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Speaker: Welcome to the Spiritual Fitness Podcast. I'm your host, Eric Bigger. And each week, we will explore powerful practices, inspiring stories, and expert insights to guide you on your path to holistic health.
Speaker: By blending spirituality and physical wellness, we support you in strengthening your body and soul. Whether you're a seasoned spiritual seeker or just beginning your journey, the Spiritual Fitness Podcast is here to help you unlock your inner potential and live your most vibrant, purposeful life.
Speaker: It's miracle season.
Speaker: Spiritual fitness, spiritual fitness podcast. I'm your host, Eric Bigger, and I'm back again with another episode. And today I get to talk about all things energy, psychic, intuitiveness.
Speaker: And I have the special guest of Briti Binto. She is incredible. She's a healer. She's the psychic medium. She travels a lot. I think she just got back from Peru and she's been experiencing a lot of death and rebirth. Anybody who's in astrology, you know what the eighth house is about.
Speaker: But Brittany, welcome to the podcast. How are you today? Thank you so much for having me I'm excited to be here. Excited to dive into conversation. thank you so much for having me on.
Speaker: Yeah. So let's get right into it. What is your relationship with spirituality and what is your relationship with fitness? Yeah, that's a great question. So to me, spirituality is very much so my own thing.
Speaker: I actually was raised very, very Catholic, church every single Sunday, Catholic elementary school, Catholic high school, the full shebang. Yeah, so there was a lot that I needed to kind of move through with, you know, just religious trauma and that sort of a thing.
Speaker: But through my own journey, I kind of found, I guess, spirituality. Personally, I don't like being linked in with new age spirituality because I feel you know nothing against it. But in my opinion, New Age spirituality is its own religion.
Speaker: And personally, I see truths in all religion. i think there's beauty in all religion, but I don't like to be confined by the constructs of religion. So spirituality has just become my own thing, you know my connection with my higher self, with spirit, my spirit guides, my angels, with God, source, the universe, whatever it is you want to call it.
Speaker: And it's ever evolving. It's ever changing and you know continuing to shift as I change and grow. And then so that's just kind of it in a nutshell. But my relationship with fitness, if we're talking about physical fitness, is actually something that's really evolved with time as well. So I used to be a personal trainer.
Speaker: I was actually a PE teacher for a while. i used to do bodybuilding competitions. I was like super into the gym. And I had an interesting relationship with fitness because for me, was started my fitness journey, I guess for the wrong reasons. I was super athletic as a kid. I was very much into a lot of different sports.
Speaker: And then as I got older and kind of shifted away from sports, I gained weight as my body changed as well. And just with society as a woman, I was made to feel like I needed to look a certain way. so I got into fitness under the guise of health.
Speaker: And it partly was for that reason. But it was also because I felt like I needed to look a certain way in order to be worthy of love, to be worthy of whatever it may be. And I didn't feel good about myself unless I looked a certain way. so My relationship with fitness has really shifted because there was a period in time where I really needed to pull away from fitness and kind of like the pendulum needed to completely swing on the other end where I wasn't going to the gym at all and I needed to love myself outside of fitness.
Speaker: which was really important on my journey. And currently I'm in the process and I have been for the last couple of years, but it's a journey. It's a process, slow and steady. I'm finding that healthy balance where now I feel like fitness is so important for my mind, my body, my spirit, you know, and I choose to move my body not to look a certain way, but to have, like I said, for my mind and my spirit as well. So I'm finding that healthy balance now.
Speaker: But fitness is super important to me. It's definitely ah passion as well. Yeah, beautifully put, because i mean, that's what spiritual fitness is, right? Is you finding autonomy in your spirituality, what your fitness looked like, merging those together to marry one another to benefit your evolution in this lifetime.
Speaker: And I think traditional fitness is more of vanity and not really longevity. But yet that's the undertone. And so we're always like, look at me, look at me. I look great.
Speaker: But there's also been a you know a lot of cases where people look great, but they don't feel great internally. They have the abs, they have you know the muscles, assets, quads, the legs, and but inside they feeling empty.
Speaker: There's also a thing I like to refer to when it comes to people who have money or people who are wealthy, not all people, but there's a thing where there's a lot of people who have a lot of money. They're rich materially, but they have broke energy.
Speaker: They don't have the greatest energy. But as you know, people are working in different spaces and paradigms of their life. For you, it just seems like when you speak and when you talk, I can feel your channel is so there's so much certainty in your channel when you're speaking that I can feel a vibration in it.
Speaker: When did you discover the certainty to trust that inner voice, that inner knowing or that inner guidance to know that this is true for whatever I'm working through for whoever might need it?
Speaker: Where did that start? What was that turning point? Because that's also, I believe, part of your spiritual fitness is your channel. Like you seem very connected to it. I actually love that question. I've never been asked that before. I think that's a beautiful question.
