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The perfect man, family drama & tipping culture
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Are we doing this right? Join us for a casual conversation where we build our perfect boyfriend, weigh in on family drama that inevitably comes up over the holidays, and deep dive into tipping culture at med-spas. Plus the infamous Saltburn scene, Christmas karaoke and road rage karma.
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Transcript
Introductions and First Impressions
00:00:07
Speaker
Hello listeners. Welcome back to the second episode of the Audacity podcast. I'm Rachel and I'm joined today with my co-host Heather and Haley. There they are. Hey. It's been a day. All right. We're jumping right into it. We're just talking about our list of icks and red flags. Heather, you said you started it. Yeah. So some icks. Okay.
00:00:36
Speaker
These are random. I just started thinking about things that had annoyed me in the last 24 hours. Hanging their keys on their belt loop. I find that kind of sexy. It's like so problematic. It's kind of like a janitor. I don't even think about that.
00:01:05
Speaker
I don't know. I just don't like it. I don't know why. Throwing up drunk, like guys who can't handle their alcohol, like throwing up is just, I don't know. Throwing up in general is just for me. Rachel. Not because of me, something that we've witnessed, okay? I don't throw up drunk. I throw up drunk like once every five years, five to 10. Same. Same. So seldom. That was a nick.
00:01:32
Speaker
obviously peeing like peeing the bed peeing themselves like no falling while drunk like don't fall like don't trip on yourself like just keep it together do this weekend
00:01:52
Speaker
I did nothing like this actually.
Annoying Behaviors and Dating Icks
00:01:57
Speaker
I was at my son's baseball tournament all weekend. I spent 11 hours at the baseball field on Sunday. So quite the opposite. I was just thinking like, what are they chewing too loud? Aggressively slurping soup. Like I just, I might be a slurper though. So here's the thing. No one's around slurp, but like not
00:02:22
Speaker
Oh, I don't know. Hunch over their food in a group. Like it's one thing if you're just like, I don't know, man, just manners, manners. My man's hungry though, so. What? Yeah, what? Like blow your nose at the table is another one or like around me while I'm eating in general. I just really, you're the mom of a nine year old boy. And he doesn't do any of these things.
00:02:52
Speaker
So like if my nine-year-old doesn't do these things, like, yeah, you know, I don't know. Okay. I want to add to this list from a getter. They have on their dating profile that their love language is physical touch. That's such an ick. I have another one for what? To really jump on that one, like on hinge where it says, um,
00:03:16
Speaker
not sure what my dating goals are or figuring out my dating goals. It's like, what does that even mean? Figuring out your dating goals is terrible. Well, I think that just, I mean, that just obviously depends on how much I like. It's very obvious what that means. That means that they want to hook up, right? Which is okay. Then just say that. I don't know. I went on my first
00:03:40
Speaker
Oh, yeah. I know. I want to hear about first go dating out date this past weekend and like a very long time. It was good. Turns out 47 is not too old for me. It was cute. It was fun. We went to dinner. We had more drinks. I went home like a lady.
00:04:03
Speaker
Regrettable. He definitely tried. No, no, no. Not this Rachel. Yes, but I do plan on doing some more dating, if you will.
Building the Perfect Partner
00:04:21
Speaker
I'm excited. I saw this thing on TikTok right before we jumped on here. I want to do it with you guys. It's called the Build the Boyfriend Challenge.
00:04:32
Speaker
Oh, okay. I'm game. So there are five characteristics. One, two, three, four, five. Okay. There are five characteristics. I'm going to list. And from those five characteristics, you can pick two only to build your perfect boyfriend or like man or whatever, how that we know you're married. So I only get two. Hey man, figurative. Or there's a sixth category that you can only choose that one. Okay.
00:05:02
Speaker
So I'll list the five and you can choose. Okay, there's gonna be five. You can choose two from, or a six, but that's the only one you can choose. Okay. Okay. So, consistently really good in bed. Ten. Wink, wink. Okay. Is over six feet tall. Has an incredible sense of humor. Is financially generous and or fits into your family and social life perfectly.
00:05:30
Speaker
So from those five, I can read them again if you want. You can pick two, or the sixth one that you can only choose one is it's just a guy from your past, like a real guy who gets to remain anonymous, but you have to say that that's what it is. That's not it. She's like, I guess we'll go back to the five. What are the five again?
00:05:59
Speaker
Okay. Good in bed, over six feet tall, great sense of humor, financially generous, or fits into your family and social life perfectly. What would you say? I would say, I don't know what financially generous means. Does that mean just financially secure or just kind of what he has? Yeah. I think that just means isn't stingy with money and is willing to treat you when the time's appropriate.
00:06:26
Speaker
I could treat myself. I would say three and five. So incredible sense of humor and fits into your family and social life perfectly. Yeah.
00:06:37
Speaker
Because man, five is like, whoo, you can call that five. Yeah, for sure. Five without a doubt. Again, this is hypothetical.
Modern Dating Challenges
00:06:47
Speaker
Right. Like, hi. Three kids. Yeah. Crazy. Yeah. Crazy big family. That's important. And if it fits right in, that's really great. It is really great. And then a sense of humor.
