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ARP 007 - Buhay Seaman with The Seafarer's Wife Diaries PH
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In today's episode, let's talk about the life of a seafarer couple with my friends who I know personally. What are the misconceptions of marrying a seafarer, the challenges of long-distance relationship and parenting, and how, by God's grace, a couple can get through the challenges.
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Transcript
Podcast Introduction
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Thank you for listening to Above Ruby's podcast, created by a mom for every mom and parents for that matter, embracing parenthood and sanity.
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Here to help you get by through weekly discussions on parenting, relationships, home, and faith as you juggle daily in life.
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Hello
Meet Mel and Lem
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once again.
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Kasama ko po ngayon ang admin ng The Seafarer's Wife Diaries.
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Hindi ko siya kilala.
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Joke lang.
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Kasama ko po ngayon ang admin ng page na The Seafarer's Wife Diaries.
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Kasama ang kanyang butihing may bahay.
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May bahay!
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Butihing asawa, si Mel at si Lem.
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Hello sa inyo, magandang araw, kamusta kayo?
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Hello, ano sa'yo?
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Hi, good evening everyone.
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Good evening ni Lene.
Love Story Beginnings
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Pwede bang ikwento niyo sa amin kung paano kayo ang inyong relasyon nagsimula?
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Dati na ba talagang seafarer or seaman si Lem?
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How did you start?
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We met with Lem.
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We met him.
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We met him.
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We met him.
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We met him.
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We met him.
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We met him.
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And, ayun, dahil sa basketball, at hindi pa siya nun siman, tapos nun, nag-garage siya, tapos mag-OOJT na siya dito sa Manila.
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Then naghanap siya ng church, wala siyang mapuntahan.
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So, naisip niya na yung pinsan niya may number ako, kinuha niya yun at nag-
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Text-text kami dalawa na magsimula siya.
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At doon nagsimula ang lahat.
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Dahil sa fellowship.
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At sa mga fellowship din sa church natin dito.
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Pero yung LDR niyo, simula pa lang ba?
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Long distance relationship na talaga kayo?
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Or nagkasama pa kayo ng mga ilang buwan together bago...
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Nakapag-bar ko si Lem.
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Nagkasama ka.
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Sa UGT niya, nag-UGT siya.
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Yung office na in-UGT niya is malapit lang sa school ko.
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So, ilang kanto lang yun.
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So, UGT siya.
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Hindi kami LDR.
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Nag-LDR kami nung nagkadete na talaga siya.
Trust and Faith in LDR
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Okay.
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Ilang taon kayong magka-relasyon noon bago siya umalis?
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One year lang yun.
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Tapos pag balik niya, nag-utis ako, nagkasalan na.
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Okay.
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Two years.
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Two years ka na nagka-relasyon.
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Tapos sumakay ako ng barko.
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One year.
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Tapos after nagpakasama.
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Mm-hmm.
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Ayan, pag-usapan natin yung LDR kasi hindi naman lingid sa kaalaman nyo.
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At sa kaalaman ko, na pareho tayong dumaan.
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Ako dumaan, kayo dumadaan pa rin sa long-distance relationship.
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Ang tanong ay, paano nyo na-maintain yung relasyon nyo kahit na magkalayo?
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At gaano kahirap ang LDR?
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Ikaw muna lang kasi ikaw yung muna.
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Kasi kaya muna.
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Una-una sa lahat, ah,
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Siyempre, magkatiwala natin sa ating Panginoon, yung ating asawa na naiwan.
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At pangalawa, kung may takot ka sa Panginoon, hindi mo talaga magagawa yung sinasabi nila na may mga babaeng umakit sa barko.
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May takot ka na gawin mo.
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Gawin mo yan sa asawa mo, papuhin mo.
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and trust the Lord, the God of God.
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I don't think that I'm going to die.
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I'm really going to die.
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So, trust me.
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At sa akin naman, ito lang itong galit sa akin.
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Kasi lang ito lang wala akong tiwala sa akin.
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Alam mo naman kung hindi ko kayo magawin yan.
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Sabi ko, in reality kasi, get vision ka or hindi, dumating ka talaga sa point na mawala talaga yung, magtiwala ako sa Kanya at pinagkatiwala ako ka, Lord.
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Pero we are in our human nature na sa ayaw natin at sa gusto, it's a normal na maramdaman natin yung feeling na talagang
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nagsiselos tayo nandun yung pag-alala nandun yung nawawalan yung tiwala natin.
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Mga what ifs.
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What if.
