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168. Why Men Feel Spiritually Lost and How They Can Heal
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Are you one of the spiritually lost men searching for deeper meaning and healing?
In this powerful episode of the Spiritual Fitness podcast, Eric Bigger explores why so many men feel disconnected—and how embracing vulnerability and the feminine within is the key to growth. He shares personal stories, lessons from mentoring young men, and practical steps to help you soften into your heart and evolve spiritually.
If you're ready to reclaim your inner power, this conversation is your guide.
In this episode:
- Men feel lost when they reject their feminine side
- Many turn to online mentors for guidance
- True growth comes from integrating masculinity and spirituality
- Eric shares simple practices for spiritual awareness
- Spiritual growth improves trust and connection with women
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Transcript
Introduction to Spiritual Fitness
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Welcome to the Spiritual Fitness Podcast. I'm your host, Eric Bigger. And each week, we will explore powerful practices, inspiring stories, and expert insights to guide you on your path to holistic health.
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By blending spirituality and physical wellness, we support you in strengthening your body and soul.
Why Are Men Spiritually Struggling?
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Whether you're a seasoned spiritual seeker or just beginning your journey, the Spiritual Fitness Podcast is here to help you unlock your inner potential and live your most vibrant, purposeful life.
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It's miracle season.
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Spiritual Fitness, Spiritual Fitness Podcast. I'm your host, Eric Bigger. We're back again for another episode. And today, this episode is going to be dedicated to my men.
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Why men are spiritually starving and feeling lost? It's a great question. It's a lot has changed in the last few years. Collective consciousness, the women, men, feminine, masculine dynamics.
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It's a lot has transitioned, a lot has happened. And I think my fellow men were so far behind. And this is why spiritual fitness is so true to me is because I can see the lack in a collective of the hearts of men.
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And it's not that we don't wanna become spiritually rich. We don't wanna tap into our hearts. We don't wanna allow
Impact of Societal Programming on Masculinity
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feminine in. We just don't know how to, cause we're not programmed to have that part of us come through.
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The number one reason why most men You spiritually lost and spiritually starving and feeling lost is because they're denying the feminine. How many women out there can agree?
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Am wrong? But here's the thing. I'm not talking about the feminine and the female gender capacity. I'm talking about the femininity within each man's heart and mind, their spiritual self, their vulnerable self, their most truest trusting self, their spiritual self.
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We're not programmed to tap into our spirituality the way women are. Or we don't have that innate ability naturally the way we can because we're not wired that way. We're wired to provide, to protect, to make decisions, to be in power, to be the quarterback, to...
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do and not be and receive and wait. We're here to create and build visions and i be this powerful masculine entity essence. And that's great. And that's beautiful.
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But we have to integrate our feminine particle of ourself to the masculinity that we're failing in.
Mentorship and Role Models for Men
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air So let me give you a story. I host once a week.
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I have a group of two young men. are just two young men. They're 23 and 24. They're buddies. One is a family member and he his boy. They went to college and high school together. but i think it was college together and graduated recently. And they're in separate roles. in the world. And when we get in these containers, and these are young men.
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What we talk about is dating, being judged, heartbreak, masculinity, prayer, spirituality. And as I sit back and what I witness is, men in a collective consciousness today don't have men they look up to that they can trust.
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We have the Andrew Tates of the world, the 19 Keys, the Joe Rogans, Louis Farrakhan, but we don't have no one who's like naturally healthy masculine, I would say, that most men can relate to, right? Because it's different colors, different race and creed.
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But what I see in these two young men that are hungry for knowledge, wisdom, and evolution of their souls is that they're willing to learn, listen, and be. And I see me, when I was that age, I didn't have anyone.
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So what did I do? I went to YouTube. I went to go study the Tony Robbins, the Bob Proftos, the Les Browns, the Eric Thomas, the Inky Johnsons, the Brendan Burchards, the Lewis Howes, Jay Shettys. I went to YouTube to find my mentors.
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That's how I scaled my life and built my brand. And, you know, shout out to Lewis Howes because he don't even know 2014 when I took his mastermind, it was $500 for the month. I created a book that I five or six years later published.
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A man who was giving me leadership of guidance, right? By the way, you can get this book on Amazon, 100 Days of Wisdom, 100 Quotes to Love a More Inspired Life. So I wrote this book because one, always wanted to be an author. Two, always wanted to have a podcast. As you see, dreams in the back.
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I've always wanted to chase and live my dreams. But my blueprint of success from the minute in my life was to be in the streets, to sell drugs, to be a dope boy. At least that was the terminology growing up in Baltimore.