00:06:59
Speaker
over six feet. That's the hottest. Who cares? Yeah. Yeah, like you're the sexiest. It really is like a good sense of humor. Someone that could keep you laughing because you're not like a lot of other things are fleeting, you know? Mm-hmm. Hmm. Yep. Hey, what are yours? Well, I'm not going to copy you, so I'll just go the Scorpio route and say number one and five. Listen, one is so important. One is like a close, I would say three is the most important, but like one and five are all.
00:07:29
Speaker
Like, cuz listen, like, if you and my mom don't get along, at least I know we're good at home, right? Facts though, facts. Rachel, you go. Mine is a random guy from the past, so it's gonna remain anonymous. Wow! For the plot. Wow! Does he know? Like, if he's watching, does he know? Do we know?
00:07:56
Speaker
I hope that they all think that they're the one. There she is. Now he knows probably. I feel like I do. Do we know? What? No. I have no idea. Maybe you guys know. You guys probably know. You guys can probably guess within three guesses. I think so. No. I am shooketh right now. I have no idea. I mean, I'll say this again, probably once an episode, but like,
00:08:25
Speaker
since we were 12. And if you, I couldn't even name one person that I would think you'd even want to maybe attempt to entertain, let alone someone you would surpass one through five for. Well, what if they're all five? Wow. Again, don't think that person could be. But the person does get to remain anonymous. So for the story,
00:08:55
Speaker
Okay, we can move on because I could spend a while on this one. I have a guess. Anyways, let's go on. I love that everyone's a little bit rattled by my answer. I'm so rattled. I haven't been a little rattled. I'm so rattled. All right.
00:09:24
Speaker
Well then, what else have you guys been up to? What did you guys do this weekend? Everything. Yeah, tell us about your weekend, Haley. I went literally everywhere you could possibly go in LA. I did all the things, I saw all the people. Yeah, it's not great. No, no, elaborate. Yeah.
00:09:48
Speaker
Well,
Weekend Highlights and Personal Stories
00:09:49
Speaker
I mean, I just don't know who in their right mind goes to Venice, West Hollywood, Beverly Hills, all in one night, you know, just hitting up the rounds. I saw like multiple friend groups, almost got in a fight on the street. No girl trade. No, no, no. Yeah. Learned a lot of lessons. Yeah. No, this girl, the story's really not that good, but yeah, basically Instagram will really
00:10:17
Speaker
get you in trouble, even though I did not do anything wrong. We'll just put it there. Ladies, be careful because it's not always what it looks like. I'm such a little angel on Instagram.
00:10:34
Speaker
because you're like so secretive. Yeah, I am still really nervous. I'm, wow. I'm even silenced. That's smart. You can't even tag you in things. I know. You're really odd. You can't. You can't. Now that I never slip up. Yeah, and the rest of us. Kids, take, take notes. Yeah, mine wasn't very eventful. I just, baseball tournament,
00:11:03
Speaker
all weekend. They won. They won the championship, which is great. Great. Got their little fake metal rings, which is cool. But yeah, man, they're long days, long days. Travel baseball is, it's cool. It's fun. It's awesome. My son loves it. So I do it, but it's, it's a commitment for sure. And prior to filming, I flooded half of my house, which
00:11:31
Speaker
stressful and eventful. I was actually bleaching baseball pants in my laundry room sink and simultaneously trying to get kids in the bath and start dinner and I left the sink running in the laundry room.
00:11:48
Speaker
Oh my god, I thought you like flooded your washer. No, you don't have the faucet on. I just have that much going on. And like, damn, like that's so loud. That's so loud. cooking dinner talking my mom's my mom's over.
00:12:05
Speaker
And like 30 minutes later, I like, I'm like, I need to shut the lock because I thought it was, I had the washer going and the dryer as well, like always a load. And, um, and I was like, man, it's so loud. And I like walked towards the kitchen and it passed the kitchen. It's like, slash, slash, slash. I was like, it's like wet all throughout the hallway into the laundry room. Oh my God. So yeah.
00:12:31
Speaker
God's plan. How was your weekend, Rachel? It was good. I went on a solo date. Yes. Yesterday. Okay. I went on like a non solo date Saturday night. Good times. Not much to report back. He asked me to hang again, but it's again, it's like in two weeks from now. So, okay. Can we talk about that for a second? That's like,
00:12:51
Speaker
Yeah. I'm going to go on a lot of dates between now and then. Good. Right. As you should build that roster. No, but, um, here's the thing. What is up with, I was talking to a girlfriend who is newly single. She's actually divorced. And, um, she was saying, she's like, I, she was like two guys, but she's, you know, she's kind of entertaining. She hasn't been with her kids or anything. And she's like,
00:13:21
Speaker
all of these unfulfilled, intentional, like, oh, I wanna hang out, I wanna do this, let's do this, oh, so, but then it's like, oh, I'm not, like, you'll be, she says it's like, one guy home messaged her all day, but then like, doesn't wanna hang out, or like, doesn't make the effort, and he's doing all of these other things. And like, to your point, like, oh, I'll see you in two weeks. It's like, I don't know, I don't damn well that when Matt and I first started dating, like,
00:13:50
Speaker
We hung out and then the next night we went to the movies and then the next morning he was like, can I take you to breakfast? And like, didn't even spend the night, but like, Hey, can you meet me for breakfast? Like, where is this? Where's the intention? Like, it's hard. It's really, it's like, if you want to spend time with someone, if you like salon, like I
00:14:12
Speaker
I don't feel like I hear
Single Life and Relationship Expectations
00:14:14
Speaker
about that anymore. It's this long game, cheese, dangle the carrot, like, oh, what are you doing? That's cool. Are you free this week? What are your plans this week? Are you available? Yeah. Oh, OK. Yeah, I'm really tired. What the fuck? OK, well, you guys know I took that one spontaneous date where some guy was like, what are you doing tonight? Let's go for a drink. I'm like, yeah, sure. We be there. Whatever.
