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Speaker: You also don't want to create either a student who is going to go to college and completely rebel and say, I'm not doing that anymore and do their minimum. yeah Someone who is going to be so stressed because they're in an environment where they cannot thrive without someone pushing them or they attach their identity to their academic success.
Speaker: Hello and welcome to the Positively Healthy Mom podcast where positive parenting meets wellbeing. I'm your host, Laura Ollinger, teen and young adult wellbeing coach and founder of Positively Healthy Coaching. And today I'm very excited to introduce my guest, Amanda Martin, who is the founder of Studyville.
Speaker: Amanda started Studyville in 2020 and she is completely rethinking what tutoring looks like and it has worked. The U.S. Chamber of Commerce named it America's top small business and now they operate across multiple states. with in-person and virtual support.
Speaker: But here's why i was so excited to have Amanda on the show, because she's the mom of two teen, well, now one's a 20-year-old, but a late teen and a 20-year-old. And she built this company because the homework battle in her home. So Amanda, welcome to the show.
Speaker: Thank you so much for having me, Laura. It's a pleasure to talk to you and pick your brain too for my own teenagers. Absolutely. Okay. Absolutely. It's all about collaboration here. So um yeah, tell us a little bit about what that looked like, what that felt like back then when those homework battles were erupting in your home.
Speaker: Right. so it was about 2018, 2019. I have always believed in tutoring just as a form of support, no matter what level you're in. um If you're struggling to keep up or if you are advanced in the class, there's always a next level to be pushed to. And I believe that students, all children, really, they go to the bar that you set. So if you set the bar very, very low, that's where they're going to go. if you set it really, really high for them, they're going to go as far as they can.
Speaker: So I had, you know, i'll laugh because I'll talk to parents and, you know, they'll say, my kid has straight A's. And I'm like, oh, what grade are they in? Second.
Speaker: Okay. I hate newsflash, but it does get a little bit harder than second grade. So I had one of those and just very bright ahead of his time and got to sixth grade you where you get all of the alerts and the digital classrooms and ah student integration systems where I can see their grades and it would populate. And I, for some reason, there was an alert set and I could not turn it off. And it would ding anytime something happened. Like, ding, I got a zero. Ding, wait a second. ding, ding. Oh my God, that's TMI. You're like, stop dinging. I don't need to know all that.
Speaker: And I was like, how do I help you? Like, what is going on? Why are you not turning your work in? Oh, I turned it and she just hasn't put it in the grade book assignment. So she gave me a zero as a placeholder. And I was like, we can't default to the 100. Why does have to be a zero? Yeah.
Speaker: why does it have to yeah zero yeah And so I started, and you probably see a lot of this, it was less cognitive academic ability than it was just organization. And to me, like, it was like that the preteen boy, it's like the brain, the body grew and the brain left. Right.
Speaker: yeah And they are not, and it's not made for them. School is not made for boys. It is not. They can adjust with the right tools, but they made, they did not make school for boys who need to run and experience and talk and be loud. And mean, they're always touching each other. And so we're always getting in trouble. Like they cannot keep their hands off each other. So i was like, i' I've got to get you some support. So ah Tried some tutoring centers, tried the tutor in my house, and just through observation, I was like, we got to find something better. There's a bad stigma attached to tutoring, and it shouldn't be because, you know, since Socrates, it's been, and tutoring's been around since him, and he was tutoring the brightest minds of his day.
Speaker: Not those were struggling. No one was like, oh, you go to Socrates, which is somehow what it translated into our day and age for kids on the playground.
Speaker: So created Studyville. It's an academic workspace. We don't call it a tutoring center. It has couches, coffee. They can bring food. They can bring friends. They can study together. We don't care. They can show up anytime. There's an expert tutor. And so that's that's the base of how it started.
Speaker: I love it. And so then, yeah so was this while you were your kids able to actually use like the the fruits of your labor? Okay. Yeah, I love it. And um so I have a senior in high school still, so he'll go. And that's a great testimony that they actually like their mom's business and bring their friends to it. So they're not, they're not embarrassed. So that that was a good, yeah.
Speaker: Cool factor that I was able to get. So and my older son, he got to the point where that's how he studied. Having a designated area to study and do your work. If they're at home, they're distracted. There are so many distractions. I have a hard time working from home just because, oh, I can do the laundry or I can see what's on the news or I can go do this. Someone's at the door. I got to take the dog out. ah They have those same distractions that we would. So having a designated place to work is what Studyville is for these students. Okay. So is that what you say would say is like the differentiator between just like a traditional tutor? Because it's the physical space, it's the environment, it's the vibe, like that's kind of what it what differentiates it.
