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EP 117: Mom Anxiety & The State of the World
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This week on Mom Group Chat, we’re getting real about how motherhood changes the way we see the world—sometimes in ways that feel heavier than we expected. From news headlines to TikToks, it feels like bad news is everywhere, and that constant exposure can send even the most grounded mom into a spiral of worry.
We talk about the anxious lens that motherhood can bring, how social media makes it worse, and what we do when it all starts to feel like too much. Plus, we dive into the online discourse around the Tylenol and autism connection—what’s being said, what’s true, and why it’s sparking so much fear among moms.
And of course, we couldn’t skip a little mom-life catch-up: Candace shares how Alice’s early wake-ups are slowly ruining her life (send coffee, please).
Tune in for:
- Real talk about mom anxiety and media overload
- A level-headed take on the Tylenol + autism conversation
- How to protect your peace when the world feels heavy
- A very tired mom rant about 5 AM wake-ups
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Transcript
Morning Struggles and Parenting Humor
00:00:07
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There's no right way to do it.
00:00:12
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Oh, we're going to get into it. What up moms? My name is Candice and I'm here with my best friend, Whitney and not a cockroach. And this is the mom group chat podcast. ah Hi.
00:00:24
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I had PTSD after we ah had the cockroach intro. I feel like all day i was like darting. My eyes were darting around the room. um And I also had to say that you texted me this morning about Alice waking up early.
00:00:40
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And the reason I didn't text back was because Graydon was in my bed and I like forgot to text you back. Yeah. I was like, damn, I'm up way before Whitney today. She's not even responding.
00:00:54
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Well, you were, obviously, way i way before
Strategies for Managing Early Wake-ups
00:00:58
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I was. But, like, Graydon came in our room at 2 a.m., m slept with us. So... Yeah, Alice was up at 4.45 this morning.
00:01:09
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Yeah, that's that's bad. It's ruining my life, honestly. i don't know what to do about it other than – don't know. I actually saved some videos on Instagram about like like setting up things the night before for like independent play in the morning and like trying to do something like that.
00:01:29
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I've tried the red light, green light. It does not work for Alice. um I mean, do I, the problem is if I lock the door or shut the door, like she sits there and screams and then she's going to wake up Evie.
00:01:42
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And it's like, then I, then they're both awake. Actually, technically she did wake up Evie today. And I did a, I went back to like the newborn days. I literally fed Evie a bottle, changed her diaper and put her back down to sleep at like four 50. Wow.
00:01:57
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And she went back to sleep till seven. so i was like, I'm going to consider
Parenting Anxieties and Behavioral Phases
00:02:00
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that a win. But I just don't know what to do. Yeah. It's so funny you're saying that because...
00:02:08
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Graydon will venture to our room probably once a week. um and We usually like take him back upstairs, but he had peed and hit through his diaper. and so His bed was soaking wet. and so We just let him stay. and Then it started storming and I thought, oh, this is fine. like It was thundering in the middle of the night, so I'm like, he would have been scared anyway. so Just stay in bed, my cute little baby.
00:02:31
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um but i was literally thinking that oh my god margo could potentially start getting out of her crib like because she's two now and grayden didn't really do that but i'm like she could and then that all starts again and i'm like oh god i started thinking about this last night and got anxiety thinking that it could potentially like start over again i was like yeah no oh no Yeah.
00:03:00
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Oh God. I have, pan I feel panicky, especially because I don't know. This is like, maybe this is like woo of me, but like sense it like a shift coming with Alice.
00:03:13
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I think it's the, the combo of the fighting maps and the early wake ups. Like I just sense something changing and I am scared. That's the only way think I know how to say is like, I'm scared.
00:03:29
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Yeah. I mean, whenever Graydon was going through that really bad regression, learning how to self-soothe again from leaving the PASI. And I mean, I finally went to the pediatrician and he helped so much. It was like, wow, I should have talked to you a long time ago. ah Yeah.
00:03:46
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That's the other thing too is, i don't know. I have shifted some things around to try and see. Like last night, I didn't put her down until like almost 9 p.m. And that was like on purpose to see if that would like – you know, extend the sleep and nope, her ass was up at 445 and it was not fun. and So I don't know.
