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Legs feed the wolf
16 Plays6 months ago
Continued discussions of the foundations of self improvement and the progress made. Identity based improvements and the deeper analysis of negative habits
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Introduction & Creative Processes
00:00:35
David Isaacs
I was going to do a bit to just continue playing that for like a few minutes and wait until you interrupted me be like, okay.
00:00:47
David Isaacs
But I decided against it. I think I ran the intro a little bit longer than I normally would.
00:00:53
Big Brain
ah I totally phased out. was just into it. So probably would have been 10 minutes before I said anything anyway.
00:00:58
David Isaacs
Yeah, it's a good it's a good starter, I think, just to get the ball rolling, get you moving in a little bit in a groove.
00:01:02
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:01:04
Big Brain
Yeah, I get the creative juices flowing. I like it. and
00:01:08
David Isaacs
Yeah, yeah. But what up, every everyone? it is November 1st here. Joined by my colleague, Brian, self-proclaimed gentleman and scholar.
00:01:22
Big Brain
are very Very few of us left. And you, sir, are one especially with ah that wonderful mustache that you could sink a watch to. You look like an airline comp pilot before Coke.
00:01:35
David Isaacs
Yeah, a little bit of upper lip lettuce.
00:01:38
Big Brain
There you
00:01:38
David Isaacs
it's It's good.
Personal Grooming & Growth
00:01:40
David Isaacs
you know It's like the male equivalent of like women getting in a new haircut or something.
00:01:47
Big Brain
Something like that, yeah.
00:01:47
David Isaacs
So just like change up. it's It's a way to change up the image, I guess. Because for me, I never really considered a different haircut. I mean, I have buzzed my head few times, but I don't really have the luscious locks that I used to to really make things work.
00:02:08
David Isaacs
I kind of just have to work with what I have now. So luckily I have facial hair to be able to do it.
00:02:11
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:02:16
David Isaacs
And I was thinking about doing a handlebar. but I think that'd be a little bit too far in the, in the workspace. I kept making jokes about it. Like, Hey, what's the company policy on handlebar mustaches?
00:02:29
David Isaacs
And everyone's like, ah so I never really got much traction with that. So we're, this is what we're rocking. And ah yeah, I'm kind of happy with where it came out.
00:02:39
David Isaacs
Cause there've been times before I've shaved and it gets uneven. And then I try to even it up on the other side and then it gets too high. And then I even it up on the other side. And then, It just looks bad. So I just shaved completely.
00:02:54
Big Brain
Yeah, ah
Self-Improvement & Mental Health
00:02:55
Big Brain
well, it looks great. um I wish I could pull off facial hair, but it's like the Asian side of me, I guess, if you want to go with that stereotype. You really can't grow a mustache unless it's like a Fu Manchu. So I avoid mustaches and beards like the plague. So i don't do well with facial hair. So I'm a little jealous.
00:03:21
David Isaacs
it's ah It's fine. um you know Make up for it in some ways. um you know I would have... I'd rather have a patchy beard than be short.
00:03:33
David Isaacs
Not that I have any reservations about my height or anything, but when you look at things, like, yeah, you know i can I can grow a beard. That's cool. But other people have other things that they have as well.
00:03:45
David Isaacs
It's really just like working with what you have and with the beard, I felt like for so long there were, maybe it was Atomic Habits or was said somewhere.
00:03:59
David Isaacs
I've read lot of books not to completion. So I just get ideas from places and forget where they're from. So if I'm not giving credit where it's due, it's just because I don't exactly remember where I'd seen it. But I think the basic idea of instead of,
00:04:15
David Isaacs
trying to hide something instead of trying to mask something to actually work on something. So like for me, um yeah, I mean, I had gained quite a few LBs over the years and I think the beard kind of helps ah hide some of that.
00:04:33
David Isaacs
So um it's really just like being comfortable with yourself and then me not worried so much about vanity to be like, I'm not trying to hide who I am and im you know, also working to become better, but it's not like I'm going to go out and buy clothes that make me look slimmer.
00:04:53
David Isaacs
You know, it is a, has been a goal of mine to get healthier, get more active, eat better. and And don't know if it's, really something that's like kept me from doing it, but I just don't want to be somebody that kind of try to tries to hide from that truth or being secure about it. Like be more so secure as a person. Like, yeah, I mean, this is where I am and I'm working on it and it's going to take time and it's difficult.
00:05:19
David Isaacs
It's difficult for me. It's difficult for a lot of people.
00:05:24
Big Brain
Yeah, I like what you said. ah you know, don't cover up anything about yourself.
Fitness Challenges & Accountability
00:05:30
Big Brain
Just be it. Be yourself. It's a freeing experience, you know, so if that mustache helps, you know, keep it, keep it how you want.
00:05:37
Big Brain
It's not about the size of it. It's about how you use it. You know, think I read that in the book somewhere, but maybe it's another subject. I don't know, but I commend you. Um, I've started going back to the gym pretty regularly.
00:05:51
Big Brain
um I didn't go through, the last time we talked, I didn't go through with that that Fit Body Boot Camp. is I had kept it for about two weeks, and I just i couldn't go through it. It wasn't financially feasible, so I'm going YMCA.
00:06:06
Big Brain
ah The one by me just recently renovated, so it's all nice. It doesn't smell like piss that's been soaked in carpet that's like 40 years old. So that's a start. Bud's got a pool, basketball court, running track.
00:06:22
Big Brain
so I'm not just really limited to the weight room, um, which, you know, I could probably go to a gym that's, I don't know, 20 minutes closer, 15 minutes closer and do that. But I get bored easily with that.
00:06:38
Big Brain
And I'm not always just interested in doing weight training, um, on a diversify, make it fun. Um, so that's what I went with. And it was, you know,
00:06:50
Big Brain
a fourth the cost of what a fit camp is. And I can sign up at any time for those type of like circuit trainings or, you know, hit classes, cycle classes, all that. So, um, I liked the diversity for it. And i what I'll miss obviously is like the community and and then accountability, but really at the end of the day, I have to keep myself accountable anyway. And i'm working self-motivation, know,
00:07:18
Big Brain
keeping my self-esteem up, not getting down on myself. So, um, work kind of has been going that same way. I've, you know, would get down on myself for not knowing a a topic or a subject that I need to learn quickly, but um I'm just now into the blaming. It's the technology and the platform. It's not me. It makes me feel better anyway. Maybe not the most healthy outlet, but you know I'm doing things about it to improve my sense of self and my my own self-image, kind of what
Work Stress & Self-Esteem
00:07:50
Big Brain
David had talked to. So um yeah, I mean, i feel feel great. like I haven't had any brain fog. That was like always my biggest thing. I've always had a good memory, ah but you know just between...
00:08:04
Big Brain
poor sleep, poor nutrition. Like I felt like I was just struggling to say words. Um, and you know, even, and even though I'm only 36, like it's still kind of a concerning, it was a concerning moment for me where I couldn't remember certain things. So, um, just doing everything to to be a healthier person.
00:08:25
David Isaacs
Right on, brother.
