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you can't always be the one that... Is always the front runner of this. Yes, because everybody needs sunshine, right? yeah Right, yeah, right. So I think that that's something that we are really, really good at, that we are going to be our each other's biggest cheerleader, and we are the one that's like, this is your thing, this is your time. How can I support you? How can I support you? Um, I was telling you before we started rolling that I had in May, two of the craziest weeks of my entire life. You know, I didn't get to see my kids enough. I wasn't sleeping enough, you know, and Nick was the one being like, have you eaten? yeah You know, like, you know, all of those things. yeah um He would stop by with flowers just because he knew I needed a pickup, like that sort of thing. And also cookies because I hadn't eaten. And it's cookies. We're always good with cookies. So I just, I feel so lucky because I mean, there are times in the very beginning that he was the breadwinner. The consistency? The consistency. I mean, to this day, he's our healthcare. Amen. Do you remember that? Thank you, Nick. Yeah. So I mean, there's so many there's so many things, but I think we both have really distinguished roles that are very compatible, and I feel very lucky about that. Very cool. Brene Brown, have you ever heard of her? Yes. Yeah. She has this thing, and she's like, you know so somebody's like, I give 100% all the time. She's like, no, you don't. No. No, you don't. She's like, marriage is this. She's like, sometimes when you're down and you're like, oh, so I can all give you 20. The other side is like, I'll give you 75%. Right. ye And then when, when one side's like, Hey, I'm at 20 and the other side's like, I'm at a 20. Okay. We really need to work together here to like, try to figure out like, where are we going to get the rest of the 60? You know, like let's communicate a little bit more. And I thought that's such a brilliant thing because it's true. Like you can't give a hundred percent of relationship. You just can't. but you can give you, sometimes you're in in a better capacity to take on a little bit more responsibility, encourage a little bit more, like drop by, i give cookies. I'm always about that. And so what a cool thing and thing just to to reflect because you wouldn't be where you're at without a supportive spouse. No way. And so ah what a cool thing just to see that and kind of unpack that a little bit. One of one of my favorite um marriage advice pieces, actually there's two of them. They're both from Chris Rock.