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Brian and Dave check in on their goals, and come to grips with the reality of what they are dealing with.
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Podcast Introduction and Goals
00:00:01
David Isaacs
Welcome everyone, it is March 19th, 2025, at the time of recording at least. I don't know when this episode is going to come out. It could be anywhere from ah week to three years, depending on But at least you know we're recording at this time, and I am here with Brian.
00:00:21
Big Dog
What's up, big dog? How you feeling?
00:00:23
David Isaacs
What big dog! Yeah,
00:00:25
Big Dog
Big dog, big host, doing big things.
00:00:28
David Isaacs
woof woof!
00:00:29
Big Dog
Oh, big dog pound. Oh.
00:00:34
David Isaacs
But yeah, just going check in on some of the goals that we were talking about last episode, which also hasn't been released yet. So it's actually one of the goals I put out to put podcast episodes out a little bit earlier. So we're working on that.
00:00:48
David Isaacs
But yeah, just kind of checking in on that, trying to be a little bit lighter. and know, Brian, you had mentioned it. I kind of feel the same way. Last episode it was a little bit of a heavier load, I'd say, a little heavier flow for people.
00:01:01
Big Dog
Heh heh, that's what she said.
00:01:03
David Isaacs
And yeah, so just try to lighten the mood up a little bit and kind of, yeah, I mean, it's just kind of an insight to our goals and what we're trying to accomplish. And yeah, I mean, we're not perfect. We set ourselves to a standard and sometimes we don't meet that standard and sometimes life gets in the
Personal Stories and Life Challenges
00:01:20
David Isaacs
way. So we're just trying to be as honest and as hopeful as we possibly can. But yeah, some days are going to be worse than others. And other times you're going to get the, ah you know, big dogs out, not feeling so much as a Chihuahua.
00:01:34
Big Dog
Yeah, we're we're still on the porch. Last week we were sitting on the porch. We feeling kind of bad about ourselves, which is fine. We're human, you know. We started this podcast because we can't afford therapy. At least I can't anymore.
00:01:46
Big Dog
um You know, so.
00:01:49
David Isaacs
And who has the time?
00:01:49
Big Dog
But, exactly. have the time, making money. can be making money to be spending other things that make us happy. ah Like being a big dog on a big dog bike ride out there. It's nice weather out here up in Michigan. So, yeah.
00:02:04
Big Dog
What'd you do today?
00:02:06
David Isaacs
No, I took the afternoon off and went golfing my buddy Nick. down in Taylor and they had a, they had a deal. So it was 40, $42 to play 18. But if you spent $75 in the pro shop, you got golf for free.
00:02:21
David Isaacs
So I needed, I needed new shoes anyways. And they had a polo up there that was 50% off still ended up being like 40 bucks and the shoes were 70. So ended up spending, you know, $70 over what I was supposed to,
00:02:37
David Isaacs
but I needed the shoes anyways, so I wanted to kind of figure I'd spent, what, $110, which could have been $152, it's not too bad of a day.
00:02:50
Big Dog
So while you're wearing an Adidas polo with a Nike hat,
00:02:55
David Isaacs
Yeah, well, the I had a different hat on earlier. and I couldn't find it. I had to run up to AutoZone to get a battery for my car for my sister's boyfriend to use. Not that, uh, he's a, he's a good guy.
00:03:08
David Isaacs
He's a cool guy. He's not a deadbeat, but I'm sure other people have had ah similar experience of sister's boyfriends taking advantage of them.
00:03:15
Big Dog
sure
00:03:17
David Isaacs
So yeah, I had run up to AutoZone, throw a hat on because I took a shower earlier, threw a hat on. So my hair is just terrible. Not that it's any better any other day, but, um, yeah, this was the hat that I was using during the painting job. So like all back here is just like spots of paint and everything. And I,
00:03:35
David Isaacs
Lifted my head up and hit my head pretty hard on a ah light fixture. And Eric's like, hey, you're right. I'm yeah, that's why I got my hard hat on. That's just this hat.
00:03:45
Big Dog
Big dog got his painting hat on.
00:03:47
David Isaacs
Yeah, big dogs. You know, big dogs out here. Got the big clothes. Got the big moves. Got the big brush strokes. And just making stuff happen.
00:03:54
Big Dog
Ooh, big strokes, big folks, you know what I'm saying?
00:03:57
David Isaacs
Yeah, different strokes for bigger folks. Some bigger dogs for something. Augs.
00:04:03
Big Dog
ah Big dog, big hog, that's what saying.
00:04:07
David Isaacs
And so they say, know, say it's something about big dogs, big hogs.
00:04:12
Big Dog
You got them big paws, what are you gonna do?
00:04:15
David Isaacs
Yeah. Yeah, it was cool.
00:04:16
Big Dog
Put them in your jaw.
00:04:17
David Isaacs
Like when something, don't know, we'll workshop it, workshop it.
00:04:17
Big Dog
I don't know.
00:04:21
Big Dog
Yeah.
00:04:22
David Isaacs
Yeah, I went over to my sister's house and she's got chickens that she's raising. So they're still small. They got them as chicks from the tractor supply, but they're pretty sure they got two roosters and two hens. And I don't think having two roosters is good.
00:04:40
Big Dog
No, i I don't know shit about chickens or chicken shit for that matter, but I'm pretty sure those roosters are going to kill each other, but
00:04:47
David Isaacs
yep But I can't ah can't tell her that because they're not going to kill off a a baby chicken.
Reflections on Loss and Mortality
00:04:58
David Isaacs
And no one's going to want it because it's a rooster.
00:05:02
David Isaacs
So she's just that's going to have to be something they find out on themselves. like the the traumatizing gerbil shit that we dealt with growing up which i don't know if we talked about this yet but there's really no one I've talked to that had more than one guinea pig growing up that doesn't have like a horrific story about it or a hamster for that matter because my cousins had guinea pigs a male and a female which had more guinea pigs and the mom ate them Like I had a hamster growing up that used to escape over the latch that it had. so it was like a cage and there was a tube that went up to like a penthouse.
00:05:42
David Isaacs
Well, the clip to keep the penthouse closed broke. So it would force its way over the top of the penthouse and then would, um, It was up on like this little shelf and we had the cat food right there because the cats like to watch the hamsters.
00:05:58
David Isaacs
So what it did is it got out, it took a bunch of the cat food, shoved it off the shelf and then plopped down and then took the cat food. And it had like a little stockpile underneath the couch that it was living there for a while.
00:06:11
David Isaacs
And then it would go in and out of the vents. So it took us like two weeks to fucking find the thing.
00:06:19
Big Dog
I, yeah, I, I did not own a guinea pig, but I feel like everyone that I did know did had kind of have a similar story, not necessarily losing it for, you know, two weeks, but for sure it didn't, did not end well for that poor creature.
00:06:35
Big Dog
um and there's always sort of stories of them losing, you know, couldn't find it. Turns out they were like under their bed the whole time, you know, don't, but, but yeah,
00:06:44
David Isaacs
yeah
00:06:47
Big Dog
and it was like a nineties thing. I don't know. You know, maybe not. Maybe it was just a era generation thing. I don't Whatever. But yeah, there's, there was no shortage of guinea pig stories and, you know, show and tell there was always four or five kids in my class who always had wanted to bring in their guinea pig or the rabbit, never a shortage.