00:04:08
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It never works. Putting them to bed later never works. They still wake up at six. Like it just doesn't matter.
00:04:16
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So I don't know. I'll keep you guys updated, but I'm going to, I think
Sleep Deprivation and Partner Dynamics
00:04:20
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I am going to try. i think i I, don't know. Part of me is like, I think maybe we need to revisit red light, green light and have some incentive like to stay in.
00:04:31
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Um, and, and if I set up some play activities inside of her room, I think another thing is that she is having trouble turning on her light herself because the way that our lights work is they're connected to the ceiling fan remote.
00:04:48
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So it's not like an on and off switch because we like to have the fan on. She likes the fan on and the light off, which means on the remote, you have to like turn on the light button and yeah and then the switch also has to be on. You know what I mean?
00:05:02
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And she just ends up fucking with it until she gets frustrated. We need like a way for her to turn on a light herself. And then if I were to like set up some things some things the night before, maybe that would like keep her busy.
00:05:18
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I don't know. I don't know. But your girl's struggling, especially because I i worked until 1230 a.m. last night. 1230 a.m., sorry. so i And then I was up at 445. So I got like four hours of sleep.
00:05:35
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And then I have like a full workday today. And I'm just i'm dragging.
00:05:44
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I'm sorry. i feel like this is just going to be an ongoing thing for us you know? um I know. I don't know. We've gotten to where like...
00:05:56
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Graydon, you can't pussyfoot around with. like I had to... I don't want to say threaten, but it was like you're going to lose privilege to the one thing he cares about, which is TV.
00:06:09
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And it works like a fucking charm. like Obviously, we couldn't implement that last night because he peed in his bed. Mistakes happen. But sometimes I think that he likes just to be a little manipulative. He pushes the boundary. yeah And...
00:06:25
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He'll be like, oh, I can get away with it, get away with it. And then when I take away, TV's like, oh, my God, i I won't get out of the bed, I swear. And he won't. for And then he'll do it like a week later. I'm like, all right, TV's gone. And he's like, no So, I mean, it works, but.
00:06:43
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Damn, I got to find the thing she cares about the most, honestly. Yeah. um I mean, yeah, TV doesn't work for everyone. Everyone was like, oh, our kids don't watch TV. And I'm like, well, he loves it. And so did I when i was little. He's literally my child.
00:06:58
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It's so crazy.
Parenting Pressures and Social Media's Impact
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No, we're we watch. I mean, I want to say we watch a lot of TV, but we do watch a decent amount of TV. For sure. It's enough to make him want to stay in the bed. Like I watched um the Nanette camera back last night and you could see him contemplating deciding if he was going to come downstairs or not. Like he was like, if I do this, I might lose TV. And he I felt bad. I was like, that poor thing was like, do I just lay in the pee? Oh, I know.
00:07:29
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i was like, OK, wow. That was really sad. But he came down and I. I actually enjoy him sleeping with us, but... I wish I could say the same. I do not feel that way, but...
00:07:42
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Well, he cocooned into Chris, so I didn't feel him, but it was like nice. that's a thing alice like Alice wants to be laying on top of me. Like she wants to put her face against my face and breathe into me the whole time.
00:07:55
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And I can't sleep. I'm too light of a sleeper. I'm just like, I hate when um you and your husband, like say you're sleeping and then all of a sudden you wake up in your face to face and you're like, um my God, I'm breathing in his out air.
00:08:09
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No, i hate that. I hate that. too i was like, oh my God. like Not to mention, we have two dogs sleeping in the bed with us. Yeah.
00:08:23
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So that's a lot of, this is a lot of beings in one bed. Okay. I cannot, I, it's too many. I got dogs that are snoring and farting. I've got husbands that are farting, breathing.
00:08:38
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I got Alice breathing into my face and I'm just laying there contemplating my life. How did I get here? You just work until midnight and you're like God.
00:08:50
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Yeah, I can see why you're you're tired because, I mean, you go to bed so late. Yeah. Last night was ah like a particularly late evening for both of us. So my husband was like preparing, last minute preparing everything for the ah irrigation people to come. And guess what, you guys? They didn't show up.
