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Right in the feels
7 Plays20 days ago
Brian gets deep and shares some of his feelings about self improvement. Dave is also there
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Transcript
Introduction and Guest Appearance
00:00:25
David Isaacs
Hello everyone. It is June 3rd. That's already June. That's how recording. I'm joined by my friends, uh, McDonald's chicken nuggets and also Brian.
00:00:40
David Isaacs
Brian, how are we doing?
00:00:41
The Big Dog
Hi, Happy Meal McNuggets. How you doing? Oh, sorry. Hi, audience. ah Good, man. How are you doing?
Gaming Insights: Zelda and Critical Thinking
00:00:47
The Big Dog
Besides scarfing down some food.
00:00:51
David Isaacs
I'm pretty good. Pretty good. um Kind of getting around that.
00:01:00
David Isaacs
Like most of my mental space is being occupied by work related things. um
00:01:06
The Big Dog
Yeah, same.
00:01:06
David Isaacs
But I've been playing Zelda Skyward Sword on the Switch. So that's been cool. Kind of like change of pace. I think there's um really something to be said about those types of video games like those puzzle platformers and um they just have such a good blend of unlocking new items and those items that you use to solve different puzzles and going back to areas that you once were to use the new items that give you access to some of the areas that you weren't able to access before uh Yeah, I think just video games back before they were just, they tried to make them as addicting as possible without any substance are like really good. And I think a lot is to be said about like those types of games and kind of how they shaped my...
00:02:00
David Isaacs
kind of critical thinking or creative thinking landscape. So I definitely think like going back to them, it's been kind of like a cool, um you know, mental exercise, but also very entertaining. So I've been and enjoying that quite a bit um and glad that I can have the ability to kind of make time for it. I've had it for I've had the game for however many years now I started it at one point.
00:02:29
David Isaacs
and then just never came back to it but i picked it back up again a couple weeks ago and um like once you get into the groove with it um it's been yeah a pretty nice ride so i've been enjoying that um as i've mentioned not very cash money of me but i did pick up mcdonald's on the way home so i'm trying to scarf down some some nuggets, some fries, any, you know, just a list of everything that's bad for me in this one meal.
Work Mishaps and Humor
00:03:00
David Isaacs
And yeah, but otherwise I think work's been going well, starting to hit that groove and doing some things that kind of like exploratory with the data and some of the processes and that. So I typically will start out, I've probably mentioned this before, but typically start out like trying to, identify one problem and one problem becomes 10 and, you know, kind of sifting through and trying to figure out, well, how do we get down to a simplified like report that can help us identify some of these things and like what's worth identifying, you know, signal burst noise type things.
00:03:43
David Isaacs
um So yeah, that's been good. But yeah, work has been kind of not stressful, but just the the mental deep work that it takes has been yeah challenging, to say the least.
00:03:58
David Isaacs
I was still trying to make time you know with the dog, and after this, taking the the dog for a longer walk. um Something not so chill happened.
00:04:09
David Isaacs
My wash machine, i mean, it's been broken.
00:04:09
The Big Dog
Oh no. Hmm.
00:04:13
David Isaacs
There's something with like the the water sensor, so it wasn't filling up with water all the way. So there were a time where, you know, a load would come out of the dryer and it looked like, you know, a bunch of oil stains on all of my clothes.
00:04:28
David Isaacs
So since then I've, kind of had a fix of just putting the the cycle to like max water. um Just, you know, just like data centers basically.
00:04:40
David Isaacs
But um that is pretty much solved that I haven't had to check any of my shirts for a while, but there was one shirt in particular that I haven't been able to find and I found it lo and behold hanging up in the closet.
00:04:56
David Isaacs
But, you know, it's kind of, I'm getting ready. It's, you know, not, it's kind of like dawn outside. Light's not, ah not too much light coming through. And I put it on and, you know, go about my day.
00:05:08
David Isaacs
And then I go to the bathroom and look at like my shoulder and like, oh there's a spot on my shoulder. So then I turn around and then there's just like, it looks like puddles, like a sash of oil stains going down the back of my shirt.
00:05:25
David Isaacs
So, I went through about half the day like that and no one said anything. They just went about their day. Um, didn't mention it.
00:05:33
The Big Dog
People are locked in.
00:05:35
David Isaacs
And, uh, yeah. So, uh, I had to go out in my car and find a a crew neck that's been sitting in the back of my car for whoever knows how long. Um, I gave it the old sniff test. It smelled fine and threw it on. And lo and behold, I'm the guy wearing a,
00:05:52
David Isaacs
crew in 80 degree weather in the office and I just like went around was telling people like hey you got a crew neck on like yeah I got stain on my shirt so that was that was fun but I feel like I get It's good exposure therapy, I guess, to just kind of being embarrassed.