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Alam mo naman, tayo mga babae, weak tayo.
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Mahina tayo sa mga ganyan na emotionally.
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Nagdadrama na tayo.
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Tapos pag malaman natin na, nakita ako may picture-picture may babae ah.
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So, ayan, nagsisimula na, ganyan.
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Pero,
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We didn't have any information.
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prayer partner namin, dalawa.
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Yes.
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Mag-start yung conversation namin.
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Mag-e-end talaga yan.
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Sa pag nag-pray kami, dalawa.
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Tapos, lalo na pag nandito na siya, kasama ko siya, nag-devotion kami, tapos nag-pray ko sa mga anak namin.
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Tapos, alam mo yun, pag dating naman sa mga walang signal, doon ka din masusubukan.
Communication Challenges
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Ilang buwan, lahat pinakamata ka na nating ka signal.
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48 days.
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Wow.
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I mean 60 days.
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60 days?
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Yes.
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From Japan to China.
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From Canada to Japan.
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Oh, yun.
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Tapos.
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Napaka-challenging kung iisipin mo.
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Dalawang buwan kayo hindi nagkakausap.
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So, talagang hindi mo rin, hindi ka-excuse na mag-doubt ba?
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Alam mo yun?
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Eh, Christian ka.
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Mag-worry ka talaga.
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Sa ganyan.
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Parang hindi maiwasan sa tagal na yun.
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Umiiyak ako sa'yo, diba?
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Kasi alam mo yun.
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Hahaha.
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Biglang may mga problem talaga na may encounter ka while wala kayong signal.
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Tapos ako, hindi kasi ako pala open sa iba.
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You know naman, sa'yo lang talaga ako nag-open.
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Tapos minsan, hindi pa ako mag-open pag hindi tayo personal.
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Diba?
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True.
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Kaya sabi ko, parang ang hirapin kasi na mag-open ka sa iba na
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Yeah.
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Yes, yes.
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Signal, yes.
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Signal.
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Oo.
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Ano ba yun?
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Ayan.
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Tapos, alam mo yung, ano, ako kasi, pagdating sa ganyang sitwasyon, pagdating niya na may signal na kami dalawa, wala akong pa kemi-kemi, problema o masaya or whatever sinasabi ko yan sa kanya.
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Alam pa kaya, alam, at least magawasan man yung
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Yes, because there is a husband who has a woman who has advised me, she said, if you're a hard person, you're a pain.
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Then when you sign up, you say, you don't want to stay in your body.
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monthly, so that's why I didn't say anything to her.
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She had a discussion, but after that, she didn't say anything.
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So, that's why I was helping her.
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She was always away, but when you love her, you need to be able to
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yung nag-a-appoy, talagang ito mismo papatay sa apoy eh, para maging ano, eh, ang taas ng pride ko kaya, malbitang-malbitang ako eh, eh, siya lang din ang nakaka-control sa akin.
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Yes, she is.
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Kasi, yan yung ano eh, ikaw yung target ng kalaban eh.
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So, hindi man niya makuha yung kaligtasan mo, pero yung joy ng salvation mo, mawawala talaga dahil nagkakasala ka.
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And also, hindi lang sa mga seaman ha, pati sa kanilang mga asawa na naiman dito.
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Totoo yan.
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Totoo yan.
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Yun nga ang sabi, hindi na daw si Man yung niloloko.
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It's two way na ngayon.
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Kung sino yung medyo marupok, yun talaga actually yung natatamaan.
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Kaya na iintindihan ko.
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Tsaka kahit pa tayo naiwan, di ba?
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Yes, naranasan mo yan.
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Kahit na alam mo sa sarili mo na wala ka talagang ginagawang masama.
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Hindi mo rin siya masisisi kung talagang magsiselo siya, magtatanong sinong kasama mo si Manganyan.
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Kasi
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Hindi lang ng C-man, pati lahat kahit C-man, OFW.
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Na magkalayo.
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Ayan, merong mga sinasabing, ano yan, may, merong misconception about C-man eh.
Seafarers' Wealth and Finances
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When it comes to finances, parang iniisip ng marami na pag C-man ka, mayaman ka.
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So, siguro natin yan, i-break natin yung
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misconception na yan at linawi natin sa kanila na tao lang din tayo at may binabudget.
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Anong masasabi nyo pagdating sa pinansyal?
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Nahihirapan ba kayo sa pagbabudget?
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Paano nyo inaayos yan?
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Ang magandang magsagot niyan ang aking maharas, dad.
