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Welcome to episode one of Thee Audacity podcast. First episode jitters call for a heavy pour as we sit down and touch on everything from dating men who lead Cults to parenting in the age of extreme cosmetic procedures. Once the whiskey hits and our inhibitions are lowered, we confess to the aesthetic work that we've had done and plans for future procedures. Grab your coffee (or your wine) and join us, every Wednesday. It’s a work in progress, and so are we, come as you are!
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- Trader Joe's everything bagel crackers & unexpected cheddar dip
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- Zenagen shampoo for thinning hair
- Mielle scalp treatment
- Supergoop Glowscreen
- Dior Vernis Nail Polish #209
- SheaMoisture Body Scrub
- Old fashion Pepcid AC
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Transcript
Introduction to The Audacity Podcast
00:00:05
Speaker
Hello, everyone. Welcome to the very first episode of The Audacity Podcast. I'm Rachel, and I'm joined today by my co-hosts, Heather and Hailey, two really good friends of mine that I've known for years. I love you guys.
What can listeners expect?
00:00:24
Speaker
We're so grateful that you found your way here. On this podcast, you can expect some absurd behavior, listener confessions, and audacious guests that we invite onto the hot seat to explore how they channel their boldness into success. No topic will be off limits and no risk to great. Well, ladies, welcome to the podcast. Hey. Hello, hello.
Thanksgiving cooking adventures
00:00:55
Speaker
How is everyone feeling after Thanksgiving? Heather actually cooks me my entire Thanksgiving dinner. Like the entire thing I didn't cook a single thing. It was lovely.
00:01:10
Speaker
We learned that you can't actually fuck up baked brie. What do you mean? We tried our best. We tried to cut a roll of brie, like a piece of brie cheese. A wheel, if you will. Yes, a wheel. Thank you. You're welcome. We covered it in
00:01:37
Speaker
dough? Like, what was it? Yeah, so Heather's like, Heather's, like literal step brothers were making rolls for everyone. They're, I guess, like biscuits, and they had leftover dough. So Heather was like, Oh, yeah, like, let's just roll it out and wrap up the brie or like, like a little croissant.
00:01:58
Speaker
Well, we did it and then we spread fig jam over the top and then covered it, closed it, put it in the oven, but we put it in the oven for a little too long. We took it out, we put salt on it, a little bit of fresh rosemary, and it was still so good. It was. So we're like, okay, burnt, not the right dough, too high, too long, and we still crushed it.
00:02:25
Speaker
It was so good. We tried. We tried. We tried.
Black Friday shopping spree
00:02:28
Speaker
So did you guys get anything good for Black Friday? I feel like the boxes have been coming in. Well, I worked, which was painful. But I did go ham on Amazon after I got really drunk on Thanksgiving. Yeah. You know, just retail theory peed it up. What did you get? Honestly, nothing exciting, but it's very exciting for me. It was like,
00:02:55
Speaker
Um, new bedding, new pillows. New bedding is so key. I'm sorry to interrupt. I love like some new sheets. Wait.
00:03:03
Speaker
But that velvet comforter, it was just juicy. Wow. Wow. You know, Hayley's bed is now blacked out though. It looks like one of those matted G-wagons. That's Hayley's bed now. Yes. Okay. Yeah. Do you want to come out and sleep over with us next time? Rachel knows my bed all too well. I see what you're channeling over there, Hayley.
00:03:27
Speaker
bad so much that her pillows are so comfortable that I would like ask her all the time, you're like, what are your pillows? What are your pillows? What are your pillows? To the point where she's like, Oh, no, I just got them on Amazon. I don't really know. I was on Amazon, like, trying to find because there's like a certain texture to the outside of the pose, right? It's like completely fat. So I was like, Oh my God, I think I found them. Like,
00:03:53
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She's like, this is the pattern that's pressed up against me. I recognize the pattern.
00:04:01
Speaker
And yeah, I'm going for 20% off. Yeah, and they're here, and they're great. They're excellent. Oh, OK. You're going to have to share. I will. I will have to. But I've slept on them for three nights now, and they're divine. They're really good. Damn. Yeah. I feel like your bedding and just a comfortable mattress is so important. And people try and just cut corners on it. They're like, oh, $2,000 for a mattress. It's like you do realize.
00:04:29
Speaker
But I'm saying, you know, like you do realize that you use it every day. No, every night. No, I'm getting old and I have back pain. Preach sister. That is a real issue. Okay, you guys, something that happened to
Astrology: Growth or toxic traits?
00:04:43
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me recently. Well, I was texting Haley, actually, I was having a bad day, I was kind of mean, but I still have yet another full cup of coffee in my bed.
00:04:52
Speaker
Wait, this just happened more than once? Yes. I can never get rid of my mattress. I have to keep it forever. I could never like donate or sell it. Like it would straight to a landfill because I've spilled so many full cups of coffee onto the mattress. They're like whose bed box? Can you imagine every night trying to go to bed but your mattress is just covered in caffeine? But I've been getting super into astrology. Yes. Like that's my new hyper fixation, right? So.
00:05:22
Speaker
It's like every morning I sit down at my desk and I'm like, oh, I can jump right into my emails. And I'm like, oh, I can just research about myself a little bit more. Which sounds like so narcissistic, but whatever I do. No, it's growth. It's growth. Whatever, yeah. Well, growth. OK, I don't know if it's like I'm growing or if astrology is reinforcing or reinforcing my toxic traits. So you guys be the judge. OK.
00:05:51
Speaker
Like, yeah, I'm like, it's my, I'm like, oh, is this, do I need therapy? Like, is this something I should be in therapy for? Or is this like faded into the stars, right? So I sit down the other day and I'm like, what's up like with my love life? Like I'm going to ask astrology, right?