00:06:13
David Isaacs
You know, that stuff, I think, would have really bothered me when I was younger and when I hadn't been working on you know feeling more secure about some things that just don't matter.
00:06:25
David Isaacs
And I mean, it really is something that doesn't matter um as far as like, you know, people that may have seen me. It's like, no publicity is bad publicity, as they say.
00:06:36
The Big Dog
Right.
00:06:38
David Isaacs
So yeah, that wasn't
Volunteer Adventures with Nature
00:06:39
David Isaacs
cool. And the other day we did a volunteer event. I'm not sure how much familiarity you have with either the Ann Arbor Hands-On Museum or the Ann Arbor, like Leslie Science and Nature Center.
00:06:54
The Big Dog
I am not familiar with either, but um you know i you know, commend you for doing volunteer your work. My, uh, my work does that a lot too. In fact, I just got a t-shirt for our upcoming Habitat for Humanity event that we're doing in like a couple weeks.
00:07:07
David Isaacs
Nice. Um, yeah, so everyone like volunteer, even if it's not through work, uh, volunteer work, I mean, it definitely makes you feel better about yourself. That's a good way to spend time. Um, you're typically just doing things that you would do, you know, at home somewhere else. So what we were doing, um, we were at the Leslie nature and science center, maybe there's a different, um, name for it, but, um, they are,
00:07:35
David Isaacs
ah They merged with the Ann Arbor Hands-On Museum. So either way, I would recommend going to both of those places if you have kids, even if you don't.
00:07:46
David Isaacs
Very fun, cool places. But we were weeding around their um you know bird enclosures. So they have, I believe they rescued these animals that they couldn't survive. in the wild so they have to be held in captivity and they were very clear like our goal is to never have any captive animals it's not right for them to be captive but they wouldn't be able to survive otherwise so it's kind of like the lesser of two evils would we rather have these birds you know die or would we have them in captivity So they had a bald eagle, they had a red-tailed hawk, turkey vultures, I think a few different types of owls. So it was very cool of like the birds that they had on site.
00:08:40
David Isaacs
Um, they had other activities and stuff for the kids. Um, you know, they had like an indoor room where they have a lot of turtles and salamanders, frogs, what have you.
00:08:51
David Isaacs
Uh, but yeah, we were weeding around, um, the bird enclosures. So we did that for a couple hours. Um, company got us lunch from Panera. So it was a, it was a good way to spend the day. And I think it kind of breaks up some of the Like doing something that's not work when you're supposed to be doing work feels like it's fun anyways. So like regardless of what you're doing, we're sitting like pulling weeds out of a an area so that they could throw mulch down and do some, you know, planting of plants and stuff. But it, yeah, it was a lot of fun. it was cool to be outside and I did it with two other two of my other team members. So yeah, we all had a good time doing that. So that's kind of been.
Life Updates and Work Dynamics
00:09:38
David Isaacs
what I've been doing for the week. Daphne, the Doberman, my dog, I took her to the vet yesterday just for like a checkup and to speak about like heartworm medication.
00:09:51
David Isaacs
So that was good. Everything seems in order. She has gained six pounds. And yeah, I mean, she's been getting fed. So after this, um I was planning and on taking her on a ah longer walk because I know she had to be in the a crate for a little bit longer than she would have liked so i'm hoping to do something to tire her out but uh yeah what about you
00:10:16
The Big Dog
Nice.
00:10:18
The Big Dog
Um, yeah, I mean, kind of the same thing as far as work goes. Um, yeah, today I had four meetings just around, the website that I work on, at a status update, um, which I'm sorry, those and to have those every week, maybe ah every other week is, is fine, but I get why the, the frequency of them, but like, it just feels like this could have been an email, you know, like if there's something very important, like maybe you could hop on a call, but like,
00:10:49
The Big Dog
I hate weekly status updates because it's like, okay, we're working on this, working on that. And then it's like over. Um, but you know, for, um, I guess maybe it's just cause like I, I double and triple check Jira and confluence like every day, like to see if there's any updates. Like I, I personally just don't need them, but, um, had that this morning. um finally scheduled to kick off for the actual redesign portion. Right. So we were in like the search engine part, um you know, and then it's like it panic start to set in just a bit only because I don't have as much as I thought that I needed done. um You know, like sometimes when you're just like going over this in meetings and you're like, ah, shit, I didn't notice that. And, you know, got to scrub things over with a fine tooth comb. um again you know it's just like sometimes i don't i get down on myself just because i don't have like the greatest attention to detail like and broad strokes i'll i'll get a thing but sometimes there's just like little tiny details that i'll dismiss so um then i had a kind of a meeting about some of the material or the the documents that we had to get over for search and um
00:12:08
The Big Dog
so I, and then after that, there was a meeting and that I had to do about our, how our our data is structured, like a taxonomy. It's just a whole, just been a whole busy week of meetings and not getting actual like work done. Um, and my VP comes back into town tomorrow and it's like, I feel like I have nothing to really update him as far as like, you know,
00:12:32
The Big Dog
actual work that I've been doing it's just been tied up in meetings so um kind of not stressed but it's just like you have to like kind of like almost feel like I'm like uh bullshitting a book report like I'm back in school you know it's like where I just like read the the book the night before kind of thing um but I you know i just speak the confidence and project that like hey you know obviously i don't use like the meetings as an excuse but you know you're just like hey i didn't have as much free time or dedicated time for this um you know i'll be working on finishing this at x date so um he's pretty pretty easygoing about everything he knows that i've been kind of going through a lot in terms of just like
00:13:24
The Big Dog
I've had to help out our our other e-commerce site, our direct-to-client website, or direct-to-consumer website, I should say, just fixing a bunch of listings and code and getting
Managing Projects and Priorities
00:13:35
The Big Dog
projects there. So my plate is kind of full. You know, where I typically kind of struggle is just priority with some things, um especially at a company that doesn't necessarily have, like, firm deadlines for things. You know, as long as you're working on things, they don't necessarily care about it.
