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The one where Haley has a hangover
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Join us this week for a friendly conversation where we cover everything from alien abduction to Emrata's divorce rings. Plus -is it a red flag if a 33yo woman has never lived alone? Will Haley be able to make it through a whole episode without succumbing to her hangover?
Kanye is the Joker reference (start at 3 mins in)
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Introduction and Birthday Anecdotes
00:00:06
Speaker
Welcome back to the Audacity Podcast. This is your co-host, Rachel, here again today with Heather and Hailey. Hi. Hi, guys. How are you feeling, Hailey? Perfect. I feel great. You guys have been better. I want to die, actually, but it's fine.
00:00:27
Speaker
We're here. We made it. I'm just going to jump right into it and say that all three of us this week learned that you can buy a 10 pack of fireball shooters. Those are sold in 10 packs.
00:00:46
Speaker
I think we need to do a redo because by the time I got them, I was already pretty much three sheets to the wind and passed out. Rachel door dashed me wine and fireball. For your birthday. For my birthday. Let's clarify. Not because I needed it. On her birthday. On a random weekday. And they had this great, it was like great intentions to, we're all in different cities, right?
00:01:12
Speaker
FaceTime me and do a shot. And by the time I got them, I opened one and then like retreated to bed and missed the FaceTime call. Yeah. Oh, no, you answered. Oh, well, I was asleep though. Well, like I was like laying down. You were in bed. You were in bed. Yeah. But there was no way we were like, OK, port mission. Port mission. I woke up with two of them empty on my floor, just spilled. Like I literally just spilled them. I'm not even sure what I was doing over at my table by myself.
00:01:41
Speaker
Oh, no, you were on FaceTime with me. Yeah, I do remember that. I just have messages. Answer. Well, no, because my pods kept hanging up on you for some reason. And you're like, if you hang up on me one more time, I'm like, relax. Relax. Yeah, I definitely, I definitely woke up with an empty fireball mini shot next to my bed. And I felt like such a degenerate. It was like a school day too. I was like, oh my god, oh my god. Oh, yeah. Nothing good comes from fireball.
00:02:11
Speaker
Well, you're welcome. I appreciated the
Springtime and Social Dynamics
00:02:18
Speaker
sentiment. How was the rest of your birthday party, though? Birthday? I fell asleep. It was literally 9 o'clock. I went to lunch and then came home and hung out with my kids because again, it was a school night. Went in the hot tub.
00:02:32
Speaker
I did not do anything eventful. I have people coming into town and the three of us are going to get together, so I find a way to drag it out. It's been beautiful here. There's something innate in me that once it's over 75 degrees, I have to find the nearest patio and a cocktail immediately. It coincides with the spring and my birthday very nicely.
00:02:56
Speaker
I know. I finally got sunny here this past week. Me and BK took mushrooms and went to go try and ride the trolley cars. Oh yeah. Is this when you guys spaced on me? Wait, hold on. I do remember this, actually. Didn't you think that the trolley went in a loop? Look. Not like it was city transit, but like it was actually ride. Yeah. OK, well.
00:03:29
Speaker
The rumors are true. I don't know where they go. I've never taken one. That's so awesome. Except for as a tourist. So you thought it was like a... Yeah, I was like, we gotta go stand in line. You gotta go stand in line. I like where it starts. And he's like, no, you know, like you can jump on at any stop. I was like, they stop?
00:03:51
Speaker
It was good. Yeah, that's embarrassing. But yes, the rumors are true. Just to circle back, as soon as the sun comes out, I'm like, feral behavior. I saw this thing in regards to being feral. This lady was like, I basically can't ever go out on St. Patty's Day because both of my kids are born late December. And I did the math really fast. And I was like, oh, yeah. I'm like, I have that. I saw that too.
00:04:19
Speaker
I have a December, January, and February, so apparently, I come out during the springtime. Well, it's like the clothes come off, you know, it's like sun-dressed weather. It's got that tan look out. Baby-making weather. That's hilarious.
Wild Nights and Relationship Red Flags
00:04:36
Speaker
Hailey, how was your week? I had a cute little spiral week that ended in West Hollywood last night, and I currently have no feeling in my left hand, which I am concerned about.
00:04:48
Speaker
Not really sure. I should go to the doctor, emergency room, therapy. Probably all of the other people. My hand has been tangling since this morning. Did you just sleep on it wrong or something? Okay, but it comes right back usually. No one's coming back. I don't know what's going on. West Hollywood, I tell you, no matter what happens,
00:05:15
Speaker
I don't know what happened because whatever is in the drinks in those bars, like we ended up at the Abbey. I had no recollection of even being there other than seeing video footage of a male dancer basically on my head. And I'm just like sitting there just riding the wave completely fine. So you celebrated my birthday for me. Yeah, I was like, got it. Yeah, it was fireball the night before and then after that just went right into the next day.
