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The Big Dog
Mom.
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The Big Dog
Mom.
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The Big Dog
Mom.
Introductions and Health Check-In
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The Big Dog
sadline
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The Big Dog
the down
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David Isaacs
Welcome everyone, it is June, June, not July, June 14th at time of recording.
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The Big Dog
um Bye,
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David Isaacs
I'm here with Brian. b Brian, how are we doing?
00:00:36
The Big Dog
Dad. I'm alright. feeling under the weather, but other than that, I'm doing okay. can't complain too much.
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David Isaacs
Under the weather, that's not good.
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The Big Dog
Yeah,
Health Challenges: Sinus and Sleep Issues
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The Big Dog
I know. It's a funny thing that I've, like, I think I'm in the early stages of a sinus infection or something. And, you know, it's just been like the last six weeks, especially with in Michigan, the the air quality has just been so poor. It's been up and down.
00:01:04
The Big Dog
uh, like I sweet, poor, sweet quality. uh, I've done nasal drains. I think like every day for the past, like three or four weeks, it feels like I'm always just congested. So, um,
00:01:20
The Big Dog
finally got like hit with something kind of serious and pretty congested my chest but um just gonna give it another day or two before I start really worrying and maybe go to urgent care doctor or something but not too worried about it what's new with you
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David Isaacs
Yeah. I didn't realize the air quality around has been worse. I mean, I did wake up with a ah sore throat that was a little bit more sore than, um yeah, like kind of worryingly sore.
00:01:56
David Isaacs
So that would make sense. Or maybe I just slept with my mouth open last night, like an idiot. I don't know why my unconscious body is so dumb.
00:02:03
The Big Dog
Yeah.
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David Isaacs
I have, my nostrils are open. I checked, uh, But yeah, I mean, not feeling,
00:02:10
The Big Dog
yeah
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David Isaacs
ah feel fine otherwise. so that's what I was thinking. Maybe I was just snoring like sometimes or um I had my acid reflux under control for quite a long time, but the last few days have been little bit worse.
00:02:34
David Isaacs
So maybe that has something to do with it.
00:02:37
The Big Dog
Yeah, um when I was having bouts of sleep apnea, just because I was breathing that hard or exhaling that hard, however it is, I know it did tend to cause pretty bad indigestion and acid reflux. So i definitely be would keep an eye on that. Yeah.
00:03:00
David Isaacs
Yeah, good thing I rescheduled my at-home sleep study.
00:03:06
The Big Dog
oh yeah
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David Isaacs
But no, i I didn't. I need to do that. Just add that another thing to the list.
Physical Health: Weight Loss and Posture
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The Big Dog
yeah I know it tell me about it man it's like ah you know I've i've been eating well I've been mostly not sleeping well but sleeping better than when I was heavier I was down almost 30 pounds uh I think I'm down 20 a little over 29 pounds I just weighed myself this morning so start there but i was feeling if i just like the last few days i've just been feeling like more sore for like no reason whatsoever so i'm gonna start doing like
00:03:52
The Big Dog
upping like my actual exercise because I'm still doing like PT and like PT is kind of exercise. There's simple stuff in like a chair against the wall, you know, things kind of just build some minor strength. But I literally bent over to pick up my son's truck and i threw my shoulder. I didn't throw it out, but like I pinched an air in my shoulders. So it's like I just have so much atrophy in my body that I need to really just work out and strengthen my muscles. Um, I felt like that was like the first time, like since turning 37 years ago that I really felt old where I just like almost like threw my back out, picking up a truck.
00:04:32
David Isaacs
Yeah. Well, I'm 31, so it's good to know I have at least six years left before everything's downhill.
00:04:38
The Big Dog
yeah Yeah. Right.
00:04:41
David Isaacs
But yeah, I mean, it's good. Like starting small is definitely good and trying to build that foundation. but yeah i think it is tough to kind of try to realize like when that next step is like when you can start to take on more um but for me it's like not only the exercise but like the stretching aspect of it um you know how we are have tech neck and um you know posture and and all those things that uh really take a toll over time um there's a great
00:05:03
The Big Dog
Yep. Yep. It's a big part.
00:05:17
David Isaacs
big Haley Williams fan, uh, lead singer Paramore, but there's clip with her, I think on, it's either col Conan or Colbert, but she's talking about like, she's showing a, an X-ray of her neck and she's like head banging over the years. And you know, all the old guns are like, well, you guys got to watch out, you know, you're gonna mess up your neck. And it's like literally like at 90 degree angle.
00:05:43
The Big Dog
Oh geez. Yeah. Right.
00:05:44
David Isaacs
And I can kind of feel like that i like hump.
