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178 - Unlocking Mindset Mastery: Thrive in Your Bridal Beauty Business with Kathy Huynh Cabico
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About the Episode:Join us for an inspiring conversation with Kathy Huynh Cabico, a bridal makeup artist with over a decade of experience and the founder of Kathy Huynh Artistry. Beyond artistry, Kathy is a dynamic mindset and business coach dedicated to helping makeup artists break free from feast-and-famine cycles and effortlessly attract dream clients.
Hot Topic:Bringing Awareness to Mindset and Subconscious Programming for Makeup Artists and Wedding Professionals
Key Takeaways:
- Discover the subconscious beliefs and stories holding you back.
- Clearly envision your dream business: how it looks, feels, and operates.
- Learn techniques to rewire your subconscious mind and nervous system for lasting success.
- Implement daily actions and decisions from a place of confidence and certainty.
Main Insight:Gain deep insights into your subconscious programming and actionable steps to shift your identity, empowering you to elevate your business to new heights with ease.
Kathy’s HECK YES Technique:Getting potential clients on a call and impressing them with confidence, personality, and undeniable expertise.
Kathy’s Woo Factor:With two decades of customer service excellence, Kathy creates unforgettable client experiences, making brides feel beautiful inside and out. As a coach, she uniquely addresses the critical yet overlooked 90% that genuinely drives business success.
Special Gift for Listeners:Free Masterclass: "Mindset Mastery for Beauty Pros"—Step into your next-level identity and transform subconscious programming for unstoppable success.
Connect with Kathy:
- Website: kathyhuynhartistry.com
- Instagram & Facebook: @Kathyhuynhcabico, @Kathyhuynhartistry
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Transcript
Introduction & AI Challenge
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Happy Woo Wednesdays everyone! If you've been following me on Instagram, i post every day about how to make passive income money while you sleep.
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um It's really life-changing. You could literally make more income without booking more events, so I teach you how to shift your mindset. I have a challenge going on. It's a 24-hour AI challenge. You can get your digital product up and running in you know less than a day and start making money while literally shooting a wedding or doing anything. so um Watch my video. I'll link it up in the show notes.
Meet Kathy Hyun: Breaking Limiting Beliefs
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So today on the podcast, we're joined by Kathy Hyun, bridal makeup artist with over 10 years of experience and founder of Kathy Hyun Artistry. She's also a mindset and business coach helping makeup artists shift from survival mode to building a business that thrives with ease.
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Kathy shares how to break free from limiting beliefs, rewire your identity, and finally step into the version of you that attracts aligned success And if you're ready to do that, you are going to love this episode. Enjoy.
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Welcome to Get a Heck Yes with Carissa Wu. I'm your host Carissa and I've been a Los Angeles wedding photographer for over a decade. I've traveled the world, built my team, and seen it all. I now coach wedding photographers hit 10K a month and build a thriving business. In this podcast, we are going to deep dive into how top wedding creatives get that heck yes from their dream clients. We are not holding back on the struggles of the business and how to push through the noise. Some healthy hustle, mindset shifts, up-leveling your money story,
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Time hacks because I'm a mom of two, a little bit of woo-woo, and most importantly, self-love and confidence are just a few of the many things we will talk about. I want to give you a genuine thank you for following along my journey.
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i hope to inspire you every Woo Wednesday so that you say heck yes to listening to this podcast. See you guys soon.
Kathy's Journey: From Bridal Artist to Educator
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Hey everyone, welcome back to Get a Heck Yes with your girl, Carissa I have a very special guest today. Her name is Kathy Huen Capico, and she is a makeup artist.
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And she has been a bridal makeup artist for over 10 years. We worked together a couple times before, and the owner of Kathy Huynh Artistry. She's also a mindset and business coach to makeup artists in helping them book more brides with ease. We're going to go into the subconscious mind today, the subconscious programming, but welcome, Kathy. Good to have you. Thank you so much, Carissa, for having me.
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um hi everybody. Do want to do the introduction? Sure. Okay. okay All right. um Hi, everybody. My name is Kathy Juan Camico. I am a bridal makeup artist. I'm the owner of Kathy Juan Artistry.
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um I've been a makeup artist for over 10 years now, and I specialize in bridal hair and makeup. And I currently have a team that I um have with me. And um yeah, we serve as brides from everywhere in California.
Immigrant Story & Early Struggles
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mainly like SoCal. But yeah, we we love what we do. We love the clients that we get to work with and meeting all of the amazing women. um And now that I've been able to really grow my business into a six-figure business, um I'm excited to step into um the next chapter, which is educating and just sharing what I've learned for as long as I have in the industry and passing that knowledge on to more beauty pros, makeup artists as well.
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I love it. And your makeup is looking good today. Oh, thank you so much. Just for you. Okay, so you're in La Mirada right now. But tell us like where you're from a little bit about your childhood growing up any family dynamic anything you want to share to the heck yes audience.
00:03:56
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Yeah. um Yeah. So I was actually my family and myself, I immigrated here to America from Vietnam at the age of six. So actually, the 19th of this month is like the 30th year anniversary that we've been here. Yeah, my parents reminded me that but yesterday.