00:07:06
Big Dog
It's like, I got my millennium Falcon that I built.
00:07:07
David Isaacs
yeah
00:07:09
Big Dog
They're like, that's not a guinea pig. I don't care.
00:07:14
David Isaacs
Yeah, they were cool pets. the The oinks or whatever they made. i thought it would...
00:07:22
Big Dog
and Yeah, yeah.
00:07:22
David Isaacs
All the time.
00:07:25
Big Dog
Yeah, was like a little squeak almost.
00:07:28
David Isaacs
Yeah. So, we had we had some growing up. I had a hedgehog at one time. But it um they don't defecate. unless they're moving.
00:07:39
David Isaacs
So on their wheel, it was just covered and you'd have to clean it like every, every day, every couple days at the latest to make sure that it was clean enough.
00:07:52
David Isaacs
And, um, you know, they, they, they're spines. They're basically porcupines. So trying to hold it, you pick it up and it's in its little ball And then it will exhale to like shoot the spines out a little bit more.
00:08:09
David Isaacs
and you'd have to hold it like this, have to deal with that for like five minutes until it smelled you and warmed up to you enough. So it's kind of a cool pet, but not that great.
00:08:22
David Isaacs
We had a bearded dragon at one time. We had day use. We had but ton of stuff. My sister has Guinea pig. She's got four chickens. She's got two dogs, which actually we had to put down my other dog lap last week for, yeah, like a nine year old chocolate lab and, uh, very lovable, very dumb.
00:08:39
Big Dog
Oh, sorry to hear that.
00:08:49
David Isaacs
Um, but he was low energy for a while. And then he started throwing up. My mom took him to the vet. They did his blood work. Nothing was wrong. um Started throwing up and peeing in the house, took him to the vet and said he had a UTI and, you know, gave him some antibiotics.
00:09:10
David Isaacs
And then he kept throwing up like every five minutes. So my mom took him into the, emergency vet and they're like, well, we see some spots on the x-ray, but we don't have an ultrasound machine here. so you're gonna have to take him to this other place.
00:09:26
David Isaacs
So she took him to like an emergency, a different emergency vet and they did a abdominal ultrasound. His blood work came back terribly for his liver.
00:09:39
David Isaacs
And they're like, yeah, I mean, his lymph nodes, his liver has a growth. That's a mass that's stopping the bile from going into the stomach.
00:09:51
David Isaacs
his pancreas is messed up. His, um what is it? Prostate, like lower intestines, like his entire lower half of his body is just full of cancer.
00:10:05
David Isaacs
Like we can do we can do chemo, but best case six to 12 months.
00:10:05
Big Dog
Oh, damn.
00:10:13
David Isaacs
But considering where the mass is at right now, like we're not really sure how long it's going to take. for him to actually feel better. So like his quality of life is not going to get better from doing chemo.
00:10:28
David Isaacs
So yeah, like made the decision to put him down, unfortunately. And my sister has a couple of dogs, one of them being a black lab that she was offering us to take.
00:10:39
David Isaacs
And I don't want to take her because she's kind of binded to the other dog that's there.
00:10:46
David Isaacs
It's tough. it's I feel bad because we're able to do like more stuff, but like more house projects around the house that I've been doing this week. and that um like Leaving the door open, not having to worry. Leaving food out, not having to worry.
Coping Mechanisms and Perspectives
00:11:03
David Isaacs
But at the same time, you miss, you know, the companion or kind of the routine of getting up, taking him outside or taking him for a walk or refilling the water or whatnot. So, yeah, it's been tough because we just had to put down Tucker, you know, near the end of last year. I think that was November of last year. And I didn't even know that I was going in having to put him down.
00:11:26
David Isaacs
So I'm sitting there at an emergency vet at like 2 in the morning having to put him down.
00:11:38
Big Dog
Man, sorry to hear that rough stretch. ah Being a dog parent, and dog caretaker, whatever you want to call it, is not easy. It's like having kids and you know having to lose them or put them down after 10 or 20 years. um It's one reason why like my wife and I haven't really gotten any pets for But don't have really much of a fence around like the exterior or the front part of a house um so obviously it's a little bit difficult to own um that type of pet so um yeah sorry to sorry to hear that that's a bummer
00:12:24
David Isaacs
Yeah, that's all right. i know. lot of people have dealt with it. Growing up, I had... My mom had her dog. It was getting older around the time we had moved here to Westland. So I think I was eight or nine years old when they went to take put him down.
00:12:44
David Isaacs
But we've always had dogs in the house. And yeah they've... however long we had, that was Max. Then we had Samson. We had Oscar. We had another Max. We had Tico.
00:12:58
David Isaacs
We had Chip. We had Tucker. So you're just like getting older. And that's kind of one of the harder ports parts of it is not only your family members, but your pets and everything. So this is the first time I think ever being in this house that we didn't have a dog around.
00:13:15
David Isaacs
it's just weird. And it, it sucks. And, near the end you just want to make sure and start thinking about if they had if you gave them a good enough life if they were loved enough you're always going to have like you know should have should have been around more should have seen him more should have played with him more but yeah i think at the end it's just like you don't really have that choice right so it kind of makes you understand and then um that people are only around for a certain amount of time. I mean, my grandma's getting up there in age. So the day or two after putting ship down, I'm like, all right, I'll bring lunch over to you and my aunt and hang out with you guys for a little bit just because you really never know, you know, when somebody is going to take a turn or, you know, get into bad accident and not make it or whatever. so it just kind of comes with learning.
00:14:14
Big Dog
Yeah. i mean, shifter perspective a little bit here is that, you know, unfortunately had to put it ah dog down, but gives you more time to spend with your grandma and your aunt.
00:14:25
Big Dog
Right. So, um, put more value into that relationship. So you're spending more time with them. So you don't have, you know, might not have those thoughts of, of losing them so soon.
00:14:37
Big Dog
um you know, you just be in the moment and spend, spend time with them and, you know, go over there and maybe do some chores and help them out too. know they appreciate that and it'd make the, the loss of, but was a Tucker. you know, maybe that would
00:14:55
David Isaacs
Tucker was the second last one. The latest one was Chip, yeah.
00:14:59
Big Dog
chip. Okay. Sorry about that. Yeah. Um, the chip, the chip, make that chip loss and obviously Tucker to, make a little bit easier to take your mind off it. So, but yeah, I mean, uh,
00:15:12
Big Dog
It gives you more time, like I said, to kind of open up and put that energy elsewhere. I mean, you can have more time to go golfing. out You don't have to worry about getting up ah a little bit earlier to let them out.
00:15:24
Big Dog
You can just, ah you know, go right at 7 to the green. so the green
00:15:32
David Isaacs
Yeah, I think it is more about just kind of the the reminder, right? The mortality reminder, I think is what we get a lot of times as you get older with aunts, uncles, grandparents.
00:15:46
David Isaacs
And the understanding that they're only here for a set amount of time and at the end, like that's just it. So to be able to spend more time with them and actively try to be in their lives more often than you can and make time because similar thing that what we were talking about, at least for me, I'm not, my time is not structured in a way that's helpful to me and I get overwhelmed on things, you know, so eventually just freeze or I'll work on something that's not even part of what I was thinking about doing in that day, but it just kind of comes down to what I feel like doing.