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The Big Dog
some
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David Isaacs
I used to be able to feel like a hump between my shoulder blades. It's not as pronounced anymore because I've been working a lot at it.
00:05:59
The Big Dog
right
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David Isaacs
Yeah. I wonder if some of that stretching could be good or, um, you know, some type of yoga. i mean, when i got sick with COVID and, know, it was kind of bed bound for six months, um,
00:06:17
David Isaacs
I started doing some yoga and yeah. Um, also like nerve flossing, if you've ever heard of that, but they're like specific stretches.
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The Big Dog
oh
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David Isaacs
Like one is arm straight across and then you like put your palm up and then you like head back and lean like your ear to your opposite shoulder.
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The Big Dog
Oh.
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David Isaacs
Um, and then you can either do it like palm down or palm up.
00:06:44
David Isaacs
Um, But yeah, that works. I do that all the time now. Even doing it right now, it feels pretty good. So not to brag, just woke up from a nap, so that's why I was late. Sorry about that.
00:06:59
The Big Dog
all good um one that i do because i got uh you know we'll share war stories here you i if you put your think i told you this one at least i'm having deja vu about telling somebody about this recently where you put your like on the door door jam or door frame you like um especially if you have tight shoulders if you yeah yeah yeah almost like you're About to go double high five somebody.
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The Big Dog
Yeah. um Or want one side.
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David Isaacs
yeah the field goal is good but your arms are at 90 degrees and you lean your chest through but your like forearms are flat against the molding of the door
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The Big Dog
Yeah.
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The Big Dog
Yeah. yep That's a good one for got weak shoulders. because You know, just what happens with me working from an office for last, gosh, six, seven years. No, seven years. you know, it's like my shoulders have, and really i just overall my posture have just gone more and more forward. I mean, not that I had great posture before that, but you know, it's just like, you know, I'm starting to develop a neck hump. I've had tech neck, um, like everything is just kind of weak on my chest. So, you know, um, losing weight and working out, not necessarily a kind of a non-bow sometimes, but you can, uh, find your ways around it. But so I'm just gonna make adjustments and just kind of ramp up that. But, um,
00:08:29
The Big Dog
yeah because i got just such i've just had such atrophy for the last seven years you know it's like i gotta gotta do something and i can't like can't just keep doing these pt exercises until um you know think it's gonna do gotta actually work out and retrain these muscles and strengthen them and um just just be better so yeah
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David Isaacs
Nice.
00:08:54
David Isaacs
Yeah. Well, I think that's like where people get it wrong with like going to the chiropractor. Yeah. I mean, if you can go to the chiropractor once a week and you still have terrible posture, then it could be worth it. But the idea is to like do a reset.
00:09:10
David Isaacs
where uh resets you and then you work on you know keeping it where it's supposed to be as you fall back in with the you know bad posture and slumped shoulders and everything then you're just going to go back to the way that it was um and me i have like bad outside of my hips are pretty bad
00:09:17
The Big Dog
Right.
00:09:32
David Isaacs
Um, so typically like if I put my feet up, um, you know, sitting on the couch or something like it, legs will fall asleep or, yeah, I really just like my hips get pretty tight.
00:09:45
David Isaacs
ah so that's one that I've been trying to work on. Uh, but yeah, work is, Work is tough. Just trying to keep the ponchers. I'm either like, you know, over top here or I'm doing like the, you know, no night, no life World of Warcraft person where I'm like leaning back 45 degrees and I've got like fairly touching my keyboard, which that one feels like it's not that bad for you, but it's got to be, you know, pretty bad.
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The Big Dog
yeah yeah how do i
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David Isaacs
don't know.
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The Big Dog
i mean it's i guess it would be slouching i don't i don't know where not and that that that one kind of like the leaning back feels better on me but you know i don't know uh I am not a chiropractor or a medical doctor, so I could not tell you.
00:10:36
The Big Dog
Yeah, but anyway, overall, I'm doing okay. I hope you're <unk>re doing okay as well. Now that you wanted to kind of talk about a couple of couple of different things you've been going over with your therapy session too, and I got a couple things too, so.
00:10:54
David Isaacs
Yeah.
Therapy and Time Management
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David Isaacs
Well, therapy, it's kind of like ebbs and flows, you know, not every week is going to be bad. Sometimes I go in like I don't I don't typically go in with an agenda.
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David Isaacs
but it's there for support. So similarly to exercise or going to the chiropractor or getting a massage or whatnot, it's the thought of like you know it's there for some of the overflow.
