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Bonus: Brilliant Baltimore Live - Smalltimore Homes with Quida Chancey
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Today we visited with Quida Chancey live at Brilliant Baltimore
Here's some background on Quida and her organization:
LaQuida Chancey was born in Manhattan and moved to Baltimore as a child, raised in Baltimore County with her parents and 2 younger sisters. LaQuida graduated from Western Tech in Catonsville and after high school attended Spelman College in Atlanta, GA. She graduated in 2004, with a B.S. in Computer Science and mathematics minor and moved back to Baltimore in 2006 and purchased a home in East Baltimore in 2009.
In 2014, she begin investing in the Baltimore Real Estate Market and Xavier Estates, LLC was formed. As a developer who focuses on affordability and first time home buyers, it didn't seem to be enough to make an impact just focusing on those two things. Her desire was to get into the business of RE to create more black homeowners, and that really wasn't happening as quickly or as easily as planned.
Admittedly, she is obsessed with tiny homes and designed a few with affordable housing in mind because by definition they can be an affordable housing solution. Throughout the years, she has always volunteered with organizations that focused on homelessness advocacy like United Way, #HashtagLunchBag Baltimore ,Save our Village Baltimore, and participated in a multitude of local events. That exposure has allowed for countless conversations and brainstorming sessions over the years. Taking those conversations and ideas one step further, Smalltimore Homes was founded in February 2018 and by April it had received 501(c)(3) status.
After witnessing many of the tent encampments around Baltimore were being cut off from public access and realizing that whole communities were being dismantled was really the key factor in forming the nonprofit. Ending the tent encampments doesn’t solve homelessness, it satisfies the public perception. LaQuida has been working with the homeless population for many years now, but until recently, shel believes there is an actual war on homelessness. In a city like Baltimore where red-lining was created, it’s shocking that 4 of 5 homeless people in Baltimore are black.
After researching a number of tiny home communities on the west coast like - Opportunity Village, Emerald Village and Cottage Village, it was obvious that she could do more here using those models because they are thriving and sustaining communities in some cases for over 10 years. Chancey believes that hard part is done and we just need to tweak the blueprint to fit Baltimore. The idea is that Smalltimore Homes’ tiny home & micro shelter communities could address Baltimore blight and vacancies by deconstructing/disassembling those properties first, dispose of debris, anything hazardous, and keep what is salvageable and safe to rebuild. There are thousands and thousands of properties to choose from, and several deconstruction companies in Baltimore like ARC and Details Deconstruct. She believes it has the potential to be a very successful model for transitional tiny home communities with the potential to grow into an entire eco-system that creates a stronger Baltimore.
Find LaQuida Chancey - IG: @SmalltimoreHomesdotorg
Website: smalltimorehomes.org
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Introduction to Fabulous Fuckery and its Purpose
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Welcome to Fabulous Fuckery. I'm your host, Baroness Brie. Fabulous Fuckery is your sophisticated destination for discussion on wellness, dating, family, and blurred life. Come with me while we discuss emerging fabulously in spite of life's fuckery. It's your girl, Baroness Brie.
00:00:30
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Yes, ma'am. How is everything going? I know you've been working on getting funding, you're working on sponsorship.
Tiny Home Communities Initiative
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Tell us about what's going on with that. What's it going to do to help? Yeah, it's been going really well. So what we're doing next, we have a bunch of things going on. I was just in Pittsburgh thinking, speaking on how housing addresses social justice and social issues here in Baltimore. Specifically, I want to build the tiny home communities.
00:00:59
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in areas that have been historically redlined. So I want to target those areas that people have forgotten about. But we have an awesome program where we let people come and help build our micro shelters every month at the Community Tool Bank. So you could just go to smalltomohomes.org. That's two L's.
00:01:20
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smalltomohomes.org. Sign up. Yep, right there. And sign up and come out and see the micro shelters, help us build, help us paint, help to further the initiative. You can donate at smalltomohomes.org.
00:01:36
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And our next event will be Veterans Day because as you know there's a huge veterans population that is experiencing homelessness. And tomorrow I'll be in Philly showing one of the first signing homes that I built. It's on a 20-foot trailer. It's really awesome. Philly's only like an hour away. Come on up and see us.
