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ARP 017 - A Glimpse of Our Lives as Pastor's Kids
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Those who personally know me know that I am I Pastor and a Biblewoman’s daughter. And I think this is the perfect opportunity for you to see the thing no one almost even talks about: The life of a pastor’s kid. Being a pastor’s kid isn’t a guarantee that you are saved or that your life is going to get perfect. We, like ordinary people, are also subject to judgments, ridicule, and mistakes.
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Introduction and Purpose
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You can handle well in a church or in a congregation.
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Those who personally know me know that I am a pastor and a Bible woman's daughter. Being a pastor's kid has its own ups and downs. And I think this is the perfect opportunity for you to see the thing no one almost even talked about, the life of a pastor's kid. In this episode of Above Ruby's podcast, we will give you a glimpse of a life of being a pastor's kid.
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We will be talking about what it is to be actively involved in the ministry, and we'll also be talking about the challenges we experienced along the way as preacher's kids.
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Thank you for listening above Ruby's podcast, created by a mom for every mom and parents for that matter, embracing parenthood and sanity. Here to help you get by through weekly discussions and parenting, relationships, home and faith as you juggle daily in life.
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Welcome back to Above Ruby's podcast, where we talk about faith, working from home, parenting, relationship, and sanity.
Meet the Pastor's Kids
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I am your host, Lynn, and with me are my fellow pastor's kids, my sister, Chin Chin. Hi, guys. My sister from another mother, Agnes. Hi, everyone. And my husband, Daniel. Hello. Thank you so much, guys, for your time. We're here, and we are going to share about our lives as pastor's kids.
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We don't want to get very too sentimental. Yes, I am excited to talk to you this afternoon. First is, who are you and give everyone a background of your life as a pastor's kid? Let's start with the only rose among the thorn.
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Hi, I'm Agnes, and I'm a nurse. I'm a second child now. I'm a pastor, but I'm not a nurse.
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Life growing up as a pastor's kid is joyful. That's why I wanted to be one. That's another future pastor's kid.
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So hello everyone once again.
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My name is Pastor and Mrs. Elena Cartagena and my name is Nilo Cartagena. So, life now has changed. As I grow up as a mother, I remember that my mother is from the transfer schools. So, since elementary days, my parents and my sister are talking about church planting. So, in elementary school, almost seven schools have changed.
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At one point in my life, I understood the importance of it and the joy of being in the ministry. So, yes, I am here also in Asia Bay, but I am right now with my
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husband and son, support support and learning as well.
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Okay, second question is, what do you love about being a pastor's kid?
Joys and Pressures of Pastor's Kids
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What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid? What do you love about being a pastor's kid?
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When I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship, when I was in my fellowship,
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One of my favorite parts is to travel a little bit. So, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I've been there before. I've been here before. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
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As a pastor's kid, did you ever feel pressured?
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yes yes i feel pressured as you grow they put standard by the way you live
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You're accountable with your actions. You're accountable with your actions. You're accountable with your actions. You're accountable with your actions.
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I don't know how to say it, but I don't know. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it.
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I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing?
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That's it for today, I'll see you in the next video.
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
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So, in regards to that, let's talk about the elephant in the room. I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu, but I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu, I'm not a Hindu,
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And this is not to put a bad name on the pastor sites.
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They expect the pastor's kids to be perfect and when they make mistakes they will take it against the pastors.
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know.
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But I think it's a real opinion. I think it's a real opinion. I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion.
Balancing Family and Ministry
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But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion. But I think it's a real opinion.
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I can't have two of them. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of them are in general. But I don't know how many of
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We have a relationship, we have a family, we have control, we have discipline, we have ministry, we have a family. We don't have a pastor, we don't have one.
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We don't have the right to say something about the past. We don't have the right to say something about the past. We don't have the right to say something about the past. We don't have the right to say something about the past. We don't have the right to say something about the past. We don't have the right to say something about the past. We don't have the right to say something about it.
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It requires time for us, an effort to
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But it's not a good thing. It's not a good thing, it's not a good thing. So, my tendency is that I don't want to be present. I don't want to be present. I don't want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be present. I want to be
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I think that's why I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so happy that you're here. I'm so happy that you're here.
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That adds to it. So, I found happiness in friends and then less peer pressure. One time now.
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Coming up next, we will talk about ministry burnout. Don't go away, we'll be back after the break.
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And next question is, have you ever felt you were of less priority over church and ministry?
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It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad. It's not that bad.
