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EP 121: Post-Halloween Debrief + Daylight Savings Suffering
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Welcome back to the group chat where the coffee is strong, the candy is hidden from the children, and we’re all a little emotionally fragile.
This week is pure hodge-podge catch up energy while we recover from Halloween and try to remember what time it is. Spoiler: our kids don’t know either.
We get into:
- Halloween recap
- The neighborhood trick-or-treat dynamics and the difference between our kids' trick-or-treat habits
- How much candy we’ve eaten after bedtime (don’t lie, same)
- The moment you realize it’s been dark for three hours and it’s only 6:02pm
- How daylight savings is personally attacking our household rhythms
- The collective mood of “I love my family but also… everyone needs to calm down”
No solutions yet. No strategies. No Pinterest mom energy. Just the truth.
This episode is for the moms currently:
- Hiding candy wrappers in the trash under a paper towel
- Whisper-yelling “IT IS STILL BEDTIME”
- Wondering why it feels like midnight at 7pm
We are right there with you.
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Transcript
Introduction and Host Challenges
00:00:07
Speaker
There's no right way to do it.
00:00:12
Speaker
Oh, we're going to get into it. What up, moms? My name is Candice, and I'm here with my best friend, Whitney. And this is the Mom Group Chat Podcast. Hi, Candi. Hello.
00:00:24
Speaker
What's up? I've been up since 4 a.m., m so. Daylight savings, man. You know, it didn't affect the kids as much as as it's affected me, I think.
00:00:35
Speaker
See, I am a little confused by my children because, okay, so I didn't have them for the first night of um daylight savings because we had a wedding and my mom kept them overnight.
00:00:50
Speaker
So i like, I didn't deal with Sunday, you know, but my mom said they slept till six and it like wasn't anything crazy. So I was like, damn, okay, great.
00:01:02
Speaker
Tell me why Alice was up at 4 a.m. this morning and never went back to sleep. She was just like up and i tried everything to get her to lay with me. She would not. So it is bright and early here. And like I've already made pumpkin muffins.
00:01:18
Speaker
Like you've had four hours. No, like literally I've lived a whole day before I even start my work day. So I'm like, ah feel like I'm hanging by a thread and the day has just begun.
00:01:31
Speaker
i know. And funny for me, like I woke up at four 30 thinking in my body, like I wake up at five 30, like that's pretty natural for me. So It's just going to be a struggle for a little bit for me just because, like, I wake up early no matter what. And now it's an hour earlier. And it's like, okay, now it's like a psychotic time to wake up.
00:01:50
Speaker
530 is pushing it. 430 is psychotic. I think I also – and, like, a little – I just have, like –
00:01:59
Speaker
like, uh, what's it called? Like compounding sleep, uh, loss because the night before I had some like weird bug. I don't know. Like we I'll get into that, but we, I left the wedding cause I was not feeling well and ended up throwing up all night and I didn't really go to sleep until like 3am and then kind of slept shitty because, you know, I wasn't feeling great. Um,
00:02:23
Speaker
And so, and then that, like, that was my night before. And then this. So I don't know. I just feel like I haven't had good sleep. So maybe that's why I feel extra, like, edgy today. I feel like I could punch someone because I'm just like, boom.
00:02:38
Speaker
Boom. Do you get like that when you haven't slept? I just want to like... I mean, Candice, you know how I feel about sleep. like It is the most stressful thing ever to me. And and don't know. They've been... i was telling my mom that they are in like a good... We're in like a good space, even though...
00:02:56
Speaker
Graydon did get in the bed with us like Saturday night going into Sunday. i think it's because we went out. We like went out to dinner for our birthdays. And so my parents put him to bed and I think he like he like came downstairs at 2 a.m. m and got in our bed. And I swear it was like he was just like, are they here checking in to see if we were here? And so he ended up like...
00:03:18
Speaker
Waking us up. So I didn't like sleep great that night because that's my problem. I have a really hard time going back to sleep. didn't even touch my fucking phone. And I'm like laying there just looking around.
00:03:31
Speaker
I'm just like, oh my God. It took me like an hour and a half to back. have no problem with No. I could go back to sleep in a heartbeat. I can't. I can't. That is my issue is I'm up.
00:03:42
Speaker
It's like I have a, I don't know. What's it called? Like a
00:03:47
Speaker
one them and Whenever you like have that panic and you're like, like you awake, adrenaline rush.
Halloween Hosting and Family Gatherings
00:03:53
Speaker
I get that. Like a startling. Yes. And so then it's just like, i'm up. Yeah. No, I don't have that. I'm like, go back to sleep, Alice. And if she goes back to sleep, like I'm out.
00:04:04
Speaker
But this morning she was not having it. So we were up and then Evie got up a little bit early. Not crazy. She was up at like six o'clock, which like is normal. Like four a.m. is crazy. Yeah. Six a.m. for daylight savings is like, OK, that's like normal daylight savings behavior. and So I don't know. I told my mom today to like make sure her nap is capped because I think that's part of it.
00:04:27
Speaker
Like she took a really good nap yesterday also. so I just feel like, you know, we just we got to like have some really good structure for a week or two to like get back i know into a swing. Yeah, we just got to get back into I feel like the the fix for daylight savings is to just stick hardcore to your routine yeah for a week or two and it will all balance out.