00:08:28
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:08:28
David Isaacs
i think the, yeah, the brain fog thing, I think it's really hard just from an, it's really abstract, you know, because you're working out, you know, your muscles are sore. If you're tired, you know, you're tired. If you're hungry, you know, you're hungry with work and those types of things. It's like kind of hard to tell sometimes when you're just overwhelmed, know,
00:08:51
David Isaacs
or what's really causing some of these issues. And like you had mentioned, a lack of sleep, um some other things that kind of feed into your general mental energy throughout the day.
00:09:04
David Isaacs
And yeah, i was dealing with that for a little bit too, with just kind of being overstimulated in a new office, new role, new responsibilities, not really but finding a rhythm.
00:09:17
David Isaacs
ah so quickly. And um yeah, so luckily that's changed a little bit, but even with the more responsibilities and things that I've been getting, like mistakes still happening, you know, staying on later to correct things, things that i used to do to make sure everything looks correct. And there were some things that I even like thought about and those had come up. So yeah,
00:09:43
David Isaacs
Really, um at least for me, kind of reframing things as learning teachable moments and also kind of having that humbling and humility and like... Also, the other side of it is, like, you can't play scared, right?
00:09:58
David Isaacs
Like, I know now what to do, what I'm supposed to do, how to make sure that things look correct.
00:09:59
Big Brain
Yep.
00:10:05
David Isaacs
um The biggest problem, I think, is just letting, making things harder for other people if they can't trust, like, what they're looking at is accurate or if it's true or what have you. um So that's really something that I've cared about and pride myself on is being that person of responsibility and reliability.
00:10:30
David Isaacs
So when it doesn't happen, it sucks. But that was kind of one of the big things that I talked to my therapist about. And I've talked about at length, but just kind of the shame based motivation spiral.
00:10:44
David Isaacs
And working my way out of that because, you know, as a kid, you're taught to feel shame for things that you did wrong and ah you feel bad about it until you do something ah let's make up for it. And that's still true. I mean, you're never going to be perfect 100% of the time. And if you can't be proactive about something, then you got to react quicker and um communicate and make sure you understand, you know, what went wrong, what can you do better the next time.
00:11:11
David Isaacs
but You also can't get too down on yourself about it either because that just kind of holds on you and you're more focused on not making a mistake than actually doing the work and trusting your processes and, you know, learning as you go. Because that's, I feel like that's the frame that these mistakes and things need to be taken from a person that,
00:11:39
David Isaacs
It is a learning
Learning from Mistakes
00:11:40
David Isaacs
moment. It's teachable moment. And what are you going to do with it instead of, okay, yeah, I, I really messed up. Um, I'm useless. can't, why can't I do something that's so simple?
00:11:53
David Isaacs
And then focus so much time on making sure that those specific mistakes don't happen again and you end up making a different one. instead of like, Oh, okay. Yeah. I, I know better for the next time. I'll make sure I'll take care of that. And I'm not spending two hours after something that should take 20 minutes trying to comb through everything, just, you know, trust the, the work and the processes that I've learned up until this point to take that further. And it is somewhat difficult just trying to gain that trust, like being a ah newer person, but, uh,
00:12:29
David Isaacs
It's not really a setback. I think it's kind of understood from perspective like, okay, yeah, you know, you're going to make mistakes and things are going to happen. and really you get more grace, which is nice. But and the other part of it too is like just really always rebuttaling like the negative connotation in my mental conversations.
00:12:58
Big Brain
Yeah, I get that. um You know, the they always say in football, the best ability is availability, right? So, I mean, I can go... Obviously, that's for football. That's just being able to show up and play every Sunday is a big thing. But I think for me, that goes a longer way of, in my career, of just, one, obviously, physically being at work, never really calling in sick. But moreover, just ah I'm...
00:13:27
Big Brain
we're at we're at a point with our company where we kind of have to, we're, ah we're not overworked. We have more work than, you know, we probably should, but that's kind of a sign that we're one, we're busy.
00:13:39
Big Brain
We're making enough business to, you know, keep the lights on and all that. um But two, it signals that we're, you know, becoming kind of subject matter experts and in our work and um you know, no one else is going to be able to kind of do the things that I do, at least in my particular profession of being a web developer for you know our two different e-commerce sites um and just iit work in general but they're you know it's sink or swim right ice cube says sink or swim you got to think to win so i think not getting down in yourself having that mental availability for yourself um to learning new things and giving yourself grace i think is the most important thing
00:14:25
Big Brain
you can have in life and, and really in a, in a career. And it's taken me a long time. i mean, I've been at this company just, you know, according LinkedIn, 16 months. Um, it's taken me probably about that long to kind of figure that out.
00:14:38
Big Brain
Um, you know, cause I, I, it's the job that I'm in is different. Like I'm setting my own workload. I'm setting my own pace. I'm setting up, you know, meetings, uh, walking through all of the project guidelines.
00:14:54
Big Brain
Um, taking in stakeholder input feedback and all that, right? Like I have to, I have to manage all of that just, and also my, ah my workload. So I have to have it down to a process that makes sense and manageable and that I can kind of speak to of things that I'm doing. So, and but now that I'm not newer, quote unquote, you know, i have that, I guess, experience to say that I can, you know,
00:15:22
Big Brain
that I can do all of that and it not overwhelm me. So it definitely takes a bit of time. And, you know, you, like you've been saying, you kind of just have to draw on your experiences. um even if it doesn't make sense for the current problem that you're facing, you kind of have to, to, to draw on that and figure out the problem and that's in front of you.
Balancing Life & Relationships
00:15:42
David Isaacs
Right. And, I, I think the, the big thing, I, I just like saying can't play scared. So that's just like the, the mental mantra that been saying for so long, just cause it, uh, I, I finally watched the replacements because, uh,
00:15:51
Big Brain
Yeah. Yeah.
00:16:02
Big Brain
Oh. Good movie.
00:16:04
David Isaacs
Yeah, and that was the Gene Hackman RIP. That was the the question he asked Keanu Reeves' character, which I can't remember his name for the life of me.
00:16:19
David Isaacs
Falco, Shane Falco.
00:16:20
Big Brain
Shane Falco. Yeah.
00:16:21
David Isaacs
Yeah. He's like, what's the difference between winning and losing? At the beginning of the movie, Keanu's like, the score... And then as it goes along, like that's what Gene Hackman, know, you get into the middle of the movie and that's what Gene Hackman tells him. It's like you separate the winners from the losers because the winners want the ball when the game's on the line.
00:16:43
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:16:44
David Isaacs
And that's the difference. I mean, and that's if you think about that and consider winners that they want that responsibility, they want that feeling of like, I'm not going to win every time, but I'm going to go out there and like, I want it.
00:17:00
David Isaacs
So that's kind of what spoke to me a little bit. And as I've been getting more into kind of the, the mental adaptations of the things that I've held onto processes that I've held onto for a long time that I hadn't even realized that I was doing that were negative and now moving more and towards like more positive things. Whereas I used to just kind of take that, that mental thoughts and oh like I said, negative upon it,
00:17:29
David Isaacs
positive connotations of those thoughts. Like I didn't think it really mattered too much, but I can definitely tell a difference in the last few weeks of how I'm speaking to myself, how criticize, less criticizing and then more kind of like pushing things more into a positive,
00:17:52
David Isaacs
um, as much as I can. Cause yeah, I mean, at the end of the day, like mistakes are going to happen. Okay. You made a mistake. How do you make up for it? Or what do you do because of that mistake? And that's really the, the, the biggest thing.