00:05:44
Speaker
So that was cute. But no, yeah, I had a bad week from dealing with my ex who I just found out some cute little lies that I knew were true, basically. And yeah, just through the week away, basically. But on that note, I actually would like to bring up something such a red flag as if if you're dating somebody and right in the beginning, they're telling you stories about
00:06:10
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whether it's cheating or just crazy stories from their past, red flag. History almost always repeats itself and every story that he told me pretty much happened to me during that relationship. I wouldn't have even figured out certain things had he not told me those stories and me know that he's capable of these things.
00:06:34
Speaker
He's not a good person. No, he's not. Speaking of these red flags that Hailey's talking about, I remember one of the first times I met him, we were like out to breakfast the next morning after a party. He told me the story where he used to be an Uber driver. And he was like, I used to be an Uber driver. And one time I like picked up this hot girl. And when I went to go drop her off,
00:06:57
Speaker
She invited me in and he was like, so I went in and I don't remember what they did, but I remember she was giving him a massage or something.
00:07:06
Speaker
Yeah, she was giving him a massage or something when his girlfriend, who has his location on her phone, shows up and is like, what are you doing here? Like rings the doorbell, someone answers it and she goes, is he here? And then she just yells his name and he's like upstairs. From like a ride, like a girl that he picked up. And I remember sitting there and being like,
00:07:29
Speaker
This isn't a flex. This isn't a flex to think it is. This is a really weird story. That's cool that this lady invited you in, but I'm sitting here with your girlfriend. I was appalled by this story. In my head, I'm like,
00:07:49
Speaker
Hey, well, note to self. I don't know what job he can do at this point. Something's bad is not going to happen.
Personal Time and Lifestyle Reflections
00:07:57
Speaker
Heather, you told me that you had or you have some updates on New Year Better Us episode. Oh, yeah. Well, just like, you know, a general update. I feel like that particular episode, I didn't really like divulge too much. But I've been keeping up with my like me time. So I was almost golfed every week or at least gone to the range, which is great.
00:08:17
Speaker
I joined a book club to keep myself accountable. That's fun. Yeah, so like you like people in your neighborhood or no, it like I literally just found this group. So there's this guy on Instagram that I follow and he like reviews all these books and he has like within his subscribers, you can like join different book clubs based on your region. It's supposed to be once a month, which I like you probably will not read.
00:08:44
Speaker
But I apologize. I'm like, but I'll buy the other person the book. So you like buy the book and then you rotate. I thought it was cool. Have you guys ever heard of that thing where it's like the mailbox in certain neighborhoods and you like leave books in and you take one like a library. It's like a used book library. No, no, they have this in LA in LA on the sidewalk. Like a library.
00:09:13
Speaker
No, no, they're like literally like little boxes. Yeah. I don't know. This is a very LA thing where like some people on the front, like on the sidewalk, they'll build like it looks like a massive birdhouse, but like with glass in the front. And then if you have, you know, use books that you're ready to pass on, you as a neighbor can go put it in there or people who walk by can take it out, take one, leave one kind of vibe. Exactly.
00:09:41
Speaker
Yeah, and they call those like a little library. Okay, well, yes, but just in that moment in the class just like a library. Yeah, my delivery wasn't the best, but that's what I was thinking. Yes, no, you're exactly right. I felt like that was like a really big thing during COVID or like it kind of reemerged. Yeah, they are everywhere in LA. I kind of like
00:10:00
Speaker
should do that for my neighborhood. Even though it's a gated community, there's like three big communal mailboxes, which is kind of annoying because you have to like go to the mailbox, but it would actually be like a perfect location to do that. Oh, that's kind of fun. Although I do have one neighbor who wrote a book and you can buy it on Amazon because she thinks she gets abducted by aliens. So yeah.
00:10:22
Speaker
I feel like she would just put a bunch of copies. She would just put her book in there. She actually thinks she's been abducted or is being abducted. The book is a true story. Listen. I might want to read this actually. One of my other neighbors bought it because we used to have women wine nights.
00:10:44
Speaker
Okay, whatever. So it came about like it somehow got brought up. And then another neighbor was like, shut the fuck up. Like, that's not true. Yeah. And so they googled it and then bought it. And yeah, she thinks she gets abducted by aliens. This is your neighbor. Mm hmm.
Fashion and Attractiveness Insights
00:11:03
Speaker
Not my next door neighbor. But she's like, you know, lives like a block away.
00:11:07
Speaker
You know, sometimes I hear stuff like that and I'm like, I'm not living life to the fullest. Why don't they want me? Honestly, I'm like, I couldn't be way weirder. Well, oh, yeah. And that's really saying something, but yeah. Did you guys see Amrada's divorce rings that everyone's freaking out about? I did. I did.
