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Happy Thanksgiving, Meeting The Family Dynamis, and more
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In this episode of the Man K podcast, hosts Briceson Young and Luis welcome guest Aliyah Richards to discuss various topics, including Thanksgiving celebrations, food preferences, and the dynamics of comfort levels with family. The conversation delves into personal experiences with family acceptance, cultural differences, and the challenges of being oneself in front of significant others' families. The hosts share humorous anecdotes and insights about navigating relationships and the importance of honesty in cooking critiques. In this engaging conversation, the participants explore various themes including the allure of musical talent, the dynamics of emotional support in relationships, the understanding of gender roles, navigating sexual experiences and identity, and career paths leading to personal growth. The discussion is filled with humor, personal anecdotes, and insights into the complexities of relationships and self-identity. In this conversation, the participants discuss their aspirations for podcasting, the challenges of balancing education and career goals, and the importance of audio quality and equipment in creating a successful podcast. They share insights on remote recording tools, the realities of scheduling guests, and the dynamics of co-hosting with diverse perspectives. In this conversation, the participants delve into the complexities of sexual fulfillment within committed relationships, discussing the importance of meeting each other's sexual needs and the potential consequences of unmet desires. They explore how emotional connections influence sexual intimacy and the fluidity of sexual identity, sharing personal experiences and insights on navigating relationships and boundaries. The discussion highlights the significance of communication and understanding in fostering a healthy sexual relationship.
00:00Introduction and Guest Introduction
06:01Food Preferences and Cooking Critiques
12:00Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics
18:11Personal Experiences and Comfort in Relationships
24:29Emotional Support in Relationships
30:11Navigating Sexual Experiences and Identity
39:47The Podcasting Dream
45:06Remote Podcasting: Tools and Techniques
54:46Finding the Right Equipment
01:01:37Exploring Sexual Fulfillment in Relationships
01:09:10Navigating Sexual Identity and Relationships
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Transcript
Introduction and Episode Overview
00:00:01
Speaker
Hello everybody, welcome back to the Man Cave podcast, the number one podcast on the internet for your shits and giggles. I am your man Bryce Young and my other guy here. What's going on, everybody? You all know me. I do they we see easy introductions.
Meet the Guest: Aliyah
00:00:16
Speaker
and Today we have a special guest. Her name's Aliyah. She is a friend of a previous guest, Sada. Aliyah, you want to introduce yourself to the Man Cave crew?
00:00:27
Speaker
Sure, yeah. I'm a liar. That's about all I got. That's it? Where you're from, how tall are you? Where's your social? Oh, my family is, yeah. I have green eyes. ah Shit. We like to get... I mean, yeah, where you from? um back going went I'm from a tiny town in New Mexico called Silver City. It's down in the border. But I live in Colorado now, so.
00:00:57
Speaker
Oh, nice car. That was fucking beautiful. I've never been, but I've only heard it's fucking beautiful. Yeah, it was pretty nice. That was the first place to legalize weed, wasn't it? I think so, yeah. It was. The government was like, oh my god, they made so much fucking money in taxes. We got to get on that too.
Personal Stories and Habits
00:01:11
Speaker
I can't tell you if I smoke or not. I'm in the service and shit. Motherfucker, I smoke. I ain't in the service no more. I've done my fucking time. Yeah, you were rolling up before the show. My fucking heart is literally talking about.
00:01:22
Speaker
yeah Oh man, happy Thanksgiving though, man. um yeah how would you How was your Thanksgiving and shit? Mine? Ladies, yes. Oh, I'm talking to that guy. I was talking to that guy, but he was over me. I didn't realize he was pulling all the shit right then. I was fucking literally
Thanksgiving Traditions and Cultural Insights
00:01:38
Speaker
like late in the blunt when you fucking asked him. My Thanksgiving was good. I always have two Thanksgivens.
00:01:43
Speaker
They have one on Thanksgiving day, which is like all the significant others in my family. They all go do their own thing, but I spent it at my sister's house. And then just fucking multiple after that, friends giving. And then I had a big ass Thanksgiving today, which is all my family. And it's usually a fucking mad house with a ton of food, but it was good. So you put some meat on your bones in the past three days, huh? Yeah. We all be gone like a day. You know me.
00:02:10
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, you got to have metabolism. i I went to Denver. I have family here in Denver. So, so I went up there and just kind of hung out with them.
00:02:23
Speaker
Well, uh, what's your ethnicity? i i may ask and Okay. I was going to say, she did say Mexico. So, um, yeah, I didn't want to, I didn't want to assume, you know, yeah I had to, because I wasn't sure. I was thinking maybe a little bit Asian in there or something. I didn't know. go it's eyes hu Yeah. yeah who dieds Maybe she just spoke before.
00:02:46
Speaker
try to keep them open The Mexicans, do they celebrate Thanksgiving the same way? Some of them do. I know we do for sure, but you know other others have different foods. like They still celebrate Thanksgiving. it's just like yeah tamales, taquitos and stuff like that. That sounds like a fucking thanksgiving. I want to be part of it. I met the wrong Thanksgiving, bro. I'm over here with no offense, Luis. When I'm dealing with these white folks.
00:03:14
Speaker
but what be the a white skin im still vouguee you fuck ah ay I enjoyed my Thanksgiving. um It's very small though. i It's me, my wife, and my daughter which can't who can't talk yet.
00:03:32
Speaker
and like Her brother and her two aunts, so it's very small. It's just four grown adults in the room. You know, it's very chill.
Workplace Communication and Podcasting Role
00:03:40
Speaker
And love ah yeah, and a baby that pretty much takes up all the talking thing, guys. I don't want to... I got a problem with talking. You got a problem with talking? Yeah, let's go to the podcast. No, yeah not not not not in this type of setting, but like in general to random people where I have to try to tame myself, I don't really like to...
00:03:59
Speaker
tame myself while you don't do it. And well, but I do. I do it. I can't help it. I don't respect for your wife. I get it. I get it. I don't respect for her. I respect for my job. You know, people at my job ask me all the time, like, why don't you just, you know, talk to more people? I'm like, if I talk more, y'all understand I'm going to lose my job. I say a lot of disrespectful shit. Yeah. That's why a lot of shit didn't get me in the HR's office. I don't want to be talking over here. But if you want to know how I really feel, the Man Cave podcast is uploaded every Monday morning. You can take a listen. That's how I feel. Let's do it all you want.
00:04:29
Speaker
I don't really want them to, though, because my boss don't need to be hearing the shit that I probably said about him before. So, yeah, probably. Yeah, he needs just. But yeah, it was just the four of us chilling and it was very quiet. I know her ah mom and dad just moved to Florida, so they didn't come up for Thanksgiving. They're coming up for Christmas. So that took two talkers out of the room that mainly do most of the talking, especially her dad.
00:04:55
Speaker
um Yeah, so, but the food was good. They cook very well. Her aunts, I think, are very good at cooking. Nice. But, you know, I'm i'm black, so umm yeah I want some of that real Thanksgiving shit. No, no, not even the seasoning. It's not even necessarily the seasoning because i I'm a weird black guy in that sense that, like, um I don't like my food to be heavily seasoned. Oh, motherfucker, you light-washed. It's the health thing, because, you know, in the gym, I hate my shit to be all super salty. It annoys the fuck out of me. Yeah, yeah. Super-salty's not easy, man. That's just salty.
00:05:28
Speaker
Well, some people feel that way though when I know when I first I think I told you when I first met my wife and she tried to cook my first her first meal in general, not only just in general, but for me also, her roommate at the time, who's a ah black woman, told her you're going to have to put some seasoning on that food if you want him to eat it. And I told her, baby, please don't do that because I don't want all that shit. Just make the food. I promise you I'm going to eat it.
00:05:53
Speaker
And still to this day, I eat the food, you know, and when she over-sauce it or over-seasons it, I tell her, like, back up on that shit. I don't like all that. I'm not that black guy. I'm very- You know the problem with that is, I don't understand that if you're, if, why would you want me to tell you your food is great and fantastic if it's not? What are you going to do? You're going to think, oh, I'm going to make this for him. He loves when I make this. right killing it I don't know when you make this shit. You're not killing it, baby. Stop.
