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Dr. Umar's Views: A Controversial Perspective on Relationships, 100 Sex Partners in a Day, Sex and Marriage.
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In this episode of the Man K Pao cast, the hosts reconnect after a holiday break, sharing updates on their lives, work, and education. They discuss the challenges of balancing school and family life, the importance of maintaining a positive mindset, and the realities of pursuing a career in cybersecurity. The conversation shifts to the costs associated with car ownership and maintenance, highlighting the differences between dealership and independent mechanic services. Finally, they delve into Dr. Umar's controversial views on relationships, particularly regarding black men dating white women, sparking a lively discussion on societal expectations and personal choices. In this conversation, the participants delve into various aspects of dating and relationships, focusing on cultural expectations, personal growth, and the impact of financial stability. They discuss the differences in dating expectations between black and white women, the role of partners in motivating each other, and the challenges faced in marriages. The conversation also touches on modern dating trends and the silent struggles that married individuals experience. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of sexual desires and expectations within relationships. They discuss the importance of communication, the impact of past relationships on current intimacy, and the role of pornography and masturbation in marriage. The conversation highlights the need for understanding and compromise between partners to maintain a healthy sexual relationship. In this conversation, the hosts delve into various aspects of sexual performance, confidence, and the impact of external comparisons on relationships. They discuss the common anxieties surrounding sexual performance, the importance of confidence in intimacy, and how societal expectations can distort perceptions of relationships. The conversation also touches on the consequences of infidelity and the significance of open communication in maintaining healthy relationships. The hosts conclude with reflections on their discussions and a light-hearted farewell.
00:00Welcome Back and Holiday Greetings
02:00Balancing Work, School, and Family Life
06:02Navigating Education and Career Paths
09:59The Cost of Car Ownership and Maintenance
18:02Dr. Umar's Controversial Views on Relationships
21:11Expectations in Dating: A Cultural Perspective
23:41The Role of Partners in Personal Growth
25:12Cultural Differences in Relationship Dynamics
29:05The Impact of Financial Stability on Relationships
30:52Navigating Relationship Expectations and Realities
32:54Exploring Modern Dating Trends
41:00Silent Struggles in Marriage: A Personal Insight
42:00Navigating Sexual Desires in Relationships
44:59The Importance of Communication in Intimacy
47:58Exploring Boundaries and Expectations
54:03The Impact of Past Relationships on Current Intimacy
01:00:56The Role of Pornography and Masturbation in Marriage
01:02:16Navigating Sexual Performance Anxiety
01:06:39The Role of Confidence in Intimacy
01:10:00Understanding the Impact of External Comparisons
01:12:49The Consequences of Infidelity
01:16:31Closing Thoughts and Reflections
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Transcript
Introduction and Catch-up
00:00:00
Speaker
What's good, everybody? Welcome back to the Mankay Powercast. Been gone for a week. Took a week off. Back for the holidays. Yeah, a little vacay. Yeah, Merry Christmas, everybody. Got my boy Leo in the building today, DJ of Leo. Welcome. I know I still call you DJ sometimes. I know. I know. It's all good. Oh, man. It's what I'm used to. And our regular co-host, our regular. How are you doing? I'm always here. What's going on? Ready to stay. Yeah, he's probably rolling up right now.
00:00:28
Speaker
No. Not rolling up this time? Yeah. Of course I am. What the fuck? Oh, okay, okay, okay. Go. That's not good. What's up, people? Welcome back. Yeah, what y'all been up to, man? Leo? What you been up to, bro? Oh, a lot. Working. Yeah, you a working ass man. Yeah. You know, you fucked me up last night. I was supposed to have a lineup. I'm sorry. I got a full, nice ass suit on and shit. No lineup.
00:00:55
Speaker
I know. I know. I know. He's a busy man. I'm sorry, man. I wasn't busy yesterday. He sounds remorseful though. I'm just busting your I'm busting your balls. It's all good.
Luis' Academic Journey
00:01:07
Speaker
Luis, what's going on with you, man? Where you been? I've been good. It's just, I wish I could be like, yeah, it's been something exciting. I mean, just chilling, working, hanging out with the kids, doing some schoolwork. That's pretty much it, man. just trying to grind grind so when I get older I don't have to work as high that's what I'm trying to do and that's why I'm at bro I felt this school shit I'm in a
00:01:31
Speaker
I don't think nobody gets me. Nobody understands me when I keep saying this because I've started and quit it so many times, but my mindset is in such a different zone right now with this shit. like i am just and when When the week starts for me to get my coursework, my discussions, my projects, my assignments, I have everything done by Sunday and now I'm cool and it's chilling until Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday night. but that's wednesday night like um But when I tried it before, I'm always pushing everything to the very last minute. That Wednesday when we come right back around, now I owe two discussions. I owe two assignments. I'm so locked in on this cool shit right now. um I really hope I stay this way. I hope I maintain. No, no hope you're going to stay this way. You got to keep that mentality. I'm really locked in, bro. I mean, this... ah Good.
00:02:18
Speaker
Yeah, i'm i'm I'm locked in, brother. I'm locked in. You got to stay that way, man, because then a habit becomes a routine and you just keep going. Yeah, that's what I'm telling them myself. know if I'm telling myself, you got a 21 days become a habit or something like that, right? Make it a habit. Yeah. midday they were at five I'm past 21. It's been three weeks. um so that's yes I been i' in good so my forty ah start my fourth week of online school, not this week because we're off this week because of break, because of the holidays, but then next week will be starting the fourth unit. But right now i got a I got a hundred in one of my classes and a 96 point something in the other one.
00:02:54
Speaker
nice hundred and one then motherfucker will give you actually like oh just little still hundred just a hu ah hundred on one oh Yeah, that that class is is communicating with professionalism. So that's really just like that's an easy A. The other one is networking with Microsoft technologies. A bit confusing. I do have to go online to like.
00:03:15
Speaker
When we sit in the seminar courses, the seminar classes is on Thursday night for that, I never know what the fuck he's talking about. So I normally would go to YouTube on Saturday mornings and get the topic of Thursday seminar and typed it into a YouTube bar, search bar. And then I'll let them explain it because YouTube explains it so much better. So many more, much people on YouTube that explain this shit way better, easier for me to understand. Yeah. So I go to them and.
00:03:42
Speaker
It makes it so much, uh, smart though. You do that shit, you know, just like I'll fucking wing it or you just give up on it. You look for another avenue to figure out smart. You got to, got to brother. Cause I'm seeing how much these cyber security guys are making. And i yu I'm trying to, I'm trying to get that security guard, cyber security. Oh, yeah. That's what I'm trying to do. Yeah. How how long is the school?
00:04:07
Speaker
Typically though for a bachelor's it does take about four years. I transferred in 75 credits into Purdue Global. So that plus the fact that I'm still taking five other courses through Sophia and study dot.com.
00:04:22
Speaker
I will only owe them like a year, a little over a year of school but like but what could happen and I can have my bachelor's degree. i Okay. So hold on. You can actually get into cybersecurity at like the base level with just
Education vs. Career in Cybersecurity
00:04:37
Speaker
our certificate. Yeah.
00:04:39
Speaker
Yes. What he's doing is he's like taking like five steps ahead, which is not a bad thing. Yeah. He just doesn't want to start at the bottom. He wants to be a fucking head of everybody. I think the thing is, the obvious the thing about the certificates for me is that I will try to force myself through it so quickly just to get see sister say I got the certificate that I won i won't retain the information. now So that's why I would rather go the degree route and plus at the end of a day too. I feel like it'd be easier for me to get that beginner position.
00:05:11
Speaker
showing, Hey, I got this, I got a bachelor's in this shit as opposed to I got these certificates that I forced myself through and I really didn't retain any of the info on. yeah So, I mean, yeah, that's just the way it's gonna, it works out for me. Cause even the Sophia, like what'd you say?
00:05:28
Speaker
think i've put a dode on my na shall put the best time Oh, yeah. Yeah. Cause even the, um, what was I going to say? Um, even the, uh, the Sophia courses, I'm forcing myself straight through them because i'm I'm like, I just need to get, I got to get the credit. I just want to credit. I mean, I'm taking statistics right now through Sophia.
00:05:48
Speaker
yeah And I'm just, I'm tap, tap, tap. I'm cheating. I just need to create it like i just love the Am I really going to use to statistics to that much? I've realized we use statistics every fucking day in my job. Hell, even as a mechanic in your job, you just don't think about it. You don't know the actual.
00:06:10
Speaker
ah Formal formula and shit for all of it, but as I'm going through some of the stuff I'm like I do statistics all the time I don't even know it do I really need this school do I really need to do this to say that I know statistics because you can't already do it so Pretty much the course is is pretty much saying that you understand the basis of it Yeah, because I'm assuming I didn't take the fucking course. i It is introduction to sta statistics. Oh, yeah, you get the basics Yeah, so school is fun. I'm enjoying it I'm, um, ah I really love, I do, I do like my job though. Even yesterday I met my, um, my company party and I'm like, man, I, I work for a pretty good company. That's a good feeling. That is definitely a good feeling.