00:06:08
Speaker
And so I like look it up. And so one of the things that I have is like Scorpio in my seventh house, which is like controls like love partners and like relationships or whatever, right? Right, exactly. So I only whatever. Okay, so I like looking up like what does this mean? And one of the things is like, okay, you need like really intense, passionate relationships. And I'm like, Okay, well, this makes sense that
00:06:38
Speaker
I never feel fulfilled in a relationship unless we're like an unhealthy amount of obsessed with one another, right? Just like fully in. And the other part was that I'm like, okay, well, what kind of partner should I be looking for right now? And it's like the people that I'm supposed to be with are people with power and influence. But that's a Scorpio.
00:07:07
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Usually. But like, I'm just like, okay, I thought that it was problematic that I was really attracted to men who are like, don't have many boundaries when it comes to intimacy and who are like kind of maybe sociopathically like trying to be like winners, right?
00:07:33
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know, like, Haley will send me guys that she's talking to on hinge or whatever. And I'll be like, Oh, yeah, like, he's really pretty. But I'm like, does he have any aspirations to like lead a cult? Because that's what would get me going. Oh my god. Oh my god. John Mendez. Speaking of. Did you see that? No.
A comedic cult idea
00:07:53
Speaker
What? I just saw that on Instagram. So think about John Mendez. Is it a cult?
00:07:57
Speaker
Really? Well, in a cult is pussy behavior leading the cult. This is so funny. I literally so I have this like
00:08:12
Speaker
Instagram friend, a comedian. He's so fabulous. He lives in New York. Anyways, I, I like just started commenting on all of his amazing content one day and now we're actual friends. Yeah, we started talking about
00:08:29
Speaker
starting a cult last night. He was like, he was like, tell me guys, my people. I was like, I was like, I was telling him because he said cult and I was like, I was like, let's call it commune. He's like, he's like, I'm writing. I'm listening. Haley, what was that thing that you sent us that girl with the face? Yeah. So
00:08:55
Speaker
Selling Sunset. You watched the season finale, or no, not the season finale, it was the reunion. So basically the whole thing was Chrishell calling out, I forget the other girl's name. Which one? Brie. No. No, no, no, she called out. She didn't call her out. She called the, fuck, I forget her name. Who was it? Mary. It wasn't Mary. No, she's like the redhead. She was the first guy, or first girl to ever date Jason.
00:09:24
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Oh, yeah. Yeah. I can't think of a name. Yes. Yes. The one who was like, who last season tried to be like, I'm going to call my attorney. Yeah. She's like, I just started drugs. Yeah. It's a lot. Anyways. So Chris shell at like a dinner was like yelling at her and she's like, you rearrange your face. So at the reunion, whoever that, I don't know who rearranging your face is such a,
00:09:52
Speaker
wild way to say like how much that work like you are rearranging your face. The whole point of it was she was trying to say like the girl she basically was saying like I don't care about this show I don't care about like my like 15 minutes of fame like that's not why we here like that's what the girl was saying and then she and basically Michelle was lashing out being like yeah you rearrange her whole face like you did this and that and that you clearly care about your like time on TV. Yeah, that was the point of it.
00:10:22
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Got it. Fast forward to the reunion. They bring this back up. I don't know who the host is. It's not Andy Cohen that does it. It's some Australian guy, I think. Okay. And he's like, has anybody else here rearranged their face? Wow. I'm fucking proud. She's like, I have. And so
00:10:44
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you know she has though as you do i was like i thought it was a blaze i went to see when i was like let's see so i looked it up and i was like damn i was like who the fuck is your doctor because it's good
00:11:02
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that she looks pretty good. Okay, first of all, everyone has a comment on her personal life and her decision making with her, you know, Nick Cannon situation and hop off. Wait, Nick Cannon.
00:11:23
Speaker
That's like, she's like baby mama number whatever. Okay, hop off. Okay, pretend maybe like that's her choice. Yeah, I actually really like her and who's your doctor? Yeah,
Societal views on women's appearance
00:11:38
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you guys I want to get a tendon plant.
00:11:43
Speaker
I'm here for all the work. Like, that's fine. Do it. Yeah. I love that for you. But she looks like just if you're going to do it, do it right. Do it safe. And also admit to it when you do it. Like you're going to be like in the limelight, like whatever. Don't deny it. Like the other girl clearly was like, I haven't done anything. So many women in this world who have also rearranged their face. It's like commonplace now.
00:12:11
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to see someone who's gotten so much work or maybe even not even work because at these days you can get just like crazy amounts of filler and it will give you a whole new face, right? But it's like and people just deny that they've done anything and it's like we're not blind. We can tell that
00:12:30
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you got something significant, like Kylie Jenner, right? Remember, that was almost like 10 years ago that she got a whole new face. She was like the first one to do it. But remember, in hindsight, I'm just like, what a brilliant marketing campaign to have everyone be talking about your lips.
00:13:03
Speaker
Um, please. The lip hair or the lips? Uh, the whole freaking thing, you know. Her mom? Yes, you know that. I also think that she saw all of her sisters getting aesthetic work. Of course. And she was like, knee necks, like, let's go. Of course. Of course. I don't necessarily think she went into it like, I'm going to start a lipstick. I think she didn't know what else to fucking do. I think she got a whole new face and her mom was like, oh, everybody's talking about this. Like, let's make lipstick. Well, because remember she did that interview with
00:13:11
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for like whoa and then to make the like the lip kick a la Kylie like when I saw that
00:13:32
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I think it was like Teen Vogue and she was like, oh, the way I do it is I just overline my lips and then I mix to these colors and everyone was going to Mac to buy the lip liner. You couldn't get it.
00:13:44
Speaker
And then I think that's where that came from. I don't think that they went into it like, let's get lip injections and then do that, you know? No, of course not, of course not. But like, we got a whole new face. So weird, like, okay, so there's so many, not so many women, but like, there's such prominent women who are getting whole new faces and maintaining those small new faces as they age. But then they're also having daughters, right? That's what I was gonna... I think about this all the time that it's like, what about...
