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Healthy Masculinity in Life ft. Steven Kuhn
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In this episode, I sit down with Steven Kuhn to explore the essence of healthy masculinity—what it means to lead with integrity, strength, and purpose while embracing emotional intelligence and self-awareness. We dive into the power of authentic leadership, healing past wounds, and embodying true confidence in a world that often distorts what it means to be a man.
Steven brings decades of experience in leadership, business, and personal transformation, sharing wisdom on how men can rise into their highest potential without falling into the traps of toxic masculinity or self-doubt. Whether you're on a journey of personal growth, looking to redefine success, or seeking deeper relationships, this conversation will challenge and inspire you.
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Transcript
Introduction of Host and Guest
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Two, one, and welcome to the weekly coop. I am here with an amazing guest, has a lot of powerful knowledge on just business and mindset. And just, I really love the masculinity that's going to come through in this episode.
Stephen's Background and Military Influence
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Uh, so Steve, Stephen, I should say, sorry, uh, introduce yourself, what you do, and and just a little bit about who you are.
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Sure, my name is Stephen Cohen. I'm a um US citizen, but I've lived abroad for about 35 years. In the military when I was 19, left Pennsylvania where I was born, went to Germany, spent seven years there, went to Iraq, did a tour, got out stayed in Europe and have since lived in 10 countries now currently in Turkey.
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um Opened and ran 20 of my own businesses, turned around about 100 businesses and have funded or generated over 900 million in revenue and in funding to date.
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and just having a good time. I focus a lot as a coach. Most of my clients work with to raise money. I coach them. Most of them are men and and always comes down inevitably to being a leader at home. It's a little bit different than being a leader at work or in the workplace, but it always comes down to one thing and that's a conscious decision to be leader.
Overcoming Childhood Challenges
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that's ah That's an amazing intro, much appreciated. What got you? Because you said you said a lot of great things. I guess the first question is, why did you want to leave America?
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Well, you know, I was 19 years old. I was in high school. Uh, you know, I grew up with very abusive stepfathers. I think I had four by the time I was 18. Um, I'm talking like thrown down the stairs, gun in my mouth and stuff like that. Like really, you know, typical classic American nightmare. Uh, and I just knew I had to get out or I wasn't going to go anywhere if I was even going to survive. So I joined the military. I was like, I'm out just and get out of here. And I wanted to put myself in a position where I had no choice but to adapt.
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Like I wanted to push myself as hard as possible to see what I was made out of. And man, that I found that experience. Seriously. yeah Ended up, you know, bootcamp was really tough on me, even though I was a football player. ah Really, really tough on me. I wasn't a good football player, by the way, because I had no pride and no self worth and no, no belief in myself. So I couldn't play well because I didn't know how to break through those barriers of mind over matter.
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But when I joined the military, I remember I had a 1980s disco mullet, so to say. And I remember when I was sitting in the barber chair at the reception station in Fort Knox, Kentucky, and they were cutting my hair off. I said to myself, that dude is now gone. He'll never show his face again. And i said I swore to myself, I would become the best version of myself. And that's what I did. And I never went back.
Global Experiences and Business Success
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And I've been working on myself for many, many years, three marriages, you know,
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four kids in total. And it's a lot of work, but it's so valuable now to the rest of the world that I'm able to pass on the knowledge that I went through. I mean, look, I've lived in 10 countries. I've been married. I've been in a war. I've been shot. I have 120 fights. It's just ridiculous amount of things that I've done. And I've worked for celebrities like Mick Jagger, Olivia Newton-John, Andrea Bocelli. I've worked for the European Parliament. Started an organization that's now the fastest-growing party in the history of Germany.
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And the leaders were just invited to the inauguration of Trump. and And it's like, these are all things that I've done just sort of by the way. I got my MBA in the UK. You know, it's like, I just did things because I wanted to do them. And I never really thought like, well, let me make this my career.