00:01:57
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I'm so proud of her. That is encouraging because we have a black person coming into our community. Yes. Helping us versus, you know what I mean. Y'all know what I'm saying. Y'all know what I'm getting at. So it looks good. It looks good that one of our, and then she's a young sister. Yes. But this is not your only thing.
00:02:16
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No, tell them about the clinics that you are offering.
Financial Empowerment Workshops
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Yeah, so we do financial literacy workshops, free 99 at Old Major in Pigtown. The one we just did was on entrepreneurship. We did them on budgeting, on investing. We have two series coming up that
00:02:38
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Target taxes and how to do your taxes and there'll be a licensed CPA there to kind of guide you through all of that. We'll do another one on social justice in December and in
00:02:53
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January, we're still working that out, but it'll be another side hustle, entrepreneurship kind of thing. Because essentially, I want to put people in a position where they can thrive, they can grow, they can build, you know, they can own one of the tiny homes that I'm building or invest in a home of their own. Like, you know, these are things that we need to build generational wealth to pull ourselves up. And it's just knowledge that's not taught in schools. So, you know, I like to give that
00:03:21
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freely to the community and give people a platform to learn. Well, it's so important to teach the financial literacy part, because I don't know about your Instagram, but my Instagram is popping with Louis Vuitton Bay and YSL and everybody on vacation, but it ain't nice showing no pictures and no savings and no checking accounts. So this is true. And when Chime went down the other day, I just watched the Twitter feed freak out for about two days. And I think Capital One was down today.
00:03:48
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everyone with you today, so we need to know what to do with our money, how to invest it, how to protect it, and I'm so proud of you for what you're doing in our community, because you came home and you gave back, you could've stayed down in Atlanta. I could've, I could've, but Baltimore needs assistance. Like, as much as I love Baltimore, I believe in Baltimore, and so I'm here to, you know, give Baltimore that shine that it needs and, you know, live up to its potential.
00:04:18
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want to share the wealth, you know? Okay, so if someone wants to build a tiny home, what do we do? If you want to build a tiny home, reach out to me on smalltomorrowhomes.org and just shoot me a message. I am an army of one. I have a ton of volunteers. I'm building my board now. But yeah, tiny homes, micro shelters, housing,
00:04:44
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investing, all those things that people need because shelter is absolutely a necessity. So if you're going to live somewhere, you might as well own it. I mean, come on, right?
00:04:54
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Don't pay somebody rent all your life. Like I do understand everybody's not in a position to own, but I'm trying to put people in that mindset so that they can get in the position to understand that Louis, YSL, Gucci, they gonna be there. They gonna be there, but buy your house and then, you know, go ahead and invest. Let's get that house first.
Affordable Tiny Homes Discussion
00:05:14
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Yeah. And so I'm working, I'm working on being fiscally responsible because I like shoes. Girl. I like shoes and they talk to me. So, you know,
00:05:23
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How much do a tiny house cost? You know it really depends on your budget. So the ones that we're building for people experiencing homelessness are only about 65 square feet. So it's enough for you to store your belongings and lay your head in. It's to get people off the street right now.
00:05:39
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You know, but we have bigger units that are 12 by 15, 8 by 9, 6 by 9. It really just depends, but as far as a tiny home on wheels for somebody like yourself, the one that I built cost me about $70,000, but it's completely off-grid.
00:05:56
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solar, composting toilet, watering catchment. Those are expensive add-ons, but I want to show people that if you are off-grid, you know exactly how much you're paying every month. So 75, but it can be as low as 40,000 and you could have a home that you could actually live in as a tiny home. Yeah.
00:06:21
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Because not everybody's in the position to buy a $200,000 home. You know, yeah, you can add on just like the container home. They're everywhere on the progressive West Coast. Like why Baltimore? Get with it. Get hip, right? Yeah.
00:06:40
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Yes, because they're homeless population. So that's one thing that's interesting about Baltimore.
