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Dating Your Spouse
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This week we're discussing how to keep the romance alive with your spouse. Do you know the five relationship stages, your love language? We share stories about how we've made sure to make the time in our marriages and give you actionable tips on how to keep yours happy and healthy.
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The Five Relationship Stages
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Authenticity in Relationships
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You know how when you first start dating, you're not totally authentic with each other and you, after a few years, like that breaks down and the real stuff comes out and people can't deal with it. Oh, like you don't fart in front of somebody or burp or like you like wake up with makeup on. That's what I was going to say. Like you don't let them see you with like gross hair or something. Right, like you you do the extra, you know what I mean, in the very beginning. And then eventually, you do have to let your hair down because no one can keep up with that.
Introduction to 'Three Little Vishes'
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Welcome to Three Little Vishes, where three sisters who grew up in the Midwest together but have since spread across the country. I live in Los Angeles. I'm in Nashville. And I live in Philadelphia. We are all married with children. We've all had careers, but now we stay at home with our families. We've all been through ups and downs that come along with life and have always helped each other through.
00:00:58
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shared stories and laughed together. We welcome all of you into our daily conversations and hope you have some fun with us. So let's jump in. What's up, fishes? Hello. How is everybody? Doing good. I'm going to just start with just
Family Quirks with Empty Boxes
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a little bit. I'm not annoyed, but just like a little like, what? So this morning, um getting everybody ready for school. And Riley's like, I'll just have cereal this morning. So I just thought I would grab the cereal and lay it out for him. So it'd be easy for him to grab it. So I go to our cabinet and I have three big boxes, like the
00:01:38
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Costco sized boxes of cereal. And then as I realized as I'm pulling them out that I open them up and there's nothing in them. Like very, very little like left in these boxes. But I had just gone to the grocery store yesterday or the other day and I purposely did not get cereal because I'm like, we have these three gigantic boxes still. So like no need to get them. And as I'm like investigating,
00:02:09
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We have no cereal really. And I'm like, why are they putting back basically empty containers of cereal back in the box? I actually know the answer to this.
00:02:21
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Oh, yeah let's hear it. I've had this problem in my house for years. There's like five crackers in the box. There is like what I can see perceive as like half a bowl of cereal because there's still stuff in there and they don't want to throw it out. So then you end up with not even like a full serving of something because people are trying to be like food conscious.
00:02:47
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oh which I can commend, but i've had this um I've had this conversation with my family for years. So then I started doing this, like, I've since given it up, but like we had a chalkboard in our kitchen in Chicago. And I would be like, if something's getting low, can you please write it down and I'll get some more. That way we won't run out of the things that you love because if you leave it in there and I don't know that it's half almost gone, cause I don't eat that, you know,
00:03:17
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or stuck. Now the thing that I find just abhorrent is when they put the literal empty box of pop tarts back, like they take the last pop tart and the box stays there. Yeah, well, I have that situation happening in in my household. So you're not alone. But I thought it was a boy thing.
Communication Challenges in Families
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I don't know.
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I'm like, why put an empty wrapper back in the cabinet? Doesn't that take effort to do that? I don't know. I guess, I guess in their mind, they're not leaving it on the counter, which is what both of my children do. They just leave their stuff everywhere. Oh, somebody had a snack here in front of the TV or somebody had a snack here.
00:04:01
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here at the desk. What? yeah Well, I find I say the same thing, lena like write down what we're out of or what we need. Like right here. I have an area right in our kitchen. Nobody ever does. No one does.
00:04:17
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And then I freak out. I'll be like, I haven't done it for a long time, because everybody's big now. But like, back in the day, I used to be like, I cannot understand what's wrong with all of you. Just tell me. It's fine. You would tell me if you had no toilet paper, why can't you tell me if you're almost out of cereal? I mean, that's it that's a valid question. Kathy, did you have fun in Texas?