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For me, it was about proving myself to myself, you know? And when you come from a childhood like I come from, it's called a chaos kid. Chaos kids are, if you look at any, you know, hundred millionaire, billionaire, most of them come from chaotic childhoods. And because they're always trying to prove themselves and get attention from the parents, so to say, and their inner child kind of, they're always doing more than everybody else. They're always pushing harder than everybody else. And that sense of urgency that they have to achieve just wipes everybody else off the map.
Authenticity in Business and Leadership
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man that's some powerful stuff I really I really like where you're coming from I guess yeah ah one of the questions I think I have just from your upbringing in because I'm a you know a middle child and I definitely I think I grew up a little more independent in a way of ah I definitely, I wasn't rebellious, but you know, I definitely wanted to kind of people please in a way by being good at sports and school and you know, stuff like that. Um, you seem to have had, yeah, wanting to kind of, you talked about grabbing attention and like those sorts of things kind of like validation, quote unquote. Um, but I feel like you took your experiences and you made them strengths. And I guess like,
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What strengths do you think you got from like your childhood and your upbringing that have brought you into business, but also still keeping like a healthy masculine at the same time? Cause you're a very healthy masculine person. So I'm kind of curious on how you handled all that. Well, I would say my number one strength is my vulnerability. I walk into a boardroom with suits and ties, all these guys sitting there with their PowerPoint presentations and all these big deals. And I will close into $250 million dollars deal in my t-shirt.
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while they're sitting there flipping through their PowerPoint presentations. Why? Because I walk in there as who I am in my true identity. I'm not trying to be somebody. I'm not trying to show something. I'm just who I am authentically as who I am. And I don't give a damn what they think about me because I'm not there to sell them anything. I'm there to show them that I'm the person that they want to work with.
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because I have certainty in my abilities to deploy my genius in any given situation. It doesn't matter if I have the solution, if I know somebody who has a solution, or I know somebody who knows somebody who has a solution. That's what they buy. They don't buy that service, they don't buy the product, they don't buy your suit, they don't buy your PowerPoint presentation, your product, your service, they buy their service and your abilities to deploy your genius in any given situation. And that alone, that certainty in who I am,
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yeah And since I'm a man, the certainty radiates through my purpose in life and shows that masculinity, shows that I'm an authentic person. And therefore I can dictate my own market value in whatever I do. No one ever asks me, Oh, what grade did you get? What was your grades or your point average when you're an MBA? and Let me prove that you've done what you've said. No one's ever asked me that. Okay. yeah Because certainty that you have carries everything with it yeah in the moment, in the now.
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You know, anyone looking at the past to try to figure something out doesn't trust you right now. Right? So they're trying to validate what you're saying because you're not saying with certainty. So they got to go to the past and try to figure it out. Yeah. So if you're certain, they don't look at the past because you're certain and you know what the the amazing thing about certainty is. It allows you to get rid of the how you're going to do anything. Because if you're certain, it doesn't matter how you just know who will. Man.
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Wow. Yeah. So what are you most, what, because you talked about so many businesses, right? Uh, if you are allowed to share, what are you most proud of? Like what business were you most proud of? Like baiting, launching, selling, whatever. And, uh, what are you excited right now? Like with what you're working on? I think the most impressive business I ever had or the most proud business I ever had was my first business. That was a cocktail bar in Berlin. So an American cocktail bar in Berlin.
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Uh, 1996, I opened it up. Okay. I ended up opening two more and a nightclub and they all had the same name and it was really cool. Uh, and it was was proud of myself. I had no idea what I was doing. I had no experience. I came out of the military, opened a cocktail bar. Next thing you know, the most popular cocktail bar there in Berlin. And, uh, I just, I just went with it and I knew like, I just went on the bar and sing and like, I was way out. Like what just went crazy. I said, I'm going to, I'm going to have as much fun as possible. And that's what attracted people.
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And that's when I realized, I said, I'm doing things differently, not because I'm trying to market, but because I want to have fun in what I'm doing. I want to enjoy my life and I want to show people that it's okay. And that was truly my motivation. And when, when I did that and I saw how people flew to me, I was like, wow, you know, it really pays. if Marketing doesn't mean shit unless you're authentic.