Speaker: Yeah. And there's oversight. So it could be the library, but they're not... expert tutors at the library ensuring they're getting their work done, whereas ours are walking around. And if you're a member, you can just go there and do your homework. You don't have to have how cool a tutoring session set up. So you can just go and work. And so, but we'll check in with all of them who are doing their work and they get to see people and have friends and and then go home. Our slogan is take the homework fight out of the home because that's what I had to do. I wanted to be a mom and not the taskmaster. felt myself and saw myself like getting angry at my child because he was being a a dodo. Yeah. I mean, quite frankly. And I'm like, why can't you do this? And then I was like, wouldn't it be great if someone else had that task?
Speaker: Right. And then I can say one thing and a really cool college dude who's pre-law can say the exact same thing.
Speaker: yeah And guess who he's listening to. Right. Of course. Not me. Yeah. Yeah. I'm pretty sure like every mom just felt that. It's it's so so true. So tell us how your services could help someone who is not in Louisiana.
Speaker: Right. So um we do online tutoring and we also we are in person. If we don't have a physical space somewhere, we still do in-person ah tutoring through different partnerships. Right. So, for example, we are approved providers for tutoring through state programs in the state of Texas and in Arkansas, Florida, and Georgia, and Tennessee.
Speaker: Oh, very cool. And so what does that mean? Like when you say partner, like how does that work? So there is a Texas. So it's very specific and very different for each state. ah For Texas, because I know you're in Austin. Yeah. They recently passed a tutoring voucher called PASS, P-A-S-S.
Speaker: And that is for a a specific group of students who attend Texas public school and did not score satisfactory on their third grade reading exam. So we will tutor them in person if we can through churches. We're in YMCA's Boys and Girls Clubs, too. Oh, OK. um We can show up. and And if we can be in person, we like being in person. If we can't, we can do online. So when we do online for test prep, college counseling, all of that.
Speaker: Oh, fantastic. Okay, because we have got literally listeners in every part of this globe, not just the country, but the world. i So yeah, I was just curious how who would be able to partake in some of the studyville.com. And they can find us and email us info at studyville.com. We'll set something up for them.
Speaker: Oh, fantastic. Fantastic. That's so good to know. And so I'm curious about like, I'm imagining myself like I'm a student, I'm coming there. Have you heard the term body doubling? So for kids with ADHD, it's so helpful to just have someone else in the room because it kind of helps keep them focused. I feel like this service that you're offering is doing that where there is someone there. And so it kind of helps hold them accountable um just because they know. So how how does that, how do you see that kind of play out in your center?
Speaker: is So I have an incredible story. Okay. Okay. So we also have a micro school and that is where the kids come to us for school during the day. And it's non-traditional. They come Monday through Thursday, typically nine to two and no homework. So we get it all done and they, they graduate, they move on, do college or whatever.
Speaker: ah We had a student who had severe adh d in our micro school, and he was one-to-one. So he had one teacher, and like a treat was when he got to go to a classroom with other students because he was just like bonkers off the wall. Yeah, love him.
Speaker: so he he was in a a tutoring session i just happened to be there that day and they were supposed to be going over the water cycle in science And he was on the floor and just, I'm so bored. This is so boring. And he was like being like overly dramatic, you know, and his tutor looked at him and she was like, you're right. It is boring.
Speaker: Do it in Russian. And he like perked up and he was like, what do you mean? And she said, well, I mean, you're bored and it's in English. So do it in Russian. So you won't be bored. Yeah. yeah he said, i don't know Russian. And she said, well, you should figure it out. So they get online and they're looking at right the Russian alphabet.
Speaker: He is looking at words for the water cycle. He is meticulously writing the Russian alphabet. And it's that hyper focus. Yeah.
Speaker: like No focus and hyper focus. and he needed that challenge in order to really learn the water cycle. So he didn't know he was learning the water cycle. He thought he was learning Russian. yeah And he was just so shocked. Yeah, we would say, why not? run And so that's not something you could do in a in a standard classroom, which one kid's, you know, bumping his pencil against the desk and won't stop, the cut and he's jittery and he's digging in his backpack. You can't be like, hey, let's learn Russian now. But we're able to do that. And he went on to like really, really learn Russian and is really good at it. And so that it's that hyper focus where you have you have the white noise, you have this, you're listening to your lesson. at three times the speed. So your because your brain's just going and we need, we need the rest of the world to keep up with that brain. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my gosh. That's such an awesome story. I love that. And so what kind of, I mean, because I have tons and tons of clients and listeners who are either and just ADHD or another neurodivergency or just neurotypical.