00:09:10
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Oh, my God. They pushed us to tomorrow. and I almost flipped a lid on Vinny. I was like, you better call them and make sure that they are here tomorrow because if it gets pushed one more time, i swear to God. And he's like, no, no, no, no. It's not going to be pushed again.
00:09:28
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is and I'm like, it better not. Like, I cannot. Yeah. I mean, he'll probably work in the yard some more tonight. That's what I'm saying. so but So, yeah. So I didn't finish that part of the story. of the story My husband was like mapping where this backyard remodel that we're doing is like, we have sections of things that we're like doing on our own, I guess. Like we're putting in
Emotional Impact of Motherhood
00:09:50
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a little like play area section and then walkways and like, there's a whole plan. And in order the irrigation needs to know where all of that stuff is going so that they can put the irrigation around it.
00:10:03
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So Vinny was like creating these like barriers with wood. So it's all mapped out in like wood right now in the back. It's crazy. i have to send you a picture, but he was like working in the back to like prep the yard for the irrigation people.
00:10:18
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And he was out there until almost 11 p m No. With a headlamp on. Okay, Mr. Mole. well Literally, he was Mr. Mole.
00:10:33
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He was Mr. Mole.
00:10:36
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I was just like, come inside. And then he came inside and was in the shower and he was like dry heaving in the shower because he like overworked himself. And y'all, my eye my eyes rolled so far back in my head, I could see my spine. i was like, get out of here.
00:10:50
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You're like, I have sympathy for you. I really don't. Like, get out of here. Goodbye. He put on a show once he got inside. He's like, tell me how good I did. Yeah. No, that's what he wants.
00:11:02
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That's what he wants. And you're like, I'm not giving that to you. i know that probably going to listen to this and complain about me talking shit and him doing something nice. ah That's always caveat. I'm like,
00:11:16
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that's always a caveat i'm like ah I can't complain because he does this and that. And then I'm like, but, but and it's annoying. and It's so annoying. Honestly, this actually ties into what we've been talking about. And another reason I'm tired.
00:11:33
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I feel like my sleep has been, even when Alice hasn't woken up early, i feel like in the past week, my sleep has been like weird. There's just so much pain. going on in the world so right now and on social media that like, I feel like I wake up in the middle of the night and I'm like thinking about i the last video I saw or like the thing, the whatever discourse is happening on social media.
00:11:58
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And it's like for real affecting my sleep. I mean, um I really try and stay like so neutral because it will affect you in so many ways. But like, yeah, even yesterday, i don't even know if you can cut this or whatever, but like even the Tylenol thing that came up like it like I stayed awake till almost 11 because my heart was racing, reading all this stuff and like knowing that Yeah. mothers were feeling like ashamed for taking toent tylen on like maybe your kid has autism maybe they don't but like
00:12:32
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just knowing that some information like that got out there and and makes a mom feel a certain way like i was yeah like
Managing Parenting Fears
00:12:40
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stressed out Yeah, it's so disheartening for that like rhetoric to be kind of pinned on mothers. And we already deal with like so much natural guilt about all sorts of things.
00:12:57
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And to say like, it's not even like, let's just say there was a connection between the two. Right. Let's just say I again, i do not think that is the case at all.
00:13:08
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But let's just say it was it was the way that it was delivered of like mothers choosing to take Tylenol is the cause instead of just like Tylenol is the cause. It was like the way it was delivered. And then the rhetoric behind like you if you can't tough it out.
00:13:27
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Well, and i mean, if you also like they delivered it where you have to kind of read in between the lines. Like it wasn't like if you take it, it was like it increases the risk where it's like if you don't read that in between the line, you're like, oh, Tylenol makes my kid have autism. Like if you're not fine tooth combing some of this stuff and it's just like.
00:13:48
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I just like really implore everyone to do your own research. Talk to your own pediatrician for, yeah like i don't know, your state of mind around any of this. like There's going to be so many things like going one way or the other on the internet. And I think it's just like best to talk to your doctor on how you're feeling about it. um I just like, please like do your research before just like believing everything that's out there.