Tackling Homelessness in Baltimore
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Our homeless population can hide in our vacant and abandoned buildings. While on the West Coast, they have like 2% vacancy. So there aren't vacant homes that they can all go into. It's right there in your face. They are on every corner. And then another thing people have to understand is some people who are experiencing homelessness,
00:07:08
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go to work every day you know they have a car they just can't afford right they just can't afford housing right yeah it's a lot of working poor and we try to pretend like it's not the furlough show me i'm a paycheck in the head from being homeless yeah and that's a scary place to be right scary place to be but so much
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So much of the middle class, which really isn't a thing, but so much of the middle class is one emergency away from not being able to pay their bills, not being able to. And it's really unfortunate. That means that anything could happen. You could get in a car accident and not be able to go to work for a few days or a week. And then what do you do? How do you recover for something like that?
00:07:58
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Yeah, one of the ladies that I volunteer with all the time, she has five daughters. They are in middle school and high school. So they are also women like imagine, you know, we go through every month. Imagine that with six women and you don't have a place to call home.
00:08:17
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Right. You know what I mean? Like, so they stay in a shelter, but you can't stay in a shelter during the day. No. You have to leave. Yes. We're going to take all your stuff with you. You have to leave. There's no humanity. I just, I can't. Right? Nope. Absolutely. So we just real out here. And I think what you're doing is helping people who don't realize how privileged we are. Right. Absolutely.
Critique of Capitalist Barriers to Homeownership
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Do you see what it looks like? Because you hear about it and you hear things. Do you know people?
00:08:46
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We have really got to step up a tiny shelter bill. My goal for 2020 is to do two fabulous fun fun bills. I want to do two bills. So my goal is hopefully to work with some of our partners to figure out how we can fund. That would be awesome.
00:09:09
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In D.C., I can't tell you how many people don't have IDs because they were thrown away. When the government comes, they come and they clear their homes out. They're packed up their tents and everything. And if you have not moved your stuff out by the time they cleared out, people don't have their birth certificates, their Social Security cards. They don't have the paperwork to prove that they are a U.S. citizen.
00:09:30
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And in the current state of what we have going on in America, we have got to make sure people feel good about themselves. We have to let people have homeownership. Why can't people have these things?
00:09:42
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Why is it out of reach? Why is it this mythical homeownership thing? You know, you just gotta fix it. This capitalist America, don't get me on my soapbox. And again, you know, like I said, I like nice things. Right. And that's fine. You can like nice things, but it's like about prioritizing. Exactly. You know, you can like nice things. Nobody said stop getting your nails done. You don't have to do that. That's not going to happen. You don't have to do that. You can get your eyelashes done. That's fine. Yeah.
00:10:12
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When my son told me that when I've died, he can't wear a wig. And I was like, dang. He's not into that life, ma'am. He's not into that life. No, you can't leave that life. I can't leave him a bunch of purses and some wigs and be like, hey, you know, we gotta sell it. And don't look like we're buying used wigs, girl.
00:10:32
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Somebody about to give me the plug. Right? That is so funny. Yeah, that's a good one. Small Tomorrow Homestead Award. And man, please get a card off the table. But yes, so no. For you guys who are just joining us, I'm Baroness Brie, the host of the Fabulous Fun Fun Show. I like that. You can find me on BaronessBrie.com.
00:10:53
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And this is Quita Chansey, the CEO and founder of Small, Small Homes. We're talking about how to create financial literacy for black folks, all folks, but you know what I mean. And, you know, we want people to be able to be successful. We're just intentional about black people, but we're inclusive.
00:11:14
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Because if you're not intentional about social equity, then it will not happen. It does not happen by mistake. So we're intentional about helping our black folks. But we do not exclude or turn away anyone.
00:11:27
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Yay! I see you back there. Wakanda forever, we love you. But, so we're going to talk about something, because we're going to talk about something a little heavy. A little bit. It's okay. It's okay. You know, tell, you know, you have an excellent story. Do I? About how you got here. Okay.
From Corporate to Community Outreach
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So what made you make the transition from corporate leadership to
00:11:51
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becoming an outreach maven. I mean, you are, you have. You are. You are. That's a first y'all. That's the hashtag, new hashtag. Yes. So this is, you know, what made you make this transition? To be quite honest, I am not a loyal employee and I never have been. I've always had an entrepreneurial spirit.