Speaker: What advice do you have for moms when their teenager is struggling with school or they are feeling that position of like having to be that manager where they're just like, oh my gosh, I do not want to have to be this person because I'm also their mom and it's just kind of cramping the relationship. What are your thoughts about that?
Speaker: So ah my first piece of advice would be they're going to be okay. They really, really are. We see so many cases where parents feel like this is, it's never going to be okay. They're not going to succeed. yeah And they do. um Now, I'm not saying they don't need any need intervention or help, but I believe so strongly in letting parents be parents, like,
Speaker: Take if you can find a partner for intervention for schoolwork, if you can outsource the tasks that cause you and your teenager to go like this, and like you're not helping in that situation. Like they still they're going to always need their mom or their dad or their siblings. And so if you can take out an outside element and outsource that, they really are going to be OK. They're going to be just fine. Right. I know so many successful business people who are neurodivergent and it's going to be okay.
Speaker: Yeah. Look at the world around you and you'll see. Yes. Yes. um and And that kind of leads me to the next question, which is a lot of times um kids struggle to see kind of like, what is the point? Right. Why? Why am I learning this? And and what is the goal? Because they struggle to see, well, if I'm a freshman in high school,
Speaker: Why does this matter for me getting into college? Or why does college even matter? Or what? I don't even know what I'm going to study. I don't know what I'm going to do. That's just too far away. Right. Or like my job is when I'm in my 20s, that's too far away.
Speaker: How does that motivate me to do my math homework tonight? Right. Like, how do you help them kind of either bridge that gap or narrow it down so that it does kind of feel more like baby steps and not so overwhelming? Yeah.
Speaker: So the good news is a lot of our tutors are college or young 20s students. And so they can tell them exactly how they're going to need it for the next step. So each student, like if you're in middle school, you look up to high school. If you're in high school, you look up to the college students. College students, you know, look up to the young adult working class who just got, you know, landed a great job or whatnot. Yeah. And so we play on that, on those dynamics. yeah And so like what I was saying about, you know, they'll listen to a teenager or college student before they'll listen to me. yeah
Speaker: Having a college student saying, oh, let me tell you why chemistry matters. Or do you, let me tell you why math matters. Have you ever done this? And one of the hardest, though, is standardized testing. Like, why do I have to take the ACT? Yeah.
Speaker: And the best answer that we've been able to give so far is, you're right, it doesn't matter. It's not a test of how smart you are. It is, you are going to go to college, and it's okay if you forget what you made on the ACT because no one will ever ask you again. And if they do, that's that's not cool. You probably don't need to be friends with them if someone's like going around asking everybody's ACT scores. Yeah.
Speaker: So eat literally you need it for like two years of your life. ACT should be important. And what we say is in life, there are gates and there are doors. And you need a door opener. This is all that standardized test is. It helps you open the door. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: And in some later on in life, it's going to be something else. It's going to be a test to get into grad school. It's going to be the MCAT. It's going to be an interview. Like you have to prepare for it. You have to work for it. And that's what opens the door.
Speaker: I love that. and And that's something I say, too. It's like always about creating opportunities for yourself. And it's better to have too many options than not enough options. And so better kind of like overwork it now a bit so that way you have more choices in the future than be like, darn, I wish I would have done a little better, taking that a little bit more seriously because now I'm out of options. Right. Yeah. And and also discipline.
Speaker: i do things as an adult that I hate doing. yeah I don't enjoy working out. I do it every single day. Every single day, I'm like, this is not my first thing to do. I'd rather be drinking coffee in bed. right But here I am lifting weights yeah again. So you don't always get what you want.
Speaker: Exactly. And that's where sometimes I do kind of intervene in that area just with The emotional regulation skills, like how to deal with frustration or how to deal with um something you don't want to do or annoyance or um just getting started. And so it's kind of like there's so many of these little skills that it takes to be successful. And so I just love also what you said about the age as far as your tutor's.
Speaker: It just makes it so much more attainable for a kid to be like, oh, that kid's only like four years older than me, right? Like this feels closer and it doesn't feel so far away. And I look up to this person so I can see how that would be an amazing motivator just for the students.
Speaker: question is, you may not see this, but if you do, um what about the families who are overworking their student, where they are grinding out like a ridiculous number of hours as far as ACT, SAT prep or grades where the kid's not sleeping enough or they don't have enough balance in their life? Like, are you able to help in any way like intervene or just like suggest that maybe they pull back a little bit?