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Yeah, it's somewhere down the road, because but this is just a message. This isn't the truth when you're when you're talking about a person anyway So, you know, it's uh, it's it's something to be said for that business But I would say right now what i'm working on we just funded 210 million dollars for five different companies within the last 60 days my partner and I Wow Yeah, and we have this week 35 million next week 15 and 10 um, and these are all companies I just got off the phone with another one and you know, we're working with International banks and and and high net worth individuals like that and people are like, well, yeah, you have those contacts That's why you can do that. Dude. I'm a guy who lives in a mobile home in Pennsylvania and Right. I came from I came from nothing and I'm not touting that but I don't have any contacts I didn't know who these these people were but one thing that I always did and I didn't know I was doing it until I wrote my book unleash your offer and I was
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I was sort of, you know, recalculating my life and of dissecting what worked and what didn't work. And I noticed that one thing that I always did, that always bared massive fruit was I would show up for a person holy and fully. I had no preconceived notions, no cookie cutter solutions, and no perceived outcome of a specific solution, or I mean, of a specific outcome, right? I focused on the only thing that I can control. And that's my intention of adding value by solving problems.
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So I did that my whole life. I always ended up co-creating a solution that I personally never would have come up with on my own and they wouldn't have come up with on their own. we have There we have a solution that's tailored specifically to our two minds. And of course, it's ownership, isn't it? So when you own that solution and I own that solution, we do it together and it's much more fruitful and much more successful than it would be otherwise. And so I think that, you know, I can look at businesses here, there and the other, but I think the
Mindset in Financial Management
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most important thing that I've done was came up as is dissected my life and created a foundation from which I can always launch no matter what happens. So I have an operating system, which I know it's built on five models, which again, are in the book. And those five models is how or how I live. I didn't write the book and learn it. I took my life and dissected it in the book. Yeah. And so now anyone can take that book each chapter of stories and lessons.
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And stories and lessons from that story and then actual action steps how you can implement that in life So then when you're done with the book, you have the five models implemented in your life, which makes life much easier Right the system which you can launch the rest of your life and actually stay at that level is crazy That's awesome Two questions i'll get to The first one I want to start with though that you mentioned the amount of money that you work with transaction-wise That's a lot of money and I think When people scale in a business, I remember I was, I was talking with someone recently and they were like, I don't know if I'm meant to be a millionaire, uh, because like, I don't know if I can handle an amount of money at one time. And where I'm over here, like, give me that shit. Like I want to see that in my bank and I want to know what the nervous system feels. Um, because.
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I think people get dollar amounts and they get scared. like they They get nervous because they're nervous about losing it. They're nervous about ah yeah just like throwing it away in some regard. um How have you been able to take what you've taken and like work with these big deals and how has your nervous system like gotten used to it? I think proximity.
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Okay. Right. So proximity. So when people see a number, millionaire, they associate it to a picture. Okay. So situation, a picture that they've seen or they've heard. And if that's not them, then you feel uncomfortable. Of course. Well, put yourself in that picture. Like then go to that place at the apartment.
00:12:28
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Right. Get, go, go hang out with those people. I know it sounds cliche, but it's really true. Um, when, when you live in a place like I live in, like this place right here, like you're looking at, right? When you live in a place like this, feel good. Right. And when you're on a zoom call, when people come visit you, they're like, wow, this is a great place. I get, this is, this is how I want to live. And so when you're at this level, you're automatically thinking differently. Second one is putting yourself in businesses where the numbers are just astronomical. I've never thought of myself as a billionaire, never even considered it.
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And then recently in December, we were looking at a company to fund, which we ended up funding, which is a couple hundred million dollar company. And they're going to, they're going to easily ah exit for 3 to 4 billion. We have equity in that company. Suddenly, because I was in that proximity, millions looked like nothing.