00:18:05
David Isaacs
And you can't play scared, right? You can't play with, uh, not trying to lose, right?
00:18:08
Big Brain
Yep.
00:18:13
David Isaacs
Like you're trying to win, but to be able to win, if you're stressed or if you're facing a deadline, like you still have to stick to those systems and, um As you go along, you learn these things. And as you learn them, you put them into practice and can't really get away from that. And I think in work, in life, things happen.
00:18:33
David Isaacs
It's a lot easier to break a good habit than it is to break a bad one, obviously. So, you know, who are you when...
00:18:39
Big Brain
Yep.
00:18:43
David Isaacs
you're stressed out, you're facing a deadline, you're, you got brain fog, can't think right. You know, are you, who are you when things like that happen?
00:18:56
David Isaacs
Um, and I think that's really kind of what separates, uh, a lot of people that could either figure it out or maybe they figured it out like a long time ago and It's it's tough to continue on.
00:19:10
David Isaacs
But yeah, i mean, it's easy to, you know, diet for a few weeks or go to the gym for a few weeks. But where are you when it's cold outside when you don't feel like going?
00:19:21
David Isaacs
or, um you know, something's coming up that there's there's going to be a lot of triggering things for you, right? And I think that is really hard to kind of simulate and whether or not it's like a good thing to try to simulate or not.
00:19:42
David Isaacs
But when they come up, it's like, you know, can't sit make excuses for yourself or, um, and sometimes, yeah, I mean, if you do make that mistake, then how does it affect you?
00:19:52
David Isaacs
was like, Oh, I shouldn't have had that pizza or I stopped for fast food or i didn't hit the gym today, or I made a mistake at work. You know, um, how do you, what do you take away from that?
00:20:03
David Isaacs
And I think for me, like it is tough because a lot of the, convenient things that we can do are toxic, but there are some convenient things that we can do that are positive.
00:20:15
David Isaacs
And unfortunately, like journaling, and reading, planning, taking notes, like, I mean, these things take effort, they take time. And how do you plan your day around that while also making sure you get good sleep, that you're not taking away from the next day's energy that you need and some of these other things. So Yeah, I mean, there's like a lot of thought and a lot of things that go into it and um ah trying to identify, you know, like the biggest detractors from your productivity or your you creative thinking or some of these other things is really what I've been focusing on. And I've.
00:20:51
David Isaacs
It's taking time, obviously, as most things do, but I feel like I'm trending in the right direction. I'm investing towards
Therapy Benefits & Self-awareness
00:21:00
David Isaacs
um that future.
00:21:03
David Isaacs
And it comes from that, all the foundation from a place of love and grace and um the feeling like you are good enough, but you want to get better.
00:21:15
Big Brain
Yeah. um Yeah, I agree with all that. For me, it's, um I mean, ah found foundational work is always lay the groundwork, as they say. um But for me, it's been kind of just sticking up for myself.
00:21:32
Big Brain
um You know, even if it's,
00:21:36
Big Brain
ah you know, doing a demo for a product or something and, you know, I get feedback of why'd you do it like this? As long as I've been able to speak up of as to why I've been able to do it, I think I, you know, get some kind of common ground with the person I'm dealing with or, um you know, even so kind of sticking up to my wife, like not to say she's like overbearing or anything, but it's like if I normally would just go along with, you know, the flow and living kind of a chaotic life, uh, with a small business owner, you know, I've kind of had to say like, Hey, we're,
00:22:13
Big Brain
I don't like the pace that we're currently going. Um, we need to kind of switch up our schedules. Cause like at the end of the day I'm, I'm getting burnt out. Um, you know, and I know that you're getting burnt out of working every weekend. So like, let's figure something out.
00:22:28
Big Brain
And I think it was because she felt at first that she was, you know, felt like she had to plan everything accordingly, but you know, I always had the mantra of being easygoing, but at times where now that I'm,
00:22:43
Big Brain
Married and there's two other people in my life that I have to account for, you know, I think. For us, it was just coming to an agreement of what works for both of us. At first, it was kind of just like what made sense and I just went along with it. But now I'm getting to a point, especially, you know, in my career, it's like, you know, we had we have to have family time. We have to have all of this. Like, we can't just be working 24 seven. we just.
00:23:10
Big Brain
we both are working towards, working on ourselves when we're both in therapy separately and together. where We go to couples therapy. i'm I'm not ashamed to admit any of that. Everyone needs a tune-up, even a couple.
00:23:22
Big Brain
um But we're both working on ourselves and we're trying to become more empathetic and we're coming to more common ground on things. So
00:23:32
Big Brain
that situation is never easy and there's, not going to lie, there's a lot of arguments so over stupid things that probably shouldn't have happened, but we're getting, getting towards the path of, of that happiness and that coming from place of love rather than frustration because my work my wife works 60 plus hours. So, you know, I'm home with my son a lot and like, I love my son, but I don't want to be spending every waking hour. I mean, that probably sounds selfish and caring, but like, there's just times where I've just like burnt out and I want to, you know, go to the gym or go,
00:24:07
Big Brain
play video games or just sit in silence for 20 minutes and then go to bed, you know? So we've worked our way around all of these things. Um, and we're working towards the place where we can both succeed. So, um, we're getting more structure in our lives.
00:24:24
Big Brain
Um, and takes communication, you know, um, where it's, it's, it's, it,
00:24:36
Big Brain
it doesn't seem like it's moving as fast as maybe it actually is. Like, it's kind of like taking time to kind of slow down and appreciate these things like that. We're, we're, we're slowly getting there, you know?
00:24:47
Big Brain
Um, that's for my perspective. It's one more piece in the puzzle of, of, of life and trying to figure out all these things. Cause it's like, there are times where it's like, I need to escape, find escapes or, you know, mentally or whatever. And,
00:25:03
Big Brain
going to work sometimes and just figuring out a coding puzzle or whatever, you know, is rewarding part of my day. um and there are other times where if I come home from a frustrating day, it's like, you know, want to play with my son. Like, it's just finding the perfect balance of this thing with, you know, other, other stakeholders in your life, say to say so long-winded response of we're mentally getting there.
00:25:32
Big Brain
um You know, my wife is going through it herself. So we're um we're trying to lift each other up and become better people.
00:25:42
David Isaacs
Yeah, it's awesome. I think, ah yeah, at the end of the day, like, in in terms of couples, like, people get together for a reason. And I think the same thing with life and work and being in a relationship, a marriage, and having kids and that.
00:26:03
David Isaacs
um Yeah, sometimes you have to shake things up and as As far as anyone that's thinking about going to therapy, I think we talked about this a lot, but, and I, I've said it earlier when we were talking in this episode, but there are things that you don't realize that you're doing that affect you negatively.
00:26:22
David Isaacs
or the systems or the things that you do that you don't think about too often that are affecting you negatively and you don't realize it. So that's what therapy really helps with.
00:26:34
David Isaacs
And the people that say, oh, I don't need it.