00:12:12
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So I started investing in real estate in Baltimore back in 2014 and I used my retirement funds. So every now and again I'll decide to get a job and when I do
00:12:27
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I say that for a year or two, I max out my 401k, I roll that over into my self-directed IRA, and I acquire properties, and I rehab them. And again, I'm intentional about who I market to, and I want to create more homeowners who look like me. But after doing that for like four or five years, I wasn't making the impact that I wanted to, and there spun out small to more homes.
00:12:56
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So I've always volunteered with the Breast Cancer Society, as you mentioned. She's her own one woman. Well, you know you're your own one woman, Mark. She's like, yeah, you don't need a million women. She's gonna be breast cancer.
00:13:11
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I appreciate you. We appreciate what you're doing because you're building awareness. Yeah. And you're letting people know what's going on. Right. I mean, because it's kind of half the battle. Sometimes people don't understand, like, how easy it is to become someone who's experiencing homelessness or how one in four women get breast cancer. You know, like, that's crazy.
00:13:37
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eight women right here so two of us are bound to get you know what i mean like those statistics are kind of crazy it's very crazy yeah thank you for all your awareness i do what i can so what are you doing what are you doing to enjoy life right now because you know we did our health wellness and self-care visitation a few months ago what are we doing
00:13:54
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What do we approve of them all? I'm getting way more rest. I am taking my butt to bed when I need to go to bed. I used
Managing Diverse Friendships
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to be one of those people that's like, oh no, I'll sleep when I'm dead. But that's not how that works. That's not how that works. So I'm getting more rest. I am being intentional about who I spend my time with and making sure I see my fun friends just as much as I see my woke friends. And sometimes they happen to be the same person.
00:14:22
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You know what I mean? How do you balance the woke friends? I mean, your woke friends can be fun. They can, yeah. Sometimes they're the same person. But you know, how do we balance it? How do we keep them away from each other? And then I'm good to be like, listen, I keep them away.
00:14:38
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Because what I don't want is my friends to go back and forth like, no, you need to see it my way. No, you need to see it my way. Like, we all have our different life experiences. And so you have to understand that everybody is approaching it from a different point of view. And you just have to be empathetic in that way. And not everybody understands that. That is true. It's hard to maintain groups of friends. Yeah. And sometimes you have to keep them in these little compartments.
00:15:04
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Like, oh, this is the birthday crew. Okay, birthday crew. You're gonna meet the work crew today. And if you're gonna meet the work friends today, I need you to behave yourself. And then also, you're my work best friend. You're not my life best friend. And so I need you to know your place best friend. Because, you know, don't be side-eyeing my best friend. I know for 20 years, because you feel like, because we share coffee in the morning, you're my work best friend. So that's just the opposite. My life best friend is side-eyeing everybody.
00:15:34
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I'm like, you know what sis, I'm a chanel. I'm gonna need to keep you in the corner somewhere. You know what, I love her to death. Chanel Monique, I'm not gonna say her last name. She shady, she shady. I love her though. No, but you know, I'm looking at one of my friends here, Miss Best Friend.
00:15:51
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Go best friend, that's my best friend. Listen, don't act like you don't know her. We had a whole moment. So guys, we actually went to third grade together. Chadwick Elementary, Baltimore Board of Regs. So it is really...
00:16:12
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I would, but these gloves real thick. Listen, it was cold. It was cold. We didn't have to do it. But it's so dope that you have people in your lives that you meet them and you're still connected with them 20 something years later. A couple of years. I don't know about 20. Don't give me that. We owe this hell half a... But, you know, the fact of the matter is that it's good to be able to keep your friendships alive and you don't maintain new ones, grow new ones.
00:16:43
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I Damned
00:17:05
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No, but it has been really dope having you. Let's talk about some life stuff. Okay. So I just finished a podcast right before you got here called In The Black and he mentioned an incident that I think you may want to talk about.
Humorous Incident at McDonald's
00:17:21
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Okay.
00:17:21
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There was a woman that worked at a McDonald's that hit the other woman with the blender. Oh no, I didn't know about this. I haven't been on social media lately. Just tell me. Give me more details. Why she hit this woman with the blender? There was a co-worker that was a customer and an employee who was the McDonald's manager.