Travel Adventures and Mishaps
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So yes, I had an enjoyable trip, um minus I had more travel problems with flight delays. um I guess our plane hit a bird coming in, so they had to make sure it was safe, which I appreciate. But that was like a two-hour delay. um But we had a nice time. It was good to see my son and know that he's OK and alive. yeah So it was good.
00:05:11
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Did you go to football game because he's in college right at TCU? Did you go to TCU? He did go to the game and unfortunately they lost. It was kind of heartbreaking at the end because I thought they were going to blow the team out and then at the very end they lost. So it was kind of like a bummer being parents weekend. But we got back and you know it is kind of a longer flight so we got back and then I just could not go to sleep that night for some reason. I woke up like three times, maybe even four times. And one time my husband, I think I turned on, I was sleep talking. He said, ah turn on the light. And I said, something was crawling on me. He was like, what? I think I thought there was a mouse in our bed. So I turned on the lights and he's staring at me like, what is going on?
00:06:04
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it was like 330 in the morning and then I went to the bathroom and I came back to bed and then I finally did go to sleep but honestly I don't even really remember it like talking to him until he brought it up to me the next day because I was like oh I kind of fatally remember we were talking, but I, you know, if he wouldn't have said anything, I would have totally forgotten about it. That's hilarious. So are you feeling stressed? I feel like when we lived together and we shared a room, you did sleep talk when you were stressed and you did all sorts of crazy things in your sleep.
Weekend Wins and Family Events
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Yeah. I mean, maybe of course, probably. Yeah. Life is hard sometimes. But like, I just.
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I was, yeah, it was a terrible night's rest. So I was so tired yesterday. and know You're kind of a wild, you're kind of a wild sleeper in general. You are a wild sleeper. yeah linda Linda, what about you? Any crazy sleep stories or how was your weekend? ah Weekend was good. Jack and I were in Knoxville, Tennessee at a hockey tournament. So hockey season is officially underway. They won. They had a great tournament. It was like interleague play though. And then we had our first high school game last night. So we won that, which is fun. My husband got back from Scotland on Saturday. So he's still kind of like
00:07:24
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doing the reentry for the time zone. He's doing well, but like, you know, six hours is a lot. Yeah, he had a good trip. Great trip. um The oldest is doing great. She settled in. She started school yesterday. It's going well. She's planning her first trip. So she's doing great. So all the things. So it sounds yeah, our sleep schedule is a little off too. And I actually had to get up and go downtown today. I had a little checkup.
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cause I have thyroid disease. So I need to get that checked every once in a while. And of course she was running late, but I love her. So I give her grace. So I was just eating a little breakfast at 10 45 in the morning and it's this Kodiak oatmeal power cup. I'm loving it. Like I normally make my own oatmeal, but this is like got protein and it's got like 14 grams of protein and this little yummy serving. So tasty. I recommend it for everybody.
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Well, for those who love oatmeal, they should check it out. I know you don't like oatmeal, but I enjoy it. And I like it that it has like added protein in it. so Yeah, you should post that to our notes. I will do that. You guys, just a friendly reminder to our listeners before we get into it um to please remember to rate, review us, subscribe to our YouTube channel or to wherever you're getting your pods.
00:08:50
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and continue to tell friends to spread the word. One friend, one friend, it kind of is, ah it will hopefully we'll add some more viewers to jump into our conversation. We appreciate the shout out. Yes. All right, ladies. So today we thought we would talk about all things dating your husband.