00:11:23
David Isaacs
So yeah, the last couple of weeks I've had more productive conversations, I would think, with my therapist and really more around like the feel for me with like motivation and what I assign value to. So, um, you know, there's trivial things, laundry, dishes, you know, which is clutter around the house, which I, um, had said like, doesn't really bother me.
00:11:48
David Isaacs
Um, I don't really have like a lot of motivation to, um, keep up with, uh, you know, if I sit here and drink something at my desk or eat something at my desk, like I'm not too motivated to clean it up right away.
00:12:03
The Big Dog
Yeah, tell me about it.
00:12:05
David Isaacs
So there's a lot of times like waiting on that motivation to actually hit me to you know, the sink's full of dishes, all right, I'll take care of it now. Or, you know, I typically wait until the end of the day, typically Monday nights because I work from home Monday, so who cares about laundry?
00:12:24
David Isaacs
And that's, you know, once I get it into the dryer, it's like, oh, well, can't stay up and let it dry and fold it and put it away since it's already, you know, around 9 o'clock.
00:12:36
David Isaacs
So it'll just kind of sit down there for a while and it has been sitting down there for a while. I haven't brought clothes up in I don't know how many weeks.
00:12:46
David Isaacs
Um, and yeah, just trying to like how we talk about trying to attack things at a different angle. Um, cause the other part of it is like, you know, just time management.
00:12:57
David Isaacs
like I feel like I've just gone time blind in a lot of ways, um, in weekends for me, like trying to get that time back, trying to get that relaxed relaxation time back outside of work, uh, what I've been doing and working on, um, has been pretty difficult.
00:12:58
The Big Dog
Mm-hmm.
00:13:15
David Isaacs
Um, like just being timeline, like there are maybe one thing I have planned for that weekend, like something fun. And then, you know, the rest of the time is just kind of unscheduled, like lounge time.
00:13:29
The Big Dog
Yeah.
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David Isaacs
Um, so my thought was, is that I was going to start, um, tracking how much time things take me and hopefully, getting better about getting better about,
00:13:44
David Isaacs
scheduling you know my day or my week and you know what things that I want to do. So this morning I went grocery shopping. i We had to in install any dishwasher, so that's been a whole week worth of exploration. I cross-threaded the water inlet valve. I had to order a new one. I ordered the wrong one. had to order another one. And lo and behold, the dishwasher works now, but still needs to be mounted.
00:14:12
David Isaacs
for whatever reason, it's like off to the side. You can't, there's no two cabinets that you can screw it against. Um, and yeah, so yeah, it's kind of been a pain.
00:14:19
The Big Dog
Gotcha.
00:14:25
David Isaacs
Um, but I, getting it together and ran like the first cycle for it yesterday. So I got up this morning and, um, took the dishes out, uh, cleaned up the dog poop in the backyard yesterday.
00:14:41
David Isaacs
I swept, I vacuumed, was in the process of getting my laundry started. So I didn't wait until the last second. And, you know, I folded up all the laundry that's down in the basement. I just haven't brought it up yet. So it's kind of some of that stuff of like, there's, you know, we talk about tech debt, but I think there's also like mental debt.
00:15:05
David Isaacs
that's holding interest and we're not like really paying attention to it because it hasn't like caused a lot of issues but it can just like drag on you um so yeah we're trying to just know i took the dog for a walk the other day and you know just timed how long does it take for a long walk oh it takes 30 minutes how long does it take for the shorter walk oh it takes 15 minutes like you know so trying to um trying to set that time to know how long some things are going to take as well as like well if i take the alternate route on the walk well how much time does that actually save if there's a day that i'm you know kind of running on fumes or uh i don't have as much time to you know go on one of the longer walks how long is it going to take me so um it's helpful in that way to kind of schedule some things around uh because at work it's like yeah i mean i can set aside this amount of time, but I don't necessarily know.
Goal Setting and Project Management
00:16:04
David Isaacs
Typically, I go until I find a good place to stop. and you know, we'll take notes and we'll come back to it, hopefully from a different mindset and a good understanding of where I left off.
00:16:16
David Isaacs
um But yeah, some of these other things of like just trying to see um how much better it would be to, you know, try to schedule some of those around and not start out too big, but, you know, throughout the week we have podcast recording typically on Wednesdays, but sometimes that doesn't always work. i had a,
00:16:40
David Isaacs
uh subbed in a golf f league last week um or you know i have dnd on thursdays and that's a little bit tougher because then i stay up later the day before i work from home and have therapy at noon so um you know i have to tackle that eventually but yeah it's kind of been you know good conversation um like a good path forward for me i think um and it's kind of the beauty and also kind of the issue with trying to find things that work for you is because we're all individualized and trying to like, you know, well, I'm here, you know, what's the next step?
