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Flooded Laundry & Ghosted Friendships
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This week, the sisters dive into one of the hardest kinds of breakups — losing a close friend without warning or closure. Nancy opens up about being ghosted by someone she once considered family, and the Fishes explore the heartbreak, confusion, and quiet grief that comes with a friendship that simply… ends. From red flags to silent fades, they share their own stories of friendship loss and how midlife has reshaped what connection really means.
Of course, it wouldn’t be a Fishes episode without a little household drama: Kathy floods her laundry room with a rogue pre-treatment sheet (yes, again), Lynne’s dimmer switch installation goes wildly wrong, and everyone’s sourdough starter is still under attack by fruit flies.
Plus:
- How to talk to your daughters about friendship dynamics
- Skincare tips from a derm
- Dazzle Dry nail polish review
- Light summer book recs
- And a fast, no-fuss lobster roll recipe to eat your feelings with
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Feeling Ghosted by a Friend
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I have a very old friend, childhood friend. I haven't heard from her. Like all of a sudden we used to talk two, three times a week, text message each other. And literally I am being sight like ghosted. Like she has not respond to any of my messages. She has not tried to reach out. She has not returned a phone call.
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And I don't know what happened. Just all of a sudden She just has stopped replying to me and wanting to talk to me. We've been through every stage of each other's life together, and it feels particularly like mean and cold.
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to just not even give me any sort of like acknowledgement of like, did I do something wrong? Are you, yeah did something happen to you? Like at this point, I don't even know if like something happened to
Meet the 'Three Little Fishes'
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her. Welcome to Three Little Fishes.
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We're three sisters who grew up in the Midwest together, but have since spread across the country. I live in Los Angeles. I'm in Nashville. And I live in Philadelphia. We are all married with children, have all had careers, but now we stay at home with our families.
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Join us as we share secrets and stories about being women, wives, and mothers. We welcome you to laugh along, learn something new, reach out, and join our conversation.
Hair Color Dilemmas and Maintenance
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So let's jump in.
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What's up, fishes? What's up, fishes? Good to see you. you guys too What's happening? What's the news? Nothing really. i i got my hair cut and colored this morning, bright and early. My person is moving from one suite to another. So I got to go in at like 7.30 this morning to get my hair colored and I got a little trim.
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It's still kind of wet. If anybody's watching, you can see it's a little bit wet still, but i mean dedicated days to my life I mean, I have to get my hair cut or my hair colored every three to four weeks because I'm probably 90% And I know the Eau Naturale is such a vibe right now, but it's not my vibe.
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I don't write ever want to have gray hair. I feel like my gray hair is not pretty. It's not silver. It's not beautiful. It's wiry and gross. Same. I started going gray at like 30 and I'm like, what is this?
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and What is happening? amazing. what it is. And mom's like, I'm sorry, you got that from me. I was like, yeah I couldn't have gotten like your memory. i get your gray hair. ah You know what? She is like unbelievable. She's a real crap. I mean, honestly, it's yeah like, what? Yeah.
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I don't have gray hair. I don't know what I'm doing. I just feel like the maintenance is just like ridiculous. And then here's kit and here's Kathy. What are you guys talking about? What gray hair? I'm like, what? Yeah, I don't. Not not yet.
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Uh-huh. Yeah. Nobody likes to show off Kathy. Kathy, jump in. You have a funny story. What happened to you last night?
The Laundry Mishap Adventure
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So, you know, it's summer.
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ah have everybody's home. i was in the kitchen making dinner and two of my kids were sitting at the kitchen island with me and we're just talking and um but I was doing laundry at the same time.
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What people don't know about you, I will just really quickly like step in. and Nobody on this planet, i would bet my I would bet a lot of money on it, does not do as much laundry as you do at your house. It's unbelievable.
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ah You don't have little people anymore. The amount of laundry is astounding. I'm just going Well, I have one child that is like three people. So I'm just saying. Yeah.
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But my husband actually was trying to be sweet because I told him I had changed the kids' beds when they were at lacrosse tournament. And I kind of hurt my back because their beds, I have to like lift up the mattress to tuck it in.
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and I think I've just, you know with all this graduation preparation, I tweaked my back outside doing
Household Dynamics Post-Mishap
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the yard work. So i flared it doing that the other day. And I just told Peter, I said, would you help me change those sheets? Well, he ended up just doing himself, which was very sweet.
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But then those sheets actually had blood on them because he had cut himself and got blood all over them. And I was like, ew. That's nasty. So in in my head, i was like, I want to take them and soak them in the sink.
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And we're going to like pre-treat them before I put them in the wash. Well, he put him in the wash himself and the dryer. And I was like, dude, what are you doing?