00:06:26
Speaker
um Like, she she likes to make chicken and rice sometimes. And I tell her, chill out on the cream of chicken in the cream of mushroom soup. You got way too much going on in here. And it's always too salty. Stop putting so much salt in it. I can add salt after, honey. Don't put it in there when it's cooking, because once it's in there, I'm fucked. And that'll end it.
00:06:47
Speaker
i've I have had to turn the plate back to her one time, I believe, because it was too salty. I said, I'm not eating it. So I just gave it back to her. I'm like, I'm sorry. I really appreciate that you cooked, but I can't eat it today. At least you told her you appreciated it, right?
00:07:04
Speaker
I always appreciate her, but as i can't I can't do salty. Salty just fucks me up. Yeah. I think the only thing I could do is be salty and be like french fries. I don't even want that salty. But like it's a borderline, you know what I mean? It's not even really like salty. like if you ever If you can describe a french fry as salty, it's too much.
00:07:26
Speaker
I don't know. Even when I get into McDonald's, I'm wiping them off like this. Oh, what the fuck? Too much salt, bro. You could do too much, though.
00:07:37
Speaker
You're one of those people like, give me no salt. They're like, fucking son of a bitch. How weird. But you know what? That's the secret hack at McDonald's. It gets you fresh fries. You don't have to worry about your fries being cold. You tell them, I don't want salt because they put salt on everything. I've used to do that because there was a couple of times a while back because I'm not going to lie. And you're like, oh, don't eat McDonald's. They're fucking French fries like goddamn crack. I can't not eat their French fries. It's so fucking good.
00:08:01
Speaker
So there was a couple times that there was so goddamn salty that I, every time I went, and I was like, yep, no salt, please. And then they started being, because of the same one, McDonald's like right down the street from my house. And they're like, are you just doing that to get fresh french fries? And I lied. I was like, no, I got a salt issue. and can all Yeah, sounds like in my blood pressure some stupid shit. So I just always always get there was one time I ordered it and I guess they just knew my voice So when they give me when they gave me the fucking fries, I was like, there's no fucking saw they just remembered Oh this is a great always alwayss of No fucking song let' try to get some french fri and so yeah fucking whatever be Got a question ah just to backtrack a little bit is um
00:08:51
Speaker
How much of yourself are you guys with your significant other's parents and family in
Relationship Dynamics and Communication
00:08:59
Speaker
general? Do you feel like you have that that comfortability where you can just be you? Or do you always feel like you are taming yourself down just a notch? No. So only at first for me. I'll go first. Only at first, like first initial and introduction. But literally from the get go, this is just how I am. I'm not because I know I'm not an asshole. So I'm just going to be who I am in front of them. And they're going to either take it or leave it. So no, they they know what they're stepping into right away.
00:09:27
Speaker
And um for the people that I have, like I'm single now, but for the, when I was with someone, most of the time their parents liked me like because I was very straightforward. That's how I was. That's the way I was talking. Every, every woman you've been with has always been that sort of, you know, I don't even line every woman I've been with, their parents have liked me to the point where they start joking. And the fact of being like, what are you seeing my daughter? She's a pain in the ass.
00:09:54
Speaker
Yeah, i'm I'm fucking serious I'm not trying to pat myself in the back that is literally has happened multiple times So yeah, I'm just that's like type of and again. I'm a mechanic so pretty much any guy You know regardless of age can relate to a mechanic So that's that's just how it is. Oh All right I'd say pretty tame at first especially Like, I'm single now, but my ex, her family was kinda against lesbians, right? So, yeah, they were super religious. Oh shit, I was just gonna ask that. Oh man. Yeah, so I was like walking into a lion's den at first, you know?
00:10:40
Speaker
Shit. How did that, um, how did that work out for you? yeah like that shit I'd be scared as hell to walk into that house for dinner. I kind of was right. But I kind of, um, I was just respectful, you know, and I didn't know PDA in front of them or anything like that. Just hung out. Hmm.
00:11:02
Speaker
Can anyone else hear that static? yeah Yeah, I do. Yes. I'm trying to figure that out. yeah That's what was throwing me off a minute ago. me That was the pause, guys. So then it's not us. It's it's the but do you think it's the connection.
00:11:15
Speaker
It's the connection between us. I don't know. I thought it was because I got this chip, this little clip going on in my wire. That's why I was checking all my wires. What is that? Yeah. Dude, if it's that loud, that's going to fuck with the recording. Hell, I hope not.
00:11:31
Speaker
but Then because I know what you know, I remember I had it like a snip in my wire the other week Yeah, and I don't know if that might be causing it. It's why I'm trying to stop moving now like my legs for your headset though, right? Yeah, but I mean that's what I'm hearing but that's just receiving It's not sending like if it was a chip if it was a strip or a break in the mic Because that's sending information that could cause an affair it's not as loud are you guys hearing it No, I can't. No, don't hear it anymore. But then your volume went down too. Yeah, because now your volume is down too. It might be mine. So maybe you just got to get, now we got to get you closer to the mic. Just know. All right. We'll talk louder. I don't know. i don't yeah Whatever works as long as we can hear you. Your neighbor's going to call. Why the fuck are you yelling?
00:12:24
Speaker
I'm sorry. I'm on a podcast. I can't hear me. We're role playing. How about, uh, how about now? Is that better? Yeah, that can be good. Yeah. Okay. See, we just roll with the people. We don't pause the shit. We just keep going. So yeah, I feel like that would be fucking terrifying. Yeah. cause that what oh I go ahead. Just, just talk. Just keep going. Hopefully it doesn't mess anything up. I'm sorry folks. If it does.
00:12:53
Speaker
ah Yeah, what would you say? Oh, we can't hear and now. Oh, no. hear Yeah. Oh, ohpe hold on. You can hear a little bit. Yeah. good Yeah. Yeah. Okay. but There you go. Yeah. Just don't touch nothing. Whatever you just did. Don't touch anything. Oh, God. No, it's bad. Go ahead.
00:13:18
Speaker
No, I don't know. I don't know what else. Oh no, so wait. So no, like, so my, um, my kid's mother, her cousin, she, you know, she's lesbian. She was going through some shit. Like we were really close when we were together and, uh, she would just, some of the stuff she told me, she ended up, she was dating this one, this one story. She told me she was dating this girl for probably about like two and a half years.
00:13:40
Speaker
And she was like, she was like, Louis, she was like extremely comfortable. We were always outside holding hands. Like there was no issues of like showing that she was dating a ah girl. Right. And then she told me she goes one day I go to pick her up at her house and her parents not only had no idea about me, but didn't even know she was gay.
00:14:01
Speaker
and She's like, here, I'm standing in like, I, this girl, like I, she still liked to aunt to my kids. Like I fucking love her. And I, she, and she will understand why I'm going to say this. She does not by any means look like a woman who is into men. Okay. Like it is pretty fucking obvious that she is a lesbian and she's like, Louis, I'm standing there like.
00:14:24
Speaker
Yeah, we're not friends. ah Just the fucking story. Like she's telling me that I could feel though the awkwardness of, and I just looked at her like, I'm sorry. I hope I would never would be in that fucking situation ever. Holy shit. I know. um can I was afraid to go into my wife's household for the first time because I'm not only, I don't think i think I was the first guy she brought home, but I'm also the first black guy she's ever been with, ever.
Interracial Relationship Challenges
00:14:57
Speaker
And she grow up in a very white town. How's it going, brother? Yeah. How's it going, brother? ho Nice weather we're having. Beautiful day there, bro. They always seem to ask about the fucking weather, too. I don't... I ah joke with my wife about it all the time. why Every time we're over there, all they talk about is their job and the fucking weather. Can we talk about some shit that's a little more interesting? I'm not at work. I don't want to talk about work. And I don't want to... I don't give a fuck that the sun's been out all day. Let's talk about some other shit. But they're... um I'm the first black man to come in the house, um the first black man she's dated. And I work at a grocery store. I don't have a college degree. They all come from a family of college degrees. They don't sit around and be lazy and do bullshit. And I'm like, Oh my God, this, this is different for me.
00:15:46
Speaker
like i got ah I gotta go in here and tell these put people, there so what do you do for work? Because they all do cool shit, you know? And I'm like, I stock groceries at a grocery store. I mean, that's what I do. It's honest work, you know? I'm not selling heroin, I guess. I'm not selling fentanyl, be happy. I'm also in the Army Reserve part time. I mean, in can I get a little clap for that shit?