Speaker: We definitely see overworked students in that regard. ah And, you know, we can't really get in the middle of like parental. Right, right, right. You're pushing your child. yeah We can't offer feedback and say, you know, it's going to be like, it's going to be fine.
Speaker: Hey, it's Laura. Let me take a quick minute to talk to the moms wondering, is my teen or young adult just going through a phase? Because sometimes what looks like pulling away, people pleasing or caring way too much about what everyone else thinks is really about something deeper.
Speaker: It can sound like, am I enough? Do I matter? Do I belong? And sure, some of it may pass, but your teen or young adult is figuring out who they are right now, and those questions can shape the choices that they make.
Speaker: That's where I come in. I help teens and young adults build the mindset and skillset for confidence, connection, and direction. If you're wondering what your child might need right now, let's talk about it. Book a free 30-minute discovery call at PositivelyHealthyCoaching.com. We'll talk about what you're seeing, what's underneath, and what might help.
Speaker: Okay, back to the show. One piece of advice that I would offer is, what is the point of this? Is the purpose to get them into an Ivy League school?
Speaker: Right. Because if they're working this hard to get into an Ivy League school and they're barely going to make the cut, guess what? They are going to be at the very bottom ah when they get to that Ivy League school. Right. And right now they're competing with high school students.
Speaker: And so they get to Harvard, Stanford. ah There's a great story in a book, David and Goliath, about a student who was, forget the name of the school, but it was one of the Ivies. I forget which one.
Speaker: And, oh, Dartmouth. She went to Dartmouth and just really, really struggled and, you know, Turns out, like, she couldn't get in into the program, the grad school program she wanted to. if you go to a state school, you know, that might be better. You might be the creme de la creme, get the chancellor scholarship, be able to lead in the community. So my own son, he did not want to go the Ivy route. He could have. he definitely would have been competitive in applications. He chose a state school. Mm-hmm. where he got a scholarship. He is on leadership ah at the business school. He's in the honors college. He got placed in some of the higher classes. He gets more internship opportunities because of that. So you really have to weigh, like, what are you working for and why and what is a reason behind that? And can you get to that goal
Speaker: But it may be look a little different than it did in your mind. Yeah. And if you're willing to do that, if the goal is to have an incredible high paying job and healthy child, you know, maybe it's maybe the pathway looks a little different. Mm hmm.
Speaker: I'm glad you laid that out in a real-life scenario with your own son because um so many parents that I see a lot are just pushing, pushing, pushing, pushing but they don't really, know haven't defined like that goal. And um yeah, their their child's absolutely miserable and they're not keeping up and it's affecting their just overall wellbeing in general. And so um it kind of puts me in the position of of kind of having to say, hey, you know, what is the... What is the plan here? And, um you know, is this really worth it? And I see so many success stories like you're talking about with your son where kids are in the honors college of a state school or they're doing amazing and they're confident and they're, you know, having such great experiences versus like you're saying, like just being at the squeezing in into maybe an Ivy League or an upper tier school.
Speaker: Is there anything else on that? Because, you know, yeah, I would say that, too, you got to think about the outcomes and what the end game is going to be. If you're pressuring your child to only do well in school and they're not getting the skill set they need for life, like what they are going to set their identity to is school.
Speaker: And so I've seen a lot of, oh gosh, I have a friend who I graduated with who went got his doctorate in divinity, got ah his medical degree, then went back for some other degree and just did not but have a career till 40. Oh, wow. You know, loved school.
Speaker: You want them to have an income and ah contribute to society and be able to think and rationally. You also don't want to create either a student who is going to go to college and completely rebel and say, I'm not doing that anymore and do the bare minimum. Yeah. Someone who is going to be so stressed because they're in an environment where they cannot thrive without someone pushing them. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: Or they attach their identity to their academic success. Yes. I've seen that in kind of firsthand, but also just kind of read about that where they get to the point of burnout and um they just completely shut down their mental health. I mean, that's where we see, unfortunately, with a lot of those very um competitive schools, um some of the worst mental health outcomes, some of the highest rates of suicide. And and so that's like...