00:17:18
David Isaacs
And then once I get to the next step, okay, when do I feel comfortable moving on to the next step after that?
00:17:23
The Big Dog
Right.
00:17:24
David Isaacs
And just trying not to get complacent or stagnant where, you know, it's really around like that experimentation, but it can take a lot of time to figure out, you know, exactly what works.
00:17:36
David Isaacs
On top of that, I've been, started out as a joke. I said that I was going to live with my mom and just buy a lake house as my first house. But I did take Thursday off of this week and I do have a tour scheduled for a place up north.
00:17:53
David Isaacs
So I'm going to look at and see if there's so many other tours that I can i can schedule.
00:17:54
The Big Dog
Oh, nice. Yeah.
00:18:02
David Isaacs
And yeah, we'll go from there. But
00:18:06
David Isaacs
Yeah, that would be pretty large investment, but I'm at a a good place financially, so it would be tough, but I think it would be doable and worth it.
00:18:22
The Big Dog
Oh, well, congrats on taking that step forward. I mean, that's pretty, pretty big leap. Um, and good And good on you for taking, you know, the the initiative and planning for some of your, you know, take your time debt away. That's not the best way to put that, but, um you know, attacking what you to perceive to be maybe one of your issues and, you know, working on planning on it.
00:18:52
The Big Dog
um That's awesome. And, yeah, I mean, also just, like, practice, know, you know, like we always say, it's, it's going to a challenge because you got to kind of rewire your brain to do some of these things. And, um, I think
00:19:12
The Big Dog
the, best path or it is always to make a plan. you know, and it sounds like you've done some of that at least and using the data of what you've already know and kind of are working on to, to improve yourself. I mean, it's no different from really anything else. i mean, um, yeah,
00:19:33
The Big Dog
you know, a controversial figure, uh, Jordan Peterson. I do occasionally listen to him. I don't always follow everything that he says, but, um, he says when facing trauma, um, you know, the first step should always be to write it out. Like what is the painful memory that you're keep kind of recircling? And then, um,
00:19:56
The Big Dog
face your triggers kind of gradually, um make sure that you're aware of but it, but don't let the fear dictate your life. And i think kind of some of these steps, um, kind of go hand in hand with what you're saying.
00:20:10
The Big Dog
Um, you know, obviously it might not be traumatic to plan out or to be aware of, um time management, right? Like, i mean, i I get on my wife a lot because I think when she's, she has a baking business and I think when she's doing this, she doesn't always necessarily want to do them, but and she also knows that it's money coming in. um i think sometimes she'll watch like friends or
00:20:41
The Big Dog
Um, I may have talked about this before. I think I gave deja vu from this again, but, uh, you know, whatever her favorite shows. and i think she just kind of gets invested in that and takes her time. And, you know, so she'll look up in the, at the clock and it's, you know, one or two o'clock in the morning. Like recently she just got home at 5.00 AM. m Um, cause she had a large baking order and just didn't know.
00:21:05
The Big Dog
i think she just underestimated some things. Um, but She had to get up at 630 in the morning to go work the next day, you know, um so that was big. ah And she's in therapy for that, too, time management, amongst other things. So, you know, she's doing she's kind of on the same path of trying to figure things out in terms of what works best for her.
00:21:31
The Big Dog
um I told her and I told myself this, so we got to also practice self-forgiveness because even though we're trying to be better, it's going to be a lot of failure along the way. So I think that...
00:21:48
The Big Dog
ah
00:21:51
The Big Dog
forgiveness is one of the early steps of selecting the correct path ah forward best path forward um you know there's each each step you make you you maybe you get back next back two steps but um you know time management i mean i can't really speak i there are projects where i tell my boss i'm like yeah i'll get this done in a week and it's like a month and she's like um, what's going on with this project? And I just want to touch base with them. Like, uh, well, um, you know, it's, I don't work with APIs all that often. And, you know, this isn't a bootcamp where, ah the the flow can be turned off. This is real life. So I'm kind of just been taking my time and procrastinating about it. And she goes,
00:22:37
The Big Dog
okay, well, I think you can get that done the next like couple of days ago. ah Yeah, sure. And then I eventually figured it out. But ah to avoid that, obviously I've been...
00:22:51
The Big Dog
kind of more taking like a waterfall approach to my project building, which if you've done any type of project management, there's generally two types of project management. There's the waterfall and then there is agile. So that's kind of typically in sprints where you could do a couple of development in certain time. Anyway, kind of getting off the topic, but I'm trying to take more of a waterfall approach where one thing kind of just fix everything altogether. but I do a lot more planning.