00:16:07
Speaker
No, I don't go a fuck about that. You don't have a degree. Why the fuck are you with this guy? He's a bum. Oh, that's how they feel. And then they're like, he's coming from a, he's coming from a 10 year divorce. Um, he's gonna, he's gonna go back to his ex wife. I'm like, then they don't even know the dynamic between my wife. He's not cold, man. It'd be a cold day in hell, bro. Cold day in hell, but I was nervous because she tells me that, well, she says, I guess they're not racist, and they always vote Democrat.
00:16:43
Speaker
But she wasn't allowed to have um CDs by artists that were black. She wasn't allowed to watch black television on the TV. That's right. I forgot about that. That's crazy. like We're not racist. We don't care that he's black. We voted for Obama. but Well, there you go. There you go. it's Now she's getting everything. So I'm just, I was very...
00:17:11
Speaker
I'm like, I ain't never been in this situation before. And do I really want to deal with this? Like it it was like, I think, excuse me, it was like a year, maybe even two years. I say maybe no, it was well over two years before I really felt comfortable.
00:17:26
Speaker
with this family because… After she told me how they felt about her her being with me, I felt like, well, this woman's going to leave me because no one stays with a guy that their parents absolutely hate. Yeah, just make your life fucking tough if you want to be part of them. Yeah, but she she tells me the conversations she had with them that day and… She says she's never seen her dad that mad at her and just looking at me like I'm a complete nothing. Like, why are you with him? You can be with anybody, you know, and you chose him. So I try my best not to look at things on a race level. i I hate to deduce everything to a problem of race. I try to find something else because I hate the race shit. So. What's a different generation, bro?
00:18:20
Speaker
yeah ah Yeah, I get it, but I really do hate the race shit, so i and so I'm trying to understand that, okay, they they don't approve of me because they think I'm this or that because I didn't get ah go to college and get a college degree. We're in 2022 at that time, bro. People don't need college degrees to make money.
00:18:38
Speaker
I mean, Lewis, you got a college degree? Nope. I make more money than a lot of people. You make more money than a lot of motherfuckers with a college degree. Okay, so I mean, I know a person that got out of school with a college degree and went to a job making $15 an hour.
Education vs. Career Success
00:18:56
Speaker
I make double that. So do I need a college degree to go make $15? No, that's that stupid. But we're in a different world today. Degrees aren't everything. Tech schools, I think, are more important and shit like that like learn a trade but the I feel like I'm still to get back to the home point here is I'm not I'm still not at a point where I feel comfortable being who I am around
00:19:27
Speaker
any of them. I would say that I'm more free around her aunts, but even then I'm very, I'm im um i'm tamed. um We've been up to see you one of her aunts in Maine before.
00:19:41
Speaker
I feel like that might be the most free I am because it takes me back more to how I ah how i talk when I'm at home, how ah their family vibe used to be when I was there in Maine, felt felt a lot like my home in Mississippi. So it was easier to like converse and shit with them. But when I'm around these other, her parents, I'm about to say these other people. you mean know the be When I'm around her parents, I find it so hard for me to just let loose. Like I'm in my own motherfucking house and I don't even, I don't talk like this. I can't talk like this. I gotta, I just sit back. I mostly keep shut to be honest with you. I don't really say much of anything because I can't talk as freely as I want to. Because I don't want them to feel like, who the fuck is this guy? You know? And I shouldn't, I shouldn't have to be like that. But yeah, that's my whole spiel. That's my story. I'm sticking to it, man. I got a little bit of Jack left.
00:21:14
Speaker
Just a Disney movie? What the fuck?
00:21:22
Speaker
That's kind of cool, but I completely get the confusion. Like, what the fuck am I supposed to clap? I don't know if I can play a fucking piano. You know how much pussy I could get if I could play a piano? Bro, I don't know how to play fucking piano. You know how much? But think about it. If an instrument in general, yes. Learn a piano or guitar. You are getting laid. The pussy will literally fall in your lap. You know what? That's true. I don't see the guy who's ringing the bell, making, getting all that pussy. Bing. Yeah, that dude. Oh my god. You dinged the fuck out of that triangle, boy. Give me that shit. Yeah, don't get that guy's getting all that play. Yeah, he's not getting anything. Yeah, the guitarists are like, you know, yeah.
00:21:59
Speaker
The piano guy, yeah. Yeah. Julia, how much pussy would I get if I played a guitar? You just ask your fucking wife that. If I could play a guitar, you'd be melting over me, wouldn't you? I know you would. You'd follow me right now, right? Yeah. Yeah, men too. I just, they love fucking...
00:22:16
Speaker
like a lot of it's just like a, I don't know, it's one of those things, like a little, it's a good way to describe it. I'm going to learn it. I'm going to learn a guitar. I want to learn a guitar. And when we have our, cause when we have our five or 10 year anniversary thing, I want to sit on a stool and sing to you.
00:22:33
Speaker
in a party. It's gonna be a party. I want to sit on a stool and sing to you. And then after thought I'm done, my whole fantasy is you come up to me wishing my ear, take me to the back and fuck the shit out of me. Oh my God. dude And I'm like, okay, okay, baby. Hold on. Hey, God, take the guitar, you know, and we go make it happen. that's That's what I'm hoping for. You got me, right? Every guy listening. No, you don't. No, you don't. I just gave all you guys an idea of learning guitar.
00:22:59
Speaker
Look, the piano's too much for me. I can't do it. The keys and shit. do to No, Ray Charles in it, bitch. I can't do it. But a guitar? You got some time. Sexy. What'd you say, the 10 year anniversary? Was that fine? We're at about five now. We're we're creeping up on five. Do the 10. Give you some time with it. Hey, we've been together five years nick in June, right? Hey. Yes, motherfucker. Hey, you know where he was.
00:23:26
Speaker
yeah we've been We've been together since 2020 because we got together in COVID. so Yeah, it'd be five. Yeah, it's five. I was good at math, I swear. I'm good at math. Sometimes. Me too. Say what?
00:23:42
Speaker
Oh, sometimes with me. all um Once I learned the steps, I'm there. you know It's just remembering the steps. But once I'm reminded of what the steps are, I'm good, man. Order of operations, fucking suck it. I got this shit. i mean oh What are you talking about? When they were like, listen, we need you to show your work. Fuck you. That's the answer. Yeah, I hate you for my work. The answer's right. All right, go fuck yourself. But you know it's because you got to keep the cheating down. You got to keep the cheating down. You can't get the cheating down if you're not showing your work. They need to prove you did it.
00:24:12
Speaker
But um to piggyback off that other shit or what I really just said to her, why is it hard, and I guess I really like to know this answer from you, Aliah, but why is it hard for women to be there for a man emotionally o or physically when we need you to, but a man is always willing to do it for their woman?
00:24:36
Speaker
Now, being that it's woman-woman, are y'all just like, fuck you, and you're like, fuck you, you know, you walk off, or how does it feel? Yeah, like, is it like that? What the fuck is that? Let me think of that. I'm thinking about how this question's going, then you just hit me with that curveball, all right?
00:24:51
Speaker
i'm
00:24:55
Speaker
I'm... Fuck. All right, so, okay, that makes me feel better, though, okay?
00:25:17
Speaker
But see, the thing is, were you when men were barely will rarely let a woman know when we're struggling, but when we do and we verbalize it, it is never received properly. Or is never yeah they're never like there to really help you.
00:25:35
Speaker
Or they they can't help. They're unable – they're incapable of helping. Lewis, you know what the fuck I'm saying here. It's like – I just it literally just went through it. Literally. Exactly that. I don't get it. so in ah So in a lesbian relationship, is it like – I guess you don't ever have to have two girlies – two girly girlies in a lesbian.
Personal Fears and Unexpected Changes
00:25:59
Speaker
I know some – I have seen some and I – yeah.
00:26:04
Speaker
and Okay, so I would assume yeah, so I would assume typically you're going to have your one dominant female than the one female female, femaleish female.
00:26:23
Speaker
Yeah, but see this thing I need a six foot tall 300 pound man turn into a fucking baby when it came to us writer. So I get that. So people just has their, their weakness and it is what it is. It's all pissed for me, bro. I don't touch any of them. Like we caught up, we caught a mouse the other day in the basement. Well, when we moved in, we caught a mouse in the basement and.