00:11:29
Speaker
I'm here for it. And in this capacity, okay, I feel like a engagement ring is a gift. And I think that if you're gonna call it off in a month or three months before you get married, then maybe there's more room for like, I'm gonna give it back to you. But if you've been with someone for a while, if you have children, I personally, and let's just say like, things are
00:11:56
Speaker
I don't know what's amicable or things are up and up financially. I don't see a reason why you should have to return it. I also don't necessarily think I want to hold on to the ring. Maybe the wedding band or bands to give to a daughter. I don't think there's anything wrong with repurposing the diamonds. I agree with that. Also, didn't he cheat on her? Yeah.
00:12:21
Speaker
something like that. I don't think that he did anything good. Like there's rumors that he had been seen with other girls. Do you guys think that he even bought that ring for her? Like, I'm feeling like she bought it herself. Probably. Actually, there's like a lot going on right now in the celebrity drama world. You just had your little, I was gonna call him Kimye because it's not that Bianca Kanye spotting. Her outfits are getting like more and more
00:12:51
Speaker
That's all Kanye though. He dresses her. Yeah. I can't believe I almost completely missed it. How do you just miss that? I just walked this cruise right by. I don't know. You're old world, man. You're just like, my old vision. I was telling you guys though, if I saw them walking down the street, I'd be like, oh, those people are on drugs. I mean, they have a presence.
00:13:16
Speaker
I mean, it shock and awe even remember like back in the day with Amber Rose, yeah, when they would be like walking around, not La Brea, what is it called the Grove? Like it was like kind of the same thing. Like he, Rachel, you made us such a great point the other day. Like your Batman reference was Oh my gosh. Yeah. Okay.
00:13:32
Speaker
Just to give everyone a backstory here, my favorite movie of all time is Batman, the 1989 version, Tim Burton, original music by Prince for the whole thing. It's actually a great movie, but sometime around the age of five, I started watching it, like, psychotically, every day.
00:14:04
Speaker
I could write a dissertation on this movie, but I've been harassing a lot of people, pretty much anyone that will listen that Kanye West is the Joker from that movie. He shows up and he's like being like such a fucking narcissist. And you know, he's like, she wants to change women and like, they're his projects. It's like,
00:14:17
Speaker
Um, and I still watch it really like regularly. So I basically have the entire movie memorized.
00:14:24
Speaker
absolutely that. It's so fucking spot on. When you made that reference after Hailey was like, Oh, yeah, like just like Bianca and Kanye were just like right here and they're spectacle like creepy like creepy on point. Yeah, spot on. It gave me like chills to think about because even the way he I forget one of the things he said but just like, like her basically being like
00:14:45
Speaker
arm candy walking around with him. It's like beyond mu status. It's like another level. It's like control. It's manipulation. It's wild. Speaking of style though, how do you guys feel about the baby girl style for men?
00:15:04
Speaker
It's like guys that dress like hyper feminine. It'd be like Harry Styles when he wore that dress or it's like guys that wear the pearl necklaces and paint their nails or crop their t-shirts so that they have a little bit of belly. I've always been in the camp of like, do you? You're not hurting anyone. If that's your form of self-expression, then go for it. I think it really depends on the person. If you can pull it off and
00:15:29
Speaker
That's your style, then go for it. I kind of like it. I feel like it's a little slutty. It doesn't, um, I feel like people reference is, I don't know if Kylie Jenner is still dating him, but Tim, whatever his name is. Oh, Timothy Chalamet or whatever. Yeah. Like I feel like he's been referenced as having that style. There's something about it that's just like, hmm. Well, it's just audacious. I see that pearl necklace. Whatever, pearl necklace. Actually like, I think Matt has even worn one of my pearl necklaces before. Yeah. So I don't really see that that is like, but like the crop top.
00:16:00
Speaker
like the slightly cropped. But you know what? Here's the other thing too, because football players do it. I was about to say that, but it's like a little less. It's like a little less cropped. Because some, I feel like maybe my time frame's off. But in the 80s and the 90s, it was like, and even now, you'll see running backs. Some of them will be full on just abs out if they're just stacked. Yeah. And that's, I don't know. It's kind of hot.
00:16:27
Speaker
I'm kind of her crop. Who cares? You know what's actually the most slutty thing a guy can wear, though? What? Just like a gold chain necklace, like tucked under their shirt. Oh, that's like my favorite thing. I know, it's so slutty. I'm actually like bot-mat multiple. Please wear this. I like any subtle, though. I'm not big in like the obnoxious amounts of jewelry for guys. It's just my personal preference. But yeah, like a subtle necklace. It doesn't even if it's not gold. Just like subtle. I love me some Gucci daddy shorts.
00:17:11
Speaker
Calm down, Heather. It's springtime. Is there Heather baby making months? I'm a spring breeder. I'm a spring breeder. Okay. I saw this guy on Tuck Talk and he was saying that most people are collectively somewhere between a three and a seven. Like realistically, if you're on a scale of one to 10, like a three and a seven.
00:17:24
Speaker
Oh wow. No, I like Dorian guys too.