00:04:50
Speaker
so Yeah, I mean, we didn't do any like tricks or anything on Saturday night because we weren't here. so I was just like they put them to bed whenever. Who knows when she woke up, Margo, because she just like will lay.
00:05:02
Speaker
i will never forget you and Shannon talking about, oh, we'll let our kids like lay in the bed for an hour if they wake up And I thought, how the fuck are they getting to do this? Because Graydon would wake up and be like, Mama, Mama.
00:05:20
Speaker
And so I just had to get up. Margo will lay there for an hour. And I'm like, yeah ah Yep. Both of my girls, I mean, Alice won't now, obviously in a bed, she gets her ass up and she's in my room in split second, but Evie will lay there and she'll just like cuddle with her little stuffies. And she just like chills.
00:05:44
Speaker
I never understood. I was just like, I don't have that luxury. And I swear to God, I didn't sleep for three years. um Literally. Like it was hard. And now I'm just like,
00:05:56
Speaker
I'm just like going to ride this little tiny blip of a wave where they're sleeping. and and when I say that, like Graydon will probably come to our room like once a week, which is whatever, but yeah, he's fine.
00:06:09
Speaker
I don't know. How's Halloween? it was it It was good. really good. been talking to you. I'm like, I know. I've been, we had a really busy weekend. So we had some guests in town because Vinny's cousin got married on Saturday.
00:06:24
Speaker
So all of his like cousins, like distant cousins that don't live here, um were in town and they have little ones, uh, Evie and her son Pierce are literally like 10 days apart.
00:06:38
Speaker
So they're cool like the same age. And, um, and she's pregnant with her second. They have like this, they're going to have the same gap we had the like 22 months. And then, ah her twin actually drew is him and her, his wife are also pregnant.
00:06:56
Speaker
So the twins are having babies like at the same time. It's crazy. Uh, and they're due like five days apart. but would Do they like share DNA? They're like considered like siblings as well? Probably. I bet like if they were tested in like 23andMe or like, you know, it would show up as siblings probably because they share half DNA. Yeah, there's like something to that.
00:07:18
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Yeah, for sure. um So we hosted all of them. Well, we didn't. Some of them went to the rehearsal dinner on Friday, but we had like my whole family, my brothers, Vinny's sisters and their fiancés and everyone.
00:07:32
Speaker
and just family over for Halloween for trick-or-treating, which was so fun. It was my first time really hosting in this house, like, you know, making food, planning.
00:07:43
Speaker
Good. was really good. um i definitely learned some things. I was, this is the one thing I did voice note you about is like, obviously when we flooded, we like packed up our kitchen as quick as possible to like, we the sooner we got everything out of that house, the sooner things could like dry out and like,
00:08:01
Speaker
we could assess the the situation, you know? So, and when we were packing up that kitchen, I was in probably at like a trauma state, to be honest with you. Like, I don't remember a lot of it, which probably sounds dramatic, but it is true. Like I'm dead serious. I barely remember packing shit up. I have no idea what we tossed and what we kept.
00:08:22
Speaker
And I know that a lot of my like hosting stuff was in the bottom shelves, right? of our open shelving in our old kitchen and in our sideboard in our dining room, which I know for sure everything in there got tossed. I mean, it was completely underwater. the The water was like all the way to the top of the sideboard.
00:08:40
Speaker
So i know everything in there is gone. But like when I was preparing to host for Halloween, I was like, where's my glass pitcher? Like, where's my – I just didn't – like where's the platter that I used to use?
00:08:54
Speaker
And I just have no idea if we saved it or not or if we tossed it. So, and we still have some stuff in storage. So I don't know. I just told Benny, I had to like let it go for this time and be like, I just ended up going to home goods and TJ Maxx and like buying some new things.
00:09:11
Speaker
And was like, I bought a new pitcher and drinking glasses and like, you know, it is what it is. Yeah. um So that was a little bit of a like, just, you know, little roadblock to work through, but, um, it was so, I really do love hosting. Um, so it felt good to like do it again and to have people in this house.
00:09:34
Speaker
And, um, it was so fun. We had a great time. I made an amazing Halloween punch, which I should, should share the recipe with. Cause it definitely could be used for like Thanksgiving. It wasn't like It was like like a fall punch. Yeah. You know?
00:09:48
Speaker
It was very like apple cider spritz situation. We also had a warm apple cider rum drink. Well, ours was cold. It was freezing. Yeah, but it was cold. Yeah, it was free freezing there. But um it was so delicious.
00:10:03
Speaker
It was so fun. And... Um, the girls trick or treated. They loved it. Evie was so brave. We could not get over how brave she was. Like even the houses that had like scary shit outside of it she would just literally don't even care. She just walks right up into it.
00:10:23
Speaker
Zero fucks. Alice is more cautious. She's like, I was having a hard time. Like I couldn't concentrate on one kid. Like they, Graydon was running and gunning with his buddy. So I was like, okay, I guess I'll follow him. And Chris is chilling back there with the stroller. And Margo's like, lotdida like hi, I'm trick-or-treating like so like demure and chill.