Dating Your Spouse Post-Marriage
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Do you, I read an article recently that said, You should date your spouse. You should date and never stop dating. what How do we feel about this? Do we feel like we should be dating our spouses and do you date your spouse? I mean, for me, I feel like it's something
00:09:33
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like I hate this word, but you do have to be mindful about, and I do think it's important. it's just We fall in and out of the habit, like at least we do. like Sometimes we're really good about it, and then other times we're not good about it, and we just like live parallel. You know what I mean? like We get so caught up in work, and kids, and schedules, and all the things, and we sort of like, are side by side instead of, I don't know, intertwined with emotionally. So i think I think dating your spouse is great. um It's just something we struggle with sometimes. Yeah, I think so too. I mean, I think everyone gets so busy in their careers and kids and all their sports, you know, running them around. It's like,
00:10:25
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sometimes like it'll be the end of the week. I'll be like, have I even talked to you for more than five minutes this week? I know. And something other than schedule. I feel like we have to do a timeout, right? Because it's important. And I mean, like, Peter and I probably I think what we try and do more than, I mean, I think it'd be fabulous if we could go on like an official date to like a really nice restaurant or something like that, but that's like a one-off thing. I mean, we'll maybe go have a drink somewhere.
00:10:58
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But a lot of things, times we just take walks like around our neighborhood. And that's the time that we can talk about things without other people listening, you know, and also get some exercise. yeah You know, privacy, privacy is a big one, right? When you have like kids, like they're always listening and we live in a small house. So it's like, I feel like somebody's always listening. And it's interesting sometimes when I even think that I'm being like,
00:11:24
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I think I'm having this quiet moment between Tim, like Riley will say to me later, I heard you and dad talking about this. Are we going to do this? Did you did you hear us talking about that? Right. And then you kind of wonder, like, what else are you hearing? Exactly. Exactly. And I mean, that brings up a good point. Again, we live in a small house and Riley's older and he's staying up later and everybody has their own space. But it's like, the child does not go to bed until, you know, late. And it's just like, I mean, I'm not. Yeah, it's hard. It's hard. Like, how do you have some mal alone time and know that it's alone? It's very tricky. Like, it's very tough to leave the house.
00:12:10
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Yes, but I mean, yes, I guess so. There's one thing that Peter does do that I think is cute. Like sometimes he'll send me cards in the mail. But they're all like, they're not written in his handwriting. Like, he'll have somebody else write it.
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So I don't know that it's hit like from him and he'll send me like a sweet card in the mail, which I think is sweet. Oh, that is sweet. So why does he have it in somebody else's handwriting? Like he wants you to think you have a secret admirer? I mean, I don't know if that's the reason or it's just a surprise. like Yeah. Like you pick up the mail and you're like, oh, I don't know. Normally I only get like junk mail or we get a bill. Like there's nothing fun in the mail.
00:12:58
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Well, you know, I was kind of looking up like, I feel like we've all been married for a long time. And there is actually research done about marriages and like the cycle of
Stages of Marriage
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relationships. And it has a very consistent five stages. Now, it's not linear necessarily, like it kind of like ebbs and flows and circles around each other. But like the first stage we all are super familiar with, we vaguely remember that romance stage, like you've met somebody, you have this chemical reaction, you're totally into each other and you decide whether or not you want to move it forward or not and you get married and you know it's like amazing but it really only lasts for like a year or two.
00:13:43
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And then it evolves into other stages of marriage. And let me tell you the other two, so the other four, so there's the power struggle stage, which is like three to five years. And that's when most people get divorced because you realize that person has their own identity. They have their own stuff. You have your own stuff. You're not like,
00:14:06
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kind of going like, you know how when you first start dating, it's not necessarily totally authentic with you're not totally authentic with each other. And you after a few years like that breaks down and the real stuff comes out. I mean, I don't deal with it.
00:14:23
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Oh, like you don't fart in front, like you don't fart in front of somebody or burp or like you like wake up with makeup on. yeah That's what I was going to say. Like you don't let them see you with like gross hair or something. Right. Like you, you do the extra, you know what I mean? In the very beginning. And then eventually you do have to let your hair down because no one can keep up with that. Right. So it's not like you're being dishonest. It's just,
00:14:50
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you're just trying so hard to not scare the other person off. That's what this person says. So, um, so then you go into this power show stage, everybody kind of goes through and it ebbs and flows. Like we have it every once in a while too. It's like, you know, you have a hard time communicating or somebody wants to be in charge of something and you just have this like struggle. And a lot of people just give up at that point because it's too much work and they kind of do see the true whomever you are. And they're like, yeah, I'm not willing to accept you. so um Well, everybody i think I think everybody needs a lane in their relationship, right? like it's yeah like To have it work, you've got to have the traffic moving in hopefully the same direction, right? Right. But if you can get through that, there is this stage they call stability. So it's like,
00:15:43
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Now you've learned how to fight. You've learned all the things. you are you're You're kind of in like happiness again. you know you're like Everything's going along great. And then the stage four is like commitment. And that's not getting married. It's like you realize you have chosen this person and you are staying with them.