00:26:43
Speaker
She's like, can you take that out? I'm like, fuck no, I'm not touching that shit. I'm gonna fucking you better get that. I said, I'm the man, but I'm not I'm not touching no fucking bugs, bro. I'm not touching bugs. I'm not touching. him Two minutes later, he ripped off his shirt. and was on I didn't touch shit. So I'm going to sit there, rot and wither away on that fucking glue pad. I'm not touching it. and I'm not touching it. I can't do it. So the there's that's why I'm the bitch. I'm the bitch there, but.
00:27:09
Speaker
citizen
00:27:12
Speaker
So is it is it so now I got questions when a when a So is the proper term stood that is the proper term. Oh I listen I you know what since you hit with me the I don't know I was gonna be like you're gonna define this shit like what the fuck is the difference so
00:27:43
Speaker
There's a lot of. I mean, the letters in this thing get confusing me. That's what I was going to say. Like, is dyke like a derogatory term now? Like, is beauty going to take offense to that shit? yeah I thought that was like an actual… I would assume it's a dark derogatory term because a minute ago when I was – before I said lesbian, that word did float through my skull and I was like, don't say that one.
00:28:05
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You're like, oh fuck, Luke. It sounds derogatory, you know? Yeah. So, yeah. But, so, I don't, want I don't, it still does not derogatory.
00:28:18
Speaker
So as being the stud, do you feel you approach women, I mean, yeah, women, in like the way a man would, or do you, does it still, as a man would, but with a female's touch sort of thing, if that makes sense? I get where the question's coming from, I get it. Okay. So do you feel like you can pull more bitches than me?
00:28:49
Speaker
Well, dude, I was just gonna say, of course, man. she's fuck Are you kidding me? Well, I had to challenge her. I had to challenge her. And fucking women, you know especially as she grew up, be like, I can fucking i know what, what where, how, and when to lick that pussy. He don't. He need to figure that shit out. I have my own. Dude, it's over after that. You get a couple more drinks done. That's it. Bryce who at that point? Bryce who, man.
00:29:19
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Yeah, what the fuck? Isn't that Bob and you? No. Yeah, okay, okay. You want something to actually come home too i get that i wouldn't want to. I wouldn't want to be somebody's experience because I tell you too, when I very first met Julia, I did have a slight fear that I'm just her black experience and I didn't want to be that.
00:29:48
Speaker
knowing that you grew up your whole entire adult life. You're 31 years old, and you're telling me you've never been with a black guy. We're in a fucking epidemic with COVID, and you're telling me you want a real relationship with me? You're not just trying to, you know, we're in COVID, we're on lockdown. This is during that height of lockdown shit. yeah I did have a slight feeling that maybe she just wants to experience with a never had a black dick in her life. She wants to know what's all the fuss about.
00:30:17
Speaker
You know, is it that great? Hmm. Shit. I got married to it. I got a kid. like yeah married didn that I guess yeah it but guess it was effective. but But I did have that, that fear though. I didn't, I didn't want to be the experience. So, but I feel like that probably would be more common for you with those girls that are like, ah, what's it was like to sleep with a girl, you know, or I'm just drunk. Hi, kissing me. That type of bullshit.
00:30:44
Speaker
Yeah, guys don't do that. I'm never gonna be drunk like, Lewis. Yeah, I know. we We boys, not like that. why is it But why is that okay? Why is it okay that girls can kiss girls and I can't turn around and kiss this boy and be like, Hey man, love you. that
00:31:02
Speaker
why is that Why is that so gay, but a woman ain't gay? Motherfucker, man. I got love for you, but I would bitch slap the shit out of you. I'm just asking a random question. You know I like to ask these random shit. I swear to God. Oh, motherfucker. Oh, the video. We got to cut that, put that shit on TikTok. I'm just saying. Oh, that was good. All right, go. I'm sorry.
00:31:27
Speaker
you know It's fucking true, but if I saw that I'd be like Bro, did you just see that like if I walk away, but see here's the thing Regardless of gender if I saw two girls, I'd still black bro. See that it' just yeah free To me two guys doing it. I was like, yo, you see that? Yeah, bro. You fucking see it It'd be more way more Yeah, you'd be up up up about that shit because I would. i Well, no, lets it all depends. It all depends. as now It's not that I would be up up about it. It would be one of those things where like, I i don't know, like it's going to sound fucked up. And if it is, I'm sorry, but at least I'm giving you my honest opinion. And one of those things where like, if I wasn't ready for it, you know what I mean?
00:32:13
Speaker
Like if I was in a place and I knew that's what to expect, but i wouldn you wasn't ready to kiss you but if I turned and I just happened to just look right over and these two burly dudes just going at it. Oh.
00:32:30
Speaker
But you know what, your first mind would say, they're gay. But if you saw two girls kissing each other, your first, you would think, oh, they're friends. You wouldn't automatically think they're gay. Well, no, honestly, no, I will be straight up honest. If I saw two girls kissing my first, and then I'm gonna fucking, I'll be completely honest. My first initial reaction is, well, but like serious one and then the then the analyzing happens. Just two lesbians.
00:32:56
Speaker
Oh, the two hot chicks. Hey, yeah and then I don't even care if the last means at that point, they're just too hot. chicks but oh So yeah, that, but they see again, this is the man cave. I'm giving you a fucking site into what it is. The man's thought the man's perspective.
00:33:16
Speaker
I'm open as shit. You listen to these episodes? Yeah. There's a. I just think, well, no, this is true. I think like socially, though, it's more open for a woman to make out with another woman and not be labeled as a lesbian where men. That's the thing. You could do it. Go right ahead. But that's just not how a lot of men roll. That's just that's not how we roll. And if you do, bro, to each of their own. Mm hmm. That's not how I roll.
00:33:46
Speaker
and Okay. same Well, uh, how can I explain it? I can't. I just know that when I see two women kissing, I'm like, whoa. And then from there, the analyzing happens. Roger. Roger. Oh, I i want me to tell you, I looked on ip say today and just randomly.
00:34:06
Speaker
I got a promotion. Sick. No, not fucking sick. Yo, they put you in corporal. No way. Yes, they did. They promoted me to fucking corporal, bro. I'm like, oh, shit. Like, here's this sidestep bullshit. That's fucking bullshit. Yeah, lateral movement. Why am I a fucking corporal? I know that they don't have E5 slots and shit, but yeah I'm not a fucking corporal, bro. Respect me, man. Put some respect on my tenure, all right? You can see the sergeant rank. It's right here. They're like, stand up, young. like Fuck you, guys. Fuck you.
00:34:36
Speaker
Shit's fucking annoying, so now I gotta stand up. I know they're gonna call me in front of the formation and shit. I hate being in front of people. Dude, don't hate it. Honestly, I'd be like, no. I don't wanna do that. I don't want a ceremony to promote me to corporal. That's fucking bullshit. Yeah. Can't you refuse it? But I'm really gonna do it, because they did it for Sable. When she got promoted, they bought her up and they did her this corporal. Aren't you in the service, or you did serve for something like that?
00:35:00
Speaker
Oh, no, Air Force. Good shit. Yeah. I don't give a fuck. They have a sweet out there, man. Yeah, I do have a sweet. Yeah, I do. I told myself if I reenlisted, I was going to go Air Force or Navy and I didn't. So I fucked myself.
00:35:15
Speaker
Oh, OK. Yeah. Oh, no, no, I know I take it that say the Civil War bad ass. So what did you do? What have you done?
00:35:50
Speaker
Which is fucking badass cuz I'm special agent that's fucking awesome who just says like yeah i was a Special agent for me, right? This is so nonchalant yeah how much what did you but And then just continue I did like wait, wait, wait, that's fucking badass Alright, there's very few people that could say I was a special agent. I
00:36:19
Speaker
Sick. So you are badass. Okay. Nice. Good for you. yeah Type. Type. What is it like? So hold on. Wait, wait, wait. Before you ask that question, do you have a degree in anything? There you go. Motherfuckers. Bam. Okay.
00:36:43
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okay
00:36:46
Speaker
Well, it's good that you're getting it, but I i just wanted to fucking prove that point because I do have some younger people that listen to this. but They are in the same field as me and I'm trying to tell them, listen, you can make really good money and you don't have to go to the degree. There's other jobs you can make really good money, but there's still jobs that you don't need that. All right, Bryce, go ahead, bro. My bad. too Oh, now I got a follow-up question or something you said. what What is your bachelor's in?