00:06:53
Speaker
Like that that fucking holiday ball I went to, Louis, I mean, not Louis. Leo, I'm telling you, bro, you really enjoyed that shit. I'm like, man, Leo missed out, bro. This is some bougie ass white shit right here, bro. I was just going to say, first of all, real bougie shit. You know, bougie ass white shit, dude. Cocktail hour, free bar. I mean, they got like five bars around this bitch. Damn, you missed out, Leo.
00:07:17
Speaker
Big-ass nice ballroom women a lot of people bringing in their daughters. You could have met your little well but little still know Yeah, you could have met your little frozen princess i say you could go a Snow bunny man. Damn. So ah yeah, it was nice though ah But I'm also saying like damn next year. I gotta bring my wife to this This is too nice not to bring my wife to Yeah, and ever seen everybody how so many other people able to bring their wives. I'm like damn my wife should have been here Cause I got bad wife too. Next time. If I'm there next year, if I'm there because a part of me with the schooling too, I'm thinking, Oh, if I can get enough education and start me a LinkedIn and probably get a little, little tiny certificate or something, if I could find me a job, it level intro of it, which is a good place to start before cybersecurity. I don't know where I, I don't know if I still be here next year or not. I want to be.
00:08:13
Speaker
Well, there's plenty of companies that will pick you up as like a rookie because they want to teach you their way. so they Yeah. So you're used to their systems. Yeah. maybe Stay with them. So yeah. So there there's a chance. That's why. Don't get me wrong.
00:08:29
Speaker
getting get a bachelor's degree is good, but there's still that chance where you're going to get that fucking phrase that I still don't understand. you know Oh, you're overqualified. Are you fucking kidding me? but But see, you know your mechanical shit though. You know a car inside and out. I don't know cyber security inside and out. What you're doing is the right thing to do, trust me. Lowest fuel mechanic? Your fixed car?
00:08:55
Speaker
That's usually what mechanics do. Yeah. I've been a car mechanic. Yeah. I've been for both almost 25 years. So you don't fix BMW. I can work on anything. So Bryson, really? You never say anything that I've been taking my car to be on that view again. Remember I'm all the way up in fucking, uh, where I work is in Danverso. Well, that's supposed to be, I'm a natural buddy. Oh, okay. All right.
00:09:23
Speaker
Yeah, I'm right here in Nashville. Oh, my bad. I never even... What y'all have met before? I actually live in Baltimore too. I live in Baltimore that close to y'all. I was at Nashville today because of my parents' house. I don't understand how y'all never got to talking and he got to saying, yo, I'm in this and I do that. I've been doing it for a long time. Yeah. But also... I don't know which guy for like 10 years too. I'm surprised he didn't say anything because he's brought his car to me too a couple of times.
00:09:48
Speaker
Who? Leo? You!
Challenges of Vehicle Maintenance
00:09:49
Speaker
Oh yeah. But see, i I also know I've talked to you before about specialty vehicles and you've told me that BMW, you're best to take your car to a BMW specialist. and It depends on the scenario. I wouldn't just say, just bring it to a specialist. Okay. Well, I miss you. Well, the okay. hopeful First of all, I think it might've been the context of the question because you asked me if i don't know the exact language you it might have been somewhere when i was talking about my jeep and i think i looked at them both the same way like ah you told me if i want the best. If i want to get the right fix done the right way for my jeep hey take it to a jeep dealer.
00:10:25
Speaker
Yeah, just because they know the most of them. Yeah. Yeah. and In reality, a Jeep was a Jeep that they're fucking, in my opinion, hunks at junk, but that's just me. I agree. But BMW, BMW is a good cars, but they're from like a mechanics point of view, they're overengineered. They're not hard to work on. They just, there's a lot more steps to do certain repairs. Yeah. So that's why I usually say if don't bring it to someone who doesn't know how to work on BMW, because they will fuck it up.
00:10:54
Speaker
Yeah. Any person, not any person, but there's a lot of people that can take shit apart and put it back together. It doesn't mean they put it back together in the right way. Exactly. So certain cars, like a guy who's been at Honda for fucking 20 years could definitely work on every Toyota.
00:11:10
Speaker
Would I give him a BMW M3 to work on? Fuck no. Because the he can probably understand it, but I'd rather give it to the guy that has experience with it because it'll get done right and he knows like certain wear patterns. through so you know That's why yeah certain vehicles goes to someone who what i would call a specialist.
00:11:29
Speaker
I think Lewis had a $400 light bulb problem yesterday, right? Yeah, it was me. They just wanted, you just needed your bulbs replaced. Am I right or wrong? Yeah, in the parking lot. So I took it to be in that view and they'll tell me.
00:11:44
Speaker
They didn't give you two fingers. They gave you, they were trying to give you the fist. I think the total, the total was like 218. I mean, 418. And I was like, well, I'm not going to do that. So, cause you know, it was cold outside. I didn't want to do it, but I went to, um, um, I about $21 for both light and dated under one hour. All right. But here's, all right. So here's my thing.
00:12:10
Speaker
I tell this to everyone, if you want a nice car and you don't want to repair it yourself, be prepared to pay a lot of fucking money. even don' Go to the dealership. I know plenty of people that own garages and they're like, Oh, you got a nice car means you got money. Guess what?
00:12:25
Speaker
now he tax a little bit more money yeah you think i'm lying a lot of people will do that and especially if you own the car you gotta to go to the dealership if you don't know what the fuck you do but i guess it leo was with it though they felt like well you got to bmw you know what it takes to take care of a bmw so you're You're already prepared to pay my price to put your bulbs in to do your breaks to give you a ah you know quarterly service and shit, so Yeah, for like one of those for like the average card like luxury brand the average one It's about a hundred and eighty to two hundred dollars an hour to get your car work done. That's crazy you bring it to the dealership
00:13:06
Speaker
Yeah, yeah i keep dying for the luxury and that's why I told you keep all don't buy it because it's working nice and you can afford it you better be thinking about the the maintenance because the maintenance will kids a lot of people i'll outll I'll say that I have my 320 for about four years now I'll say for 2019 and I'll say the out my opinion I think this is three is like the best BMW and w Never have any problem, but I'm about to switch to the X2 M35 next year. So hopefully it's better. But yeah, like the car is one really, really good. So no problem. Like any, like lowly tires, brakes, uh, oil change. So that's it. How many miles have you put on it? If you don't want me to ask. Uh, well, I bought it at 160 right now. It's at 140.
00:14:00
Speaker
What the fuck, you went down? 116, I think he said. Oh, oh they said 160. I was like, damn, man, how'd you go down? No, no. All right, so 160 is that 140? Yeah. And you've owned it for how long? Almost five years now, so about 2019. Oh, so you don't drive a lot. and I do.
00:14:20
Speaker
Wait, do what what did you, what was the mileage when you bought it again? 60. Oh, 60. I thought you said like I was 60. Because the number I was having in my head, it was like 30,000 miles. That's not a lot. I would never buy a BMW with $106. That's a problem right there. That's a lot of driving. Anything above 100K, unless you have like proof of that thing being baby, do not buy it. Yeah. So that's like 80,000 miles in four years.
00:14:49
Speaker
Five years? That's a lot of driving, isn't it? That's a lot. Is it mainly highway, Leo? You driving? Yeah, my sister's house here and there. Highway miles. Highway miles is the best for cars. As long as you're not doing, the best thing to do is that I'm really about speed, don't get me wrong, higher speed will wear stuff out. It's mainly about like engine RPM. If you're ah like driving on the highway and you're between 2,500 and like three grand, you want to be closer to 2,500. That's like optimal performance and like less wear on the engine where you get the best guy's mileage, but you're not causing aggressive wear.
00:15:25
Speaker
Before, let me ask one more question. As long as your engine's up to par. If you're fucking leaking three quarts of oil, that shit don't apply to you, stupid. Fix your car. Let me ask one more question, folks, before we get into our topics we've got for the day, because I probably lose a lot of you women that tune into this show.
00:15:40
Speaker
Right. Car talk. but um Sorry, ladies. So is that really what it's about when, cause I've heard a person say, yeah, I'm selling my car. I got this many mouths on it, but they're all highway mouths. That's the proof of that thing about it. Like highway mouths are quality mouths. Yeah. Because it's, cause think about it this way. When you're just driving on the highway, right? You're not slowing down. When you're slowing down, you're using your brakes, you're wearing them out.
00:16:08
Speaker
And then if you're not using your brakes and you're just like letting the car slow down, you're still actually causing premature wear on your engine. Just normal driving conditions causes wear on the drive train. So when you're constantly stopping and going, it causes more rather than just a continuous st drive. So my scion would be considered good miles because most of my mileage is coming from going to and from work 30 miles each day.
00:16:37
Speaker
So how long is the drive? Look at it that way. The drive takes me about 45 to 50 minutes. Okay. There and back. So there, 45, 50, come back is probably more close to it now. So as long as your car, as long as you're driving and your RPMs are not sticking at 3000 RPMs the entire time, then yes, that's better highway driving. I'm going to be looking at my RPMs tomorrow.