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Oh, sige daw, go.
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Okay.
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Sabi nga nila na malaki daw ang sahot sa siman.
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Actually,
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Medyo, okay naman.
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Different siya talaga siya dito sa lupa.
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At saka, yun nga, may iba na hindi mga control.
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Panaylabas, panaygasto.
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Minsan yung iba, ginagamit nila yung pagkasiman.
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Pero, nasa tao lang kung paano mo i-
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Manage.
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Manage yung pera mo na kinikita mo.
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Lalong-lalo na sa barko na minsan hindi may iwasan.
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Marami talagang temptation na nalong na sa puerto na labas ka.
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Yung iba naman gusto talagang mag-ipon dahil may mga plano.
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Actually sa mga nakasama ko,
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More ipon talaga sila ngayon.
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Marami silang plano sa buhay nila.
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Marami din plano sila sa pamilya nila.
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Marami din ako natutunan na mag-ipon talaga.
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Hindi masyadong magasto.
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Sabi nila na mas masaya bumili na kasama ang pamilya mo kaysa kasama yung katrabaho mo.
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That's a good motto.
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Let's go to the page.
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If you come to the Philippines, you're with your family, you'll be happy to be with your family.
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If you're with your budget, you'll be here in the Philippines.
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You'll be happy to be with your family.
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I remember just when I came out, I said, I buy something that I want to be for myself, for myself, for myself.
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I eat something that I want to eat.
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I answer it to me.
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I put it on the tent that I can't wait for you.
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I'm like, I'm a child.
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I'm a child.
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But it's sweet.
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But it depends on the way.
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It's on the way.
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And others, they have to be a vision.
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What is your vision?
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That's what you're doing.
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What is your vision?
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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That's what your vision is.
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But actually, they're not hard to get on board.
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They're hard to leave the budget.
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When we started, we were two of them who were paying for money before we paid for money.
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I told them that I was a liar and I told them that
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I don't have a life that when you have a boat, the whole contract is on our own, we have a mortgage.
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And then we have a budget for you to stay in the training, for what we have to do here in the house.
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And then when you have a contract, we will have cash advance.
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And then the cash advance that's done,
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Ma-pay off.
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Yung recycle na yun, parang sumpa, nabutulin namin.
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Kasi ayaw ko din na manahin yun ng mga anak ko na daro yung buhay.
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So thankfully, talagang salamat talaga kami kay George na natupad yung plan namin.
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Tinagpari talaga namin yun.
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As in, at akong matipid mo na ako, nung nakilala ko na siya, ito,
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Hindi ito siya matipid no una eh.
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Siyempre, nai-tibiyan ko din no una kasi laki din sa hirap.
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Parang sabi niya na.
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Oo, parang na, ano do siya, marad na.
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Nabigla sa sahod.
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Nabigla sa sahod ba?
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Yeah.
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Oo.
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Pero parang, kayaan na kasi ba?
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Nagsigap naman siya eh.
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Pero pag may pamilya ka, dapat iba na yung mindset.
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So, as in ngayon,
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Ngayon, ngayon, mga pagbaba niya, siya yung pinabudget ko para alam niya.
00:16:29
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Kaya ngayon, ano na ako?
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Hindi ako na-stress.
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Siya yung na-stress kasi ang daming envelopes.
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Yes, yes, yes.
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Tagbow, tagbow.
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Tagbow, o eh.
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Pero, God will provide naman talaga.
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At saka proven and tested kung baano si God na provide sa mga pangailangan namin at
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I just want to tell you to hear people
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I was a kid in the way that we didn't have a chance to do it.
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Yes.
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We didn't start with it.
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We didn't start with it.
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We didn't start with it.
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We didn't start with it.
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We didn't start with it.
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We didn't start with it.
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We didn't start with it.
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Babawi kami.
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Masaya din naman tayo, no?
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Nakakapag-devotion tayo together, o diba?
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Masaya ka lang yun.
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Time yun.
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Nakakatawa din.
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Nakakapiss actually.
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Sabay iyak.
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Sabay iyak.
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Sabay iyak.
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Gustong ka-amen.
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Oh, ang sarap pa actually magluto ni, ano nun?
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Ni Lem.
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Ni Lem.
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Ayan.
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Yun, masaya din yan.
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Experience na yun.
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Nakakamiss din talaga.
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Ngayon, hindi tayo magkakasami.
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Pero, ano lang yun.
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Ginamit din kami ni Lord.
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Okay, so...
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Magpahirap sa... Magbabaya talaga.