00:17:43
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And the customer had to wait like 20 minutes for her food. And she was angry. And she swung in through stuff at the manager. They had an altercation, had a situation, and the manager closed out the situation by hitting her in the head with a blender.
00:18:01
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And if you've seen the video, it was not pretty. So McDonald's ended this by firing the manager because, you know, she's in a lawsuit. You have no, or not just put your hands, but you have a cousin with her equipment, a coworker, no employee. I'm not funny. I'm not like, how do, how would you handle that type of situation as a woman? Cause you know, I was dealing with men earlier. They act like I was being petty. So as a woman, so did the customer put her hands to one of the put her hands in through the food act?
00:18:31
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than Mike Mcdonald's employee. So I'm not sure that I would have picked up the blender. Like she just might have caught these hands and that would have just been, you know, what, but you know, I mean, that's a hard one because I do like to pick up stuff and hit people with it. So I don't know.
00:18:51
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I don't know. See, it's not just me. Who is going to act like I have an income management problem? Yeah, I don't know. So my theory, the theory that I have, and I share with people quite frequently is that enough people have not been punched in their mouths as children. And so you grow into an adult. You don't know how to respect boundaries because you have not experienced pain.
00:19:14
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Right. Okay. And you think everyone is going to handle you like your mom until you go sit in a timeout corner. No. And the reality is there are consequences for our behavior. Yeah. So I mean I went through a period of time at work where I did not have a stapler or a letter opener because I was a risk.
00:19:29
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But you can't talk to people crazy and expect people not to respond. So, you know, I really hope, and I'm no longer, no longer, I hope my supervisor's not listening to this podcast, but I've been behaving, sorry I've been behaving, please don't put me back on the pimp. But, you know, it is really hard to be, you know, we don't respect our employees enough. You know, and sometimes you catch an attitude or they got an attitude, whatever.
00:19:54
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But we have to respect people, and people where they are. I'm sorry, I don't know why you would wait. Like if I pay for something, who's waiting 20 minutes at a McDonald's for food? You ask for a refund and say it's time for me to go. So you waited for this food for 20 minutes, so you let the rage boil in you, and then they had audacity to get her cold fries, which is probably what happened, and why she went off. But why would she insult the manager? Like, you realize this is a whole team sport. Like, so now you're... Like the team may jump in.
00:20:22
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You'll be just the manager. The manager handled that all by herself. She was Tyson.
00:20:26
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She was like, did she handle that all of her own? I don't know. That's a tough one. Because see, I'm at a point in my life where I'm like, how would y'all handle that? How would y'all handle that? Would y'all not use like, no comment, ma'am. No comment. OK. Thank you for coming. But yeah, so it's. I don't know. That's unfortunate. It's unfortunate. I'm sorry she lost her job over there. So another. I'm kind of sorry that other woman got hit with the blender, but she started it.
00:20:55
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She needs stitches. She started so don't start nothing that you can't finish. Sometimes people need a two piece and a biscuit to go with the attitude. Sometimes you need to get that check north. That little chin tap will get you right where you need to be. I've been practicing.
00:21:14
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It's fun sometimes to go to kickbox and work out your rage and figure out what's wrong with you. That's what therapy is for. That's what my podcast is really about.
Focus on Wellness and Self-Care
00:21:23
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It's not about ratchetry, I promise. It's about wellness and self-care and growth. But we have to deal with the anger issues that come in there. We can't talk to people crazy. We also have to do the inner work. Because I recognize your own
00:21:38
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Yes. Right. Because I'm bringing it with me. And if I'm having a bad day, I've not had my cup of tea. I'm looking to anyone. I don't drink coffee because coffee makes me insane. A little bit of water. A little bit of water. A little bit of water. I've been banned from drinking coffee. I came out with you.
00:21:57
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This is your cart. I can't have coffee or chocolate. Hey, it's your girl Baroness Brie. I'm here to tell you about Instacart. I like to save time with shopping. I'm a busy mom. I don't have time for this shit every day going out to the grocery store. I have an affiliate link in my show notes where they'll give you a little something off of your order so you can save time and maybe watch that Netflix show you've been avoiding for the last couple of days.