00:17:34
Speaker
Like for hotness? Yeah, like most people. Yeah. And in our minds, most people tend to think of themselves as being a higher number or like, you know, a seven or an eight or nine, when maybe other people perceive them as like a four or five. He was saying that like a good marker for you to know is to add up the people that you've dated and come up with
00:18:02
Speaker
they're like median number and that's your number. My last one brought my average down. You don't say. That's a little humbling. I feel like I've dated, like for me personally, I'm like, all right, all right. But then I'm like, I've dated some guys that
00:18:25
Speaker
They're just they're funny, you know, like, we're all so quiet and speechless. I'm like, Oh, so that's why I thought that was like worth sharing. So I was like, Oh, okay. I'm gonna put you on the spot. What? What would you say? My average number? Yeah.
00:18:47
Speaker
Like now in hindsight, I think I, okay. What I find physically attractive in guys is not stereotypical beauty. Well, and it wasn't even just physical. It was just like package. Oh, like package. Yeah. Like what is like, because you can, someone could be like, maybe they're a nine, but they have awful personality. They're a horrible person. And so they're not at nine. You know what I mean? You can't even stomach to listen to them. Right? I mean like nine though.
00:19:16
Speaker
I'm just saying, so that's why I said I was like, I've dated some funny guys. Yeah, I mean, I've dated... They're all just crazy, to be honest. They're all mentally unwell. Is there a category for that? Listen, I'm telling you, these comments were like, people were shook. They were like, God damn, that's right. I don't know. What do you think, Hailey? Hailey, you like pretty boys.
00:19:45
Speaker
most of the time. I had one that really, like I said, took the average down for sure. But I feel like for the most part, I mean, obviously my ex-husband, I feel like he was pretty up there. And then after that, we really just went downhill. We were in the trenches for a while. Yeah. Well, because I mean, boyfriend, boyfriend, I have only really had a few.
00:20:12
Speaker
Yeah. And it's like, you know, people that you considered that you dated. That you like slept with regularly. I think we could say that, right? Okay. Then there's like a couple other ones that could maybe bring it back up. I don't know. I mean, I'm so scarred by the last one that I really... You're gonna move... No, you're gonna like pass too. Move past... Yeah. Oh God. Move past the last one. That's just, you know... Okay. Other than that, I don't know. I'd say like seven, eight.
00:20:39
Speaker
Yeah, they were pretty up there. That's pretty like average. Yeah. This is a hard game. Right. There's a lot of introspection happening right now. This is humbling. I know. I was like, okay.
00:20:54
Speaker
But I think they're sexy, so that's all that really matters, right? It's true. It has nothing to do with what anyone else would say. It's just more of a like, oh, you think you're an eight? Okay, well, what's your collective average dating history? Oh, five? Perfect. Is this us realizing that we're fives? I'm about to pull up my hinge.
00:21:16
Speaker
Oh my God. Pinch is so bad. You guys, I don't even think I can do dating apps anymore just because of all the incoming guys are just so ugly. It's wild. I'm like, where are all the hot men? I walk around, hot men everywhere.
00:21:35
Speaker
none of them are on the apps. I am obviously I'm not on any apps. I've never done apps. Yeah, I think that I just feel like there's nothing compared to the friend or mutual acquaintance introduction. Like despite all of the
00:21:52
Speaker
easy access, Instagram, signing in DMS, dating apps, all the things that you can like, readily tap into. Like, I do feel like there's just nothing like a mutual friend introduction. No, yeah, so true. Actually, now that I'm thinking about it, the last person that I had any type of like,
00:22:12
Speaker
any type of relations or relationship with that I met on a dating app was my ex-husband. Like every other person I met in real life. I'm not saying that they don't work for some people, you know, that like dating
Dating Apps and Social Perceptions
00:22:24
Speaker
apps don't. Can't confirm they didn't work for me. They haven't worked for me. What is really bothering me about Bumble and Hinge and all these ones where there's like a paid up level. I'm not really using it, but my profile is still up there. So like maybe I'll have like incoming likes.
00:22:40
Speaker
Basically what's happening is they're using my profile to sell access to me to these guys.
00:22:47
Speaker
they're willing to sell access to me to literally anyone who's paid, even if I'm like, not an active user, but my profile is still up. They're using me to make money. Like I'm the commodity. Yeah, you're like, yeah, hell yeah. That's fucking gross to me. That is a really interesting take on it. These guys that are like, I'm getting liked by on like hinge. There's no way that they think that that's gonna happen, right? Like they know the algorithm knows that it's gonna be a no.
00:23:15
Speaker
But they're still willing to show me to these guys and get them to spend whatever $5 or whatever it is to send the rose or whatever it is. That sounds crazy. They bamboozled you for your message for $11.99, remember? Oh, yeah. Oh, that's a bumble, but yeah. Oh, god, that's embarrassing. I'm just saying. I blocked that out.