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I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
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Hi, Nani. I'm saying shout out to everyone. What's your name? Nani Hiramun. My name is Harana. My birthday is for you. My practice is for you. My special number is for you. My name is Endino. My hair is for you. My hair is for you. My hair is for you. My hair is for you. My hair is for you. My hair is for you. My hair is for you.
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So...
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But sometimes, I don't know how to express it, I don't know how to express it, I don't know how to express it, I don't know how to express it, I don't know how to express it, I don't know how to express it, I don't know how to express it.
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I'm not a minister, I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
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When I was in the field, I was very happy. When I was in the field, there were many fellowships, ministries, biostatists involved. So, at a young age, I was very happy. My father and my mother, it was my life. It was my life. It was my own life.
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know.
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I have an impact on my time as a teenager, since I was a sister. When I was a teenager in college, I was a pastor in the Indian Peninsula. I had a lot of experience with it. So I had a lot of experience with it.
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I know he chose to work, but I know he will be in the summer full-time. I know he wants a church coming, coming to play. So, growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up growing up
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
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But India is not involved in any of this. We are not involved in any of this. We are not involved in any of this. We are not involved in any of this. We are not involved in any of this. We are not involved in any of this. We are not involved in any of this.
Managing Ministry Burnout
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And speaking of that, let's talk about ministry burnout. Have you ever experienced that? I love you.
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With my next experience, I would like to say, I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
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It becomes your pet scene. Yes. What happens is... You have to do this. You keep on singing.
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You wanted to stop. So, it's a burnout.
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Yeah, I keep on singing. I keep on singing then.
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So, the only way out is to really grow close. You know, relationships, you know, you don't have to have a relationship. You don't have to have a relationship. You don't have to have a relationship. You don't have to have a relationship. You don't have to have a relationship. You don't have to have a relationship. You don't have to have a relationship. You don't have to have a relationship.
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Thank you so much for watching. I will see you on the next podcast.
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You know, it's not in your heart, it's not in the ministry. I have a motive for why you are there. You have to have a long schedule, a long time, and a responsibility. But it's your love for the Lord.
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It's a ministry. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying. You cannot look into their eyes when you're lying.
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Everybody knows that I was singing in the Philippines. I'm involved. Oh, I'm involved. I'm a singer. At that time, I was singing. I was singing, yes. I was singing, yes. In our case, I don't want to. I don't want to.
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like sugar coat or whatever, no. We were sinning before we got married. It's not a happy situation to be in. I say, you grow up, you grow up.
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God's grace is always greater than our sins. After non, we thank the Lord no opportunity. Now we can still turn back to Him. And then now it's burned out. I have a different kind of burnout right now. So it's like you're trying to juggle a lot of things at the same time.
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a week and we can learn to go available, because if this is a trip, it will be more than actually in the end of the pandemic, in the end of the pandemic. And I think it's important to know that in India, there is a lot of family time coming to the law.
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And we think that family is also very important. And you cannot, like... That's the kind of burnout that I am experiencing right now. And the uponaman, but burnout.
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I don't know how to do it, but I think it's a very sensitive problem. Before I had a problem, I didn't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it.
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We ask, sorry, high lords.
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I think it's a good idea to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able
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Sayon. I know. So, I have a secret to learn a little bit. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
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That's why it's called unmerited favor. This is a parenting related question.
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Yeah. Yes. Yes. I don't know if I have a contact with them. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:25:40
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Is there supposed to be a difference between being a pastor and being a parent?
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Of course, my biblical way to correct people. So Indian avoiding mixed in means I'm going to see some past or not, but I'm going to problem as a ministry. Now that they're not going to be able to not know enough. So I don't really need to release a ministry. I'm getting upset. No, no, no, no.
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I don't know how many times I've been there. I don't know how many times I've been there. I don't know how many times I've been there. I don't know how many times I've been there. I don't know how many times I've been there. I don't know how many times I've been there. I don't know how many times I've been there. I don't know how many times I've been there.
Individuality vs Church Expectations
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I love you, of course. I love you too. I love you too. I love you too. I love you too. I love you too. I love you too. I love you too. I love you too.
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I don't know how many times I've been there.
00:27:02
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Yeah, I agree then. I don't know if you guessed that story, James. Although they're not parents.
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They set the expectations during this day. It's something that the pastor should try to do. You spend it with your family.
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I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels left out. And although, praise God, they found comfort with other peers.
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That's the danger there. So I think there should be a distinction between being a pastor and being a parent at the same time too. I mean, pastors should also be very careful with how they treat their kids so public. You see, sometimes.