00:14:41
Speaker
he doesn't show up, goes viral on TikTok right when I tell the story. I got dragged in the comments of that TikTok by women being like, oh my God, never go on a same day date. Like it shows that you don't value your time, like blah, blah, blah. And I'm just like, whoa. What happened to like a tiny bit of spontaneity, like a tiny bit of like excitement. It's like a kind of like a little bit of like, what's gonna happen? Like I,
00:15:11
Speaker
already when someone's like, What are you doing this weekend? I'm like, Oh, it's Monday. I don't, I don't think that far in advance. Like, that's just hard for me. Someone is asking, like, he was like, What are you doing in two weeks from now? I was like, Oh, I haven't really like, locked down that weekend yet. But I'll get back to you. Like once I once I'm closer, like planning that for hours, this feels weird. But yeah, Heather, you're right. There's like a lack of like,
00:15:36
Speaker
Yeah, intention is the right word. Yeah, or intensity, right? There's no intensity or passion or interest or whatever. Those are important things when you're meaning someone new. You have to have that spark of, let's just run away right now. Let's just go somewhere and do something right now. And if it's not like that,
00:16:00
Speaker
I don't know if it's for me. We talked about this last week. I need an unhealthy obsession. Listen, I don't even know if it's an unhealthy obsession. I feel like if I were in
00:16:17
Speaker
the dating game again, that it would be, especially because I have such limited time. Like it would have to be like, what are you doing? When can I see you like full court press or it's nothing. Yeah. And, and, and listen, like take my cues like, Oh, I'm not really sure then. Okay, cool. Back off. But like, if you're interested in be interested, be about it. Like, what is this?
00:16:43
Speaker
Oh, what are your plans? Oh, I'm not sure. I'm free Thursday. I'm free Thursday and Friday. Oh, that's cool. Yeah. Maybe next week. Like what? You could miss me on all of that. You know what I mean? I feel like I've heard that from a lot of people actually. It's like dating apps. But my situation's kind of weird like that right now where I don't know. We had a really good first date and then
00:17:10
Speaker
we had plans to hang out after and then it's just fizzled. A little bit, yeah. But it's weird because I'll let it go for a while and he'll reach out or vice versa, but now I'm just confused what we're doing.
00:17:28
Speaker
Wait, what was that testing that you told me about? There's a three day rule. So I heard this on TikTok, I think it was TikTok or Instagram, but it was basically like you just don't talk to the person for three days. And if the test is as if they reach out to you within the three days, then obviously they're still interested in thinking about you and clearly want something to happen. If not,
00:17:56
Speaker
Why do you want to talk to anybody that isn't talking to you for three days? I do kind of like that little test because it does make sense where it's, if you have so much access to other people within three days, if that person isn't like, I wonder what they're doing or, you know, I want to, I feel like I want to reach out to them, then yeah, if they don't, then move on. Totally. What could possibly be your excuse? Exactly.
00:18:24
Speaker
You know, other hoes. Yeah. How hard is it to copy and paste? Copy and paste that shit. Like, that's how I know. Okay, let's not teach that behavior. For me, I don't think I just would be like, I will probably join the spinsters, you know? Yeah. No, I'm spinster for life and travel solo and like. Yeah, but that's.
00:18:50
Speaker
I feel like that's where we're at. You know what I was thinking though after I went on this date? I got home and I was like, wow, it's going to take someone really fucking spectacular to take me away from the freedom that I have right now. I can go and do literally anything and I have no one being like, where are you? What time are you going to come home? Who are you with? Send me your location. Send me a picture. What's going on? I have no jealousy. I have no accountability. I have nothing.
00:19:19
Speaker
And like that, I mean, to some people being single is like the worst thing that could possibly happen to you. But that level of freedom of not having an accountability and like just getting to do whatever you want inside your home at any given point is so like it's not so free, but it's a level of freedom that a lot of people don't have. Yeah, I got peace girl. It's called peace. No, I feel that way too.
00:19:48
Speaker
Like I get to do whatever I want whenever I want. Yeah, I would hold on to that. And that's another thing that I just is wild to me. The like sharing of location. How's my location shared?
00:20:07
Speaker
We have each other. Just with my friends. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
00:20:33
Speaker
I have heard of friends or relationships where they're like, have to share their location 24 seven to like where you're taking too long at the store. Like what are you doing here? And like that to me is just like, I think it depends on the relationship. If you have to do that, there's a reason you're doing that. I was going to say like that level of trust. You can't go to the grocery store without your location. Right.
00:21:00
Speaker
And so for me, I'm just like, that's also like a parent level of like surveillance, right? So it's like, it might not even be a trust thing, but it's like, if you can't just trust them to go to the grocery store, like do something, you know, like you have to feel like it's your child's hundred percent, right? That's hundred percent. There's something, there's something else going on there. Yeah.
Listener Dilemmas and Advice
00:21:21
Speaker
Yeah. I will say in my last.