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So that was my influence. That was my blueprint. That was my way of seeing life as a man. but I didn't have anyone writing books or had a podcast or being on TV. So I had to create and be the man I wanted to look up to with these online digital men of Tony Robbins, because Tony Robbins changed
Embracing Vulnerability and Emotional Expression
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my life. So I say that to say this, men and women, we need each other, but fellas,
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We have to get into our hearts because the masculine towers of before is dying. And we need each other more than a little bit. These young men I had earlier today, we pray before the call. We pray after the call. We talk about just deep stuff, stuff that you would talk about in a barbershop.
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Right? That you feel safe, whether it's sports, politics, fighting, women, gear, money. And I just feel like if you're not part of a team or some type of membership or some fellowship or brotherhood, you're by yourself. You're isolated.
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In the world we live in today, men don't have safe containers to be men. We don't have safe containers to cry. We don't have safe containers to be who we really are. And, you know, some people are like, yeah, well, we just got to suck it up. and You got to be a man. i Yeah, I hear all that. But being a man isn't all about sucking it up all the time. It's about feeling what you're feeling and not running from that. And this is why relationships are failing.
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This is why women are not getting the partners they want. This is why men are not stepping into their power always because they haven't integrated that femininity, their spiritual self to their masculine self. And so we're dysregulated, we're disconnected, and we don't own the power that we are is because we're only working out of one part of our space and that's the masculine.
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And we're leaving a feminine. It's so ironic and symbolism. We're leaving a feminine, our feminine and our women behind and they're on their own and they're creating businesses and making money and they're still lonely and they want love and they're not getting it because we're not loving ourselves as men.
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We're not trusting our love we have for self. We're building life based on what the family of the woman wants, but what do we want? It's time for us to step into to ask for what our needs are. I believe, yes, men want respect, but they want peace.
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But here's the thing, most men don't know how to articulate or communicate what they want from the feminine, what they want from themselves, what they want from the world. Because every time a man says something, it's ridiculed, all suck it up, boys don't cry, toughen up, stay hard. David Goggins, I love David Goggins. I think David Goggins great. I think Andrew Tate is great. But that's not all of being man is hard all the time.
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Because when you have a little girl and you have a daughter, you can't be that way with her. You got to soften up. So men have to soften into their hearts. They have to soften into their vulnerability. They have to soften into their true essence of who they are.
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That little boy in them, no matter how old they are, you can be 80, you can be 58, you can be 28, you can be 38, you can be 18. Wants love, wants for respect, wants acknowledgement, wants to be seen, felt, and heard. But if you live in this world and all you do is put out put up, provide, do, give, and you're not receiving what you really need or want, you're always going to feel incomplete or feel lifeless because it's not just about what you can give to life. It's how can life receive your essence
Steps to Reclaiming Spiritual Power
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as a man. And I'm here because I coach and train a lot of mothers, a lot of moms, and a lot of wives.
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So I'm seeing what the feminine is missing from emotional, available, healthy man masculine in his heart is missing. I'm also seeing what the masculine is afraid to commit or surrender to, even for myself. It's hard for me to open up to my woman about certain things, but over time I've been able to know that a woman's purpose in my life is not to fix my problems.
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It's not to give me the solution to my problems. It's for her to hold space just to let it out without judgment. And then I'll figure out what after that. But if I'm holding that back, the woman in your life can't help you go far.
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Because we think we just got to deal with it. And granted, I believe in relationships, partnership. A woman shouldn't know everything and a man shouldn't know everything about the woman. Like there are certain things we keep to ourselves, right? But as men, we got to stop keeping things from ourselves.
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There's things you as a man that you don't even share with yourself because I've done it. Been doing it whole life. I don't go in the dark places with myself that I know I need to look at to tap into the light of that place because of fear, because of guilt, because of shame, because I'm afraid to surrender and look powerless.
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I'm afraid to look like I don't have the answer. i'm I'm afraid to say I don't know what to do. I'm afraid to say I'm lost. I'm afraid. It's fear, but it's not real. It's in your mind. It's a story we create. We keep ourselves safe and we stay in our ego to feel like, I got it, I got it, I got it, I got it. We really don't have it.
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you're really losing it. And you want a hug, you want love, you want to be heard, you want to be understood, and you want some support. But you don't know how to speak it because your ego's in a way, you're two and you're masculine, and you don't know how to let go and receive some support.
Support Systems and Spiritual Alignment
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and Unless it's your buddy up the way or your brother who's going whip you back in shape, like, come on, man, wake up. Right? So listen, if you're a man right now and you're spiritually lost, going to give you three things you can do to tap into your spiritual power.