00:16:58
Speaker
You can tell. You can tell by the way of the car. It sounds better, it reacts better, but it's it's a little bit more beating on your car. If you take care of it, you know, it will last, but that's not normal driving conditions. You want a 2,500 and below for best. You could drive the car the way you want, but like me, I beat on my car, but I also changed the oil sooner. I check all the intervals. I do a bunch of add to those and all that stuff to take care of it.
00:17:25
Speaker
i know what Three years ago, I went to change my oil at BMW and there was like a deal going on. And I think I feel like 100 something for the oil change. And the deal was in three years, I'll be able to get oil change without pay. And I've been using that. So it's expired next in March 2025. So I've been paid forward for like three years.
00:17:49
Speaker
Sick. Yeah. I need that kind of deal. See, that's cool. and deal Because that's all in the dealership too. Dealerships will do life special or stuff like that. My dealership will randomly just send $10 coupons to customers. like hego you know thatly know they expensive Hell yeah. That's what you said. $100 for oil change. i was I was thinking that's not that bad. If you went to BMW, it's really not that bad. It was want charge you a the deal So who is, sorry people, we're going to get to the shit now. Get to the shit.
Interracial Dating Dynamics
00:18:23
Speaker
Who is familiar with Dr. Umar?
00:18:26
Speaker
i'm I'm sure I've probably seen something, but I'm not by name, no. You, uh, DJ? I ain't legal. Yeah, yeah. But I don't agree to a certain thing that he usually say sometimes. Yeah, he, uh, he is very, uh, pro-black. Yeah. Oh, man.
00:18:43
Speaker
don't date white women as a black man. yeah goes on I still want your input, you're safe. I still want you to be on the statement that I'm gonna make here. He's a very pro black um doctor and I don't know I haven't read that much into him I've only listened to a few of his interviews I just see that he is really strong on
00:19:19
Speaker
He doesn't like to see black men dating white women. Oh, come on, man. This is not the fucking 20s. Like, come on, man. He thinks that ruins. Yeah. He says he think that says a lot about you as a black man. So I'm going to play this clip from an interview. He never slept with a white woman. I slept with both. He probably did in a white woman.
00:19:40
Speaker
I've slept with both and trust me, they both have their own levels of pros and cons. We'll just say that. Tell us about his voice. That's another episode. let me there's another episode I'm going to play it in the mic. I'm going to play it in the mic. Hopefully it comes good clear enough, everybody. And then we will speak on this subject. So here I go.
00:20:03
Speaker
A big difference between the Snow Bunny and the African Queen is the Snow Bunny will find a black man in progress. She will find him on the job. She will find him on the university. And that Snow Bunny will see a black man with potential and she will invest in him. She will help him level up. And then when the sisters see him five years ago, five years later, he's a millionaire. And it's just to say, look at that sellout. He went and got a white girl, but guess what?
00:20:30
Speaker
When he was looking for a sister to help him level up, to invest in him, none of them wanted it. You know why? Too many black women want a finished product. Black women have to stay with me. Black women have to stop expecting men to be a finished product. It's harder on us. Help him level up. Stay with me. Help him level up. And become what you need him to be. Because the big reason why these snow bunnies are running off with black men is they're meeting them when they have nothing but they believe in their vision. And black women are waiting for him to cross the finish line. And by the time he crosses the finish line, the snow bunny didn't snatch them already. i
00:21:11
Speaker
Do you want to start with me? I don't i want to start with you. What do you think? Do you think black women typically will not give a black man a chance if he is not already a finished product?
00:21:27
Speaker
I do believe that because I do talk to a lot of black women sometimes. And then it's just like, they'd be like, you know, if you don't have money, like to take them out, like when they want to go out, they want to go. Like they were not going to settle for like a coffee date.
00:21:43
Speaker
Like they think that's cheap. you bought i want talk dinner five It's got to be something, it's got to be something expensive. And I think more with a white woman is like, Hey, you want to go to a coffee? there They don't care about where you'll take them. You know what I mean? It's like, yeah, like my brother recently took a girl out and he didn't know she don't want that book the day in the bills, like $700.
00:22:08
Speaker
Mmm, and that was at the encore but all town You know what I mean, it's like so my first date's a basic for me so my first has got a be basic now i don't if even know what i told i don't even want to do they I want to just like do you want to come over I'll cook for you and if you like it, we'll give you the second and I'll take you out and I'll pay That yo, mm-hmm Because I don't want to go out because at the end I'm paying for someone I don't even know. I'm just trying to get to know you. that you yeah i started ah I've thought of that too, but then I've been lucky, man, and get that one crazy motherfucker that knows where you live. So you are are you doing your take on it, Leo? Yeah.
00:22:49
Speaker
Louis, what do you think? You as a white guy, how do you view this? do you From the outside looking in, do you think that some of what he says is true or it's all bullshit? Yeah, no, there's some that is a lot of that is true, because I'm not going to lie, what with my ex-wife, she was constantly pushing me to fucking further my knowledge about cars.
00:23:08
Speaker
She was constantly what should we get you know trying to get me to open my own shop for a long time. So yeah, I do believe that. And I know actually a couple of friends I was in school with that one opened his own electrician company. The other guy opened his own masonry company because of their wives. push and wrong They're still doing 100%, 90% of the stuff and their wife's helping them along like a good partner should either way. But yeah, I do know a couple of instances where people have that been pushed in the right direction. ah you're You're speaking on that as men that are in relationships with white women and seeing how they are trying to push you to become a better person. and Yeah. And that's what you're saying? Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I get that. I'll say a black woman more like
00:23:55
Speaker
call your name, like kind of disrespect. Like if you don't have money, the respect is not there. And both of them that I have, both of them I've, so I won't say their names out of respect because they're in high level jobs and I don't want to fuck with them like that. Um, but I do know one is in, um, he's five or six year relationship and the other is in like a seven or eight and they've been both.
00:24:18
Speaker
I don't I don't really want to go into too much detail, but they've been in in good standings and just pretty much pushing the whole time. And it's pretty much, and prior to that, they were both in relationships with black women and ended up going the other way. Because they weren't already finished projects. I didn't know the detail from there, but a little bit of talk was kind of pushing that direction. still So to hear this guy say it, yeah.
00:24:44
Speaker
but and i was like oh say yeah go ahead lou I'll say that so there's a difference because I know he's talking about like I'm from another country and he's talking about like black women but there's different black women that live in America. ah oh yeah Black women that's like born and raised here is different than black women who come from a different country and their mentality like their family more is different than the African American you know here.
00:25:10
Speaker
So I would wear the date of black women that's from but another country that came here, then the black women that was born and raised here, like African African immigrant. If we're talking about that, I'd rather as a single man, I'd rather date any woman from another country if I had the choice from here. Seriously? Yeah, they're spoiled. And those women over there, they they will love us. yeah Do anything for us. Your meal will be cooked, your clothes will be folded, motherfucker, your bathwater will be ran, your lunch will be made. Exactly.
00:25:45
Speaker
And a when you wouldn't have to fight about it because that's how they're brought up. And they appreciate you more, too. Yeah, definitely. But um as far my thought on it, though, is I feel like both women are this way. I think colored women and white women are this way. yeah But I do believe it does primarily come from black women.
00:26:06
Speaker
I don't know why black women are like this. I can speak it on mine. I do know why, by the way. It's like save the comments. Save the comment. But I mean, because when I met my ex-wife, we were both in the same spot. She was working odd jobs here and there. Dunkin' Donuts, Forever 21, Hilliard's Chocolate.
00:26:29
Speaker
And I was working at a factory, the glue factory with Leo at Henkel, you know, making my little $9 an hour, her making her $7 and something an hour. And we were just making it work, but that's when we were both in the same place in life.
00:26:44
Speaker
As soon, and I'm not going to say that this is the the only reason because there was a lot of the shit going on, which I've mentioned in previous episodes, but as soon as she finished school and had her master's degree and was definitely could say she is in a better position than I am because I'm unemployed and I'm still trying to find my way.
00:27:04
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And she now has a master's degree. I became the bomb, the one that ain't gonna be able to do anything if I lost a woman like her, you know? oh my god And it became that whole it became that whole shit show. So it's like, yeah, i feel like I feel like, yeah, what he's saying is somewhat true for black women. My my wife now, white woman, met me working at a grocery store. Do do i do I believe that At the end of the day, my ex-wife now, as a master's degree holding um close to 100K making motherfucker, would she take me at a grocery store?
00:27:41
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out Hell fucking no, I don't have any fucking chance. My wife now, white woman, she has a master's degree, she makes close to 100K, and she was okay with taking me because she saw who the man was, not where the man worked. Exactly. And she's she's she's been able to see too over the years, okay, he's he's steadily making progress every year. Every year he's still trying to push for a higher paying job, he's still trying to work and become a better man for this family. She's accepting the project.