00:23:35
Speaker
So you know damn well they are. I do remember reading an article about about the founders and like how they hit up girls at college campuses. And like that was where they did their initial recruiting. And it was like mostly about just making sure that women were on the app. Because you know, just like with any bar and what we know, like, yeah, life. It's like where the women go, the men will flock. They absolutely are literally making money off of your likeness. And I'm
00:24:02
Speaker
grossed out by that. But they got to make money, right? I know they have to make money. But okay, so for instance, like Raya, right? If you're on Raya, you have to have like a paid account, there is no free account. And so like, for me, something like that, where it's like, you know, that already everyone's paying, like they're making their money. And then there's no upsells. Something about that feels like way less schemey, and like a little bit more genuine than, for instance, like hinge where,
00:24:29
Speaker
You know, they have like their weekly like standouts or whatever. And those are like people you have to pay to talk to. And those are like the people you would be most compatible with. Been in it. That is so wild. They're using me to like dangle me a solid six. They're dangly me in front of all these men. And they're like, look who you can have. Just pony up. Give us $2.99 and you can have you can send her that like, likes you back. It's gross. Yeah, it's bad. This is kind of off topic. Okay. Okay. Do you think
00:24:59
Speaker
that the way girls feel during their ovulation week is how guys feel all the time, like 24 seven. Oh, just like super horny. Do you think that that's how guys feel all the time? Probably. We should ask a guy.
00:25:14
Speaker
Yeah, actually. How would they know? Yeah, true. It's constant. It's baseline. This morning, I was in the shower thinking about it. I was like, if this is how guys feel all the time, I actually feel bad for them. There's like a week where girls are just like crazy. And then one day, all of a sudden, you're like, oh, you come back to your right mind. You're like, hmm. And guys don't get that luxury if this is how they feel all the time. Like, they don't get to wake up one day and just be like, so anyways. But I feel like, yeah.
00:25:43
Speaker
On a different note, I feel like you know when you're like about to start your period. Yeah. And you kind of forget and then you like come to and you start and you're like, Oh, that's why I was emotional. Yeah. Oh my God. That's why I experienced that more than I do. Like when I'm ovulating. I'm sorry.
00:26:03
Speaker
I know. I'm having a hot flash over here. It's all the toxins leaving my body. Seriously. Yeah, but I definitely have that before I start. I'm just like, oh, God. Sometimes if someone's like really triggering me or I'm just like almost reactionary, then I'm like, wait a minute. What's the date? Because I need to tread lightly.
00:26:25
Speaker
I cried during summer house the other day. I was like, okay, this is ridiculous. Go to bed. That's a really funny way. You know what I've been crying about this week? Don't ask me. No, but it was like match week for all the doctors who are matching into their residencies like after they go to medical school.
00:26:49
Speaker
Yeah. And just watching it on TikTok, how excited all of them are when they snatch into any program, but especially like the program that they wanted. Like I cry every single time. Oh my gosh. That is every single time. Yeah. I haven't seen any of them, but yes. I'll send you some. They're emotional. Well, I get the same way about kids, like when they open their acceptance letters to college and it's like their parents are behind them or like,
00:27:12
Speaker
grad school, and I love it. It's just a culmination of so much hard work and joy. Exactly. And their families are always with them. It's like a whole ceremony opening these letters. That's cool. That's what I've been crying about this week. That's not a bad one. Pure joy. I never knew that's what that was called. Match week. Learn something new every day. Okay, guys. We got an advice question this week, and it's actually from a guy.
00:27:38
Speaker
Oh, I know. I was like, hey, male listeners. OK. Is it odd or weird if a woman in her late 20s or older has never lived on her own? Is it strange being 30 plus with a roommate? As a dude, if I wanted to date you at 33 and I had roommates, that would be considered a bad sign according to most women. But it doesn't seem to apply to women themselves. Thoughts? I actually have a lot of thoughts on this. Yeah, go for it. And it's two sided.
00:28:07
Speaker
One's emotional and the other one's financial, but I'll start with the emotional one, the emotional side. I actually don't love living alone. It's not my favorite. I am a social person and to just come home and no one's here.
00:28:25
Speaker
Like it's nice sometimes but like not all the time. Like when I got out of my last relationship and I was like moving and like going somewhere I knew I was like I cannot live alone right now. There's something to be said especially for a woman because we are like social creatures that living alone isn't always the best for your mental health and I do think that some women might choose to live with roommates or friends because
00:28:52
Speaker
That's like what makes them happy and like they don't want to just come home from work every day and sit by themselves. So I think that that's always a possibility. The other one is financial. It is extremely expensive to live alone and just to be a single person.
00:29:11
Speaker
And I do think that it is sometimes smart to have a roommate. When I moved to San Francisco, I obviously got this apartment. This is my first time living in one of these big apartment complex buildings. So I don't really know if this is a standard or whatever it is.
00:29:28
Speaker
This is not my normal vibe, but when I moved in here, they wanted me to show proof that I was making six times the rent per month, six. So that means I'd like by myself, I could not qualify for this apartment because that would be me and I was making.