00:26:34
Big Brain
Nope. nope
00:26:36
David Isaacs
Well, yeah, you don't think you need it because you don't think there's you know problems,
Strategies for Personal Growth
00:26:40
David Isaacs
but everyone can get better. And I'm not saying that everyone needs to go to therapy. Some people can come to some of the realizations on their own.
00:26:49
David Isaacs
but I know life is stressful for a lot of people in whatever capacity of things that you're dealing with. So there are some things that get swept under the rug or there's some things that get overlooked and it's really helpful to have somebody that is there to help. and really the process of like asking you these questions, asking you to dive deeper. Oh, well, when did this start? Why do you think you do that? And,
00:27:18
David Isaacs
How are you doing? How is your week going? How have you been working on the things that we talked about? And yeah, with, like you said, the, it takes time.
00:27:29
David Isaacs
Losing weight takes time. um Feeling better about your self image takes time just because you, there's so many habits that have been gotten into for however long throughout our lives that we thought served us and come to find out it doesn't serve us anymore.
00:27:46
David Isaacs
Or how do you, If you've been at a job for a few years, how do you not stay complacent? How do you continue getting better? How do you structure your time in chaotic world of not knowing what it is that you're going to have to do with each day?
00:28:03
David Isaacs
So, um yeah, I think that was. And the big thing that i talked to my therapist about but ah last time I spoke to her and over the last few weeks of, How do i you know, how do I really know if I'm making progress?
00:28:18
David Isaacs
Because with the shame-based spiral thing is like you feel bad about yourself. You try to take and to circumvent that you try to take on way too much at once and it works for a little while and then either fail and you feel worse about yourself like you can't accomplish what you set out to do or it works well enough for a while that you feel good about yourself enough that you stop doing it.
00:28:43
David Isaacs
And you you stop altogether. So then really like, how do you get past like these stopping moments and how do I set good progress to be knowing um starting out small and then working towards, you know, the next step of folding more in.
00:29:00
David Isaacs
And i think that's like the one thing that I've been thinking about more and I still don't have like the, a great answer, but that's what got me thinking more about some of these things that are toxic.
00:29:15
David Isaacs
um Gosh, what do you like? They're efficient to do or like they're they're easy to do, like ordering things on Amazon DoorDash whatever, like these conveniences that become toxic.
00:29:28
David Isaacs
And i want to try to get more positive convenience. To say, OK, you know, how do I make it easier for me to be able to track some of these things?
00:29:42
David Isaacs
how do I make it so if I don't have, you know, the time today, each day to journal, or if I get in bed and I'm like too tired to write things down or to read, like, how do I plan around that? Or how do know I'm doing something well enough to say like, I'm doing this 80% of the time.
00:30:00
David Isaacs
So I can, I can add in more, but then how do I know what to add in that? It's not going to, you know, negatively affect me on the, ah the amount that I'm doing. And I think it's, it's same to say like, oh, you can go to the gym for two hours and get less done than if you were there for an hour.
00:30:19
David Isaacs
But what matters to you? You know, if you have more time to spend there and you're being patient, you're taking your time or you're not overdoing something, or if, um,
00:30:32
David Isaacs
you know Some of the days like you feel better about doing something that you needed to get done even though you felt like you had no time to do it. Whereas the days that you do have that time and you just kind of want to get that back and chill out for a little bit.
00:30:47
David Isaacs
And I guess like taking things day by day and really figuring out what matters to you I think are kind of the big questions that I've had.
00:31:00
David Isaacs
over the last few months and some of this like discovery and knowing and feeling like who you are as a person and building off of that, like your identity based self.
00:31:13
David Isaacs
Like I'm not, I don't have goals. I just, when I think about like work, like, you know, I don't have goals necessarily, but I care about the work that I do. I care about continuous improvement. I care about helping out the people I work with.
00:31:28
David Isaacs
um and some of these other things. And then that lends me to, okay, well, I can take this on or I can take that on. And it just kind of like that continuous compounding interest of taking,
Cultural Anecdotes & Life's Journey
00:31:40
David Isaacs
investing in yourself.
00:31:43
David Isaacs
So, um yeah, to make a to make a short story long which is another phrase that I've been liking to say. ah just like a ah lot of different phrases I like.
00:31:56
David Isaacs
Legs feed the wolf is another good one. It can be applied to a lot of things, but usually when somebody's like, oh, I got leg day, like, oh yeah, legs feed the wolf.
00:31:59
Big Brain
Oh, I like that one.
00:32:07
David Isaacs
you is Wolf doesn't have strong legs, can't run fast enough to hunt things down. Wolf don't get fed. Or if you're you know trying to do something at work, you're like, yeah, I'm learning about this to do this. I'm like, oh yeah, legs feed the wolf.
00:32:25
Big Brain
yeah what's uh i just ran through the almost i guess speaking out of the wolf the white wolf i was i ran through the new season of the witcher in couple days because i was just happened to come out on both days that i work from home and i needed kind of a distraction so i watched that but it was always a saying of never lost i always found um I'm still trying to decipher how that works in my life, but it sounds exotic. So I've been kind of using it, even if it doesn't make any sense.
00:32:54
Big Brain
I just haven't taken the time to kind of maybe a try to figure out a definition of how it works in my life. But, um you know, it's it's one of those cheesy movie things that, you know, you kind of just like, it's like Fast and the Furious, you know, for family, right?
00:33:11
Big Brain
ah No one knows what it means, but it's provocative. You know, so. I wish I had a more well thought out one for you, David. I, that's, I, I failed us and our listeners, but I, I was a funny saying that I, yeah, and exactly.
00:33:24
David Isaacs
It's opportunity for learning. ah You'll do better next time.
00:33:29
Big Brain
Opportunity me. What's the, what's the saying when opportunity means preparation means opportunity. All right, there you go. There's one for the listeners. Boom. I didn't, I didn't have the preparation to use it, but you know, I had the opportunity to,
00:33:41
David Isaacs
The opportunity. Yeah. So I, yeah, I guess legs feed the wolf was from her Brooks miracle on the ice, which I actually skimmed through the other day.
00:33:49
Big Brain
Another great movie.
00:33:51
David Isaacs
Cause, uh, Yeah, because I watched Coach Carter because I hadn't seen it in a while.
00:33:54
Big Brain
And you're like,
00:33:56
David Isaacs
And I was like, I really remember like really remember liking this movie and I don't remember too much of it. And people talk about it all the time, like in my circles. So I watched it and then.
00:34:07
David Isaacs
is it I don't know what it is. I have problems with biopics. Because I don't like... Whether it's like embellishment or you know like their version of the truth of like what things happened.
00:34:19
David Isaacs
But I do like based on a true story type stuff. like I like Miracle on the Ice. Coach Carter which was based on a basketball coach that... ah He was actually on set and like while they were filming it to make sure that a lot of things were accurate. I'm sure he, you know, didn't make sure everything was accurate.
00:34:39
Big Brain
but yeah
00:34:39
David Isaacs
But no, I kind of enjoy stuff like that. And they kind of put phrases and mindsets and things towards what it took to accomplish what they were setting out to accomplish.