00:28:11
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and the black woman most times, a lot of times I'm not going to say, I'm not trying to imply that it is all you black women and I'm not trying to regard this only black women, but it is primarily you black women that do not want to take a man that you feel like needs work.
00:28:28
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Yeah. You don't. Don't lie to yourself. But because I don't there's no fucking way. I mean, when I was like Louis, I mean, like Leo said, is like when I was doing my dates before I met Julia, I'm as I'm doing coffee dates. All those were white women. The color, the one black girl I went out with, Texas Roadhouse. You know, I'm just I'm just saying, you know, yeah I'm just saying it. Coffee days, Texas Roadhouse. That's $10, $50.
00:28:59
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It's a difference. I mean they're just looking for a different type of man and they don't want to put the time in to get ah get a man that they can see has good qualities and and build them up to a certain level. my wife My wife now has been there for me. step She she's stuck by me, she's helped me. She's still, yeah, she's the breadwinner around here, but she knows what I'm capable of, and she's standing by my side until I get there. Exactly. So that's all I gotta say on that. And she don't belittle you. I feel like when you're doing less, and I've been in a relationship like that where, you know, my last relationship, my ex was making more money than I am, and the thing is, every little chance that she'll get, like, belittle me,
00:29:38
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Like, oh, I'm, you know, like I don't need you. I can't do this by myself type of way, because, you know, they know that they can do better. No matter what, like, you know, they got a better job, you know, they don't need you. So I would say that, but this respect is crazy. It is, it is very, it is really crazy. Like I don't i understand why you get enjoyment out of calling the guy. I mean, i'm I'm still the man you've had your, um, had your children with.
00:30:06
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yeah exactly now I'm a bum piece of shit no women is gonna like a man like you you're not gonna be able to find the woman like me but I did though I did the right I didn't find a woman like you I found someone different as well wanty I'm implying that i I found another educated woman. Like, you're not the only educated woman and in the world. But, uh, bitch, that's just my story. And that's just my story. Um, you know, there's a, there's a truth. There's a lie. There's my story. There's my side, her side, and the truth. There's always going to be that and everything. So keep that in mind, people. I don't know. le Leo's recording stopped. I'm not recording. I just started playing a gun game.
00:30:52
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oh okay so um anybody got any more input on the uh the umar comment how y'all feel about that I am curious to know because, um, I know most of the women we've had on this podcast have been white women. I think it's been, uh, one Hispanic girl, she was there a couple of weeks ago and I don't think I've had any black girls on here. Besides the ones that were with Kate at that time. But, uh, I think they're black. I think they were all either Spanish or Dominican. Sorry. that's right I think so. I would, I would like to know how a lot of you guys to want the white women that have been on here.
00:31:31
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Or you the Hispanic, the Dominicans, or whatever, how y'all feel? do you Do you feel like you've given guys with who you know are beneath you as far as finances and instability and to build in life of chance? And the white women who've been on here, do you feel like, yeah, I'll give a guy a shot just because he doesn't work the best job doesn't mean he's not a good guy.
00:31:52
Speaker
he can be a good guy not make a six-figure salad i feel like it would just like it would have to boil down if let's just say it was that scenario can almost predict what an answer would be from them um it's probably gonna they're probably gonna say well it depends on his ambition if he's a gold Yeah, yeah yeah you know you be a Verbal a verbal go-getter like yeah, I'm definitely gonna do this and then he's back chillin You know the only person I feel like wouldn't be like that is Tiffany I think I I think Tiffany would give a guy a shot Oh Tiffany do I do not hit a fucking? like back but unless you would i feel like yeah Yeah, she's the only one I feel like would the other ones I feel like would have a
00:32:37
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I feel like we've had them on the show before and they've already answered this question, but in a different way. Yeah. Cause we've asked it before when we had that panel where we asked to do the panel is fun, man. if but yeah Everybody's scared now. They don't want to come on. This is a big deal. Have y'all heard about the ah the lady who is a.
Extreme Publicity and Personal Impact
00:32:58
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Fucked a hundred men in one day on OnlyFans. First of all, can I be first? No, I'm not being first in this conversation. I just want to be the first of the hundred. Dude, that's what I mean. Not even that. What about the guy that's standing like 12? You know, he's trying to sit there and just, dude, not even that, right? Like that.
00:33:21
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i inline is like this because i say i see i like a youtube doctor that' like could imagine you know that we at least like ten of them deep but just sit there just winking off just wait i gotta make sure he stays hard guys I'm sorry. Like what the fuck man? We're staying in the line of guys. What's wrong with you?
00:33:39
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I really hate that I didn't watch the doc. Somebody did a documentary do on YouTube of her easy and um they documented the experience. And I guess she really got her feelings turned over at all because they were like, well, how did you feel about it? or She's like,
00:33:54
Speaker
You know, she really got started tearing up at some point. I like to see the whole thing. I just saw the ending. And that's what I saw. Hey, bitch, you wanted to fuck 100 dicks. Dude, it's fucking... And then she was offended that some guys felt like they didn't get their money's worth because she was... I guess she was sort of like rushing them. Like, we got to go. I got 100 dicks. I got 99 more dicks to sit on. I can't be here all day. I would so i hope her dad is not alive.
00:34:17
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Of course he is, man. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. It's crazy. Imagine this poor guy watching this doff 100 megafuckers. Why? Why? Why? Jesus Christ. Dude, you want to fucking do that? OK, but why the fuck are you blasting it on the Internet? Like, yeah, that's you the rest of your life. You're that woman. You're the 100 dick woman. Wait till she get, like, 50. Oh, fuck, man. See, when she's, like, 40 and 50, she's going to, like, stop looking for good men, you know, settle down.
00:34:47
Speaker
Nobody's gonna take it serious. No, there will be bro physically Bro, if you if you just I don't want to get in trouble for saying this but whatever it's if you just say shut up Just tell her to shut up and then just look at her. She's not a bad-looking woman. I never thought no she's not a bad look Stocking you like ah fuck. It's the hundred guy. It's the hundred dick woman Yeah, so you're gonna think about she broke even if they just went in once it's it's still visualize that 100 different eggs 100 different dicks have witness i Not in your life in a day in a 24-hour time span so that means within an hour. She had somewhere around like Fucking what's the math? on you so What's the math? I'm depends how long it took to do it is to give you a total of how long
00:35:39
Speaker
Well, I mean, we can do, we can do the math or the math to give you the answer. What does it really mean? You divide it by 24. You're saying it was two minutes, like not even a couple of puns. So that's about four dicks per hour. That gives you about that. So that means one dick every 15 minutes and you're probably, yeah ah you're probably using five minutes to fuck and 10 minutes to shower and get yourself cleaned up for the next dick. I No, I was just going to say, baby wipes.
00:36:06
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I almost guarantee there was more than a couple guys that fucking busted him out within that 15 minute mark. Can you imagine her face under a blue light? That means. aren
00:36:18
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my but it's like my bed That is as wild. That's fucking wild. Would you be in the lineup? No. You said you'd be number one. I wouldn't sign the fuck up. want be yo on you i've left i unless I'm the first one.
00:36:39
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you know what listen see in the face five just to see your face like you're getting it bit um the first one I say being the top five because I mean, bro, you've been you've been the neck the second or third guy that woman's been had within a one to two week span before. Whether you know it or not, you have been.
00:36:57
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Now here's a question, right? What? How is it set up? There's a hundred guys, right? So obviously I'm thinking military wise where it's like snake formation, you know what I mean? So did like every guy had point of view and just seeing this one set ellipse just get destroyed for five to so minutes. Another 99 rolls in. Damn, damn, man. He's the one fucking time sitting in the back. I really gotta watch the Dada because I didn't know how it was set up. All I know is that she did get a room at a hotel and was there for the whole four hours. And I guess they all came in one after one, after one, after one, after one. So I'm sure like towards at one point and another, you're just watching the fuck out of guys. You stick the tip in. That pussy is wrecked. It's done.
00:37:46
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Yeah. That pussy probably swollen and red by... When was it? Yeah. Oh, man. Nah. Yeah, I know, too. These guys, they feel like they're fucking one of their dream bitches, so they're not lasting long years. Yo, because they they're just seeing, like, a snapshot of... I bet you one of them probably is like, I gotta eat it, too. You know, you know, yeah well you know, i bet you I bet you it did happen i dont sal you Did happen and it was guy number nine my yeah i ah sonay walk me
00:38:19
Speaker
That's fucked. Honestly though, let's just say it was number one. When it was all said and done, I'd be like, I fucked it first and every one of you guys fucked my dick. Fuck you guys. He'd be like Ray J when he fucked him. Ray J was definitely not first. Yeah, but you know, he brought he dropped that track after. Yeah, but he was definitely not first rapper.