00:23:24
The Big Dog
Um, so I spend probably twice as two to three times more time planning than I do with the actual tasks. So, um, long story short, um, have a plan to go forward. Um, writing things down for me, like actually writing them down, and it's been proven by science that writing something down helps you understand the task and it helps with clarity and it helps with, um,
00:23:56
The Big Dog
I forgot the word. Anyway, it's better for you to to write things down for muscle memory um and decoding it from your brain later, especially when you have chicken scratch handwriting like I even sometimes can't decipher my own notes. But um so even I'm I'm I'm with you there. I'm I'm also working on project management, time management all the time. So um I've gotten better, especially at work.
00:24:25
The Big Dog
and now that I'm kind of overseeing two different projects, two major projects, like I have to be kind of be, ah managing two different companies and, and two different, uh, developers. So it's a lot to kind of juggle. And sometimes I feel just like, you know, exhausted at the end of the day of just trying to balance everything when it's probably just me and I need to be better about how I handle these things. So, you know, uh,
00:24:58
The Big Dog
I guess what all of this just to kind of say, we should all kind of try and be like David and use these, some of these analytics from, even if it's work from a conversation with a therapist or or spouse or anybody, even if it's an internal dialogue, um, you know, always trying to complete things in a timely manner, but like, um, that's time on task, right? Like that's not just going to come naturally. That's going to have to just come with time and practice self-forgiveness. I mean, I can't stress that part enough.
00:25:31
David Isaacs
Yeah. Um, yeah, cause the, you gotta make it fun, right? You know, like take something from it that you enjoy doing. Um, and it comes the question of like, would you rather take a trip or try to plan a trip?
00:25:47
David Isaacs
Not, you know, that's not the end all be all, but it's what it reminds me of, you know, what type of person are you?
00:25:51
The Big Dog
Yep.
00:25:53
David Isaacs
And if you're more around like the planning perspective, then yeah, you should have like fun planning out your day and just kind of following along to that schedule. Of course, there's going to be times where you don't know how long something's going to take you.
00:26:08
David Isaacs
Maybe a good response would be, well, let me go figure that out and see, you know, how much of it do I not know? And even if you come back with somewhat of an idea, like it could be vastly different.
00:26:24
David Isaacs
Trying to find a middle, like if you get 50% of the time you're finished quicker and 50% of the time you finish later, than Yeah, maybe that's as good as we can get far as if you're a few days in between. Yeah, I mean, a dishwasher I didn't think was going to be a whole week.
00:26:42
David Isaacs
It's still not finished.
00:26:43
The Big Dog
Yeah.
00:26:45
David Isaacs
But, you know, still have some projects and some things around the house that um you know i'd like to fix and i just haven't gotten around the time to actually you know fixing them completely so um yeah the time on task and you know the planning perspective um if spending 12 grand on a boot camp not to get a tech job taught me anything uh it was that you can't start in the middle because it's anytime you want to fix something you just have to start over and there are a lot of times like I got that like the tuition I was paying was really you know that specific those specific projects and i would have to you know start from scratch all over again
00:27:34
The Big Dog
Yep.
00:27:35
David Isaacs
because the the code that i wrote was too fragmented and didn't work together. or I tried to put something on the front end that can only be used in the back end because I got stubborn.
00:27:46
David Isaacs
but That's the whole point of, you know, starting out like if you like New Year's resolutions, I think a lot of times with like you just try to jump in try to start in the middle. You might not have had you might have had the motivation then because it's around that time. But trying to find things that like just, you know, doing the work and you know the management of your time and the management of your tasks rather than waiting around for motivation to strike you.
00:28:14
David Isaacs
And you might have, like, I run into a lot of times, too, where I have some pie-in-the-sky ideas, and I want to go get, like, a proof of concept together, but I don't, I'm not really afforded that time.
00:28:27
David Isaacs
and even on Friday, know, I didn't have... I wasn't low energy, but it was just like I had so much that I needed to get done. i had just put something down that I had finished.
00:28:42
David Isaacs
It was actually a good project and it's going to help save some time. i was able to like automate a report generation. You know, next steps so for that would be like, well, what actually needs to be reviewed um to try to save the rest of the team time and not having to review things.
00:29:03
David Isaacs
But anyways, like Friday, like I finished that up and the rest of the time I just took like, you know, typing out some of the tasks that I had been given and setting up like my own deadlines for myself and how long do I think it'll take and, you know, somewhat of like a paradox. like what I'm trying to accomplish.
00:29:29
David Isaacs
And yeah, just trying to document some of that and try to get into a good flow of like, well, what what is this stuff that's going to suck? Some stuff that I'm not going to like doing.