00:10:47
Speaker
And I'm just like running after Cris. And I'm like, ah did I I would trade. i would 100% look back at Chris and be like, all right, tap in. I don't know. I was just like, Margo was going a little slow for me. But I'm like, did I even see her trick-or-treat? I don't know. Maybe one house.
00:11:04
Speaker
I will say that is one regret I have is I barely took any photos. Like our one family photo we took was already when it was dark out. You can barely see us It is.
00:11:17
Speaker
i just was like, damn, didn't. We were like, we have to do it before we even go to the cul-de-sac or else we're it's not happening. I just was like, damn, I don't even have anything to post.
00:11:30
Speaker
Genuinely. I'm like, I don't even have a cute. I took one video of them like showing off their shoes and their costumes, but it's like not post worthy really.
00:11:41
Speaker
And I mean, it's for the memes, I guess, but I just was like, damn, I need to do a better job of like making, like taking photos and videos like a priority, you know?
00:11:53
Speaker
You're so good at it too. I usually am. Oh, you're hosting. yeah other i think it was that I was hosting. Yes. And what I should have done is like delegated that to someone else almost. like and Like my friend Kirsten was here with us who I love. Kirsten, if you're listening, shout out.
00:12:08
Speaker
Um, and she's like, was just being so helpful, like getting their shoes on and like helping me with things. I should have been like, can we make sure we get a photo? And she would have made it happen. Um, but yeah, but your Halloween was good. Were you with the knaves? Yes, went to the old hood and I was not hosting, but like we went to our friend Jen and Bart's house and like we set up all of our food over there. and then we went to the cul-de-sac because they're not like exactly in the cul-de-sac where I used to live, but it's like across the street. So yeah.
00:12:41
Speaker
Then we went over there where it's like just a freaking block party as you've witnessed. And it was just so packed and so fun. um We had that apple cider rum drink.
00:12:55
Speaker
Yum. So good. Like it always reminds me of New England. Like that was my favorite drink to have up there because you can walk around Newport. Like they serve that as you like walk around Newport. the streets and stuff. So I just love it so much. um And then wine was flowing. There was like wine stations around the neighborhood, jello shots. I mean, it was just like a little party. And like with it being on Halloween on a Friday, mash between mine and Chris's birthdays, i was like,
00:13:24
Speaker
before we even left Chris was like you know what I really don't want to like wake up on my birthday feeling bad and I was like oh I was like I'm in the mood to like go right now I was like I'm feeling the opposite I was like I am geared up I am so excited like Halloween being on a Friday I'm so excited because the kids are old enough that they can trick or treat I was just like in the best mood ever like I was thriving we got our family pick like I just, like I said, chased them around. We did a big loop, went back, and there was pizza. I'm like, this is best day of my life. Oh, God. Pizza sounds so good right now. I'm really hungry, actually.
00:14:04
Speaker
love pizza. um i Yeah. Yeah. i ah Like I said, I had that little random bug on Saturday night, and I feel like I ate very cautiously yesterday because of it.
00:14:16
Speaker
So now today I'm like, oh, wait, my body's like. yeah Yeah. Girl, you need to eat some food. I know. And then um the day before Thursday was like my actual birthday and we like just chilled. like yeah i We were going to grill steaks and I told Candace, I was like, I texted Chris and I was like, would you be mad at me if I like nix the steak thing? And he was like, it's your birthday. We can do whatever you want. And I was like, I want Amy's frozen pizza.
00:14:43
Speaker
That's all I want. lowbrow, so relatable, honestly. I feel like there have been moments, especially like around my period where I'm just like, I just want bagel bites. Like, I don't know what to tell you. why nada malar So right. yeah Right. like and I knew that. Comfort food.
00:15:01
Speaker
So we are so synced up. I'm going to start mine like in a couple days. Yeah. but um Okay. That random like vomit spell on Saturday when I was upset, Vinny was like, are you pregnant? And I was like,
00:15:15
Speaker
I mean, I guess technically I could be, but I wouldn't show morning sickness that early. And it came on like so suddenly and viciously. I'm like, that's just not how pregnancy sickness works. And you know, too, like you start feeling nauseous and you're like, oh, that's what's happening.
00:15:33
Speaker
It was so crazy. Like I know i've it like I literally vomited outside of a wedding venue. I like projectile. And then I felt totally fine after it was so weird. I felt fine. I went back in. I didn't drink anymore. I just was like in there sipping on water.
00:15:50
Speaker
And then I started to feel the nausea kind of start to come back. And I looked at Vinny and I was like, we got to go. And I'm like, I'm so sorry to everyone at that wedding that if I had a bug, but I don't.
00:16:01
Speaker
know. It could have been food related. i i just have no idea. Yeah. Whenever i get the stomach bug, it just comes on so fast and aggressive. Like you feel nauseous and you're like, what is that? And then you're like, fuck me.
00:16:14
Speaker
Yeah. Big bug. And then you puke and then you feel fine and then you puke. And it's just like so psycho. I so i told Candice, I was like, I've had it twice this year. So I think I've hit my quota. But you're all you're all.