Speaker: I hate to say it, but something to consider, right? Like, what is the point? And the whole point is like, why are you getting this education? I love that example of your friend who was just like a professional student. He just loved to learn and he just couldn't like get himself to get out there and like turn it into reality and something like have some type of return on investment for that. Because I imagine that was not cheap to do all that. Um,
Speaker: So yeah, is there anything else like, you know, just I love that you have this perspective of having these kids like right in this age your own like 20 year old and 18 year old speaking to a mom say who is has a 12 or 13 year old or a high schooler where they're like, Oh, we're just now getting into this like, now that you have this kind of major experience and the successful business and a mom as a kind of hindsight situation, what are your thoughts?
Speaker: Well, any I say the worst thing about being a parent of a middle schooler is that you have to relive middle school. like yeah i have I still to this day i' not met an adult who said, you know, the best years of my life were...
Speaker: Seventh grade. Yeah. I mean, that's when I peaked. Yeah. I do not like it was is so cringe thinking about me sixth, seventh and eighth grade. yeah And then then you get you have to it's like watching this train wreck, you know, is going to happen with the friends and the body and the academics and the fitting in the just space cadetness and like all of that it's just you're reliving it but it's almost worse because it's your child yeah and it ends you know they they they survive yeah and in high school's better yeah uh i don't know if that's advice much though it's just like uh empathy Yeah, and great perspective, right? Just knowing that it's temporary and also putting that spin on it is that our emotions do get sucked in to watching our child be either excluded or hurt or stressed or whatever it is that they're experiencing. Like I say middle school is like the Hunger Games. It's like literally survival of the fittest and your best friend will stab you in the back if it means their survival. And I mean, this is... one
Speaker: No, it's true. It's true. Like it's 100% true. Hey, just a quick timeout because I realized that in this conversation, we have this giggle. And in my guest and I had this little moment where um she was just exasperated sharing a story about her son always getting into trouble at school. And we both laughed just because how difficult middle school we remember it being and how sometimes it can be hard. um for kids to make good choices because they want to fit in. And um the other thought I was having at the time, I didn't say it, was that I have so many clients that have ADHD and that H part just really comes out during the day, unfortunately, sometimes. And also just they have a lack of impulse control. Where it does cross the line is very important to to really be aware of and to delineate, which is kind of things that are just a little bit annoying or maybe...
Speaker: exasperating for the teacher to have to teach in a class where kids are really kind of acting out. Where it's not okay, where it does cross the line, absolutely is if it is harmful to any other student. um I just want to make sure that people know that I am extremely sensitive to how students are impacting each other and how they're treating each other. It's all about having compassion and empathy and self-awareness. um I'm just saying this because this conversation was recorded a few weeks ago. And since then, the news is talking all about what happened at Cornell University. And I want to make sure my listeners know that, again, this is in no way being lighthearted about something severe or harmful. And I never condone any student harming anyone else.
Speaker: Now back to the show. Yeah. Girls are nasty. Boys are, they i mean, they get in trouble. Mm-hmm. i would pick up I would pick up my son from carpool and he'd get in the back of the car and he would say, so here's the deal. It's not my fault. and like Daily.
Speaker: And I got to the point where the school and ours I was like, and' i' I'm doing what I can. Yeah. know yeah and i love that I love the pre-frame on it. But, you know, that's the pull, right? e this for like For example, a teenage boy and and girls have different scenarios that we're explaining. But They have that, the number one desire of a kid this age is to be accepted and to belong and to fit in.
Speaker: And so when you have that competing with, oh, and I have to sit in class and learn, sometimes those things don't go so well together. Sometimes to kids... Very good kids, sweet, kind, loving kids do get into trouble because it's literally like their brain, and that emotional center of their brain is on, the gas is on and the brake is off and um they have they struggle sometimes. And sometimes they get sucked into things that really weren't their fault, right? They just were, they were there, they were sitting there or they saw it happen and somehow guilty by association. Yeah.
Speaker: It is. It is survivable. You know, um i would just encourage parents to, and again, i i I don't have the skill level that you have, but look, think back to your own experience and you were left out or you got bullied or you were doing the bullying and you're like, gosh, I really regret that. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. And it's the same. You recover. And your friends group changes. And have having a child, and I don't care what it is, where they feel like they can thrive in a certain area or they're really interested in a certain thing, just encouraging that to be an escape from all the other noise. but That's all it is. that just I think that's fantastic advice. And again, you know, a mom with a younger kid is really going to hopefully hear that and be like, okay, we can make it. We can do this. We can survive and get until, you know, things, it's not necessarily that things ever get easier. or It's just harder in a different way. But like that immediate, like reflexive tendency that a mom has that tiger bear, tiger mama instinct to like jump in and want to fix something. Like, I feel like that's at a peak its peak. They have to fail. They have to fail.