00:16:26
David Isaacs
and yeah, a lot of times it's not, in the forefront of my brain to go and visit my grandma or my aunt. And if it's not, then I just don't really think about it too often, but it helps with that.
00:16:40
David Isaacs
And, know, having a having a pet's great. Um, having that companionship's great, but the, the time and everything that you spend with them and then getting down to the end and,
00:16:56
David Isaacs
you know, kind of the later age care, it's tough. It's tough seeing them get older, not being able to walk as far as they used to or play or whatever. And, you know, you kind of have to make sure that the care you're giving them is more around what they're capable of doing because,
00:17:15
David Isaacs
dogs are just very stoic, you know, and for the life of me, I don't understand why his blood work was fine ah week before. and then afterwards that it just got so bad.
00:17:27
David Isaacs
I'm guessing that was because of the mass that was growing, that was blocking his bile duct what have you. But yeah, just, you know, kind of offers more of a perspective and it does suck. But like i said, too, it's that mortality reminder.
00:17:42
David Isaacs
And, uh, you know if you have a pet or you have people around you that are getting up there in age, you know, you don't want to have any regrets about not doing more with them.
00:18:00
Big Dog
Yeah, for sure. um so right around in the time that we took our boot camp at the end of 2022, had lost my uncle in May, who was actually my uncle that I was closest to on my mom's side, um Uncle Bill.
00:18:17
Big Dog
He passed away from ah lymphoma. He kind of tried to hide it from my aunt, and just he just had masses that was growing, i think, from his legs up.
00:18:30
Big Dog
And then, you know, by the end of it, didn't take care of himself to be really to begin with.
00:18:37
Big Dog
And then so I lost my job in April of that year and then started a new job. Went to see him in the hospital ah that Monday just because i was on the way to and from work.
00:18:51
Big Dog
ah You know, I told him Monday, i was like, hey, don't do anything. Go, you know, anything crazy. And I want to tell you about my day. Uh, well, you know, middle of the work day, he, the next day he passed away. So, uh, couldn't tell him what i you know, i couldn't tell him about my day, but he was appreciative of me being there at the end.
00:19:13
Big Dog
um so, you know, or some, some years I hadn't seen him, but,
00:19:22
Big Dog
you know, i I, like to think of the positive memories of when I was a kid and he'd always take me to like flea markets and, Our farmers markets up here too, of like looking for toys and cars. He'd always buy me. We'd go to like, uh, the Hazel park.
00:19:38
Big Dog
Uh, there's like a racetrack, um, for, cause he loved cars. Like what the Woodward dream cruise, which is a major event here in Michigan every year.
00:19:49
Big Dog
he that was his event. He would always go that to that every year. So, yeah, I mean, mortality reminder for sure, but I like to think of all the good memories too that but are, I don't think whatever happens to me, um i'm just going to have them. There isn't a day that I don't, that doesn't go by that I don't think of them.
00:20:11
Big Dog
um And then November of that year, so while we were kind of in the thick of our boot camp, my uncle Scott, my dad's passed away, committed suicide or death by suicide.
00:20:25
Big Dog
he just had ah so much pain from a helicopter accident that he had like 40 years prior, um from all the surgeries and the recovery, ah the mental anguish that he had, um'm just couldn't take it anymore.
00:20:42
Big Dog
and then three months later, i lost my uncle Jim. So in a span of about a year, I lost three uncles. So yeah, I mean, um mortality reminder for sure.
00:20:54
Big Dog
Um, but I remember my uncle Jim taught me how to throw a curve ball. You know, he was a all-star pitcher for our church in high school.
00:21:06
Big Dog
Um, I don't, I never really got to ask him why he never really turned pro or try to go to college. I think he was just kind of like in the, that generation of just, uh, hanging out with his buddies in a garage, you know, listen to music loud and drinking beer.
00:21:21
Big Dog
So, um, I think that was kind of just his motivation. He ended up retiring from Beaumont or Corwell few years ago and, you know, just live the party lifestyle, think a little too much and got, and don't know if it was the direct cause, but he got cancer and and passed away.
00:21:39
Big Dog
you didn't want to, he tried to fight it, but, I think he had a DNR and just, he didn't, he just didn't have the fight
Mental Health Strategies and Self-Care
00:21:47
Big Dog
in him anymore. So, you know, uh, never will get to play catch with him again. But, uh, the fact is, is that he was my uncle and I, you know, I love all three of them and think about them every day.
00:22:03
Big Dog
So again, I, from my own perspective, I just choose to focus on those memories to those happy memories that the gratitude of the situation.
00:22:16
David Isaacs
Yeah, well, memories that you have and the time that you spent with them, but they shape you into who you are.
00:22:27
David Isaacs
And not only with the reminder of everybody's time on here is borrowed and eventually it's time to collect, but...
00:22:40
David Isaacs
Also the way that they've lived their lives and things that they did that were more or less like detrimental to their health for my side of the family, which, yeah, there's like lot of alcoholics.
00:22:55
David Isaacs
Um, a lot of people like not taking care of themselves so just a reminder to kind of stay present and cognizant uh each decision that you make is not drinking tonight or eating mcdonald's tomorrow isn't that bad but over time it adds up and you know it continues to be later in life that we talked about before you end up spending more medical bills to just trying to remain functional and all the bumps and nicks that you take along the way and you know that stuff adds up it might not be that big of a deal today but
00:23:35
David Isaacs
As you get older, it's harder to get up. It's harder to stay motivated into doing things and what have you. So it's kind of like trying to be, wanting to be more upbeat.
00:23:47
David Isaacs
I wanted to be more upbeat this episode. So we'll get more into that.
00:23:51
Big Dog
Yeah.
00:23:52
David Isaacs
But I mean, that's just kind of the reality of the conversation, right? It's sometimes it takes you to places and allows you to open up a little bit more. So you know, thanks for sharing that with me and the audience as well, because yeah, it is important.
00:24:08
David Isaacs
The culmination of your mindset, um, and the people around you that have kind of shaped you. So anytime you go to, anytime you go to a race or you go to a flea market or pass by a flea market, I'm sure you think of him and, um,
00:24:25
David Isaacs
you know, the things that you did with your other uncles as well. this Just kind of constant reminders of the experiences that you had with them.
00:24:36
Big Dog
Yeah, absolutely. I drive by the Royal Oak Farmers Market. They always have a Sunday ah like flea market type deal where vendor is set up. And that still goes on every Sunday as far as I'm aware. So every time I pass that, I always think of him, um which is quite often because I live very close to that. But um yeah, the things that make you happy and the things that the memories of what you do are happy. I think this what should,
00:25:10
Big Dog
you know, drive you day to day. I know it's easier said than done, especially two Debbie Downers last week. um So that's why I've kind of focused on
00:25:24
Big Dog
my own mental health, ah rebounding from that. You I've seen my therapist a couple of times in the last week or so. I know that I always joke that I can't afford therapy, but luckily I do have good insurance. um and I've been able to do that. But ah one thing that i one tool i've kind of utilized is um like a gratitude journal, ah you know, writing down every morning and every evening. What, what made me happy? i don't, I don't write down the things that obviously don't make me happy. because It's not the point of a gratitude journal. I, I,
00:25:55
Big Dog
i You know, I, I write, I think I write every week that I do a podcast. Like it sounds stupid. There's I think 5.4 million different podcasts. Everyone's doing one, but I'm happy that I'm doing one. I'm expressing my feelings, uh, you know, doing with a good friend of mine, a business partner will say too.