00:13:52
The Big Dog
I still just kind of feel sometimes that it's like, it's great to have that as an attitude, but it'd be nice to have some deadlines to at least give myself something to shoot for. So I've been working on giving myself more targets like that. So it's like kind of less stressful. Also helps with prioritizing things.
00:14:09
The Big Dog
um I've been writing things or typing things like lists out of what I can actually feel like I can accomplish for the day, possibly for the week, um you know, staying organized that way.
00:14:21
The Big Dog
um you know, one of the apps you always used to build first and and like a bootcamp or whenever you're taking an online course for coding was always building a to-do list. I feel like um I could have probably built myself my own, but, you know, luckily like Microsoft and Google and all of them have kind of those own built-in tasks. So, um, Oh, this is kind of say I've just been little bit more on, and want to say on edge, like I haven't been snappy or anything, but I just have been worrying about things more than I, I have, um, you know, trying again, I'm still working on myself to sabotage, but, um,
00:15:02
The Big Dog
I don't feel like
Stress Management and Self-Improvement
00:15:03
The Big Dog
I'm tempted to do any of those at this current moment, but you know, I'm still just kind of accepting the fact that, um, you know, I, is I, where I'm at as far as actual work workloads concerned is, um, it's starting it out in the heavy side, but I think, and I just, I don't have a lot of answers for questions that he may or may not have in regards to the project. So, um, I think I just like, I don't like the feeling of, um, not knowing,
00:15:31
The Big Dog
um maybe possibly feeling under control i guess uh you know as i am the the project manager the webmaster the jedi master whatever the hell the sith lord whatever the hell you want to call me and just feel like i'm not on top of this even though i've had meetings upon meetings just for this one meeting right and so i just want to have an alignment of things and you know, all the things I want them to be great and perfect, but it's not always going to be like that. So, um, just spiraling, trying to and talk it out. And that's why I've had all these meetings I even had therapy earlier earlier today. so I'm feeling, you know, generally a lot better about things, but you know, still I have like that, like spider sense and the back of my head, almost like the, the Nick cage version of a spider sense where he just like rubs the back of his neck.
00:16:23
The Big Dog
which if you if you've ever seen if you've seen spider nor highly recommend it it was entertaining
00:16:29
David Isaacs
No, you already spoiled it. That was the one thing I was looking forward to was the Nick Cage Spidey Sons.
00:16:36
The Big Dog
yeah it's it's a snake cage just with spider-man so take that for what it's worth
00:16:43
David Isaacs
Yeah. But yeah, I get... i yeah i get I get where you're going with kind of like the a self-sabotage thing. I i feel that a lot of times too, of not having an answer to a specific question or, um, trying to provide an answer that is understandable.
00:17:07
David Isaacs
Um, if I've perceived their question correctly, um, it is a, uh,
00:17:15
David Isaacs
It is difficult sometimes to feel like you're inadequate because you don't have the answer to a specific question, but I think it comes down a lot of times to the amount of people that we interact with and we have, you know, companies that have gotten so much bigger, not only because of tasks, but around like, you know, who's at asking the right questions or, uh, when you work collaboratively within teams, it's like, okay, well this, um, this matters from a technical perspective, but from the sales perspective, um, like we needed to be different.
00:17:51
David Isaacs
Um,
00:17:54
David Isaacs
And a lot of times, too, in the meetings that I've been, it's typically like some of these check ins, like in these meetings, you're given actions to dig deeper into a specific subject. Or if you're doing of some of these meetings, maybe it's good to have kind of that to-do list or say, you know what, I don't have the answer that question, but I'll get it to you next week.