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You can handle well in a church or in a congregation.
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And what happens is Minsan, it's either...
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I don't want to encourage my pastor to be with my family. I want to have a time with the ministry and family. I want to have a family experience. Many times, I want to have a time with my family.
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When I was in India, I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India. But I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India. I didn't know that I was in India.
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Last question. What keeps you busy now and what's your advice to your fellow pastor's kids?
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Work, study, and ministry. I'm busy. I have a lot of advice for my fellow pastors and kids. I'm going to tell them that early birth is not in vain.
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Because you are evil.
00:31:10
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What keeps me busy now? Don't forget about the Bible school. This is my dream. I don't want to be a pastor, but I don't want to be a pastor. I don't want to be a teacher. I mean, somehow.
00:31:29
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I think it's important to have a child who is a missionary. I think it's important to have a child who doesn't want to be a missionary. I think it's important to have a child who doesn't want to be a missionary. It's important to have a child who doesn't want to be a missionary. It's important to have a child who doesn't want to be a missionary.
00:31:54
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wedding preparations, right? I don't know how to say it. Okay, it seems a bit of a struggle. Search for ideas. And then, I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea.
00:32:20
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And my advice for you is to prepare long ends of the future. We are just planning ahead. So that makes me busy. And my advice for you is to slap soil.
00:33:02
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I don't know how long it will take for me to win. I don't know how long it will take. I don't know how long it will take for me to win. I don't know how long it will take for me to win. I don't know how long it will take. I don't know how long it will take for me to win. I don't know how long it will take.
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Just go on. Go on with your life.
00:33:42
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It's wonderful privilege.
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You've got to learn God's Word at a young age. For us to learn, we have to learn something new. We have to learn the pressure.
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:34:34
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Expectations. Expectations.
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What makes me cry all the time?
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is the Lord and the people who are serving him. So shout out to my papa. I love you and see you soon. And I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud that you are my father.
00:35:28
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And...
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I don't know how to say it, but I don't know. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:36:24
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:36:49
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It's important to keep your father and mother in the same place that you are in the same place that you are in the same place that you are in the same place that you are in the same place that you are in the same place that you are in the same place that you are in the same place that you are in.
00:37:11
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When I was a kid, I was able to play in the past. I was in the 20s, early 20s. When I was a kid, I played in the school. When I was a kid, I was able to play in the past.
00:37:26
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I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:37:44
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So, I'm going to do this again. I'm going to say that I'm a fan. So, I'm going to do a shout-out. I'm not going to do a visit, but I'm going to do a lot of work. I'm going to do a foundation. I'm going to do a great job. But I'm going to do a shower. I'm going to do a shower. I'm going to do a shower.
00:38:11
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
Advice for Pastor's Kids
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:38:48
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What keeps me busy is work, of course. It's a decision that Dana and I decided before we step into him enrolling in AGBI. It's a mutual decision. During this time,
00:38:54
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I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:39:07
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It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work. It's a long time to work.
00:39:36
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and then my advice to password skates is
00:39:55
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And while I'm already here now, I would also like to remind the members of the church now, please, let's not be too hard on the pastor's kids. Let's be considerate. Yes, please.
00:40:07
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Yeah, I'm not speaking for myself, but this is for the younger and the younger pastor's kids. They can be very talented and skilled, but if they say no to a certain ministry,
00:40:24
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Let's not take it against them. And thank you everyone for listening and for your time today. Thank you so much, Agnes. Thank you. Thank you guys. Thank you for having me here. Yes. Thank you, Santa. I'm in Kappu Lutankayo. And this is the reality of being a pastor's kid. It's not perfect. And yes. And we are living by the grace of God. Grace like everyone else. Yes.
00:40:53
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Thank you and I hope that you all have a wonderful day. Goodbye. Bye. God bless. And that's a wrap.
00:41:14
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I am so glad I got the chance to talk and sit down with these fellow pastors' kids about our lives and experiences as one, and I hope that you learn from our mistakes and are encouraged by our joys in the ministry. Being a pastor's kid isn't a guarantee that you are saved or that your life is going to be perfect.
00:41:33
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We, like ordinary people, are also subject to judgments, ridicule, and mistakes. If there's one takeaway from this podcast, it's the fact that we're still in the ministry not because of our own efforts, but because of God's grace alone. To God be all the glory and honor.
00:41:55
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00:42:25
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Today's Bible reading is found in 2 Timothy 2, verse 15. Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.