00:29:43
David Isaacs
And trying to fold that in with some things that I'm going to enjoy doing. So trying to, you know, ebb and flow it myself, given that I have, you know, a lot of things in front of me and kind of trying to figure out, you know, what the best way forward would be in a way that's going to make it so that I can It's not going to take me as much time.
Balancing Tasks and Family Life
00:30:09
David Isaacs
But knowing like, okay, well, if I get sick of this, then the idea is that I get to a good stopping point. I take some notes as to where I'm at so I can come back to it.
00:30:21
David Isaacs
And then I'll spend time on this other thing. And then like, those are the two things that are going to be my focus. and and try to keep it that way until, you know, both of those things are done and I can move on to something else. And hopefully the thing that I don't want to do as much will be the first thing I finish. so then the second one just kind of comes quicker.
00:30:43
David Isaacs
um But yeah, I mean, a lot of the stuff that we deal with is abstract and even speaking to my therapists, like, you know, people being a kid is like you wanted to grow up, you want to have this freedom.
00:30:57
David Isaacs
You didn't want anyone to tell you what to do. And now I'm like, you know, just tell me what to do.
00:31:02
The Big Dog
Right.
00:31:02
David Isaacs
ah And it's kind of kind of stinks in that regard. But I realize I can change my mindset into, you know, some of these tasks,
00:31:18
David Isaacs
in and outside of work and what I'm trying to accomplish that day, then it'll it'll help with that. You know, I can always feel like I can at the end of the day, hang my hat on something. And even i feel like some days I do accomplish a lot. I don't really, you know, kind of take the time to have the gratitude or take the time for the forgiveness or those things. So also not to just let some of your accomplishments wash over you.
00:31:48
David Isaacs
The big thing about journaling, I think, is remaining present. And it makes you feel good about some of the things that you accomplished when you're in the right mind state. And if you don't do it like I haven't done it, I feel like most people would get a great benefit out of just doing that.
00:32:07
David Isaacs
Because you focus on what you got done that day and not what you didn't get done. But at the end, you can talk about what you want to accomplish tomorrow the rest of the week or this month or anything. So, yeah, just trying to be more present, trying to be more data driven to kind of take that data and do something with it. I think I've seen a someone.
00:32:36
David Isaacs
vibe coded an app that checked his heart rate on a smartwatch, uh, for like meetings that he had every week and like which meetings like caused the most stress.
00:32:47
David Isaacs
Uh, so yeah, stuff like that. It's kind of like, um, we're getting back to science and why i studied psychology of just, you know, the, you're just testing, you're experimenting.
00:32:59
David Isaacs
and to me, that's kind of the fun outside of the, stuff that might not be so fun, um, but it's necessary. You know, I don't want to be someone who's only picking up around the house when people are coming over.
00:33:11
David Isaacs
I'd like to have, um, you know, that set at a time to do that, you know, uh, a couple times a week or anything.
00:33:18
The Big Dog
Yeah.
00:33:22
David Isaacs
Um, So yeah, that's the change of mindset of like, i need to get out of like, oh, I, you know, kind of justify or like, oh, I don't need to do this. Like, whatever. It's stupid.
00:33:34
David Isaacs
But no, just doing it. You know, like how, what did Goggins always say? Like, first thing to do every morning is like, get up and make your bed.
00:33:47
David Isaacs
It's like a good, it's like a good habit to have and kind of sets you up for the day to know like you're not coming back to bed until later. And then once you do, you feel good about it.
00:33:58
David Isaacs
You start the morning with like finishing a task. makes you feel good and then when you come back to it at night you're like oh you know this is real nice and you get to kind of have that mental feeling of like well I'm you know undoing the covers and I'm getting into time to rest so it's like a good switch off to relaxation I guess
00:34:25
The Big Dog
Yeah, for sure. Um, you know, I, I grew up with my parents kind of knew, um, I guess their, their assignments, like whoever got home first would start dinner. Cause it was me, my brother and my sister, they were, i mean, they're both nine or eight or nine, and eight and nine years older than I am. So I was, you know, obviously younger, but, uh, you know, start dinner. um Whoever made dinner it was a rule. no has Whoever made dinner also had to do dishes, which is always kind of strange. it' usually the kids. but
00:35:00
The Big Dog
um you know I grew up in with a lot of sports. That's kind of all I was doing when i was for the most part when I was younger. um my parents never really gave me uh chores to do except for like mow the lawn when it was the summertime um because it's you know because it's like I go to school for eight hours a day and then it was you know practice for sports and it's like you know if I did chores I didn't really have time to be a kid like that's kind of their philosophy so uh they kind of just knew their assignment I guess and you know my dad would always on the weekends would always make breakfast and you know they'd always my mom would always do cool
00:35:37
The Big Dog
do laundry, fold, and my dad would, you know, clean up the the bathroom, the kitchen, map up everything, so they kind of knew that, and um
00:35:51
The Big Dog
i think my my wife kind of was like the opposite, it's like whoever was doing what just kind of cleaned up, you know, and like,
00:36:03
The Big Dog
um everyone kind of knew had their own assignment and they were kind of expected to do that. So I think in our married life, we've kind of had like, uh, that kind of difficulty of figuring out what works best.