00:18:19
David Isaacs
So maybe that's like around some of the check-ins and can help work against some of the
00:18:20
The Big Dog
Right. Right. Right.
00:18:26
David Isaacs
feelings of inadequacies um but even you know where i work and all the processes and there's a ton of stuff i ask all the time and i will you know shake people down like who owns this what is this process like who does this what does this do and it's i oh you know so but it's different when you're
00:18:46
The Big Dog
right right
00:18:48
David Isaacs
um You know, one on one or in an environment where you're expected to know and you just don't. And it's harder to.
00:18:59
David Isaacs
Yeah, I think it's harder to be comfortable with not knowing when you get the feeling like you are the guy to go to
00:19:08
The Big Dog
Yeah, I mean, you know, it's like you're, in a, ah I forgot how many people are at your company that's significantly larger than than mine, but, you know, it's like I'm at a small enough company where it's like I have to be the subject matter expert, um even if I don't want to be. so um Unfortunately, that kind of falls in my lap.
00:19:26
David Isaacs
The subject matter, it's as good as we've got.
00:19:30
The Big Dog
ah Pretty much, yes. Subject matter expert.
00:19:38
The Big Dog
uh, XGPT. No, I'm kidding. Um, yeah, I, it's, um, sort of, I guess I'm trying to look for it. It's, uh,
00:19:49
The Big Dog
frustrating for sure but it's also builds character you know builds its growth right i'm not comfortable and that's where um kind of sink or swim time and i shouldn't be that say it like that's kind of dramatic for what it entails but um you know it's this is just one of those meetings that i'm gonna have it's you know i'm gonna have to be kind of be like that be like um you know i'm not sure um you know, and then it's like new, some new things come to light. Like we may have to add some filters on certain categories, you know, to open up, to actually show product you know, get it as a user. You don't want to click more than like three times to get to something that you're looking for, unless you're going through the search bar. So, um you know, it's like one issue that I'm kind of having with this platform that we're on. And it's like, I don't want to,
00:20:47
The Big Dog
not get guidance on that from, especially somebody who's just invested $70,000 into a ah new website. So, um, and I also don't be like, i don't know, I don't know how to fix it. Let's put more money into it. Right. So, um,
00:21:03
David Isaacs
Yeah, what do you mean? i ain't heard nothing.
00:21:05
The Big Dog
yeah, yeah.
00:21:06
David Isaacs
Slide $20 across the desk. All right, so this is how you send it at div.
00:21:08
The Big Dog
We're in,
00:21:11
The Big Dog
Yeah, yeah, yeah. See, yeah. You want to see a hover over? I got that. I'm pretty pretty good at that. Taxonomy? Oh, no, that's old. That's old news.
00:21:21
David Isaacs
what they call a modal, you know.
00:21:22
The Big Dog
Yeah.
00:21:23
David Isaacs
This is high premium class stuff.
00:21:28
The Big Dog
This is... And if you like that, I got 20 more where that came from. No problem, pal. ah Anyway.
00:21:39
The Big Dog
fuck. I just lost my train of thought or what's going on with you, David. I think we're going to transition back over to you. i i
00:21:47
David Isaacs
While you're talking about, yeah, trying to speak confidently and have the answers for someone that invested a ah bunch of money into this new website.
00:21:58
The Big Dog
Oh yeah. Yeah. Just give me money. Don't worry about it. I'll fix it. No. Um,
00:22:01
David Isaacs
Yeah. But I think sometimes, too, some of that some of that just, like, conversational type um meetings or check-ins or something, it's like, you know, the person's Like I do think there's a value in it.
00:22:19
David Isaacs
um But to your point, like, yeah, if it's not structured in a specific way or if you're, you know, coming, if you're both bringing something to the meeting,
00:22:30
David Isaacs
um, that could be helpful, but a lot of times it's, yeah, it just kind of gets, uh, it, it's scheduled, um, you, you show up to it, and, um, you know, you're gonna have questions and whatnot, um, but outside of that, like, yeah, it's hard to kind of prepare for and get ready for and, um, do a lot of these things, so I definitely get the, uh,
00:22:53
David Isaacs
That feeling. But yeah, I mean, is it more, you said it's more lax, right? It's not like, a you know, you're being harped on about deadlines or why you don't have the answer to specific questions or...
00:23:08
The Big Dog
Yeah, no, I think I'm just putting more pressure on than what this actually is. So it's just, it is more of just like a check-in for him because he's been gone for like, I think like two and a half weeks but with like several conferences. So um I also just need like guidance as far as like, um should we be giving them like sales data, you know, to for seeding our algorithms?
00:23:34
The Big Dog
ah in our search engine, you know, it's like, it's gonna be helpful for things like ad campaigns and, um, you know, other customers, uh, what do you call that?
