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Ep 1: Eat the Strawberries: It’s time to put YOU first
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Welcome to our first official episode! Today, we’re diving into why now is the most important time in a woman’s health journey—and how the choices you make today shape the version of yourself you’ll become tomorrow.
We explore the patterns of overgiving, the roles women have been conditioned to play, and how easily our own needs fall to the bottom of the list. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. In this episode, we challenge you to take an honest look at where your time and energy are going—and start reclaiming them.
✨ Listener Challenge: Take 10 minutes this week to connect with your future self. Who is she? What does her life look like? What small action can you take today to move closer to her?
💛 Resource Mentioned: Try this guided Future Self Meditationhttps://insig.ht/WjRjuJjPaUb
Your future self is counting on you. Let’s take that first step together.
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Transcript
Introduction to 'What's My Age Again' Podcast
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Welcome to What's My Age Again, the realest podcast for women who are done chasing trends and ready to feel empowered. Hi, I'm Kim. And I'm Tanya, holistic nutritionists and childhood best friends who've been there, done that, and bought the collagen.
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more than once. Each week we provide actionable steps that you can start today to help you thrive through every decade to come. We're cutting through the wellness noise to bring you honest conversations about aging, hormones, health, beauty, mindset, and everything in between.
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You see, we're also on a mission to age gracefully one WTF moment at a time. Backed by research and real life, we're here to share what actually works, what's a waste of time, and how to truly thrive through the messy, magical midlife transition.
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We're so happy you're here. Let's dive in.
Launching the Podcast: Excitement and Challenges
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Hey, everybody, welcome to what has officially become our first episode of our brand new podcast, What's My Age Again?
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Oh, I'm so excited. Hi, Tanya. yeah Hi, but let's not act like we literally have not just spent an hour and 34 minutes okay we're go of be do trying to do a soundcheck.
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So here we are. That is the truth. Yep. I hope that we're not going to sound check for an hour and 34 minutes before every recording episode, or this might become our full-time job.
00:01:28
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Oh my gosh. Well, okay. So for everybody here, first of all, thank you so much. Thank you for supporting us um and for listening in. And we look forward to chatting with you week after week.
00:01:40
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But for those of you so Tanya mentioned, this is going to be our first podcast that will air. And as of today, I will tell you first thing this morning, we ah we announced... on our socials that we are starting this podcast. And Tanya, honestly, the first thing that went through my hair my my head was fear.
Overcoming Perfectionism and Personal Growth
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and and And literally I was sweating. And then the second thing I was like, okay, Kim, this means you need to work on that perfectionism. This could be a podcast. Yes. yeah Yes.
00:02:13
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Okay. And while we're on the topic of honesty, which ah we're always going to give you honesty here, the first thing on about I was like, okay, there might've been a profanity in there.
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oh fill in the blank. Okay. Well, we're live now. Like we've announced it. So I have to do this. There's no backing out. There's no grandeur idea that we've, we have been working so we've committed. We have been working so hard on this for months.
00:02:41
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And that's, that's one thing, but now it's like, it's out there. So we've committed. So here we are. ah Here we are Episode one. So also want to talk a little bit about, if you don't mind, Kim, um the name.
Envisioning the Future Self and Aging Gracefully
00:02:58
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The name is fun for so many reasons. And we're not going to sit here and spend a whole amount of time breaking that down. I think as you listen to the podcast, you'll see the relevance and you've probably pulled some of your own relevance out of it maybe, like if you're listening right now. But a big thing that me and Kim kept going back to, that we keep going back to, is age Age.
00:03:18
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How do we want to age? How do we want to age in our 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s? Like, what do we want to look like? How can we make that happen? We kept going back to that.
00:03:29
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No, absolutely. And the the longevity. We want to age gracefully. i know, you know, and for those of you who haven't listened yet, you could, after this episode, go back and listen to our little intro episode where Tanya and I give you a little bit about...
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Our backstory and where we came from, because both of us, for both of us, this is actually our second career. We are holistic nutritionists. Both of us got into this as a second career just because of our health journey.
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And one thing that helped me through my healing, which we'll probably get into in another episode, is this thought of who do I want to be as I age? Who do I want to be in my 80s?
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What does that look like? and so you know And I bring this into my practice with with all my clients too, yeah this meditation on who my future self will be.
00:04:25
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Yeah. And I mean, I think it's so much more relevant for us now um at the ages we are at in our mid 40s, because we're not kids anymore. And our bodies are, you know, continuously changing. And we're starting to see like,
00:04:42
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whoo, we are not, you know, feeling the same, maybe ah looking the same, maybe bought the collagen um as we were in our twenties and our even thirties. So you're right. It's something I talk about a lot with my clients as well. And me and you talk about it all the time.