00:37:12
Speaker
Oh shit. Nice, nice. Good shit, good shit. Good for you. What I was initially going to ask you is, what is it like to meet Seda?
00:37:24
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Hell yeah.
00:38:04
Speaker
Damn. That's awesome. Damn. I made it. That's bullshit.
00:38:19
Speaker
She is. She is the type of person I would think she is just based on her stories and speaking to her and having her on and she just seems like she will go that mile for somebody she feels like it's worth it or deserves it. So, say it is dope. That's the thing like, all right, so we've exchanged a couple of messages and we've talked about stuff and she literally told me she's like, you have a good personality. I might be joking. She could call me a liar.
00:38:45
Speaker
She Lily was like you should become an special agent. She's like the the way your personnel is lowest like you should try this i'm like Yeah, but I've never done anything like that. You should definitely take this test over so I believe it She's pushing. She's been trying to push me to do it. and I was like, yeah, I like being a mechanic You know, I like doing what I do just seeing her post about stuff gives me a little oh, you know just sometimes Very very
00:39:12
Speaker
Yeah. She's like, literally, I was like, you are like, literally like sunlight in some people's days. Like some of the shit. know nice like thanks I'd be wondering, does she have bad moods? Like does she ever get upset about anything? or saying She just seems to be always chipper and had a good day or or were just willing to look at the brighter side of whatever is going on. So yeah she's dope as shit.
00:39:45
Speaker
That's good. That's what's up. We love you, Sada. The Man Cave loves you. We appreciate you. Definitely. okay um So you want to start a podcast, you said it right. um What are you wanting to start a podcast about?
00:40:11
Speaker
Hmm.
Future Aspirations and Podcasting Tips
00:40:38
Speaker
It is, it is. I thought about, that was one of the ideas I had when it came to wanting to do a podcast is interview people, interview everyone as if they're somebody special. Interview them all as if they're a celebrity. And you know, you're going through the upbringing, their childhood, how they got to how they got here, jobs, like interviewed them, like they're actually somebody make them feel special. Cause if you can make them feel special, the listener thinks they're some fucking body and That makes them feel like your podcast is something. So I like that idea. I had that thought before myself too. I almost thought about transitioning to that at one point, but yeah,
00:41:23
Speaker
I could, I could do two podcasts now. Hey, I can pull it off. Maybe I am about to start school myself next week. I'm trying to finish a degree in my damn self because I have about, uh, I think they had me with 98 credits or some shit like that. And so I'm trying to do a bachelor's in cybersecurity and started on, now I started on Thursday. I'm a little nervous, not going to lie. The shit sounds confusing as fuck. Yeah, but you got, you got this. Just take your time. I want to bro. Cause I don't want to, I'm so tired of being a fucking.
00:41:59
Speaker
Well, I'm not going to be in a technician because I don't mind the job. I don't mind the place I work. I want, I want more money. I felt i need, because inflation is way ahead of me. It's like in first place way in at every buck and back in seventh place. So I'm trying to pass a couple of cars.
00:42:18
Speaker
to get up there to close to the first place. And just the starting to do what you can make on that shit is just ridiculous. So I'm trying to. That's just the start. That's why like I, yeah, I do need to finish it, but I can't right now. I have to other stuff I got to do first.
00:42:32
Speaker
I'm going to try. Um, they take a lot of Sophia courses. And, um, so I've done a, I've done quite a few Sophia courses. They took a lot of my military courses as credit. And I've been to a couple of colleges before, like, bro, I've been to, I've been to three or four colleges as it is. That's why I got a decent amount of credits. That's what I mean. Just fucking a whole lot of starting and quitting. As soon as you get like into the course and get even just a basic certificate, there's so much out there that can help you. Yeah. I was trying the basic understanding. It's, it's. You'll get it. You'll pick it up quick.
00:43:03
Speaker
i was trying to finish the yeah google cybersec security professional so certificate think that so proper name for it they say it that's like a baseline for cybersec securityity and it gets you ready for the um tia security plus exam yeah and um you could likely land a job with that at least now you have your foot in the door and yeah i mean as you progress they can just keep no pushing up the ladder or whatever but
00:43:32
Speaker
I'm trying to go i'm trying to slow myself down. I want to rush myself through it so fast. that I'm not retaining anything Yeah, I need to retain it actually while I'm going through it. So I Slow myself down trying to do that slowly and do school at the same time. So Yeah, but all right on the other hand, us being from the military, we're actually kind of military trained not to try and to be like, we're super soldier or whatever, but we are kind of trying to get fucking just crammed with information in a short period of time.
00:44:03
Speaker
that's why sometimes it does work for people it ain't gonna work for me i don't mean you like down me what like the basic stuff might but when we get to the coding and shit cause i tried it was the southern new hampshire university that shit no joke i'm not goingnna sit here and i could not grasp it i just couldn't fucking grasp it so I'm doing the Python class this time through Sophia so I can do more of my own pace and try to try to retain as much as I can. Even though I've read online that honestly, a lot of that shit Python shit and coding, you don't really need to know to do cybersecurity work um exactly, but the school programs wanted you to know the shit. it But um not to go too far from the the topic here, but um I know you wanted you you wanted to ask some things about podcasting. So if I can help you answer anything that you might have, you can ask it now and I'll try to assist as best I can.
00:45:23
Speaker
for the most Yeah. Yeah. I've, uh, I've wanted to do us together, but it's just, I feel like that puts too much on Lewis to drive all the way down here to where I am. yeah I mean, it's not a not crazy far. I mean, it's an hour, but trying to get him down here to drive an hour every Sunday so we can sit in front of the camera and do it. Um, that's what I would like, but I understand why we can't do that.
00:45:47
Speaker
You know, he has kids too, so his kids are over every other weekend like mine are. And that messes up scheduling and it's just too difficult. But yeah. Yeah. That's why. Yeah. We do the remote thing because it just works out better. It does.
00:46:03
Speaker
long as the audio still keeps coming out chris yeah i didn't realize they had ah platforms out there like riverside and zencastr and shit that can that you can do this i didn't i thought you had to be together in a place and Yeah. And Riverside is very, is very user friendly. Like it's got yeah so many fucking tools on here that you can use to break it down. Like it has a show notes. It has AI for show notes. So if you ever see all that description shit that goes underneath the the podcast, I don't do any of it. Riverside does it.
00:46:41
Speaker
They break it all down. I copy paste. They do the, um, the timestamps. I copy paste. Um, they'll even break your videos down into short one to two minute clips so that they're already readily postable for tick tock, tick tock reels, uh, YouTube shorts and shit like that. Oh, no shit. That's fucking. Yeah. Yeah.
00:47:09
Speaker
yeah I published from Zencaster only because that's where I did the RSS feed shit. So I haven't... I've never went into figuring out how to do my RSS feed and stuff from Riverside because it's already on Zencaster. So I always take my Riverside recording. I download the audio.
00:47:32
Speaker
I then upload that audio on Zencaster and I process it all through there. And I upload it from there. And then I will download the video from Riverside. Now I'm doing this recently since last episode. I download the video from Riverside and now I publish it to YouTube. So. Yeah.
00:47:51
Speaker
It's a lot of steps that I go through to do it. I could make it a lot simpler if I just sat down one day and say, okay, how do I do this shit all from Riverside? Because using two separate platforms is too much work. And I never get to, um, and I think that's why I don't get to upload my videos in wave format. Um, I always have to upload the video on MP3 format because Zencaster doesn't, so won't let me upload it in wave. And.
00:48:18
Speaker
Wave is just a um higher quality of audio in case you didn't know. so debt But I think the podcast always come out sounding clean to me, so I don't even know how much better wave format would sound because I've never gotten to hear it. So that's that.
00:48:43
Speaker
ah what What kind of mic did you go with, actually?
00:48:54
Speaker
So you would want, you would probably do better getting a dynamic mic. I think it's got dynamic, right? Dynamic's the one you want? Let me make sure. That's the one you got. Yeah. Yeah. You can use a condenser mic. It just has to be in a room that is like quiet and like um there's some type of sounding. If you have a sound, because if there's any type of echoing, you can fuck with the audio. Yeah, to fuck with your audio. Yeah. And it'll cause us echoes and and feedback and Like you won't, you won't think it's being heard either, but your fridge running in the background, your air conditioner running in the background, all that should have be picked up. Yeah.