00:14:10
Speaker
you know, okay, maybe Kim Kardashian, who probably started out as the worst offender, who's now probably like the least worst offender, like those women who have gotten way too way crazier extremes who are having children, having daughters specifically who probably like look at their mother and they say, Okay, like my mother's so beautiful. And then they see like their own face and they wonder, okay, why don't I look like that?
00:14:35
Speaker
Like I think that would be such a traumatic thing to go through as like a young girl without having without like realizing that it's like it's fake. It's like a fake.
00:14:47
Speaker
being like in a set, well, I mean, it's real, it's real to everyone. It's really even to like the daughter, but without realizing that it's something that like adults do. So I have two daughters and I think about that conversation at that point in time where you have to, you have to come clean with your daughters or your daughters are going to see old photos of you or old videos. And it's like,
00:15:16
Speaker
What do you tell them and what is the conversation around your reasoning, you know, if you have
00:15:24
Speaker
for getting the work, right? Like how do you explain to your kid, like I wanted to- To a young girl who's going through adolescence who probably, I mean, we know more so than ever nowadays, young girls are judging themselves. I mean, everyone is judging their bodies, what they say, just everything. It's just relentless, right? Like when we were growing up, you could go to school and get bullied and go home and hopefully you had some sort of reprieve.
00:15:51
Speaker
Now it's like you go home and you have everyone on Snapchat and TikTok and Instagram and you have these little dickheads in your DMs and group chats and removing kids from the group chat and just it doesn't ever end. And so when you have this, you know, 11, 12, 13 year old young girl going through this and she's like, well, like, why don't I look like you? Like, what is that conversation like?
Impact of early exposure to adult pressures
00:16:20
Speaker
You know, how do you have,
00:16:22
Speaker
As a mother of two, I'm all for women doing all the things. Do all the things. I'll be the last one to ever hate on anyone's work that they get done. I just think about if you have children, you're responsible for those children and their mental health and their wellbeing and the way that they perceive themselves.
00:16:48
Speaker
That's just, I don't know, like what does that conversation look like? Yeah. Well it's scary too because like social media, they're exposed to so much more, so quicker. And even with like makeup though, you know, like I feel like you see young girls with these long nails that I'm just like, Oh my God. Like you know what I mean though? Like you see like 12 year olds with these long nails and I'm like,
00:17:16
Speaker
Dude, I even saw this thing on TikTok the other day, or like maybe even yesterday, where it was a dermatologist or someone who was like stitching a different video, or was a very young girl like nine years old who had a full cabinet area full of like drunk elephant and like all these skincare items that are meant for adults like they're meant for
00:17:42
Speaker
older women and, you know, to be, I like, I remember being nine years old and like, I'm pretty sure my parents had to force me to wash my face. They're like, no, like you're getting acne. Like you need to, I legitimately, I legitimately have a nine year old. Yeah. Like, I mean, a nine year old little boy. So say less about having them, you know, like, you know, my six year old live who's almost seven.
00:18:12
Speaker
Like she's like barely into, like it was just Halloween and she's like, yeah, mom, can you spray more of that glitter spray in my hair? Like that sparkly lip gloss. I can't imagine. Like why does your nine year old have drunk elephant and like all of these beauty products? Like what is the, why?
00:18:31
Speaker
I think they're just exposed to it too quickly. And there's too much talk about prevention. I'm okay with preventative though. Here's what I think. I don't actually give a fuck what your nine-year-old thinks. You're her parent. Nine, you're nine. You don't know what to think. Yeah, here's your main fridge and your beauty calendar. Yeah, how are you affording it? The parents are the ones buying it. But what is your mental to be like,
00:18:57
Speaker
Yeah, that is so concerning to me. I saw this thing the other day that was like, people always want to say it's so much worse now than it was. And it's worse. But I think that parents, people are scared to parent.
Parenting for responsibility
00:19:16
Speaker
I understand not wanting to always
00:19:19
Speaker
you know, be at war with your kids. I understand wanting to just have easy moments and to love on your children. But like the goal needs to be to raise an adult. And like you aren't always going to be your kid's best friend.
00:19:38
Speaker
It's just at what point and I and I'm at that phase right now with my oldest with like the cell phone like at what point have people like when did you lose your mind as an adult to be like, well, my kid knows best because I want to be his friend.
00:19:55
Speaker
Do you guys, well, okay, so I commented on something on TikTok. Obviously, I'm not a mother. We're not obviously for people who don't know that I don't have any kids, but I saw this video on TikTok and it was this kid like spreading hummus all over his body.
00:20:10
Speaker
And like, like literally everywhere, right? And the mom comes up from behind him and is like, Oh, honey, if we want to do that, we do it outside. And I commented, and I don't know if you guys are on tik tok, but there's been a lot of teachers that are just like, these kids are fucking
00:20:29
Speaker
They don't know how to do anything. Like this is bad. Like they should be like four grades lower basically, right? So I comment on this kid with the hummus everywhere. Oh, I'm starting to understand the other videos from the teachers now.
00:20:45
Speaker
Because like, if I was for and I was rubbing hummus everywhere, my parents would be like, are you fucking kidding me? Like, not like, oh, yeah, I like rub the hummus everywhere. But like, just do it outside where I don't have space. Yeah, like, I'm like, what? That's like a good question, though, is, you know, we want to gentle parent and do all these things and make sure that kids like feel safe or whatever. But also, you forget that that kid at some point is gonna have to join society.
00:21:13
Speaker
right? And show up and like act, have like some level of decorum. I went back to like, gentle parenting, like, yeah, I'm all for communicating. I want my children to know that they have, they can have open lines of communication. And I'm not just gonna be like, go to your fucking room. I'm gonna be like, yo, listen, like, this isn't it. This is why it's not it. This behavior is gonna hurt you.