00:26:13
Big Dog
Um, we just chat. Some of it might just be bullshit, but I'm thankful for that every week. I'm great. Grateful for that. Um, I'm grateful for my coworkers. I'm grateful for my job. You know, I don't want to sit here like I'm sounding like I'm praying or something or praying to Jesus, but it's led me, especially last week after our previous episode, it's, it's allowed me to just kind of
00:26:40
Big Dog
be thankful in a way and, and reflect on ah things that I should be, not necessarily be doing better, but, um,
00:26:53
Big Dog
improving or upping my baseline of like my own mental health and always staying positive. Cause I have, don't want to mood swings, but sometimes I just like overthink things. And we kind of touched on this last last week and I'm trying not to focus on the things that I can't really control on this moment. So think putting it down in the words, um, kind of grounds me in a way that I can just focus, um,
00:27:22
Big Dog
being happy and making other people happier if that makes sense
00:27:28
David Isaacs
Yeah, definitely.
00:27:31
David Isaacs
Yeah, because after the episode last week, I'm like, the setting, it's kind of similar to what I had said last time, is just kind of kind of constant questioning in between am I giving myself a break or if i am I just making excuses?
00:27:46
David Isaacs
But I... started a journal, went on ChatGPT to kind of look at different ways to kind of garnish motivation. and And think I've come to the realization that I don't have a lack of motivation, but I just like get analysis paralysis to a sense of there's so much that I need to get done.
00:28:09
David Isaacs
that I just shut down instead of taking steps to kind of get to where I want to be because I want to do everything all at once and take care of it. But even with that, it's not exactly healthy because I know it's going to come back around.
00:28:24
David Isaacs
There's always going to be dishes to be done. There's always going laundry to be done, stuff to do around the house, ah assignments to do at work. So... So changing that mindset into like, oh, I have to do this today or I need to get all these things done into more of a structured approach into this is what I'm going to do today.
00:28:46
David Isaacs
And taking it from there, I think, is for me going to make large difference. So I've set up weekly tasks that notify me when it's time to start them, when I've finished them,
00:29:00
David Isaacs
To be able to check them off. And i haven't done a lot of those yet, but my goal was to start to do that. So that's what I've focused on doing is setting myself in a way to have a little bit more structure. Say Monday's grocery shopping. When I'm done grocery shopping, and come back home and do the laundry.
00:29:21
David Isaacs
Tuesday is, know, something else. I set the gym up for like Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, sometimes even. So just going to continue trying to fill that out.
00:29:33
David Isaacs
And yeah, the journal thing that I started on a different app and I'm going to look for maybe with chat GPT or something, just kind of get more of a variety of questions to answer.
00:29:47
David Isaacs
Cause I think it is kind of good for me at least to get outside of my own head and answer questions that I don't have to kind of shift my mindset in a way, but allowing myself to think or worry about things for only a certain amount of time, i think has also been helpful.
00:30:05
David Isaacs
I've said, I'd said last week, the timeline on Tik TOK, It's down 15 minutes now. I've set a productivity stop on my phone. So I'm only able to access certain apps between midnight and 10 a.m. m So allowing myself the first couple hours of work just to work instead of looking at stuff on my phone.
00:30:26
David Isaacs
And yeah, just continuing to make these steps and try to find a balance because It's kind of what we we talk about all the time, right? couple weeks ago, your wife and your son were gone, and then you had to adjust for that. Or something happens today. i had my sister's boyfriend's car. He needed a car for a couple weeks, and then I had to go replace the battery because the battery was dead in the car we have. and all this other stuff, it's like, so you kind of have to ease your way into these things just because you can't take it all at once because something else is going to fall out of balance.
00:31:01
David Isaacs
And then eventually you'll find an equilibrium and that equilibrium is you've stopped doing all the things that you tried to take on all at once. The laundry comes back around and you don't do it. Dishes come back around and you don't do them.
00:31:13
Big Dog
Right.
00:31:15
David Isaacs
So instead of doing that, if you just have set things that you want to do, And you take care of those first and then you can move on to other things, but you got to continue just building up to it because, yeah, you look and you learn about, well, if I take time to do this, maybe something else that i was going to take care of that I didn't do.
00:31:36
David Isaacs
So not only putting things in your calendar, but ah things on your to-do list that show up each day, each week. or what have you. um at least as a reminder, like I said, I've gotten the reminders for these things to do them.
00:31:51
David Isaacs
Didn't mean I did them. um I definitely did not do that. Definitely did not do them this week, but that wasn't my, that wasn't my intention. My intention was first step, get this stuff down, get the notifications, see how it works.
00:32:06
David Isaacs
And that's what I've been doing. So yeah, I will get back into the gym. i will, have a better time time management to do things each day. But the changing of my mind, mean, it's been 30 years on earth. So changing around to not only like having to get everything done all at once, those things are piling up too.
00:32:28
David Isaacs
all right. These are the days I'm going to take care of this.
00:32:33
Big Dog
Yeah, um it's obviously good to have goals and to set them, but like you had said, it's you're not going to be able to control everything, right?
Growth Mindset and Learning through Podcasting
00:32:43
Big Dog
You aren't going to be able to control that your sister's boyfriend needed help.
00:32:47
Big Dog
um And so it's kind of like being, ah think it's, Huberman calls it the growth mindset of always pushing forward, um kind of being in flux of You're trying to better yourself, but you also have to give your understanding, and give yourself grace to be able to form these acts.
00:33:10
Big Dog
um And if you take a step back, that's fine. You know, fail. It's first attempt at learning or first attempt in learning. There you go. ah ah Acronym for you.
00:33:22
Big Dog
That you're not going to get the schedule down right out of the gate, you're going to have to determine what works for you by trial and error. I mean, we touched on this last week about kind of similar things, but um really ah the thing that I learned in my career in coding and parenting is that you're not always going to get it right, right out of, right out of the gate.
00:33:52
Big Dog
um You're going to struggle a bit. And like you kind of it said, you know, just getting outside of your own head, the paralysis analysis or analysis paralysis. Um, it's about being in flux, like being adaptable, um, and just not knowing that you're going to be able to control every little element. So,
00:34:17
Big Dog
I think that's what's, especially being a parent, um you know, as much as I'd like for my son to get up at 7 o'clock so he can get to school by 8.15 then pick him up at 11 o'clock and then, you know, make sure that we get him over to my mom's house or to my wife's parents' house on time.
00:34:38
Big Dog
I know all of those things aren't going to get right. They're just going to be days where he's just going to want go outside in the yard and play. He's going to want to do this. He's going to to that. So it's being adaptable in parenting that has taught me that you have to be that really in and life in general. So um
00:35:01
Big Dog
sometimes it's just a perspective shift. And, you know, I applaud you for for doing that. And now you're getting started. You know, Matthew McConaughey says the hardest thing about going to the gym is putting on your tennis shoes.
00:35:13
Big Dog
you know, once your tennis shoes are on go work out. Go get those gains, bro. Big gains, big dog. Big dog, big gains.
00:35:20
David Isaacs
Big dog, big dog.
00:35:22
Big Dog
Big dog. Oh, dog pound.
00:35:26
David Isaacs
No, it's ah you're exactly right.