00:04:58
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How do we want to be when we're like 80, 90, whatever, 50, 60 doesn't matter. How do we want to show up? And like, then if we have that picture in our minds, like, then I guess we start to work backwards. And I'm always like, am I like, encapsulating the things I need to be doing to coordinate with who I want to be at that age.
Midlife Body Changes and Preparing for the Future
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Yeah. and ask Are you setting yourself up for success? Are you doing the things today that are going to set you up to become that beautiful future self that you're envisioning?
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If you're envisioning, you know, cycling into your 70s and you know being able to pick up your grandchildren in your eighty s are you doing the things now to help achieve that vision?
00:05:49
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That's it. 100%. Yeah. And then that comes up a lot too when you know when you talk to your clients or even your friends, me and you talk about it all the time, whatever, is that like, we're like, yeah, this is what I want to be like when I'm my future self. I want to do this, this, and this. And then We look at our lives and we're like, I'm not doing the things to be my future self.
00:06:12
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And then somehow those things keep getting put off. Do you ever see that trend when you talk to like your friends or like your clients? I'm going to do that when. that's That's always we the line.
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Oh, that's a great idea. I'm going to start that fitness program, you know, this summer. I'm going to start, you know, during New Year's. It's always this light at the end of the tunnel.
00:06:35
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Yeah. And that's the point coming back to what I just said before. We are talking about this more often now because we're like, shoot, I am in my mid 40s.
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So. Well, and Tanya, just let me interject for a second, because like if you are in your 20s and you're listening to us now, one thing that I do wish is that, yes, we're sort of It's very common in your 40s to start feeling those symptoms at a greater scale.
00:07:07
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But if I'm actually honest with myself and I think back to my 20s, I was feeling symptoms back then as well. Maybe they were whispers. And, you know, Tanya and I both say all the time to clients, I know this – is that symptoms are your body's way of communicating with you. Yeah. And so I was feeling it in my 20s.
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But at in your 40s, it's like you get knocked over the head with a brick. Those symptoms are screaming at you now. A thousand percent. And if I could tell some, and but if you're listening in your twenties, first of all, pat yourself on the back.
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Cause I wish I was listening to things like this when I was in my twenties. Cause I was like, I'm in my twenties. I am indestructible. Look at all my collagen plump skin and my lack of wrinkles.
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So you're right, Kim. Did I feel perfect? No, because I also came from a background with that, you know, pushed me into the second career. Again, another podcast, another story, another chat, as you know. yeah But I didn't see them as symptoms back then. But now you're right. So here's here's the connection. So now we are women in our mid-40s and we're dealing with a lot of women around the same age group.
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These women are letting us know this is what they want of their future self. And it's idealistic and it's beautiful and it is attainable. But here's my big but.
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Just like we said earlier, it keeps getting put off. And when we're in our forties, we don't have as much time as we had. the The symptoms aren't whispers anymore. They're like, I just run into a brick wall.
00:08:44
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So how long can you keep putting... your, your steps today to become your future self. If you keep putting these steps off and you don't make today your day and today your time, you're going blink your eyes. You're going to be 10 years down the line. You're still going to not have started. And your future self, my friends, is not going to be that future self you're envisioning.
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That's 100%.
Visualization Techniques for Goal Setting
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100%. You're going to wish you started now. And so if you're listening to this now, today's the day. ah Today is the day. Today is the day. This is your era.
00:09:17
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This is yeah literally the dawning of like your self-care future self era. And before we move on, because I know we're like, we're heading in the direction to talk about all the things, but if this is the first time you've sort of thought about your future self, then I really do encourage you. It was so helpful for me personally um to sort of envision it and not just envision and have, like but really embody who I would like to be. And there's so many great future self meditations out there.
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Maybe in the show nights notes, we'll add one or two. But I encourage you to take this week before we listen to – or before we chat with each other again to really maybe journal, meditate on it.
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Decide and get and get to know who you really want to be. Picture her. What is she wearing? Who does she spend her time with? What does she do in her spare time? ah Who does she surround herself with? What activities do you love to do? And this really clear picture can help become your why and help motivate you to start today, as we just sort of talked about.
00:10:29
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I love it. And ladies, for... Those of you who do not do meditation, who can't get into it, I have another idea for you because this is also very strong as well.
00:10:42
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And you can do both, actually. I think both would be very beautiful as well. A lot of us don't know necessarily what our future self looks like because we haven't thought about it and that's fine. How about starting with this too?
00:10:53
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Who do you, what do you know you don't want for yourself? good Let's be honest here. Nobody out there wants to say, i want to be weak and decrepit.