00:21:36
Speaker
You're the only one that's gonna suffer. So this is what we're doing. Like, that's great. Like, I know you're gonna be reprimanded. To me, that's gentle parenting. I'm telling you what you did wrong. I'm helping you create, you know, to change a behavior and understand that there are consequences for that because one day, these shit decisions now that don't really matter will be big shit decisions that will absolutely affect your life. Like, there's gentle parenting and communicating and then there's just like,
00:22:04
Speaker
fucking rub hummus on yourself. I think kids should absolutely be able to be kids and be weird and get their weird out and explore and some kids have like super sensory issues or not issues, but like go through those phases. But yeah, back to gentle parenting and just like a lack of parenting. I think that's like really what this conversation about is about like, yeah, people need to wake the fuck up.
00:22:31
Speaker
Okay. Switching into the advice part of this podcast. Do you like that hard pivot? Yeah. Thank you for that. Yeah. Okay.
Listener interaction and advice
00:22:40
Speaker
So listener, if you would like advice on any topic or if you'd like to confess, you can go to our website. Confess. Yeah. The audacitypod.com and using a pseudonym or no name whatsoever, you can write in for advice.
00:22:58
Speaker
Or you can write in a confession for one of our confessions only episodes, which are going to be spicy because some of them are going to be our own confessions. Getting into our first piece of advice for today. Would you have children if you were in my situation? My husband and I are both 31 years old. We have been together for a total of 10 years, five as a married couple. I grew up in poverty.
00:23:28
Speaker
My parents were substance users, so I really don't have a financial support system to fall back on. My husband has always wanted children while I have always been indifferent but open to the idea. I was very clear with my husband from the beginning that because of my upbringing, I will not have children if I can't afford to give them a good life.
00:23:49
Speaker
When we met, he was in school to be an engineer. He failed out of school and never took up a trade despite my encouraging him. I finished school and am now self-employed. My job is super flexible and pays well, but there are no benefits. My husband also works at an entry-level corporate job with no foreseeable upward mobility. I make substantially more money than him, but his job provides health insurance benefits.
00:24:17
Speaker
We struggle financially and have no extra support if either of us needs to take time off. If I can't work for whatever reason, like having a baby, we will not be able to afford to stay afloat. I was pregnant a few months back, but miscarried. My husband desperately wants a child, but I don't know if trying again is a good decision. My husband is now refusing to use condoms and is getting more pushy with his once.
00:24:44
Speaker
I can't get him to do anything to contribute more to our financial situation. I've tried to find ways for me to provide more income. I really need him to step up before I would feel comfortable trying again. What would you do in this situation? Not have kids. Really? No. You acknowledge that you can barely provide for the two of you. Yeah. Children are not cheap.
00:25:12
Speaker
If he's not willing to work and you already have free time because you don't have other lives dependent on you. You still can't do it. You still can't before. You still are barely making ends meet. I understand wanting kids.
00:25:30
Speaker
I understand that. You are such a blessing. I'm so grateful for my children. In no situation, circumstance whatsoever, would I ever, ever, I could never even, I don't even know what I would do now without all three of my children. As difficult as it is on some days. But no. Let's just pretend
00:25:55
Speaker
that everything is great and they never get sick and they never want to have a hobby. It's still expensive. So what? You're going to have a kid who like, I mean, just no, absolutely not. So selfish. So selfish. Yeah. Fair.
00:26:15
Speaker
No, I completely agree with that. That's sorry. And if your husband is gonna who is supposed to be an adult gonna leave you because you don't want to bring children into a situation that you can't provide for them and that is going it.
00:26:32
Speaker
I'll be the first to say maybe you need to exit that relationship. Yeah. I know I'm going to get a lot of critics about that, but like you go ahead and find someone else. Yeah. To have children with, right? Who are willing to put an innocent child through that bullshit. Yeah. Knowingly, knowingly. Things happen. Yeah. But if you don't want to work, you don't want to get up off your ass and do more and you don't even have a child, but you're going to come at me.
00:27:02
Speaker
because I don't want to make our situation worse, man. There's the door. Yeah. I mean, obviously I don't have any children, so. But that's okay. You don't have to have children to see the distribution, but you're an adult. Yeah. I mean, like, look, like I just feel like also there's so many people the same age who
00:27:26
Speaker
a want children but be like everybody is living paycheck to paycheck and like barely making it so it's like okay well you know they're half there's like some happy medium of like trusting that your future might get a little bit better but it's
00:27:43
Speaker
Of course, of course. But understand that if- She doesn't seem like she has much hope in their future getting better though is the thing. Right. And if you can't, if you, my biggest thing is that this person, the husband isn't willing to do more now with extra time. Yeah.
00:28:03
Speaker
I know. I've said a lot, but that is just... You're the only one that has kids. So I think that your opinion here is the only one that's valid. No, it's not that it's adult because you guys are adults too. You know how hard it is. Well, there's a reason why I don't have any children. My dog was enough for me. Like my friend just had a baby and like she's so overwhelmed and like that is her full time job now where it's like, I can't imagine being in a relationship where
00:28:30
Speaker
If I was still in the position I am now where I'm basically just taking care of myself and now I have another human being to take care of with a relationship that's already doesn't really seem super secure or like stable, I guess. That's such a scary thought to me.
Botox and filler experiences
00:28:48
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. I would not do it. Yeah. What's next? Go Haley. Cause I'm having a coughing attack.
00:28:58
Speaker
I was like, I'll go next, but it's going to require you guys to be honest about the work you've had. Oh, yeah. Come at me. Okay, perfect. Here we go. Come at me. Here we go. I have another one. All right, ladies. I'm considering getting lip and cheek filler for the first time. Have you had fillers and what was your experience?
00:29:22
Speaker
I can't- that's the subject. I can't believe I'm thinking about this. I'm fairly confident and I don't think I look quote old. I'm only 35. I have recently noticed that getting fillers is becoming more normalized. People see it as a beauty treatment and nothing more. Previously I thought it was obvious when people had filler but I'm learning that a lot of people get it with a more natural look. Have you had fillers or would you consider getting them?
00:29:52
Speaker
I have had lip filler done, I think like three times total, and I've had Botox twice. So Rachel was there the first time. Yeah, me and Hailey, me and Hailey both at 35 years old, or I think I was 35 when you were 34. I also for my birthday.