00:21:24
Speaker
sort of the most toxic, uh, situationship. I did at one point share my location because I don't know where I was going, what I was doing. So I shared my location and then I just like never turned it off. And then when we would know, but it was good though. Cause when we would get in like little arguments or something or
00:21:42
Speaker
We'd be in a fight, he'd be like, where are you? And I would lie. He's like, no, I'm like damn, well then you know that was my location. And you knew that you knew? Yeah, but he thought that I forgot. Right, right, right. And then so like one day, like eight months later, he's like, you know, we've had your location shared with me this entire time. I'm like, yeah, I do know. Chestnut checkers. Oh my god, that's like leaving your red receipts on. Yeah.
00:22:08
Speaker
This is way worse. We're just like going through like zero contact. Like, yo, what are you doing? Oh, nothing. I'm at Haley's house.
00:22:24
Speaker
Not true. Good for you. Yeah. Anyway, should we get into the advice part of this podcast? Since we're so good at it, we are someone that
00:22:39
Speaker
needs advice about something, you can go to our website, the audacitypod.com. And there on the main homepage, you can write in a scenario that you might need advice for. You can also send over a confession for our all confession podcast. All right. Am I in the wrong for locking my mother-in-law out of the kitchen on Thanksgiving?
00:23:04
Speaker
My husband and I are both in our early thirties and had the opportunity to host Thanksgiving for the first time. I have multiple food allergies, some of which are significant enough to land me in the emergency room. Some of them include red meat, fish, mushrooms, and bell peppers. The list is significantly longer, but those are the ones that are pertinent to the story. My in-laws are aware of my allergies and whenever I would come and visit, I always bring my own food just to be safe.
00:23:33
Speaker
so they know I take my health very seriously. This year, I was excited to be the one making Thanksgiving dinner because I know with certainty that I'd be able to eat all of the food safely. I'm sorry, this person sucks. Okay. What a great Thanksgiving. Jesus Christ. Sorry, I'm sorry. Go ahead and- It sounds like a lot. Go ahead and McDonald's. I would quit anywhere but the first house.
00:24:02
Speaker
Like, don't look. It's like, the fruit haul. Okay, I'm sorry. You're doing great. On Thanksgiving, my mother-in-law, Ella, in quotes, likely not her name, arrived early with a bag of groceries trying to help. But my husband noticed some red meat, seafood, and some sauces.
00:24:24
Speaker
with fish and mushrooms in the bag. What the fish sauce? Like what are you doing? Thanksgiving Christmas. Come on Ella. My husband took action to make sure- Sounds like she's trying to murder her on the screen. All right, let's see what you're doing. Okay. My husband took action to make sure all of the extra groceries my mother-in-law had brought were removed from the house. Ella was very confused by my husband's reaction. I should believe washing the services was enough to get rid of the allergen.
00:24:53
Speaker
Because of all of this, I felt that I had no choice but to lock everyone except my husband out of the kitchen because they can't be trusted. I told Ella if she wants different food, she's free to go out and eat, but I don't feel comfortable with her being in my kitchen and cooking there due to her disregard for my health.
00:25:12
Speaker
Since Thanksgiving, both my husband and I, but mainly me, have been getting messages and calls from his entire family, calling me a controlling asshole for not allowing a grown woman to cook food for herself. Am I in the wrong for this behavior?
Tipping Etiquette
00:25:30
Speaker
I have so many questions. I don't know. I feel like the mom was trying to kill her. This seems provoked. Who's going to bring to a Thanksgiving dinner with complete turkey? Sometimes people do a roast, like a prime rib or a roast.
00:25:59
Speaker
So like change it up. I've yeah red meat. That's like I think it's more common to do like a turkey and a ham. But if you know that someone has those food allergies, and they go to the extent of like homegirl over here who brings her own food places, like why would you bring? Why would you bring what she can't eat to her home? And second, I just
00:26:26
Speaker
Ella, you sneaky, sneaky. Ella, that's something Cynthia would do.
00:26:35
Speaker
Cynthia is my mother, for those of you who don't know. I feel so bad for my brother's future wife, future ex-wife, future wife. He doesn't have a girlfriend or a wife, but I feel like that would definitely be something my mother would do. Oh my God. Your mother, yeah. She would be bringing over all the food. All the fucking foods. She would be like, what? Is that my special dish? Yeah, yeah. It's okay. We'll wipe it down. Not a big deal. Yeah, 100%.
00:27:02
Speaker
It's super unnecessary. I think it's rude. It's disrespectful. Am I up? Yeah. Okay. Hang on one sec.
00:27:12
Speaker
I just learned my friend was murdered. Should I tell my boss? Here it is. I'm 22 and recently moved across the country from my first real job. I learned today that the body of one of my close college friends that had gone missing was discovered in a really awful way and foul play is suspected. Honestly, I just feel so numb. I live really far away and there's no way I could go to the funeral. I have to go back to work tomorrow after the weekend. I don't know how I'll do it.
00:27:42
Speaker
I want to tell my boss that my friend was murdered and I'm a little bit, and I'll be a little off today, but I'm not sure how to do it. Is it weird to tell anyone if I'm not taking time off? I just don't know how I'll function and I don't want to get in trouble for being distracted. It's all I can think about right now. Please let me know what the proper corporate rules are for stuff like this.
00:28:12
Speaker
Okay. Let me jump in on this one. I used to work in HR sweetheart, sweetheart CC, send an email to your boss, send an email to whoever your rep is in HR.