00:34:53
David Isaacs
and for that like i like it it's like herb brooks you know legs feed the wolf you got kurt russell out there um coaching up these college kids to go and play against the soviets at the olympics in lake placid coach carter shuts down the gym because the athletes aren't and doing well in their studies and and graduates a lot of them
00:35:07
Big Brain
yeah
00:35:17
David Isaacs
Um, I guess he actually opened up like coach Carter Academy or Carter Academy or something like that in Texas where kids learn like life skills, um, as well as school.
00:35:29
David Isaacs
So it's, um,
00:35:30
Big Brain
yeah i wish i wish we had something so i mean i know the constant complaint is you know we learned how you know, how to use geometry or the, uh, the Pythag- yeah, or Pythagorean theorem, but we didn't learn how to balance a checkbook or you know, pay your bills, that type of thing.
00:35:42
David Isaacs
mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
00:35:51
Big Brain
And if that's what that is, that'd be, that'd be great. I mean, I know sometimes it's trial by fire with life, but you know, those would have been at least helpful courses to learn in, in high school, you know, especially your senior year. Like, I mean,
00:36:07
Big Brain
Let me just say, I was number one to... i had senioritis in my junior year. That's how ah little I cared after I stopped playing sports. um But... That would have been probably a class that I would took my senior year in. Didn't skip. Would have been to learn how to do all that.
00:36:23
Big Brain
You know? We didn't have shop, right? like So I had a... my My dad was one of the types to never really teach me those skills. Sorry, just venting all of my ah frustration of life right now. But... um you know It's things that I've kind of learned how to learn how to do over the last couple of years. but um That's great if you open that academy. and I know that's becoming standard in Florida curriculum.
00:36:49
Big Brain
um so that's That's cool. Get everybody ready for life. Now if they just need to ah teach kids how to not want to drive through Bell at 2 o'clock in the morning you know because you're hungry and coming from a buddy's house hungover.
00:37:06
Big Brain
ah I digress.
00:37:11
David Isaacs
Yeah. Well, I think the the, the system is really set up for people to fail. you know, they want to extract as much of your time, as much as your money is the humanly possible. Yeah.
00:37:21
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:37:21
David Isaacs
And they want food to be more addictive. They want if credit card companies made it so that you'd have to but send a check in the mail by mule to pay off your credit card every month, they would do it.
00:37:35
Big Brain
Right.
00:37:36
David Isaacs
You know, Taco Bell and DoorDash and Amazon. I mean, they they if there's some of the things that they're getting away with currently that they probably shouldn't be able to get away with.
00:37:48
David Isaacs
um But yeah, your time, your money what you're willing to to do each day, um yeah I mean, it really affects a lot of other things, and that's what they're out to get. i mean, Facebook, Google, they want to capture more of your attention and more of your time to be able to sell ads.
00:38:09
David Isaacs
Amazon wants you to buy more things, and and DoorDash wants to make it as convenient as possible for you to get food at any one time. So...
00:38:19
Big Brain
Right.
Education System & Life Skills
00:38:20
David Isaacs
That's what I had focused on before and what I'd want to continue compounding on is just kind of taking that power back and not being, you know, the average American consumer because successful people, I mean, they, they find a way to do that and they find a way to have the time to cook and grocery shop and go to the gym and, you know, do some of these things.
00:38:33
Big Brain
Yep.
00:38:44
David Isaacs
And, yeah, some days you're not going to feel up to it, but 80% of the time they're, um, you know, doing these things. So would it be ah good idea for kids not to just get lunch every day, but they had to, you know, work to put together the meal that they would be eating that day.
00:39:03
David Isaacs
Then, yeah, I think that would be a good idea if they learn about, was pretty sure we learned about it, but I probably just forgot about it because it was boring, but compounded interest on credit cards or being financially secure and what that means and also learning kind of basic house stuff.
00:39:23
David Isaacs
How do you replace an outlet or a light switch or you want to put in a new light fixture or install a new dishwasher or you know fix a fridge, figure out what the problem with that is or You know, so a bunch of like these other things, which I guess you can kind of learn.
00:39:43
David Isaacs
You know, I've used YouTube a lot and figured some of these things out when they've arisen. But ah yeah, i mean, I guess people have different paths and I know the
00:39:49
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:39:55
David Isaacs
a lot of people that rent just because they like the convenience about never having to worry about if, uh, something breaks that they have to pay to replace it, or if they have to take the time to learn how to fix it or what have you. So it's kind of different for everybody. And, um,
00:40:14
David Isaacs
you know, like me at my job, I park, um, in like one of the furthest parking spots from the door just so I can get those extra steps in. And people are like, Oh, and I used to be like, you know, really judgmental about people that would try to park as close as they could to the, you know, the grocery store front door or something. And then I, you know, came to realize, well, some people could be getting regular exercise every day. So they don't need that. But for me, I need it.
00:40:44
David Isaacs
and need to take the stairs at work because if I don't, then I'm not going to get more of that exercise that I need. But other people throughout the day or, um you know, after work or something that they can exercise on their own time or get those steps in or whatnot. For me, I have to, because otherwise I, I won't.
00:41:06
Big Brain
Yeah, I, that's one thing that owning a, truck I shouldn't say owning leasing a truck is, I guess, had teach me the, I know I've learned the hard way is that I cannot park in a regular parking spot close to the grocery store or, i mean, I can do it at work, but I just choose not to, um you know, because even if you find a a section that has open spots, that's reasonably close to the door, like it's going to fill up quickly.
00:41:34
Big Brain
And like, you're not going able to get them back into your truck. Like it's not happening. So I have to park all the way back, find a cart, walk in and rinse, let it repeat until, uh, my, my lease is up here in couple months. But, uh, I've, I've learned to, to walk, um, long distances in the parking lot. So, um,
00:41:57
Big Brain
I'm jealous of the people who have regular sized cars that can do that, but it's also taught me to you know, and I built up, back up my leg strength with the extra steps that I have to take. So, um, that was one thing that I noticed, um, you know, when I was like working retail to, to doing a, uh,
00:42:16
Big Brain
working a sedentary or I don't know how you say that. always get it mixed up with rocks. Cemetery lifestyle.
00:42:24
David Isaacs
s sudden and Yeah, sedentary, not sedimentary.
00:42:24
Big Brain
Uh, sedentary. Yeah. Yeah. Sediment. Whatever. Uh, ah yeah
00:42:31
David Isaacs
Can't take things for granite.
00:42:35
Big Brain
Aluminium. That's another one. I would say it the British way to be ironic, but then I forget that. forget how to pronounce it. The American way. um the trouble of having a sense of humor, I guess, a very dry one at that.
00:42:49
Big Brain
Um, yeah, i built back up kind of like my leg strength that I had, not nearly what I had, like when I was like working rate retail or anything like that, but, um, things you learn, you know, uh, working a desk job isn't as always have all of the perks that you think it does. So, um, yeah,
00:43:11
Big Brain
you know, there are consequences rewards to having such a, ah that type of lifestyle. And, you know, again, things that I've learned too late of where I was a couple months ago, was at the heaviest I'd ever been. And I'm like, I'm dieting. I'm, you know, feel like I'm sleeping on time, but none of that mattered because i wasn't really moving.
00:43:32
Big Brain
You know, I was like a rock at the bottom of a lake. So sedimentary.