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Tama din naman kasi yung pera kasi na kinikita ng husband natin, pinaghirapan niya di.
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At saka naranasan din natin na kasi nga matulongin tayo, madali tayong maawa, nagpapahirapan tayo.
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Tapos alam mo yung sa kailangan muna siya, ikaw pa yung pinapahirapan.
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Parang...
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Maybe we'll be able to do it.
Parenting Challenges
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Maliban dyan, isa sa challenge din ang mag-asawang seaman o asawa ng seafarer, yung pagpapalaki ng anak, parenting.
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Ngayon, paano nyo ginagawa yan na sa mga panahon na nasa barko, syempre yung mama lang yung nag-aasikaso sa bata, nag-disciplina, tapos pag uwi, ibang klaseng parenting din kasi magkaiba naman talaga tayo ng parenting style, tayong mag-asawa.
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Yes.
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One, two years old for love, no?
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Four.
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Nag-adjust kami dalawa niyan sa paglating sa discipline.
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Kasi pag nandito, wala yung isang.
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Siyempre, maging firm ka sa discipline mo.
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Ipag nandito yung partner mo, siyempre, minsan niya lang makasama yung anak niya.
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Sinabi niya nga sa akin,
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Ah, ah.
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Ah.
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Ah.
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Ah.
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Kaya niya, huwag niyo lang paluin.
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Pero ngayon, iba na.
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Kasi, iba nung maliit pa eh.
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Ngayon, na malaki na may bait na yung anak namin.
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Hindi na pwede yung ganun.
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Kaya ngayon, pinag-usapan namin yung, actually, nung last night ng lablan, ay nung isang araw lang, nag-usap kami.
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Na pagdating sa recipient, wala yung laban na eh.
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Sarap na anak.
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Sarap na anak.
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Oo.
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Yung,
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So, so far...
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No, I was really nervous because I knew my son was too much.
00:21:41
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I was like, I was like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I
00:22:05
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So far...
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Wala namang kaming problema na ngayon.
00:22:36
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Nakaka-adjusted ka pa rin.
00:22:38
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Malayo siya or malapit.
00:22:39
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Nice.
00:22:41
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Congratulations.
Future Plans for Togetherness
00:22:43
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Ano ang long-term plan nyo pagdating sa ganitong sitwasyon sa LDR?
00:22:49
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Kasi parang nabanggit nyo na temporary lang to.
00:22:53
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Meron ba kayong like...
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long-term goals, kung kailan, ilang taon lang ba siya, or kailan mag-i-stop, ganyan.
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Kasi, syempre, hindi naman forever na si Man, hindi naman forever magkakalayo.
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Anong meron ba kayong ma-share sa part na yan?
00:23:09
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Yes, meron.
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Kali, napag-usapan talaga namin mag-asawa na ayaw namin sa ganito ng sitwasyon na hindi namin ma-enjoy yung isa't isa pagsama na malayo.
00:23:28
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Ayan.
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You're together with your family, you're too far.
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You're too far.
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You're too far.
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You're too far.
00:23:55
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Actually, before we talk about it, I said to her, I said, I don't know if you don't have a boat because you don't have a boat or you're sick.
00:24:14
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It's better to stay in the middle of the day, so you can't stay in the middle of the day.
00:24:17
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And I said, we need to spend a lot of money, to have a good house, to have a good house.
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Because we need to invest in heaven, not to have a good house.
00:24:39
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At saka, magkaroon tayo ng sarili nating na buhay dito.
00:24:43
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Okay na yun.
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At saka, mamatay din sa buhay.
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May natin yan magdala sa lakit.
00:24:48
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Amen.
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Ipag-pray natin yan kung kailanman yan.
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Alam natin kung kailan yan ibibigay sa inyo ni Lord.
00:24:53
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Kasi mahirap din kami nga na-compromise yung malaking kawalan din sa amin ni Dane na isa na lang sa amin ulit ngayon ang sumasahod.
00:25:03
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Mahirap din.
00:25:04
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Pero yun nga, kasi hindi din ano, yun nga kagaya ng sabi nyo,
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peace of mind na kasama mo yung pamilya mo.
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Hindi rin talaga matara.
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So let's pray for that.
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May sarili tayong plano, pero si Lord may best plan din siya sa buhay natin kaya hindi na din natin masasabi kung ano yun talaga yung plano niya.
00:25:29
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Ayan.
00:25:30
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That's good.
00:25:31
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Congratulations in advance.