00:14:13
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Yeah. And just be educated about what you're, you're doing. So yeah. don't know. Like I said, there's just been so much going on. Um, I don't know. Anxiety has always played a big part in my motherhood journey, no matter what, like when they were newborns, it was how much sleep I was getting. Like Yeah. Now, i ah I mean, you brought up the example of like taking them shopping and like hovering over them, like from the transition, just from the cart to the car seat. Like, and now that Graydon like doesn't really ride in the cart anymore. He likes to walk beside me. I'm like holding his hand.
00:14:50
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I'm like shoveling him in between my legs while putting in Margo in the car seat. I'm like... a barrier yeah around him. No, totally. And that's like kind of what Whitney and I were talking about in our group chat this morning was just like how motherhood has just made us see the world a little bit differently.
00:15:08
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um and you know, we could say that on two on two sides of the point, right? Like, right. Like there's so many ways where it like has made me see the good in the world and feel hopeful and positive and all of those things.
00:15:22
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But on the other side, especially with the state of social media and like the news right now, it it can send you into like a doom spiral of all the bad things that could possibly happen. to your child. And I, what I said to Whitney was like, I
Balancing Media Consumption with Mental Health
00:15:40
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went to the grocery store with Evie this morning. And like, I literally in my neighborhood's like mom Facebook group this week, a woman was telling, like went on there and talked about how she was approached by this sketchy man, like packing in her groceries at Target
00:15:56
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And like, it was just a weird situation. And I'm like, so I'm sitting there with Evie. I feel like I can't even step two feet from her without like yeah having being filled with like worst case scenario thoughts.
00:16:10
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And I have to be honest, that's not really something that I used to do. Like, I feel like I've always been glass half full positive Sally Positive Patty.
00:16:23
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And i these new like intrusive thoughts about all the bad things that could happen, like are new to me and I'm so still like navigating how to work through those.
00:16:36
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Yeah. um I would say I'm like, I'm mostly positive still too. Like, and I think yeah you are as well, but yeah I am, but there's just circumstances where, oh my gosh, I'm just so hyper aware if we're out and about. And I think I've always been on a, a little bit of a, um, I'm sketched out side. mean, I've talked about how when I was in college, like wanting to live in a the room farthest from the door type thing. Like I've always had some kind of, don't even know if it's anxiety or just like hyper awareness of that stuff, but I don't know. It's just really eyeopening with everything that's been going on. Like you just, you feel for the world right now.
00:17:21
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It's been kind of crazy. Yeah. I think also like this goes back to in our episode about social media back like long time ago, it's part of managing this anxiety is also managing my relationship with social media.
00:17:43
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And it's understanding when I start to feel myself like have more of those thoughts. I think that's something I'm really hyper aware of these days is like when I can kind of sense when I'm having more anxious thoughts and more intrusive thoughts about bad things that could happen.
00:18:01
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And usually like that's my number one indicator of like, okay, it's time for me to take a step back and it's time for me to – Pour myself into something else that's not social media. I mean, I posted that video about the magazines yesterday and I truly meant every word of it.
00:18:19
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Bring back
Work, Social Media, and Friendship Support
00:18:20
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magazines. They're so enjoyable to look at and don't come with all the bullshit that And honestly, um' I'm about to get I'm what I want for Christmas is a magazine subscription from all my favorite things.
00:18:37
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Whenever we were talking to Chandler and she was talking about all the subscriptions she had to these home magazines, I was like, it reminded me that I wanted to do that. So thank you. Yeah. yeah me but um But also, i would say about anxiety is like.
00:18:52
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I don't know. This is like kind of niche, but I was telling her um that I was talking to some friends about not letting some of these things have as much power as you let it because things that are out of your control, like it's really easy to give that power. But if you don't let it and you let it go, um because I was saying like I was I've always been scared of storms growing up and tornadoes because I I've been through them and Do I want to project that I'm scared of that to my children? Not really. Like, I don't want them to wake up in the night, like, so terrified, even though I think that's very natural to do.
00:19:29
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So it's like I've been trying to push the narrative that um but we have a safe spot so that Graydon and Margo know, like, if something were to happen, this is where you go.
00:19:41
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He loves watching and being educated on it. He wants to watch shows on what tornadoes are, what hurricanes are, what bad weather is. like He's wanting to be educated on it. and like when He's a weatherman?