00:28:24
Speaker
Let them know your friend died and take the time you need. It's not that serious. The foul play. What? That's all you say. Hey, my friend got murdered. My friend... Died. My friend died. Say died. My friend died and there's... That's big enough. Yeah, that. My friend died and we think that they believe that they're
00:28:48
Speaker
is foul play. It might seem off. It's just really concerning and I'm not doing very well today. I'll follow up at the end of the day. Thanks. Bye. That's a really diplomatic answer. I think that's great.
00:29:04
Speaker
I think that the fact that people are even concerned about how do I go to work, because really she's saying, okay, I'm not going to use a personal day, because she doesn't think that it's worth using one of her papers. Maybe she hasn't even accrued a personal date yet. So she's probably trying to figure out what to do and how to say, hey, I'm not going to be performing at my highest level today, but I still am coming to work because I have to, right?
00:29:32
Speaker
Like, what sort of like fucked up society do we live in that like, if your friend's murdered, you're like, oh, but have I accrued enough time to like, be upset today? Like, welcome to America. Do you want to hear something mess up? I know a girl who faked her dad's death to get time off of work. To like, no, I think a parent's way too close to home. It was her dad's death. She faked it. What did she do with her time off?
00:30:01
Speaker
I never got that far. I wasn't that close with her, but this girl's a loony tune and I remember hearing this story and she's already like, there's a lot going on there. But when I heard that one, people lie about wild things. I can never imagine being like,
00:30:24
Speaker
what like next like next of kin or my brother or my mom or dad died to get out of something. That's dark. Okay, let's get into this last advice question for the day. How much should I be tipping for injectables? The woman I see for Botox and fillers has a tipping prompt on screen at payment and has mentioned it to me verbally while I'm checking out and it's on the screen.
00:30:52
Speaker
The first time I did not tip because I didn't know you tipped for that and was caught off guard. The second time I tipped 20% because I read various articles online stating tipping is customary for those services. I'm going back soon for Juvederm and Botox and just want to get advice here because tipping 20% of that is going to be a good chunk of change.
00:31:15
Speaker
The location is not a med spa or medical office, if that makes a difference. It's an RN who rents out an office and a multi-purpose commercial building. This is a great one because I always struggle with this. I guess I don't really know about injectables, but what I've always been told with services is if the person owns the business, then you don't have to tip.
00:31:45
Speaker
but if they don't, then you are supposed to. Let's think of this. Like you go and you get $600 worth of Botox in your forehead. It takes 15 minutes, less than that probably. And then you're going to tip 20% of $600. That seems unreasonable. Yeah. Yeah. I know this is, which is why I like, I struggle with it. I feel like, what am I going to do? I'm not going to tip 5% and then be like, Oh, it was a, I thought it was a shitty job. But then I'm also like,
00:32:16
Speaker
Yeah. Well, if it's something like for Botox, you don't even know if it's a shitty job until like weeks later, right? So how are you even supposed to know? I still, I still always tip. I just, it, I never feels good to your point. Like,
00:32:30
Speaker
walking away spending three four six hundred whatever you're spending and then being like here's another hundred dollars when you go get your hair done that's something that takes like four or five hours i can see tipping 20 on that that's someone's whole day right right and especially if the head massage was good like exactly it's not i'm sorry i just i've always thought this like
00:32:56
Speaker
When I make it, when? When? I'm gonna have someone come into my house before I go to bed and just like, massage my hair, wash your hair. Don't even wash it, just like give me a hand massage like that. No, absolutely. If it's good, I will absolutely tip 20 plus percent. If you spend time, yeah, all day. But okay, so there's some treatments where you could go in and spend like three grand, right, on your feast in like an hour. That's a lot, yeah. An extra 20% on that, they're high.
00:33:27
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Yeah, I think once you're getting once you start talking about like, I'm not at that point, we're talking about like a, what do they call like a filler nose job, like that's like a lot. So I get that. But I think the real question is three to 700 were most which is like what most women are spending on injectables, like
00:33:45
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Do you really tip 20% every single time? Well, I was just thinking about it. The place that I used to go to in San Diego, not the last place I went to, but I actually don't think either of the last places there was a prompt to tip.
00:34:00
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Yeah, I don't I have a feeling that the places that have the prompt to tip are like not it's a place where it's like not actual doctors in my mind it seems like low quality like even this girl she was like it's an RN that rents like a one-off like little room and a commercial building like I'm sorry but and that's the lady who's asking for a tip who's prompting you to tip like that seems just like so low class to me. Is that more of like an esthetician?
00:34:26
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the ortho like or like what exactly because I know. Yeah, because like plastic surgeons who have Yeah, they're not plastic surgeon often offices aren't doing that to your point. Definitely is like, like the I'll be fully honest, the girl that I go to now has her own place. But she is she's like an old she's to be in a emergency room.
00:34:49
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practitioner. Yeah. And she's just like, I need kids now her kids are like in high school, but she's like, I have to get out of these like crazy hours. Yeah. And she can kills it shows all the certification. Her pricing is reasonable. She does a really good like natural. But yeah, like she prompts for tip and I'm always like, I like you so here.
00:35:13
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It's weird. No, it's your point. No plastic surgeon's office is going to be like, now tip us. Personally, I don't know any doctors that are doing injections for less than like $18, $20 a unit. Whereas if you go to the girl that I go to where she's $12 a unit, that's so much more reasonable. But then after tip, you're paying the same thing that you would pay a doctor.