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So the number one thing, if you're a man out there and you're spiritually lost and confused and you need direction and you want to tap back into your femininity, your spiritual currency, write a letter to yourself and make that letter the most vulnerable letter you've ever written to anyone and anyone is someone is going to be you and put it all out there.
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Talk, go in, get it out because it's energy, right? Get it out of your system. Number two, go for a walk for 10 to 15 minutes after you write the letter and integrate and process and contemplate everything you just written out in that letter. And think about it like, oh, that was deep. Oh, I didn't know I felt that way about myself. Oh, wow, I'm hard on myself.
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Oh, wow, I need some support. Damn, I don't need love myself. Oof. Whatever. Go process the letter. That's number two. So one, write the vulnerable letter to yourself. Number two, i need you to go process it, to integrate it, to contemplate, to get to the root of what's really happening within within yourself.
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Three, I want you to sit down and think about who can you call that you trust that you can share this letter or this moment with. It can be your grandmother, can be your mom, can be your spouse, it can be your daughter, your son. I don't know. I don't know how old you are, can be any age.
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Find that one person you trust. And I want you to talk to them about that. I just recently did this with a cousin. My cousin is, what, 11 years older than me and nine years older than me? And I opened up to him. And I told him the reason I didn't want to in the past because I didn't want him to judge me and make me feel like I was nothing.
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So I didn't want that. And he said, no, I love you no matter what. So find that person. And then once you do those things, I want you to go say a good prayer to yourself, to God, asking for forgiveness, asking for guidance, asking for wisdom, asking for trust in unseen and asking whatever you believe in to put you in alignment on a pathway where you feel more congruent or you feel more like yourself where you have guidance and direction and vision for your life.
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All right. So number one, write the letter. Number two, you're going to process that letter and go walk it out for 10 minutes or 15 minutes to integrate and to process and contemplate like everything you've written, like what it really was about.
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Three, i want you to find that someone you trust that you can talk to about the letter, about that vulnerable part of yourself that you had. And then four, I want you to pray. prayer is peace. I always say prayer is an investment, not an ask.
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It's an investment. It's an investment of your higher self to bring the truth down by investing the words into energy, into that prayer. All right? So do those four things. ah Ladies, if you're listening, share this with a brother, a partner, ah father, an uncle, a cousin, a nephew, because men are struggling. Look, I'm getting phone calls. I'm even getting calls for young men who moms want me to coach their sons because evil one are getting bullied.
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They don't feel confident. They're not trusted. They're not as good as they want to be. Men are struggling in all facets of life and no one's talking about it. I'll be the first to talk about it. And my intentions is soon, maybe in a few weeks or months, I'm going to create a container for men to come in.
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And we had these real deep, intimate, vulnerable conversation and healing going to take place. So to all my fellas out there, I love you. I'm sending you joy. I'm sending you peace. God willing, you have the opportunity and willingness to open up your heart to yourself.
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So you have to open up your heart to yourself before you can just open up to anyone else. And it's hard when you've never really touched that part of your life. or that texture of energy within. So give yourself some grace, give yourself some compassion and please do not judge yourself.
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Just witness the witness of what's unfolding when you're in this space and allow that God in you to come through so you can listen and pay attention and don't feel lost because our women need us.
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They're crying. They're starving. And that's why they're doing all masculine things. And they're making money. And they're building a business. And they're taking care of everything. But they're tired because I'm coaching them. They're tired. They're burnt out. They want the God in you.
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So you got to find your God, fellas. i need you to find your God so your woman can trust in the God that you are and not question it.
Conclusion and Engagement
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Because now you're in your healthy masculine. And you know how to be and you're feminine in your and your masculine. And you know how to provide, protect, nurture, and empower as a man.
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So it is. With so much gratitude, i just want to say thank you for listening to this episode. Like again, share, subscribe to the podcast, subscribe to the YouTube. Hear me out. Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, Twitter, threads.
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Let's stay in this loop of cons consistency. Let's help out men. Women, let's help out men. I'm here. I'm going to do it. So another spiritual fitness episode. Thank you. Shouts out to Simmify Impact. Go check out the show notes to get all the resources and details on how you can sign up and have your podcast and your brand.
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and your vision marked by the Simplify Impact and they can impact your life and make it simple just like they do mine on Spiritual Fitness. I'm out. Be great. Peace and love.
00:14:06
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Thank you for joining us on the Spiritual Fitness Podcast. We hope today's episode has inspired you and provided valuable insights for your holistic health journey. By blended spirituality and physical wellness, you can strengthen your body, mind, and soul.
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If you enjoyed today's episode, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review. Until next time, stay strong, stay inspired, and remember, it's miracle season.