Speaker: So that is something that evolved over time. It's not something that just turned on overnight. It's something I wanted to turn on overnight. You know, I was like so desperately trying for it. But for me, that process was honestly just my own journey of self-love and my own journey of healing. Because as a result of that, I got to know myself really well.
Speaker: And it's still a journey that I'm on. As a result of that, i can differentiate between my intuition, what feels true for me, as opposed to the noise, as opposed to the fluff, as opposed to other people's opinions.
Speaker: And that's something that took a really long time. And it's not easy. It's like diving into the nooks and crannies. There was a lot of unlearning and relearning that I needed to do So that journey of becoming so sure of my channel was the journey of self and the journey of really getting to know myself.
Speaker: Yeah, it's so great that you said that because the channel is so distorted at times based on the world, based on what we grew up in, the blueprints we believe that we think is true. And we think the story we create is reality, but it's all perspective because I know people that's going to listen as people are listening to this.
Speaker: How do you clear your channel where you're certain that this is my intuition and this is not my mind or my ego? How do you know or do you not know you just trust what you feel?
Speaker: That's something that, again, takes a lot of time because like you said, it is the ego and we need the ego. as a result of it, a lot of intuitives or channels often. This is why I say like if you go get a reading done from anybody, be very, very mindful of who you go to, because there are some people out there, a lot of readers out there because this world is so unregulated who might channel from the lens of their ego.
Speaker: Therefore, what comes through, there can be part truths, but it can be slightly distorted based on, like you said, their upbringing based on their own personal views and perspectives. So what's really important is to set my ego aside, like whether I'm doing a reading for somebody else or, you know, receiving messages for myself, i'm I try to be and it's an ongoing thing, right? It's not like I've done all this work and then that's it.
Speaker: It's something that I need to continue practicing, like with meditation every morning, prayers every day, you know, stuff like that, keeping myself healthy mind, body and spirit. And also like questioning myself, questioning my ego. There's certain things where I sit with, I'm like, OK, is this coming from my ego or is this coming from my soul? Is this coming from my intuition? And it's just this constant self-reflection And then with time, because the more going back to what I was saying before, the more I got to know myself, I was more aware of my ego.
Speaker: So on this journey, I befriended my ego. I really got to know my ego. And I actually grew to love my ego because my ego just wants to protect me at the end of the day. You know, sometimes the ego can look ugly if you don't really understand it But the ego is there to protect you. So when you take the time to really understand your ego and question yourself, there was a period in my life where I questioned everything. It's like, okay, why do I believe this?
Speaker: Where did this come from? Is this something that I believe because I grew up and my parents impressed this upon me? Or is this something that feels true for me? And through meditation, through healing,
Speaker: With my intuition, it comes this like this inner peace that comes along with the intuition. It's really hard to kind of articulate what that feeling is. But again, it's like the healing journey, getting to know myself and questioning myself, constantly reflecting.
Speaker: It's a practice that continues. Like I said, it's something that never ceases. And through that, you know, I've become very clear. And with that said, I'm not perfect. I'm human at the end of the day. And I think it's acknowledging that as well.
Speaker: And I also ask for help. I ask for guidance. Like in my prayers in the morning, I say, Spirit, God, like help me stay heart-centered. Help me stay rooted in love. Help me see truth. And that's something else that I say too, is any distortions within my own mind, help me see clearly. Help me see truth.
Speaker: And God, source, spirit, you know, they want to help us. But because we have free will here, we have to ask. And I feel like a lot of people forget to ask for that help. So that's a part of my prayers actually in the morning is asking to stay on the path of truth, if that makes sense.
Speaker: Yeah, I mean, you're tapping into my frequency because I got two questions and then I had one nudge. I said, oh, OK, she's really tapped in. So the first nudge was ah the nudge I had was when I'm listening to my intuition, I'm making a decision.
Speaker: What I've recently acquired within the tools of myself is I put my hand over my heart. And I experience to like, OK, I'm traveling Toronto in a few weeks. OK, allow me to get the right ticket, book the right hotel. Like I'm really intentional about it.
Speaker: So I'm not doing it from a mind or ego place. I'm doing it from a heart centered place. So that gives me more certainty in my decision or more trust. The two part questions that I had. The first question is, what's your relationship with your intuition versus discernment, right?
Speaker: And do you believe in ah life being all free will or do you think it's predestined? One thing that I want to say, I don't know if I mentioned this, is building that trust within myself. The more I was able to trust within myself, that you know the more I'm sure of what's my intuition versus what's not my intuition. And also, too, if you have like a decision to make, often that the urge to do something right away, like I need to do it right now, that's often ego.