00:04:12
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um Yeah. And so um so that's where I and we we came here and we've been in like Orange County, like um Garden Grove, Westminster area for my entire life.
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life um And up until like a year and a half ago, my husband and I bought a home out and we moved out here to La Mirada. um But yeah, like, I mean, I really, um I guess I got into makeup because think, oh, oh, two more, sorry.
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Sorry. We got to talk more about your childhood. Okay. So do you remember um anything about Vietnam living there? Um, you I mean, poverty, a lots of struggle, lots of, um you know, like, I don't I remember bits and pieces.
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um But definitely, that dynamic had really impacted me growing up. Because of course, you know, when we came here, um it was there was like, we were like seven people living in like a two bedroom apartment, you know, and then it was just like making ends meet in a brand new country.
00:05:12
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um my My dad was actually a prisoner of war during the Vietnam War. And so that's how we were sponsored here. um But when we came here, though, like he was um kind of like injured because they kept him in prison for a long time. and And so he wasn't really able to like support the family financially.
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So pretty much it was my mom working multiple jobs and my older siblings like, you know, getting, um you know, just multiple jobs at a very young age to kind of support the family.
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So, yeah, I mean, that's that's pretty much like a lot of what I remember. I mean, thankfully, I was able to visit Vietnam um in 2020 right before COVID hit. And, you know, just kind of like looking at like the old place that like was grew up in, it is pretty crazy, you know? Yeah. Just to kind of see where you came from.
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You really are like rags to riches. yeah Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Pretty much. Yeah. How many siblings you have? um I'm the youngest of five kids. Whoa. Okay. So they definitely were taking care of yeah pair kids. Exactly. Exactly. One of those. Yeah.
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And what kind of jobs did your mom have? um So she was a seamstress. Well, in Vietnam, she was just had this little um from what I from what my parents told me, um she had this little kind of shop like I don't know if you've ever been to Vietnam, but a lot of the homes there, they turn it into like a business in the front.
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And then like they live in the back. So my mom had this little like business setup shop, like like just like they're selling knickknack stuff, know, like a convenience shop type. And so, yeah. And so by the time that we came over here, um she basically was a seamstress for a lot of years.
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And so she was working, I think, for St. John. i don't know if you remember that. brand. I think it like went into business a long time ago. yeah But yeah, but so she was a seam trust for them for a lot of years. And then of course, you know, she also did like um tailoring on the side and she also took on like additional seam like um work doing the same kind of things like on the side.
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Wow. Okay. So I know you're the youngest, but when did you have to like kind of go into the workforce? 16. Yeah. sixteen Yeah. Tell me about your first jobs.
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um So actually, my first job was at a medical data entry place. So it was like a um like a lab, like if you were to go to the hospital and get like a biopsy, it gets sent to a lab. And so I was working for that lab and putting in like, you know, what the doc, the diagnosis and all of that stuff.
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um so that was my first job because my older siblings were working there. So they got me in there. Yeah. So I 16 years old, I was doing that. I would go to so school, like high school, yeah, high school.
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And then after school, I would go there to do like, I would work like maybe five, six, like five hours. um No, sorry, like maybe 20 hours, like total for like the week. Yeah. Wow. Other people are watching like TRL and you're like working in a lot. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. I mean, it taught me a lot. It taught me, um you know, how to like, you know, type really fast. It taught me a lot of medical terms. And it really like it really taught me like how to um be in a professional setting. You know, like it wasn't I wasn't working at like a fast food joints like or anything like that. It was actually a pretty like professional setting. So so I was grateful for that experience.
00:08:28
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Oh, wow. I love it. OK, so to walk me through like college years. What were you like? Um, ah oh oology or well so I, um, so I graduated from high school, went straight into
Education & Early Career in Banking
00:08:43
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college. And at that time, i really was not sure what I wanted to be.
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okay um you know, of course, being like an immigrant and parents that immigrated here, um there's always this pressure to become like a pharmacist, a doctor, you know, like all of that, like the fancy naming things.
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type of profession, right? And so, yeah. And so, but then I was, there was just something in me that like, I just did not like biology. I did not like anything like medical related.
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um So I set off to study business in college, you know, and, and I ended up a grad, I went to Cal State Fullerton, which is like not too far. And I graduated with a bachelor in business management.
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And so during that time, though, I happened to actually started working um in banking. So that was that's where my that's where I spent the next like, you know, 18 years, like in that profession.
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But yeah, they're always either doctor, lawyer. yeah Yeah. And so funny because one of my one of my sisters, she's a pharmacist. Totally like a bit that mold. But yeah, but I was kind of a rebel and I just always had kind of like an interest in business. um So I ended up um doing that.
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And plus, because at the time I was started my career in banking. So it was kind of like a natural progression. Like, you know, that was kind of like what I wanted to study. Yeah. Did you have any like creative outlets in college?
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Um, you know, no because, because, you know, you know that saying like starving, like artists, like, like you know, our parents just say like, oh, like, you know, like, stay away from like art, because that's not gonna like, you know, feed you.
00:10:25
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yeah You know, so so I will die. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. So you know, I i just studied a lot of like, yeah, and I really just kind of like, completely cut myself off from like creativity, you know, um for for a good while, to be honest.