00:30:12
Speaker
Botox for the first time. That was one year ago. Yeah. And we were both like, why doesn't anyone talk about that? It feels like somebody just like, put like duct tape on your phone. No, no one talks about what it feels like to have Botox. It feels like someone just put a piece of tape inside your forehead and was like, good luck. And then we lived together at the time. So like, we would every day, we were like, do you feel that?
00:30:33
Speaker
the thought of you two in the near together. Yeah. No, it gets better. Do you feel that? Does yours move anymore? No, the following days after were like, this feels weird. And then Natalie was just like, that's normal. You get used to it. I was like, why doesn't no one talk about this? I was like, get used to this. We were both like,
00:30:56
Speaker
Okay, so you've had your lips done three times. You've added like a little bit of tops. Yeah, but they're still similar. Yeah. But my last girl that I started going to in San Diego, I really like her. She literally called like the natural injector and she's so good at like the shape and like, yeah, I've like really appreciated that entire experience. Like she was great, but you have to be careful who you go to. And I think that's like the key, like do your research, like,
00:31:26
Speaker
and always start like less is more like I think the first time I ever did anything, I only put like the teeniest bit just to see like what it would look like. Cause I didn't want to bring myself out. But, and also like filler moves and your, your body also can metabolize things in a different way. So like, I know a lot of girls, it'd be like. I feel like my body only metabolizes my Botox and not my fat. Yeah, exactly.
00:31:56
Speaker
but I know like a lot of girls who, I mean, granted they've gotten filler for like a long time, but you can start to see.
00:32:04
Speaker
like they have like bumpy looking lips and like, well, that's just like a bad that's just like, you just got to go to someone different. Okay, my turn. Yeah. I've been getting Botox from you. Yeah. I've got a lot of stressors in my life. My 11s are fucking permanent. Like I permanently look
00:32:26
Speaker
at people like this, so I'm like, it's not great for business. It's not great for my everyday relationships. I'm just walking around looking at you like, the fuck are you talking about? That was my instant, like we gotta help myself. Help that out? Yeah, so mine's like, I've been doing Botox for years. I don't get a whole lot, but I always do my 11s. I stay pretty consistent with my 11s and my crow's feet.
00:32:56
Speaker
Are we just talking about like all work or like? Yeah, so I had I had my boobs done after I had my first child. And but I feel like I went pretty natural. Yeah, she used to be much bigger. I had a
00:33:17
Speaker
a breast cancer scare, and they had to remove about a triple amphetamine, they had to remove a bunch of breast tissue around the masses. So I feel like they are smaller. So I feel like they're pretty they look they're dope.
00:33:30
Speaker
They suit me. They suit me. I don't think they're crazy. I'll be the last one to sit and harp on anyone or why did you do this or why did you do that? What else have I had? I've had my lips done once. I just didn't really feel like it did much for me. It made them hard. For me, it wasn't my thing, but I'm all for Botox. I'm all for
00:33:57
Speaker
you know, if you want to do something that makes you feel more confident, then do that. I think enhance the version of yourself. Don't try to look like someone else. I think that's like the... Well, okay. So I've never had my lips done, but now that I'm looking at myself in the mirror, I'll stop it. You're perfect. No. But I did get filler like a month and a half ago.
00:34:23
Speaker
Oh, I've had PRP. I did PRP, but it's like your own blood. Yeah, before I got filler like a couple months ago, I did like six months ago, I did PRP under eye treatment. And it was like $700 and you have to do like three or four of them to like really start to see an effect. And at that point after like the first one and it wore off like very quickly, it's like, well, fuck it. I might as well just go do filler at this rate, right?
00:34:47
Speaker
So I go to do the filler, which is like I just got it in this like under eye like cheek area. I've gotten Botox into my forehead three times. This is my first time ever getting filler.
00:34:59
Speaker
And bless his heart, this man, Dr. Rami Adelina in the Castro, thank you for being so great. He like starts doing the injections. He starts doing the injections, right? And he's like, okay, we'll have to go like along the bone.
00:35:18
Speaker
And I start sweating profusely. Also, this is at 2 in the afternoon. I hadn't even eaten that day. I start to see around my vision coming in, the darkness. And I was like, oh, fuck. I'm about to pass out, right? I'm blood sugar. Yeah. So I was like. That's the biggest push. Yeah, 100%. So I'm like, hey, can you use this? Wait, were you not?
00:35:42
Speaker
Uh, topically, like a little bit of topical, but I'm like, Hey, sir, um, can you, can you get the needle out of me? Cause it's like one of those cameulas or whatever that they have to use to get to the under eye, which it's not.
00:35:55
Speaker
It's not uncomfortable. It hurts, right? So anyways, I was like, hey, I'm about to pass out. Do you have any sugar or anything? Because I almost can't see. And so he sends out his assistant like, oh, yeah, go get whatever, like a drink. And she comes back with a zero sugar, like, a protein shake. A protein shake. And I was like, that's not going to work. I was like, I need sugar. I'm literally like, phew.
00:36:24
Speaker
I was like this close to fainting, right? And so he's like, oh, I got it. I got it. And he comes back and he's like, brings me like these little homemade cookies to eat. And I was like, oh my gosh, thank you. Some sort of like pastry. And so I ate a couple of them and we just sat there and I like dabbed my sweat. They were like, went and got me a towel because I was like dripping wet, like literally dripping wet.
00:36:47
Speaker
And then I was like, you know what, I'm ready to go. Let's keep it going. Let's finish up because one side is fun. I was like, one side is fun. Wait until I pass out. True. No, but I literally was this close to fainting. I could see a pinprick of light through the vision on each side profusely sweating. What was that? Wait, hold on. Can we talk about that for a second?
00:37:11
Speaker
The only other time that's happened to me and the only reason why I know that the antidote to that is sugar is when I was 12 years old and my mom took me to go get my belly button pierced. My dad took me. That's another topic. And I was also that same day had not eaten or drank in like anything. Like literally we woke up and my mom was like, let's go get pierced. And I was like, sick.