00:29:44
Speaker
more than $25,000 a month. Which is crazy. First of all, I'm sorry, but if I'm making $25,000 a month, this is not where I'm going to live. It's like random little shoe box. I had to literally have my dad be a cosigner on this apartment for me. As a 36-year-old lady, obviously, I make enough where I don't feel stretched to pay for this apartment. I would never do that to myself, but six times is wild. I was thinking about it. I'm like, okay, well,
00:30:12
Speaker
Six times the rent is actually not that much if you're in a couple. Making that much is just two people who make $150,000 a year, which in this city is average, right? So I'm thinking about it and I'm like, okay, well, that's a penalty to a single person.
Living Alone: Costs and Safety Concerns
00:30:31
Speaker
I think that when they decided that six times the rent, that's what they had in mind. Oh yeah, a couple will live here and- A couple making $150,000 each.
00:30:41
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each. Yes. And so that's an easy thing to achieve for them. But as a single person, it's like, you really don't think I can, couldn't pay my rent if I, if I'm not making $300,000 a year. That's ridiculous. And so I found this article that came out a couple of days ago that I thought was super fascinating on this topic. The salary a single person needs to live comfortably in 25 major US cities.
00:31:06
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In New York, it's 138,000. Here in San Francisco, it's 119,000. LA, 110,000. All of these seem so low. In Gilbert, Arizona, or in Glendale, Arizona, it's 102. It's what you need to make to live comfortably. I guess what I was saying is that it seems like most people in those cities make way more and are still uncomfortable.
00:31:31
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I don't know. I thought that was interesting. Just circle back. If you aren't making $120,000 a year as a single person and you live in a city
00:31:45
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no matter your age, like at some point, you're like, what can I do to take a little bit of financial burden off of me as a single person? And oftentimes, yeah, that's having a roommate, cost of living is an issue. Like, I feel like no matter where you are, especially now with like inflation and all this shit, everything is expensive. I just remembered those circling back to his question, because he did say, as a 33 year old man, if I live with roommates, people would look down on that. Well, I think for
00:32:12
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girls too though, there's like the safety aspect where like living alone sometimes is scary as a woman compared to a guy. You know, like if someone breaks into my house, I am not confident that I could protect myself. So I mean, there's also that side. I would be happier if I had a roommate, like, I mean, obviously for the company, but also for safety.
00:32:34
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I do think that there is a little bit of bias actually. I think that if a 33 or 36 or 40 year old guy doesn't live alone and obviously there's always like certain circumstances or periods of transition but doesn't or has never
00:32:50
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I do think that a lot of women see that as a red flag. You can't support yourself. How are you going to provide for a family? The first part of the question does say, is it weird if a woman in her late 20s or older has never, never lived alone? And I will say, I think so.
00:33:08
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I think that anyone, guy or girl, if you're in your 30s and you've never lived alone for some period of time, there are lessons you learn when you live alone. There's a lot of responsibility, independence. Can you be alone with your thoughts? Can you take care of yourself? I totally agree on the, maybe after a year or so, it can feel lonely. But I think if you're approaching your 30s and you've never lived alone or you're in your 30s,
00:33:34
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Every situation's different, but for me personally, I think I would be like, huh, okay. Yeah. Yeah, I would say that it could be a red flag. Are you dating a 38-year-old guy who's never lived alone? No. Okay. I would think that's weird. Yeah. What if he lives with his mom? Look, would I date a guy that was 38 and has never lived alone? No, but have I also been with a guy who lived in a yurt?
00:34:05
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Yep. Have I been with a guy who lived on a boat? Yep. Alternative living situation. Never really turned me off. So like maybe? Never say never. And that's why I think every situation is different. I just think for like a blanket opinion, 38 year old guy who's never lived alone.
00:34:24
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red flag. I think most people would feel that way. Yeah. And that's what he's saying. Like he thinks this question is like, is it, is it weird? Do women find that weird? Because not all guys find it weird if a girl hasn't. Thank you for the question, listener. What a good one. Someone be my roommate. You guys should just move to New York. I'm like me and my freaking cats. I'm like anyways.
00:34:50
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I don't know, maybe I'm bored. I'm so bored. I'm so bored with my life right now. I know that I moved here for this purpose because I was way too like the opposite of bored for like way too many years.
00:35:08
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feral as she likes flying way too fast. This is part of why I moved to like be bored. So I feel like I need to lean into this a little bit and be like, I am achieving a lot of goals.
Boredom and New Ventures
00:35:22
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Now, if you were to call me this morning at five 30 in the morning, I would have answered, but it would not have been because I hadn't gone to sleep yet. I don't know. I need to lean into the boredom, but I'm so fucking bored. Well, how's tennis? It just got sunny. Okay.
00:35:38
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tennis tennis, I'll sign up actually. So on my like little board, my bingo board for the year, one of the things was to join a charity. I am going this weekend to check out the San Francisco Conservatory of flowers because I think that that's why I'm going to volunteer.