00:10:41
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Wow. And just like schooling. Oh, that sucks. Okay. So I was like, okay, so now after college, banking, what are some of like the early jobs out of college? And what did your life look like?
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um You know what? So right out of college, well, while I was in college, so I was actually working full time at a bank at ah as a personal banker. um it was Washington Mutual back in the days, right? Now it's Chase. Yeah, one move.
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Yeah, one with there you go. Yeah. So I was working as a personal banker for them ah full time while going to school full time. um And so I was doing like a lot of sales like there. Right. And as soon like, you know, in that profession, like you have to have sales skills. Like it's like it's not like a car salesman, but you got to like have be able to sell and stuff.
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And I remember and I remember being 21 years old and making like, oh, like 50K a year. And that's a lot like this. We're talking about like, I don't know how many ever years ago, right? Like it feels like a hundred years ago, but I was remember making like 50K because of the bonuses because I was good at like, you know, sales and all of that. And so I remember being 21 years old like making all that money and like didn't just really didn't know what to do with it. So I just kind of like blew it on like shopping. yeah you know It was a lot of stress. It was a stressful like work environment right because you have quotas you meet and you have all of this stuff.
00:12:05
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So retail therapy was kind of like my thing. yeah And if you're giving a 20-year-old that much money, like they don't really know what to do with Yeah, yeah. We don't know about saving. Exactly. And no ironically, because I was working in like a financial world, right. But I think like to overcompensate like that, that constant stress of like making quotas, making sales and stuff like that, I had to like, well meant to like, just spend it all, you know, because I felt like I worked so hard that I should just go ahead to blow it out. you Yeah, you probably had a killer wardrobe. So I did, I did, I did. Just lots of designer bags and all of
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hey Those could go up in price. I know that's true. That's true. Okay, so walk me through like I believe YouTube started getting popular. i don't know, was it like 2008 2009? Like, were you into like makeup YouTube? Was there any influencers? Oh, No, you know, to be honest, I've never really gravitated towards um you like YouTubers or influencers. um I think the first person that I ever to like saw that was like, oh, this is interesting was Michelle Phan, like the Asian yeah one that's like, yeah, well, I'm sure you know who she is. Yeah.
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And um yes, I remember watching her. um But but I was just like, yeah, I just needed like a creative outlet by that time, you know. yeah And it wasn't more so like watching how people were doing it. I was just like really wanting to like get out there and like use my hands and like do something with it OK. Yeah.
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Yeah. Because you're getting like, you know because you're in like a corporate world at that time. Right. Like what like sales else is very like masculine, very structured, you know, and And part of me was just like, oh, like I'm dying, like slowly inside. Yeah.
00:13:40
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Yeah. OK, so now I guess it's time to go into like the start of your makeup business and like how you started
Pursuing Makeup Artistry
00:13:48
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that. so OK, so this was when I was already at a different corporation, a different bank. I was actually at the same I was already already working for um a credit union. I had left Chase, went and worked for a credit union.
00:14:03
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Um, and I, there was just, I was 24 years old at the time. I remember, and I remember crying to my boyfriend who is now my husband at the time, because I was just like, I don't know what to do with my life. I'm 24, you know, like I'm done partying, I'm done doing all of the stuff, you know, you do in your twenties.
00:14:21
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Um, and I just didn't know what my life was going to look like. You know, i didn't want to climb up the corporate ladder. Like, i don't want to be, like, a bank manager. Like, oh, that just sounds so ick to me, right? And I was like, I didn't want to be that.
00:14:36
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um But I just knew, like, something in me just knew, like, I needed, like, a creative outlet. And um so just backtracking a little bit. So growing up, I painted a lot as a kid.
00:14:46
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Like, I was actually – I've won a lot of, like, competition and stuff in, like, elementary school. And um um and I won, like – then i my name is, like, on a plaque somewhere. and Like, one of those, was like – Art Institute places because I've won so many of these competitions. Right. um And so but of course, you know, you grow up and you kind of like stop dreaming. You stop dreaming. Right.
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And so ah so fast forward when I was like 24, then i finally decided like, OK, I um I want to do something like creative. And I don't know how or what, but just one day I woke up and I said, OK, I'm going to enroll myself into a makeup academy.
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00:16:47
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And so, yeah, so shortly after that, I started um going to a makeup academy. um it was only like six weeks long and they just kind of taught you like the basic like of makeup.
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But um what I was and it just felt natural to me. Right. And it and I started to realize that um I fell in love with makeup, but not because of like applying it on myself, but more so like it reminds me a lot of painting.
00:17:12
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Right? Because you're painting a face, right? Yeah. So it really reminded me a lot of painting. And so so I just kind of like fell in love with the way that you can change somebody's face features by just using a brush, you know? i feel the same way. Like um sometimes when we're like me and my husband are are not going out, I'll take my kid's caboodle and I have my makeup in it. And I'll just start like doing my makeup. He's like, why you doing your makeup? Like we're not going out. And I'm like, it's just, I feel like it's painting. Like I'm painting like my lips on. Yeah. I'm like putting the...