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I want to be malnourished. I want to not be able to take care of myself. I want to have a degenerative disease or be plagued by a bunch of symptoms. And I don't want to feel well every day.
00:11:16
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Has anybody ever said that to you personally, Kim? Or you know what? Even starting with like, I don't want to feel how I'm feeling today. Yes. Because some of us are experiencing those symptoms now.
00:11:28
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And what we always love to say too is that may be common. Like for example, us perimenopausal women, we're It might be common to be tired or have low energy, but it's not normal.
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And those are symptoms in your body's way of talking to you. So love that, Tanya. How do you not want to feel? Right. And if you don't want to feel a certain way, and yeah, simplifying it, sure. If you don't want to feel tired every day...
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But yet, what are the things that you're doing to help combat that? And you can honestly tell yourself, I'm doing nothing. Tanya, I'm doing the same things every day. Tanya, I know there's things I need to be doing, but I'm not doing them. like So that kind of helps you get that idea while then in stark opposite,
00:12:13
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we're not working towards our future selves. And I just want to be clear here. We are all from different walks of life. We all have different responsibilities in our lives. Our lives look all completely different on emotional, physical, energetic, you name it levels.
Prioritizing Self-Care in Busy Lifestyles
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Right. So I'm not, I'm not preaching to say that, like, you know, we have to change everything in one day or it's going to change overnight. But what about if we start to feed into thinking, okay, okay,
00:12:43
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So where's our energy going? Yes. Where is our daily energy going? Oh, that's huge, Tanya. That's huge. And doing, yeah, exactly. So back to what you just said, what are we doing today become the person we want to be at each decade, 70, 80, 90, and beyond? Well, Donna, let interject for one second. And so taking an inventory...
00:13:07
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And what what are we doing today to perpetuate what we like? And also, where's our energy going to perpetuate what we don't want, what we're stuck in? So taking a look at, and or basically what I like to say to clients is, let's do a little inventory of our time.
00:13:25
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And time and energy, we can kind of interchange there. Where is our energy or our time going on a daily basis? Because one thing, you know, and maybe you resonate with this. My April has been absolutely insane.
00:13:40
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Oh, yeah. Absolutely insane. schedule has been like shenanigans on crack. I can attest to that. Absolutely. I took on some extra work. Yeah. I also had situation within my family where I had to fly across the country a few times.
00:13:55
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Yeah. i you know, there was just some personal and business obligations to the max. was lot. And so it would have been really easy for me to say, but I'm busy.
00:14:05
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I'll do this. I'll take care of myself. Yeah. when this all calms down. But let's face it, ladies, life doesn't calm down. And there certain things.
00:14:16
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there so and And so I get it. We're all super busy. But what I like to say to my busy women clients, because that's who we always attract. I mean, youre you listening, guaranteed you are super busy. Yeah.
00:14:31
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You are a high achieving woman who's super busy. Yeah. But if you do an inventory, really taking a look at what sucks your time, what takes your energy, it can be quite eye-opening because guaranteed you can find little pockets of time.
00:14:52
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yeah To help support yourself in achieving that is future goal. Yeah. That is so true. And in like the least harsh way I can say it, because for some reason, I'll be honest, this can be a trigger for me sometimes. Yeah.
00:15:06
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Don't ever please. And if you are, Hey, I mean, right into the show, let me know. I can't find anybody who I have a real conversation with client or else wise that can honestly say they are busy 24 seven.
00:15:20
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I can start the conversation and someone can say i'm way too busy for that. I'm way too busy. And once they sit down, like you just said, and take an energy stock. They're like, oh yeah, well yeah, I do scroll for about like an hour, a or two hours a day broken up.
00:15:33
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And that's the pockets I'm talking about. So it's triggering for me because I just want people to take their power back and know they can be well and not just say I'm too busy, but actually look at their schedule and say, okay, well I actually have two hours in a day free, but I spend that scrolling or, you know, so exhausted laying on the couch and,
00:15:55
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those are spots where we can start to interject a little bit of change. So i just get and and just get triggered once, you know, with the I'm too busy. And you're perfect example, Kim. Your life was shenanigans, but within that shenanigans, you still tweaked your schedule. It might have not looked the same as your day-to-day, but you still tweak that schedule to take care of yourself.
00:16:15
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I know that. I know that. yeah For sure. And you know what? The There are going to be seasons and times in our lives that are where they're much busier than others. And absolutely, that our our schedule can look different during those times.
00:16:28
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But on a day-to-day basis, we need to be able to prioritize time for ourself To be able to become that person that we want to be.