Speaker: Intuition often will arise. It's like the more of a quieter voice. It's not urgent. It's not right now. So that's just a little side thing that I wanted to say. So discernment, I always say, like, please use your discernment.
Speaker: And what I mean by that is, like, not necessarily just believing everything you hear or just because it's something that sounds appealing to your ego. It doesn't necessarily mean it's rooted in truth.
Speaker: So discernment is important to, you know, it really ties in with intuition. Like, they're like one, in my opinion, because there's no discernment without intuition. You need to understand how to tap into your intuition in order to use discernment.
Speaker: To me, it's like there is not one without the other, because how can you discern something if you're not connected with your intuition? Does that make sense? Yeah, this makes perfect sense. And it helps, you know, especially to people out there who starting off in their entrepreneurship journey when you're doing business or you might be taking on clients as a healer, light worker, energy worker, psychic, right? In that realm, or just a business that has a product.
Speaker: I think what happens is when we're dealing with people and you're dealing with money, people will jeopardize the intuition and discernment for what the mind and the ego wants.
Speaker: So recently I had a few people get on calls that I'm like, ah, They're not in alignment of my energy and where I'm going, but I actually have a intentional prayer that I pray before I get on a call with a person.
Speaker: Like if this person is for the highest good of my evolution of my soul and my consciousness for where I'm going. And so for them, allow it to be so. Allow it to be. And it always never disturbed.
Speaker: If it's wrong, I don't know. But sometimes because people are in the ego, like you said, I got to make the money now. I got to book the trip. Right. We'll say yes to something that's really discerned as no, because the mind is not quiet.
Speaker: We don't really follow the right. Yes, we follow the yes that makes sense for the moment, which is the ego is always trying to be in control because it's trying to protect us, as you said before.
Speaker: Exactly. So that's where like questioning yourself comes in. It's like, okay, where is this coming from? Like, why is it that I want to do this? Where is this actually coming from? And then sit with that, depending on whatever it is. Is this coming from a place of scarcity? Is this coming from a place of fear?
Speaker: Is this coming from a place of x y and Z? Or is this coming from alignments? And it's it's true because I feel like only when you're in alignment, just like you said, you can't have discernment without intuition.
Speaker: You get the right assignment and you know, you don't have to think, you don't have to question. You just, there it is. Bingo. Let's go talk. And so moving forward, you know, I think this is a big thing in life.
Speaker: I feel based on my life experience, my life has been predestined. Yes, I have free will. But when I look at my life, no matter how bad or how dark or how lonely or how confusing or overwhelming, the path always lead me to where I belong. And it's odd, but some way, somehow, I get back on a journey of the path written in this lifetime.
Speaker: And maybe because I'm more connected to myself than usual. But for you, what is your relationship with free will and our lives being predestined? Yeah. So I actually think it's a combination of the two I like to say your life can be beautiful when you allow destiny and free will to intertwine. It's like a delicate dance of the two because it is a choice at the end of the day, right? Like you are choosing this path.
Speaker: There's ah so many potential different timelines, so many potential different possibilities, and you can make different choices, right? You can choose not to take care of yourself. You can choose x y and z and i'll give like a little example let's say because i do believe in destiny though as well this is like a complicated question because i feel like there's so many different layers to this let's say you're destined to meet a certain person and there's a part of you and let's say spirits like okay we're gonna have the meet at the beach And you were kind of like, oh, I feel like going to the beach. But and then all sudden you choose not to go to the beach that day but because you didn't listen.
Speaker: You know, instead, maybe you got into a habit of, do you know what? Instead, I'm just going to sit on my ass and watch TV all day. Instead, you made that conscious choice. Therefore, the alignment wasn't fully there. So you didn't go to the beach. Therefore, you didn't cross paths with that person.
Speaker: But if you are destined to meet them, I'm sure that it might prolong certain things. You know what I'm saying? But I think that's such a layered question because I think it is a combination of the two. And I think that the universe is so intelligent. It's the most intelligent thing ever way more than what our human minds can really comprehend so i think that there's multiple possibilities there's multiple different timelines based on our choices but i do think that entangles with destiny and yeah it's a dance between the two so i'm not necessarily like it's only free will and death that da da da and it's only destiny da da da because yes there's destiny but if you sit on your butt and not just choose to watch tv all day you're not saying yes to the universe you're not saying yes i want to receive what's meant for me
Speaker: That's up to you as well. It's true because at some point I tell people all the time, manifestation, law of attraction requires action. Where it's action to go meditate, to quit a job, to leave a country, to move in a different apartment or be with a person.
Speaker: You got to take some form of action. And that can come from action of fear, action of love, ah just action from faith. And there has been times where I didn't have any logical reason to do anything, but I felt like I have to do it. When I moved to LA, I had a thousand dollars. i knew one person. I'm gone.