00:43:36
David Isaacs
Sedimentary.
00:43:37
Big Brain
Yeah. Sedimentary.
00:43:41
David Isaacs
Pet sedimentary.
00:43:43
Big Brain
Yeah, pet rocks. um But, you know, these are again, these are all things that you you figure out in time. And that's why, you know, I was having this conversation with my wife the other day. It's like I wish like a younger me would, you know.
00:44:00
Big Brain
there's some sort of science of where you could just have the life experience of being in your thirties, like right out of college should have made so much less stupid mistakes, but you know, it's part of the journey, right. That is the most rewarding because you don't see the progress.
00:44:14
Big Brain
And I think that's where a lot of, people who I think, you know, like I read from like recruiters and LinkedIn all the time of like, people are really cheating on, um like in-person even interviews or assessments for, for coding where they're just like, they're, they look at the camera and then they'll like look off for a second to type something in the chat GPT for a response, you know, and then they, they get hired and,
00:44:45
Big Brain
fired in the same day because they can't do even close to the 10% of what they they said they could. So, um, I, I, you know, if you take shortcuts, um, one, you don't get
Societal Issues & Empathy
00:45:01
Big Brain
trying to find the easy way out. One, it's not rewarding for you, you know, you as a brain to, you don't know how to problem solve or troubleshoot these things. Or it's like my,
00:45:13
Big Brain
My nephew doesn't really know how... If his iPad's up working, he doesn't know how to fix it. you He'll turn it on, turn it off, turn but turn it back on again. And if it doesn't work... right like Or... As an example... ah a further example... um my ah teacher friend, he teaches music, um band actually, and he, they have an electric stapler for their sheet music in his office, but they didn't apparently know that he had to plug it in or where to really replace the staples.
00:45:50
Big Brain
ah So he had to do all all that themselves. and Mind you, these are kids who are honor students, so it's not like they completely lack intelligence. It's just sometimes you don't have that uh it's not even life experience just the knowledge of of troubleshooting right and going back to you know our conversation from earlier is that like you can't take shortcuts in life there maybe there are some things that you can you know meal prep is one you can get the bag lettuce even though it's probably full of chemicals but you know you're done in five minutes but you know you didn't learn how to you what you're
00:46:26
Big Brain
depriving yourself of is learning how to use a knife, chop lot of properly and wash it. Um, and you're also paying a higher unit price. So there's economic factors there.
00:46:38
Big Brain
Um, and to be realistic, to make a salad doesn't take that fucking long, you know, ah but there's probably a more complex example that I can come up with. Again, opportunity meets preparation.
00:46:52
Big Brain
Didn't really have that for this, uh, this podcast, but
00:46:56
Big Brain
what What I'm driving at is that I... As much as I wish that if I were 18, I wish I could have the experience that I have now to change my decisions on some things. But um I didn't want to rob myself of a journey. And I think... You have to kind of just be your own passenger and and your own driver of sorts on this crazy thing called life. So...
00:47:21
Big Brain
I'm 36.
00:47:23
Big Brain
and probably lacking certain experiences, um for other people at my age. Like I know i'm not nearly have much saved as I should. really like Forbes article says that you're supposed to have like, I think like 50 to a hundred grand saved up.
00:47:39
Big Brain
I am close. Like probably gonna be working until I'm in my eighties. And with the way that social security is going anyway, was kind of mentally prepping for that anyway. So, um,
00:47:52
Big Brain
I, I, I'm glad that I've experienced the things that I have. And I'm, I'm finally, I think I'm to a point where I work for a company and I'm, I'm content with the work that I do and it's satisfying.
00:48:03
Big Brain
Um, and my personal life, it's, you know, I'm happy, happily married and love my son and you know I'm kind of love with where I'm at, but also have to recognize that without putting myself down and giving myself grace, I do have a long way to go to improve as a person. But again, that's, that's part of the journey.
00:48:25
David Isaacs
Yeah. I, um, I've thought about that a lot too and kind of come to the same conclusion because their parents had always tried to tell us, it's like, Oh, this isn't going to matter. You need to learn this. You're like, Oh, shut up. You're old. don't know what you're talking about. you know, uh, you don't understand me.
00:48:44
David Isaacs
Like you don't even know what's going on
00:48:45
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:48:46
David Isaacs
And for like the majority of that, they do, know, because, uh, you know typically the things that repeat themselves. And unfortunately,
00:49:00
David Isaacs
and unfortunately, I guess for a lot of people, like i did learn some things from my parents growing up, but I think for a lot of things it was like the wrong thing to do or like with oh you got to go to college it's like okay but you're not any help in and knowing like what I should you know get into and I didn't take the time to actually ah figure out what would be a viable career path so it took me a long time to even figure something like that out but
00:49:32
David Isaacs
ah that's where it kind of comes down to the identity because, you know, me and you were both in the same coding class that unfortunately that whole market that's said practically shut down.
00:49:43
David Isaacs
But the the time spent in that, the knowledge learned there is like if you can get into a company and start to do some of these things, like they might not hire you for to do that or to have that experience, but it'll come with time or how do you,
00:49:44
Big Brain
Yeah, yeah, no kidding.
00:50:01
David Isaacs
plan out like what you're going try to do and in work and encoding what I liked about it too is like okay well we're trying to accomplish this what's the first step what what's the baseline how do I build the foundation and That's kind of where you go from it. and it translates to a lot of different things in life. Okay. Well, if I want to go to the gym, what's the foundation? What's the baseline? I want to build up my leg muscles. I want to you know, make sure I have the time to do it. Do I care about a sense of community?
00:50:33
David Isaacs
Um, do I care about what amenities do I want from a gym? You know, why have i looking back? Like, why did I fail in the past or, um,
00:50:43
David Isaacs
And what can I take from those experiences to make this better? And yeah, I mean, it does take time in life. And there's a lot of things that I feel like I've done and hadn't really thought about, but there are lessons to be taken from you know, every decision that you make and every opportunity that you have.
00:51:04
David Isaacs
So really in life and what I've been trying to do is like have those opportunities, the opportunities to learn the opportunities to, you know, who am I if I get enough sleep every night or have a good nighttime routine or exercise or, you know, communicate to the best of my abilities with other people and get to know people and build that sense of community around in a workspace and and these things. So,
00:51:28
David Isaacs
There are a lot of different variables, choices, opportunities, and everything every day that if you have the opportunity to take advantage of, um, you might see that your life becomes better or you might figure out something that you don't like, which sometimes is equally as important.
00:51:46
David Isaacs
Um, for career path, for exercise, for eating right or whatnot. Um, so it's really about like that experimentation and not getting so down on yourself because it takes so long to figure these things out.
00:52:01
David Isaacs
Um, and to get out of like the quote unquote, uh, rat race, or for me, like the, the shame-based spiral. um And for other people, there's probably some other things that they do each day that um affect it like that. But if you look at it, um like not feeling good about yourself, maybe you don't have the greatest financial situation, or maybe you didn't have a lot of opportunities to learn growing up, or you didn't pay too much attention in school, but you can make that back.