00:16:41
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And so taking that inventory um of your time, like Tanya was saying, I mean, yes, some of that time will be if you're a mother and taking care of children.
00:16:51
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Maybe right now in our lives, elderly parents, um friends, work, all of those things are huge pieces of that pie. But as Tanya said, what about Netflix?
00:17:04
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What about scrolling? What about worry? Also energy into just those spiraling thoughts that sometimes we get. So just being able to sit with that and understanding where energy is going will allow you to really like, it's eyeopening.
Balancing Self-Care and Caregiving Responsibilities
00:17:21
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It is eyeopening. So let's say, i want to give an example here because you're right. You raised a good point. Let's say we're in a season that is really busy in our life. Okay. Let's take an example. I'm going to take an example that I have gone through personally.
00:17:35
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Let's take an example of decline of the health of a parent and death of a parent. Okay. um My dad passed away ah several years ago, going on seven years ago. And that is a busy, that was a hectic season in my life.
00:17:49
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So when I can be hard on people and I can be, and I'm hard on people because I care and say like, well, you can't be busy 24 seven. Okay. Let's talk about the seasons in our life where we basically are busy 24-7, meaning that there actually is no scrolling and there is no Netflix.
00:18:06
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When you're not hitting the ground running, you are sleeping. And that's how your days look. Okay? So let's talk about that for one second and say something that I wish you would have told me, Kim. I'm going to steal your thunder, but I'm giving you full credit.
00:18:20
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this Kim said that when you said this to me a couple weeks back when we were talking about something, it blew my brains. So... I wish I had known one this then because I could have incorporated this in. You told me that both can be true. And what were you referring to?
00:18:36
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That you can take care of yourself and you can take care of others. And it didn't matter the situation. And I sat there when we were having this convo. And I don't even know know if I told you we were having it, the magnitude of your words on me. So I'm telling you now. yeah Like that was...
00:18:55
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Brilliant. In that time in my life, but that was a huge blur for six weeks when my dad's health was in decline. I actually could have taken care of myself better and still taking care of my dad.
00:19:09
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So that is a huge key point I think we have to touch on because there's busy seasons. And exactly as women, we're like little octopuses. Our hands are in all these different pots. Like you said, job, mother, wife, partner, caregiver, whatever they are.
00:19:27
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Yeah. But the first thing to fall off to come last is who? Us. It's us. We're the first thing. If we're like, our schedule's too busy, oh, let me remove something. Oh, let me remove my self-care. And then we can't do that.
00:19:41
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and Yes. And let me give you another why for this, which there shouldn't even need to be a why. We should just be able to care for ourself and own it. But at the end of the day, as women, sometimes our it's encoded in us. It's encoded in our DNA that we are caregivers and we're there for others.
00:20:01
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But- You know, what i always like to say to people as well is, you are your family is only as healthy as you are. Your business is only as healthy as you are.
00:20:14
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So that whole put your oxygen mask on first analogy is so true when it comes to us. You can only be a caregiver when you are healthy and have energy yourself.
00:20:29
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And so I want to encourage all of you to prioritize yourself. And this is what we're going to get into episode after episode. um We're going to give you all the health information, ideas to start implementing.
00:20:44
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But the thing is, if you're not prioritizing your health, none of that information will come to you. The first step needs to be, you need to be able to be ready to start now and that this is the time.
00:21:01
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And you have to be able to know that you have to commit no matter what season that you're in and take ownership for that. Because like you said, Kim, I love that.
00:21:12
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You're right. We can get all of the beautiful, wonderful, cut through the noise um advice and tips and everything that we could possibly need to thrive, which FYI, you are going to get from us.
00:21:27
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But it's one thing. to get something, it's another thing to put it into action. It's that lifelong saying, actions speak louder than words.
00:21:39
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So you can buy the self-help books, you can buy the damn collagen that we keep talking about and all those other things you have. But if they're not used as priority in your life, and if you're like, oh my gosh, I've been so good, I've been filling in the blank, let's say exercising as every day, or I've been taking my supplements now for three weeks, boom, life gets busy.
00:22:00
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First thing that falls off is you. It's, you know what I mean? It's, it's not going to be helpful. So this is what we're here to say today, especially in this episode. This is your time and your era. And if you don't make it, how close are you getting to your future self that you want to be or the one that you're like, oh my gosh, I never want to be that person.
Family Needs vs. Personal Health: Striking a Balance
00:22:20
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Oh my gosh, Tanya. I don't know. this This is a funny story, but I was talking with a simple story, I should say. I was talking with a client yesterday yeah um and we were talking, she's a mom, um her kids are really young and she was talking we were talking about meal planning and she we we were we were talking about the fact that she buys all these strawberries and she doesn't even need a one. Yeah.