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Like paint on my like my little dark circle. so Yeah, yeah, exactly. Exactly. And that's the feeling that I got from it. It was very like nostalgic, like, oh, wow, like this is how I felt as a kid, like drawing and painting a lot, you know.
00:17:53
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So, yeah, so that was a natural. It just kind of out started it like from there. um You know, I didn't really at that moment, I didn't really envision it to be as beautiful. big of a company as it is like today, you know, we have a team of 10, right? um um And so, um but yeah, but I just, you know, one step at a time, one foot in front of another.
00:18:12
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um And then I realized like early on in the industry that, um um that people were saying, you know, you need to do both hair and makeup. And I absolutely have had no desire to learn hair. I suck at it. I was not like good.
00:18:28
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um But I just didn't have the desire to learn, you know. And so, um so shortly after that, I actually um met ah Amy. So she's kind of like my business partner for a long time.
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um She does hair only. So we kind of teamed up and kind of built our brand together over the past like 10 years, you know, Amy, Amy, sigh. yeah amy say Yeah, yeah, there you Yeah. So yeah, so she she doesn't do any makeup. I don't do any here. So it was like a perfect match, you know, and um and so that's we that's how we kind of like start off.
00:18:57
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um then yeah And yeah, and built it to like where it is today. oh I love that. Okay, so I guess... um kind of talk about what your business looks like today and then you could bring it into the hot topic, what your hot topic is today.
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Okay.
Building a Thriving Bridal Business
00:19:12
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So, so my business today, so we, like like I mentioned earlier, we've grown it to like six figures, um you know, and we're so grateful. And I do have a team of like, um including me. So there's a team of 10 of us um and there's artists that have worked under me for like six, seven years um that I've personally trained, you know, and I'm just like really,
00:19:33
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um Love building my business, um not on just making women like look beautiful, but more so feel beautiful. And because I have such an extensive background in customer service.
00:19:44
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So our brand today really revolves around our ability to provide like that. top notch like client experience. And that's what we're proud of, do you know, um because anybody can really do makeup. But I think what makes us special and our team special today is that we get a lot of referrals. And it's because people know that when they they book us, it's like they're getting that full experience.
00:20:07
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Yeah, I think. And also you guys have the responsibility, not responsibility, but it's nice when you guys could like ease the bride's mood and make them like, make them like in a good, and yeah like yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And you have to kind of hold space for them, right? Because it is the biggest day of their life. And, and, you know, and and and we come with this energy of like, we got you, you know, like, like that. And so, and and so that's what our our our clients, um they appreciate a lot about us. And because we are,
00:20:35
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um experience in working with Asian clientele, right? And, you know, and, you know, and, you know, you photograph like and and work those weddings, they're like a different animal on its own you know and so and so being asian myself and just being very familiar with the culture i think that really puts a lot of um brides at ease as well too yeah i definitely like have brides are like oh are they asian you know yeah exactly right because they want to really important to them yes yes yes because they want to make sure that you know their preferences you know yep okay kathy what is your hot topic today and why is it so near and dear to your heart
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So my hot topic today is bringing awareness about mindset, the subconscious, the identity work, the energetic
Mindset Shifts & Overcoming Anxiety
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work um to the forefront for makeup artists and beauty pros. you know and this um And this topic is near and dear to my heart is because...
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um I have when I started building my business, I felt like I was building it through a lot of hustling, a lot of grinding. And at one point, I got really sick to like it was just because you're constantly going and moving.
00:21:42
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And you're anxious all the time. So the busier I was getting, um the more sick and anxious I was feeling. Right. To the point that to the point that um about maybe six, five, six years ago, I was actually um sick with abdominal pain, like chronic abdominal pain for three years and they couldn't diagnose what it was.
00:22:02
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Wow. Yeah. Yeah. And so it was now that I look back, it's because I was so stressed, you know, and you're always like, you're all your nervous system is always in this like fight or flight mode. And they yeah, can't shut it off. Right. Yeah. And so I started like, so the more like and success just started feeling hard to be if I'm being really honest, like it was just this constant, like uphill battle.
00:22:23
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And it's like, okay, the the busier you get, but it's almost like, oh my gosh, like, but what if I make one mistake? Like, is it all going to go away? Yeah. Yeah. you know And it was definitely not a sustainable way of building a business.
00:22:36
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And it wasn't until I actually had my daughter in 2021 where was kind like forced to like surrender. Yeah. surrender And that was what got me into this kind of work, right? Because I, yeah, because up until that point, I was like a total control freak. Like, like I was like very intense. Like I wanted to control every single details just to make sure that we don't mess up.
00:23:02
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Right. And ah to my team, like, you know, it it was, it was wild, like bless their heart for still staying around. you But I was really like, and I wasn't like leading my team. I was more like controlling my team. Right. Yeah. And, and so when I had to go out on maternity leave after having my daughter,
00:23:18
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um it was kind of like I was stuck between these two versions. Like one version of me, I was feeling really anxious because I wasn't like at work and I couldn't control what other people, my team was doing. Right. Yeah. And the second time, and the second thing is, um and I think you have a daughter, right?