00:16:03
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Yeah. And, um you know, you have to kind of keep working at it. But that commitment stage, you have to be careful, you don't get lazy. But then if you can make it through all that, you get into this last phase, which is bliss, you've co created something, you've accepted each other, you know how to fight with each other, you make the effort. And, you know, you learn you know that this is working for you. So um this author, i'll i'll we'll send the link, but it is interesting. They say ah most couples don't ever make it beyond their power struggle stage. And that's why the divorce rate is more than 50%. Wow. So you know you have to have those tough conversations and you have to really work through. And I do think consistently this author kind of talks about how do you connect with your partner? How do you connect with your spouse?
00:17:00
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What does that look like for you? And I think, you know, and he is, it is accurate. Like we kind of go through these, it's not linear. It's like this big, massive, crazy, messy circle that you're constantly weaving in and out of all these different stages, except the stage one, that romance stage.
00:17:20
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yeah where they, you know, because I think once you look behind the curtain, it's like, yes, you can have a romantic night, but people are still burping in front of you. And you know, you don't have your makeup on. Yeah, that's okay. Yeah. Well, because it's interesting, like, you know, our parents have been married for 58 years.
Secrets to a Long Marriage
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And i I was talking to them about what kind of the secret is to marriage, what they think is a secret. And they said kindness, not to be mean to each other, was super important because I guess when they were growing up, their parents fought and they did not like seeing their parents fight and they agreed, you know, they vowed to each other that they would not do that. so I think it's true. Like I don't think that they fought in front of us. Yeah, I don't think they did either. And I, I don't think they did either. They were really good about, um, yeah, I think they were always respectful for each other to each other. I don't ever remember a time of being like, Ooh, something really bad's happening. They said, you know, you can't be short. Don't go to bed angry. Don't keep score. And, um,
00:18:40
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The don't keep score, I think is really tricky, right? I think it's tricky. I think that's super tricky. I mean, everybody has their role. Like Tim and I definitely have figured out what our roles are and that works for us, but sometimes I am like, I feel like I have too much of like the emotional stuff and like trying to make sure all the parts are moving and like not that he's not doing stuff and that his stuff is not important as well. But I sometimes feel like I'm doing all the emotional stuff, but that's actually not true. But it sometimes feels like, yeah you know, I feel sorry for myself sometimes, especially when I'm still in the car for soccer. at 10 o'clock at night. And I'm just like, why am I still on my feet? I've been up since 6 30. And I'm still not done. Right? Which is that it's silly to feel that way sometimes, but I do sometimes.
Teamwork and Respect in Marriage
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I mean, I don't I think you know, what Kathy's talking about is, you know, that's 58 years of in that ball of all the different stages. i I know for a fact that there have been times when they both feel like
00:19:52
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You know, mom and dad both have felt like, okay, I am carrying more than my share. I'm doing more than, I mean, it's hard to not keep score, but I do think not throwing it in each other's face is essential. Yeah. and I think the biggest thing that they said was you just have to have respect for one another. And that has to always be there. And you have to be a team because you're each going to have different viewpoints on things. And sometimes that may trump what someone else feels. I mean, you have to give and take, right? So if something's super important to you, well, maybe this time you get what you want, but maybe this next time you have to be the one to kind of give and take. I mean, they said that, you know, the times that they really thought were also interesting was about their kids, us, like just everyday life of dealing with
00:20:51
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kids growing up. And they had to really compromise to make it work. But I think the biggest thing, you know just making sure that you communicate with with each other and that they hear what you're trying to say. Because sometimes, I even feel like this with Peter, like I'll say something and then I'll be like, did you actually hear what I said? you know like I think sometimes they hear part of it or maybe they think, oh, it's not as big a deal as what you feel it is. like I feel like we kind of have that issue sometimes.