Speaker: i didn't even think about it. So I feel like in that moment, I was destined to come to this place. For what reason at the time? I didn't know. And then from there, things lined up.
Speaker: And then I was attracting people. Like, we have a mutual friend named Lindsey. And maybe two months ago, she told me to follow you. She's like, oh, I think you guys would connect. you know, you should get on your podcast.
Speaker: But I never reached out. I just followed you. And then last week, I think, or the week before, he was like, I would love to interview you on my podcast. So it was already going to happen.
Speaker: But yeah I found you through her and then you already knew who I was, which I didn't know. So I wanted to get you on the podcast regardless. So I feel like that I had free will to kind of reach out to you.
Speaker: to get you on a show, but it was destined to happen regardless of what I felt or needed for whatever reason was forming right now. And I hear you and I'm with you on that. On the flip side, just to play devil's advocate,
Speaker: That was destined because we were both in alignment. If I was still a high school teacher and I didn't choose to quit and I so stayed in that mentality of fear and when I chose to quit, nobody really supported me. They thought I was crazy.
Speaker: they were like, what are you doing? Letting go such a good job with pension, with benefits, the X, Y, and Z, you get the summers off. I listened to my intuition and I followed it anyways. What I wanted to say to that though, Similar to what your point on, you know, wanting to move to L.A., I think that the universe is so intelligent that if we're not in alignment with something, it's going to make us so miserable until we finally listen. So even if things are delayed, it'll eventually, you know, get us to the path that we're meant to be on.
Speaker: But some people really do fight that, you know. And the interesting thing, the timing meeting you was and talking to you was right after Peru. Last year, you had just got back and then we had a conversation.
Speaker: So maybe the intelligence of Peru felt the call to connect to me at that time because you was just there. I was there last year. i know what that land means. I know what it represents. I know what I felt and how it changed my life and my experiences.
Speaker: And it's just beautiful timing of allowing a universe life intelligence to work in your favor for the greater good of which you can't see that's coming forward. And I think when you allow yourself to, I don't want to say surrender because surrender for some people was kind of like a negative connotation, but allow yourself.
Speaker: And trust. And I always tell people, if you could sit still for 30 minutes every day, don't do anything. See what happens in the universe of your life. Try to shut your brain off, shut your thinking off and just be like, OK, I'm open.
Speaker: So now when people ask me, what do you think? If I got to think about something, then it's not it. Right. Meaning like whether it's a relationship, a business dealing, I'm too much.
Speaker: I'm not in flow. But for you and your client, how do you take on clients and how do you know this person is right for what you do? Is it based on the energy you feel right away? Because you seem very intuitive, but you can see like right away.
Speaker: How do you discern clients and people coming into your vortex? So what I do is a little different. So when I work with people, I don't actually work with them for an extended period of time.
Speaker: I do 40-minute reading. So it's open to whoever wants to sign up for a reading. With that said, there has been people i have needed to... ask not to rebook with me or, you know, whatever that may be for various different reasons. That hasn't happened too, too often.
Speaker: But yeah, I don't work with people for an extended period of time. I haven't felt called to up until this point. With that said, I have had repeat clients that choose to kind of book reading with me more than once.
Speaker: Because with readings and stuff, what I do is I open the channel, connect to spirit and just see what messages specifically want to come through for them. And the idea is to provide them. it could literally be anything because it's different for everybody based on where they're at and what messages need to come through for them.
Speaker: But essentially, it's to help them move forward with where they're at right now. And with readings, I always like my goal is to help people connect with themselves. I really want people to learn how to connect with their own intuition, to connect with their own spirit guides, because we all have the ability to do that.
Speaker: I love readings. I think it's amazing. But I think that if a person can learn how to connect with that within themselves and they never need to get a reading again, that's cool. Yeah, and it's great because i think we were talking offline, because I just did your podcast not too long ago, about the transition you might be in right now. And I feel as you're talking right now, I'm feeling like, have you ever thought about visibility in your life from like an artistry standpoint, right?
Speaker: Not like, yeah, music, singing, but like just being an artist of sort that your energy moving through you is actually healing people.
Speaker: People more into light consciousness and not like, I can't say dark consciousness because you know the music industry has been flooded with like a lot of darkness for whatever reason. But I feel like you have a gift in the artistry field of putting out new content.
Speaker: I don't know what it is, but I feel the cause to speak about it now. How do you feel about that space based on what you do now and what you're moving into? So I have full body chilled.
Speaker: So funny that you say that because I'm not even kidding. ah I had a meeting before this. I was talking with my business partner and i actually brought this up. So during a meditation for myself, like literally two weeks ago, like fresh in my new house because I just moved, I got this download message, intuitive hit, whatever it is you want to call it.