00:23:45
The Big Dog
Like a widget for like, uh, frequently bought, like people who bought this, bought that, you know, um, that all kind of,
00:23:51
David Isaacs
Mm-hmm.
00:23:53
The Big Dog
I guess, especially in the day and age of like, you know, AI, it's going to hopefully train and, you know, auto, auto populate that a little. I don't want to necessarily put all my eggs in one basket on that thought process, but, um, yeah, I just need to like, I was use this analogy where I'm just kind of like a windup toy. Like I'm just going to keep going and going and occasionally i'm going to probably hit a wall and fall over and I just need to be picked up and kind of put in the right direction. So, um,
00:24:22
The Big Dog
no quit over here in this dog, but, uh, sometimes I don't have, uh, you know, I'm like Isaiah Pacheco. I just kind of, uh, maybe be in the back of my own lineman, but I'm just going to run as hard as I can with no direction. So, uh, sometimes if a better coaching, going to get there, I'm going to get that first down. So,
00:24:45
The Big Dog
but yeah, I mean, other than that, um, you know, Life's pretty
Parental Challenges and Support Strategies
00:24:51
The Big Dog
good. um wife My wife is staying busy, so I'm getting more time with one-on-one time with my son. His last day of school is like next Thursday. So it's like that's going to be a whole kind of transition because we do have to get him at some point tested for autism over the summer. You know, we met with...
00:25:10
The Big Dog
Met with his i ah his final IEP, which is Individual Education Plan, um just to kind of check to see where he's going. So he's five, but he's kind of got... um like motor and speech for motor function or gross motor function and kind of like speech patterns for like a two and a half year old. So he's a bit, um, he's pretty delayed. so we're kind of, we're getting like a plan for them. And then, um, the expectation for him, the expectations that we have for money kind of is going into kindergarten in the fall. Um, you know, we want to make sure,
00:25:48
The Big Dog
that at least early on that he has an adult cause he spawn responds way better than them than kids his own age. He's just kind of, at that point mentally, um, he's starting to make friends. Like he has kind of a friends group, um, but he still plays by himself a lot and he's kind of kid adjacent. Um, so he kind of relies on adults as far as in speech patterns, um, kind of without context, he'll just like point to things. So, um, you know, it's kind of a emotional meeting, I guess. Um, I wasn't, my wife was,
00:26:24
The Big Dog
you know kind of just crying several times for various reasons, but, uh, I kind of was internally too, but you know, I had to be the, the strong stern one, I guess. Um, but it was a lot cause I was the first meeting of like that I've been to in in a long time. So I didn't really have any expectations, but, um, long story short, he is getting, you know, individualized attention and lot of like his speech pathologist and, um PT and ot um, people that he see, um, are kind of throughout the district. So he'll be seeing the same people. So be comfortable, but you know, he's grown a lot.
00:27:04
The Big Dog
Um, so he's been in preschool essentially two and a half years. Um, I mean, it was just before he turned three. Um, and you know, he's, he's grown so much. He has a long way to go, but who doesn't, um you know, and so we're thankful and we we're we're hopeful for him and and we're going to spend lot of least my plan is to, you know, help him.
00:27:32
The Big Dog
We get kind of like, um you know, like exercises and things like that from each of his specialists that he sees for things for techniques that us parents can help him to get better. And, you know, it's like, um, as much as this is another thing where i kind of just want to worry about his future, you know, things like being bullied just cause you may be different and all that. So like, those are things that I can't necessarily control and I'm not necessarily panicking about them, but you know, as a parent, it's things that you're kind of sticking in the back your mind. So, um, you know, i
00:28:09
The Big Dog
I think I just kind of took a backseat as far as like some of his developmental stuff, because i don't want to call myself a coward, but it's like, i I definitely have not put my best foot forward on that. and I've kind of come to the realization I've just kind of stepped up and and do more, you know, it's like saying that out loud is a bit relieving, you know, but it's also at the same time, it's like, I felt like, uh, I was holding myself and him and backing away. And I'm not saying that I'm going to like,
00:28:41
The Big Dog
be a miracle worker and you know, Helen Keller, I get Helen Keller to just all of a sudden speak, but I know there's things more that I can be doing. And, um, as much as I want, like him to like go for sports and all these things that he's just not ready. And like, I have to help prepare him to be a better person and, um, you know, ready to attack the world. so um it's more conversations that I have to be had with internally and, and with like my wife of, you know, cause it's like, it's her busy season too. She's and part owner of a restaurant and she has a a cake business. So it's, um, you know, we just have to i almost like we're divorced parents, but not really, but sometimes it's just like her, her schedule is busier than mine. and So I need to just step up more. So, um,
00:29:35
The Big Dog
This is not me getting down on myself. This is just kind of being like ah accountable to myself because I'll definitely listen to this episode after and play this back. It's motivation. Like, you know, you got to keep going.