00:22:23
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Instacart is I'm grateful for you guys and let's do this soon. Because I'm like the energizer bunny. I'm like what are you gonna do now? You ready to go? You ready to go now? You ready to go now? And now what? And then? And then? So you know. Okay. So what are your triggers? What would make you? I don't like
00:22:43
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I don't like being told what I cannot do. Oh, that's a good one. People, you know, oh, you can't start a nonprofit for people who are experiencing homelessness. Don't they all want to be homeless? Even if that is true, I feel like all people deserve shelter. So why don't you shut the hell up? Everyone deserves respect. Yeah. They deserve shelter.
00:23:04
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Yes. Sometimes our mental illness can prevent us from wanting better for ourselves. Right. Until we get to the source and figure out what's wrong. You know, why did that woman throw a blender? Something may have happened. Yeah. But we have to do better. Yeah. I mean, if somebody threw food at me, I would consider that a tricker as well. We got in the fights for the best when we were kids. Right. Right. Let's be honest. Yes. But we're adults. We matured.
00:23:32
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I'm not built for bars. Don't be telling my business. Hey. Nope. Hi officer friendly. Hi officer friendly. Y'all want to come talk about the podcast? I'm not going to put you on blast no more, I promise. No, but we got a game tomorrow. It's cold as hell, but what? I'm grateful for you coming out here. I do what I can. You do what you can? I do what I can. Now let me ask the audience, how would you guys handle someone?
00:24:03
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throwing food at you, how would you handle it? Let me sit down. Hey! That's my brother right there. Exactly. Oh. No answers? No question? No comment. Oh, that was a? You would throw food back. You would throw food back? Please. I gotta choose my job. How about you, ma'am? How would you handle someone? That's fine.
00:24:42
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Everybody bashful today. You put the camera on them now they don't know what to say.
00:24:55
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I'm so sorry, I put the mic a little bit, I'm so sorry. So you have to be customer service, but you also have to be in your boat, your soda. Are you afraid to be a panelist? Because I have questions for you and for the service. I can do that. Hey! It was a long time ago. It was a long time ago. I want to stop harassing her. Thank you so much for being, thank you for answering these questions.
00:25:25
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Thank you, love. You're multitasking. It's so good. You know, you gotta keep the gram. I just need my photographer to focus on his target. You know what? You know, I like, I like your photographer. He's colorful, isn't he? Yes. He's colorful.
00:25:47
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We are talking about life and wellness and self care.
Balancing Life and Community Involvement
00:25:55
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Defending yourself when necessary. Homelessness, financial responsibility. We just all over the place today. Yes. That's how it's balanced. It is balanced. You can't. You have registered three.
00:26:12
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Yes. Non-profit. And you know, you got stuff that we got to do. You would get it back to the community. You would do what you're saying. Hey, Ms. Lane, how you doing? Oh, hello. Hey. How are you guys doing?
00:26:34
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I love my people. I love us. Stop when I'm scared. Welcome. Welcome. How are you?
00:26:47
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So we are broadcasting live at Brilliant Baltimore, which is a combination of the Baltimore Book Festival and Light City. Our tent today is sponsored by the Art Alliance. They give back and do artistic creative activities for kids in the community. If you have a little kid, they may get Harry Potter ones, they have colorizations during the day, face painting tattoos if you come out tomorrow. This is just a fantastic way to watch my city that I have grown.
00:27:14
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Tomorrow they start I want to say it 12 8 12 p.m. I'm sorry. Yeah. Yes That kind of party My other question for you today
00:27:45
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I'm listening. So I'm trying to get my topics together, but I'm getting distracted because my photographer and family is up here acting up with a fortune with the talent.
00:28:02
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Yes, ma'am. What are we doing out here? What are we doing? What are we popping off with? What's something fun to do in the evening? What are you doing? Okay. I told you I'm getting a lot of rest lately. What does that mean? You just hated your sleep number babe? You know what? The way my life is set up. I mean, okay, let me think. Let me think. Because you put me on the spot. I don't really go out.