Speaker: And I got the message of you are an artist. And i have chills right now saying that. And I've never considered myself an artist before, because to me in the human mind, an artist specifically fit in these constructs.
Speaker: And then i kind of had this perspective shift and I was like, oh my God, I'm an artist. I was like, I meant to create whatever in whatever way and whatever that might look like. And my creations are medicine.
Speaker: It like makes me excited. So I don't know exactly what that's going to look like quite yet, but I definitely feel like that's the transition I'm in right now. I know that I'm being called away from one-on-one readings.
Speaker: I don't know exactly how soon I'll be able to kind of pull away from that, but I feel called to create. Like I know I'm being called to sing. I'm also being called to paint. Like that's been coming through quite a lot. Maybe that's just to help me tap into that flow a little bit more.
Speaker: Like if you look at my social platforms, yes, I do readings, but I do a lot of other sorts of things as well. So I'm excited to kind of play around with that. I don't know exactly what that's going to look like yet. It's still a little cloudy, but I know I'm in that transition and I know that the clarity is coming.
Speaker: Yeah, I feel like you have like a identity shift, like you're in the identity of an artist. Like when I look at you, you look like an artist that I'm interviewing for her tour that's coming up or the new, you know, LP or EP coming out.
Speaker: Whether it's you just chanting for like five tracks or speaking over sound about healing, It's a fun thing to see someone kind of transition in a way that they're not trying to do it. They're just their being is actually moving them into it.
Speaker: And I feel like this is your new phase of life and it's fun and it's magical. It's miracles. And you're healing people, right? Because i feel like that's what you're here to do. and that's your design.
Speaker: Do you have any fears or are you apprehensive about staying in or painting and being, because you know how they say people want exposure, but they don't want to be exposed.
Speaker: Yeah, that's a great question. Given my past experience, spirit has kind of put me through the ringer, lack a better word, when it comes to judgment. And I'm sure you can relate to this, you know, given your history.
Speaker: But I'll give you a little example. Like years ago, when I first started like posting on TikTok, there was another creator way larger than me at the time. I only had about like 20,000 followers on TikTok at the time. And I've grown ah quite a lot since then, but this creator had a lot more followers and he made a video about me basically just like doubting what I was doing.
Speaker: and I got literally flooded. This video went viral, like I think at least a million views. And I just got like emails. I got messages. There's so many, just so much judgment and so much hate. And it wasn't even rooted in truth. And that's just a small example.
Speaker: That was like for two weeks straight. I was like, felt so alone. With that said, like I've been, spirit has given me opportunities to experience that so that it doesn't stop me down the line, if that makes sense. And through my healing journey, you know, judgment at the end of the day and whatever it is you want to call it, it's a real thing. I'm human.
Speaker: um Of course, you know, there might be a little bit of that there, fear when it comes to that. But I've moved through so much and I know who I am that I'm at a place where I'm like, if people don't understand me, that's okay.
Speaker: You know, and if I trigger them, that's okay. Yeah, I don't feel too fearful when it comes to that sort of a thing because I've been hit hard already, but I'm human.
Speaker: slow and steady and the music thing too like that's very real like I used to always love singing but growing up with siblings shut up you you're terrible I know this sounds a little crazy but my voice has changed like it's changed over the last year it sounds different than it used to sound because I also channel through my voice now and I channel frequency through That was a result of my healing. And as a result of the healing, I unlocked my voice. And I think that everybody has a voice.
Speaker: I think that some people's voices are just more restricted than others. You know, some people say, I can't sing. It's like, can you not? or are there blocks there? Not of your own doing, maybe not your fault, but maybe blocks that have been passed down generationally or, you know, whatever it may be. so And a lot of people just talking about singing are so afraid to sing because we live in a society of perfectionism. Like we feel like we need to be perfect. And I'm like, let me sing and let my voice crack a few times and I'll post it on the inter Internet and anyways, because it's like, who cares? It's like giving other people permission to you know express themselves. And I think singing, just using that as an example, is such a beautiful form of expression. I think everybody should sing without you know feeling fear of judgment.
Speaker: ah Yeah, I'm kind of rambling there, but I'm human, but I'm not going to let the judgment stop me. Yeah. You know, singing is healing. It's such a healing frequency that comes behind it when you're tapped into it. And I can definitely feel like your channel through your voice, through your throat chakra, like it's different. It feels more.
Speaker: open and strong. Like I can feel the vibration. Like I said earlier, when you're speaking, come out, like I can feel it vibrate. And I do believe people like yourself who are like creators and have a big following, they have a strong frequency that vibrates out and people have to listen, have to tune in people have to come.
Speaker: also feel People who have the greatest calling have the greatest fear to that calling. And the people who have the greatest gift in that calling are forced into that calling.