00:37:36
Speaker
I was like, yeah, let's do it. And so we like went and I obviously hadn't had any food. Wait, I actually remember this. Yeah. And so they pierced my belly button and I like get up to walk away and I was like, Oh,
00:37:53
Speaker
Yeah, like literally. I've known Rachel since we were 12. Well, what's crazier is my mom, I remember being like seven and my mom got her belly button pierced. She was like, yeah, do you want to go do it? And I was like, yeah, like I was like, I was a child as a baby. I was like, no, no, no, no, no. And then one day my mom was like, when the belly button piercing, I want to go get my tattoo touch up. And I was like, sick, let's go.
00:38:17
Speaker
drives away in the Jag. No, no, not us. Because that was Rachel and I used to steal my mom's Jag and under aid before we could legally drive. Anyways, that's 14. Story for a different time. That's the only time that I almost passed out like that. And I was like, Oh God, we gotta, we gotta get the sugar on board. Like, it's bad.
00:38:48
Speaker
I actually told you this story. Back when I worked at LF and it was like one of her client's friends. What? Like got like went to like the best doctor in Beverly Hills, right? Did this like under the filler. Oh wow. It went, it hit a nerve and she went blind. So that's- No problem? Yeah. No. Yes. Forever, ever. Like punctured the nerve. Yeah.
00:39:17
Speaker
It punctured the nerve or whatever the fuck it did. And she went blind. And so ever since then, I've been like. You didn't think about telling me that when I was like, hey, Haley, I'm going to go get under ice. I don't want to scare you. Because like, you need this bitch. I'm not telling you. Because I'm sure it's more advanced now. You said the waiver. It was in the fine print. In my head, I was like, oh, I'm sure it's better now, right? When I heard that story, I was like,
00:39:48
Speaker
under eye filler, I still think I can do it.
00:39:52
Speaker
leaving the tailor to really just. Well,
Beauty treatment side effects
00:39:55
Speaker
okay. At least now they know that it doesn't dissolve like they thought it did. So I won't need to like really get it touched up. I saw this thing on TikTok, cause that's all I do apparently, where it was like a plastic surgeon saying, you don't want to get too much filler ever because it will fuck you up for a facelift in the future. And apparently same thing as those threads, like it makes too much scar tissue.
00:40:21
Speaker
See, I've never had threads. Me neither, but I do think about it sometimes, like, in this part. Oh yeah, this part, like, sometimes... Like, look, if we could just thread that, you can't. You could thread your ass, do you know that? Like, 20 threads a cheek. You do? No, no, I win. No, you can't. I'm kidding. How do you sit down? Well, it's from the top. It's like a lift. Oh, it's an ass lift. Yeah, remember? I don't know if I...
00:40:49
Speaker
Well, yeah, my problem with my baby, look at my skin. It'd be like, your skin lived. Wow. I have to say something. Rachel just said, she goes, Oh, all I do is TikTok. I literally went to ocean prime the other night. And there I was. Same story, different day. I have these two random girls, there they are. And they're sitting three stoles apart from each other. Oh,
00:41:19
Speaker
I ended up being like best friends with them by the end of the night, of course. But I sat down and like they are just clearly didn't know each other. So like that's why they were sitting so far apart as I learned, but they were roasting that like it was the funniest thing. Like the two of them, one was like 50 something. The other one was like, like early twenties. And they're like talking about like all these dating stories. And I can't remember like what exactly they said, but
00:41:45
Speaker
There was something that, I just started dying laughing and the other girl saw me laughing and she's like, are you laughing at us? I was like, but only because I could relate. And so we started talking, I joined their conversation and they start talking about the dating apps and blah, blah, blah, whatever. So then I bring up the story that Rachel posted on TikTok and the girl had seen it. She was like,
00:42:13
Speaker
She's like, oh, she's like, I think I saw that on TikTok. I was like, yeah, she did post it on TikTok. She's like, oh my God, I saw that. And the other lady, she's like, I don't have TikTok. She's like, but I want to see it. Sometimes I like freak out about how many people like two and a half million people is. That's a lot. That was like a hit. A lot of people.
00:42:37
Speaker
When I showed them, it was like 2.6 or something when I showed them. It's a lot. That video on TikTok has over seven years worth of watch time. Two things. I remember waking up.
00:42:54
Speaker
Or you'd be like, I posted about what happened and waking up like the next morning and it being like 10,000 views and be like, okay, pop off. And then like by the end of the day, being like 50,000 views and be like, Oh, okay. So that's crazy. 2.6 million. But while talking about seven years worth of watch time, I just downloaded this app called Opal and it tracks how much time you spend on your phone. No.
00:43:22
Speaker
And not just like screen time, you guys. You guys. Literally. Years. No. Years. How many years? Years. Over what period of time? Like it's projecting that over the course, if I were to obtain my viewing habits,
00:43:51
Speaker
They're like, keep it consistent, right? Yeah, yeah, keep it consistent. Like, I could be like in the teens, like years of my life. Well, imagine the Gen Z. Yeah, I'm just as bad. I probably spend like six hours a day like doing stuff on my phone. It's so dark. It's like all I have is time. But what am I using it to do? Like, so we think. But anyways, I don't know. Do it or don't. I'm gonna don't because
00:44:21
Speaker
I don't know, I'm gonna do some soul searching and then maybe if I become brave enough, I'll download it. I think it's important to be aware of our vices.
00:44:31
Speaker
Instagram could like you could set a feature where like you couldn't post a story after a certain time. You have to blow into like one of the oh like a blood alcohol thing. Oh my god. Are you kidding me? FYI, if you want to know what's really going on in my life, check my fucking stories.
00:44:55
Speaker
JK. I thought I'm better at that. I'm like, do I really need to post this? No. Like, do I really need to write people back? No, no. Damn it. I can't believe I said that. No, it's really just like- Or drone hinging. Yeah. Oh, see, I don't have hinged. No, Heather's never had to use a dating app. I've never been on a dating app. So lucky you, because I'm going to tell you it's grim, I just raised my age range to 50. I'm proud of you.