00:28:26
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But what I do, I go to lounges and I drink wine. And I converse with my girlfriends. And, you know, talk to people who are sitting around and find out what else is going on in Baltimore. And are we dancing? What are we listening to? Oh, I dance to all the things all the time. What are we listening to? What's in your playlist? Oh, you know, I'm a whole dope boy. So what am I listening to? The baby. I like the baby. Yeah, that man is sexy.
00:28:55
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I don't know. You have a fan here, sir. Yes. The baby. Magda Stallion. I'd love to Magda Stallion. What's up? My name is A-O-G-A-D-O. Yeah, dawg. You got the name? A-O-G-A-D-O. I'm sorry. What you been drinking? A-O-G-A-D-O. A-O-G-A-D-O. A-O-G-A-D-O. She's had a problem. She's had a problem.
00:29:23
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Oh, but you left with it. Yeah. OK, OK. You know what we're going out of here. We will go do some shots. Yes, yes.
00:29:38
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Yes. Yeah, I'm a tequila girl. I love tequila. I can't handle them with tequila. I almost died. I'm a tequila. Get it? Oh, you're a tequila? Oh, Jameson! You're a whiskey. We need chocolate now. See, we got right here. No, tequila. Tequila almost killed me. These two right here saved my life. I almost died. We won a boat trip, and I decided that my 130-some-odd pound
00:30:06
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Frame could drink two bottles of rose and a half a bottle champagne. Okay.
00:30:13
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What did you die though? I almost died. I think I died. But did you die? I got put out of clothes. But did you? I got put out. And I don't remember being there. It's a story. That's fine. Oh, you got to get put out your birthday. That is a celebration. We are family. I've been put out every year on my birthday.
00:30:43
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It is the goal. I'm getting older now so I can't drink the way we used to.
00:30:50
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It's a goal. It's a goal. Just get this one out. You have your picture on the side of a spot, you know. I'm like, you're right. Do not allow this woman to come back and all you gotta do is change her hair. Just change her hair. I just changed my wig. They don't know who I am. Right. I just wear different wigs. That's what wigs are for. We change our wigs. Wait a minute. Let me have that black eye flat on my hand and get a blown wig. Hold up. Yep. Pause.
00:31:20
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I love it so but you said the baby make the stallion yeah and then that cute little girl I don't know her name I was just trying to look it up
00:31:39
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It's a first and a last name. Arianne? No, no ma'am. Arianne? See? A first and a last name. Is that her first and last name?
00:31:54
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Thank you, first and last. I gave good, I gave very good clues. That's the shade butter baby lady. Yes, I gave very good clues. He makes you sleep. Like, I listen to that when I want to sleep. Yes, but it is, that's my self-care music. Okay. You know, that's a get out of my ratchet by ratchet mode and, you know, center. Left, right, left, right, left. Yes, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk, twerk.
00:32:22
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What are you listening to right now so my playlist right now was stuck in the early 2000s before Kanye started wearing dresses. Okay tell me more. I'm currently not in break. Did you listen to the new Kanye? Did you listen to the new Kanye? No.
00:32:43
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So my issue is is that Snoop Dogg put out the greatest rap, hip-hop album ever for the Bible. It was anointed, no it was called the Bible of Love. It was amazing and then here come Kanye with Jesus is King and the only person that was on it was Fred Hammond.
00:33:07
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She did it she did what she was supposed to do but no so on snoops Rap hip-hop album gospel album. He had everybody
00:33:17
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He was inclusive. He had the Clark sisters. Okay. He had Casey and JoJo getting all the church. Okay. Um, Patty LaBelle had us written our wings. Yes, sir. Yes. I'll be back. Bye. Okay. I'm coming. But, um, yes, no. So, it was, it was, y'all are lit. Lit. She going to get more of that shirt. Why? DM me where we going. But, um.
00:33:47
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But no, so we have this whole thing. I love Baltimore so much. It's home. But we have a whole culture where Kanye, we know he needs a little bit of mental care.
Critique on Kanye West's Mental Health
00:33:58
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He needs a little bit of care. A little bit? He needs a little bit of care. How long do we allow for him?