00:38:43
Speaker
No, it was the first mainstream guy to hit that pussy publicly. No one else before it hit who Kim came. Oh, okay. Okay. You seen the Ray J sex tape, ain't you? Yeah. yeah as is the Nice boy, man. She got it. She was good looking before she went all fucking crazy. Oh, you're good. Surgery bitch. Yeah. You got to shut the fuck up. You know, the I don't think that ass is real. You think that ass is real? No. It's not real. It's not real. You could tell. they Bro. You could tell natural. You could tell natural. You can't tell natural. You go to the gym. Come on now. You know when the legs don't match, the tight thumb guys and stuff like that? If she got that perfect ass and she doesn't have the toned legs, come on. There's no fucking way you're hitting that muscle group. Yo, I'm not no fucking gym freak.
00:39:31
Speaker
But I know for a fact you ain't getting that round of an ass without your thighs looking like fucking guava melons, bro. That's a good thing, though. Yo, like you what the fuck's her name? I saw her on fucking today. um One of those Disney stars. Now she's a grown mom looking so fucking hard as hell. Hold on. Hold on. Hillary Duff.
00:39:53
Speaker
Dude, hell yeah. Bro, if you're a guy and you listen to this right now and you haven't seen her lately, you got to look her the fuck up because I didn't like gym mommies. I like gym mommies now because holy fuck. Wait, you didn't like gym mommies? Well, not the super buff ones, bro. What the fuck? Leo, you're a buff motherfucker, so no homo. But you know what I'm saying? I understand why you like the gym mommies. I don't. It's not me. Yeah, she's a... Well, it's the best. So much muscles definitely. I like gym girls.
00:40:23
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You know, gym mommies, you know what I'm talking about. They're like, they got bigger traps and shit. Yo, fold my ass in half. So there's bigger than mine. he's stu yeah Had to go search it real quick. Okay. y Um, the final thing though, we're going to get on tonight.
Sexual Dynamics in Marriage
00:40:41
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Uh, these are the, I saw this interesting list on Facebook of the silent sex struggles married people go through.
00:40:49
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Now, I've been married now twice. Lewis has been married once. Uh, Leo, you were damn near married. You were engaged. Um, so... God saved me? I didn't want to say it. I did save you. Did you dodge a bullet? What happened? I did save you. Marriage. Oh boy. Uh, the first thing on here is, um, a spouse who wants too much sex.
00:41:20
Speaker
fuck dude which one of you wanted more sex luis you or your wife i thought married guys don't have sex yeah honestly it wasn't too bad i definitely wanted it more but it wasn't really that bad it was like usually like two three times a week but you bond together we were we were together for 13 years It only, so listen, not to go into too much detail, but it only started to drop off was towards the end of our fucking, you know, marriage or whatever, when I caught her having an affair. That's when it made sense why we weren't having sex for the past couple of months. Cause it literally just went from like normal sex to none. Hmm. But for the most part, it, okay. And I'm not going to lie, it wasn't horrible sex, but it definitely was not the greatest. I figured out what great sex was afterwards.
00:42:10
Speaker
Well, I, uh, boy gymnasts will do that to you. I'm definitely in this marriage that wants sex more than the other one. And my previous marriage, it was my ex wanting more sex than me. Where am I? Go ahead. My dick would get tired, bro. Like I'm for real. She wanted it like every day. I wanted like three, I want to ejaculate at least three to five, three times at a minimum, maximum five times a week.
00:42:36
Speaker
I actually wanted it every day and sometimes twice a day and these weren't quickies Mike So oh she wanted a fucking she didn't want a quickie. Yeah, it was it was it was too many going on, bro Now they got shit now and should now boost you up you gotta be careful with that stuff Don't overdo it make your body stop producing the stuff you do on your own. Yeah, you're replacing it with that be careful We got a a spouse who is not interested in sex, which I guess kinda goes in with one number one. yeah um Not being interested in the sex is weird to me. Some are married to a spouse, oftentimes the wife who shows no interest in sex, perhaps because of emotional strain, past wounds, hormones, negative view towards spouse, or as a result of conflict. Address this by talking things out, open up, change contraceptives, realize that lovemaking is important in marriage.
00:43:34
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i try to I try to word that all the time. Having sex is it important for a healthy marriage. I don't think it ever really comes across. i mean So yeah.
00:43:48
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This one, number three, I can definitely say it ain't my problem. ah Nobody's problem over here, but a spouse who does not take care of their personal hygiene. Oh, fuck no. no Now, yeah I would say something, but I'm not going to say it on can on here. You can text us out there. Yeah, I won't say it. the chat like exactly but i was a chat only we get the chat let me say It's not us to help. Where's the chat? Only we can see that, people. You can just hear us laugh about it. Oh, yeah.
00:44:26
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I'll type that in there real quick, you guys. but Hold on. Let's put on some hope. Wow. Fucking Amen. How about this? You guys get all your shopping done for Christmas.
00:44:42
Speaker
When we got fucking three days, two days to Chris's Eve. I'm not that well, I'm done with my son. I still got a couple to do myself. I'm fucking an asshole. I always i was supposed to be a nasty. I got my brother a gift because he's in Rhode Island his birthday. But I didn't go. So I bought him a gift, but I think I'm going to keep it for myself.
00:45:02
Speaker
Uh, number four, we got lust. Lust will make you struggle to be faithful. It will make you flirt with others over the phone at the workplace and neighborhoods, social media, making it uncomfortable for your spouse. I can say without a doubt, I lust my wife like every fucking day. I want her. I still want her as I want to see her naked as much today as I did on day one. It hasn't changed.
00:45:29
Speaker
And that is kind of i say's kind of weird to me because I'm surprised. like it's I'm not saying I'm surprised. I still love my wife. I'm just surprised that I still want her. I'm still horny for this motherfucker as if I've seen her from across the bar. Like, damn, if I see yo i get her home tonight, I'm going to tear that pussy up. I still have that feeling.
00:45:49
Speaker
today that I want to tear that pussy up when I get home as if I've never tore that pussy up before. So I think that's good shit. I love it. That is good. And yeah, and that's that's my boo right there. That's my baby.
00:46:04
Speaker
uh, unmet sexual expectations. As I've said on this podcast before, that was, uh, I think I saw that as an issue for him because I wanted certain things sexually that I feel like my partner did not want to give at the time. I like not pay it.
00:46:26
Speaker
it's good it's making Yeah as a not be yeah ah No, I've never been pegged I'm not down for peggings. I'm not really into pagans, but uh, I Wasn't getting enough head man. ah I wasn't getting enough of a lot of things. I like to experiment. I In a way, I'm not going to say, no, I don't want to say experiment because then you might think I'm getting paid. But and I was like, like you bro, that's why I got you covered. That's why I was like, not getting paid. I will say that with my wife, and as I feel like most people should be with their wives or your husbands, you should be willing to at least try something once with your partner. That is your life partner. And if they haven't gotten to do something, I'm telling you.
00:47:09
Speaker
You better do it with them because if they ever got the chance to do it, it's more likely that they might try it if they got the opportunity. They really, really want something sexually when it comes to that. And then when they ship, if you keep turning that person down, man or woman, they will go to find it somewhere else. Eventually. They will. Eventually. It will happen. Yeah. They really want to do something. And but you know, it's just me, if you, if they keep bringing it up, you shot it down more than three times. Thank you. Trust me.
00:47:40
Speaker
Dude, I fucking, mean I'd be like, nah, I'm good. well you tired that much I would straight up, no, look at it this way. I'm very straightforward. So even if I was in love with a woman, if she fucking asked me to do that, I'd literally be like, if that's something you truly want, then we can work out. but You got to go find that shit. Exactly. his Bro, if you're, listen, when it comes to borderline gay shit. All right. You're right. I'm good. But the way I look at it is being freaky is like a fucking book.
00:48:09
Speaker
The second you turn that fucking page, you can't look that. So as soon as you go there mentally, you're going to want that. And, yo, my honestly, one of my friends said it a while back when I first started dating, and he was like, bro, be careful, get it and freaky with all these fucking women, because you're going to trick your brain to that's the only thing that's the only way you're going to want. That's how you're going to want it. And not all women are like that. I can I can say he was right. You trust me. He was right. I can see that. My ex used to wanted that, and she used to be like, oh, do you know this is where a main cheese spot is? Oh, yeah, I do. That's what they say. How much did they try that? Like, get your fingers away. What the hell are you? I personally- I got that thing to do to yourself.
00:48:53
Speaker
I don't want to find out. I've told that before. Like, I don't want to find out if I like it or not because I'm good. I'm good. Not even that. I just don't know. Keep your finger away from my fucking ass. That's an exit only. Yeah, I'm all right. Way more fun up front. Trust me.
00:49:13
Speaker
No, no, no, no, no dildos in there, no fingers, no tongues. No, just stay away from my ass. I almost need my ex-wife in the face. ah we it's that you know Allegedly, almost. But, no say though, still, I got to stand by my word. I got to stay consistent. If your wife really wants to peg you, bro, no dode if there's a man out there that it is willing to let her peg and y'all are going through some type of rut, I'm telling you, that guy that is willing to let her peg,
00:49:39
Speaker
Yeah. he's now He's now got a chance. So here's the here's the here's the thing though. But the problem is the minute that you guys get in the fight, the first chance you're gonna say. Bro, you're my boy. This motherfucker is my boy right here. yeah I was just gonna fucking say that. I was just gonna say it. That's exactly what she's gonna be like. Do you remember what happened last night?