00:35:42
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Not really. I mean, maybe. I don't know. I just don't know any doctors that are doing the injectables themselves.
Weekly Favorites and Personal Picks
00:35:51
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Yeah. Mine's a doctor. Mine was a physician's assistant. Yeah, which is not a doctor. Okay, so that place that we went whenever I first moved to LA, what were those girls?
00:36:06
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I think that those are all nurses, nurse injectors, but that means that there's ultimately a doctor who oversees the whole practice, right? Who oversees the operations of it. Because we had to do the FaceTime.
00:36:22
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Like you had to like FaceTime with the doctor, you know? Yeah, exactly. So you have to like talk to a doctor, but like then that they can have their nurses do it. I feel like places like laser away and like those like lip injection factories, those are places that are asking for tips.
00:36:36
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The jury's still out. Do we tip or do we not tip? Do you wanna this? Yeah. Oh, please. Like, what do you feel about other industries, though, that are starting to prompt for tipping? Like, which ones? Well, like, grocery stores. Have you heard about this? No. Yes. Come on. Yes. Have you heard about this? I have not seen that. Oh, my goodness. So, this is like a whole thing on TikTok, where it's like, prompting the, like, tipping the baggers. And
00:37:03
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I'm just like, I already feel bad to not tip at Starbucks. Like what am I supposed to say to the college kid that's like? Okay, but you're also getting paid to be there and do that. So why? Yeah, I think a lot of this falls back onto the owner and the establishment, like the employer, but people don't want to pay. Like we know that. Hello. But like if I'm like, no, you don't need to bag it and they just sit there and don't do anything. So then they're just getting paid
00:37:31
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to not work, I guess. You know what I'm saying? What are you supposed to be doing? You're just standing there waiting for me to ask. I should be paying you extra. I do feel like that's a little ... I don't know. I work in retail. You think I've
00:37:50
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asking extra to open a fitting room or like, you know. That's a good point though, because at what point? It's a service. At the end of the day. Where do we draw the line of saying this is someone that you tip? I think a large part of this falls on the establishment and the employer to take care of your employees. Maybe we all need to get a job where we can get tipped.
00:38:15
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Who knows what that is these days? Apparently a lot of things. Turns out it could be anything. Turns out it could be literally any job. Any job. Should we do our top eight of the week? Let's do it. That was a lot of tipping talk, sorry. No, it's okay. I support fair wages for everyone. I just think that we need to figure out how to do it. Better.
00:38:41
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Yeah, I feel like there's no actual regulation right now. But also just price gouging on Botox feels like whatever. I'm going to give that one to myself. Okay, on my top eight, starting the top eight this week, solo dates. Just going by yourself. On Sunday, I took myself to lunch. That's so good. Went to the movies by myself. Okay, spent a whole afternoon- What did you see? Salt burn.
00:39:12
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Oh, what did you think? Really good. Good. I've heard good, good, good things. Yeah. Love that. Have you guys heard the brand way? Yeah. Like the hair brand?
00:39:27
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Yeah, they did a collaboration with Dead Cool, which is a non-toxic fragrance line. And they make this detergent that's called Melrose Place, which I don't really use on clothes or anything like that, but I love it for my sheets and my bedding. This detergent is so nice. Heather, what do you got? So it is this primer and this pore minimizer by Hourglass. It's called Veil.
00:39:57
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And I feel like I don't like a cakey, like I don't like cakey. I don't prefer matte, like a matte look. I like kind of like a dewy look still. I know I'm still on this like dewy girl. No, me too though. I can't shake it. I agree, yeah. And so I just feel like it's a really good, it's a really good prep and primer. And it still gives you
00:40:25
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that coverage. My next one, I just got this book. I haven't really started reading it, but I've skimmed through it. It's called The Inner Work by Matt and Ash. I don't know if this is like a cult book or what's going on, but
00:40:41
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I think I'm gonna get healed, so I will report back, but this is in my top eight this week.
Surprising Encounters and Coincidences
00:40:46
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I'm super excited to read it. Okay, Haley, what do you got? What do you got? I just got a new perfume by Jo Malone called Poppy and Barley, which I love. It's very not an aggressive scent. Nothing irks me more than a fragrance that just slaps you in the face, and it's subtle, warm. There's a bunch of different undertones.
00:41:12
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Nice. Okay. My turn. Yeah. Um, okay. So I'm, I want to say like once every two or three months, I'll have something that I care about and I'll do eyelash extensions. Otherwise I don't. And so I'm always looking for like non cakey, but like still really good crow or the mascara. And I just found it's called, uh, it's called the graphic mascara by Eisenberg.
00:41:43
Speaker
Should I check it out? Yes, you need to check it out. I don't even need eyelash extensions and I feel like it gives me the same effect. I can't curl my hair to save my life or my eyelashes. Eyelash curlers just don't really work for me. I have lashes without having lashes. Do you guys ever use TaskRabbit? Yeah. I swear. I get the funniest people on TaskRabbit.