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Right. And the billions were like, well, shit, I can be a billionaire. That's not going to be difficult. And then I look at the the water plant we have in New Zealand and things like that. And you think like, man, I'm just some dude from Pennsylvania, right? And I'm literally, I would say effortlessly almost ah amassing the sort of connections of ah people, ah businesses, wealth and money that without actually, let's say, building a business.
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Yeah, right. I have a business, but that business is connecting people, architecting a deal and profiting from that. Mm hmm. Whether it be upfront fees, you know, advisory fees, success fees, or, you know, equity. It just, it just when you put yourself in that proximity, and you talk to these numbers all the time, then become smaller. And I remember, I remember thinking when I had 5K in my bank, I'm like, man, I'm doing good. You know,
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And you're like, man, i I don't want to spend too much. Now, when you got, you know, like a million in your bank or whatever, you're like, man, I need to top it up. You know what I mean? Like I need to stop getting low. You know what I mean? Like, yeah, just that grows too. So, you know, and what I've learned is when you hang on to it, what what your resist will persist, obviously. So when, when, what when you hang on to it and you don't want to invest it and spend it and freely, because, you know, money's a conduit. I know I hated when people talk like this.
Masculinity and Authentic Relationships
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But you're a conduit for money and energy, right? And money is what it is, right? And so when when you're hanging on ah don't want to, spend my wife always tells me, look, I know you're worried about money right now, or you don't want to spend because of that, but every time I tell you to spend money, more comes. I'm like, okay, what do you want? She'll tell me, and I'll be damned. If within a week or two more money comes, it's like every time. And so sometimes it takes a second person that understands Let's say the energy part or the action part where they might not understand the financial part or the business part, but they understand that to work together as a team. And of course, when you have a woman in your life, like my wife Olga, it was from Ukraine, who supports you and pushes you and sees in you maybe sometimes what you don't see in yourself. That also, um look, the true masculine only can emerge, in my opinion, with the true feminine beside you.
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And it can only emerge with the true masculine beside them. I mean true and masculine isn't a Tattoo long beard. I'm a tough guy. Let me kick your ass. Like you see every fucking podcaster out there. Excuse my French No, you're right freaking tough guy out there, you know like all military guys I'm a military guy like you gotta to get up at 4 o'clock in the morning and kill the enemy before they get up before you That's not masculinity that's providing right and here's a trick women right A lot of women mistake that bravado masculinity. The bad boy. The bad but leather jacket, the motorcycle, the tattoos, all that kind of stuff. And they get into these toxic relationships and call these men toxic masculine. But they're not. They're toxic bravados. They're toxic egos. It has nothing to do with masculinity. Masculinity is an internal force. It's an internal energy. It's not an external energy. It's the yin and the yang with the feminine. We have feminine in us.
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Men women have masculine in them too. Yeah. So that balance, I would call it more integration than balance, but that, that integration that we have with the feminine, which is the vulnerable side, the holistic side of who we are. Banked together with the masculine, which is the action oriented, find a solution side. When you can find that integration, man, you are unstoppable. But again, that's where humble alpha comes from humble on the outside, alpha on the inside.
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right that you I call it your nuclear power plant right here. like that's That's the masculinity or the femininity. And people feel like, you know, I don't have to sit there and say, I'm tough, I can kick your ass, I was on a battlefield, I shot people, and I have to kill everybody I see because otherwise I'm not a man. I don't have to say that. You can see that. You can see that in me when I'm talking, that I have zero fear of anything in front of me. Zero or behind me, doesn't matter. But I don't have to say that.
00:17:19
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You see it in my certainty, in who I am as a person, my identity. If you ask anybody right now, who are you? They're going to say, I'm the CEO. No, that's what you do. Oh, I'm a father. Nope. That's what you do. Right. Um, I'm a brother. Nope. That's who you are. That's not your identity. What is your identity? Most people can't tell you. And that's a big problem. A lot of people, um, get into, let's say the military mind when you get out of the military, your identity, I'm a soldier. It took me years.