00:35:27
Big Dog
fun
00:35:29
David Isaacs
And in the similar sense, too, it's like with the podcast, you can't learn. We're going to sit there and we're going to try to learn everything that goes into trying into have a successful podcast.
00:35:42
David Isaacs
How to have great public speaking or podcast speaking or I have a face for radio. How am I supposed to show my face in the podcast? you know you You learn by doing.
00:35:54
David Isaacs
And in doing things, you learn what works for you. You learn if you're present enough, if you've taken enough time to look and you analyze, okay, I'm doing better at this. I'm falling behind on that.
00:36:08
David Isaacs
So I'm going to focus a little bit more on this. And with, you know, putting on your tennis shoes is the hardest part of going to the gym. for I like to look at it like the hardest part is just showing up. Just showing up to and event that you...
00:36:22
David Isaacs
It's said that you're going to in college. The hardest part was showing up to class and the same thing for the gym. The hardest part is showing up or showing up for your job or showing up to whatever it is. It's like once you're there, no matter how bad you possibly think things can be, once you get there, it's not nearly going to be as bad as what you thought it was.
00:36:45
David Isaacs
or doing a podcast, putting yourself out there talking about these things. It's not nearly as bad as what we thought it was going to be because we're just sitting here. We're just trying to get better. We're trying to provide content that people are going to find relatable.
00:36:59
David Isaacs
And in the same similar sense, we're holding each other accountable for the things that we're trying to do and things that we're trying to accomplish. So, yeah. I'm doing better than I was a week ago.
00:37:10
David Isaacs
You're doing better than you were a week ago. And sometimes it's hard to really understand that. and I think what journaling allows us to do is check progress for if you had a bad day.
00:37:22
David Isaacs
Well, what's one good thing that you did today, even though it was a bad day or you had a great day? OK, well, what's one thing you wish you could have done in during that great day? So it's like continuous, you know, looking at things, thinking about things, but allowing yourself grace or time to think about these things and once you're done once you put pen to paper then you're done you're not going to sit you're not going to spiral about this that and the other thing what if that happens what if this happens because stressing yourself out before a situation is allowing yourself to be stressed about it before it actually happens if it ah is actually going to happen right and that's the other part i think about
00:38:05
David Isaacs
been doing these things. And yeah, the development's like, it it sucks. Developing good habits, if you fall out of them, they're harder to pick back up. But the development of those habits, and you start to feel me not going to the gym for a week, I start to feel more anxious. I start to feel more depressed.
00:38:23
David Isaacs
I know if something's missing that my body had been becoming accustomed to doing. When you feel more motivated or if you're getting more things done and all of a sudden you stop doing that, you're going feel the negative effects of that. But you have to know and you have to understand it's because I'm not doing what I used to.
00:38:42
David Isaacs
And it is harder to get back into things because of that feeling, that depressive feeling. But most of the time, it's everything that's healthy for you is not easy and it sucks.
00:38:53
David Isaacs
There's nothing that's healthy for you that's not hard to commit to. it's hard to get up and go to the gym and worry about you know being judged by people. Maybe you're not going to have a great workout. we're not going have this. Like, there's a lot of things you put ah yourself out there. Fear of rejection, like reject getting rejected stuff, but you're never going to know until you actually try. And if not, the the alternative is that you're if it's a sales job, you don't make that sale.
00:39:24
David Isaacs
yeah You don't get closer to your sales goal. get rejected by a girl, which has happened to me many times. I mean, if you need a resident expert on rejection, you just come to me, but you just never know. Cause the alternative is you're going to continue living at your mom's house and having to put dogs down and try to get the feral cat that she brought in the house two years ago to get out of her room. Like, you know, progression in life, it's different for everybody. And I think,
00:39:50
David Isaacs
We continue to sit and talk about these things. It's, yeah, it's not only good conversation, but it's also open. And this is what happens. You know I'm sitting here drinking right now. um Not as much as I would be if we weren't doing a podcast or that I wasn't cognizant of it.
00:40:05
David Isaacs
But it's, it's matter of fact, you know, but I have to cut back on it. And that's another thing that I've been looking to do. Right now, it's it's not great.
00:40:16
David Isaacs
Other things are great. That part's not great. Got to work on it.
00:40:22
Big Dog
Yeah, you wrote up a sales job, which is funny because one thing that sales jobs taught me is that I am fucking terrible at sales. I will never go back unless it's like, you know, the last job.
00:40:32
David Isaacs
Yeah. yeah
00:40:37
Big Dog
on If I have to be an AI salesman for fucking Salesforce, I might, you know, I might consider it. If it's between that and, you know, digging ditches, I'll do that.
00:40:49
Big Dog
I will dig ditches 100% of the time, but um One thing that sales did had ah teach me, you know, not sarcastically is that ah one, you're not going to be able to convince everybody. so it's a psych yourself up before ah to psych yourself out type mentality sometimes. But having good conversations over ah because I was in phone sales. So having good time conversations, keeping it casual, but, you know, always continuously improving.
00:41:22
Big Dog
being consistent, showing up, you know, ah what was the term that we used that? Smile, smile and dial. I think that's a psychotic sales term, but it works. I mean, you know, I would always smile before I i hit call and i was always in a positive attitude.
00:41:42
Big Dog
Couldn't close, but it worked. So it's all about your attitude. It's all about your commitment to that craft, whatever it is, if it's sales, um, don't take my advice on sales. I'll tell you that, but you know, if it's, if it's, you know, starting writing down in general or it's putting on your shoes to go to the gym or it's, uh, you know, even if you think you're going to rejected, telling that girl that you're, you like her or, you know, whatever it is, um, put all of your energy into the the time that you have allotted to
00:42:22
Big Dog
whether it's your like i said Whether it's your job or relationship. And then when you have to move on to the next thing. Do that. and then But break up the time.
00:42:32
Big Dog
And whatever you have in that time slot. You give your all to. and that will lead to a positive mindset. Regardless of the results. Because you know that you tried it at the end of the day. And you gave your best effort.
00:42:46
Big Dog
You put your best foot forward.
00:42:49
Big Dog
i think all of that.
00:42:50
David Isaacs
Yeah, it's
00:42:52
Big Dog
Go ahead.
00:42:54
David Isaacs
all you can do, right? But it it all comes down to a balance. In sales, you can have great conversation. You could have an engaged prospective client.
00:43:06
David Isaacs
Everything looks good, and then they flake. Other times, you could be calling somebody that's been known to – yell at you on the phone, show up to your front door and beat the crap out of you for even suggesting that they buy something for you from you.
00:43:22
David Isaacs
And you give them a call and they're like, oh, hey, yeah, I'd love to buy. You know, and it's the same thing with life. Some days are going to be worse than others, but it allows you to have gratitude for the good days.
00:43:37
David Isaacs
or the work that you're putting in right now and the money that you're saving or the time you're spending on at the gym, the work you've done dieting, the work you've done on mindfulness is going to set you up for dealing with the hard times that come through.
Facing Economic Challenges
00:43:55
David Isaacs
if you get sick and you can't go to the gym, um, you know but You're going to feel bright as rain going back in there. Or you're going to feel if you lose your job and you've done well at saving and budgeting your money, and maybe that house isn't coming anytime soon because you've lost your job, but you're giving yourself enough money to be able to handle through the unemployment.