00:23:32
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And you have some, Oh, two daughters. Yeah. And as a mom, you know that when they're little, like there's absolutely no control. So, I'm like, like, you know, kind of like, in between these two identities that I didn't understand. Right.
00:23:44
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And so it was very, that's this time that I started learning more about, um, subconscious programming and this type work. So I started, um To really lean into it, right? Because I had no other option. Like I couldn't go back to work at that time. So um I had to really lean into it. And so the more I leaned into it, the more I had to learn how to trust and like really surrender. And I started applying these principles, like these subconscious principles, like to my business.
00:24:13
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Wow. And so, yeah. And so lo and behold, like um by the time I got back, back, back into the the makeup stuff after my maternity day leave, like, I just felt like this whole shift happening in my business and in myself, you know, yeah, I was just so much happier. i was a lot more calm.
00:24:32
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um and yeah And, you know, the craziest thing happened is business started like flowing. And that was the main thing. And just like I literally would wake up to like messages of like people, random people just wanting to book. And this is like and it wasn't like I was chasing them or anything. They were just random people that was just like, hey, I'm ready to book you. Send me the contract. Here's the money.
00:24:53
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And it started like, yeah. And it just started like happening more and more of that. And then it took me a moment to really kind of understand like what's happening. Right. And it's because I wasn't doing anything different, to be honest. i You know what I'm saying? Like I physically was not doing anything different.
00:25:09
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um But what I think what really happened was I showed up different. Wow. I became a different person. Right. Like that old Kathy identity, like before that was very anxious and she's not really sure of herself. Right. But this new version of me as a new mom,
00:25:25
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I'm a lot more calm. I'm a lot more trusting. um ah I just like want it to flow. And i I didn't let ah like my ego get in the way. So that I think that made all the difference because like, you know, people, you you attract things to you, right?
00:25:40
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And versus what I was doing before, which is I was constantly chasing, like I was constantly hustling. I was constantly like, if I felt like I wasn't doing something like I wouldn't get that business, you know? yeah And I was trying all these strategies, all these tactics, all these hacks. And like, it was just, it just felt like overwhelming. yeah Yeah. So that's why I'm, that's why I wish that more people talk about this because I think, especially in the beauty industry, like we're always told to like post more, have a more presence online and, you know, um but nobody really talks to you about rewiring the one thing that's going to attract more people to you.
00:26:18
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Yeah. I mean, when I read your questionnaire, I was like, oh, yes. Yeah. I actually don't know know about this. So let's get into it. Let's get into the beginning. Like, was there a podcast that you listened to that kind of sparked interest? Was it a friend? Did you have postpartum anxiety? Like, what was like, yeah how did it happen? Gosh, you know what? um Okay. So back in 2019,
00:26:40
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Back in 2019, so my daughters were in 2021. So back in 2019, I invested money in a high coaching program with this coach. So he was teaching a lot of the business strategy. So that's what I thought I was getting from him.
00:26:54
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But really what happened was he is also very into mindset as well, too. So he was the first person. Can you give a shout out to him? Oh, yeah. His name is James Wedmore. Oh, I know him. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. yeah yeah i that too Oh, you did. Okay, perfect. Yeah. So he um so I learned from James a while ago. So he started like, you know, talking a little bit more about mindset. And so that started like piquing my interest.
00:27:16
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And I started like um to kind of go down that rabbit hole. Right. And so um and so I was just kind of dabbling here and there. And when I um was ah what was called in 2021 after I had my daughter, um I started learning from, uh, her name is Kathleen Cameron. So she's like a manifestation coach, but she also, she also learned from Bob Proctor.
00:27:38
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I don't know if you, okay. So she's, yeah. So she's one of the OG. Yes. So she learned from him. So anyway, so I started, um, hiring her to coach me like through all of this. And so she does a lot of subconscious work and reprogramming to the identities. And that's how I started learning more and more like about it and like how, you know, just like understanding how powerful our mind is and how powerful like our identities like that that we hold. Right.
00:28:06
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Because do you want me to dive deeper in or you want to? Yeah, I mean, but I'll just yeah yeah andnna ask you a question. But like, yeah, it just makes sense because your dad was like a war prisoner. And then like your mom was working all these jobs with like five, six kids. And yeah um you just had like that mentality. Like if you don't work, you have no food and you can't survive.
00:28:29
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So i it's all making sense. So like I guess your identity was – Chasing, hustling, always on the hamster wheel, ah never enough. um So you could explain a little bit more about that and then like what your identity is now.
00:28:46
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Yeah. And I think that, you know, looking back, because one my background is, you know, that we always hold like these beliefs, right? So our identity is kind of like built based on some of these beliefs that we hold, like, and it's like, in ah it's like a subconscious programming.
00:29:02
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um And we hold on to these stories. And a lot of the times we don't realize that a lot of it isn't our stories. It's like somebody else's stories. And so a lot of these stories that were told to me, you know, during the time that my family struggled a lot, right? Like it was um the main is like, you know, money is hard to come by. It's very hard to make.
00:29:19
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Like you have to sacrifice a lot if you want to have money. And then if you did have money, you you you either are meant for money or you're not. So if you're if if it's not in the stars for you to have money, then...