00:29:48
The Big Dog
There's more, always more things we can do. And if we don't have the time to do them,
00:29:52
David Isaacs
Yeah.
00:29:56
David Isaacs
Yeah, it's it's tough. Yeah, it's tough to hear it. ah Just, you know, just situation and, you know, trying to, which...
00:30:11
David Isaacs
I don't know. I think maybe some of it. I know you mentioned like cowardice. Like, I don't know if it's necessarily that or like feeling like you're not doing enough.
00:30:25
David Isaacs
and and the It seems like there's, you know, only so much that you can do. um but yeah i mean if you if you feel like and if you think um that you could put some more effort into it and then you're um you know you have thought about it and kind of part of that being present and checking in to see um you know the goals that you'd like to have and what you'd like to do differently so um yeah i mean it's pretty commendable to
00:30:56
David Isaacs
hear about it and have you speak about it and um yeah kind of set that for yourself like going forward of what you'd like to do more um but i know he's definitely lucky to have you both as parents um and uh that you're both doing as much as you can i think in a lot of different cases you know life just kind of gets in the way and we get distracted and You know, time flies, too.
Future Concerns and Early Interventions
00:31:27
David Isaacs
It's more or less of what I've realized. So, yeah, I mean, even having the introspection to kind of talk through some of that, to give yourself and an idea or a thought of what you're you know, maybe I could be better in this area. I could be doing this better. I need to be, um, you know, more involved and, and helping with that.
00:31:52
David Isaacs
Um, so yeah, that's pretty, uh, it's pretty inspiring. Um, and thank you for sharing
00:31:59
The Big Dog
Sharing's caring, my friend.
00:32:02
David Isaacs
Yeah. We were talking about listening back to the episode for motivation. I'm like, yeah, we need the we need the listeners anyways.
00:32:12
The Big Dog
right
00:32:12
David Isaacs
But yeah, that's a it's tough. I mean, ah my my sister's kind of dealing with it with my nephew too. don't know, like a few other people that are kind of going through that, whether it's, you know, developmentally, what you had described.
00:32:33
David Isaacs
I know my nephew is presumably um autistic or they think he is, but he's just kind of too young to tell at this point. But I do think there's going to be some of those delays with development.
00:32:48
David Isaacs
And another friend of mine that they've kind of had the same
00:32:56
David Isaacs
kind of have come to the same conclusion. Like he's not quite old enough yet for them to really know, but there have been some delays in like the checkpoints of when he's supposed to be talking or doing some other things.
00:33:11
The Big Dog
Yeah. I mean, it is, it's tough, especially when they're young. Cause you hope you, well, you hope they grow out of it or, you know, and maybe he still can, you know, that's certainly, but or all of them can. But you also just want to be,
00:33:29
The Big Dog
um
00:33:34
The Big Dog
I guess you want to put your child with the best success. So, you know, if you can test it and he, maybe he doesn't have this and he has that, you know, at least we know, you know, that adults who are in his most life, the most, you know, his teachers and staff at his elementary school, or, um, least they'll know how to help them and and and kind of attack what needs to be fixed, you know, and obviously we'll have a better understanding. So, um, just think it's, uh,
00:34:04
The Big Dog
definitely hard to maybe it admit that you need to get your child help, but you know, it's, uh, not doing anything about it is, uh, certainly absolutely not the answer. So, um, except and accepting certain truths and this goes for more than anything is, um, kind of just the first step to, or I guess is acceptance. Um, it is, um,
00:34:29
The Big Dog
you know, give whatever situation it's, um,
00:34:34
The Big Dog
I mean, like I never went to AA, but it's kind of just like the, the, what they call it? The, uh, serenity prayer, you except the, I'll look that up, but learn to accept the things you can't control and, you know, learning, learning the difference. Um,
00:34:54
The Big Dog
There's not some things that I can't control um with him or the situation, but again, we have to put ourselves in the best situation. So um I think with that in mind, you know, kind of talking this out, it's, you know, I have a plan forward for his how to fix, you know,
00:35:14
The Big Dog
not fix my son. That's, I don't need to fix my son. He's perfect no matter what happens, but fixing this fucking website. Um, I think sometimes just, just needs to speak it out loud. Maybe speaking other things and looking at items that necessarily don't have to do with it, but sometimes it just unlocks it. So, um, I think I'm kind of Mr. Fix it this summer. So coming to a theater near you, baby.
00:35:39
David Isaacs
Yeah, just start playing some Zelda, man. The synapses will start firing. You're like, oh, I just got to go to this other area, get the grappling hook and come back. And then I got to sing this. I got to play this song.
00:35:51
David Isaacs
And then, you know, like.