00:17:48
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yeah to get rid of that identity. I still have it in me. It's part of me. It's formed who I am, but it's not who I am. Yeah. Knowing your identity is a key factor and and knowing your identity being certain in who you are and carrying that certainty forward and having that certainty in your abilities to deploy your genius in any given situation is the most powerful thing that you can do in your life.
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man on fire. Yeah, I 100% agree. ah You know, i've I've actually talked about it a lot with false bravado and and a lot of these guys that have big platforms and how they present themselves and ah they attract the insecure men and being a vulnerable man is I had a shaman once tell me it's not the easiest path to choose, but when you do align with it fully, the amount of people that want to work with you is, I mean, it's 10 times greater. Here's the trick though. Being vulnerable from a place of power. Yeah. Most men are vulnerable from a place of weakness. Yeah. I feel like a victim. They talk about their horrible childhood, you know, and I, you know, that kind of, that kind of stuff. When you come.
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vulnerable from a place of power, a woman, the feminine will melt at your feet. Yeah, my wife says to me the most powerful moments of our relationship is when I was most vulnerable. She tells me when I'm vulnerable, and I have tears in my eyes, and I'm telling her the truth that I'm coming out from a place of strength, she goes, I've never seen a more masculine man than in those moments. And my wife is beautiful, and smart, and clever, lived in eight countries, own personal, you know, own multiple businesses, does really, really well, doesn't need to talk garbage to me. Right? She's telling the absolute truth. And that's why we're like this. That's amazing. Like what's a having a partner in business and your romantic life? How's that? ah You have to find the rules. Now,
00:19:59
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You have to define the rules. What do you do and what do I do? Uh, she does certain things and I do certain things. She likes to cross over into my world and because she wants to learn and I get that I don't want to do what she does. So it doesn't bother me. Like, go ahead, go ahead and do it. Okay. Good for you. But whenever a apart for three years now, we don't, we've never been apart for more than maybe twice for 24 hours when I had to fly somewhere, but that was it. Maybe, maybe 48 hours in the last three years, we've been apart. We've been together the entire time since then. Okay. She'll run errands or whatever, but for an hour.
00:20:28
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And we're never, it's never enough because our minds work in ways in unison where she has an idea and I'll be like, Oh, we can take it here or she'll, I'll have an idea. Oh, we can take that here. And we're just always on this moving forward and our, our love life, our passion for each other is like, it's like the first day every day. It's like, I get up and I look over and go, Oh my God, that's my wife. I can't believe that's my wife.
00:20:54
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And I'm not even kidding. That's beautiful. And I made it a point to myself to, oh, whenever I think of, if I see her walking by and I think she looks good today, I'll tell her. If she's what she's wearing, her shoes or boots, whatever she's wearing, right? Whatever she's looking, whatever. Like sometimes when she's eating, I'll be like, I'm just looking at her and she goes, what are you so beautiful the way you eat. You know, it's so weird, but it's just the way it is. When you tell the truth like that, cause men think of this stuff all the time, but they never s say, Oh, I don't want my wife to get a big head. And you know, she thinks she's too sexy to like her and all that stuff. Believe me, every single day we go out this door, there's a guy looking at my own, every single day.
00:21:29
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Right? And they try. They really do. And um it takes a man who's 100% secure in himself not to let that bother him. That won't hurt, yeah. And I'm just telling you, it still bothers me sometimes. It's more out of the respect factor because if a man tries to talk to my wife in front of me, that's just disrespect, right? Yeah. And my wife hates conflict, so I have to be more ah negotiable, so to say, in those moments that it typically would be. Which also forces me into that, into the internal masculine, to show the force of being in force.
00:22:04
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You know what I'm saying? Like I said, punch them in the face, you have to exude that force and that power that they go, oh, okay. That's amazing. I'm sure there are a lot of men looking for that, that connection. Endless. Get help.
00:22:21
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They don't want to show that they need it. They don't want to talk openly about it. They all want it, but no one wants to do it before. They want to be the guy with the beard and the tattoos and the tough guy and the bald head and all this kind of shit, whatever they do. Right. I'm just so sick of it. I'm so sick of it. Yes. But you don't understand. I do understand. I had a gun in my mouth. My own one.