Speaker: You know, you think about the young artists of like Michael Jackson, Chris Brown, Rihanna, like they were forced. They could do it, but they were pushed into masses to sing and to be and to entertain.
Speaker: what they pro was Justin Bieber, they really probably wasn't ready. But yet they're like, okay, I'm 9, 10, 15, however old they were. And they did it. And so and then there's people like probably like yourself, who's a late bloomer, where it's like, oh, you got a different thing. You just take off and you're just like selling out shows and you're traveling the world and people love you. And you're just this new vessel of healing, truth, love and peace for people. So congratulations on that ah revelation and that journey.
Speaker: Because, you know, a lot of people get those thoughts, those downloads, but they don't actually integrate it into their life or they don't follow through or apply or execute it. So that's a really good thing.
Speaker: ah want to pivot just a bit because ah think to some people listen, they might know they might not. There is a reality that the world we live in, the real world, right? We all in a real world. But when it comes to dating and relating, and then that's the spiritual world, like you was just saying earlier that you're not part of new spiritual, which you see as a religion.
Speaker: What is your ah awareness or experience with dating in the real world like everybody else does and then dating in the spiritual world that most people probably are not aware of?
Speaker: What is some experiences that you feel like is so certain? It's like it's not what it looks like because you meet a lot of spiritual people who have power, but they might not be that, you know, in person, if that makes sense.
Speaker: Yeah, they're not like not being embodied. So what I've learned, so I'm currently single at this time. I'm laughing because some of my greatest lessons have come from relationships.
Speaker: I've been in really tough relationships. There's been a lot of growth because of relationships. It's been hard. And for the longest time, you know, being like you said, the real world before I really kind of, you know, spiritually.
Speaker: I was so unhealed at the time that I was attracting in people that reflected that back to me. They were mirrors, right? I didn't know my self-worth. Therefore, I attracted in people who didn't see my self-worth.
Speaker: And then i started this awakening journey and I really started this self-love journey and I was single for a period of time. And then there was a period of time where I thought, nobody's gonna get me i don't think i'm ever gonna end up with anybody because nobody's gonna get the way i think they're just gonna think i'm crazy so i was in that period of time um and then i ended up meeting somebody in 2023 actually and he was very spiritual and that kind of blew my mind because i was like oh my god like this is the one this is the person you know the universe brought in somebody that finally gets me he's like me the boy version of me
Speaker: online as well, like so many parallels, X, Y, and z And we ended up talking, were long distance, never official, but we ended up talking long distance for a while. And then he flew out to meet me and it was like fireworks, X, Y, and Z. Fast forward, I realized, I'm like, oh my God, he's saying all the right things. Yes, he's spiritual, but he's not embodied. He was actually very wounded still. He didn't actually integrate all of these spiritual lessons.
Speaker: And he was coming through as this guru And I realized I'm like, oh, my God, he's no, this is not it. I had to choose myself. That was a really tough breakup. We weren't even officially dating, but like that was really tough to walk away from this person because we were so connected at a soul level.
Speaker: And I know that. But the reality of who he was in this human experience was not what where I needed him to be. Fast forward, I ended up meeting somebody else last year, the beginning of last year, and we saw each other on and off for almost a year. And he was not spiritual really at all. but However, he through that, I realized, I'm like, okay, I don't think I actually need somebody spiritual, but I need someone more, i don't want to say like him, but who had more of the qualities that he had because he was very grounded.
Speaker: He was like a man of the earth, the way I am like a woman of the sky, if that makes sense. He's a hunter. He likes to garden, like just very, very grounded. And like somebody like me, who's very spiritual, connected with my intuition, kind of like going back and forth between worlds. I need that. I don't need somebody else that's also going back and forth between worlds. I need somebody else that's like grounded for me personally.
Speaker: And this person was a lot more embodied than that other person that I was dating. And I just feel like with spirituality and stuff, it's so easy to get wrapped up in the You know, people know what to say, right? They know how to say the right things.
Speaker: And that could be dangerous sometimes, too, because it's like you can have all of the knowledge, but where's the integration? Where's the lived experience? I think because it is a dichotomy of the spiritual realm and then the earth being grounded. And I've witnessed, you know, in the spiritual community, especially with women that so in the spiritual space, they're not as grounded as they can be to hold a space for somebody to come in.
Speaker: But I've also been the man who so was super spiritual, but I wasn't grounded. Right. I was. I had like all the knowledge, but i didn't know how to integrate it. So now since my Peru journey and meeting my girlfriend now, I realized like, oh, that's what I'm integrating more in to be more present, to be more grounded. Like I got understand all this up here.