00:16:26
Speaker
correctly i got it in November last year so I was like never fucking we're not claiming that we're not claiming that energy whenever we moved into our new house we went to close on the house Graydon was with us because he had been sick we walked in the fucking door and he puked everywhere in the title and escrow thing and I'm like oh that's right that's right Happy closing day. And then he sat in the corner in this boardroom while we signed our life away. And we're like, you good?
00:16:58
Speaker
And everyone's like, he's so good. I'm like, yeah, he feels like shit. he He's like, yeah he's like he he's afraid to move or he'll vomit again. do you know that feeling when you're like, i I cannot move my body or it will happen? i know that feeling all too well.
00:17:13
Speaker
literally Literally. So funny. And then- Well, let's- ah Let's talk about your birthday. was your birthday? It was great.
Celebrations and Seasonal Preparations
00:17:22
Speaker
We didn't do much. Like I said, we had the frozen pizza, which was delightful. But we did go out Saturday because that's Chris's birthday as well. and we um My parents came up and we went to dinner at like Pastis, which is this new French restaurant. I know. It looked fancy. It's in this area called like Wedgwood, Houston in Nashville. And it's like up and coming. They just put an Hermes store right next to it. Like it's like so fancy now. It's kind of crazy. But we're like, okay. upper Soho houses, like all the fancy shit. was going to say for there, like, yes, of course, up and coming is like, like cool things start to pop up there for, but for there to be an Hermes
00:18:05
Speaker
Hermes usually doesn't land there until it's like already fancy, but the Soho house makes sense, I guess. It's fancy now. I mean, but still like we went to a bar and like a homeless guy was trying to come in to it too. And they had to like shoo, shoo him out. So it's like, okay.
00:18:22
Speaker
It's a mix. It's a mix going on. It's mix. So, I mean, I was just like very aware of my surroundings, but then like we went to dinner over there. So good. We had like tuna tartare, which I don't eat. Okay.
00:18:36
Speaker
I was going to say, okay, yeah so I saw some pictures of your dinner and I was like, what if this is Whitney eating? ate all of it. Really?
00:18:47
Speaker
i ate all of it
00:18:50
Speaker
You have come so far. know. Thank you. i just, everything was so good. Um, and then, yeah we just had drinks beforehand and then we were all like, we gotta go. Like after like three days in a row of celebrating, I'm like, enough's enough. Like we gotta go home.
00:19:09
Speaker
So, but so fun. Um, had a good time and it was lovely yesterday. My God, I just felt like this weekend went forever. And like with it being daylight savings, I felt like yesterday was the longest day ever.
00:19:24
Speaker
We bought a new Christmas tree and like not to be like annoying and like that we put it up early. But like and ever since like Shannon passed away, it's like I like to put Christmas up on the day that she passed away because I'm like, I want to try and like flip the script a little bit. And it makes me happy. And also Shannon loves Christmas. So I just feel like she was like that. It kind of like.
00:19:47
Speaker
puts me in the mood to cry too because it's like so special. Yeah, nostalgic and like watching your kids and then I got to cry about Shannon and I was just like, nice. Checks all the boxes.
00:19:59
Speaker
Dad, nostalgic. I was like, this feels right. So I put it up and I was like, I'm not posting pictures because everyone was like, Don't put up your tree early. Like blah, blah, blah. I'm like, you know what? This is for me.
00:20:11
Speaker
ah Listen, I said this in my newsletter last night, but my new life motto is girl, whatever. and that's like my response to everything now is like do it whatever you want.
00:20:23
Speaker
Okay. And girl, whatever. So put up your tree if you want. We got the new tree because our other one, like the lights were dead. Like we've had it since we we bought it with Christmas or the wedding money.
00:20:36
Speaker
So it's 10, 11 years old, our old tree. The lights were gone on it. So we got the Home Depot tree. And so we were like kind of excited to see what it looked like. And it's fucking awesome.
00:20:48
Speaker
I'm obsessed with it. God. Okay. We are a real tree fam and we just have a tradition of the day after Thanksgiving is when we get it. So I'm not going to break it. That's like our Friday activity.
00:21:00
Speaker
So I'm going to – And you know I don't with We're going to to I'm scared of them. I know. I know. You've told me. But I – Uh, but I do have plans in the next couple of weeks. Cause like I said, I have no idea what we have and what we don't have.
00:21:14
Speaker
So I said to Vinny, I was like, I do want to start to decorate for Christmas, but I need to do like an inventory day. Honestly, like I need to figure out what was, what survived tournaments.
00:21:24
Speaker
I have no idea Whitney because the garage, everything was in the garage at our house and the garage when I'm not, I'm joking. and That was, you know, the garage sat a foot lower than our actual house. So That was the worst of the worst. Your fridge was floating.
00:21:42
Speaker
Yeah, literally our fridge was on its side floating. It was so crazy. so um it, i like I have no idea. I did not go in there at all. And I'm pretty sure we just kind of like called it ah ah like everything in there had gone.
00:21:56
Speaker
So I have no idea what we have. And which will be fun for me to shop, you know, like, like i I really am excited for the holidays this year, and I want to lean in and create some memories and like make our house feel cozy. Well, you said by Christmas.
