety and 'Sunday Scaries'
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I was going on about in my head, like, I'm not good enough for this. I'm not capable enough for this. Like basically I have this company paying me to do a pass around the smile workshop for them. And I've done this a million times. I know I'm good at it. I know I'm capable.
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I know that people really like it and see real results when they work with me. For some reason, this has hit a little bit differently. no I know what the reason is. i know what the reason is. It's because i lapsed in meditation and it's because I lapsed in something that was really, really important to me, which was dedicating time for myself every day in September to do this. Like it's not necessarily just because I didn't meditate. It's because my self-worth lacked in those moments where I didn't put myself first.
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I pushed that aside and it's created a flow on effect that has equaled anxiety and ah clouded mindset. And that, um, yeah, gave me the Sunday scaries and I did not like the feeling. And I want this to also serve as like a little reminder that,
00:07:52
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I really do believe you should not feel the Sunday scaries all the time. Like there are so many people who feel them every week, who live for the weekend and then come Sunday lunchtime, they're feeling so anxious about the week ahead because they don't enjoy what they're doing or they're scared of what they're doing. They're full of fear. They're lacking clarity. They're lacking hope.
00:08:13
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There's so many different reasons. That was me. That was me so many years ago. And now I'm so the opposite. And I'm so proud to say that is because I have done the work to get here. um And this was a little reminder of just how easily I can slip back into that if I'm not careful.
Choosing Excitement Over Stress
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So please let this be a reminder that you deserve a life that feels exciting and fulfilling. And don't get me wrong, you'll still feel like nervous and You'll still push yourself every now and then because that's what life's about, but you shouldn't feel like debilitating anxiety or like really negative about your week ahead.
00:08:48
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This is your life. You get to choose how to live your life. Like you have a choice. You have a choice to stay in a job that is creating crippling anxiety and stress and therefore probably creating physical side effects like headaches or sickness or whatever.
00:09:05
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or you have a choice to make some changes. Like you do have that choice. And you're probably listening to this being like, no, I don't have a choice because I can't change my job right now because of X, Y, and Z. Or I can't change anything in my life right now because I don't have time or I don't have the money or I don't have the support.
00:09:21
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I hear you. I know that we are all... We all have different circumstances, but I think I want to hit you with some hard truths. You can make changes. You can make changes. They can be small, but those small changes can add up.
00:09:36
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And I bet the universe is trying to have a say in your life. But you may be missing those signs, coincidences, because you are blocked by control. You are trying to control your life and you're also blocked by fear.
00:09:50
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Okay, I'm going off on tangents, but let's get back to where I'm at Um, so something that I also started to realize was that now that we're at the 22nd of September, of course, I feel like I'm holding myself very accountable by telling you guys about my goals and about my manifestations. And of course, like I want them to work a for me, but B so I can tell you, oh my God, guys, it worked so I can inspire you to do the same.
00:10:19
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So then I started letting the pressure build. I started looking at my numbers and yeah, I'm closer to a million subscribers, but if I were to do the math and I started to do them, I started to do the math to see if my like weekly listens would get me to a million by the time September ended. And no, it it doesn't, but also Like that was me absolutely controlling my desire.
00:10:48
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And was I in a place of trust and faith when I was doing that math and seeing if it would all work out? No. um And I knew, i knew this was a goal that wasn't going to just get there by my natural
Goals and Divine Timing
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numbers. I knew it would take magical energy from the universe, a positive mindset. I knew it would take something really exciting and new and different to happen, to drive more subscribers and listeners to my podcast. I knew that. That's why I created the goal because it was like, I don't want to say the word big, but I guess this is the problem.
00:11:27
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it is still big for me. It's still feeling like a stretch for me. And that's why it hasn't happened yet because I'm separating myself from the goal and i am I'm feeling a little far away from it. And because I've put a time limit on it being September, it's really created this like vibration of worry and lack and like the fear of disappointment that If things don't unfold exactly how I wanted them to in September.
00:11:56
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Now, something that I and I will just say as well, this is pretty much exactly the same for my other goal, which was make X amount of money in September. I'm actually, yeah, I'm not there.
00:12:11
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And yeah, I will admit i i'm I'm starting to control my desire. And i have to be honest about this, A, because...
00:12:24
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I'm an honest gal on this podcast, but B, because you guys might go through the same thing in October where you're starting to lose faith faith. You're starting to fall off the bandwagon. You're looking at the time. October's starting to end. I'm not nearly there.
00:12:39
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So I would like to suggest that we change up the game a little bit here. I know deep in my heart that the universe works very differently to humans in the way that each of us see time.