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So yeah i didn't say anything. i just took him out of the dryer and put him in the sink. And I really started like pre-treating them. Well, as I was doing that, I was like, I went back in there and looked at him and the water had not really gotten that high. So I added some more, you know, chemicals to help with all that. Well,
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I turned the water on. Well, went back in the kitchen and i forgot to shut the water off. So my two boys and I are,
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You know, we're having a great like little chat at the counter while I'm cooking dinner. And then we look at each other. We're like, what is that sound? They're like that noise that's driving me crazy.
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What's this chirping? What is it? A little alarm. And then I realized, oh, my God, what did I just do? I ran to the laundry room. Water is overflowing.
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the sink down the floor into the hallway. Grayson, my son is like, mom, what did you do?
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And I was like, oh my God, I forgot to shut that water off. And then we're trying to like handle it without alerting my husband, because I would know he would just like fly off the handle.
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But then I realized that it had gotten in the basement, like down below. Because it's going through the ceiling, right? Yeah, through the ceiling. So it's like going out the laundry door, down the ceiling.
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The alarm is going off, but you're going to try to be like, Pete, don't worry. Don't come out. There's nothing to see here. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it. I was trying to handle it, but then... I had to get him involved. So he actually, you know, there was a little yelling, but not like super yelling like I was expecting.
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um So what I'm hearing is Pete will never do laundry again. Well, I did have a talk with him about it because I said, you know, can do it right.
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I appreciate you, but like, could you just stay in your own lane and do your thing and I will do mine. Like, I really don't want you in here. So this is Peter's fault that you overdid. You made a flood in your house. This is Peter's fault?
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I said, I take full responsibility. I did tell him that, but I said... So I want to know where the alarm came
Preventing Floods with Water Alarms
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from. Like, where do you have an alarm that locked? Where have that too? Yeah. So i had I bought these, like, i think a long time ago, our washer, we had a problem with it and it leaked and we got a flood in the laundry room, but it was not like this...
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as bad as this, but we ended up getting these like little alarms. Cause I was like, you know, we have no idea if something's leaking under there. ah bought them on Amazon like years ago. And they're, I mean, honestly, they're like 40 bucks. Yeah.
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For like five of them. I looked them up this morning because I'm like, you know, those little things saved my, you know what? So did you, so you put these little, they, they're, they look like ant traps, right? But they're alarms. They do. They look like ant traps. They're like pods that you just like put under the machines. They're battery operated.
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ours are connected to our alarm system. So ours are are by our furnaces because we have four furnaces. Yeah. And you, like if the condensation fills the tray, then it triggers this little moisture hot or whatever.
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and it triggers the alarm. and it sends me a note, which I have had before. um Well, that's fancier than what the... Yeah, I was just going to say, if you're not that fancy, it sounds like the secret you have a kind of a cool secret that these little pods yeah are a great way to...
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to make sure if you have a leak that you're notified right away. So what these what's what are these secret pads called? Well, I will, I posted it on our link.
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There's a MetTac. So the kind we had, I looked and Amazon for some reason wasn't selling them, but they have, they have a similar type called MetTac and there's a five pack that I believe is $39. Yeah, that's worth it's worth it. It's like so inexpensive. It's a place where you have water.
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Yeah. Yeah. I mean, honestly, if we didn't have that alarm, who knows? Yeah. What so but would have happened? I mean, you have damage. do you have water damage? No, I think we're okay. Like Peter had to cut out a little bit of the, um, ceiling like foam that was around our HVAC cause water had gotten in there.
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But, um, then we got a fan out to like, but it was in a lot of our unfinished area. Thank goodness. Okay. Okay. Well, you know. i can And you know what else is happening
Evolving Friendships
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with you? And I'm going to make fun of you a little bit is you're so you're like OCD like dad, like you're like out of hand, like with your like, you fester and like you can't you hold on so tight.
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Nobody wants blood stained sheets. I'm with her. That's nasty. Yeah, exactly. I mean, you wouldn't want that. Yeah. I don't.
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No. I'm just saying. I'm calling foul, Nancy. You're, no. and and and I mean, I am probably do have a little OCD sometimes, but I don't think I'm super bad. You are about something.
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right I mean, I'm just going to say, I'm not sure if it's really like critiquing yourself accurately. Maybe i am I'm just saying.
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i don't You know, Kathy, you're lucky that you were home. You heard it. You caught it. I have my next door neighbor actually had a water incident where they, I don't know if a pipe broke or they left a sink on or something.
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And it flooded their house because they were they have ah like an apartment downtown too. And they were downtown for a little while. It flooded their whole house. oh And so now they can't even live in their house.
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They have to do all this like construction and rebuild. They had to do a huge um homeowners insurance policy. I mean, it was a big deal. so I mean, it was a little bit of a Blondie moment, but that's okay. i did a Blondie moment the other day. want me to tell you what my Blondie moment was?