00:36:19
The Big Dog
Um, you know, and then it was like, you know, for me, I need to be on a schedule. Like, I mean, I, I meal prep and that takes me, you know, three to four hours, um, for my breakfast, lunch and dinner and some snacks. Um,
00:36:35
The Big Dog
Um, so that leaves me, you know, x amount of hours to do, to do whatever. So, um obviously i have to work 40 hours. I'm not going to do a full breakdown, but just to kind of paint a picture, you know, so if I'm working 40 hours and, you know, travel time, so I'm up to 50 hours, right. And I got to get, pick up my son, you know, that only leaves not a lot of whole heck of a lot of time to kind of just like clean up a house. So, um, I think you know, I just need to take the initiative, um, of,
00:37:06
The Big Dog
besides, you know, doing dishes and laundry, right? Like our our house is still kind of a mess and we're slowly getting there. And, you know, we have this deadline, we had a deadline of Memorial day, but it is what it is at this point. We're moving past it. We're going to go, we're doing garage sale at the end of um June here, getting rid of all the clutter that we have. And,
00:37:29
The Big Dog
But moreover than that, you know, or I'm trying to get a schedule where just like will mop the floor in the the bathroom in the kitchen and the stairs in the basement, um you know, scrubbing the bathtub, the sink and the toilet. Like, so those are kind of obviously all of our main appendages we all use and those need to be cleaned at all times. So um my hope is that, you know,
00:37:56
The Big Dog
Whatever is my wife feels like her responsibilities need to be that we kind of just get on this thing of a weekly schedule, but that's going to take time um more than I want it to. And it stresses me out, but I can't um control what she does. And she's on her feet far more than I am um You know, I spend a lot of mental energy just as she does, which she also exerts a lot of. physical energy because she owns restaurants. So she has to take customer or orders. She's doing, what they call in the restaurant industry is expediting, meaning she gets like all of the pot or all the drinks, all of the dishes, make sure the tickets get over to the wine cooks. And so she's busy. then on top of that, we have a kid who just wrapped up school for someone this past week.
00:38:51
The Big Dog
And, as right now we couldn't afford summer, some of the summer camps that we wanted him to go, but you know, her parents paid for it. So, you know, i think we're figuring things out, um, as a couple, not to, you know, um we get, um, we're kind of coming together finally, seven years later.
00:39:15
The Big Dog
of um a full-on plan you know like a ah daily weekly plan so and again kind of just with like the time management um to tie that in it's like we have to be okay if we don't get everything we were supposed to get done you know some things take priority others obviously our kid and our own mental well-being are going to come first but you know like you said first thing that we get up is make the bed well you know, it's like, sometimes I, she or I go to bed late and it's just like, I got to get up at six 15 at the latest. Cause my son's getting up at about the same time and he's still too young to kind of just be on his own.
00:39:57
The Big Dog
even if it's just inside the house. Um, so we were kind of just like trying to evolve as a couple and as a family and, you know, like clockwork, sometimes it feels like we're just in a hurricane where,
00:40:13
The Big Dog
circling around a bunch, but, um, know, I come together right now over me, I guess, like the Beatles say, um now we're, we're doing it and, you know, i feel good.
00:40:28
The Big Dog
So, um, yeah, stresses me out sometimes to talk about all that, but, you know, i feel like I gotta get it out somewhere and
00:40:30
David Isaacs
Nice.
00:40:40
The Big Dog
Um, you know, I'm still trying to find an every therapist who's going to show up to all of our sessions, but, uh, it's story for a different time. So,
00:40:53
The Big Dog
But yeah, people out there, especially they married married, even if you're single, like time management is just so important. I mean, you know, trying to put as much time for yourself back into your week is so important. You know, like you need time yourself. You need to practice self-care.