00:42:13
Speaker
No matter what happens, I have a funny story. Every single time someone from test grab it comes. The last guy was this Italian dude and he was like, he comes in and they all ask me questions as if I know what they're talking about, whether it's with a tool or where the electric breaker is. I obviously don't know the answer to any of these questions. He's like, how do we turn the electric off in your apartment? And I was like,
00:42:43
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Aren't you the professional? Like me and this Italian guy is like broken English walking around my apartment. I'm like, well, it's gotta be near somewhere. It was outside. We eventually found it figured it out, but like I swear every single time I have like the, just like,
00:43:12
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I love living alone. Well, so we got seven, we could just do a top seven. Remember like a nice face. Listen, like, Oh, if someone slighted you, you could delete them. I see this week. We're just like top seven. Okay, for my most audacious of the week.
00:43:31
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You guys haven't seen Saltburn, but I'm sure you've heard of the infamous bathtub scene at this point. Do you guys want the spoiler version? Do you guys want to be spoiled? One of the main characters, Jacob Allordi, that guy? Oh, I love him, yes.
00:43:51
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So he's like sitting in this bathtub jerking off okay and this guy that is in love with him is watching like through a crack in the door and he like finishes.
00:44:06
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in the water, we're all assuming. He gets out of the tub and the guy walks in and is like, oh yeah, goodnight mate, whatever. The stalker guy gets into the bathtub and drinks the last little bit of bathwater as it's going down the drain. He puts his face into the bathwater and was drinking it. That takes a lot of audacity. Go in and drink someone's dirty bathwater with jizz in it.
00:44:37
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Wow. I've never even heard of this movie. Oh yeah. I live under a rock though. Wait a minute. That's like... You have something in Los Angeles. That's wild. Yeah. You know what's crazy? What? Like that is crazy Heather. Where she go with this? Yeah. She's like, this reminds me of something.
00:45:04
Speaker
No, I was wild. No, but I am gonna say. Stop it. But I am gonna say that like, I don't necessarily want that energy. But like, yeah, like come with that energy, you know, like to bring it full circle to our previous the dating. Like I want you to drink my dirty bathwater already. It ain't like if you're not willing to drink the salt burn bath. Wow.
00:45:34
Speaker
I mean, I would. And then tip them after. 20%. Yeah. Service. Yeah. I don't know. I thought it was hot. I mean, like damn, that takes a lot. It does take a lot. And the guy doesn't know. Okay. He doesn't know. So he's just kind of like curving out on his own.
00:46:01
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I'm going to look this movie up. You should probably watch it. There's actually a lot of wow moments, but that's the famous wow one. That requires a lot of audacity. Doesn't it? Sorry if I just spelled the movie for some people. Is that the climax or is that just something that happens?
00:46:24
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No, that's just something that happens. The ending of the film is actually more aggressive than that. There are some sexual scenes that are more aggressive than that. I love that you went to go see that alone. I go to movies alone all the time. I love that. I love that too. What else? What do you guys got? What's your most audacious of the week? Go, Hailey.
00:46:49
Speaker
Well, mine's not very deep, but it's definitely last night, the sole karaoke singer of the non-karaoke bar. We don't know. We don't know her or anything. Jumps on stage, sings a song nobody knows, gets back down and goes, it was in my tone.
00:47:18
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You saw our faces during this performance. I was like, well, is this okay? Oh, friend, we love her. She's my best friend. No, she knows we love her. She knows how to command the stage. Like a truthy... She's literally like... If you happy on Insta, you have seen the performance. Yes, I love it. Truthy at her age of, you know? Yeah.
00:47:44
Speaker
What's yours Heather? Let's play soccer and she's on a new team and so two weeks ago randomly I'm leaving my aunt's house and I'm getting on the freeway like turning left it's a like double left-hand turn and the lanes eventually merged for the on-ramp and this big truck I remember like distinctive blue stripes and like just like very the paint job everything I remember we're going and he speeds up and he's not letting me in and it
00:48:14
Speaker
ends up being one lane and he like swerves the wheel so I'm actually in the shoulder like but on the on ramp like super scary super aggressive like total road rage looks at me my son's in the front seat he's tall enough and the guy flips me off like as if and we're talking like 11 o'clock in the morning like so aggressive not at night like was
00:48:40
Speaker
just wild, like shocking to the point where I almost wanted to be a full Karen and like call the cops. Cause at this point I'm behind him and I'm like feeling all violated because I'm like driving with my kids and it's daytime and like, it was just so unacceptable. So aggressive. I'm driving, I'm following behind him for probably a good four or five miles and he's going like towards my house, eventually gets off
00:49:07
Speaker
the freeway. I carry on. I'm rattled. My son's talking about it. My mom's like, mom, why did the guy do that? My kids fully understand that when someone flips you off, it's not a good thing. They could just tell. Fast forward this past week, I guess it was last week, I am driving into live soccer practice, new team. And I'm trying to figure out which field it is because it was like massive recreation park.
00:49:36
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or like this recreation center. And all of a sudden I look in my rear view mirror and I notice like a really familiar paint job and this chuck. And I'm like, huh, like no way.
00:49:54
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can't possibly be like there's just no way. So I'm like driving and I kind of pull over to the side. So like in the parking lot and I like pull over to the sides. I'm still totally, not totally sure which field we're going to. And I let him pass by and my son's with me without saying anything to my son. He goes, mom, that looks like the guy who almost drove us off the road when we were leaving, you know,
00:50:22
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And I look and windows are tinted, same stripe, like silver truck, blue paint job, like blue stripes, all the things, right? I go and park and the sky ends up parking right next to me. And at this point I'm just like,
00:50:43
Speaker
one of the odds like I know it's him. He literally flipped me off and his front windows weren't as tinted as his back windows. His son is on my daughter's soccer team. Oh my god. We were not close to home. Like it wasn't like we were like at this park leaving like we were not that close to home. My aunt lives a good 20 minutes away from me.