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Yes. So here in the South, we're having a heat wave, right? And I've been like turning off the lights and trying to keep the house cool, just, you know, whatever.
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And we've gotten a couple of new lights put in, but for whatever reason, like the power has surged a couple of times and one of our, like the dryer in the laundry room went out.
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So I had to go down to the garage and flip a circuit and get it back on. And then a couple of days after that, our refrigerator in our kitchen and our laundry room and our kitchen are connected.
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That went out. So, I, Also, the lights in the laundry room just would not turn on. And I was like so frustrated about it. So Rich got home from work one day and i was like, Rich, the refrigerator isn't working and the lights in the laundry room are not working right. So can you go flip the circuit and just do the main breaker and just like trip it all and reset everything? It should be fine.
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So he does that. The refrigerator turns back on, but the lights in the laundry room still are not turning on. He comes upstairs. He's like, is this fixed? And I said, no, the laundry room lights are not working and I'm in here all the time.
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And he's like, okay, let me look at it. And I just recently replaced the lights and I had a dimmer switch put on. He moved the dimmer switch up and the light magically turned on.
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And he was like, okay, Blondie, I mean, that was something else. And I'm like, You mean it's been working this whole time? So for like two days, I was complaining that the lights didn't work.
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Oh my gosh. Okay, Blimey. Oh my God. I mean. That's funny. That is funny. Not a finest moment. but And I was so mad about it too. I was like, what is wrong with this place? Like, I just got these lights for good.
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The O-N. Is it on? Yeah. plus One of those like big toggles where it's on or off, but I forgot it had this, like I ah got a fancy one where it's got the little slider thing on the side.
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yeah Are you saying, are you saying you've got too fancy? I've got too fancy. I don't even know how to work my own lights. Oh my gosh. So Rich had to come in and he was like, Glenn. um I mean, what's going on? All right, you all, before we get into it, I just want to remind everybody to continue to please rate, review, comment, invite your favorite fishes to join in and to jump in and join our conversation.
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Today, i thought that I was going to bring up something that's kind of sensitive and I'm kind of having a hard time with it. And I just thought would throw it out to you all into the world about friendships.
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And as we've gotten older, have you noticed any of your friendships changing or evolving or even some ending? So I recently have a very old friend, childhood friend, and, you know, i just, I haven't heard from her.
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Like all of a sudden we used to talk two, three times a week, text message each other and literally I am being sight like ghosted. Like she has not respond to any of my messages. She has not tried to reach out. She has not returned a phone call.
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And I don't know what happened. Just all of a sudden, she just has stopped replying to me and wanting to talk to me. Has this ever happened to you? i mean, I've never really had that happen. i know.
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You know, things change. I have had friendships that have gone by the wayside for whatever for one reason or another. Sometimes it's, you know people, like I have one friendship, and this sounds kind of crazy, but like she was sort of like an adjunct friend, but she was always like an hour, hour and a half, two hours late to everything.
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And I just got to, and I would say something like, i can't be waiting around. Like, what are you doing? But, and she didn't care. Like to her, it was not a big deal. Things happen, things came up, it would make her late and you know I should just be understanding. And so eventually i kind of let that friendship fall by the wayside because I was like, you don't care about anybody else. you Your own time. And I don't want to be involved in a friendship like that.
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And then I had another friendship that went by the wayside that I thought we i would be friends with forever. but we got into a like a disagreement about the kids and And um again, i just was like, I can't manage this.
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And that really hurt my feelings horribly. um But typically when people like hurt my feelings, I can say something and we can work it out and we can apologize and we can get through it.
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So I feel like that somebody is... completely dead silent is tricky because you can't resolve it. You know, it's, you don't know you don't know what's happening because they are not willing to communicate. And so that's extra hurtful to me.
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You know what I mean? Yeah. I mean, for me, I don't know. I don't know what happened. I don't know if the last time we spoke, I said something she didn't like, which I feel like I can read people pretty well, like yeah that. I didn't realize something was egregious or,
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I'm just not quite sure.
Coping with Friendship Loss
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i um struggling with the fact that we've been such good friends for so long. Like, you know, she knows every, we've been through every stage of each other's life together.
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and it feels particularly like mean and cold to just not even give me any sort of like acknowledgement of like, did I do something wrong? Are you, yeah did something happen to you? Like at this point, I don't even know like,
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Something happened to her and she just... Well, you live in different states too. So I think that makes it a little tricky. i think, you know, it's always hard when you can't communicate with somebody because you can't resolve it or even just be like, you know what?