00:49:34
Speaker
Yeah. So a condenser mic really keeps it. Everything that's right in front of the mic can be heard. I used to use this one and this is the best one in my opinion, but my USB port broke.
00:49:49
Speaker
out of there just fell out um i gotta get that repaired and i haven't done it yet so i found this one here on amazon for like $50 in the meantime while i wait to try to get this one fixed um i think it sounds okay for $50 is fine but If you listen to the first few episodes and then listen to the ones later down the road when I got this, it's it's a difference. You can hear the difference. um i like The audio quality is better. Yeah. I like i like to say if you're going to do a podcast, the number one thing is how you sound. So I did buy.
00:50:25
Speaker
the mic that seems to be the standard for podcasting for everybody, the and it is it's expensive, but I think it's close to $300 if when I'm not mistaken. Well, I get that, but ah dude, I paid $120 for mine. She works good. i got It works good. I paid $50 for this. It works fine, but i'm still I still noted this mic over here.
00:50:48
Speaker
it does it does sound i can tell the difference it's beautiful so 300 i think it is the standard if if you can swing it i say get that one i'm gonna swing it because i might end up buying another one because i this but as far as long as you go with a dynamic mic like yeah me or Lewis has you're fine but that would be the best for your situation unless you want to get a room in your home like treated with sound treatment so you know just put up those cones and shit on your wall but who wants to do all that?
00:51:23
Speaker
But it'll keep you clear and, uh, it makes your voice have that more radio like sound. You know, as far as headphones, I just, I bought some cheap ass $15 headphones. I hate these headphones. These headphones suck.
00:51:40
Speaker
i got some gaming ones but it unusual so I do too, but I'm not bringing those over here. Those are my Astros. That's for the PlayStation shit, bro. But yeah, and I will agree that the mic and makes a big standard on it. like yeah This one, from what I've been told, as long as I keep the volume up, people can hear me and they they can hear me fine. But I am going to get that mic eventually. and just I'd rather spend the money on those things. It's the gold standard. It's the gold standard.
00:52:07
Speaker
My god, I think my mic works fuck it. They see it away. You can find them used for like 200 though They yeah, a lot of people just so I mean you like talking you spill on this thing fuck that I don't want you can always but this comes off you can buy this shit goes on Yeah, this comes off. Okay, you can buy it. Yeah, you can replace the pop filter That's no big people like making out with him. Well, you know me I used to be up on this thing like did right now. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Yeah, like you fucking like Dr. Chocolate. No, but I always like your comments to in the deal closer to the speaker. Yeah. Tell him, bro, Mary, you can come at me like that. buts But anyway, oh, my God.
00:52:53
Speaker
But yeah, I mean, Mike, it's important knowing what platform you're gonna... um Well, and if you're gonna do video, you need to get a decent camera, because a laptop camera. yeah Yeah. You can probably see the difference between me and him. He's using a webcam on his laptop, right? Yeah. And I'm using my Sony... Yeah, but you got a sick fucking camera. How much does that thing run you? This is a $900 camera. Yeah, okay, so's so that's what I mean.
00:53:20
Speaker
But I bought the camera for YouTube. Yeah, he bought it for other reasons. not just for I bought that camera a while back for YouTube. But once we got to the podcast, I was like, Oh, I can double use it for the podcast too. Now I don't really do much YouTube at all. But that was my intent of buying that was to um start a YouTube fitness channel, which never got off the ground. that i But you know,
00:53:41
Speaker
Oh, that's not why I brought that up. I just wanted to bring up that you have a really nice fucking camera. That's a big difference. Yeah, but I was just... But there is some nice ones that you don't have to spend yeah a lot of money on. You can just get a webcam. I mean, those webcams... I was looking at them today, they're like $100, $150, and there's some really nice ones.
00:54:00
Speaker
and Actually had this one that Lily you clip on and like the AI and it just tracks you ah yeah goes in and out That's really cool. I've seen that when it's like one one hundred and forty five dollars or something well the one that tracks you with 200 it's like 199 That's just stationary is 140. It's still really nice. This is of the cheaper ones, but I feel like a hundred bucks is a good one. It's not yet It ain't 200 no more I'm not the one you're talking about though. We're doing it. It's 145 now on sale. You can get it. It was 200 but it's
00:54:37
Speaker
Upgrade you. Upgrade me? What? I just got, there's some dirt on it. I just gotta to wipe it off. Oh, anyway, but you got anything else though? I don't got nothing. No, not you. I mean, oh as far as, um, any type of advice or ideas or things you were thinking about for podcasting and whatnot.
00:55:04
Speaker
Have you started anything yet?
00:55:07
Speaker
okay Okay.
00:55:16
Speaker
Gotcha. Gotcha. Gotcha. um I wish she did well hold on you said buddy is it a girl or guy it a one and is yeah all right that's good though because you you want that you want the but clash because there's different things you guys are going to disagree on so that' that could be a good podcast because me and me and bryce work out good cause he's from the south he's been up here for a while well it differently And I'm colored, so. And he's colored. I was going to say, he's a black guy. I mean, I'm very light skinned, but I am good. um But I still love him. He's still my brother. Yeah, that's awesome.
00:55:52
Speaker
Yeah, I mean, that's that's a good mix.
00:55:56
Speaker
Oh, she's got that spice on the thing because it's a girl guy. He's aged. Wait, is he gay too? No offense. I was gonna be like, dude, that would be so shit. What's wrong with you? Jesus, man. God. No offense, bro. If you hear the podcast, I'm just saying that would be a mix right there.
00:56:17
Speaker
No, me and Louis actually were talking the other day because we said we need to find a female female that wants to come on permanently on the show as well because I feel like a lot of women think we speak a certain way. We need that woman in the middle. and Yeah, just the input. Yeah, cut and shoot. Give a different perspective. Yeah. so
00:56:40
Speaker
We try, yeah. Honestly, I'm not gonna lie. We do get women that will agree and say they'll come on and back out. Yeah, there has been so many backouts. They flake out. It's it's probably because they get nervous. I don't know.
00:56:53
Speaker
Well, it's a thing too. We get, we told them, if you don't have to be on the camera, you just go blank string and just talk. Oh, so I wouldn't even agree to that. If we told him that, um but I just try to get them on, try to get them on because soon as they run, then we'll see. It's not that bad. You know, come on. I would, I would say, yeah, that's another thing to watch out for is you get a lot of people to say they're going to come on.
00:57:14
Speaker
A lot of people will not come on. I didn't believe that, but I was on this podcast page too on Facebook trying to get people and they all would say the same shit. So I know some of them would have this like this form that you would fill out prior to coming on the show along with picking a date. So they had you set up and you had to like acknowledge them with 4824 hours or something like that. and If you didn't acknowledge that, then ah they knew you weren't going to be there because we have plenty of episodes. We either didn't record or we just went on and taught shit anyway because yeah we thought we had a guest and yeah we don't have a guest. So no a lot of people will back the fuck out. And yeah that sucks. Let's expect that it's going to happen. I can hear it in your voice you're like, man, a lot of shit. here but did It's going to suck, but it does. It doesn't happen. It's all good.
00:58:11
Speaker
Yeah. know what You roast them a little bit. We're always understanding, but we're gonna roast you a little bit. Yeah, things come up. Yeah. and We did drop their name.
00:58:23
Speaker
Oh, man. I can't believe I didn't. Sometimes I'm thoughtful. Which one was that? Was it the la time before last? Probably. Probably was Irene. Irene has ditched on me like three times. Oh, all right. Sorry, Irene. I know she she is a dedicated listener, though. She listens to every fucking episode, but can never make time to come on. So she's getting married. No, congratulations, Irene, on your marriage. Oh, shit. um She's just busy and scared.
00:58:53
Speaker
A lot of people are nervous to be on to. A lot of people, I'm scared. I sound weird. Like, what the fuck are you talking about? You sound weird. It's your opinion. Who cares? You're a fucking adult. Why are you worried about what your voice sounds like? I've been told I have a weird sounding voice all my life. I'm going to give a shit. It's all right, man.