00:35:56
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That's so awesome. What do you do there? Water them? She's going to prune bonsai. Yeah. Actually, maybe. There's also the Japanese chi garden where I'm sure they do that. They do. It's awesome. After you sign up and do the orientation, which I think is 20 hours, they assign you a role for your volunteer hours based on your strengths or what you want to do. I'm going to find out more.
00:36:22
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That's so cool. Actually, I won't be that bored because I want to be with the flowers this summer. Should we get into our top eight?
Product Recommendations and Health News
00:36:30
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Let's do it. I just got this. How do you say it? Way. Way? The hair care? Yeah, I think it's way. They have this new hair on. But anyways, it kind of just brings life back to your hair if you haven't dyed it for a while, but I really like it. Does it help the color? A little bit, yeah.
00:36:50
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Oh. It just makes it look a lot healthier too. Okay. What was that? That's fun. Oh my gosh. I just got an update. I'm sorry. This is real time and it's probably going to date Kate, the princess. Oh, did they find her? She has cancer. No. Oh my God. That's why she's been in hiding. No, that's so sad. Wait, what kind of cancer? Oh my God. I'm going to have a panic attack.
00:37:16
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She's been undergoing chemotherapy treatment. No, that's so sad. Does it say to what she has? Oh, I got the update too. Reveal, she's been diagnosed with cancer. She did specify. That's why she looks so thin. Oh God, and all the tablets have been just like dragging them.
00:37:34
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I know. Everybody was speculating. Oh, yeah. And this. Yeah, like so many different things. That was my favorite. But I definitely thought while there I was like, Oh, maybe like a tummy tuck like she has. Yeah. She's like,
00:37:52
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A necklace. I don't know. Those are popular. Does she need a necklace? I always thought she was super thin and frail looking to begin with. Oh, I think I just threw that out there because I want to get one in five years. Right, or a necklace.
00:38:08
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That's so brutal. Did you get a necklace? I needed one. Okay. Anyways, number two. Okay. So I actually found these pouches and I don't have any unopened ones, which kind of feels weird, but they're called the good patch. And I think because normally when people think of patches, they think of like nicotine patches or like hormone patches, but I actually really liked them. I bought rescue for like,
00:38:38
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to bounce back after a hangover. And I used to use one of those. B12 Awake. And I actually really like them. And I feel the difference that you could take it off whenever you want. I love that. Yeah, I had someone ask you, like, well, how does it work? I was like, what do you mean? You put it on your skin. But like, how does it work? Like, you do know your skin. Yeah.
00:39:08
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Absorbent. It was like a little bit uncomfortable. I was like, okay, we're not even gonna bother with this one. But yeah, the good patch. I need to check him out.
00:39:27
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All right, number three on our top eight is the Maybelline Fit Me Foundation. Oh, it's such a banger. It's like a $7 drugstore foundation, although with inflation, I think the prices have gone up. But if you buy it on Amazon, you can still find it for $5.99. For years, it was $5.99.
00:39:46
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Yeah, now it's like 11 something. I just bought one. It is the best foundation. I've been using it for 10 years at this point. I get the Dewey one. It's all about the Dewey. Once a year, I stray and I go to Sephora and I buy some expensive foundation. I use it for two weeks and I'm like, it's just not hitting right.
00:40:07
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I go back to this foundation. I've had women stop me on the street to be like, what is your foundation? I've even had my makeup done for a bougie wedding, and that was the foundation that the makeup artist had in her kit. It's so good. It's so good. It's so cheap. I've gone to all night raves, sweaty warehouse raves in this foundation, and walking out with the sun up, I'm like, oh, I still look good. All right.
00:40:33
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It's still in place, number four. I'm not sure how you say it. Laneage. Laneage. Oh, like Laneige or something like that? Yeah, I think it is Laneige. Laneige. The lip sleeping mask.
00:40:44
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So good. Oh my God, your voice right now, you sound like you're really going through it. I am going through it. I can barely, we just noticed an hour in. I'm just like, lineage. I can't read right now. I can't speak. I'm sorry. You're having a hard time existing. You're doing great, sweetie. Almost had to throw up once. It's the lip sleeping mask and you wake up and your lips are still on.
00:41:13
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Oh, that's nice. It's really good. Okay, so since I'm like an avid golfer now, it's called a modest vintage
Fashion Essentials and Tech Tools
00:41:21
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player. They have really good, classic, timeless athleisure. One of the golf gloves that they have, and it's not just for golf, they do a ton of different sports, but one of the golf gloves they have, it's like white, but with this really pretty like tan leather flap, it just looks like it's like vintage.
00:41:38
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Almost like a Hamptons tennis club. I love it. I just discovered it. And so I ordered actually one of the golf clubs, but it reminds me of like Michael Jordan, like back in the day playing golf when he used to wear loafers. Their stuff's really, really good. And they have stuff for guys and girls. Awesome. I'll have to check it out after I link it below on the show notes. Well, I think it's like right up your alley now that you're going to start playing tennis. Yeah. Yeah. I'm like, yeah. Okay. Number six.