00:19:53
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Maybe. Weather boy. Wouldn't you like to know, weather boy? But I don't know. It's just like you kind of recognize those things as a mom and how you don't want to like push that on your kid like you felt growing up. And um I don't know. Same thing with like I was terrified of them being sick when i when they were really little.
00:20:17
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And then after they got sick ah a while or a lot, you kind of let that power go of, okay, i'm I'm informed. I know what to do. I know what to recognize. Like it takes that power away of you being so scared of them being sick yeah and what could go wrong. Like, oh my God, their temperature. And yes, it's scary when your child is like four months old and- say they have RSV, like that is the most terrifying thing I think many people could go through. But um I don't know, it just like takes the power away. Like the more you practice or get used to a situation, um least that's what I'm trying to tell myself.
00:20:55
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No, it is. It is. It's like a little bit of like exposure therapy, right? Of like. Literally. And like I do this with work too with public speaking. I don't like it.
00:21:07
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Do I app on here? Sure. But like when it's public speaking, like the more I practice, the more comfortable I get. Yeah. I don't know. it's ah It's a journey that I didn't like think would be ah part of motherhood before now.
00:21:26
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like I don't know. I never... I feel like before, like, external things happening, like, things happening in the government and, like, things happening in the world, whatever, like, of course, I was always aware of them. And I, of course, cared about some of that stuff.
00:21:43
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But I feel like now it, like, hits me in a different way now that I have kids. And I didn't expect it to affect me as much as it has. Yeah.
00:21:56
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um And it's like, it's, so it's, there's like a fine line between, like, I don't ever want to be like uninformed, but I also, there's a line of like having to protect my peace and protect my anxiety.
00:22:16
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Yeah. And like as people that are like connoisseurs of media
Finding Peace and Planning Positive Experiences
00:22:20
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and social media, it's like you kind of like see it without wanting to do like. Oh, yeah. That's the other part.
00:22:29
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That's the other part that's hard for me is that so much of my work is on social media. Like I have i like. deleting Instagram and TikTok will never be an option for me because that is my work. Like I manage a lot of people's social media.
00:22:44
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I'm logged into many different accounts. That also means I'm getting notifications for a lot of different accounts, which is something that I struggle with. And in fact, this reminds me, i have been wanting to get a second phone that just is like internet that isn't So maybe I need to do that. Maybe – when – like I need to have a phone that is just mine. It's just personal.
00:23:08
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And then i have a work phone that lives in this office and is just Wi-Fi that I can still do Instagram and all of that stuff. But – I can disconnect from it more. Think how nice it would be like you just left it at home when you're out and about.
00:23:24
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So nice. A lot of people from my work have two phones. But i um I opted for the one um because I was like, I don't want to carry around two phones. Like imagine I would have had two phones for 12 years. That's like kind of crazy to me.
00:23:38
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at um i don't necessarily want that. and so You're like, I can barely keep track of one phone. No, you're pretty good about that. Um, yeah, I don't know. I think that's in my future of getting a work phone.
00:23:54
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Do you ever feel like sometimes you're just so overwhelmed? I don't know if it's just with work, but like you're trying to keep up in all these group chats. You're trying to keep up with your friends. You're doing work and all a sudden you just want to throw your phone.
00:24:08
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oh i' All the time. Okay. okay Because I feel like that a lot. Lately, for sure. ah Yeah. Lately, for sure. I'm just like, I literally just want to throw it in the air and throw my hands up. I'm just like, I can't do it.
00:24:24
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It's so overwhelming. It is. Yeah. yeah I don't know. It's just been... It's tough. And basically we just wanted to talk about this because we want you guys to know that like the heaviness you're probably feeling, like we all feel it regardless of where you stand on anything. Like it's a heavy world right now. It's like bad news after bad news and or heavy news after heavy news, anxiety inducing news, all the things.
00:24:53
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And yeah, So we're always going to keep this podcast, for the most part, light and
Dreams, Humor, and Daily Stress Relief
00:25:00
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fun. And we just want to make you giggle and let you know that we also have like spirally tendencies with what's happening in the world.
00:25:13
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And unfortunately, i don't have a fix for it, but... Other than like we just talk to each other about it. Yeah, yeah. yeah Like Candace makes me feel better.