00:21:24
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i like to be I like to be right, which is a terrible way to be. But I always think I'm right, which is not true. but My husband would say to you, he loves that too. And he loves it when I say, you're going to hear it. You're right. And he'll be like, yes. I think Peter likes to be right a lot as well. And i'm like and he doesn't like to admit when he's wrong. it's like
00:21:53
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But that's hard, right? I think I get it. I get that part too. It's like, especially if I've put up such a stink about it and I put my back up to be like, no, I'm totally right. And then when it's pointed out to me that I could not have been more wrong, it is so hard for me to eat my words and be like- I eat crow. Yes. Yes. Well, you know what I love about Armageddon? Now, Nancy, I don't know if you remember this, because you're eight years younger than me.
00:22:18
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Growing up, mom and dad would get dressed up and go to parties. Like mom had these long dresses to the floor and she would get dressed up and they would go out for New Year's Eve. They did fundraisers for different, you know, charity events when they finally settled in. And then I do remember very vividly We went on our very first family vacation when I was about 11 or 12 and we went to Barbados and this was a big deal because mom and dad got married really young. They were both in school. Then they started a business like we did nothing. We did no vacations and they saved up their money and they took us to Barbados and there was a night where mom dressed up. Dad dressed up and we were in this like outdoor like restaurant and a band, a Calypso band came.
00:23:08
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And mom and dad got up and danced and they actually knew how to dance. And as like a preteen, I just, that was such a pivotal core memory for me to watch them be romantic with each other and like,
00:23:22
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have dad throw mom around the dance floor. And mom was so happy and smiling and laughing. And I just remember that was such a big thing. But I do really remember them going out. I don't know if it was a lot, but it's definitely something that has stuck with me. I think they've been good about having fun with each other. We used to go skiing all the time, water skiing and snow skiing. And we did a lot of activities together as a family.
00:23:52
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I think they always seem to have fun together. Yeah. I think that, I don't know if that's dating, but I feel like that was also a way for them to connect. Yeah. Because they were busy. I mean, they were running a business and have four kids. Like, what the heck? Well, they even said that um when I was talking to them kind of about what the secret of marriage was, they made a point to tell tell me, dad was very proud to say they went on a date. They were traveling up north.
00:24:22
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And they stopped just this week.
Celebrating Long-Term Commitment
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Yeah, they stopped at a hotel. And they had dinner out on the lake that evening by themselves and had like a little date night. So yeah, even after 58 years, they still are making time for each other, which I think is cool. I love that. That's adorable. I know. It's great.
00:24:45
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I mean, we do have to be mindful. Like I hate that word because it's so everywhere. But, you know, you keep saying that, but my, my fullness is a thing of just, you know, it isn't used, but it is accurate. I do think we all have to be mindful about our spouse. And I will, I will give Tim props. He's actually really good about that too. of Being like, Nancy, let's go to movie.
00:25:09
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Nancy, let's go do this. And I'm always like, and I'll sometimes be like, oh, and he's like, well, I'm inviting you to the movies, but I'm getting out of this house. So I want you to come with me. You can you know, you can shoot. But I'm always like, cause I'm tired. So I'm just like, okay, I'm coming. And I'm always so glad that I did. And we always have such a good time. So it's a, it's a reminder to myself, I do like to get out and go, I do want to go do these things. So say yes. Like just as you're telling your kids to say yes in college, I have to also remind myself to say yes to
Balancing Routine and Spontaneity
00:25:43
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things. And you know, I struggle with that too. Like I get myself into my routine and I really do struggle shaking it up and getting out of my routine. And Rich is good about that too. And I'm less good about it. Like I kind of dream about it in the morning, but then in the evening, I'm like, I don't want to leave the house. I'm too tired. But I say yes more. Yeah. Say yes. Say yes. Yeah. It's a good word. Yeah. It's a good word.