00:12:58
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The universe doesn't see time in the way that we do. We see time like it's a very human construct, right? To see time. See, the universe is all about energy and alignment. And you've heard me say it a million times, divine timing. Now, I'm not saying you cannot put a time limit on your goal or your manifestations because some people really thrive on that.
00:13:20
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And to be honest, I was excited and I still am. I still am really excited to reach these goals within September. And I went to say just then, just so you know, potentially reach these goals. But no, I'm excited to reach these goals within September.
00:13:34
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But what I'm then adding on the end is I'm so excited to reach these goals in in September if it is right and if it is perfect. But if it's a little bit later, i also accept that too.
00:13:46
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I accept this or something better. Back to that Gabby Bernstein saying, I accept this or something better. I don't know, right? Remember how I always say, like, we always look at all the things that could go wrong, but what about all of the things that could go right?
00:13:59
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Let's say, for example, and remember I'm doing this in September. So let's say on October 2 that the universe has this big, bold, beautiful plan. It's been cooking up for me.
00:14:13
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And October 2 is the day that it like comes to fruition and arrives. And Yet if I'm like so in control of no, everything has to reach those numbers or get to that amount by September because that was in my goal. And if I don't get that, then I have failed.
00:14:30
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Along that process, I bet your bottom dollar that I would then block that beautiful manifestation that is coming, let's say on October 2, for example, I would block it from coming because my fear, my lack, the scarcity mindset that I would be putting out, the vibration of I'm not good enough, I haven't made it, I'm a failure would far outweigh the practices that I've done in September to visualize and to meditate, to journal about bringing in these desires. Okay.
00:15:02
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So we've got to remember as well, and this is what, like, I started thinking about time a lot during this, like, September thing. And this isn't me also, like, making excuses as to why this may not work out for me either. this is me trying to deconstruct this law of attraction as I do every time I use it to just try and understand it better. And I'm sharing all of this with you guys because there is nothing worse than feeling pressure or guilt or disappointment. And we should never feel those big, big emotions that really lower our vibration.
00:15:39
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for not achieving our goals by a certain time. Like that's silly. Like that is really silly. So what I have been thinking is that all this like beautiful, exciting work that I've been doing right in September where I'm like, no, I'm expanding. This is my most expansive month yet. I'm manifesting, I'm visualizing, I'm journaling, I'm meditating, I'm talking as if I've, you know, achieved what I've achieved. Like it's feeling exciting every time something happens.
00:16:06
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happens big or small, it's like, I'm choosing to be like, this is a gift. This is a miracle. The universe is like doing its thing. Like everything is working. What I am choosing to believe now is that, okay, maybe I don't, let's say I don't reach the goal by how many days does September have 30 days has September 30 days, 30 days.
00:16:30
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Let's say on September 30, I haven't reached one of my goals, right? Who's to say that that goal has not already been completely created and planned and orchestrated by the universe up there with all the magical energy?
00:16:47
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because it it has been right because I've thought it. So if I've thought it, I've created it. If I've created it, it's there, it's it's energy. It's just now a matter of it coming into my physical existence.
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And I have to trust that all of the little pieces are going to come together how they need to. And if it comes in October, hey, if it comes in November, it will come in a better way than it would if it had come in September.
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just because I thought that that was right. Oh, I liked that. I love when I get on a roll and I'm like, oh yeah, Cleo, like I'm teaching myself right now, guys. I am teaching myself.
Aligning Energy with Goals
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We've got to remember that the universe responds to our energy, our belief, and our self-worth.
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And If that is not fully lined up to what we are calling in, then the energies are conflicting. They don't match up. And honestly, the last five days, the Clio that I have been, energies wouldn't have been matching up because I have been lacking hope.
00:17:51
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I haven't been like extremely negative or anything like that, but I haven't been honoring myself how I was in the first like 18 days, let's say of September. um And that translates, that absolutely translates. So I think if there's a gap between your manifestation and how you are feeling, like the energy that you're putting out, there's that space in between where we have a chance to grow into alignment. We have a chance to grow, to change, to alter.
00:18:21
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So some kind of reframes that we could say is that I trust my desire is on its way in perfect timing or in divine timing. Even if my desire comes later, it is still unfolding beautifully for me.