Speaker: They need to know, like, you need to give them a ah say space to fail. And that's everything. Like, if it's you fail a test because you didn't study, okay.
Speaker: I'm not going to your teacher and asking her to change the grade. And you and I are going to work through a plan on how you're not going to do this again. Mm-hmm. That's hard. It's really hard. Really, really, really. that That's real hard. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. So, I mean, and and it doesn't change, like, the instinct. i have to stop myself. So my 20-year-old is in finance. And i had an interview for an internship.
Speaker: I know someone at the bank where he interviewed. And I'm like, so have you heard back? Have you heard back? You haven't heard back? Should I? I think I should give a call. Yeah. And he's like, no, mom. No. And I'm like, that would be a really great internship. You know, we could do this. that' it Sure, she can call. yes Yeah. Yeah. Hey. And he was like, if you do, I will die. Yeah.
Speaker: The instinct is there. It It's there. When he gets a job and goes to work, my instinct is going to be to be like, so how's he doing? Right.
Speaker: Give me the scoop. Give me the tea. Yes. What's the communication? he good? Is he thorough? Does he have any spelling errors? Right. I love it. And just the idea that that, you know, we always do have that, but um we know that we either need to hold back for the most part or, um you know, if there is some reason to intervene, you know, obviously i I recommend getting your kids permission because if you do things behind their back, it's not going to go well. But just like having that mom awareness, you know, just kind of being like, wait, what is helpful and what is hurtful? Because, um yeah, maybe he gets, say you got involved and he gets the job. How does that really affect him, right? Is that going to um kind of impact him immensely, kind of self-esteem because he doesn't think he earned it? Or I don't know, that's kind of just like where they start to doubt themselves. What are your thoughts? Right.
Speaker: So I have a senior and there are these senior trips that, are put on by these outside groups. And there have been terrible stories. And some friends have witnessed firsthand, you know, the chaos when you get God help us.
Speaker: all the high school seniors from one town in a foreign country just because the drinking age is 18 at an all-inclusive resort. So several safety concerns.
Speaker: And I told my son, again, he's a senior and he'll be 18, so he can do whatever he wants. He's just going to have to use my credit card. he I said, I'm going. Like, I will chaperone. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: And I was trying to talk to the moms. He was like, I don't want to go on this big thing either. If you can talk these moms into going somewhere else, we'll all go somewhere else. But I couldn't do it.
Speaker: I could not talk these moms out of it. i sent them crime reports. I sent them, you know, reports on human trafficking in the area. I yeah that like i did all my researches and I could not move these women.
Speaker: um I was like, anybody want to go to Fiji? Anybody. Pick anywhere in the world yeah besides Bucicana. And so i I said something to a mom and I was like, well, I'm going and I don't care if I have to sleep in the bed with him. Yeah. I'm going and all these kids, all the boys know me and they're not going to want me there. i can tell you because I will be on them like white on rice. Yeah. Yeah. Everywhere they go, i go too. And if they're okay with that but yeah that that, this is okay. And so immediately, immediately I get a text from my son. He's like, mom, did you just tell everybody that you were going to sleep in the bed with me? Yeah.
Speaker: what Where's the mom code? Yeah, yeah. I know that. Can you believe they ran into it? Oh, my gosh. so So if you feel like you're overstuffing or that a mom is tattling on you, like i we we all do it. We still make mistakes. We're not perfect. yeah So please don't put me on a pedestal as Amanda has figured it out because I have not. there is never really Really, there's never an end to this, to be honest. There's never an end to like really figuring it out. That's such a great story. I'm glad that you shared that because it's true, right? It's like,
Speaker: where do Where do we draw the line? And my line, I always say this to to everybody, is when physical safety is involved, when there is life-threatening scenario or like your kind of the things you described, that's where we draw the line and we say, okay, what how are we going to make this work, right? So I love that you did that and that you stood your ground and you're like, I am, you know, getting involved here. So Amanda, how can people find you? How can they use your services?
Speaker: Studyville.com. We're there. You can email us at info, I-N-F-O at studyville.com. And we can get anything set up for just a brief tutoring session, college counseling, test prep, or ah if you just want to talk to someone. We're here. You know, we we get it. ah The homework fight shouldn't be something. yeah Cross that off your list because we we can we can help with that.
Speaker: I love it. I love it. and Well, thank you so much for sharing your time and your funny stories with us today. They were fantastic. And to all our listeners out there, continue to stay positively healthy. Okay, everyone. Bye. Bye.
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