Speaker: How do I bring all this into my vessel to flush and the earth and push out and not up? Because sometimes when you're in your crown chakra, you just, so like oh my God, we're up here and we're in a plant medicine. It's like, great.
Speaker: Well, I need to feel you here in your heart. Yes. In your head. Can you be in your body? Can you just be present? Right. And I'm learning like, oh, that's what the whole spectrum is.
Speaker: It's literally like a heart. You see the heart come down, it comes out and you bring it down to earth. Right. You know, the women's in the sky and the man is in there. Then you make a heart and it's complete.
Speaker: And I think it's so important for all of us, whether you're spiritual, you're not, to have both parts. And also, I want to talk about, lastly, about the shadow frequency.
Speaker: And most of my life, I stepped into like my light frequency positivity and all these things where a lot of it was spiritual bypass because didn't want to feel anything. And I'm learning now that, oh, you have to integrate your shadow frequency into your light consciousness to be fully embodied and authentic about where you are and not what you think people want to hear.
Speaker: So you can get what you want from them. I'm like, oh, you don't have to hide those parts no more. You know? Exactly that. It's like, don't hide it. Don't shove it away. You actually need to look at it, right? To me, the shadow is the ego. To me, they're same thing.
Speaker: It's getting to know it. It's understanding it. It's integrating it. It's the integration of the shadow. All parts are welcome. You are whole as you are right here, right now. You don't need to be fully healed.
Speaker: Spirituality is not about only love and light. It's very much so the the dark as well like we're here on earth to experience the polarity there is no light without the darkness so you know by avoiding the darkness that is the piece of the shadow right trying to again protect you ah yeah you said it exactly that the shadow is meant to be seen it's meant to be acknowledged it's meant to be love everything and everyone just needs love at the end of the day to me you know going back to what i was saying about religion i don't associate with religion but my religion is love that's what i'll say
Speaker: But yeah, it's true. relo Love is a religion. It's a way of life. It's a way of being. It's a frequency. It's a vibration. It's a conscience. It's all the things. It's omnipresent. And I will say for men listening, you know, you have two type of men.
Speaker: What I refer to is you have the man who's heavy in his shadow and he will get you and he's very strong. He's the edgy and women love him oh Oh, you're so great. You're such a man.
Speaker: But then he's not integrating his light. So he's never in his heart. So then he's never fully present. But he's very present in that way. And then the guy who's the nice guy, he's all positive and he's all love and light, but he's no shadow. So then the woman might not, she even becomes bored or she doesn't feel all the way safe.
Speaker: So guys, I think you need both. I don't think I know you need both because woman wants a lover and a fighter. She don't just one or the other. You want all of you because all of you is going to make her amplify all of you that you need in this lifetime because a woman amplifies a man's vision in his presence in the world.
Speaker: Women help you create because they can have babies come through them. The vessel. literal portals within us, but something um to say, you know, going off of what you were saying, you know, it's like balancing out the light and the dark within you, but it's balancing out the masculine and feminine energy within you.
Speaker: All have masculine and feminine energy. And I feel like just because of the society we live in masculinity, right. It's like the tough man, it's the this, and and a lot of men don't want to associate with emotions, which is more so like the feminine energy within you, but it's so important to balance the two out within you.
Speaker: Yeah, it ties together with the light and the dark. It's balancing the masculine and feminine. When you become balanced within, that's often when you become in alignment. That's when things kind of fall into place for you. Yeah.
Speaker: It's goals as, you know, sound is divine union, and right? The ebbs and flow of life. always say the masculine is usually the quarterback and the feminine is the receiver.
Speaker: So if I'm always being a quarterback and I can never receive, we can never win a game as a couple or as partners or as s friends. Because you need both. Some women are going to be in their masculine when it comes to dating and related because it's part of the nature nurture. Same for men.
Speaker: Right. That's going to be a time when you need to be more soft and light and joyful. then there's going to be time you need to be more hard and protective and certain. And I call it a divine masculine.
Speaker: I am feminine within and trust in both sides and not just trying to overcompensate in one area because what society is telling us. And I see that with a lot of women of lately because, you know, the roles have switched in the world.
Speaker: Women having more power. And I think because the masculine has always been that women are taking that unconsciously and becoming it. And it's doing the same thing, but in a different way.
Speaker: Right. Because you get women who, you know, they get the money, they get everything. But but at the end of the day, they just really want love. Buy love. But then you try to do it and then the guy runs away or the guy who wants to have all the money and he wants love or he wants a girl. And if she's only there for your money.
Speaker: So it's these things of controlling and not allowing, but I think you can have it all if you allow yourself to balance both within your soul and your essence.