00:35:52
The Big Dog
Yeah, God, yeah.
00:35:55
David Isaacs
Yeah, so that's a serendipity over some of that discovery work or just, you know, kind of like. It's the same thing in school. Like, if you don't know the answer, just skip it, come back to it.
00:36:08
David Isaacs
And like, sometimes you do like realize you had the answer. You just had to unlock it. Um, and that was the biggest thing with the the coding bootcamp, which I know you're playing in the big leagues now, but.
00:36:20
The Big Dog
I guess.
00:36:21
David Isaacs
it's kind of the same concept of anytime you're trying to fix a problem or solve a problem, like a lot of times I feel like me being inundated with the problem or like I've gotten to the point where I've gotten too deep and I need to, I need to step back. i need to throw some dirt back on there and then, you know, try to approach it from a a level that's, um,
00:36:45
David Isaacs
like get more of a lay of the land than trying to dig deep into one specific spot. Um, and yeah, I mean, but there's the problem with it is once it clicks, you're like, oh how did I not know this? How did I not get this? And then, um, you know, you run the cycle again and it's really like those ebbs and flows throughout life, throughout work that, uh, we really find ourselves in. So it's a lot of times I just like,
00:37:12
David Isaacs
not really chasing the flow, but I'm sitting in the ebb and I just gotta, I gotta know it's, you know, it's not permanent. It's not going to be there forever. And, um, I'm not submitting things that are getting like, you know, all the oohs and the ahs, but just doing the work.
00:37:29
David Isaacs
And sometimes that's good enough, but it's hard those days to i get done with work and feel like I didn't accomplish anything.
00:37:29
The Big Dog
Yeah.
00:37:37
David Isaacs
But sometimes, too, it's good to just talk to somebody like, what do you what are you talking about, dude? Like, this is great. So it is.
00:37:49
David Isaacs
Yeah, it's always nice to talk to somebody and or go over some things with other people because I feel like One of the areas I get too deep in is in my own head, which just kind of comes with the territory of doing anything in a large company with a bunch of people.
00:38:00
The Big Dog
Oh, yeah.
00:38:08
David Isaacs
like Not everyone's going have the best opinion of me. and know I don't have the opportunity to talk to everyone. And even if I did, it's not like a...
Life Reflections and Acceptance
00:38:19
David Isaacs
Yeah, it's not like everyone's going to get along all the time I'm going to be able to solve a problem right away. Like I'm typically overconfident and then get humbled. And then, you know, that's kind of the ebb and flow of my typical workday. But yeah, I mean, it's.
00:38:36
David Isaacs
It's fun stuff. You know, ebbs and flows of life and, um you know, just the realization that maybe more effort could be put to something else and then you come back. It's like, oh, yeah, this is easy.
00:38:52
The Big Dog
Right. Yeah. It's like sometimes the hard pill to swallow, I guess, depending on the situation. But sometimes you think you're putting your best effort and maybe it's just a little pivot, little step back perspective. And, you know, really, um I always used to hate that. Yeah.
00:39:18
The Big Dog
cliche you know people would post on linkedin it's like oh whenever you're stuck on a problem just like go for a walk come back and i'll give you perspective because it was like never worked for me like if i was first especially especially like coding problems but like i guess it does have its merits at times um and you know working on a problem that like has, doesn't even, it's not even related, but yeah, I mean, just talking it out or walking it out.
00:39:48
The Big Dog
Um, yeah, just so sometimes it just, uh, lacks a new perspective. So, um, crazy how that works. Yeah.
00:39:59
David Isaacs
Yeah. Um, I mean, I studied psychology and was just like sitting there every day, like what okay going over some of the, uh, you know, concepts and experiments and things. So, um, there is like a a mantra I'd like, and, um, I forget where I heard it. And it was in some Either TV show or movie, probably something dumb, but it's like, I'll try my best and someone goes, your best is good enough.
00:40:30
The Big Dog
Yeah.
00:40:31
David Isaacs
So that's what, uh, you know, I typically will tell myself in my own head. It's like, well, I'm doing my best. And then the, you know, the the nicer voice is like, it's good enough.
00:40:44
The Big Dog
yeah
00:40:44
David Isaacs
Um, so I think that in, in life work and whatever you're doing, um, a lot of times, like, you're like, I'm trying my best and like, I know it's good enough.
00:40:56
David Isaacs
And, um, or perfection is the enemy of good. Like, it doesn't have to be perfect. Um, but good is, you know, a lot better than nothing in a lot of cases or a lot better than,
00:41:12
David Isaacs
if you're looking at process improvement or if you're looking on you know self-improvement or a better way to spend your time, it's that at least you're thinking about it. At least you're putting an effort towards it versus not doing something. or
00:41:31
David Isaacs
it was
00:41:35
The Big Dog
Yeah.