00:22:45
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And it just made me think of right now, right? We we prioritize making this beautiful food for our families. We prioritize supporting everyone else.
00:22:55
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And then who doesn't get to eat the strawberries? Us. This is amazing. um We got to eat the strawberries, Tanya. We are eating the strawberries. They should be organic. Others show, but eat the strawberries. And one more thing. I'm so sorry.
00:23:10
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i have to I have to bring this up as well because it reminds me of another story. And um it's actually one of our very good childhood friends. So she's going to get a huge laugh out of this. And I'll you know i'll tell you after Kim, who I'm talking about, just you know keep things private. She will die.
00:23:25
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So this friend tells me that every single week, She buys the cauliflower. She has the best intentions for the cauliflower to get those cruciferous vegetables and to nourish herself.
00:23:38
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And every week she opens the fridge and she's like, hello, old friend. And she watches the cauliflower wither away and compost it. And she does it next week with the best intentions, but she's busy. Her job is busy. She is the ultimate caregiver. And the first thing that's easy to fall off for her is what?
00:23:57
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Herself. So- Who knew that? And you know what? Whoever that may be, we have all been there. As a holistic nutritionist, I have been there where I've bought beautiful organic produce, spent a bazillion dollars on it, and it's stayed in my fridge. so And we're going to...
00:24:15
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We're going to talk about meal planning and all the things to help you. But it's so true, Tanya. I know. We're going to make, like we're going to use the cauliflower and we're going to eat the strawberries.
Motivating Self-Investment and Listener Engagement
00:24:24
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Yeah, I might have some really sad arugula hanging around in my fridge, but I mean, you know, we're doing our best.
00:24:30
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So i I'm just so happy that we got to kind of just sit down and have this convo today and just kind of talk about, you know, Now being your time, we didn't really want to just jump into the knowledge bit before, again, reinstating.
00:24:49
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You can take the knowledge and be like, that was interesting, but make it your time to actually utilize this knowledge. So if you take away anything from today, think about who you want to be.
00:25:03
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in the future. All of those beautiful things that you said, Kim, what do you want to smell? What does the air smell like? What are you doing? What are the textures feel like? Visualize the absolute crap out of it.
00:25:14
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And then also maybe visualize the absolute crap out of like, what scares you for your future? What do you not want to be? And then say, what does my day-to-day life look like? Which fork in the road am I going towards?
00:25:27
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Ideal self or, oh my gosh, I don't want this to be me. Well, if you want to take the path to your ideal self, it's your era. Today's the day. And we're here to encourage that. Yeah. Perfect, Tanya. Way to summarize. Thank you.
00:25:42
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My English background, i at least I'm using it for something, right? Like, yeah. oh Okay, guys. So next week, before we meet next week, you're going to have future self meditations.
00:25:53
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And second of all, you're going to do that inventory of your time and energy. And thank you so much for spending time with us today. This was episode one and we look forward to chatting with you week after week.
00:26:07
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Thousand percent. And I feel like we're not going to say this at the end of every, every show, but being the first one, maybe you'll get a reminder now and again, like, use the comments, use our social media. Everything's listed in the show notes.
00:26:20
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Let us, like, we want you to join the conversation. Like, yeah, this is a conversation with with my fellow holistic nutritionist and like childhood bestie. So I'm, this doesn't feel like work and I feel love. I'm so happy to have these convos.
00:26:33
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We want you to be a part of these convos. Tell us your rotting produce stories if you'd like, or you know what resonated or what you want to talk more about. Like, this is what, this is for you guys, real life, you know, real women talking about real things. And like, we want you to join the convo. We want to be here for you. So add those comments, put on those alerts. So, you know, every single week when the new episode is out and like, yeah, thank you for being on this journey. I feel really happy right now and grateful that it took us an hour and like 26 minutes to do a sound check. And we were able to just bang this off because it just feels so right to be here with you guys.
00:27:12
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Yes. Thank you. And we look forward to chatting next week. Bye everyone. like time Bye. hey guys, thanks so much for hanging out with us today. If this episode resonated with you, we would love it if you would hit like, subscribe to the podcast and share it with a friend.
00:27:28
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We love to hear from you because let's be honest, this show is for you. If you have a topic you'd love us to tackle or want to learn more about something we talked about today, send us a message. We got you.
00:27:41
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Stay connected with us on social media at what'smyageagain.podcast for even more knowledge and inspiration between episodes. Kim and I aren't doctors or your healthcare practitioners.
00:27:54
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Everyone's body is unique, so always consult your own healthcare care provider before starting something new.