00:22:16
Speaker
Cozy by Christmas. i have You guys, I have projects everywhere. These frame things, that's happening right there. I have projects everywhere happening. And my house, mark my words, will be cozy by Christmas, okay? Did you hang anything this weekend?
00:22:32
Speaker
I did. Yay. One thing. One single thing. um It went well. It went very well. I have so much more to do, honestly, but I feel like it ripped the bandaid off. I just didn't have time like I thought I would.
00:22:47
Speaker
That's the other thing. I was going to complain really quick as if I don't complain enough, but Friday, Halloween, i didn't have childcare that day. Alice went to school and it was just one of those days where nothing went right.
00:23:01
Speaker
And I had such a hard day. Alice, the one day I wouldn't really need her to nap. She did not nap on Halloween. So I didn't get that time to like clean. I mean, I did. i ended up Honestly, what I did is I gave Alice a rag and a pretend spray bottle and I was like, we're cleaning and she loved it. So great.
00:23:20
Speaker
But it was just one of those days where like the day was so hard. And when the guests got here, I was so relieved because I'm like, oh my God, the kids are going to cling to the guests and like I can take a backseat, honestly.
00:23:32
Speaker
But one thing I was going to say about that, and I remember thinking this on Friday of like, i need to talk about this on the pod, is that moms don't get enough credit for how we have to turn it on after a bad day.
00:23:47
Speaker
Like it's like that day was so hard. It was like one thing after another that was going wrong, that happened, all of this stuff. And then I have to like turn it on and host and don't me wrong. I wanted to do it, but like, I was just like, wow, the, the like willpower I have to have to like put on a smile and make memories and be chill and fun is like,
00:24:13
Speaker
I just don't think my husband could do it. I really don't. It's so true. Like I thought about this. If I'm like, if my house is clean and I'm all already like ready, makeup on, hair done, like I'm, I got a chance to like check myself out, put out, it like pick out outfit. I'm in such a different mood versus like me trying to get ready while they're here, running around, asking for this and that. I feel like it's two completely different things.
00:24:42
Speaker
situations and like I felt like that on Saturday like my parents were here but I was trying to get ready and they were just all up in the bathroom slamming the doors running around and I'm like I can't even concentrate on my makeup which I wanted to look nice and I'm like can y'all get out room oh my god I like I feel you so deeply like that is I mean I posted that reel on Saturday about how my mom took the girls and I was able to get ready in peace and it is supreme it just is like and And then when I think about the holidays and like as someone who cooks a lot, like I am someone who brings dishes to things and like I sign up for like homemade stuffing and like whatever I think about all the stuff I make.
00:25:26
Speaker
And I'm like, it's so stressful for me to like add that layer in of like, okay, so I have to get the kids ready. I have to make sure they're dressed and looking cute so that we can take a picture. I have to make sure I look cute and pretty. And then I also have to make sure that my dish is ready and done and warm and looking like i have to make sure my dish looks cute. You know, every, I have to be, i have to make sure my husband is dressed like, and I wish that he would do that himself, but the,
00:25:53
Speaker
inevitable question of what shirt should I wear? my God. Chris and I literally, cause we've just finished. Um, nobody wants this. And I'm in the, I'm on like episode two of this the husband asks between two shirts and Chris started laughing cause he does that to me.
00:26:09
Speaker
And she turns around and goes, I'm tired of being your mother. Pick out your own shit. And I laugh literally, ah because I was like yeah it used to be like easy to do because I was sitting around but after I've like gotten the kids dressed I've put it it's like you just do something where I don't have to think please like that that question sometimes sends me over the edge like and it's inevitable he'll be like is this shirt good or which one should I wear or does this shirt match these shoes and I'm like
00:26:41
Speaker
literally dress yourself, dress yourself. I don't know what to tell you. Like the girl goes at first, she goes, I don't care. And he was like, that's you. And I'm like, yeah, because pick it out yourself.
00:26:53
Speaker
But then she like really got into it and she was like, I'm tired of like having to do everything. Like, can you have a thought? Yep. And it's like, I get it. We used like that used to be a thing, but now it's like, I'm overstimulated. Like, why does that send you? You know?
00:27:08
Speaker
I guess if I'm being really self-aware right now, I would say he does know that sometimes I like care about what he wears. I'll be like, don't wear that. Or so I've probably like, im I need to, yeah this is the mess I've made Yeah. Like, okay. We're full circle. Unfortunately for me, I've created this monster.
00:27:28
Speaker
that is um But at least I'm self-aware. i don't know what to tell you. Yeah. Sometimes I'm in the mood. I'm like, yeah let's do this try on session. Sometimes I'm like, can't you see I'm going to scream? Yeah. I think that that's what it comes down to. It's like,
00:27:43
Speaker
the ability to read the room. yeah um And I feel sometimes, I feel as though my husband sometimes like can't read the room. And that is like, I feel like 10X during the holidays. Like I'm, there's like seven more things on my plate with like making sure the gifts and the, like the dish I have to bring and the kids are, the tights are on and like whatever. So then when he comes to me with his stupid shirt question, I'm just like,
00:28:15
Speaker
I'm short circuiting, you know? I know. um it was just really funny that that came on the other day. that show is good. I like it a lot.