00:34:07
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Oh, I'm not checking for him. You're not checking for him? I have nothing. I have none of the words. None of the words? No. You're supposed to be giving me words when we podcast. I know, but not that one. Nope, not him. He's a little off.
00:34:27
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My other problematic phase Well, you know, there's some controversy with the baby like he he kind of gets a little Physical with women and not in a nice way. Oh, yeah I just learned who the baby is because I'm old. Okay, so my kids told me who the baby was the other day So you were hip
00:34:48
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I am not. You're adorable! Are you on the Gram with the Shade Room? So there's a couple of things where a girl would try to dance up on him and even push her ass off to Sage. He's pushing him up. He's hurting women? Yeah. We still supporting him. So nice!
00:35:07
Speaker
Not that though. You can't be in my personal space though. Do you know what I'm talking about? This is because your celebrity doesn't make you accessible. However, you don't put your hands on this thing. No, you don't. You don't. This is true. Unless they threw fries at me. Ma'am is working at me. Ma'am. Ma'am. What is this is? Some people need hands. Some people.
00:35:29
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Yeah, I mean, you're right. Not enough people got punched in the mouth. I'm just selling you. I completely agree with it. I think we need to do better.
00:35:38
Speaker
You know, Cardi B is the patron saint of shmoney and the patron saint of fabulous funds. So, you know, we gotta do what we do. Oh, okay. I'm with it. I'm with it. I like Cardi. You know, and she said, if we got beef, we got beef forever. Forever. Forever. Forever. I'm with that too. But I feel like that affects you more than that affects the person you beefing with. So really, I would just rather not even think about you. That's gross.
00:36:05
Speaker
I don't have that level of growth. I'm also in therapy, so I talk to somebody about this kind of stuff. I'm in therapy too, and sometimes we don't talk about certain people because you're not worth my full pay to talk about it. I'm just going to be angry with you, and you don't even know I'm angry with you. Oh, wait.
00:36:21
Speaker
No. No. If I'm angry, you gonna know. That's a conversation we've had. That's a conversation we've had. There's no silent anger. But no, but sometimes you have to let a toxic person go.
Dealing with Toxicity and Boundaries
00:36:34
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Absolutely, and I will let them know exactly why I'm letting their ass go. And sometimes you don't have to have that conversation. Oh, see, that's what we did first. That's where we did first.
00:36:45
Speaker
Okay to that point you're kind of right because sometimes they do the stuff and they know that they've done it and once they're blocked they're like oh so that last thing was the last draw. But my question is so what do you do when you block a person and they start calling you from a different number?
00:37:00
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Well, so iPhone has this new cool feature where if the phone number is not stored in your phone, your phone don't even ring. See, I have kids, so I can't use that feature because I'm scared that something's going to happen. I'm not going to where my children are. Unfortunately, I'm not living that life, so... We're going to find me. We're going to find me.
00:37:21
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My kids won't find me. They will find me in Dubai. They will find me when they found me. It's to track me down. I'm like, well how much is this for? They will find you on a plane. They will find me in the party. They will find you in the rain. They will find you. Kids are disrespectful. Yeah. And it's like, can I go to the bathroom? No. I don't love y'all this much. No. Like how much love is there? And they don't care that you have feelings about you. Why did I have to bring them up?
00:37:54
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My best friend and my youngest son do not get along
00:37:59
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And to the point where when he sees her, he gathers his things and leaves because he doesn't want to talk to her. So he sees her and be like, stranger danger? No, they say they don't know each other. Stranger danger. And he asks her that if she has a career that requires an advanced degree.
00:38:25
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And he asked her, what did she get them degrees for if she was going to be arguing with children all day? This is what the baby said. That's what the 12 year old told her. OK.
00:38:37
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And he was like, you know. And he wasn't like that. He is. I'm currently winning the Petty Olympics. OK. Petty Murphy in the building. OK. You got Petty Pendergrass and Petty Murphy. Yeah. And they're terrible. They're terrible. And so I'm just trying to figure out. It sounds entertaining. It is entertaining to me, but I'm pretty sure that I'm going to have to pay for this in therapy in 2025.
00:39:06
Speaker
I'm sorry. You're like, you don't have no other friends? Uh-oh.
00:39:14
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00:39:38
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