This year marked the 25th year of BFF – and while many people do meet their best friends forever at the bi-annual event, that's not where the acronym comes from ;)  The Bi F*** Fest is a twice-a-year takeover of a resort in Palm Springs by over 250 Bi+ people, and while there IS a lot of fun, sexy playtime, it's the community, openness, and acceptance that keep people coming back. This year marked my second summer BFF, so I conducted a series of short interviews with attendees. They are fascinating. I love this episode. Enjoy!

00:00 – Intro and my experience

07:50 – Charles

11:30 – Steve

15:40 – Josh and Mark

30:00 – Jenni

44:00 – I describe the physical space

49:20 – Don

57:20 – Laura

1:07:00 – B.A.

1:16:15 – Peter

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I Met My Best Friends Forever at Bi F*** Fest

My guest this week is Gabby Kealoha Holt, a queer, native Hawaiian singer/songwriter with a new beautiful song out May 30 titled “May We Heal”. We chatted about her queerness and sexual fluidity growing up, how that intersected with her passion for music (as well as her passion for skateboarding), how her life and career have been affected by meditation and newfound spirituality, and then we got into her new song, how it came about, and how music can help us all heal. Stay tuned to hear the song at the end of the podcast – or go listen now at the links below!

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“May We Heal” on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/7LnmPfCvwv26OVQSAkxj3M?si=Q3tk8OT0SFuLWICM6kkP_g

“May We Heal” on all platforms: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/gabbykealohaholt/may-we-heal-feat-erin-adkisson--the-sacred-sunday-song-circle-shortened-version?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacYZvVTYHUqunXG6s_7BdugIRhONvhOLh9ktnWpxRZ5yeyETsU1O9NMp7n0eA_aem_EV94hrBXiskns6DhTwICwA

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May We Heal with Gabby Kealoha Holt

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Welcome back to the second half of my interview with Clark Nesselrodt! We finished up talking about his book before diving into the spiritual meditation work he facilitates, plus some talk about abundance and the reciprocity of the universe, and finally we chatted about the current political climate, how to engage with it spiritually (and when to tap out and take care of yourself), and what this period of disturbance could transform into.

One of my key takeaways is that nothing is ever happening to us -- it is always happening FOR us. This shift in perspective has been so powerful for me recently, and I hope it is healing for you, as well.

Stay tuned for more episodes throughout Pride month!

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Nothing Happens To You, It Happens FOR You, with Clark Nesselrodt

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My guest this week is my friend and spiritual guide, Clark Neselrodt -- he's also a coach, meditation facilitator, end-of-life caregiver, and father. We chatted about his unique bisexual journey, how to feel the vibrations and energy of your own queerness and authenticity, the spiritual work he facilitates, how getting in touch with your true self can connect you to divine realms and spirits -- and then we got into a discussion of his forthcoming book, "KINK: Un-crippling Our Secret Selves", how shame operates both on an individual level and in our society, and how the urges and callings of a kink can lead your toward your true life's purpose.

If you have no clue what we're talking about in terms of the meditation work that Clark facilitates, feel free to get in touch with me or him to ask! And if you have some idea... you're probably on the right track...

Stay tuned for part 2 with Clark next week, plus bonus content on Patreon!

Clark's website: https://www.clarknesselrodt.com/

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Under Construction with Clark Nesselrodt

This episode welcomes the return of Mark Cusack, ICF Coach and founder of the support site “Not Defining”, to discuss his new book, Fluid: A Guide For People With Flexible Sexuality. (Finally, someone who can define one of the most commonly-used labels on this show!) We chatted about fluidity, what it means, how it’s shown up in our lives, and why it can be a helpful way to think about the sexuality spectrum – among other spectrums.