00:28:25
Speaker
It's just like a feel good show, you know? It's so weird watching them kiss, like knowing that they're in full on like other relationships. Yeah, that is crazy. Like Leighton Meester, like being on the show, watching your husband kiss someone else. It's like, how do y'all do that?
00:28:44
Speaker
and does That would be hard. We had a Vinny leaves for Key West on Thursday for his best friend's bachelor party, which the man has been
Vinny's Bachelor Party Plans
00:28:56
Speaker
counting down to. I think he's more excited for this than our wedding. Like, did I tell you what he's been doing with his friend, Tim?
00:29:03
Speaker
No. For literally three weeks, every morning, he wakes up and sends Tim a song of the day to get him pumped up for the trip.
00:29:15
Speaker
I'm like, I'm sorry. That's the most romantic thing you've ever done, and it's not for me. I thought you were going to say like they're working out, but this is like way more intimate. Right? He didn't think it was weird. I'm like, this is weird.
00:29:30
Speaker
It's weird. He's thrilled. thrilled. ah Well, it's gotten me a little in my head. I'm like, you're so excited for this that I'm just like. I remember when Chris went to Claudio's bachelor party and he was jonesing because it was a ski trip and he was like, get out of this house and it hurt my feelings.
00:29:51
Speaker
yeah Yeah, that's how Vinny's like, like literally every day he wakes up and he's like more days. four more days. I think for this, it is truly all of his best, best friends, like his core group of friends. It would be like me going on a bachelor, like a bachelorette trip with you and Mackenzie and like, you know, my core best friends.
00:30:13
Speaker
So I think that's what it is, but it's like starting to get me in my head to the point where I like, back to the reason I brought this up was because about the thought of him kissing someone else.
00:30:24
Speaker
I was like, God, please. Not that he would ever cheat on me. He knows that if he did, i like the, the wrath of the world would come down and he would be seeing himself out.
00:30:37
Speaker
But like, I just, I, I had a talk with him about like, okay, you would better. mean, i You don't have to like I just had a talk with him. it was more so about like like hey don't you don't me. Oh, okay.
00:30:54
Speaker
Which don't I'm actually I've been to the Key West strip club. Okay, don't tell him about it. Whatever your experience was. Don't tell him about it I got a boob on my cheek. I'm just going to say that.
00:31:09
Speaker
There was like, okay, can I just say there was a point in my life where like I was hitting up strip clubs there for a second. Okay. I was going to say, i love a strip club actually. Like funny thing about me.
00:31:22
Speaker
i love a strip club genuinely. But, and I've had some of my like funnest nights at a strip club. I wouldn't say like like all of that, but like I, there was like a two week period where I was in Minnesota and went to one.
00:31:37
Speaker
And then it was like, this was when I was traveling a lot for work. Not that I did this with work, but it was like I i went to one and then another time i flew to Key West like within the next like month and I went again. I was like, am I a strip club person? Like it was just like I'd never done it my life. And then it was like, bam, bam.
00:31:54
Speaker
And then that was it. That's so funny. Well, I feel like I see the, that was all happening. Like all of my, I've only been to a strip club like two or three times probably. yeah And like once in Miami, once in new Orleans, ah they may have may, may only be twice, honestly. Yeah. Mine was twice, but I think I see the world differently now that i have kids and have two girls.
00:32:19
Speaker
I'm just like, I just don't want my husband in a strip club. I don't think like, I don't know. i don't know feel weird about it. Well, there is one down there, I will say. Okay, well.
00:32:33
Speaker
I have his location, so I will. Oh my God.
00:32:39
Speaker
ah He just, he knows the rules. Now we had to talk about it which like, I am not some crazy bitch. I really am not. But I also, he's so excited. Okay. here It's, it's the excited factor that makes me worried. Like I feel, cause I have also seen my husband, if he's super excited about something, he has a tendency to like take it to the max, like the first day or the first two days to the point where he like,
00:33:04
Speaker
will literally kill himself. So it's the excited factor that has me concerned. Are they going to actual Key West? Yes. Okay. Nice. Well, I mean, it's just like old people and like bars. I mean, there there's not much trouble you can get into truly.
00:33:24
Speaker
Yeah. Well, we'll see.
00:33:28
Speaker
What's he doing? I want to know. Let's text. I don't know. i think they're going on a boat one day. I've assumed he'd probably go deep sea fishing and vom everywhere. I don't know that they're fishing. I think it's more of like a boat charter situation.
00:33:43
Speaker
cool um Obviously, they'll go out on, what is it? Duval? Is that what it is? but Yeah. um Sloppy Joes. Yeah. Garden of Eden.
00:33:55
Speaker
All the classics, I'm sure. there are Airbnb is like so nice. It has like a big pool and everything. Sweet. So he's so pumped. I mean, he's doing that romantic gesture of sending a song every day to his best friend to get him pumped. I'm like, what? You've never done anything that me. and I go back?
00:34:13
Speaker
Candice and I've been to Key West together. it was so fun. Yeah, we need to do that again. And I'll start sending you a song every day to lead up to it I always like say I'm not going to go and then I end up going every year. I'm like, how does this keep happening?