00:41:09
The Big Dog
um Even if that's not your goal, even if it's just like to accomplish things in a timely manner, like spin it however you want to. Like, I think it just like,
00:41:21
The Big Dog
it's ah the motivation varies from person to person for me it's just so i can play video games in my spare time you know spend time with my kid maybe i should have ordered that in a different way but it's just like you know it's just like sometimes even with my kid feels like a responsibility you know and again probably sounds like a terrible and cold thing to say but it's like you know at the end of the day when it's eight or nine o'clock and he's finally to bed it's like that's your time and you know you don't always want to be productive so it's like how do you be productive with all that going on um just more things to figure out
00:42:00
David Isaacs
Yeah, and you break things down into smaller pieces and, you know, individual tasks and communicate, whether it's with your partner or, you know, with yourself. Like, you you know, one of the big things that's like, you know, have all these things in my head and I feel like it's good exercise just to try to remember them. But in doing that, what is that taking away from, know,
00:42:28
David Isaacs
You know, is it giving me some anxiety? Is it giving me some sort of, you know, mental load and mental debt that I'm taking on for no good reason? You know, it's hard sometimes to really understand and realize that.
00:42:41
David Isaacs
um So yeah, communication, writing things down, time management, a lot of this, like just trying to get that time back. So when you do have the free time and scheduling out the free time to or like fun things to do and you feel a lot better getting around to the fun things when you can look back and think about, you know, what you've accomplished that week or that day.
00:43:08
David Isaacs
And you you assign your own value, you assign your own importance and priority. yeah I think that's a good thing to communicate not only with yourself, but for anyone listening same with your partner or whoever it is in your life to go over some of these things.
00:43:26
David Isaacs
um And yeah, you I think most people would feel better in doing it. I know I certainly do. So...
00:43:37
The Big Dog
Yeah, yeah i mean, it definitely puts me in a battle better mental state having clean kitchen, for example. Obviously with shit all over it, but um you know sometimes you're going to have to be okay with a half clean kitchen, you know half a mess, right? I um i have a pretty rabid five-year-old who's energy and he's learning, he's growing every day. Sometimes...
00:44:05
The Big Dog
you know sometimes
00:44:09
The Big Dog
I don't always have the energy to finish that other half of the kitchen and I have to be ah okay with that. If you're, you know, practice self forgiveness and, but tomorrow's a new day and you know, if I really feel that stressed out, I have a lot of PTO remaining so I can take a day off and just clean.
00:44:26
David Isaacs
Yeah. I mean, that's what I did, taking a day off to, you know, go look at some fun stuff and try to figure out, you know, what the next step is for me.
00:44:40
David Isaacs
So, yeah, focus on the next step and what you have control over right now. and Yeah, I think eventually, like the more we do this exercise, the the easier it will be to know, like, I'm doing this, you know, 90% of the time that I want to do it. Maybe it is a good time to, you know, take on more exercise or meal prep or some other things, you know, so um yeah, just ah check in with yourself and be present and yeah.
Personal Growth and Wrap-Up
00:45:14
David Isaacs
come up with your own data, your own analytics, some way for you to be able to, you know, track some of these things, regardless of what it is, like what you want to have,
00:45:32
David Isaacs
what you want to work on figure out a way to track that.
00:45:37
The Big Dog
yeah yeah exactly figure it out what it is that is in your way whether it's mentally physically um and kind of as you always say take a step back analyze it i mean as say as david's saying use the data that you know whether it's just uh your anecdotal evidence or if you're tracking in like a spreadsheet or you know journaling um and we reflect on it, analyze it, you know, you don't have to be, you don't have to have a degree in business or anything to, you know, or go to a coding boot camp to understand these things, you know, it's just, it comes with time to understand yourself, the, your surroundings, your partner, um and everyday interactions, but, you know,
00:46:30
The Big Dog
at the end of the day, you're the pilot in your own spaceship, navigating through the cosmos of life. And um i think while it's on you to make those changes, um you know, always be aware of your support system and lean on it too, because sometimes you get perspective or, know, helpful tips from places you don't expect. So,
00:46:59
David Isaacs
All right. I think that's pretty much it for me. I don't know if you had any other closing remarks.
00:47:08
The Big Dog
No, that's just about it for me too.
00:47:11
David Isaacs
All right. Well, thanks everyone for listening. Brian, thanks for sharing with what you got going on. um And yeah, we'll check in back next week and see how, you know, this, how we're both doing.
00:47:28
The Big Dog
Yeah, yeah, it's a touchback on the subject and And all other things. And just see where how much progress we've made. We recognize that we have a ways to go, but we've got to just kind of have a perspective on how far we've come.
00:47:45
David Isaacs
go. Yeah. Kind of, uh, kind of terrifying, but beautiful in the same way.
00:47:51
The Big Dog
Exactly.
00:47:51
David Isaacs
So, all right. Thank you. thanks everyone. Bye-bye.
00:47:54
The Big Dog
Bye, everybody.