00:22:39
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And then one from a stepfather once I had a suicide attempt. I ended up in the hospital. I did all that shit. I know what it's like to hate yourself and to not feel like you're worthy. I know what that feels like, you know? And so yes, I've been there. Everyone's story is different. I'm not saying mine's like everybody else's. Everyone's story is different.
Personal Growth Through Fear
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But until you're ready to let go of what you think that you have to be and what the world says that you have to be and what your mom and your dad and every, every every other man with a big swing and Willie thinks that you have to do, right? You're not ready.
00:23:08
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If you can't break down and say Who am I man? Like what is my what am I about? What's my why am I even here? What is this about? If you can't do that, you won't find who you are. I promise you I worked with plant medicine for 17 years Trying to find out yeah, and the last clicker I'm not done yet, but the last kicker was my wife. It was the feminine Yep, it was a family. It's always the fan. And it wasn't what you think. It wasn't like she gave it to me. I had to tell I had this when when I met her, she was wearing like jeans and a t shirt. And I was like, man.
00:23:46
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Let me show her at a dress, right? So I buy all, I, I, I select and buy all of her clothes. We go shopping together. I select everything that she wears. Wow. That's pretty cool. I made her into this amazing one. She was always amazing, but she, none of her boyfriends ever told her or her ex-husband ever told her how beautiful she was, how smart she was, how clever she was. Never, never told her why. Cause they were insecure. They didn't want her to get too big because they were worried. And I had to force myself to say,
00:24:16
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If I tell her how beautiful she is, and I get her dressed the way that I think that she would should be dressed, everyone's gonna look at her. Are you ready for that, Steven? And I said to myself, hell no, I'm not ready. But I'm going to do it anyway, because it scares the shit out of me. So every time that I see something that would be good for her, if it scares me, I go in I'm talking full length. Hmm. So you let fear you kind of let fear drive you a little bit, like more to it. and Because I know that's what's going to make me grow. It's like a mental discomfort.
00:24:45
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Yeah, it's kind of like you're cold plunging, but it's like more like your brain like you're more like doing the discomforting things that your brain or your heart feel and you're like, all right, I'm gonna do it even more now. You know, that's that's really cool. It's a cool way to look at me. You know how much I love her when I look at her and she's open herself in the mirror after three years. And she's like, I can't believe this is me. You're fucking beautiful. That is a woman who's who's you know, in her 30s.
00:25:15
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late 30s who never knew that about herself wow man and man to show her how beautiful and smart and clever she is that's amazing and that man grew through that massively so it isn't like you're the man when you do this i do that it's not it's not always like that sometimes you have to let go of what that what scares the hell out of you because think about She knows she's powerful, she knows she's clever, she knows she's smart. Every man wants her that walks by, right? She could walk away right now anytime she wanted. And she didn't get all these men. But that's the whole point, isn't it? For me. you're
00:25:54
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Well, you're a balanced individual. you track balance You attract a balanced individual. Like, well, so she's comfortable sometimes. Yeah. Well, that's, and that's like, you can't just heal everything by yourself. Like, especially in business or relationships, like you got to make uncomfortable decisions in business.
Mutual Growth in Relationships
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You got to make a four or five figure investment. If you want to grow your money, you got to buy clothes that, you know, would make your wife look really good.
00:26:22
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It's going to make you uncomfortable with other men staring, but you're just going to have to do it because it triggers you and you got to fight through those triggers. And because it's good. Because it's a selfless act for her. Exactly. Love and sacrifice. You know how connected she is to me? She said, no man has ever made me feel like you like like you make me feel. Yeah. Like I massage her almost every night. Like I'm talking like for an hour or two. Like I love And I hated it before I've learned how to do a massage. I was I took massage Yeah, right. I hated it And in my previous marriages, I never did it but for her I wanted like I want to do it I think a lot of men and and women too when they're with the right person they'll do stuff that they're like never done before there's like they don't really they never really cared about or wanted to do like because it's um It's like a sacrifice of the ego
00:27:21
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because like you love this person so much. I love Cocker's ego. You nailed it there, man. second thanks and I love it. Perfect. That's exactly what it is.