00:34:28
Speaker
I get sucked in. know. I get sucked in. I'm like, I'm not going to go. But then, la or i guess it was this year when we went, i was like, oh, it was so fun with the kids. Like, I loved it with with them.
00:34:39
Speaker
Truly. was great. I liked it more than going by myself. Oh, that's interesting. here Who knew? key West is a kid-friendly place, I guess. Truly. I mean, our friend told us.
00:34:52
Speaker
She said, bring them. Oh, really? Yeah. So, so fun. thing I just can't believe it's already November. Like it's been the fastest year. I feel like.
Weather Changes and Family Routines
00:35:08
Speaker
I cannot. I feel like we just started this year and it's already November, which is so crazy. And like I hate how dark it is. It's like sending me into this like I didn't I guess I didn't realize like how bad I was feeling in January until like it started getting like dark again. And I was like, oh, no, like do I have seasonal depression?
00:35:29
Speaker
Like I don't it's kind of crazy. the how dark it gets and you're like I guess I'll just fucking sit on the couch at 5 p.m. like what else are we gonna do no it's definitely rough i struggled with seasonal depression for real when I lived in New York City and it's so much worse like up north than it is here and oh I'm sure Florida because you know obviously north and south like I swear to God up north for those girls up north. I'm so sorry.
00:35:57
Speaker
So sorry to you guys because I swear to God it gets dark at like 430 p.m. It did whenever I go Rhode Island, but I didn't have. Yeah, I didn't like bother me yeah as much like I was still going out to eat in like it was whatever.
00:36:10
Speaker
But now I'm just like, well, shit, what are we going to do with the kids when it's pitch black at 5 p.m.? m Which I do want to talk about, like entertaining things that we can with them.
00:36:21
Speaker
A lot of like people that live up north say we still go outside. Just dress them appropriately and have the lights on and so you can still be outside.
00:36:32
Speaker
I was going to say, i feel like my move, especially because I really do want to enjoy the backyard that we just finished, you know, or about to finish. And I'm like, I'm just going to hang some market lights out there and like make it a cute little area and like turn on the lights. And we still go outside, honestly. I know. It's just like all of a sudden, like November like came hard and it got cold. I was like, it was maybe 70s for like two weeks and now it's like fifty
00:37:04
Speaker
like, what the hell? Like, I didn't even get to enjoy yeah that weather or that long. It was just such a fast turn. And so anyway, we do have a fire pit outside. We need to go enjoy that more. Like, we just need to get out there. We need better lighting is the thang.
00:37:21
Speaker
Yeah, I know. i feel the same way. I also feel like, I don't know about you, but like, I definitely feel safe in my neighborhood to walk even when it gets dark, but I'm like, maybe I need to invest in some like stroller glow sticks or like, I don't know. so That's what yeah we had it. Um, that's another thing.
00:37:41
Speaker
We took our stroller trick or treating And like the next morning, Jen was texting like things we left and she's like, and by the way, Whitney, you left your whole ass stroller at our house.
00:37:52
Speaker
And I was like, oh, I'm so sorry. um She goes like the bike light was just like blinking in their driveway because we had it attached to the back. Oh, OK, OK. But I was dying laughing like, OK, we left our whole ass double stroller. forgot probably. Yeah, literally.
00:38:10
Speaker
I'm gonna blame that on Chris. Um, does great. It's sorry. This is like a little bit of a sidebar, but does great in still like, he still likes the stroller. I feel like I keep hearing that. Like,
00:38:23
Speaker
four five is like when they really start to like reject and wants. loves walking, but like we, I mean, we take the double stroller because it's an option and it's not a hassle because it's like, you know, the Zoe double side by side.
00:38:37
Speaker
So if we go walking, we'll bring the scooter. And so he switches between scootering and then he'll hop in the seat if he wants. And he just kind of goes back and forth. He's good about it.
00:38:47
Speaker
Well, that's good. we don't, we don't pressure it either way. Yeah. Yeah. I was watching some of the other families trick-or-treating and I was like, oh wow. Like we still are in stroller land, you know, but I feel like, I don't know, next year Evie will still only be two. So I feel like we'll still have stroller next year, but Margo, um, wrote a lot.
00:39:11
Speaker
Yeah. I'm glad I brought it because we ended up like actually having like her little buddy Roman sat with her. Cause it's always a long, it's a mile walk, probably the loop we did. And, by the end of it grain was getting tired and he sat in someone else's stroller was like a like uh whatever old magical chairs musical chairs not magical chairs oh my god he like sat in a baby seat and i was like this is embarrassing like grain's long ass legs dangling out he is a spider is spider he is a spider
00:39:43
Speaker
He's got long legs. Wait. Okay. Now I feel like we've hopped around to so many different like topics here, but can we just go back to Halloween candy really
Candy Concerns and Health
00:39:52
Speaker
quick? And we did not have many trick or treaters at our house at all. Like we left a bucket out of side of our house when we went trick or treating. Yeah.