00:18:37
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So they're the things that I am going to start to say for the end of September, just to release that pressure. And I'm really intrigued to see how that change in my mindset also ah kind of reflects and shows me the ah little miracles and things that unfold like I want that to start coming up again because the last five days I've found that it kind of all got a little bit stagnant again it's all slowed down again like the the exciting emails aren't coming in as much like you know the flow on effect from my thoughts isn't
00:19:14
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immediately transpiring in front of me anymore as it was at the start of September. So I'm intrigued to see if I can say things like, I trust my desires are on its way. Like, even if it comes later, like I'm so excited to have it and see it and I'm so thankful that it's coming and It's all happening in divine timing.
00:19:36
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I really think that will get me out of that seat of control and just have me feeling excited again and in alignment with my desires
Positive Energy and Unexpected Manifestations
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again. You know what's really interesting? So during that start of September where I was gaining momentum, things were happening and I was very like aware and alert to all of the good things happening around me, which is such a beautiful like state to be in, isn't it?
00:19:59
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But what i realized was that Apart, like separating from the three big goals that I've told you guys about for September, I found that I was manifesting all of these other exciting things and things that I didn't really ask for or I wasn't expecting. And this is a reminder that when we're vibrating high and when we're feeling good about other things, other things separate to those things can manifest and surround us.
00:20:27
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But then as a second interesting point, when I did fall into that, like, you know, I was losing a bit of momentum. I was losing hope. I was letting the pressure take over.
00:20:38
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Those manifestations also went stagnant. And I think this is just a reminder of how powerful energy is like energy. is we're all made up of energy. Everything that you want is made up of energy.
00:20:51
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You can become like a magnet to those energies. And science backs this. Like there's, literally, I've said this a million times, there's machines that photograph energy leaving the body.
00:21:01
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So really focus on where your energy goes. What what is the saying? Where intention goes, energy flows. So where is your intention going right now? Is your intention going toward that friend who's going through a really hard time? And yes, you're like being such a good friend because you're empathizing with them, but are you feeling into their energy too much?
00:21:22
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ah Another example, ah is your intention going to that coworker who annoys the hell out of you for X, Y, and Z reasons? Is your intention going to try and fix your family's like problems or your friends' issues, like issues that aren't yours?
00:21:42
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Your intention goes, no, intention flows where energy goes. What did say? Intention flows. intention Energy goes where intention flows. Wow, guys, you know I'm shocking at these quotes. I get them so mixed up, but i you get what I mean, right?
00:21:59
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Anyway, I think this is a sign. We're going to end this podcast here. I don't know if I've uploaded this in segments. I don't know if this has all been one, but what I can promise you is that in October, there will be a reflection.
00:22:12
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for all of this and um I will let you know how I went now that I am reframing gently my kind of affirmations around timing.
00:22:24
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I've got to remember the universe knows what it's doing and I was definitely stepping in trying to control with a time frame.
Flexible Goal Setting
00:22:30
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I do still think it's exciting to have a bit of a time frame because you can take actionable steps within that time frame, right?
00:22:37
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I have taken so many actionable and inspired steps toward manifesting the a million subscribers, subscribers um listens, a million subscribers will be great. We'll get there one day.
00:22:50
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um Manifesting this certain amount of money and meditating daily. I have... And when I say meditating daily, I mean deeper than that. It's for me, as I mentioned, it's full blown, like connecting to myself and my higher powers when I'm meditating, getting into that meditative state that I used to be able to get into just like boom and just feel so powerful.
00:23:12
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I have taken so many actionable steps to get these things. And like, I don't think I would have done that as effectively and as quickly as I did if I didn't have a timeframe.
00:23:26
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So still, I'm Create timeframes, but then release the pressure. I accept it then or later, whenever is right and perfect.
Astrology and Manifestation Teaser
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My smileys, I hope you are enjoying this. um i will I will talk to you in October.
00:23:40
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Before the October episode though, I, my next episode is with, I'm just going to spill it. I think I'm going to spill the beans because again, if you've listened this far, you are a true smiley and I love you. And let me know, let me know if you liked this little like series, because I can do, I can do more like this. Like I can take you along the journey as I transition or,
00:24:01
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tried things or manifest things or change things. So let me know. I love your feedback. I love your feedback. um The next episode is Astro Tash. She is the most incredible astrologist and she is going to take us through October's kind of predictions, the energy, but also like not just October. Like if you're listening to this late, it doesn't matter.
00:24:21
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Um, she's just incredible and we'll be talking, ah through manifestation and how we can use astrology to like help our manifestations, powerful times in astrology.
00:24:32
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But she just, she talks about it in such a digestible way. So she will be coming next and then we'll come the episode after that to reflect on all of this. I love you guys. You are amazing. I'll chat to you soon.
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