00:44:18
David Isaacs
And yeah, so it just continues going on and a good mindset, working on ah good mindset when you are having a good time, when things aren't going wrong, there's still things you got to do.
00:44:29
David Isaacs
you know, NBA players, they still practice free throws. You watch people warm up for golf and they still got their coach out there and they're warming up on doing drills that they were doing when they were 11 or 12 years old.
00:44:42
David Isaacs
So you never get out of having to work on the basics. And whatever those basics mean to you, you can't like just suddenly step up from them and think that, oh, I'm all good now.
00:44:58
David Isaacs
I did this, I did that, because you're just going to revert. So you've got to, like at least in my mind, you've got to continue on with like thinking about these things and allowing yourself grace, but loving who you are right now and really falling in love with the person that you could be.
00:45:18
David Isaacs
But you got you still got to love yourself on the bad days, bad weeks, the bad months. If there's one aspect of your life that's not going as well and you really have no control over a lot of people right now that are out of work and they're doing everything that they possibly can try to find a job.
00:45:37
David Isaacs
But you still got to look and you got to think and you got to understand. But I understand it's harder for people without work when the bills start coming through and you don't have money coming in and you're cutting into your savings and what have you. Like you still got show up to that interview and you got to smile and you got to shake the person's hand and you got to give it your best effort because it sucks. But that's just the way life is.
00:46:04
Big Dog
Yeah, I feel like with rejections specifically, or job interview rejection, it's kind of like showing up. You have to pretend that you're absolutely in love with the company.
00:46:18
Big Dog
you have to you know show enthusiasm if you fake it. But... Oh,
00:46:26
David Isaacs
What excites you about cold Stone Creamery, Brian?
00:46:30
Big Dog
ah God.
00:46:30
David Isaacs
What made you want to apply here?
00:46:33
Big Dog
Yeah, yeah, yeah. What makes you want to work at Rally's? Formerly Hardee's. um Or no, it's not. Not formerly Hardee's. Whatever.
00:46:45
Big Dog
What did come before Rally's?
00:46:46
David Isaacs
Checkers.
00:46:47
Big Dog
Checkers. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Anyway, getting off topic with our ah locally sourced jokes. But... um Yeah, it's... I mean... Faking enthusiasm. i mean...
00:47:02
Big Dog
Not obviously a great start, but you should always be well-researched, and that's kind of going back to
00:47:10
Big Dog
of our mindset of always kind of being prepared and in flux because you don't know 100% what someone's going to ask you in a job or interview, um you know, or if they're going to give you a test or not.
00:47:23
Big Dog
Hint, hint.
00:47:23
David Isaacs
Yeah, they're going to give you a test that your buddy referred to you to the job and then he sits there and lets you do it and didn't name out the questions well enough or told you how they want you to do it or anything like that. So you just sit and you flounder and they still haven't even hired for that position yet.
00:47:40
Big Dog
Yeah, sad day. But anyway, there you are. So we, putting your best forward, whether you're actually interested interested in working in a company, know, putting your focus on el least going back to being that influx. I mean, I've done many job interviews because I was unemployed for four months and I know I've talked about this constantly. I'm sure people are sick of hearing about it, but it was a less less traumatic experience. I think that i really kind of had um that I if've if focus on when i you know talk about the the dark times, quote unquote. But um i mean, I had 100... sorry, had 46 interviews, I think, during that timeframe, including first, second, third. you know So I had a lot of rejection.
00:48:30
Big Dog
And each time I would just hang, my my head would just hang lower and lower, but build myself back up, you know smile, smile, and move forward that's all you can really do i mean i know it it's easier said than done each rejection sucks what's even worse not getting a reply because i always tend to focus on those as like an anger outlet of you know at least these people like let me know that like i wasn't good enough for the shitty company and i was kind of and then like but
00:49:03
Big Dog
the job that I kind of wanted, don't need that. They don't even call him back. Don't even reply to a text or an email because they're worried about getting sued. All you have to do is just simply say, not interested. We're done.
00:49:15
Big Dog
And so kind of learning from that of being in flux and it's a job, it's not going to define you, but obviously you need it.
00:49:27
Big Dog
Um, I don't know the questions, but the best thing I can do is prepare hair myself mentally for the range of questions that they would ask. And, um you know, doing this with a smile on my face, even if regardless if it was fake or not, and posting enthusiasm. But I'm putting my best energy in that hour, half an hour time frame that we had for that interview.
00:49:53
David Isaacs
and And don't be mistaken either that we know the job market sucks. I've worked at the same place for three and a half years that I thought I was just going in to get experience and doing something that I can move on to something very quickly. And that hasn't happened.
00:50:11
David Isaacs
There's a lot of people that are graduating from college, not able to find a job, a lot of companies that aren't hiring. There's been a massive shift in companies willing to hire people because evaluations are at high Inflation's up.
00:50:25
David Isaacs
I mean, there's a ton of economic factors go to it, but it just comes down to greed. These companies suck. And more often than not, the job that you don't get is for a manager or for a team or for a company that's going to treat you terribly.
00:50:40
David Isaacs
And I know it's hard to sit there and deal with all this. and And know it's tougher for some people with more... um more at stake mortgage payments rent needs to be paid bills student debt that's coming that you gotta have to pay off and everything else but i don't think it detracts from just making sure that you do have a good attitude when you go in and even if you've been rejected 10 or 20 times at different companies like you still have to
00:51:13
David Isaacs
have that good mindset going in there. You have to be enthusiastic about the company. You have to do your research. You have to show up, put on a smile and be ready for anything that they throw at you.
00:51:25
David Isaacs
If it's four rounds, five rounds of interviews and whatever, like I don't, I wish I could do something about it for everybody because I know there's a lot of people that are out of work or looking for a different job and they can't find anything, but That's just the system of what we've been having to deal with for the last two or three years.
00:51:47
Big Dog
Yeah. ah ChatGPT was at 3.1 or whatever launched in November 22 after we started in September of 2022. So we we've been kind of like the, you know, what's our age group has really always experienced of just hard economic and times, I feel like, more than any other generation.
00:52:12
Big Dog
Like, you know, for the older millennials, we had, you know, there's Black Tuesday when the stock market crashed in 87, uh, nine 11. And then,
00:52:24
David Isaacs
dot-com bubble, housing crisis, COVID crisis,
00:52:24
Big Dog
off of yeah. Yeah. Enron. Yeah. COVID, the great recession, housing crisis, uh, rising stock or, uh, not stock market, uh, rising home costs and, you know, high inflation and,
00:52:43
Big Dog
high interest rates. So, um, you know, if it's one group that is jaded about things, it's maybe our group, but think it is our, uh, what's the word I'm looking for duty to not become that jaded my opinion.
00:53:07
Big Dog
Um, because it's easier to kind of sit in the muck and, you know, kind of build this some sort of entitlement that we deserve to be handed things. And I don't think, I think everyone has to work hard for things.
00:53:22
Big Dog
Um, even when the times are tough and I'm not trying to hark on the people who are, you know, unemployed or anything like that and that you're not working hard and I'm not saying all that. i just wanted to preface that for our listeners out there. Um, but,
00:53:39
David Isaacs
This is a LinkedIn free zone. No toxic positivity when it comes to jobs.
00:53:41
Big Dog
Yeah.