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Two Fluid Guys with Mark and Rob

This week I chatted with Jon McCray Jones and Natalie Moe, organizers of “$luts Party”, a monthly sex-positive rave that centers bi and queer people in the Chicago nightlife scene, and hosts of the Fun with $ex Podcast. We talked about their experiences attending play parties all over the world, how “Two Bi Guys” helped Jon recognize and explore his bisexuality, why they decided to create bi-inclusive and fluid-focused rave and play parties, what those parties are really like, and how that scene promotes self-discovery for individuals as well as new ways of being in relationships.

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Sexually Liberated United Together – aka $LUTS Party – with Jon McCray Jones and Natalie Moe

My guest this week is Wayne Scott, a writer, psychotherapist, and teacher who recently published a new memoir, “The Maps They Gave Us”, which tells the story of a man and woman who fall in love again on their way to getting a divorce. We chatted about what it was liking knowing you were bisexual during the AIDS crisis, the unique circumstances under which he met and committed to his wife, the role bisexuality played in his marriage, why they came very, VERY close to divorce, why they decided to try opening up their marriage (and how they navigated that), and how this arrangement led to new forms of love, understanding, and partnership.

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Charting Your Own Path with Wayne Scott

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Welcome to Season 9 of Two Bi Guys! I’m trying some new things this season, including a super-sized episode all at once instead of split into two! This week I had the pleasure of chatting with Mike Joseph of the Detoxicity podcast for a crossover episode on mental health, queerness, and psychedelic therapies. You’ll hear Mike’s story about navigating his own queerness as he grew up in the 80s as well as his insightful thoughts on what men really need in our current climate. After that, we discussed Mike’s journey with ketamine as well as my recent plant medicine work. Enjoy!

Mike’s website: https://www.mike-joseph.com/

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Detoxicity podcast: https://detoxpod.podbean.com/

The Detoxicity episode Rob was on in Dec 2023: https://detoxpod.podbean.com/e/detoxpod-153-robert-brooks-cohen-screenwriterauthor/

Radiolab episode about neuroplasticity: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/radiolab/id152249110?i=1000676210394

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Detoxing and Resetting with Mike Joseph

Time to take a look back at 2024 before we move into the new year! My year was transformative, and I hope 2025 brings you even more peace, progress, and love. This isn't exactly a "best of", because all my guests are the best, but more of a year in review, six clips that are really resonating with me at the moment. Enjoy!

Until January 10, take advantage of discount pricing for  one-on-one coaching! I specialize in helping bi, queer, non-monogamous or questioning people navigate challenges surrounding identity and relationships. Learn more and book a free 25-minute intro call at my website: www.robertbrookscohen.com/coaching [https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/coaching]

Stay tuned in 2025 for more episodes of Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy) as well as new courses and coaching offerings. Happy new year!

Best of Two Bi Guys 2024

This week features part two of my chat with Aaron Hammersly, filmmaker and production executive at Disney, board member on the LA Bi+ Task Force, and outspoken advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, working especially for more inclusive representation in front of and behind the camera. In this episode, we continued discussing “Bi+ Narratives: A Guide to Authentic Representation in Storytelling”, the first comprehensive guide to portraying bi+ characters in film and television, which Aaron co-authored, diving into dozens of case studies of bi+ representation in the current film & TV landscape (like Schitt’s Creek, Heartstopper, Game of Thrones, Call Me By Your Name, Baby Reindeer, and many more), what they’re doing well, what’s backwards or harmful, what’s missing, and what we’d ideally like to see in the future. We also discussed the “manic pixie bi boy” trend, and finally we went through the guide’s test for creatives to determine if what they’re producing is authentic Bi+ representation.

Thanks for listening to season 8 of Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy)! We’ll be back in 2025!

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The Bi+ Narratives Guide: https://www.rewritethebiline.com/bi-test

“Manic Pixie Bi Boys”: https://www.queermajority.com/essays-all/the-manic-pixie-bi-boys

Bi+ Stories Matter with Aaron Hammersly (Season Finale!)

A podcast about sexual fluidity, the gender spectrum, masculinity, intimacy, relationships and more, now hosted by one bi guy.