00:49:59
Speaker
Dude, that's the fucked up shit. His women will do that and then they'll they'll call like men narcissists. That's technically some bullshit right there, but you know, whatever, whatever. Yeah, you're right. That's the literally this thing too. It's like, she's like checking something off for you, but the second she can she gets to roast you, oh yeah, who's a bitch now? Let's get the fucking strap on. It's like, really bitch?
00:50:20
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any other height <unk> that' my bitch like she had you bent over
00:50:29
Speaker
Really? no and I don't think you'll be able to look at that person the same two boys you guys not to get anymore Cuz you know, she tells me the new dude that i used to fuck you her girlfriend's dude she's telling all her girlfriends that motherfucker used to let me fuck him in the ass i've seen that on constant videos dude on like tiktok with like the street interviews and shit what's something you do when you actually want to tell us now well least i used to fuck him in the ass robot then holy shit that's why everyone in your town that knows you now knows that you were fucking carrying the ass Hey, you understand that woman. that that Oh, I'm not gonna tell anyone trust me. They're gonna be telling the best yeah i be telling the best friend and yeah shit and i give yeah right now i'm yeah One of the girls I was dating straight up told me she's like yeah, I showed you dick to tell my friend what the fuck
00:51:21
Speaker
I was like, i what the fuck? yeah I'm not one of those guys. She's like, it's OK. Like, what? OK. I know my wife is down on that. You know they'll send it to that group test. They always have that group message, you know. Listen, again, I never know. my My wife pretends to be very private with her shit. There ain't no telling what she's told her friends about me sexually or about my dick size or my fucking habits or anything. I don't know what the fuck she said. And she she won't tell me, so. stupid Well, don't. You don't want to know.
00:51:49
Speaker
No, I do want to know. I'm curious. No, you don't. I do want to know. You do what you don't. Trust me. You do what you don't. No, I do. There's been times that I've been at the bar and just been privy to overhearing a girl talk because they were just sitting close enough to me, like a group of girls.
00:52:05
Speaker
it's it's not it's not as raunchy as you think it would be I know sometimes it is but not as ah not as much as guys I don't think it depends on the girls that are there though i mean and like tomboy girl I'll do that just as bad as guys because I gotta pull teeth to get answers from this woman so I know whatever she's telling her friends is is free and open. And she's telling them exactly what it is. I'm not getting that shit. I got to ask. And if I don't ask, I won't know. But I bet you they know without asking, because they're all curious. yeah I'm the first black guy she's been with. If I'm going to really sit over here and think that she has that her friends haven't given her all those typical black questions, oh my god, I didn't know what I got. Of course. Is this true? Is this true? How did they do this? And how did they do that? She may just be like, nah.
00:52:53
Speaker
And maybe she's listen, she's probably holding you like you fucking be looking at like death like mark. get Give my hershey away. Get out of here It's her first try her it's her first fucking black dick and if I can you think she's gonna tell her girlfriends about it so that's That's a little secret right there I could be wrong, but from the Julia, I don't know. I don't know, man. I feel like I will say from the first time, the first time we fooled around, i'm honest about it. Her, her, her opinion of me was I'm a different type of sex than she's ever had because I gave her, I gave her more passion than anybody she's been with. that That's the one open comment I know she's made about me. I'm glad you described that because I'm sure everyone would be like, yeah, you're black. That's what it was. You give them size. Well, you described it a different way. That's good, man. That's good.
00:53:39
Speaker
Yeah, i'm I'm passionate. I care about how my woman feels. I care about how she gets there, me getting there and yeah everybody finishing and having a very great time. yeah um Number six on here is memories of an ex who used to be great in bed. Some people are fighting the memories they had of their exes in bed as they have sex with their spouse. They have images of their ex and they let go of the past.
00:54:05
Speaker
I can say because I'm so going back to number four, so because I'm so lustful for my wife, yeah I want my wife in so many ways that I ain't never wanted my ex-wife in. So I don't have any memories of my ex in bed because I do things to my wife that I would never think about doing to my ex-wife.
00:54:26
Speaker
So that's shit. the No, like you my ex, my definitely of my ex-girlfriend was like a fucking upgrade and a half from ex-wife. So when it came to the fucking bedroom. So no, no disrespect either way. Like great woman. But if we're just talking about that, trust me, it was a fucking upgrade and a half. Oh, yeah. ah I'll lick my wife from head to toe. I don't think I'd. ah i would not do that but how to you bro i will i will and i and i have i do it's part of my routine so it's part of what i do i love my i love my baby um pornography masturbation i'm gonna include those both in here on the same all right would you all right would you want your lady to make you your own like little fucking porn to send just to you
00:55:13
Speaker
Like, so they have like those, what the hell do they call them? Like sessions that they'll do for like, their significant bourgeois photos or something like that? I don't care for bourgeois photos. Me, personally, I'd rather shoot my own porn. um Well, that's what I mean. like bring my own ah right So here's the thing. would you It's different if you're doing it because you're in control. Yeah.
00:55:38
Speaker
So its what to me is I'm not saying like have her go find someone to fucking know like with her own phone Like she sends you something. Would you be down something like that? Do you mean? When I'm like, okay if when I'm out like um When you're in the field of some exactly what i doest I'm gonna say when I'm in the field or when I went to BOC I'm like, God, can you send me some news? Can you send me something like me? I my I remember when I was a BOC I did ask her to send me something and she eventually did but I'm like search go it took like two fucking days it's like goddamn why you send this through snail mail or what like hurry the fuck up I'm horny and I need to see some pussy like you're taking too long but um um
00:56:22
Speaker
Yeah, I think when I'm gone away like that, she should know automatically. Oh, he's been gone. by I should get a nude every two to three days. Yeah, because you want she should be like, I need to make sure I gave his attention. so Exactly. you need to You need to snatch me back up every two to three days. I need to see a picture of something. Show me some ass. You jumping in the shower. Just show send me the video of your entire shower. I don't know. Just do something every two to three days. If you know what to, you know. Huh?
00:56:52
Speaker
So you're trying to for a country. She probably don't want to interact with you. You know, she wants you to focus. No, I can't. No, i'm but I'm not focusing. I'm already there missing what's at home. So yeah show me the show me the goods. That's the thing that while being there, they want to make sure you are focused. So if he's got those good photos, he's focused.
00:57:13
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and I'm hoping I'm gonna have to go nowhere this year and I can use the school as an excuse. So I'm not going nowhere. um Wait, I have a question. So you said that like you want you always want your wife and things like that. So I'll say that.
00:57:32
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my ex when she's like, you know, at the beginning when we first started dating, it was always just like, I didn't have to ask, but I was literally sleeping. It was sex, sex. But after she got pregnant, thing changed. Like, anything changed with you and Julia when she got pregnant, because I think that woman wants less sex.
00:57:55
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so It's a, they call it something is, is, is women get this whole self-esteem issue after they give birth. They don't feel sexy anymore. They don't feel attractive.
00:58:06
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well hold on wait wait think but they weren in the pregnancy yeah just say you say during set yeah you the rightancy like in the book you know She didn't or she was. She was into it because my ex was not into it. oh It all depends on the woman. Yeah, I was about to say it depends. My ex-wife, first pregnancy, didn't want to be touched. Second pregnancy, horny.
00:58:29
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Yeah. Uh, Julia pregnancy wasn't horny necessarily, but she knew she had to keep me somewhat pleased still during those nine to 10 months. So she did things for me, but she, it, nothing was benefiting her. She could care less. That's right. Well, my ex-wife, she, she was ridiculously horny for both. I'm hoping the next one was great. I'm not going to lie. It was awesome. Yeah. i'm I'm hoping that for the next one.
00:58:57
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Like towards the end, obviously the she was just in a lot of pain. She's a small woman. She's really tiny. She's like five feet, five feet tall. So she was a really small woman. So like, as she got closer to the end of the pregnancy for both, like, especially with my son, she was a big baby. But besides that, no, she almost wanted it more.
00:59:20
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and it like it It actually helps when it gets deeper into the pregnancy, too. It actually helps with the pregnancy. Oh. Yeah, it does. It does. I think that's when we picked back up on sex again. It was later on in the pregnancy just to try to force labor. Yeah. It wasn't happening. That boy was out there, like, to tell him where the phone came out. This guy was pushing in that thing. Baby came out with a big-ass thing in his head.
00:59:49
Speaker
Baby killed a black-eyed boy. It was me. She told me to do it. It's crazy I think I think the night before When my son when my son was born like the first day I remember I was in the room and his head Lily came out like all along What the hell's going on people's gonna make fun of him something's going on but the doctors is like no no no no no no no that's I i'm like oh my guys now um same shit ah thought dick did some damage in there, but I fucked up the canal. Look at him. He's the fucking phone head now. I was laughing the whole time the night before. I don't know. I was knocking on that thing. But he was fine. Nah, man. Unless you got like a fucking 22-inch ding-a-ling that you're not gonna hit the baby at all.