00:29:32
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You're shit out of love. Sorry. Yeah, yeah. Sorry. Yeah, yeah. So no matter what you did, like you can't make more, you know, and that was a mentality. And like, and and just like the overall energy, like um believe that like money is very hard to come by. And when it does, you have to hold on to it really tightly.
00:29:48
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So that was kind of like the identity that I was holding, right? Like, yeah, like you said, like constant hustling, constant moving, constant doing, because if you, if you weren't like working and money came easily, it was just like, oh, did you do something shady for it?
00:30:01
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Yeah, you know what I mean? And that was because they were they came from a country as a communist country. So that was their belief. And then that like got passed on to me. So I was always kind of like, you know, wild and out like working crazy, like just always feeling like I was I had to be busy. Yeah. while i thought in busy yeah yeah yeah yeah that's all
Transforming Identity & Success Flow
00:30:22
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Yeah. but na Yeah. right Not at the club. But just always felt like I had to be doing something to be considered productive to be considered successful.
00:30:29
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Right. Yeah. um And that and that's where I was like getting burned out. Like I was burning out. I was like unmotivated. And it was just it just felt like overwhelming. And it just felt like hard. Where did the control freak come from? Because usually like the youngest is a little bit taken care of and they get like all the most presents and like, yeah, they look like wild. Well, I didn't I didn't get a lot of presents growing up.
00:30:54
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So I think the control control part of that It's part of me that like feels like familiar, right? Because you only do what your patterns and your behaviors. It's comes from a place that when your nervous system and your subconscious mind feels familiar.
00:31:11
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And so for me, like in my mind is like, okay, because I'm expanding and as I'm expanding and as I'm i'm growing, it feels unfamiliar. yeah. What my body, and my subconscious mind is doing is trying to pull me back to the comfort zone.
00:31:24
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So it does that by saying, oh, you're stuck like way too far. So in order for me to feel kind of like safe, I feel like I had to control my environment. oh Yeah, right. i I felt like I had to like really like.
00:31:38
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you know, pick and because I didn't understand about the subconscious work, right? So I'm just like, okay, like, I'm expanding, I'm growing, like, I don't know what's happening. So in order for me to kind of like compensate for that, I had to kind of control every aspect of my business. Like I didn't trust anybody doing anything.
00:31:53
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Yeah. Mm-hmm. Okay. I'm trying to put myself in your shoes. So 2022, have the baby. 2023, you get back to the wedding. 2021.
00:32:04
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I had her early 2021. 2021, who had the baby. So 2022 was a big year because all of those reschedules. Mm-hmm. What was like the maybe – aha moment because you're still deep in like diapers and stuff, but like, yeah you just kind of like have these trainings from James one more. And then, and then what did you like wake up and then just be like, I'm a new person. Like, and then just stuff started flowing to you. Wedding pros.
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00:33:13
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Um, no, because so, so it definitely did not happen or like, like instantly. Um, so the thing is this work actually gave, just gave me a lot of awareness, right? So it started unpacking a lot of things for me and it started like, like, it's like something like got like the lid got pulled off for me basically. And I started looking at things in a different perspective, right? So I started approaching things with a lot more awareness And I started looking at certain behaviors, certain trends, certain patterns.
00:33:44
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And almost always i can tie it back to either a time in my life that somebody told me something or a story that was told to me. Whoa. Yeah.
00:33:56
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Yeah. and so And so, you know, with this work is very powerful because then you feel more empowered because now you get to decide what story you want to tell next. Wow. So tell you i like a story that kind of like, um, had a impact on you. Um, yeah oh my gosh, there was so more and so much. Um, so the one story that really stuck with me through childhood, and it's something that I'm still like, it still comes up from time to time I'm still working through.
00:34:20
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Is that because when my family were living in, um, poverty, right, um in Vietnam, we actually had a very wealthy uncle, like ah my dad's like blood sibling, right?
00:34:31
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He was very wealthy, but he wasn't willing to help. Yeah, even though, you know, my mom had like five kids, and my dad just came back from the the prison. And so we just didn't have a lot of money.
00:34:42
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But my uncle, who was very wealthy, did not provide financial help, because he felt like we could never repay him because we were so poor. And you know And so that really kind of like left a bad taste in my mom's mouth.
00:34:56
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And so growing up, I always heard bad stories about him. yeah And so in my mind, I'm associating wealthy people with bad people. Yeah. Right. And so at some point, even though even though consciously I really want to be successful, I really want to make a lot of money. I really want to do this. I really want to do that.
00:35:14
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But subconsciously, the story is like contradicting because in my mind, even though I'm trying to like, you know, move ahead, I'm doing all of this thing. It always felt like I was driving with a foot on the brake. Like I was driving with the gas on the brake at the same time because was I now understand that like, because of that story has been so ingrained into me, I always felt like I can't be too successful.
00:35:39
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Like, you know, there's that fear of success, right? Like I'm not, I'm not afraid of failing. I'm, I fear of being really successful because I started having this subconscious. Again, it's the subconscious beliefs that if I became too successful, then what's my parents going to think? yeah What's my family going to think? Like, how are they going to judge me?