00:41:35
David Isaacs
There's some other cliche that's been talked about too and I can't
00:41:35
The Big Dog
mean
00:41:41
David Isaacs
seem to remember it.
00:41:44
The Big Dog
Yeah. And it's, um, and think, you know, just i the biggest thing that i I fight every day is my own laziness. Like I would, I would really just want to come home and take a nap and you know, not do anything, have meals prepared for me all the time. But one I'm not in that tax bracket quite yet uh I don't even know if I ever will be but you know it's like you know I've got credit card debt and I've got all this so it's like you know and like as my friend who I work with who's a plumber I was like hey can I just pay you to like come over and sneak out um our uh bathtub and our uh
00:42:35
The Big Dog
bathroom closet and he's like um he's like dude just just plunge them both like i'll show you a technique on how to do it and i was like i don't feel like in my head i'm like i don't feel like i'm doing being lazy but it would also probably save me like at least 75 100 bucks for him to come over and do it um because that's at what at minimum i would pay him just for him coming over to to do all that but it's something that i also have to learn you know um even then he's like, um, just do that. And then like, let me know how it goes. So it's kind of just like, yeah, i still have the support, like the, the the fallback of him coming over and and doing it. But it's also, I just need to learn what problem I'm doing, you know, again, because I just, I,
00:43:21
The Big Dog
I can't just pay for things to go away. Um, at the the end of the day, you're going have to do some sort of work on yourself or, ah if you're doing some sort of house chore work, whatever the case is, like you have to put, put forth that effort at some point.
Home Ownership Lessons
00:43:37
The Big Dog
So.
00:43:40
David Isaacs
Yeah, taking that step and yeah, just working with the homies, man. so It's cool. It's a yeah fun just to hang around be us.
00:43:50
The Big Dog
Exactly.
00:43:54
David Isaacs
It's always better doing something stressful with someone else. But yeah, I mean, you still got to put the effort in and get yourself mentally prepared for for doing that.
00:44:07
David Isaacs
so
00:44:08
The Big Dog
Yeah, I mean, I also got to throw some pea gravel into a hole that Chipmunk has burrowed in under our our our three seasons room. So, um you know, and then...
00:44:23
The Big Dog
throw some quick create over and some steel wool over it. So even if it does want to come back, it can't cause they hate steel wool. So, uh, home ownership sucks, but, um, you pay for your freedom, so to speak. Uh, you know, it's either that or you pay through the nose with, renting and everything maybe is done for you, but you don't really end your own, your property at the end of the day. So, uh, there's some financial advice. Uh, it's not even really advice, just perspective.
00:44:50
The Big Dog
Um, but you know, I'm, I'm 37, you know, i I think when I was 18, I was like, yeah, I'll figure it out eventually.
00:45:01
The Big Dog
um one there's no figuring everything out. That's quite literally impossible. um But two, I'm never too old to learn new things, especially around the house. So.
00:45:13
David Isaacs
Yeah. I mean, if my younger self had met me today, um yeah,
00:45:24
David Isaacs
it would be... Quite a lot different than where I thought I would be. um But I think as in getting older, like trying to be um becoming more comfortable with yourself and learning more about yourself to set yourself up for success when you want to do something.
00:45:41
David Isaacs
I think that is like kind of what comes with the wisdom of being around.
00:45:42
The Big Dog
like them
00:45:47
David Isaacs
And of course, you like trying to you know tell anyone that's young about the world and how it is they're like, yeah, whatever, shut up.
00:45:47
The Big Dog
yeah really gri down practice
00:45:53
David Isaacs
like
00:45:54
The Big Dog
right
00:45:55
David Isaacs
I'm going to be a crypto billionaire. It's like, all right, man. But you've got to learn those lessons through. You've got to take those hits, learn those lessons. So we were all there once at one point.
00:46:10
David Isaacs
But, yeah, I've got to get going. got to take this dog for a walk before I get too lazy. So I'll leave you with that.
00:46:17
The Big Dog
Yeah, i get that.
00:46:19
David Isaacs
I don't know if you – I don't want to cut you off if you had any other closing remarks or anything else you wanted to touch on.
00:46:27
The Big Dog
No, um, I picked, maybe i should pick up a Skyward Sword, but, uh, currently just playing, 007 First Light, you know, uh, maybe it doesn't have any puzzles or anything like that, but, um, you I'm hunting the most dangerous game of all, virtual people.
00:46:43
The Big Dog
I'm kidding. No, I really don't have anything, enlightening so you can just end it there
00:46:51
David Isaacs
All right. Well, thanks, Brian. Thanks for sharing your story with everyone. Thanks everyone for listening.
00:46:57
The Big Dog
yeah yeah talk you later everyone
00:46:58
David Isaacs
If you've gotten so this far and we will see you next week.