01:00:34
Speaker
If you got a 22-inch dick, I can guarantee you no woman wants to fuck you. No. Why don't you know? That probably is. There's women out there who fucking forced you. Oh, I was just going to say, that probably fucking is, dude. There are some videos out there, too, of women getting on these crazy fucking thick, long, fat ass dildos. And you think there's no way that can fit in her. Yes. Yeah, it does. I've seen some shit.
01:01:00
Speaker
I've been down the dark web with Pornhub guy. I've told y'all this before. I've been down the dark web with Pornhub. It is crazy. These women will put anything in their pussy. It is ridiculous. Ridiculous.
01:01:12
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yeah So, ah pornography and masturbation. Obviously, we know that can cause a problem in marriage. um ah Pornography will distract you from cultivating intimacy with your spouse. It will make you ignore your spouse without you knowing. It just it just to look at videos and pictures of naked strangers banging. Masturbation will make your spouse compete with your fingers.
01:01:35
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Your fingers will most likely win because you know how to please yourself, but your marriage will lose. Yeah. Uh, don't be addicted to pornography. I mean, I don't know what to tell you. yeah I don't keep you keep that shit to a minimum. I feel like two know but's still keep it to a minimum. Yeah. I mean, are some people really that much into jerking themselves off that even if they're getting enough sex, they still feel like I don't jerk myself off no people yeah have to go to therapy for that.
01:02:02
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Yeah, and it's not just guys. The majority is guys, but I've yeah i've actually met a woman that legit was like, I i was a sex fiend. Like literally, I would fucking literally walk around with a thing in my pussy vibrating pretty much all day. Holy shit. But honestly, I'm going to just fucking little put a little side note. If I could be a fucking superhero and pick any power, I'd pick the power to make someone instantly fucking bust a nut because I don't give a fuck how angry you are if you bust a nut right there. You wouldn't even have to have good dick. just yeah oh Good dick, big dick, it didn't even wouldn't even matter. now I don't know, but yeah but yeah. Either way, that'd be my ah super villain power, I guess. I don't know. A penis that cannot sustain an erection.
01:02:52
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Most men lose their erection due to panic or lack or concentration because sex starts in the mind. Address this by calming down, relax, be in the moment, enjoy every sensation.
01:03:03
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Or just think of fucking one thing and forget all sensation. and Just keep fucking going, fellas. the I try not to think about sex too much when I'm fucking because I'm trying to, I'm trying to prolong this activity. So if I keep, if I get myself too involved into the whole way the pussy's feeling, stroking up and down my dick and shit, I mean, baby.
01:03:27
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real if yeah If you really, i in my opinion too, same. If you really do focus on like every sensation and then all it takes is, especially if she has the right voice, all it takes is her being like, Oh, that's it. What the fuck down? i she bars i can we relate to that sorry but because they're fucking screaming. um yeah good i It's so bad. like I would wash a porn and I'll be upon her washing the porn and I'll say guy and there's no we can't get up. How the fuck you really have a naked woman next to you and you can yeah, it's like half but I've been just looking at a woman at the gym next thing you know my
01:04:13
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um I've been there though. i I've been that guy that couldn't give myself up for some reason. I don't know what it is. I think it's because of being too much in my head in a moment. It's only happened once or twice that I can remember. No. But I think it's me just being too much in my head and being nervous for the moment.
01:04:33
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I don't want to say the name of the woman it is because Lewis would know them, but I don't want to put that up there. That's what the fuck his chat is for. Put that shit in the chat. Nah, thank God. Oh, okay. Yeah, I was nervous when I got next to that pussy. Bro, I was.
01:04:55
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Cause I was like, Oh my God, finally I'm going to fuck this motherfucker. too shit i be I didn't know where to go with that thing. I was playing with it, that thing squirted all over my hand, bro. I lost my fucking marbles, dude. I didn't know what to think about that shit. I ain't never had a woman squirt in my life. Oh, yeah. Shit. First time for me was a surprise too. she like she Oh, I forgot to tell you. I was like, you should have told me. I'm not grossed out, but you should have fucking told me. That's something you should tell a guy. Come on. Yeah, I didn't know what to think. I was like, did you just squirt on my hand? He's like, oh, yeah. I was like, oh, I have never had that shit before. Yeah, but I... I wanted that shit so bad. ah That shit was no, I was no good. I'm busting my load in probably two minutes. Did you go back and redeem yourself? No, I didn't get the opportunity. I didn't get the opportunity, bro. I never got that again in my life. Man, she will never look at you the same, buddy. No, she's always, she still was always cool with me. I don't know what she probably would have said. She's always going to remember you as that guy, you know, that couldn't get off. Well, no, I got it up. It's just.
01:05:57
Speaker
I couldn't get it back up after losing my load that first time, like that. Once I buzzed my nut, I need a minute. But um yeah, she's she's cool though. We we still... kind it happens to all of us I learned that trick back, I think I remember what year I went to Haiti in 2012, 2012 I went to Haiti and they showed me that trick was if you about to have sex, so you take like a, I think guys and you probably do the same thing. You take a rubber band and you kind of tie it, like do a knot and you'd like literally put it all the way and it's kind of block you from coming and you can literally go for hours until you remove that.
01:06:39
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So one of those, uh, what, ball traps, ball catches.
01:06:46
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Hey, drinking helps too, bro. Next thing you know, she got to run away from you and then you got to like, come over here. Where are you going? ah so he yeah right Get me in that Hennessy, bro. I'll tell you guys a story real quick.
01:07:06
Speaker
took some Hennessy and my little brother gave me a little squade. Hey, Bricey, do you remember the store the person that I told you I was messing with, older than 50? Motherfucker had a cougar. Yeah. Nice. Right? You remember that? Yeah. It was this borderline panther, right?
01:07:26
Speaker
I mean, that is pretty cool. No, is it is it at the 15 of spanta? I'm sorry. All right. it mind Leo. Go ahead. Keep going. Say two months ago went to a crib dude took a little bit and see spray that Next thing you know, she started crying The fuck I couldn't I could I'm like, yo, I give up because I could it comes just like next Oh, just be wage. Just crying. Keep crying. No. Keep crying. And she's watching, bro. Oh, man. God damn it. Yeah. God damn it. I guess we already kind of talked about this next one. is did not What? I think we already talked about this next one pretty much, but a penis that ejaculates too quickly. We kind of already got on that. What the fuck happened, bro?
01:08:16
Speaker
and overthinking wife who stroke us to climax. Most wives who show the climax is because they overthink, have the kids eating, is my vagina smelling? Is he really enjoying it? Am I morning too loud? Am I too wet? Have we paid the rent? Did I remember to pay the comp? What the fuck is that? The comp, the comma?
01:08:35
Speaker
Is the salon open tomorrow? Which we should I put on next? I forgot to call Ninjabi. These are some of the thoughts went through her mind as he is humping. Layton. Fucking relaxed. right Chill out. Who the fuck? If you are really thinking about all of that while you're getting fucked, what is the problem? You are not enjoying that at all. Yeah, you're not enjoying it. You're just letting him use your pussy. Yeah, he's just picking it.
01:09:01
Speaker
for real and if vice versa too, if you're a guy and you just, and honestly, if you're a guy and you props to you that you could fucking Lily just step out, be someone else. that Those guys, my phone always say that they're just, they're, they're just dirty to pussy. That's all. They don't do anything, you know, can't do it. but way A but wow.
01:09:23
Speaker
yeahever Whoever wrote that answer, if that is your relationship, you need fucking help. Either get the fuck away or get counseling, because holy shit. Yeah, there are some people that really, they they're all in their head so much they can't even enjoy sex. Sex is the one time you should turn that shit off. Like you're supposed to be a stress reliever, and not a stress inducer. Calm down. Relax. Get this dick for 15 to 20 minutes, and then you can worry about that.
01:09:51
Speaker
But right now we're fucking. Shut the fuck up. Yeah, shut the fuck up. No, you're not moaning too loud. I want you to moan. Moaning gets me gets me to fucking cum. Am I too wet? Fuck no. Is the direct pain? Yes, bitch. Who cares?
01:10:08
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um yes Number 12, we got a a low self-esteem. If you doubt your own sexiness and performance, then intimacy will suffer. Confidence is crucial when it comes to all things sex. Embrace your body, your tummy, sagging breasts, stretch marks, stretch marks, balding head, physique. Take care of your body. Work out like me and DJF. Flaunt to your spouse. What is good about you? Praise each other's looks and performance to boost confidence.
01:10:40
Speaker
I like to work out because I want to look good naked. Makes me feel better. I was going to say that's a fucking prime example of why a lot of people work out, honestly. I'm trying to maintain DILF status until I go. Until I'm dead, I'm trying to maintain DILF. Nothing wrong with that. That's what I want.
01:11:00
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one of my old bosses ah he was one of the um like big managers not gm but kind of close to it he was in his like early fifty s and the du was fucking DJ over there ripping up weight like it ain't shit. He's a goddamn little hulk over there. Oh, and I've seen a couple of you guys Instagrams. Oh, Katie, Katie. I'm not big anymore. Look at him. I'm not that big anymore. What are you talking about? He's pushed my titties up. Motherfuckers been big since like 2015, bro.