00:26:11
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So I think we were also talking about what people's love languages are. Oh yeah. And I actually talked to Peter about this yesterday because, you know, we were, you're like, okay, what is it? Well, he just ah in general told me the biggest thing for him, as far as the secret of success for a marriage is respect. He agreed with our parents and not told a grudge.
00:26:40
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That's another thing he said. And he said that he likes like time, quality time, oh it like his love languages is, I think what mine is as well. Cause I think we just don't have enough time to spend with each other. So maybe that's why both of us feel that way. yeah But he just said, you know, we try and do things that make us happy and, um,
00:27:08
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spending quality time together. Nancy said even just sitting on the couch is makes them happy to be just around, right? Just around. Yeah. Well, that's nice. What's yours, dance? I feel like I'm a mix of stuff. But I definitely think I show it by my acts because I feel like I want everybody to be like happy and have all the things that they need. And yeah like i I bake a lot. I cook a lot. and trying to do things for people. You want to make things comfortable for people. yeah But I also like affirmation. I like words a lot. And I also like, I don't know, I also like doing stuff. So I feel like I really am a combination of all these things. It's hard for me to just pick one. What do you think your husband is? Like, how does he like to receive love? I would guess for Tim, like touch and things.
00:28:04
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But the things part is difficult for me to give him because he likes, he has specific tastes and things that he likes. So I feel like, you know, he loves like musical stuff like guitars and all that kind of stuff. So it's like hard for me to gift that stuff because I feel like he has such an idea of what that is. But I think it's like a gift could be a card. It could be a flower. It could be filling up the gas tank. It could be anything. So I don't think it needs to be like this grandiose thing. It's
00:28:42
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I don't know if he would find that a gift, me filling up his gas tank. I don't think that's what he means. And Tim doesn't really care about cards. That is very much true. like I'll sometimes get him a card. But then I've kind of stopped because yeah I don't really think he really cares.
00:29:00
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yeah So it's like, but I definitely think he cares when I give him a hug or like, or I say thing. I think he also liked affirmation. Like when I actually use my words, I think he cares about what I say. Cause he takes it in and he'll be like, that was super sweet or that was super kind. Like will yeah he does receive that well. So, and also my handwriting's not great. So maybe he doesn't like cards because he's like, what are you saying? I don't know. I can't read your writing. I can't read it.
00:29:27
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Yeah, maybe that's it. That's funny. That is funny. you know However any of our listeners can connect with their spouse, you should do it. Like taking a walk, playing pickleball, going to dinner, watching a movie, you know whatever it is that works for you and as a couple, like be mindful and
Military Tips for Strong Relationships
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do it.
00:29:47
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You know, I was in the military and I respect the military because, you know, they're always, you know, on deployments and things and are away from their families. So, you know, they have to keep their relationship strong with their families and partners. So, on this My Military One source,
00:30:06
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um I found tips for keeping your relationship strong and healthy, and it just has a couple. Working on communication skills is important, which we talked about earlier. Do regular maintenance. like Take a pulse of your relationship. like I think, Lynna, you talked about like you and Rich sometimes are like, oh, we should do more of this, or we said we were going to do this, but we didn't, so we need to work on that. so Right. ah Adjust your expectations.
00:30:38
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create rituals like a goodbye kiss before work or for bed or whatever, um just to keep the glue in the relationship. Plan dates and surprises for each other. Plan for Roblox. Like we said, you're not always going to agree on everything, so you got to give and take.
00:30:59
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give each other space. And then lastly, just be active and have fun. And I think, I think that's the thing too, you have to remember is like, you have to have fun with each other because life is serious, right? And it gets you down real drag. Yeah, for sure.