Speaker: going back to what I was saying before, before my spiritual really awakening, whatever it is you want to call it my relationships, I was attracting in people that didn't fully see my worth or my value because I was so unhealed. I was also attracting that and it was out of balance. So like, and again, you don't need to be perfect, but when you can balance it out within you, you're going to attract in a balanced relationship. And also like, you know, going, talking about the emotions, it's so important to tune into your own emotions, have the ability to tap into your own emotions,
Speaker: Because without that, how are you supposed to hold space for your partner? Yeah. You know, and I feel like that's another thing that people in general, but especially men struggle with. It's like showing emotion is not weakness. I actually think showing emotion, feeling emotion is strength because it's not easy to dive in.
Speaker: It takes courage. To me, it's weak to avoid to push it away. Yeah, because I tell men all the time, I say, look, you don't cry. I cry. So guess what? I will demolish you in a way that you can't be demolished because I'm more emotionally vulnerable in myself.
Speaker: I'm not afraid of my emotions. Right. Not in a negative way. But it's like the guy who goes in the gym and he lifts all the weight. But his breathing shape is off like he's breathing hard because he's not embodying the full compass of his being. And it's not our fault. Right. we're not programmed. We're not wired.
Speaker: But it's OK to cry. It's OK to release. It's OK to be vulnerable because when you're vulnerable, you're actually more powerful than when you're not. I learned this from Olympic friend from years ago. He said when he would compete, the person he was competing against would ask him, are you afraid? And he would say yes. I was like, you would tell him that? He's like, yeah, because if I don't say how I feel, he's going to beat me.
Speaker: I'm like, what you mean? He's like, if I act as if I'm not afraid or nervous, I'm lying. So guess what? He can see that and he's going to beat me. But when I acknowledge that now, know, I get I'm scared.
Speaker: I'm afraid. But I got you. I'm going hard. Then you have more power in the authenticity of that negative or emotion. In my dating life, I would be too cool to act like I love or like someone because of what it looked like.
Speaker: And I'm like, oh, I love love. I'm so in love. Come here. I miss you. Where some guys fight that. Women love when you're vulnerable like that. Like, yeah, I miss you. Where you been at? Get over here Right. And the more I step into that part of my being, the more my life changes. It's not even about my partner or my relate.
Speaker: My life changes because I'm allowing that authenticity in my emotions to open my heart up to receive not only love, but life. It's like I'm birthing a new me because I'm allowing myself to be human in my emotions and to be confident about it.
Speaker: And I think with men, we can work on that and understand like, bro, cry. you Because the more you hold the men, the more hurts you. Because time goes on and you just keep hurting yourself because you're not releasing that energy from your body.
Speaker: Yeah, brit well, I just want to say thank you for your time. Thank you for your energy. Thank you for your essence. But we got to know, how do we find you? How do we get to work with you? When is the concert?
Speaker: Come on. and Can we get tickets? When is the retreat? But yeah, how can we find you? How can we follow you? And what's the best way to work with your energy to give in to your world?
Speaker: Thank you. Well, first of all, thank you so much for having me on. This was such a great conversation. I'm on social media. You can find me on TikTok. You can find me on Instagram. You can find me on YouTube, just at Brittany Bento.
Speaker: My Instagram is Brittany Bento with the number three at the end because just Brittany Bento was already taken. i also have an online community. It's called The Beehive. So there's... content on there for me and then my business partner slash friend we have a lot of like healing work so stuff specifically to help you integrate your shadow we have a lot of that sort of a work on there also just community we do zooms once a month i have my first retreat you know it's not open for any more bookings but my first retreat's coming up so i'm hoping to do another one date pending so if you're interested keep an ear out for that
Speaker: Yeah, I'm trying to think like what else? Just like if you follow me online, you'll be caught up to date with everything because I, you know, Instagram is like the place where I kind of like post all of my things, if that makes sense. Like if I have something coming up, I'll like post it on Instagram. So if you want to keep up to date with me, Instagram is kind of like where to be. But YouTube is actually like where I want more of my community to go to YouTube. She's 50,000 subscribers and she got what, 800 TikTok?
Speaker: she's lit go follow her Brittany Bento Bibi but yeah Britt thank you this was a blessing thank you for your sacred essence and your energy and I look forward to your tour your artistry of this new version of yourself the artist Brittany not just the psychic or the healer she's an artist in a beautiful way this was great but yeah one last question What does it mean to be spiritually fit? I know you answered in the beginning, you broke it down, but just what's the first thing come to mind you think about spiritual fitness?
Speaker: To me, like mind, body, spirit comes to mind. It's embodying all three. It's paying attention to all three, not one more than the other. And just mind, body, spirit focused and making that a daily practice like anything else to kind of, you know, to maintain it.
Speaker: You need to practice it daily. So mind, body, spirit, wellness, all together with that daily practice. Spiritual fitness guys. Thank you, Brittany. Follow her, subscribe to the podcast.
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