Continuing our UK-themed season, this week we sat down with Lois Shearing, a bi activist, freelance journalist and writer based in London. We chatted about their journey along the sexuality and gender spectrums, the many Bi+ groups they’ve been part of and helped organize (including the Bisexual Survivors’ Network, the London Bi Pandas, and an LGBT+ knitting club), and their popular writing about bisexuality that’s been published by The Independent, The Advocate, INTO, Openly, and more.

We then chatted about Lois’ book, “Bi The Way: The Bisexual Guide to Life”, which was published in 2021, highlighting topics such as being “really bi”, bisexuality as freedom, the bi v. pan “debate”, the challenges of coming out, how to find Bi+ community (and why it’s so important), and how sexuality and gender can be interrelated and interdependent. We also covered quite a few next-level Bi 2.0 topics, as I like to call them – check out the episode for some spicy takes!

Buy “Bi The Way: The Bisexual Guide to Life”: https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/lois-shearing/bi-the-way/9781787752900/

Follow Lois on Twitter: https://twitter.com/LoShearing
Follow Lois in Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loisfaith95/

Follow Lois on Medium: https://medium.com/@lois.shearing

Lois' Website: https://faithfullwords.wordpress.com/

“Why Bisexuality is a Threat to Terf Politics”: https://medium.com/@lois.shearing/why-bisexuality-is-a-threat-to-terf-politics-5f2b40563e11

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

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Bi the Way, it's Lois Shearing

It’s almost election day, so we sat down with a civil rights attorney, recent candidate for Justice of the Peace in Texas, writer, activist, proud bisexual man of faith, and mega-fan of this podcast, Andrew Reginald Hairston! We chatted about voting and why it’s so important for queer people to get out the vote and protect our communities (GO VOTE PLEASE!), the freedom Andrew has experienced since coming out, how this podcast appeared at the right moment to help him on his bisexual journey, how his sexuality has impacted his work as a civil rights lawyer and prison abolitionist, and also how it has intersected with his faith community, and his newfound “limitless capacity for love” since embracing his whole identity.

We also talked about the highs and lows of dating, how our bisexuality has come into play in negative and abusive relationships we’ve had, and how to cultivate self-worth not just despite a complicated, sometimes-confusing identity but BECAUSE of it – and why we should not just ask for but demand the recognition and respect we deserve. Andrew eloquently reminds us that no matter what happens in the 2022 mid-terms, hope is a discipline, this is just one moment in a long struggle, we are building on the efforts of those who came before, and the future is bright if we work together to take the next step.

Follow Andrew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewrhairston/

Follow Andrew on Twitter: https://twitter.com/AndrewRHairston

Visit Andrew’s Website: https://andrewrhairston.com/

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

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Hope is a Discipline with Andrew Hairston

We're all aware of the unfortunate statistics showing that the bisexual community receives a tiny minority of LGBT+ charity resources despite making up a majority of the community itself. But how does that play out and what does it actually mean for Bi+ people?

We chatted about that and more with Dominic Arnall, CEO of “Just Like Us” (an LGBT+ young people’s charity) and the only out bisexual man running a queer charity in the UK. He explained what happens when the “B” is neglected in the non-profit space, why we need resources that are dedicated specifically to the Bi+/fluid community (and for kids especially), and what those programs might look like if they were properly funded and prioritized.

We also discussed the current political climate and the targeting of trans kids, why the “B” & “T” communities are intertwined and benefit by standing up for each other, and how queerness and gender are evolving and being viewed by young people today. We also touched on Dominic’s own bisexual journey, how his marriage and child have intersected with his queerness, and things to consider when coming out as Bi+ in the workplace.