00:35:59
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And maybe I might lose the love that I have, they had for me because, because right. Because of that experience that they had, you know, and ah and, and you know, when you say that loud, it sounds so silly, but literally that's what happens underneath the surface of everything.
00:36:13
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Yeah. And so for a lot of years, I couldn't like, I like, I had this like start and stop cycle, right? Like I would want to like start something and go all in and then it would just like hit like a plateau. And then I've had to start back all over again.
00:36:26
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was like one of those, you know? And so I'm, I now, um, Am aware. And so so that so then I kind adjust accordingly, versus kind of like letting that kind of like story just keep replaying in the back of my mind. And that basically kind of dictates what you do or don't do in life and in your business, right?
00:36:46
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Because you have these like beliefs that's already like embedded in there and these stories that are like you told or was told to you. um And if you're not if you're not careful, like that's what's running 90% of the show. Yeah, and it's all about awareness. Like I do post on Instagram a lot, like daily.
00:37:04
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and I have to ask myself, like, am I trying to get validation from it? Am I doing it from a place of just giving value? Am I doing it up from a place of just having fun? So I have to be very aware of that. Yeah, I love that. I love that. And that's very important. I'm i'm really glad that you're, you you you know, you're conscious and you're intentional about that.
00:37:21
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. And and i um have you heard of the spiritual activator? ah No. I think he's like Filipino, um but I went to his conference. Oh, okay. His wife, I forget her name, but I went by myself too. wow.
00:37:36
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And I was like kind of like trying to get something out of it. And of course, it was like all about your story, like you said. So I kind of realized i was self-sabotaging myself because I was so scared of failing. So it was manifesting in like different ways of like unhappy clients or um me chasing the next shiny object.
00:37:53
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um So – being aware of that, like really was my big epiphany. And then like, Oh wow. You see that week I book like three weddings. Yeah. See? Yeah. Yeah. Isn't that crazy how like wild that is?
00:38:06
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And that's exactly like what happens for me. And so once I started to like have these like awareness, um, around these stories and stuff, and I started rewriting it and I started just like really, um, like, you know, just really being intentional and embedding a new belief and just choose to believe something different, and you know, and just, um and just rewiring how I see myself.
00:38:26
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Like, like you said, you know, I'd wake up and it was just like, whoa, like all these times just come out of nowhere, you know? Yeah. And it gets feel, and it feels easy, right? um Because again, like another story that's always running in the background is if money comes to you so easily, like you didn't work hard enough for it, like then something's wrong. Like that money is like dirty money.
00:38:45
Speaker
Yeah. And then you have to give it away, right? Yeah. And you have to give it away. Right, right, right. Yeah. and and And that's what I'm starting to like um realize and understand that we all kind of have this internal thermostat, right? This wealth thermostat, like our identity.
00:38:58
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and And what I've learned through this work is that you can't you can't um re receive or you can't hold more than where your wealth thermostat is.
00:39:09
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Wow. Yeah. You know, and it's kind of like a thermostat in the room, right? Like no matter like what you do, where you do, you're just going to end up exactly where you were. Like if even if you like made a lot of money, you're going to find ways to get rid of it because you're your thermostat, yeah, because your thermostat is just saying like, oh, well, too much. So we now we got to give it away, right? And part of that that is how, like what your what identity do you hold?
00:39:32
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Right. Like if you cannot hold an identity of a successful business owner and you're always holding the identity of somebody that's constantly like struggling to get by, like that's what's going to be in your reality.
00:39:46
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Yeah, um that is perfect segue to something you wrote, which I really like, but getting clear on what you want your business
Vision, Dreams, and Aligning Business Goals
00:39:53
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to look like. So what does that mean to you? Um, that means just allowing yourself to dream, like really, like, like really as adults, we don't dream enough and just really closing your eyes and say like, what would I love?
00:40:06
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Like, not what I think is possible, but actually what would you genuinely love to experience? Um, and that's a question I ask myself a lot of times, you know, and, and, and to me, I just closed my eyes and I visualize like what type of life I would love to live that time freedom, right. That like, um,
00:40:23
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that being able to just call in clients whenever and just people just like waiting to work with me and not me worrying about like, oh my gosh, is there going to be enough clients like this month? You know, just always like knowing that there's always a lot of an abundance of clients just like waiting to be helped by me, you know, like, and that's, yeah. And that's the kind of, um, that, that, and and that's what's now manifesting in my reality. Cause it first has to start with, you have to be clear of like, what, what kind of, what kind of life and business would you love?
00:40:50
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You know? Yeah. You have to, Really visualize it. I think i I watch a lot of YouTube shorts and they ask Oprah, why like can't people achieve what they want to achieve or like what makes people successful opposed to unsuccessful? She goes, um it goes down to people don't really know what they want. Yeah, I agree. A hundred percent. It's like, how do you call in?
00:41:15
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what you don't even know what you're calling in. Yeah. Yeah. and And I think a lot of the times, especially in the beauty world, too, um i think that we sell ourselves short because, you know, we think that our profession is not a real profession. It's more of like a hobby.
00:41:27
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So we don't allow ourself to dream bigger, you know, and I think and I think that's why I think this work is really like near and near to my heart is because I feel like like more people should know this, like, you know,
00:41:40
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Yeah. You don't want to look ugly g on your wedding. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah.