00:45:22
Speaker
Thank you. Actually, the men are... I'm not looking for boys. I'm looking for men. Are they menning? Well, let's go. I mean, are they maybe going to lead a cult?
00:45:36
Speaker
I'm gonna find some nice salt and pepper beards look always a plus mostly salt that's good I'm
Hair loss solutions
00:45:47
Speaker
here for it that's fine look at me you guys can't tell right now I am I am salt and pepper you're still mostly pepper no no no no that's all hair dye sweetheart I I got married and I turned salty
00:46:00
Speaker
Like, I was like, my mom's like, Oh my God, my mom. Don't keep me imagining what your mom says. Your mom must be like, Oh, well, my mom's not. And that's just that she's like, Oh my gosh, that's environmental. She's like, that is not genetic.
00:46:22
Speaker
Yeah, she's like, you have to know my mom. Yeah, she's like, she's not she's not great at all.
00:46:36
Speaker
I don't have any where you can get them. I'm like, I've been that... No, me not. Okay, 25 is my... Yeah, checks out. Okay. Me and Hayley were both like, we don't have any grays, but like collectively we have like seven hairs. Like we're both balding. We'll get to that later. Yeah. I'm just going to put you on our hair supplement, guys. Just wait. I was thinking about giving like this treatment.
00:47:00
Speaker
for my this area where like the the front of my head like plugs no not plugs but I mean maybe if the treatments don't work then yeah plugs eventually I have like six years until I have to commit to the plugs okay yeah it's like PRP but if they do other like serums in there we're calling everything PRP these days no it is they take your blood and then they do it into your scalp and apparently makes the hairs grow
00:47:28
Speaker
Uh, salty blonde, the Instagram influencer does, has like a whole highlight about it. She's done it a bunch and she's bleach. So like you guys look, no, well, if you're watching online.
00:47:58
Speaker
I'm kidding. No. No. Okay. One day, I'm begging you to come to Turkey with me to get plugs to hold my hand. You have to say yes. I will. I'll be there. I'll be there. We're going to very chicly call it a hair transplant then as well. We're not going to call it plugs. Okay, it's good. Listen, I'm all for it. Let's have any more advice or should we move on to our top eight? I think we should maybe move on. We've done a lot of... We've had a lot to say about a lot. We'll be safe for the next.
00:48:09
Speaker
Zoom in for us.
00:48:29
Speaker
Yeah, and more advice coming next week, ladies and gentlemen. Okay, moving on to our top eight. This is a segment, a weekly segment, where we're going to talk about the top eight things that just really made us... They made it to our top eight of the week. Okay, so I'll go first. Mine, okay. Something that has really taken up so much of my life over the past two weeks are the...
Favorite beauty and wellness products
00:49:00
Speaker
the everything bagel crackers from Trader Joe's as well as the unexpected cheddar cheese spread. Sometimes I won't even eat dinner, I'll just come home and get the crackers and dip it in. And it's like a full, I don't even know what qualifies as girl dinner because I don't think it's unhinged enough, but it's so delicious. Girl dinner. Okay, next. One, that's my top eight.
00:49:28
Speaker
I didn't realize that this was a candle company. It's called Net. I think it's like N-E-T-T-E. I went into Sephora like six months ago and sprayed this perfume. It's called Coco Fleur. It's so good. It's like super floral, but it also smells like a little bit like vanilla. So I feel like it's good for people like me who
00:49:53
Speaker
don't like a very masculine like I like a very like floral sense, but that's not always good for the winter. So like this has like a lot of warm notes, like good for the winter. So I'm going to go on about my hair advice or her journey.
00:50:12
Speaker
So me and Rachel both have thyroid and we will actually Rachel went down a very deep rabbit hole. Because I'm balding you guys like legitimately. We found this product zenigan that is actually so good. This stuff has been the biggest game changer. Like I have never seen regrowth like how she's like my hair has literally filled in in that entire area from using the shampoo. You have to use it for like five minutes.
00:50:42
Speaker
I have never seen something work like that. Okay, step two. My friend Maddie posts this stuff called Miele. M-I-E-L-L-E. I'm looking at it right now, actually. Is that the rosemary stuff? Yes, this. Okay, if you're watching my video on YouTube or Spotify. But it's like a scalp treatment that you put on your hair the night before you are going to wash it and it's not sticky.
00:51:12
Speaker
it's all over like your pillowcase and stuff but it's like the exact amount of diluted rosemary oil I think it is. But I've known her for quite some time and like her hair is insane and she like swears by it. So she's also like has like a whole highlight on this stuff. And then third is my super goo glow screen. Like sunscreen but like a primer like a little glowy like just get it. Okay perfect.
00:51:43
Speaker
I have two. Okay. What are they? Okay. I kind of have three, but okay. Okay. So the first one is the Dior furnace nail color. It's new. It's shade two Oh nine. And it's like two Oh nine. The perfect holiday shimmer, like kind of silvery. It's just perfect. Wait, you're what? Dior 209. Okay. I'm looking it up.
00:52:10
Speaker
nail polish, me or nail polish. Oh, okay. Wait, if you can see. No, no one. There we go. That's nice. No, it's nice. It's nice. Nice. It's really pretty. It's on sale. Let me see right now everybody. Okay, and this one's kind of random. So I'm just gonna give you three. Okay, let's hear it.
00:52:37
Speaker
I live in Arizona. It's dry. I feel like if I don't hydrate or if I'm drinking too much wine, which is per usual, just my skin gets funky. And so I'm always on the hunt for good exfoliators. So one that I just absolutely swear by and it's not fancy, you can't buy it. Well, maybe you can't. You probably can't. You can't buy it at Sephora.