01:11:38
Speaker
No, really. Bryson, you know out where I started. I started really bad, so... Yeah. Yeah, you did. I mean, me and you, I think, were the same size back in 2010, 2011. Yes. Yes. I used to do 135, 140. No, Phyllis, you were even bigger than me. you were just Well, you're taller, so yeah, you're probably way more. I was weighing like 110, 115. Oh. So now I'm up to 135, 140, you know, on my best days, so... I'm 194 right now.
01:12:08
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Yeah, you'll be du really. Yeah. Holy fuck. How tall are you, Leo? Five nine. Damn, dude. You just fucking solid muscle, bro. He is solid muscle. He's good. Yo, ladies. Yo, he's single, yo. So if y'all come on and show y'all, see this and y'all like, yo, he's a good guy. He's a Haitian guy. love the ah's a beammer He a He drives a He's from Haiti. He has a nice accent.
01:12:35
Speaker
Yeah, look a fixation he's handy. Yes. you go and check grab A lot of boxes for women right there. There you go. And yeah, y'all know, so, you know, Haiti black, you know what the Haitian motherfucker would be carrying.
01:12:49
Speaker
and father aint time i no gla go We ain't talking about no Glock, baby. Shit. Okay. I don't want to say anything. Google it. It's online. I it's in the top fucking 100 or some shit like that. The other thing we got here ah is affairs. When another is already servicing your body, you will come home to a spouse you are not interested in. On top of that, you will be filled with guilt to the point that you struggle to connect with your spouse.
01:13:17
Speaker
and if your spouse suspects or knows, he or she will shut you out. Just let the affair in. This is kind of, duh, yeah, an affair will fuck up your sex life. That's kind of obvious. You're obviously fucking somebody else because you didn't get what you wanted to house, which is what we said earlier, because if your man ain't letting you pick that asshole, you're going to go pick another asshole. It's going to happen. Yeah.
01:13:42
Speaker
Mine wasn't giving me enough head, not when it found head. I mean, yeah if trust me woman i'm um trust me women, point blank, I'm telling you, if you are not sucking your man's dick, I promise you, he is getting his dick sucked somewhere.
01:13:56
Speaker
oh he'sta doing it There's always a woman there to suck his dick. Yeah. Better believe. And if you could fucking say badly like that, but there's plenty of women that literally go the same way. Well, women will have a guy that is giving them, giving her dick, but not in the way she likes it. And then she meets, you know, big Jack motherfucker named Leo. And he wants to fucking turn to her pretzel. Hey, you lost your bitch. You lost your bitch, Leo. That's what happens, man. Congratulations. When you go black, you never go back.
01:14:27
Speaker
Well, you run away crying after got fucking her ah so we got in this one right here, I think is a big one. um It's the last one on the list to comparisons with other couples.
01:14:42
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see that here ah yeah When you hear or read the colorful sex stories of other couples of how the wife squirts, how the husband lasts for 40 minutes, how the wife rides like a pro, how the husband feast on her clitoris till she cries, you might begin to question your own marriage and whether you two are happily married. Each marriage is unique. Make your own special memories.
01:15:08
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I think, too, not only put comparison to the couples, but comparisons to the things you see on social media. I feel like social media and movies are really making women thinking delusionally. Like, you should be treating me like this. Like, woman, this is a movie. This is a social media post. What the fuck are you talking about? This shit ain't what they really do. They don't do this shit every day. I think they smile like this and hold each other every fucking day. It's a fucking lie.
01:15:34
Speaker
Yeah, I think a lot of women see that shit and they get their shit they get shit twisted bro. It's not it is not like that Not even close. No It is a Leo 90% of fucking ah Social media bullshit is not so just not been happy old life Anyway you know lot unfortunate capital lot of ah They're going through it like every other couple, you know Yeah, I don't know why people think people live in perfect lives. Nobody got no perfect couple, bro. they They probably just argued right before that picture was taken and got right back to arguing right after they took it. Right up update say before the click was, shut the fuck up and smile. Yeah. Because at the end of the day, they're making money from that. So yeah yeah that's the end zone. It's a career at that point. For real. Exactly. Most definitely. Most definitely. Man, that that yeah that's the list. I think that's pretty interesting. A few interesting things on there.
01:16:31
Speaker
But, uh, and y'all got anything y'all want to add, y'all want to say anything to the people. I want to make sure everybody has a good fucking Christmas. That's all I got to say. Yeah. leo And fucking happy new year, but neither way new year. We'll you'll see us before that.
01:16:48
Speaker
Yeah, definitely. um I'll be down there if you want the haircut. Oh, shit, there you go. I just went online now. I don't want you to go to the New Year's without a haircut. So um I think on Wednesday, day I'll be down there. So some good for my nieces and stuff like that. So I'll stop by if you want me to. you know And you know that was really good. Thanks for inviting me.
01:17:13
Speaker
We glad you came on, man. We glad you came on. Yeah, yeah no problem, bro. No problem. um Yeah, I just need to line up. I'm trying to get in my wave error. That's why you seem like I got the dureg on now. Yeah. I'm getting my waves in. Oh, boy. So I'm trying to I got to keep it a wavelength. So that's why I just want to line up right now. I'm still in my I'm still that wavelength. So yeah, come and kick your ass at mine before the year end. So don't you see me? I got I got a I had to move my PlayStation
Tech Talk and Audience Engagement
01:17:41
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to shit. I got a I got a gaming PC and shit now. Nice. Wow. What's your PlayStation? It's down there. Wow. The PlayStation's hooked up to the monitor. I got the gaming PC. I'm a real nerd now. I'm sick. So. He's taking cyber security now, so he's doing all. I'm trying. He's a high tech shit, bro. You do need a high tech shit. It's cool for video games. I'm really hoping I make it. You need a, you need a sick computer.
01:18:10
Speaker
This shit is dope. This this shit is dope. ah These games are running 150 frames per second. Ultra settings. Bro, some of these games, I'm like, damn, they look beautiful. I ain't never seen a game look this fucking beautiful in my life. Really? Running this smoothly. Yeah, bro. It's it's crazy. Damn, MPC, if you want to again look the best, way to go. Yeah. 100%. And I built it all myself. I'm i'm proud of that shit. i'm like I did that shit myself.
01:18:34
Speaker
nice man hell yeah people meet asking people to build them pc's step by step instructions it looks easy it looks figure that shit up myself yeah i figured out so i'm gonna slap my ass do it hey i like my ass being grabbed by my woman why do you think i said leo i know this motherfucker yeah a boy i know him but i know some men might be head be fucking talks But if I'm if I'm on top really grinding into a woman man, she put a handle down and grab my ass I like Before
01:19:09
Speaker
huh ever give you asa before ah back in yeah I can't answer that on the video. tu I can't answer that on the video. I'm pretty sure. I'll answer it and say nah. I think Lewis knows the story behind that. I'm not going to say it on the podcast. Fucking hilarious, sorry guys. That's another podcast. We'll end it right there.
01:19:34
Speaker
I appreciate you guys coming on man. lewis you want to You want to give out your IG? Women listen to this and they might want to come look at you. oh yeah all right look I have two of them, but I'll just give you the one for the ah the podcast. It's just the man cave. Lewis is the park. It's my IG. Just hit me up on there. right Leo, what's yours? What you got? It's 808 dot Leo.
01:20:02
Speaker
all l eight o eight dot leo Yeah, single women, all women in general, go find him. He's a good guy. He's a great guy. I've known him since 2012, 13. Yeah. I was saying that the other day, you, Jim, but um Santiago, Jeffrey.
01:20:22
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We've known each other for a while, man. We met up, we met up at Henkel at the glue factory. We've kept in touch ever since, man. He's good people. He does haircuts. He's handsy. He can fix things. Not handsy. He keeps his hands to himself. Yeah. He's a good guy. He's a good guy, right? And I got a job. Yeah, there you go. He's got a job. He drives a beamer. I mean, he drives a beamer. Come on, he's checking all the boxes off. There you go. He's got a fucking job. That meets Cartier.
01:20:52
Speaker
That means fucking a lot. we love you It's good having you guys, man. Have a great holiday. I hope you got a good laugh out of this. Listen to this on Christmas Eve, around your family. They'll fucking love it, I'm telling you. Post us, share us, share this shit to your friends, man. I need more people listening. I want more people listening. I'd love to make some money off this, y'all know. If I make some money off this, the episodes get better and we come on and do more episodes if I'm making money. So share the episodes, share the content.
01:21:20
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Tell your mama, tell your cousin, tell your daughter. If you make a podcast, thank you guys for listening. We'll be back next week. You gotta invite me next time, by the way. I gotta to get me a headphone. Oh, you want to be up next week, too? Yes. and We got you. We'll see you, man. Leo will be back, too, guys. And we'll peace out. All right. Have a good one. Peace.