00:25:26
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She'll send me like funny things and... The one I sent you today really made me cat go. No, the funny part was the text that you sent. It was like, did you see what you texted?
00:25:40
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I was like, how do you read that? oh Oh, that's my, that's my, oh, that's so funny. Okay. That's like my, ah it's it's like a laugh that's like, tsk, tsk. I know was funny. It was funny. Oh, you've never seen that? I usually send that with like funny videos. I'm always like... No, but it made me laugh because I like knew you were like... like oh That's so funny.
00:26:05
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It's like... That's my equivalent of a chuckle. And it's like TSK, TSK, TSK, TSK. It's funny. It made me laugh. Like I think of like a little rat being like... Or something. I don't know.
00:26:16
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i You know who I got that from is Mark. That's how whenever Mark sends a funny video, he will send and I have picked that up from him for sure. That is too funny.
00:26:30
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Love it. Wait. Okay. Sorry. Not to like derail with Mark, but this is a social media thing that made me laugh or that is always just making me laugh.
00:26:41
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It was a video of Britney Spears doing what she do. You know, she, she knows what she does. And it was like, she, a particularly crazy Britney Spears video. And one thing about our friend Mark is like, he is a Britney Spears stan. I always joke that I never see a Britney post that doesn't say Mark Joseph like this. Like, I swear to God, he must be in her first five likes every single post.
00:27:06
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But um and like ice it was a particularly crazy Britney Spears video and I sent it to him and I said, what is this? And he goes, oh babe, that's mental illness.
00:27:22
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And I, it was so funny to me. It was so matter of fact. He was like, oh, babe, that's mental illness. And oh my God. if i
Balancing Motherhood and Personal Growth
00:27:30
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It's funny. I say that. Now I say that phrase all the time. I say, oh, babe, that's mental illness.
00:27:37
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ah I hope someone asked me that at work. Like, what is the, what kind of work is this? What kind of numbers are those? That's my mental illness. I'm not doing so good. It's so funny.
00:27:53
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ah But I don't know. I am like the rest of today and actually the rest of this week. I'm going to focus on my magazines.
00:28:04
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I'm hanging my pin wall. That's funny. And I'm going to be putting happy, joyous, positive things on this wall for me to look at all the time.
00:28:15
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I think the only things that are going to, the good things that are happening is that it is about to be October. There's going to be a lot of fun things happening and a lot of family oriented things to focus on. So I'm just like, okay, get me to October where I can do the pump patch, do the cute photos. I just reached out to a photographer to finally get hopefully family photos. Cause we have not done that since Margo was a newborn.
00:28:43
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And was like, we need this family photo, um which is kind of fun and exciting because we haven't done that in a while. so I'm just like, I'm hoping that good things are to come.
00:28:56
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Yeah. Yeah. Well, I think it goes back to the at at least i I am a firm believer in like whatever you believe to be true in your mind, you see more of, you know. And so for me, it's like just focusing on what I can control and like choosing to see the good and then you will see more good and you'll drown out more of the bad.
00:29:18
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And so i think doing things like that where you're like focusing on family photos and like focusing on fun fall activities or going to get a coffee with your girlfriend and you don't have to hear about what's happening in the world or whatever, you know, that's the other thing is with relationships these days, like especially family and I mean, friends too, but I try, like, I really try to not go there with politics and world happenings. I'm like, let's focus on the things that are about us and our world and like positive things because it's just sometimes like, again, down, it's just like deepens the, the hole of the spiral.
00:30:11
Speaker
It really does. Yeah. Yeah. ah Yeah, I agree. it It's not fun to ever talk about. Even if you're like on the same same playing field, it's just, I don't know.
00:30:24
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Yeah. You leave some things, leave it unsaid. Did you see any like funny or happy news recently that we could highlight?
00:30:36
Speaker
i mean, I saw that Shannon Ford had her baby, which is kind of exciting. Although the news is, of the, her having a baby triggered me to have a bad dream that Chris was leaving me for her.
00:30:50
Speaker
I don't know. I don't even her on Instagram. Really? yeah I saw that she had her baby and that Taylor is having a boy, her best friend. Oh, I did see that.