00:25:33
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At kami na inyong mga kaibigan ay
00:25:37
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Masaya pagdating ng araw na
Advice for Seafarers
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yan.
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Na magkasama na tayong maliligaw ng dagat.
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Yun pala yung gusto.
00:25:47
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Ayun.
00:25:48
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Tapos mag-basketball kayo, bahala kayo dyan.
00:25:50
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Wala akong may pakailang.
00:25:55
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Meron ba kayong mga advice sa mga seaman?
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may girlfriend or asawang seaman, may manliligaw na seaman, anong mga expectation or advice ang may bibigay niyo sa kanila?
00:26:12
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Sa seaman, siguro marami na ngayon na yung mga babae ay nagahabog sa seaman, pero ka-advise ko lang sa mga babae na dapat bago niyo
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Amen.
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Amen.
00:26:50
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Allotment, guys.
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Yes, kaya mapunta talaga sa asawang allotment, hindi sa parents.
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Kaya mga babae, kilalanin nyo muna yung seaman bago nyo i-relasyon.
00:27:03
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Yun lang at yun ang pinakamagandang way.
00:27:11
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Sa akin naman, siguro ipag-brain na.
00:27:15
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Thank you.
00:27:36
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It's not all money when it comes to a husband.
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It's all about responsibility and your unconditional love to your husband.
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Kasi kailangan mo siyang matanggap kung ano siya.
00:27:55
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Kasi nagbabago eh ang panahon.
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Nagbabago din ang tao.
00:28:00
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Siyempre, maging mo ready ka doon.
00:28:04
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And for those who don't have a husband, or for the children, and you have to accept if ever you have a husband, you can forgive him.
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You can give him a second chance.
00:28:16
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I don't know if it's painful, but there are many wives who have a second chance.
00:28:33
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At saka doon sila natututo.
00:28:36
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Yun lang naman.
00:28:37
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Pero ano na yun?
00:28:39
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Bihira na yun sa siguro sa ibang na gano'n.
00:28:45
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Pero gano'n talaga eh.
00:28:49
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Kasi reality, di ba?
00:28:51
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Reality man yung pinag-usapan natin dito.
00:28:54
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Ganon talaga.
00:28:57
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And ipag-prime muna ha.
00:28:59
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Tapos...
00:29:00
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I don't want money.
00:29:11
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Paano pag nahulog sa barko na kumatosura na makalala sa kanya?
00:29:15
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Ah, totoo yan.
00:29:17
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Talagang love dapat.
00:29:19
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Love dapat.
00:29:19
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Hindi lang money.
00:29:22
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Kakatuwa naman.
00:29:23
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Salamat sa oras nyo ngayon kasi talagang nagbigay kayo ng oras para sa akin kahit na dapat ispend nyo na lang sana to.
00:29:31
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Pero pinagbigyan nyo pa rin ako.
00:29:33
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Thank you.
00:29:34
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At
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prayer ko ay tayong mga couple friends mag-asawang Christiano patuloy tayong gamitin ni Lord sa kung anumang ministry yung binigay niya sa atin magkalayo na tayo ngayon hindi na tayo magkasama LDR na rin tayo LDR na rin tayo
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So I pray that kung ano yung mga plano ni Lord sa atin, yun ang matupad, yun ang masunod.
Closing Remarks
00:30:04
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Any last words?
00:30:06
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Ah, tell them about your page para sa mga nakarinig dito na kailangan ng support group na asawa ng seaman or kaya mga ganon, mga seaman.
00:30:22
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Kasi may seaman na rin nagpa-follow sa inyo, sa inyo.
00:30:26
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I can just say to our followers on our page, thank you for your support.
00:30:35
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And you're here.
00:30:39
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We also gave advice to our first wives who are giving advice, comfort.
00:30:47
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The others really gave a message that they were in the comfort zone of our page.
00:30:54
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Stay strong and...
00:31:20
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No matter what happened, we take one day to ask us.
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We're going to do our best for our husband.
00:31:26
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We're going to be a husband.
00:31:30
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So, thank you so much for watching.
00:31:31
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Thank you so much for listening to all of you who are listening to today.
00:31:34
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I'm going to inspire you to tell you about Mel and Lem, my personal friends of my life about their life and their struggles.
00:31:43
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And my struggles that they've been doing with a seaman and a seaman.
00:31:50
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Hope you enjoyed today's episode.
00:31:51
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00:32:02
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Today's Bible reading is from 1 Peter 3, verse 7.
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Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life so that nothing will hinder your prayers.