00:59:11
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. You might have to pick that up just a little bit. Just a little bit. I think soon as you could start to hear yourself and you you like you, you'll change your tone and and try to get bring it to the tone that you want. Yeah.
00:59:23
Speaker
yeahto it is I think I, um, that's kind of why I am the way I am on the podcast because I know I can't expect somebody to listen to me talk the way I do. I normally talk day to day. It ain't going to work. So ah I livened up a little bit. I make a few jokes, you know, I say some shit that's off kilter, you know, just to get the audience because I'm thinking about if I'm on the other end.
00:59:48
Speaker
Would I like to hear a joke right now? Do i want I don't want to laugh sometimes? So I try to, I'm trying to think how they might think and and try to go that route with it, if you know what I mean. So yeah, and try to be funny, you know, bring your character, but keep your personality. I think your personality is everything.
01:00:06
Speaker
So I think I'm still me on here. I'm just I was just gonna say fuck that just be yourself And that's why I drink to when I'm on doing the show cuz it keeps me Oh, you could tell the difference between like regular Bryson liquid courage price Yeah, I get to talking and know Dennis, you know the dark web of porn whore hub and oh my god feet and all the foot episode six Yeah, so there's a distant an episode. It's not all about feet, but there's an episode yeah I think it's called it's called the foot job you're like what oh my god ah the yeah I don't hate them but I'm kind of like no yeah I don't mind like if you will my my wife I would like after you like took a shower and you know rub your feet
01:00:59
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You said I would not suck toes. No, you're great. No, you are. Ain't nothing wrong with it. There's no you're right. There is no wrong with it not being in my mouth either. efficient so If your wife had stuck her toes after this, I would look at her dead to her fucking eyes and say, fuck no. the It would not happen. I think when it comes in, but then I'll hit you with the curveball. She's like, I'll never suck your dick again. Then I'll be like,
01:01:29
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right
01:01:33
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yeah change my two real god damn fast but for the most part not I think and I'll have this conversation then we'll we'll close this out. I believe that when you are with your, uh, your partner and it's in a look committed, you're married and whatever.
01:01:48
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Whatever they want sexually, you should fulfill. And I want to start. I want to start i want all with you and then you will lie. Give me your opinion. but And then I will give you guys my take, which is obvious. But go ahead, Lewis. You can't. All right. So first of all, I understand the point of like, you should, but on the other hand, you can't say it like, well, you can say it like that because you're right.
01:02:10
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but on the other hand, you know there's gonna be a bunch of churpers. He can fucking force her to do it. Listen, it's nothing about forcing him. It's nothing about that. His wife was gonna submit to him if, I'm sorry, if you don't understand that, there's a certain level of what I mean by that.
01:02:24
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um But on the other hand, fuck, I kind of forgot where I was going with that shit. We did it to you. Oh my God. Yeah. Let's go. Good time. So good time. Fuck. You know what? No, I'm passing the ball. It's all you passing it.
01:02:56
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to Okay. Okay. It's not just about toes. I mean, any, I mean, sexually in general, your partner, you should do, if they want something sexually, you should be willing to fulfill it. Period. Oh, dude. I want it. That's what you're going to should get away. Why peg you. What's up. Mr. Mr. Bryce.
01:03:16
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well Listen here. Listen well don let's let's do this bro it it to me. listen it to me okay i'm not I'm not saying nothing to that, but listen, I believe that if there is something that turns your partner on and they ask you to do it, you should be willing to fulfill them. and i believe I believe that too to the extent of you should try anything for your partner once. Oh my God. At least once. If you won't even try it once, then that's a problem. I feel like, well, okay. If you want to try it once, don't you know that Timmy at my job told me that he will let me fucking rim the fuck out of his ass with my dildo whenever I want to. So what then?
01:04:05
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I mean, she's going to go now. If if you're the stud, you're going to go, you're going to go strap on and knock off Timmy. But same thing with me. What if I got, you know, um Jessica at my job, want me, she's like, okay, you know, I'll let you do anal.
01:04:20
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And I'm like, well, but my wife won't. She's like, yeah, i I mean, you can come and fuck my ass tonight. You know, she's like, um so how long do I turn down Jessica at work? And I keep asking my wife, yo, you gonna let me put in your booty? And she's like, no, you know there my looty brason you're not doing it. And I'm like, Jessica said she'll let me do it. And I'm like, oh my God, I got a i got a problem. I'm in the dilemma. Jessica is telling me to fill her up and you won't let me do it. And now I fucking ain't no ass fucked Jessica. And now I've cheated on my wife because my wife won't give me what I want. Oh, yeah, dude.
01:05:01
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I mean, it ain't know bro not feeling it's feel like it's gotta move. I'm just joking, but I'm just giving, but there are people that will, even though it's not it does have wheel because i I, as Lewis knows, you probably don't know, but.
01:05:16
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i originally podcast I originally did cheat. The original thing that got me to cheat on my previous wife and what began the end of our marriage is I was not getting head and I wanted head. She just wouldn't suck my dick. And this went on, I didn't just, it wasn't like three or four weeks, you know? I'm like, this was years.
01:05:38
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and I'm like, okay, well, this girl over here said she'll give me head. I'll just get the head and I'll be on my way. I want it to be it. And I did. But then that turned into me wanting head from somebody else. And then that turned into me having sex. And you know, it it it it evolved from head to sex.
01:05:57
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That's the thing. It starts here and it goes here. It's like a guy, it's like you smoke cigarettes, then you smoke weed, then you're doing ecstasy. I'm sorry, Lewis, but you know what I'm saying? It's just the way it's the evolution of shit. It's the evolution of shit. I just smoked weed, man. The gateway shit over here. So, yeah, I'm just saying, you know.
01:06:27
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No, because I got hit. Oh, shit. That's a fucking curveball.
01:06:35
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In a way, like, let me say like, I didn't get it on the regular. Like, and if I asked for it, it was a problem. If I wanted it, sometimes it was a problem. It was more of a sex thing. She loved sex. She did not care anything for the auras of sex. And that was Oh, she likes kissing. She liked kissing and fucking. That was it. Either kiss me or fuck me. There was no oral sex on me. No or six. are She didn't want or six given to herself. She just wanted kissing and fucking.
01:07:09
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Fuck, yes. Break it down. Yes, do it. Yes, this is awesome. Like when females aren't emotionally connecting to their partner.
01:07:22
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they shut down sexually, right? And so maybe her going straight for it is just like, hey, I need this to feel fulfilled enough in the marriage. But anything extra is a no for me because I'm not being fulfilled emotionally. I got you. I got you. Check me out. Check me out. I know. you I already, I, so, you know, just to go deeper into it. These are things I've touched on in other episodes from ah previous listeners, but After going to therapy and all of that, we did eventually learn that she didn't want to give me that type of satisfaction because she felt like I wasn't satisfying my role as the husband.
01:08:09
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But there's oh that's what she just said. so like Yeah, I noticed what she just said. and That's one thing. That's why I'm agreeing with it. I'm agreeing with what she said. So once ah once we got out of therapy and all that was fixed, yeah, I got back to getting my head on the regular. right But never mind, you win. Okay. Check it out. Oh, that's fucking great. That was great. See, I want all the women that heard that to know that we don't always think we're right. Okay. I will, I will concede. Okay. You win. You got me. Thank you. It's the fact that it's true on both sides. Right. So like both sides, what are you saying?
01:08:54
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Like I've been the one that doesn't want to have sex because I don't feel like I'm not feeling the relationship. Right. Okay. Okay. I didn't, but I took it as where I'm not doing something right. And then she doesn't want to have sex either. Oh my God. I, you know what? I'm going to do it. Have you always, have you been lesbian as forever? I've been with dudes before I was a teenager. Okay. You what now?
01:09:25
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I was a teenager when I was with guys. Okay. Okay. Yeah. All right. Why did you have that moment then that made you say, okay, ah you know what? No more dick. Dick isn't for me. Um, so I think I always kind of knew, right? But I was, you know, I'm Mexican and i I was raised Catholic. So of course I'm going to try with a guy. Um, but I'd say it was like maybe 17. I stopped.