Masterclass & Coaching Plans
00:41:44
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I tell people like you should do a game of session because you're going to look your best. Like you're going to look back and be like, dang, I look like that.
00:41:51
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Yeah. it's Right. It's like there's no point of paying all this money for a professional photographer if you're not going to like, you know, get like glammed up, like, you know, professionally, not professional makeup done. Yeah, exactly. OK, speaking of your big vision, um tell us about like your education program.
00:42:08
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um So I am doing a free masterclass this upcoming Monday, which is the 7th. um And so, yeah, and so I'm just doing a free masterclass. We're just going to dive into the 90% subconscious like stuff, right? Like just the about nervous, like identity, work, beliefs, energetic, all of that stuff.
00:42:26
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um And then I'm going to be launching a ah seven week beta coaching program for makeup artists. Yeah. So they're going to work closely with me for seven weeks. And we're going to talk about all of this stuff, like basically having somebody hold their hands.
00:42:41
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to kind of like doing this work because this work is deep. You know what I mean? This work is the hard work, right? Because if it was easy, i feel like everybody would be doing it. but um But this work is, you know, deep and it does require somebody there to kind of like, you know, shine the light and just kind of guiding them on their path.
00:42:57
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And so, yeah, so that's so that's what i'm I'm working on. So I'm excited, um you know, to... you to start this and kind of so there'll be it's a beta program. And then I'm hoping that through this program, the students can help me build a course so that I can actually have that for later on.
00:43:14
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Wow, that's pretty cool. I'm glad I asked. um Yeah. Think to the hearts of wedding pros struggling and wanting to give up and just not booking enough and feeling like crap and seeing everyone do well on the gram. What would you tell them to get them out of the funk?
00:43:33
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Ooh, this is a good one. i have a lot to tell them. yeah Yeah. Well, would first say is that tune in to how they feel about themselves right now and how you feel about yourself right now is has an energetic imprint, right? And that is what is basically calling repelling or magnetizing things that you want to you.
Advice for Wedding Pros: Energy & Gratitude
00:44:01
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So if looking on the gram makes you feel worse about yourself or you're comparing your work or whatever, then get off of there, like remove anything like, you know, external,
00:44:12
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That's going to help that that's not helping you vibrate like higher is what I say. Right. So if you're looking if you're looking at this like makeup artist and you're like, oh, my gosh, like, why can't I be like her? And you get this like envious, like vibe, um you know.
00:44:28
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block, I mean, mute her. yeah know Yeah, or if you're consuming content that makes you feel small, and you know, people flashing a lot of money, and people talking about their business, and it just like, it doesn't motivate you, it just makes you feel smaller, like muted, you know, or things that you're watching on TV, you know, if watching the news,
00:44:47
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let's say about the economy, make you feel like, oh my gosh, like I can't book more people because this this economy sucks, like nobody's paying, you know, then turn off the news. You know what I mean? It's like protect that energy because how you feel, it's really important. And that like how you feel is actually the indicator of what you bring into your world, right?
00:45:08
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And if you're just feeling like low and you're feeling like depressed, you're feeling like it's never gonna happen for you, Well, you know, that's what that's what you're going to see. so if you wanted to get out of that funk, then be around more positive people, be around people that talk about things that like inspire or motivate you.
00:45:28
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you know, listen to Carissa's like podcast, you know, like, you know what I mean? Like just having like, you know, just listening to things that it's going to like, like activate something in you. Right.
00:45:39
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um And getting you, getting you out of that, that, that funk, because yeah, the more you just kind of like wallow into the same environment, the same kind of things, like you're just going to be kind of like stuck in the mud almost, you know?
00:45:52
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Yeah. My sister was like telling me, she's like, have you watched Groundhog's Day? I was like, yeah, like 15 years ago. It's actually interesting. Like, you know, you, the meaning of it is like every day could be the same and monotonous, or you can make every day like the most amazing day but ever. for that A hundred percent, you know, a hundred percent.
00:46:11
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And, you know, just like a quick tip too, like, um, I think gratitude really has helped, um, me a lot. Um, having gratitude every day when you wake up, it's really, it really feels you like it makes you feel good.
00:46:22
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You know, and you don't have to look at your business right now and feel like, oh, my gosh, like I don't have enough clients. So what am I grateful for? But what if you're what if you have gratitude that maybe you have clean water, you have a roof over your head, just something so simple.
00:46:34
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And it really does activate something in you. And it kind of brings you up higher and lighter. You know, and that's kind of where you want to be if you want to be able to attract success and business and clients with ease.
00:46:48
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Oh, I love that. Well, we'll leave it like that. And that was definitely mic drop moment. Thank you, Kathy, for being on this podcast. And where can everyone find you? um So they can find me at um on Instagram. They can follow me at um Kathy Huynh Cabico. So that's where I do a lot of content about educational content.
00:47:05
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um If you're a bride listening to this, my bridal handle for my business is um at Kathy Huynh Artistry. Thank you, Kathy. Thank you so much, Krista, for having me.
00:47:19
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00:47:35
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See you next time, wedding pros.