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Episode 2- Kids Are NOT Soft
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Second time around (from March 2024), a rather annoying topic that I feel shouldn't need to be covered. The fact that such a notion that "Kids are soft" these days continues to be pedaled is ridiculous to me. Coaching the high school team gives me a chance to experience many different types of kids and I can tell you, most of them are 100% not soft.
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Transcript
Introduction to New Format
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Speaker
All right, so this is the second time I'm trying this thing. Change a venue, but still the same ah idea for format. I'm gonna just sit here and dabble for about, three, four or five minutes and hopefully it's worth something to someone.
Are Modern Kids Softer or Tougher?
00:00:14
Speaker
So today I want to talk a little bit about um some comments I've seen more recently than the not and just kind of baffling to me. ah Still we're peddling this whole kids are soft thing. And I don't understand that one single bit. And I know there's still, so I mean, listen, there's there's outliers in all things, but
00:00:38
Speaker
Kids are having to be more resilient these days. I don't know if anybody's noticed, but, you know, having to coach high school kids and in the last, you know, seven, to eight years as a team.
00:00:50
Speaker
Kids are more visible now than they were certainly when I was growing
Online Visibility and Judgment
00:00:55
Speaker
up. So more more more of the crap is seen and not enough of the good stuff is put out there. And know these these kids are online and being judged every single second of every day. I don't think people understand how hard that is as an adolescent. Like you don't have all your emotions processed. You don't know how to work through things. And yes, even some of the more prepared ah kids, teenagers, young adults are able to handle it. But even then, they some of them just crack. And it's not it's not that easy.
High Expectations and Academic Pressure
00:01:30
Speaker
I don't think people understand like, no, they're not soft. like yeah Not only are they not soft, some of these kids are more hardworking. There's more expectations on them.
00:01:41
Speaker
ah And at an earlier stage, it's like, man, when I got when i went to college, that was a huge that was the expectation. Now it's like, you're expected you're you're not only expected to get into college, you're expected to get into the best college all the time. And you know it's why things like the freaking um what you call it, the scandal for like Stanford and and all those and all those celebrities that were getting their kids into schools through these side doors. It's like, it's white crap like that happens. And I so truly don't understand the whole idea of kids are soft. What in the actual hell are we talking about? I don't get it. It's no way, no freaking way,
Mental Health and Resilience
00:02:24
Speaker
man. You know, we've got,
00:02:26
Speaker
they're They're being judged online all the time. They're constantly you know being held to higher and higher standards. And I mean, just, like I said, ridiculous standards. ah there were There was pressure from some, on some kids and some families that we knew about when we were yeah when I was younger. But now it's like, because everything is so out there and judged constantly, you know and people are caught in the comparison trap all the freaking time. And I mean, all the freaking time there's no There's no way we can sit here and say kids are soft. They've had to be more and more resilient as the online spaces grow and grow. so And in my experience, the kiss kids that I have, they're pretty tough. know They come in, they continue to work hard. Yeah, there' there's some days when they're just like totally mentally drained. And honestly, I think kids are tougher.
00:03:19
Speaker
that are able to articulate and certainly less soft that are able to articulate, hey, I am mentally you know and not in a good space. Can we talk or can I have a day off? That to me takes true toughness, not you know white and not knuckling down and saying, oh yeah, you know I'm going to just ignore all this all these problems and they'll go away because that always works.
Critique of 'Kids are Soft' Narrative
00:03:42
Speaker
No, so just the idea of kids being soft is the fact that we're still trying to peddle that and people that actually have a voice and that people listen to still peddling that is ridiculous. And it's also, you know, shame on them. This is, that's horrible for them. Like, what are we doing? Why? Why continue to peddle that message?
00:04:08
Speaker
you know none of None of us live in this day and age as a teenager, and I'm only trying to understand it through the kids that I coach. I can't imagine being a teenager in these times. So when people come out with kids are soft, I really, really want them to take a good hard look at exactly what's going on. Maybe some of your kids are soft, quote unquote,
00:04:28
Speaker
I doubt it. Have a conversation with them. you know Figure it out. ah Because the kids that I coach personally are hardworking. They're able to articulate things that I was surely not able to do when I was when i was a kid. And there's more expectation on them that they continue to meet and or excel on. No, no, no, no.
Conclusion: Redefining Toughness
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you know And trust me, I coach a sport where you've got to be a little tough. Otherwise, yeah, you're going to be found out real fast.
00:04:57
Speaker
Kids are not soft, okay? They're probably tougher than ever, really, if we're honest. Like if we're truly honest with with everything that's going on in the world, they're tougher than ever. So let's destroy the notion of kids are soft. And if you're gonna come out with that type of statement, back it up. Don't just say it and then leave it out there for people to argue about.
00:05:16
Speaker
So that's what i that's where I got for today. That's my little ranch spiel, whatever. um I'll try and continue this with about once a month, if I can, assuming that my schedule doesn't get too hectic. But thanks a lot for listening, everyone. Have a good day.