Follow Dominic on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dominicarnall

Follow Just Like Us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/justlikeusUK

Support Just Like Us: www.justlikeus.org [http://www.justlikeus.org/]

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

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Bi+ Representation in LGBT+ Charity with Dominic Arnall

This week we chatted with author, illustrator, and activist Florence Given, aka “Floss”, about her new (very bisexual!) novel, GIRLCRUSH. Floss gained an online following leading up to her first book, “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty”, a non-fiction feminist primer, before transitioning to fiction and highlighting sexual fluidity in “Girlcrush”.

We talked about Floss’s bisexual journey, the biphobia and bi-erasure she’s experienced since coming out, the differences she’s encountered dating men v. women, how not wanting to play into toxic and gendered power dynamics in relationships can lead to being overly cautious, why she wanted to create a “messy” bisexual character who gets confused and makes mistakes, and the unexpected joys that have come with a queer identity. We also discussed what it’s like to be a social media influencer today, the difference between our digital self and our reality, parasocial relationships between creators and their fans, how to deal with online trolls and negativity, and the pleasant surprises that come with a public persona. Finally, we touched on consent, how to recognize and get out of an abusive relationship, and how to reclaim your own power and authenticity.

Follow Floss on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/florencegiven/ [https://zencastr.com/publish/Two-Bi-Guys/episode/634332d72ad19375fb650129]

Visit Floss's website: https://www.florencegiven.com/

Buy GIRLCRUSH: https://bookshop.org/books/girlcrush/9781914240522

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

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Florence Given on Girlcrushes, Power Dynamics, and the Digital Self

Happy Bi+ Visibility Day and Awareness Week! There's no better way to celebrate than an interview with another true BI-CON, Dr. Mimi Hoang!

Dr. Mimi a psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the LGBTQ+ and Asian Pacific Islander communities -- and she was named “one of the most significant women in the bisexual movement”! In this special episode, we chatted about her family history and bisexual journey, the multiple organizations she co-founded in Los Angeles for Bi+ individuals (including LA Bi+ Task Force and AmBi), how to cultivate resilience, when and how to speak to a psychologist or therapist about your sexuality or gender identity, the cognitive dissonance caused by our actions not matching our words and how coming out can lead to more internal congruence, and the particular challenges of being married and bisexual. Though we do mention the negative mental and physical health outcomes we know are prevalent in our community, we focused our chat on the joys, surprises, and positive aspects of fluid sexuality and the value of building Bi+ community.

Visit Dr. Mimi's website: https://www.drmimihoang.com/index.html

Follow Dr. Mimi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmimihoang/?hl=en

Dr. Mimi's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/drmimihoang

Join AmBi! https://www.ambi.org/

Dr. Mimi's amazing list of queer and Bi+ resources: https://www.drmimihoang.com/resourcescontact.html

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

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Dr. Mimi Hoang is Bi on Life!

We chatted with NYC-based entrepreneur Stephen Quaderer, who identifies as gay and pansexual. Stephen is the creator of Headero, the connection app for people who love oral pleasure ;) We talked about the queer future of dating apps; the potential pleasure of meeting people based on shared interests or desires rather than gender identity or sexuality; how to navigate the online dating scene safely and consensually, and the important of being honest and direct about preferences, kinks, and expectations. We also discussed Stephen's gay and pansexual identities and the growing number of gay men who are exploring sexual fluidity.

Download Headero: https://www.headero.com/

Thot Experiment: https://www.thotexperiment.co/

Follow Header on IG: https://www.instagram.com/headeroapp/?hl=en

Follow Stephen on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ItsQuads

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

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Headero-sexuality with Stephen Quaderer

We're back with part two of our interview with content creator, activist, and all-around bi-con RJ Aguiar! In this episode we chatted about using sex appeal as a marketing tool (for example, the title of this episode...), RJ's modeling work and how it's affected his own body image, how RJ blends sexuality and mental health with other pop culture and political topics on his show "Quick Question", RJ's bisexual activism with the LA Bi+ Task Force and other organizations, why his hair is a different color every summer, and much more! Do you think RJ should return as one of the two bi guys more often? Let us know!

Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrj

Follow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJ

Follow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj

"Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion

"Quick Question on Snapchat: https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true

"TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadam

LA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.org

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

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Too Hot to be Straight with RJ Aguiar






What's it like to go viral with your Bi+ coming out story? We asked that and
more to RJ Aguiar, the OG bi YouTube sensation. in our 2-part season 5 premiere!
In this episode, RJ discuss his personal bisexual journey, reactions to his
coming out (both privately and on social media), the experience of being a very
public bi guy years before the more recent (modest) increase in representation,
how to balance and integrate Bi+ content with other important issues, the ways
that social media shapes how we see ourselves, and much more. Stay tuned for
part 2 where we discuss more about RJ's modeling, activism, and his work with
the LA Bi+ Task Force!
Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrj
Follow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJ
Follow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj
"Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion
"Quick Question on Snapchat:
https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true
"TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadam
LA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.org
Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen
Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd
Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman
Music by Ross Mintzer
We are supported by The Gotham
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Going Bi-ral with RJ Aguiar

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It's the Two Bi Guys Season Four Finale and it's jam-packed with bi science, bi
history, bi culture, bi politics, and of course bi puns! We are thrilled to be
joined by Dr. Julia Shaw, psycholoical scientist at University College London,
founder of the Bisexual Research Group, and author of multiple best-selling
books -- including her new book "Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of
Bisexuality", coming out June 28 in the US!



We chatted about Dr. Shaw's bi identity and how a lack of research about
bisexuality led to her exploring on her own and coming out, why bisexual people
frequently "want more" (and deserve more!), the privilege of being in a place
and position where coming out is safe (and the responsibility that comes with
it), why psychological research has often marginalized fluid sexuality and why
the field of "positive psychology" offers new promise, how traditional
evolutionary theory comes up short in its explanation of queerness and why
multi-spectrum attraction is not only natural but likely evolutionarily
advantageous, the deep and often-invisible cultural bias toward heterosexuality
that most of us grew up with, how positive Bi+ & queer representation in media
can contribute to meaningful, real-world political change, Dr. Shaw's six stages
of "bidentity" development (spoiler: it begins with loneliness but ends with
peace!), and the importance of Bi+ spaces and BI PRIDE!



Thank you all for listening to another season of Two Bi Guys! Happy Pride and
we'll be back soon!



Dr. Shaw's website: https://www.drjuliashaw.com/



Order Dr. Shaw's book! (and find Bi+ events w/ Dr. Shaw):
https://linktr.ee/drjuliashaw



The Bisexual Research Group: https://www.bisexualresearch.com/



Follow Dr. Shaw on Twitter: https://twitter.com/drjuliashaw

Follow Dr. Shaw on IG: https://www.instagram.com/drjuliashaw

Follow the Bisexual Research Group on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/bisexualscience

Follow the Bisexual Research Group on IG:
https://www.instagram.com/bisexualresearch/





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The Science of Bisexuality with Dr. Julia Shaw (Season Finale)

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This week Rob sat down with Lydia Green, a bisexual Jewish organizer and
Democratic party activist currently running for District Leader of NYC Assembly
District 52 in Brooklyn. We chatted about her bisexual journey; the intersectin
of her sexuality with her gender, Judaism, and disability; how her identity
affected her interest in politics, and specifically how her bisexuality informs
her campaign for District Leader and her goals if elected; how local government
bureaucracy ends up benefitting incumbents, maintaining the status quo, and
keeping out fresh voices and progressive ideas; why it's important to elect more
queer representatives across the country; how to hold the Democratic party
accountable; and much more!

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen
Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd
Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman
Music by Ross Mintzer
We are supported by The Gotham
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Elect More Bi+ People, Like Lydia Green!

A podcast about fluid sexuality, gender, masculinity and femininity, intimacy,
relationships and more -- hosted by two bi guys.