00:31:02
Speaker
I did see that. Which kind exciting. Anytime I see like girl mom who eventually has a boy, show it to Vinny because it is confirmation or what's it called? It confirms that it can happen.
00:31:15
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know what the hell. But it's actually funny because I had a cheating dream that he was leaving me for her. And then I like, you know how sometimes when you're dreaming and you come to like your consciousness and you and I said to him, she just had a baby. She has a husband.
00:31:31
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And then I like woke up like he was like, oh, I didn't know. Yeah. What was funny is that Chris said that he had a bad dream on me that I was divorcing him.
00:31:42
Speaker
Y'all, I don't even know where these are coming from. Like we have not talked about divorce or anything. And that he got my mom involved and goes, Becky, are you going to let her do this?
00:31:56
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She probably wouldn't, to be honest. I was like, Chris, why did you get my mom involved? Like it that was so funny. Yeah. Oh my God, that is funny. Isn't that weird how dreams happen? Like, I don't know. I feel like dreams are so weird with like, and that's kind of, i mean, we started this episode by talking about like how I couldn't sleep because I'm dreaming about random shit.
00:32:22
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It's like things that I don't even like, believe or think about often or whatever, but I like saw on social media once it's like suddenly I'm having a dream about it. Like how did that happen?
00:32:34
Speaker
i don't know. It's kind of weird how the brain works. You're like, yeah, you get in there and make me think of that. Yeah. The other thing that Vinny and I talked about last night is like everything going on in our like world and on our phones right now is making us miss our Tahoe bubble.
00:32:53
Speaker
Like we were just so disconnected and like in our own world and like Tahoe and it's like, Oh, we just miss It's it was peaceful and nice. Yeah. Yeah.
00:33:05
Speaker
No, I totally get it. it's that's why yeah That's why I said i think I just need ah vacation. i told Candice that this week that I hadn't taken like a full vacation since Key West, which was back in like freaking March. So and I've taken like days here and there. and i'm like, I need like a good three days off, like a Wednesday through Friday,
00:33:31
Speaker
long ass reset or even a thursday through monday having a monday off sounds good too having a monday off is great because then it's from one week and the next it's like oh yes both weeks are short that feels really nice or just take friday and then monday tuesday wow that that That's it.
00:33:52
Speaker
Okay. So we, oh, no, this is different. You know, I go to Mexico with my due date group in November, oh yeah but we're going, we're going, um, Saturday to Wednesday.
00:34:03
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Yeah. See, that's a good one. Cause then you like, it's so quick for the next weekend. Yeah. You figured it out. um Because we all went um this time last year. it was like in October, one of the first weeks of October where we all met up for the first time. And we all are like kind of feeling that itch again, like, oh, we need to go. But so many people in our group have had another baby. Seconds.
00:34:26
Speaker
That's what exactly you guys are in the same place that we are or that we were like. So we did a lot of trips in the beginning, like there were two of them. And then it was like it was time for every single person to have their second baby. Not every single person, but you know what I mean?
00:34:42
Speaker
And ah so we had a like this is ah this will be our first trip in a while. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's been, it's only been a year, but I think by maybe spring next year, if people would be on board because some of the, like one of the babies will be almost one. And then some will be like, I mean, they're all almost be almost one, but like,
00:35:04
Speaker
You feel little better to leave. But even when we went on this trip last year, our our kids were one month or a year and a month. And it still felt like I still felt postpartum ish. Like I was ready to go, excited to go, like happy to not scared to leave. But if I went now, you'd get a whole nother me.
00:35:26
Speaker
You'd get this version of me. No, I actually need to start budgeting because I want a whole new wardrobe before that trip. I have a new body and I am want to, I don't have any, like all of my swimsuits are now like too big on me, even the ones I just bought.
00:35:46
Speaker
Wow. So I need to, yeah I need, I need some new clothing and bathing suits, which November I don't know. It's kind of hard to shop for that kind of stuff, but well, not really. You'll still be on sale.
00:35:59
Speaker
Yeah. Maybe. ah That'll be good. All right. Well, I love you so much. ah Stay off your phone today. Go get a magazine. Sounds good. And um I love you so much.
00:36:13
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00:36:25
Speaker
All right. Got to go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.