00:52:32
David Isaacs
But um with anything else, it takes time. And, you know, is it so bad to be eating Chef Boyardee when you don't have a lot of money or hot dogs or whatever else? It's like, no, in some instances, it's not.
00:52:50
David Isaacs
know, that if you don't have a gym membership and you just have to run outside, um run around the block or do something like, yeah, I mean, that's good, too, to be out in nature and get out and and do some things and I know I'm not trying to be toxically positive because there are, um quite a few people that may not have that opportunity to do that, but there are you know, definitely options every day.
00:53:15
David Isaacs
and um, unfortunately some people have to take, uh, too much time to focus on some of the things that they, that are more mission critical. And, um,
00:53:26
David Isaacs
Yeah, i mean, it's tough for a lot of people, and it's sad to think about. I wish we could you know kind of exist in a world where no one had to kind of worry about those things, and they had you know ample time for themselves to do things that are better for them or healthier or what have you. But unfortunately, that's just not the nature of how things are.
00:53:48
David Isaacs
And um unfortunately, the people in power don't want it to go that way, so I don't think it's coming anytime soon.
00:53:57
Big Brain
Yeah. um
00:54:02
Big Brain
I know that at least as of this writing, as they say in articles, ah you know, that so two federal judges that had to ah block the Trump administration from cutting off SNAP benefits. i'm not where we're at with that, but um yeah, I mean, not everyone, or I guess to my point is that, you know, not everyone has the same opportunities and maybe resources, um at anyone given time and,
00:54:28
Big Brain
Um, you know, I know food banks are kind of going to be overwhelmed here in the next couple days, but, um, you know, i empathize with those folks and in certain ways and, you know, I'm lucky that I'm able to afford food as, as it, or maybe condescending as that sounds, but, um, you know, I can't ah afford to buy, you know, i don't know, a feast for everyone. I can't afford to feed everyone in, in outside of my house. Um, but,
00:54:55
Big Brain
But I try and offer food and and, you know, whatever I
Challenges & Empathy
00:55:00
Big Brain
can to people. um Maybe it's as a way to kind of give back in a way that I can. um So if, you know,
00:55:09
Big Brain
ah
00:55:11
Big Brain
if I were poor and, you know, couldn't afford a home a home gym, um you know, or just didn't have that resource, you know, there's there's ah a video training that I saw on YouTube where people are working out with like cinder blocks. They were literally weightlifting with cinder blocks that they found in the back alley. And, you know, they were going running in the dead of winter, right? Like there's, you just have to know,
00:55:36
Big Brain
um and have the motivation to, to do those things. Um, you know, to recognize that, you know, hey, um recognize and utilize your resources to the best your ability. I mean, that's kind of core concept that we preach here in this podcast. So, um you know, ah I'm hoping and I feel for all those folks. Again, I'm not sure the exact thing that's going on with the SNAP benefits right now, but, um you know, there's lot of different resources that you can look into. And I know that
00:56:14
Big Brain
I need to, I've been donating a lot of canned goods and things to my local, there's a local church, like food bank. And then, um, we have one here in in the city. So trying, I'm not just giving away beans. Like I'm trying to do bread and things that won't necessarily perish right away. But, um, I know there's a lot of folks in need and try to give back in ways that I can those to make sure, cause it would, it breaks my heart that there are,
00:56:43
Big Brain
kids out there that might be going hungry tonight you know um there's only so much nutrition candy can provide from halloween the night before but um you know um and i think us as a nation and just as the world need to to practice on the empathy and and know that not everyone's trying to cheat the system there are legit a lot of people who can't afford to and you know, and it's a, as you were alluding to, there's just a problem with society and and government that we have right now that needs to be fixed.
00:57:17
Big Brain
Um, but we just need to do better for ourselves. And, um, we have a responsibility for, to leave the world, if not the same, better than how we found it. So, um, you know,
00:57:35
Big Brain
do our part, um, make sure we better ourselves and better society. So, um, think that's what I'll kind of wrap up on.
00:57:46
David Isaacs
Yeah. um
00:57:50
David Isaacs
If you have the ability to ah definitely help out and as much as you can, you know.
00:57:59
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:57:59
David Isaacs
Sorry, I was just looking at some of this because I did see like the judge was or the two judges that were saying that they had to pay him out. But it seems like that's not happening.
00:58:12
Big Brain
Yeah, I think the big stickler was Trump was kind of of waiting on how they not necessarily how they would fund it but I think the wording on the ruling or something something to that effect I just happened to catch that in passing on an article but um yeah I mean I know ah some of the I forgot the name of my local food bank but it was i so I've seen pictures I was like backed up I just you know
00:58:49
Big Brain
Is it 40, 42 million Americans are going to be without a food for at least the next two weeks?
00:58:56
Big Brain
If they don't figure out something, so...
00:59:00
David Isaacs
Yeah.
00:59:03
Big Brain
I mean, I'm... yeah A can of beans, or fucking a fucking can of tomatoes is like, you know... 73 cents or something. i mean... at least give somebody a chance to make a tomato soup or something that willll last a couple of days. Right. You know, it's seems stupid, but you know, every little thing helps.
00:59:30
David Isaacs
Yeah, I'm not seeing, like, apparently, it's just not happening right now from what I'm reading.
00:59:37
Big Brain
Hmm.
00:59:38
David Isaacs
But, yeah, that's that's not great.
00:59:38
Big Brain
Yeah.
00:59:43
Big Brain
yeah um it is what it is um not to bring the the mood down but that was something that just on my mind i kind of wanted ah to chat about and you know i mean it's like i i worry too like with the rising food costs like all these advertising feeding 10 people at thanksgiving for 40 bucks but it's like what's in all that you know i I worry, I genuinely worry about the health and like, I don't, I try, I'm better about eating. Like, I mean, even like two weeks ago, was still like, I would go to like Walmart or to like my year or somewhere and buy groceries and then like have little to no motivation to actually make any of this right when I got home and I just like stop at McDonald's cause I was just so hungry.
01:00:35
Big Brain
um you know, not to change the subject of my own issues, but you know, it's like, food's expensive now and it's like, you know, you only get so much money with these snap every month. And it's like, is that even going to like, does that even do anything? Like, is that a conversation? But, um, I know that for us, I think even with the ability to bring food home and have lunch and all that, because my wife owns a restaurant, um, God, it's, it's just, it can be so much and, you know, try not to,
01:01:13
Big Brain
way too much on that it's just you know we gotta feed ourselves and feed our kids i'm just trying to not um think about that too much for myself but um especially it's it's a convenience like we talked about it earlier you know um of fast food which is i remember buying a mcchicken like even five years ago it was a dollar
Reflections & Personal Journey
01:01:40
Big Brain
now it's like 229 per so it's like you know something's got to give with this i don't know what it is but we're not gonna figure it out in the next five to ten minutes so
01:01:55
David Isaacs
No, no, we won't. And yeah, I mean, the...
01:02:03
David Isaacs
Uh...
01:02:06
David Isaacs
I guess the like sense of community that had been driven down so much by the internet and social media and that. and and do you see like quite a large, I imagine there's quite a large turnout of people donating to food banks during this and trying to help out their neighbors as much as possible because, yeah, I mean, that's the reality of the situation. And if somebody needs help and you have the ability to help, then help them.