01:09:54
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I'm messing around with the guys. i was like I'm just wasting my time. I see them as a friend. yeah We would always be like best friends. And I'd be trying to like make out with the girls during my relationships. This is so much more fun. They smell better. This is great. is that You said you were trying to make out with girls while you were in relationships? Yeah. Don't wouldn't do that. Yeah, why should not all a lot? So and were you were you using that whole thing? We were talking about earlier like oh girls Just see it is guys just look at girls kissing is like whatever. They don't make no big deal about it but then you a test and although She's like at a buffet o come in you had a boyfriend you good boyfriend knew you were like kissing girls, but he's like ah, they're just plugging around, you know shit
01:10:37
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No, because I feel like the guys that I was with knew that I You know liked women more. So, okay How about how does he know that? I know I guess I'm as he looks at siren licks her fucking lips. She looks down enough fucking i don't know attitude is difference I Don't mean it like that. I mean it like what was specifically changing in your behavior that made them know like yeah she's definitely
01:11:09
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and the women she ain't fucking with me um i mean when you're like first messing with someone things are exciting right like but eventually you could just tell i was like checked out oh Okay. We were like best friends like, yeah, I want to hang out with you, but we're not going to do anything. All right. So how about this? What about, what about the last guy you were like, you know, hooking up with? Are you still friends with him? Like the, I mean, and I mean the like the guy that you were like, you know what, I'm done with guys like that guy.
01:11:41
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Uh, no, actually, but that's a crazy story because.
Exploring Relationship Identity and Perception
01:11:46
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died so Oh, fuck why the fuck? Oh, my bad. What the fuck? Of course I asked that. I'm a dick. Fuck. I was going to say, because, all right. And the reason why I'll ask, like I asked that question is because from like a guy's point of view. To be the guy, the last guy that like, don't take this the wrong way. Huh?
01:12:11
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hu would it be an ego blow to you yes for most guys to be the last guy that like was with that at that girl before she transformed to the other side oh man I know, it's gonna be, I don't mean it that way, like, I can't think of another word that, but trans, I don't know, whatever. I don't wanna say transition, cause that's the wrong fucking word. But just like, went to the other side to be that guy? Aw, man. Fuck. Yeah, he's probably gotta feel the type of way. I'm just friends with like, most of them, I'd say. Yeah. No, I know, but I mean like, the last one, when you were like, I'm done altogether, cause that was the last dick you ever had. Like, that's what I mean. Yeah, he really gave a shit, like the Reno, like.
01:12:53
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I kind of feel that way about the girl. I ain't going to say her name, but the um ah Coast Guard girl I was missing with that lived in Plymouth. and okay And I showed you a picture on Instagram before. oh yeah She now lives in Hawaii and she's full-blown lesbian now.
01:13:12
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And as far as my knowledge, I was the last one she was with. Now, as far as I can tell, old hu no, but bro, I'm I'm so surprised because she was fully into it. She was enjoying it doing. I mean, she was just for being a freak. Well, maybe you know what? You are her last hurrah. So that's what I'm thinking. Like, that's crazy. Like when I know this, I want to take this shit and remember it. I couldn't believe it when I saw the date and a woman. Now, she's been with this woman now for about three or four years, I think. But I'm like, wow, I did not expect that from you, I didn't expect it. That's, cause you like, you, I mean, you had like, you would never leave this kind of shit, you know? Cause always, that was weird to me. It was the one last to rob, bro. That's it. Yeah, I guess so. I mean, that's happened to me before with girls that have like, gone back to dating dudes after, you know, me. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, so I get the whole ego thing cause I'm like,
01:14:09
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I thought you were a lesbian, like- Yeah, all you need- Now you're a good dude? Mm-hmm. Do you wanna just eat my pussy? What the fuck? I had this. I'll tell you about the one lesbian, um...
01:14:21
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Louis, um, she, I believe she is full blown lesbian, but I was the only guy she was willing to fuck with. du that that' happen to me too What kind of lesbian is that then? Because that is the fucking awesome one. that That's what that is. saying an artist That was weird to me. Cause she, and even when she um finally told me, she's like, to be honest with you, you are the only guy I have ever had inside of me.
01:14:48
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And I couldn't believe it, but is I mean, the fact is she told me, okay, cool. I guess this the true she goes I didn't ask her. She had no reason to tell me. So why would you lie about it? If you got no reason to even tell me the shit. but So I'm the only guy you're a mess with. And she consistently would hit me up wanting to fuck again. Like I'm the only guy she was willing to mess with and has messed with, but she had a whole girlfriend committed to women. I mean, she even has her sometimes where she does her, her, her man, like dress up shit. Like.
01:15:16
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She's a – she likes women, but if I'm going to fuck with a guy, it's Bryson. Damn. Is – is that – is that common? Was this a white girl? Was it a white girl? No, she's common. Oh, shit. Okay. But I mean, I think, you know, feelings are fluid. Like, you can be attracted to someone's personality, right? Yeah. Yeah. I guess.
01:15:43
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Well see let's think it's okay so it's different it's different because it's much as some people don't want to say it's true it's different for men and women attraction especially I just thought it was weird like but did that make you feel weird because you said she would dress like a dude sometimes right so like She was not grabbing your hips and thrusting you like, get over here. That's a thing too. oh no pose When I was hitting it, she was a, she was definitely a woman. She wasn't acting like any dude type. I'm the hard type shit. She wanted to be, she wanted to be fucked.
01:16:18
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You know, we're just the only thing that that she needed. She needed that feminine side, baby. Well, you because you were my last skill about it. Yeah, it happens. I mean, as far as I feel like I didn't feel anything because, like I said, she she's cute. she' was She's a cute girl feel weird. Like when you saw her dress like because I've i've never heard you sit on me before. Right. Like how I am now. And I'm like, how the how the fuck are you attracted to me?
01:16:45
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Some, hey, he's a questionable man, maybe, I don't know. yeah Or he just doesn't look at it the same way you do. Just different perspective. She never, um when I say she dressed that way, I mean, like i I might see it in pictures that look a certain way, but as far as when I saw her in person, she was normally dressed you know normal like a normal female. No, not super girly, but she was a girl.
01:17:09
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So I don't know. I don't know. I have no idea. I just thought that was very weird that I was the, I don't look at myself. I talk a lot of shit about I'm the best five foot three motherfucker on the planet, but I didn't, I don't look at myself as nothing special. So it's surprising to me that she chose me to be the dick, you know, the dick of deception. Yeah. The dick of destiny, the Dodd. Huh? You're a superhero.
01:17:38
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Yeah, apparently just a man. Yeah. Yeah. Oh man. That's why we're kind of lesbian. Is that fucking awesome one? Yeah. Yeah. Pretty cool. But anyway, um, I guess that's the show, man.
Conclusion and Future Collaborations
01:17:52
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If you look yeah we guys have, uh, if you guys have, uh, expressed all your opinions on today, you know, I can let the audience, I am about that Monday morning drive or whatever the fuck they're doing. Shit. I hope you're not driving this long. Laundry groceries. ah
01:18:08
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Well, I mean, some people got along with commutes, bro. When I go to work, my commute is damn near an hour. Oh, I know, mine's gonna be an hour, too. I just feel bad. I do this shit every day, though. Alia, it was nice having you on. If you- Definitely was. If- Sorry. I'll just burp it. Beer. Fuck. If and when you do, start your podcast and you want to have a guest on. i mean Hit us up. He's more than welcome to guest. I'm more than welcome to appear on your podcast and have a conversation with you and your audience. So feel free to hit us up. We're at least two people for you. So that's two episodes right there.
01:18:44
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All right, thank you guys. So it was nice to have you. Thank you, Sada, for bringing it our way. You are now part of the Man Cave crew. We'll send you out a shirt whenever we get those in production. virtualil yeah We'll see. Thank you, guys. Yeah, no problem. Thank you. Have a nice night. Luis, have a great night.
01:19:05
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Audience, thank you for listening. Follow us on mancavepodcast I was about to say mancavepodcast.com. We don't have a fucking website yet. Follow my Instagram life of Bryce on IG Lewis, what's your IG? No, wait, the mancave Lewis. Elias. I don't even know. know my Instagram. We'll post it up in the ah the yeah links to the next of this podcast. Yeah, I'll try to make sure I link you. Just check it out.
01:19:34
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In the meantime guys, thank you all for being a part of the show. Thank you all for listening. We'll see you next Sunday.