00:53:01
Speaker
It's just the Shea moisture, coconut and hibiscus illuminator. And it is literally the best exfoliator. I use it all over my body and not to be weird, but like my skin will feel like I'm a baby again. I'm here for it. Love it.
00:53:23
Speaker
maybe $9. It's my best kept secret. Oh, and then this one I just have to put on for I'm not even going to say. Okay, so there's this thing called the Asian glow.
00:53:34
Speaker
And what it really is, it really doesn't have anything to do with being Asian. It's an enzyme deficiency. Your body can't break down alcohol. So if you've ever been out with someone or if you have a friend who all of a sudden starts drinking and they start getting like blotchy and red and it's an enzyme deficiency, your body can't break down alcohol fast enough. So if you suffer from this, you can either not drink as much, but if that's not an option,
00:54:04
Speaker
You need to take. Next. Pepsi. Plan B. Plan B is the plan A. In every sense. You need to take Pepsi AC. Pepsi AC? Pepsi AC is the key. You take Pepsi AC before you go out. I know this because I suffer from this. I will, and it's not every time, but
00:54:33
Speaker
It's it's not cute. It's not fun. You can feel it. Take one Pepsi AC before and I promise you all of your problems will be solved. At least your skin problems. Good to know. But anyways, Pepsi AC if you if you experience in our top eight today is Pepsi AC. Okay, most audacious of the week.
00:54:58
Speaker
Oh,
French President's controversial marriage
00:54:59
Speaker
can't wait. You guys go first. I'll go first. Okay. Because maybe you guys already know this, but I was this week years old when I learned that the president of France. Oh yeah. You already know this? He married his teacher, his high school teacher. So when he was 15 years old,
00:55:22
Speaker
His art teacher, who's 25 years older than him, this woman, Bridget, he had a crush on her and they started hooking up when he was 15 and she was 39. Respect. Yeah. And then- The way this was handled. She goes, respect. No, by the way that this story is. It's like he was a minor and she was 39. She was older than us, hooking up with like this. Could you imagine today hooking up with a minor? Mm-mm.
00:55:49
Speaker
No, like a 15 year old? Are you kidding me? No, no. Well, anyways, they like apparently are like falling in love, who knows? And he got sent off to boarding school. Well, because his parents found out and sent him off to boarding school, which is like the only probably reasonable response to suffer like turning her over to authorities. Um, and now today they're married. So she and he are winning for me, most audacious of the week.
00:56:18
Speaker
Can you imagine? And her kids were his age. They are his age. The reason I said respect- No, it was the same school. Because it was handled. It was definitely handled. Like, I just saw this quote earlier. Fuck. I can't even think of what it was. I think it was a quote for statutory read. No. I just saw this quote that was amazing. No. I'm just kidding. You'll get it. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let me get my phone open because my face is- Okay, I'll go. I'll go. Okay, go.
00:56:48
Speaker
audacity of the week is not a positive one.
Celebrity behavior and its impacts
00:56:52
Speaker
Okay. Um, but, uh, P fucking Diddy, the audacity and like,
00:57:04
Speaker
the videos that people are pulling up from like past interviews. And then I remember, like I remember when we were going out, we probably were in high school, maybe even younger, when like, I wasn't making the band, maybe it was with the Aubrey O'Day.
00:57:21
Speaker
Oh, yeah. Yeah, when I remember like watching her and being like, yes, like so hot, like white girl could dance like can sing like she would, she was everything right. And then to see her journey and obviously she's gone through some things and to try and kind of come out but because
00:57:43
Speaker
maybe she didn't have a lot of respect in the industry or whatever happened, people just wanted to instantly be like, no, and not believe her and shut her down when she tried to tell her story and be like, hey, listen, like,
00:57:57
Speaker
There's some shit that happened and it wasn't okay. And everyone just like pushed it aside all the while knowing that like he was sending Cassie away for three weeks to fucking Hawaii. So like no one could see how bad he beat her. Like, so you're trash. Like that's, I don't care. Like there's some things I know, you know, opinions. People don't want to come after certain celebrities. Like I'll say that's trash. Yeah. The audacity Diddy. The audacity of Diddy. Yeah.
00:58:27
Speaker
Okay, mine's much lighter. Yeah, it doesn't have to be with people being abusive. Sexually abusive to mine is perfect.
Holiday kindness reminder
00:58:38
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Mine's also like a friendly reminder because the people working during the holidays are audacious and the people that they deal with, it's just like during this time, I one can say, it's very, very challenging and
00:58:58
Speaker
I personally have experienced some very like aggressive people who just have zero respect for you and just like you don't exist as a human to them. Like you are not your own person. You are simply a roadblock to what they want. And it's so frustrating right now to work in
00:59:25
Speaker
Like, and I mean this in any industry, whether it's like retail or the grocery store. Air travel. Yeah. Airline, everything. The people doing your holiday parties that you're like attending your corporate holiday parties. People are doing their jobs and just because you're not necessarily getting the answer or the deal that you want in that moment has nothing to do with them. They're doing their job.
00:59:53
Speaker
I just feel, just be kind. That's my only message because I personally have been like, oh my God. Where do these people find it okay to act like this? The holidays should be a time where the good comes out of you and you really see a nasty side of people. So that's my message. Yeah. That's a good one. Wow. I like that.
Closing remarks on health and kindness
01:00:22
Speaker
Be kind.
01:00:30
Speaker
Thanks for joining us on this very first podcast of ours. What are you gonna say? Take your what? Take your immunity shots so you're not like me. Oh, you're sick. Be careful and take care of yourself. Heather's so sick. I am. But you're not like so sick, but you're sick. Yeah, I did all the tests. It's not the COVID, but so coughing, right? Like people are like, Oh, well, it's not COVID. You're fine.
01:00:50
Speaker
Yeah, I think that's a good a good note to end on behind everyone.
01:00:57
Speaker
You don't want this, even though it's not COVID. Yeah. So yeah, just, you know, like, take care of yourself. Be kind. What else? Live love. Live love. We'll see you next week, everybody. Bye guys. Have a good one. Bye.