00:53:44
David Isaacs
No one telling you you got to send out 10,000 applications to be able to find a ah position. You shouldn't have to do that.
00:53:53
Big Dog
Yeah. Yeah. My, my, uh, my positivity post was, I, you know, finally got a job after three and a half month interview that here's how I did it. And it was literally just the lyrics to fucking Fort minor. So,
00:54:09
Big Dog
ah and i I don't remember the exact lyrics. I can bring them up in a second, but...
00:54:14
David Isaacs
10% luck, 20% skill, 15% concentrated power of will.
00:54:16
Big Dog
Yeah. 100% reason to remember the name. There you go. Boom! Big dog. Big lyrics.
00:54:25
David Isaacs
Big dog. Come on, big dog. Just give me a job, big dog.
00:54:28
Big Dog
Come on, big dog.
00:54:29
David Isaacs
Don't make me do four interviews, big dog.
00:54:30
Big Dog
I tried, but...
00:54:31
David Isaacs
Don't make me do a test.
00:54:32
Big Dog
I i tried, but they gave me tests.
00:54:34
David Isaacs
Come on, big dog. I don't need that test. Come on, big dog.
00:54:36
Big Dog
i don't I don't need a big test in... Let's see.
00:54:40
David Isaacs
Just hook me up, big dog.
00:54:40
Big Dog
What was the test? What was the test?
00:54:42
David Isaacs
let Let me hold that 401k real quick.
00:54:45
Big Dog
Yeah, I'm going to give you Scantron. Yeah, you want Scantron test?
00:54:49
David Isaacs
Yeah. Give me a fucking Scantron, a hole punch, fucking yeah give me an Ocean's fucking five emotional type shit garbage gunk.
00:55:01
David Isaacs
Fuck everybody. Fuck y'all if you doubt me.
00:55:03
Big Dog
There you go. Let it out. There you go.
00:55:05
David Isaacs
I'm a fucking piece of white trash. I say it proudly. i don't even want this job. I'm out
00:55:13
Big Dog
Fuck you. Fuck you.
Comedians in Podcasting
00:55:14
Big Dog
You're cool. Fuck you. I'm out.
00:55:16
David Isaacs
Yeah, exactly.
00:55:17
Big Dog
Epic.
00:55:17
David Isaacs
But yeah, I wish there was something I could do. But at the end of the day, i got rid of my subscriptions. I am trying not to be as much of a consumer for at least the bigger tech companies. I think they're the ones that are kind of determining what a lot of other companies do.
00:55:37
David Isaacs
But the stock e valuations are so high and companies have, for a lot of part of ah past the dot-com bubble, have been pulling back on the benefits that they give you. They'll pull back on the salary that they'll give you, making you work longer hours. And at the same time, too, for somebody that does have a job and they feel overworked and underappreciated,
00:56:00
David Isaacs
you know, you can push back, but chances are it's not going to really end up well for you. So at least what I've been doing is act for the job that you want, not the job that you have.
00:56:12
David Isaacs
And just doing what you're asked to do. Make sure no one comes down on you. Sometimes there's micromanagers. Obviously there's different situations where you could do everything right and you're still going to get complained at for whatever, but Until that time comes, you can develop good work habits and you can still have good ideas and just don't share them.
00:56:34
David Isaacs
I got a, I got a big old book of good ideas. I ain't telling nobody nothing. You don't pay me like someone that's got good ideas. You're going to get any good ideas.
00:56:45
Big Dog
I got to brain full of bad jokes. That's about it. You're doing better than I am.
00:56:53
David Isaacs
Context, context. I mean, you've you're not living with your mom. You make more than I do. So depending on what you got in your brain, what kind of big, big dog books we got.
00:57:06
David Isaacs
I don't know if it matters that much to me.
00:57:07
Big Dog
Well, coming to coming a comedy stage near you soon. Probably not, but, I don't have time for that. I wish I did. used to be a standard comedian. i'm doing it Now I'm just a podcaster
00:57:22
Big Dog
who occasionally says something funny.
00:57:25
David Isaacs
The bridge to podcasting from comedians has existed since the before times. Over 5,000 years ago, this bridge was put in. and has stood the test of time and is frequented often.
00:57:41
Big Dog
And it was founded on a laptop covered in Joe Rogan's jizz. Sorry.
00:57:49
David Isaacs
Yeah, there's like... I don't know. there's There's like a lot of comedians I don't find that entertaining. But every once in a while, they'll have a podcast clip that's pretty good.
00:58:01
David Isaacs
So it's like, yeah, I mean, if that's the way you can get your material out there, then great. I got to see you in stand up and you're going bomb. Like, it's false advertising. It's false advertising. i'll just say it.
00:58:13
Big Dog
Yeah, I mean, Iron Sharp is Iron, right? So there are definitely comedians, in my opinion, who are podcast funny and not stand-up funny.
Balancing Work and Personal Life
00:58:27
Big Dog
um I could sit here and rattle off, but I don't want to close off future collaboration ideas. But, ah you know... um but that's just a That's just a great thing about media nowadays. You don't necessarily have to be strong in one thing if you want to pursue another.
00:58:45
Big Dog
um you know like i mean, look at... I don't want to say names. There are certain comics who are great for like TikTok or you know vine or whatever. and then they try do stand-up and it's fine an extent.
00:59:02
Big Dog
you know And then there's comics who just really... you know ah crowd work, ah people love the clips, but again, it's just all advertising for whatever main, if they want to do a tour, it's all just advertising. So I'm not going to blame them for doing that.
00:59:22
Big Dog
um Anyway, kind of off track, but you know, ah David, did you want to kind of touch on some of your, your own other goals that you, we haven't talked about yet?
00:59:37
David Isaacs
I think that's pretty much it. I just want to be more structured. You know, I'm hi um high functioning, just not really high direction or good direction, I think.
00:59:48
David Isaacs
So I am able to do a lot and like working that job with Eric. I could work 10, 12-hour days like it was nothing because you're just hanging around, you're talking shit and painting.
01:00:01
David Isaacs
You know, you have one job there to do, but even with doing that, you know, I would be doing it and like, oh, that spot needs to be touched up. So I'd stop, I'd go over that spot, come back. Oh shit, where did I stop at? And like go back. So with that, you still have to remain on task, even when there's something that, you know, speaks out to you about, hey, this needs to be fixed. We got to do something about this.
01:00:24
David Isaacs
But like still keeping it in your mind, like I'll come back to it. I know where it's at. I'll fix it. And The same thing with the doing the goals and that it's like I have something that I want to get done.
01:00:35
David Isaacs
I have something that I'm working towards and I'm trying to find a way to get good direction for it. You know, I don't want to walk out and be like, oh I'm going to the gym. and then realize hey you know this floor needs to be redone and just start redoing the floor in my living room you know so i just need that direction and that's like with uh golf a lot of times and even playing today it's like your swing thoughts like i know these things that i do aren't automatic i have to think about it as i'm swinging and that's what you focus on you can't have too many swing thoughts but if there's one thing over everything else that's what you think about
01:01:14
David Isaacs
So if you have it in your mind or you look at, if I look at my schedule of what I have to do that day and realize, okay, these are the things I'm working on. And at a job, it's a little bit harder because you always have requests coming in, especially me, like things go south.