Stephen's Coaching Philosophy
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um Awesome.
00:27:34
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Here's a great photo of my wife and I. That's so beautiful. All our viewers on YouTube. I hope you're seeing that. that's we we yeah We need more of that. um And I think what you're doing is is so powerful.
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and so ah It's very strong. I can feel that energy for sure. And it's really cool to to witness you. And it's really cool that you got to share your story today. And my last question, I would say to you before we time out here today, um what do you just like parting advice for I think this episode has been geared a lot towards men.
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yeah um This can be maybe universal for women too, but like, what are you, like, what is your last piece of advice to, you've created a life that you wanted to live. Like you have, and you're doing that. And it's really cool. It's really inspiring for me. And it's going to be inspiring for a lot of people. How, like, what do you, what do you, what is just that last piece of advice you want to give to someone to, to create the life that they want to live, that they're just, they're not doing it.
00:28:48
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I don't want to sound cliche. So I want to say something for real. And that's basically, you can never be happy with what you have. You can be fulfilled. You can be thankful, but he can't be happy. Like, Oh, I'm here. I made it. You know what I mean? Like, like you can be fulfilled. You can be grateful. You can be thankful and all that kind of stuff. And I am here, but I'm never happy.
00:29:06
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Because I know the potential that we have as humans we have as men we have as women It's endless and it's boundless and it's just you'll never get to the end of it So I'm gonna get as far as possible before before my days on this earth are over Yeah, and I want to see what I'm made out of and I go I pray every night And I say to God show me the best version of myself Show me the best version. and What's that mean? It means he's gonna put me in a position where I have to show that He's gonna give it to me Right, he's gonna put me in a position where I have to adapt to make now And so i've been doing that for you know, probably the last six or eight months and the world has changed For me. Yeah for sure complete That's amazing Thank you. Stephen. Um your book am Amazon and auto and audible. Okay. I'm uh
00:29:56
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All right, so it's the Unleash Your Humble Alpha. That's the title, right? Unleash Your Humble Alpha. It's on Amazon and Audible. I'll drop the link in my show notes for you you guys. Take a read of this book. Also, Ways to Find You. Yeah. Well, the best is email steven at humblealpha dot.com or on Instagram. It's say instagram's probably the easiest one. ah Steven Eugene Kuhn. You'll find me there at Facebook as well. I don't use it that much.
00:30:20
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Um, and you know, like I said, we help companies grow on scale, but I'm also a coach and I help most of my clients end up being coaching clients, um, who who own companies or entrepreneurs. And um I'm pretty rough when it comes to coaching, cause I want you to get to the point where you never thought you could get, I'm not here to, you know, babysit and sort of help you, you know, make a couple of dollars and feel better about yourself.
Reflections on Healthy Masculinity
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This is about breaking through into your truth, man. And it's just, it's something that.
00:30:50
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Too few do they have this standard, you know rubric of things that you need to do and oh now you're a man No bullshit. Let's go far far beyond that. Yeah Cool. All right, man Thank you so much for your time. Thank you so much for your, your grace and your knowledge and insight on healthy masculinity. This was probably one of my favorite conversations I've ever had on here just because I've been preaching healthy masculinity on the internet for a very long time.
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And it's just cool to see a guy like you with all your success preach the same thing. It's, it's
Conclusion and Gratitude
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very inspiring. And I think a lot of men are going to see this and feel a lot of impact. So thank you so much. Thank you very much. Much love to you. Have a great rest of your day, sir. Thank you. All right. And cut. All right, man. um Cool. Perfect. I'm going to get that edited everything squared away.
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And I'm gonna try to do like two weeks. Usually it doesn't take me super long, but you're kind of in the thick of it with some hypnotherapy sessions and stuff like that. So it's it's all good stuff. So putting time in to edit this.