00:42:07
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Yeah, six. That feels good. I don't know. I've been really wanting to expand my belt collection recently. I'm like every outfit that I put together, I'm like, this would be so much better with a really cool belt. Number six on the list is the brand below the belt. I feel like their quality is really good and they have a lot of chic belts and it's not too expensive. I've been like looking at Instagram ads for belts now all the time and every belt's like $500. I'm like, why are these belts this expensive?
00:42:36
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So below the belt, great price point. I do think belts are underrated accessories, like staple accessories. If you have a really nice tan leather, like a black, five or six really nice staple belts, it can really, it elevates an outfit. I've been into belts lately. Anyways, below the belts. And I just saw, they started doing bags as well, purses. So check them out. It's a good brand. Okay. Number seven is going to be this 21 day.
00:43:06
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cleanse, I'm gonna start. She's like, I just saw it online. I haven't ordered it yet. I actually did just get it. It's like called clean 21 or something. But yeah, I'm thinking it's time to open it.
00:43:22
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I'll do it with you. Please do. I'll do a cleanse with you. I used to do cleanses, I'm not cleanses, but abstain from alcohol for Lent and then, I don't know, then I had kids and I was like, oh. I could use a good 21 day detox.
00:43:40
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Y'all have fun. Check in with me. I'm going to be over here with my 10 pack of fireball. You get a 10 pack and you get a 10 pack sending them to random people. Okay. Number eight is an app called my mind and I just started using it. It's actually really cool. So I know like a lot of people will use like Pinterest or
00:44:04
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Instagram saves or TikTok saves and this app allows you to save like literally anything from across the internet. All you have to do is clip it and like save it to the app and then it uses AI to tag everything and to organize everything so that
00:44:21
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When you are like, Oh, I want to pull up this thing that I saved. You just have to like type in one thing about it and it will find, or it will pull up all the things with the tags that are relevant. So like, let's say you're looking for new belts, you're shopping for new belts. Like I can save all these different belts in with, you know, everything else that I'm saving. And I can go into the app and just type belts or like black belts and it will pull up all the options that I had saved.
00:44:44
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instead of having to manually scroll through long lists or create all these complicated folders. I don't know. It just seems super efficient. I'm going to link it below. I love that. Well, it's like we were talking about how in Instagram sometimes, you'll save something, or you'll go to pen, and then it's not there. And then also if people delete it. Oh, yeah. We're like, oh, yeah, maybe that's why.
00:45:12
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I didn't think about that. Um, yeah, that's true. So anyways, my mind.com remember everything organized. Nothing is there opening slogan. So that's a big promise. Deep. All right. You guys have the audacity of the week.
00:45:29
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Oh, good. Have you guys heard about this lady? She's in her fifties, Michelle Mac. She lived in San Diego. She just got arrested for an organized crime ring where she was hiring people to go into like Ulta CVS and steal like all the beauty products. She was then selling them on Amazon. Oh, wow. They're saying over like the past few years, she has stolen $8 million worth of cosmetics.
00:45:57
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Isn't that fucking crazy? You know what? I actually kind of remember Sephora getting hit at one point. Is it these orchestrated smash and grabs? They have to be. Yeah, exactly. And so she was hiring people. She was hiring people and like sometimes people like would fly into completely different cities.
00:46:16
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to go do these smash and grabs. Yeah. And get all the merchandise and then choose just selling it on Amazon. Imagine having no inventory costs. You just have to pay the robbers. These are hard times. We're getting real clever, aren't we, people? So clever. Could you imagine just having a ring of how dark does your life have to be if you don't want to front the money to buy inventory for stuff to sell on Amazon? Yeah, I know that.
00:46:43
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Yeah, especially when you can go and buy like crates like that's right. It's like overstock. Yeah, that's wild. I don't know easy though. But dark is always like if you're gonna commit a crime.
00:46:58
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It's not really something you go and involve tons of people with, right? No, right? Those are always the stories like when I listened to True Crime or I don't know, First 48. It's like, too many people knew about this. People are dumb. Anyways, I feel like she has some serious audacity. Yeah, she did. Doing a crime ring. But I feel like actually that stuff's way more
00:47:22
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common than we would even think. I started thinking to myself, are some of my Maybelline fit me's that I buy on Amazon stolen goods? That's what I was thinking. I was like, maybe that's why they're $5.99 online because they're stolen. Participating in the crime ring. That's crazy. I don't know. Maybe it's a possibility. Don't shop on Amazon, although I will link to everything below from my Amazon. Enjoy.
00:47:46
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Hopefully they have stolen products. All right. Well, everyone, thanks for tuning in to our very random episode today. Just catching up. We'll see you next week. Thanks for listening. Bye. Oh my God. I got so nauseous like two minutes ago. I thought for sure I was going to run.