01:01:32
David Isaacs
Um, And they're asking you for help on things to like get a quick response as much as possible. It's like, yeah, but switching off of something, and you can't multitask. Multitasking is bullshit made up by billionaires that are trying to screw you into thinking that you can do two things at once. Like you shouldn't be able to walk and chew gum.
01:01:53
David Isaacs
I mean, you should be able to do that. But if you're working on something, especially me, and you get a request that's like urgent, Just make sure you know where you're at.
01:02:05
David Isaacs
You take a beat, take a breath. Okay, I was in this cell. I'm at this step on the thing that I'm trying to update. I'll come back to it once I get done with this. But then I got to shift my mind over to, okay, what do we need?
01:02:18
David Isaacs
All right, I'll do XYZ. send a response and you know when i come back to what i'm doing you know pick it back up because i know mentally or if i've written it down this is the step that i was at in the process so it's really just yeah i am very analytically minded i'm very good with numbers very good with math like quick computations about anything but i think for me just i i overthink or i am so confident sometimes that it becomes a little bit of arrogance to think that I don't need to write things down. i don't need to structure things in a way.
01:02:59
David Isaacs
i don't need to basically parent myself. And the other part of me, there's two people that live inside of me. One's an iPad kid and one is wanting to discipline the other one. And that's basically what I've gotten down to and things that I've realized. So yeah, just...
01:03:17
David Isaacs
Just got to keep working. You got to be patient. And, you know, this is me talking to myself, obviously, but yeah, just got to stay the course. You know, it's a ah long road to success and there's a lot of paths that lead to it.
01:03:31
David Isaacs
um But the similar thing that they all share is it all takes the same amount of time to get there.
01:03:39
Big Dog
Yeah, that's one thing that I, I mean, you had mentioned painting and before, it kind of sparked memory or even a desire of mine to work.
01:03:51
Big Dog
I miss working retail. um I don't miss the pay, but I miss, you know, retail. was always something different, always dealing with different customers. sharing different experiences. Cause I worked at a comic book store for seven years. So it's like, you know, you had debates on Darth Vader versus the enterprise. I don't know how that specific one came up, but that was a real conversation.
01:04:13
Big Dog
ah you know, and it's like one day I'm testing a video game system. The next next time doing comic polls, the next day I'm doing eBay shipping. I'm doing the next day, you know, it was something different every day and kind of missed that.
01:04:28
Big Dog
Uh, no you know i multitasking was a favorite thing you know ah created by billionaires apparently. um and just like ah the different different thing each day. um
01:04:43
David Isaacs
Thank you.
01:04:45
Big Dog
you know Not sitting in an office, not being fat and what's the term sedentary or stationary or sitting for 8 hours a day. miss walking around and not having ah giant gut, but, uh, that's regret.
01:05:02
Big Dog
That's moving backwards. That's not practicing what I'm preaching. So, ah you know, I'm going to take all those good memories that I had, like I, we touched on earlier. i touched on earlier with my uncles, um, and use that as motivation to to move forward, champion forward one step at a time.
01:05:21
David Isaacs
Yeah. Yeah, that's it's down to balance too, right?
Nostalgia and Resilience in Life
01:05:25
David Isaacs
So you work a job that you're not as active as you once were, so now you have to work either during your time or outside of the work to you know take a walk, take a bike ride, do whatever.
01:05:37
David Isaacs
So you're getting that during the day. And yeah, it's tough. I had to literally get rid of my office chair because I knew I wasn't going to use a walking pad unless I literally have it underneath my feet right now.
01:05:51
David Isaacs
So... once I, once I learn how to walk and jerk off, um, I'll probably lose like 20 pounds, but it remains to be seen.
01:06:01
Big Dog
And any last thread of needing a woman at all. You don't have to face rejection. there you go. There's your there's your mineships change mind mindset change.
01:06:13
David Isaacs
yeah
01:06:15
Big Dog
Mind shift.
01:06:15
David Isaacs
No, I mean, um I think with that too, it was, you know, it wasn't really a lack of confidence, but it's the same with like thinking about like making a commitment of, you know, having failed relationships and stuff in the past about, am i am I a good person in a relationship?
01:06:35
David Isaacs
Am i communicative? If I have enough empathy for things that are going on. and yeah, I mean, it's, it's a lot of other factors that come with it, but yeah, at the end of the day, rejection sucks and trying to be less fearful of it is hard when you've dealt with it a lot of times. so So, but you just got to keep, keep chugging along, keep chugging forward. And, you know, im just um anyone that's listening, Brian as well, I'm glad you're around.
01:07:04
David Isaacs
So you just, just one more day, one day at a time and keep going.
01:07:12
Big Dog
Well, i I'll take the initiative and say we I appreciate you, David. I appreciate everything you do for me. So, yeah.
01:07:18
David Isaacs
No, thank you.
01:07:21
Big Dog
I don't think we can reciprocate it because I tried getting a job and I didn't know about a test and I didn't explain things well. So, you didn't get it, but I tried.
01:07:32
Big Dog
I'm positive you didn't get it.
01:07:33
David Isaacs
Yeah.
01:07:35
Big Dog
So, I guess that's there's that. Yeah.
01:07:36
David Isaacs
Throw away all other advice we gave you about at least you tried. You're doing better. You're doing this. um You try to get someone a job, make sure you know if they're going have a test.
01:07:48
David Isaacs
Make sure you know what kind of mind state they're in you know it is It is your fault. It's your fault that I didn't get that job, Brian. It's not my fault at all.
01:07:59
David Isaacs
No, i I'm kidding, obviously.
01:07:59
Big Dog
uh there we go but yeah
01:08:03
David Isaacs
But yeah, I have a have a meeting Monday at 10 o'clock with... literally like some fucking 24 year old kids that have founded a company. So I'm looking forward to that.
01:08:15
David Isaacs
How am I going to be 30 years old and be the young kid in the office or the old guy in the office? It's like, yeah, you guys, you guys, you guys never heard of Vans Warped Tour.
01:08:21
Big Dog
yeah yeah
01:08:27
David Isaacs
Come on, bro.
Conclusion: Balance and Positivity
01:08:29
Big Dog
They're bringing it back.
01:08:32
David Isaacs
Yeah, bringing it back to three locations. Fucking one day ticket, probably 300 bucks.
01:08:35
Big Dog
Yeah.
01:08:37
David Isaacs
Go fuck yourself.
01:08:40
Big Dog
It's like Lincoln Park. They're back. But in only like six cities. and it's around the globe. Anyway.
01:08:51
Big Dog
All right.
01:08:53
David Isaacs
I think that's all I had. I think that's... ah We get time to wrap up for anyone is commuting for an hour and 10 minutes, that was the full episode.
01:09:05
Big Dog
There you go. Yeah. ah As they say in the condom business, let's wrap it up. So I had a great time. Felt like we did a little bit more positive this time than our Debbie Downer episode last time. So ah again, we're going up. We focused on or we found what was wrong and we pivoted and think we're better for it.
01:09:28
David Isaacs
Yeah, all in balance each day, just being present and understanding what's going on and give yourself grace when it's needed and try not to make excuses when it's not needed.
01:09:44
Big Dog
Exactly, yeah. Small victories. Go 1-0 each time.
01:09:51
David Isaacs
For sure. Alrighty. Thanks everybody.
01:09:55
Big Dog
Bye, everybody.