01:02:34
David Isaacs
you know, and I think that's, you know, it's very admirable, but yeah, with the rising food costs for a lot of people and continuing rising costs across everything, it has been uh,
01:02:49
David Isaacs
ah struggle for a lot I think you know most of them America lives paycheck to paycheck and if everything is becoming more expensive then they're going to have to live like beyond their quote-unquote means just because they're having to spend more just on basic necessities and whatnot so I do hope
01:03:10
Big Brain
Yeah.
01:03:13
David Isaacs
something can change with it. And i do think it, the foundation is really set on like cities and neighborhoods and communities to help each other out and not make other people feel ashamed for not having what they have.
01:03:29
David Isaacs
You know, I think a lot of us, if we, um
01:03:36
David Isaacs
we were given opportunities or we were you know raised with a sense of like learning and we're taught a lot of things and you know some other people just um sometimes didn't have that so it's really hard to kind of dig yourself out and spend that much time and effort into doing those things especially if you're you know, a kid and there's much more that you had to worry about than, you know, just making sure you got your schoolwork done. It's like where your next meal came from, where you're going to be living and, and some of these other things.
01:04:09
David Isaacs
So I just, you know, really wish people would kind of have that empathy and that compassion for others around them. And, I think, you know, a lot of people do given the opportunity, but I think, uh, yeah, a lot of other people are kind of stay quiet on a lot of those things.
01:04:27
David Isaacs
Cause they just dont want to be judged for needing help, which is not, um, that's not great either, but it's understandable why some people don't ask for help.
01:04:30
Big Brain
yeah
01:04:41
Big Brain
yeah fear of judgment's a real thing that's why i i didn't um you know i always saw like videos of you know people fat shaming people at the gym um you know, and obviously those people would get roasted themselves online, but just one more thing to play it in your head of, um, you know, are people watching me because i have some sick workout or, you know, I have a way of,
01:05:11
Big Brain
um like a different exercise that they're interested in, or is it just cause I'm, you know, a big fat slob and running on a treadmill and sweating buckets because, you know, liked eating cheeseburgers way too much as a kid.
01:05:24
Big Brain
um you know, but I'm, I personally am kind of just over that fear and I'm not doing it for anybody else, but myself. So, um, people want to make fun of me.
01:05:36
Big Brain
Fine. Whatever. i don't really care anymore. um I want to be not the current weight that I am. So, um, what does that look like? That means blocking out the outside noise, um, having, have a, having a healthier outlook for yourself, um, good motivation and making sure everything's in the right place for you mentally and physically. So, um, you know, I, I was used to have body smorphia. I used to think that like it could fit into some slick looking button up. And then like, when i look in the mirror, it's like, you know, my buttons are all kind of popping out. so
01:06:16
Big Brain
um had to overcome that and just come to realization that I need to change things. And, um you know, and I have a lot of credit card debt myself, so I need to, I've had to not like spend weight endless nights worrying about it. I just have to, I've put a plan of action together to get paid down. So I'm not living paycheck to paycheck and, you know, um, things are always going to pop up, but that's why we, we plan and have open communication with not only ourselves, but our partners or anyone else in our lives, you know, um, to make sure that they understand,
01:06:57
Big Brain
where you're at and where you're coming from and you understand where they're coming from and where they're at. So um communication, not with exterior, but within yourself is very important. And you know, I've learned that over the last few months, um years to not really care about other people's opinions when it doesn't really matter especially when it comes to things like health but um but also listening when i when i do need to hear it or um need to hear from advice from people you know kind of discerning my own ego so it's hard but you know we gotta can't can't lie and we can't over protect ourselves from these issues that we've had okay so you're
01:07:45
Big Brain
That's go to therapy and that's why I do all these little things to, to build towards getting healthier and being better.
01:08:00
David Isaacs
Yeah. know, time, effort, some of these things and like planning. Um, I think like talking about some people would rather plan a trip than take a trip.
01:08:11
David Isaacs
I think I'd rather just take a trip. So it's also the same thing as like, yeah, I'd rather just diet.
01:08:14
Big Brain
yeah right
01:08:17
David Isaacs
know, I'd rather just exercise and not really have like a plan put in place.
01:08:20
Big Brain
Yeah.
01:08:22
David Isaacs
Um, But yeah, like everyone has a plan and, ah you know, you come to find out certain things and you got to adjust and it takes time. And, um you know, the other kind of mental blocks and things that you deal with every specific day. I mean, everyone's unique in that the way that they think and unique and the way that they're raised and experiences that they've had, but also unique in the things that they deal with.
01:08:48
David Isaacs
and whether or not the body dysmorphia that like you deal with is the same as like what somebody else would deal with or the anxiety and things that I deal with, or like the shame based spirals and kind of the systems in place that I've set.
01:09:03
David Isaacs
Um, everyone kind of comes to, well, kind of comes to their own, ah answers with a lot of those things or whether or not they serve them or not.
01:09:14
David Isaacs
Um, but that's what,
01:09:14
Big Brain
Right.
01:09:17
David Isaacs
you know I guess, for me at least, what I'm working towards of like, okay, well, i know I have some things that I need to work through. Where do they come from? Why do I use them? How do I challenge them? And then on the other sense of like, how can I build off of that increased knowledge of these aren't good, um need to move away from them? how do I get, you know, kind of more self-love and work towards some of these things? So, yeah, I mean, it is really, it's difficult.
01:09:47
David Isaacs
um you know as we're sitting here talking on a podcast and our houses and having financial security and everything so it's even difficult for us so it's it's hard to imagine you know the people that um you know struggle just to be able to survive every day or keep the lights on and and whatnot um so yeah i'm current Currently looking right now where I can donate food to.
01:10:16
David Isaacs
so I'll probably do that today or tomorrow. Hopefully help some people out that need it.
01:10:23
Big Brain
Yeah, um after we stopped recording, going to Walmart to pick up a huge, oh so like well,
01:10:35
Big Brain
reasonable-sized pickup order, and all of it's canned goods, so I'm just going to drop it off at my local church, um and hopefully it helps someone.
01:10:46
Big Brain
um you know do keep not necessarily keep the lights on but obviously but feed themselves from the kids you know for however long so just trying to do what i can um may not be enough but that's all i can do at this moment and i have to be okay with that
01:11:08
David Isaacs
Yeah. Well, all right. think we're just about time here. So any last parting notes of wisdom?
01:11:19
David Isaacs
Any phrases?
01:11:20
Big Brain
Um,
01:11:24
Big Brain
uh, no, no, I don't have, no, nothing. Oh, nothing.
01:11:29
David Isaacs
All righty. Well, thanks everyone for listening. and Thank you, Brian, for hopping on. um Hope that continues going well for you.
01:11:35
Big Brain
Thank you.
01:11:38
Big Brain
Yeah. Hope, uh, hope we're, you know, and you sound like you're in a good path and I hope work gets easier for you and you're, but it sounds like you're already in a good direction too.
01:11:48
David Isaacs
Yep, it will um it'll get better, but hopefully still remain challenging. guess just trying to find that balance.
01:11:58
Big Brain
For sure.
01:11:58
David Isaacs
All right, see ya.
01:12:00
Big Brain
See you.