00:31:17
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And I think sometimes you take your spouse for granted because things do get hard and it's like this person's in it with you. So sometimes you get the brunt of it. So you have to remember be kind yeah to each other. I agree. That's the the secret sauce listeners. So what's for dinner tonight? So Peter and I, ah we put in a recipe that's in the show notes tonight. It's going to be steak and frites and chocolate pod de creme. And we got this recipe. We used to live in St. Louis and we actually took a cooking class, a French cooking class, and they taught us how to make these three things and they're really good.
00:32:06
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ah Rich would never do that, I don't think. It was like a date night. So we went to the, it was like a culinary Institute. I can't remember the name of the Institute we were at, but it was in the evening one night after work and we went and it was like a whole, like several, like it was a couple hours or so. We cooked the whole meal together.
00:32:32
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So Kathy, did you, how did you come up with that? Did you come up with this to be like, Peter, let's take this cooking class to learn how to make this, this, I think I did. Yeah. I don't even, I think one of our friends said that they had done something similar and we were like, Oh, that sounds really fun. Did you have to talk him into that? Because I, like, I didn't know that Peter enjoyed cooking or was it like, he was like, sure, Kathy, I'll try anything once or like what?
00:33:00
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Peter never says no to her. Linda, that is very true. I don't think I've ever heard Peter say no to Kathy. So maybe it wasn't hard to talk him into it. Right. Of course, he said yes.
Nancy and Tim's Date Night
00:33:11
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I wonder if Tim would do a cooking class. Like, would he find that fun? I would find a cooking class fun. Tim would be a really good cook. He is. But like, it would be something like it would be an event. It's kind of fun to do an event together. We're going to the bowl on Wednesday to see some music together, which I'm excited about. And we were going to take the kids. But since it's a school night, we've decided it's just going to be the two of us. And we're just going to have a date, which will be really nice.
00:33:40
Speaker
Yeah. That sounds fun. I love that for you. Yeah. I don't know why you say I don't like cooking. I do actually. I mean, I like baking more, but. Well, you too. Like, I mean, you are, there are some things that you make that are really good for people who don't know you.
00:33:55
Speaker
Like your lasagna is very good, but it does take you a very long time to make the lasagna, but it's worth it because it is super good. Like even Riley's like, Aunt Kathy's lasagna is very good. Why don't you make it? And I'm like, well, that's out of my wheelhouse, but you know, whenever you see Aunt Kathy, she'll make it for you.
00:34:16
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But when you make it, it's like this whole thing. It's like a lot of pots and pans, and there's a lot of activity going on for you to make it. You make this crazy sauce. Yeah, there's a lot of steps. Yeah, there's a lot of steps. All right, girls. Well, this is kind of fun talking about dating. I do feel like I have to be more like I do feel like I need a little bit more fun with Tim. like I feel like we get in like the rut. So I think I might like try to take some nuggets from here and be like, but's let's go sneak out and play some golf. Or let's go on a more of a walk. Or let's, you know I don't know, go sit out in the backyard and have a drink without little ears.
00:35:00
Speaker
Like, correct. Spice it up, people. Riley, go to bed. It's late. Go to bed. Well, we want to thank you for listening to our podcast and letting us sisters jump into your day. If you get your podcast from Apple, at the bottom of the episodes, you actually, if you scroll down, you can see that you can leave a review there.
00:35:25
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So I think sometimes you don't see it because we have all of our podcasts stacked up with all the episodes. So make sure you please review us. And then I do have a listener that gets her podcast from Spotify. And I did get on there and you have to click on the podcast on Spotify and then follow three little fishes. And there's a follow button that's right there right below on the left when you click it. And You'll also see there's a bell, which you can also check, which is to the right. And that will let you follow all of our new episodes. And then on Spotify, they have three dots. And if you click the three dots, you can rate the show. So please do that and also share, at least like Nancy was saying, with one of your friends so we can get our podcast out there.
Podcast Wrap-Up and Gratitude
00:36:26
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Everybody have a great weekend. Sisters out.