00:40:02
Speaker
We came back and I swear to God, one piece of candy it was gone. It was none of ours was he taken. I left it out in the driveway. Nothing. It was, we have an unbelievable amount of candy and the amount of like tantrums just in the past two or three days because of the candy.
00:40:20
Speaker
Like I'm going to toss it. Right. Are you, no what are we doing? they kind of forgot about it yesterday. Didn't ask for any of it. So I think it's time. Like it's gone.
00:40:32
Speaker
I gotta go. It's gotta go. For my own sake and for their sake. God. Truly. But I was like, whatever. It was like one day, two-ish days. like We let them kind of have some some fun with it sat or yeah on Friday and Saturday. And then like he really didn't ask for it much.
00:40:53
Speaker
But Margot... Somehow, Peanut M&M's, the little small pack, my favorite candy, your favorite candy. My favorite candy. um She somehow was eating it, was able to store the nuts in her cheek, chewed up, store to them.
00:41:11
Speaker
And at the end of all of them, she spit them all out clean as a whistle.
00:41:18
Speaker
Just the nuts? Just the nuts. And I was like, how the fuck did you do that? Oh my god, wait. I'm literally crying. That is so funny. She's a chipmunk. Isn't that weird? I was like, and that she, of course, she fucking did it ah in her bedroom on her rug I got off Facebook Marketplace. I was like, come on. This light pink rug and there's nuts just boom shot out of her mouth.
00:41:44
Speaker
That is so funny. Isn't that weird? my god. Also, the way you described it, clean as a whistle.
00:41:52
Speaker
It was. It was impressive. so funny. Truly. Wow. I have been on like, that's the other thing about the candy is ever since, you know, we found out about ah Alice's um cavity that I've been just been a psycho about like candy staying on their teeth too long.
00:42:12
Speaker
So like, and my mom obviously watches them on a ah lot. I'm like, please, if they're eating candy, like if, which I know my mom, even though she tells me she's not, she definitely is letting them have candy. And I'm like, that's fine. I'm not even going to fight you on that right now. It's just not the battle I'm choosing, but like you have to brush their teeth before nap and like before bed.
00:42:32
Speaker
That's all I'm asking is like, Brush your freaking teeth. And she's like, we do, we do, we always do. I'm like, thank God, because I can't afford another cavity because we're about to have that one taken care of.
00:42:43
Speaker
And speaking of, we have to go to the doctor tomorrow. And I remember Margo's checkup, this The doctor is tomorrow for Graydon. But I remember at Margo's checkup at her two-year, he's like, all right, no more shots until four.
00:42:58
Speaker
And I go, yay. And then I go, oh, fuck, because this is for Graydon. yeah And I am so scared. I like made it kind of late in the day tomorrow thinking Chris would be off work, and he's not.
00:43:12
Speaker
So I have to go alone with both of them and I'm like sweating nervous. Because he kind of has doctor anxiety. And it's just going to make it worse. And it's we're going to start that cycle all over again and I'm so scared. I'm so scared.
00:43:28
Speaker
Damn. i I'm with you. I would be the same way. I'm like, cancel? I'm so nervous. I wish Chris was coming so bad.
00:43:39
Speaker
i don't want to do it. Anyway. because like, what if you have to hold him? Margo's going to freak out. I was going to say that Margo's going to watch it all. Oh, no, no, no.
00:43:50
Speaker
You got to cancel. and You got to move it. You got to move it to when Chris can take him. Oh, my God. It's bad. Anyway, that's another day. That's tomorrow, me's problem.
00:44:02
Speaker
Yeah. Sending you good vibes for that. Holy moly. Like, what shot do they get it for? If it's just the flu shot, I'm going to say no, thank you.
00:44:14
Speaker
Yeah. ah I don't know. Candice, I'm not. I can't. If it's just for that. day There's no way it's just the flu shot, though. it's definitely like. Yeah, what is it? It's for school or something, prepping. Yeah.
00:44:27
Speaker
Well, this has just been a hodgepodge, honestly.
Closing Remarks and Future Plans
00:44:30
Speaker
literally had like no subject. We were going to talk about things that the kids can do since getting i feel like we could do a whole nother episode on that, though. Yeah, let's do that.
00:44:39
Speaker
Yeah. I feel like let's just have this and we can have the title be like Halloween, just blah, blah, like three topics. Yeah, literally. I don't know. We we're real we just haven't talked in a weekend.
00:44:52
Speaker
So we had a lot to say. Yeah, I had a lot to say. um
00:44:58
Speaker
This has been so fun, as always. As always. You've turned my day around because i was went in a I was in a funk this morning. And talking to you and getting on here always makes me feel better. so I want to start every day like this with you.
00:45:11
Speaker
Which is why we have to be neighbors. Yeah.
00:45:15
Speaker
That is the dream. Yeah. Remember when it almost happened like for a week and then? No, I really did want it to happen like really badly. one day.
00:45:28
Speaker
All right. Well, I love you so much. Happy Halloween-y, everyone. And talk to you later. Bye. Thank you so much for being a part of our mom group chat. New episodes drop every Tuesday. And don't forget, the group chat is blowing up on our Instagram page. So make sure you're following along over there.
00:45:47
Speaker
All right. Got to go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.