00:51:06
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And long story short, yeah, long story short, we like sit at this little soccer practice and he and I'm like staring like I'm looking at him like this motherfucker like I hope you record I like I hope you recognize me. Yeah. I'm you know, I'm sitting there just like, like looking at him and I know he is kind of sweating because it's like, you know, this second bitch from like, why is she looking at me this way? Like, you know, I can just tell. And, uh,
00:51:37
Speaker
And I don't eventually like I don't say anything. But I was like, I feel like I've seen have we met before? Oh, my God. Yeah, like, like at the end. And he's like, Oh, yeah, I know. I don't know. My sons, my sons is only a second season. I'm like, Yeah, I'm like,
00:51:55
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I lied because my daughter had scored like three goals on him in the practice. I was like, oh, this is my daughter's first season. You look so familiar. Your truck looks so familiar to me. It's so uncomfortable. I don't actually say anything, but I'm just like the fucking audacity, dude. It's 11 o'clock in the morning and you're going to drive some woman off and her little, you know, like off the road with kids in the car.
00:52:24
Speaker
Yeah, that's fucked up. Road rage ain't it, no matter what you have going on. Something about guys in trucks with stripes. Were you in the same car? Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And I think- I think you probably knew. Totally. Absolutely. Absolutely. I think it totally clicked. Because it wasn't just like, oh, so I'm sorry. It was a legitimate eye to eye, how are you going to let me in? And then I followed behind him also aggressively, so I was like,
00:52:52
Speaker
Literally, I almost had a full-cared moment of like, I'm going to call 311 or 4-2. I should have. I should have. Anyways. Well, you would have had the audacity. I know. I know. I don't have that kind of time. But yeah, the audacity. Damn. Well then, on that note, thank you everyone for tuning in. This has been another fun week. Heather, can I ask, is that a real Christmas tree behind you?
00:53:22
Speaker
Not fake. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, I've been thinking about getting my first ever fake Christmas tree, but I don't know how I feel about it morally. Morally? What do you mean? You don't want to cut down on Rowan? No, I mean, I just love real trees. Me too. So what I do... There's something weird about it. Yeah, I offset. We got... I have so many stories. I could go on. One year we got a Christmas tree. It was real.
00:53:51
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We keep our heater on. We have a big sliding glass door. We try to drag the tree out and all of the, what are these called?
00:54:00
Speaker
needles. Yes. Thank you. All of the needles got stuck in the track for our pocket doors. And we jammed the pocket door and it was freezing and we had to call like an emergency door. There was not one. It was the fucking builder. We had to call the builder. We were like, listen, Roger. So they like, it was, it was a nightmare.
00:54:27
Speaker
After that, we don't do real trees, but I do do real garland. Well, okay. I understand why you would maybe not want to do a real tree, but I don't know. I'm on the fence. Maybe I'll get a fake one this week. Maybe I'll get a real one. I just don't have anywhere to store mine, so I just want to get rid of it. Real trees are so beautiful and they smell so good. That's the only reason why I like cosplay with the garland just for the
00:54:56
Speaker
the smell for a few days, you know? I love it. Yeah. Maybe I'll do that. Do I? Mine has like one little strain of lights. The rest is coming. You know what I want to do? What? And I just have it and it's now it's like kind of becoming a trend or over it. I want a tinsel tree. Oh!
00:55:13
Speaker
I saw a different kind of tree today. Maybe it's on my computer, so I don't have it with me, but it's like they use some type of wool instead of tinsel. Yeah, it's on my computer. I'll send it to you guys. It looks sick though. I kind of want to try that because I can't have tinsel because of these freaking idiot cats. So they eat it. I definitely don't need like a $4,000 vet bill.
00:55:41
Speaker
No, Gracia. So it's like it looks kind of like a tinsel, but it's made of wool. I'll send it to you guys. I might attempt it this weekend, but that's not bad for the cats either. Well, at least that's like natural. I mean, that's like a natural fiber. Like if they chew it, it will break apart in their mouth. You know, well, we'll see what I have wool blankets everywhere that they lick and whatever. Are you going to put lights on it? Because what happens when they eat the wires?
00:56:13
Speaker
That's already happened. My cat when she was an infant, she ate through the wires and she got electrocuted and it scared her so badly that like she like shot like she like projectile shot and it went all over the presents. It went all over the presents you guys. I had to re-wrap everything.
00:56:32
Speaker
because there was like, hat shit, like, what a spray, like it was a mist, it wasn't like actual. I was ambitious, it's like one bite. Yeah, it's just like a spray of shit. And she made the most god-awful nose I've ever heard. Like, she was like shocked. She was literally shocked. She was literally shocked. That's why her personality is so wild because she got shocked as a baby. That's why she's so weird. It makes so much sense. Doesn't it?
00:57:02
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Oh my god. All right. Well, on that note, good night, everyone. Goodbye. Have a great day. I don't know. What's our sign off? I don't know. I don't know. Stay sexy. Stay all these animals. Be audacious. I don't know. Something. I don't know. I'm going to stop recording now. Bye, everybody. Bye. Bye.