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We can't get past this, so... you know, good luck. And I'm not perfect by any stretch and I make missteps and I hope, but and I hope that I like own it and I would never intentionally want to be hurtful or yeah cause anybody pain. And if I did, i would like to know about it and try to make amends. So I think that's extra hard for me to, to be like, oh gosh, I've done something so egregious that I,
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can't You don't even want talk to me about it. And I don't even know what that misstep was. And i feel like at this stage of my life, I've never had of friendship fall out like this before.
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and i didn't anticipate it And i I'm kind of like, I feel like I'm mourning a loss. Like I feel like yeah it is I'm really sad. Yeah. I have a friend and that I've been friends with forever.
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And I feel like she and I are not as close as we used to be. and I think I never did anything, but I've always felt like she's more like selfish sort of like.
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I feel like her family always takes precedence over like what's happening with mine. You know what i mean? and I just get tired of that. Like my family's important too, you know what I mean?
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So I don't know, friendships are so super hard, especially long distance. Yeah. yeah In fact, one my like really good friends just moved last week.
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I'm feeling sad about two because I know, cause we've moved a couple of different times and it's like, you just don't keep, I think it's hard to maintain those friendships long-term.
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or at least it has been the case for me, you know, mean, hopefully it's not with her, but, um, Well, it takes a lot more effort. Like we moved and I'm still really good friends with a lot of my friends from back into the Chicagoland area, but it is a lot of effort and the friendship sort of changes a little bit because you're not chit-chatting during your walks in the neighborhood.
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You're making a conscious effort to like call and you know, have a catch up and share stories and try and engage with your life. So it definitely changes and it is a lot more effort. I feel, I'm sorry. i feel like this is like, it hurts your feelings.
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Yeah. I feel like you mean you're not worth the effort and the ink the anger and the fight. Like you want to be worth the fight to your friends. And when they shut down and don't talk to you,
00:20:57
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it feels like you're not worthy of even a fight in any mean. So think that's hard. I just feel like next to the two of you, i mean, truly, like she was my she was my next person. Like, you know, so it's just this, it's just bizarre because I feel like it came out of nowhere.
00:21:16
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And I don't know, i don't know how, i don't understand it at all. So that's the that's the hardest part too. Like I was listening to Mel Robbins and her big thing is,
00:21:27
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you know, let them and this would even fall under this category. Somebody doesn't want to be with you. Let them. It's actually a beautiful marketing thing,
Letting Go of People According to Mel Robbins
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right? Like you can like spin that any way you want to be.
00:21:38
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Let them do that. It's their it's their loss. It's their it's their choice. Don't spend any energy on it. But on the flip side of that is, yes, I'm going to let them, of course,
00:21:50
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But I still, it still rocks me to the core and it still hurts my feelings. And also I do feel a loss. And I feel, i wish that I could speak on if I've done something so egregious, I wish I knew what this was so I could correct it or, you know, like, f out it or fall or fall on my sword about it or like whatever.
00:22:15
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yeah know it's, so it's just this, it's just this weird thing of, I'm not sure. how the let them theory really helps in this situation. like like So I don't know.
00:22:26
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I mean, I know this person you're talking about and I'm, I honestly think it's probably just a temporary thing. I mean she's going through a lot right now and she probably needs to process it herself and maybe she just needs some time.
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And because you are so close to her, maybe she's she just needs time to be like, she's got to figure out her own emotions and how to deal with them, you know, and how she feels about what's going on in her life.
00:22:52
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So i I would just take a pause, Nancy. and Like if you hurt somebody's feelings, are you some, or if somebody hurts your feelings, are you somebody who's like right in the moment? Like that wasn't nice.
00:23:07
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You just hurt my feelings. you say something or do you kind of let it like lie and then you bring it up later? Or do you never bring it up and you just like let it slide? Like, what are you guys like?
00:23:21
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Um, It depends. i do I do both. It just kind of depends on the situation. Like I have a hard time holding stuff in because then I fester about it and it it affects me.
00:23:33
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Like to the point where Tim is like, you have to say something, like either say something and like, you know, process it or you have to let it go. So I'm ah i'm a processor.
00:23:46
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But sometimes if I feel like it's a newer friendship or it's an acquaintance, I often just... try to just roll with it because I don't like to create waves unless it's something super egregious that I have to deal with it. Yeah, I concur.
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You're like that too?
00:24:03
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How do you handle it, Linda? I would say probably 50, 60% of the time I'll say something in the moment. um And then if I don't say something in the moment, I probably just would never say anything.
00:24:21
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Yeah. You know? Yeah. And like sometimes like I really there was a was having a play date. This is sounds so silly, but I still think about it because I'm like, gosh, I must have really misspoken or I did not express myself very well because I was hosting a play date.
00:24:39
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And this mom was telling me that her child had had a conflict with a mutual friend of ours. And she was like she was kind of saying she was embarrassed that her her child acted out and, you know, and I said, well, I was trying to be supportive and I was like, you know, kids are kids and maybe, maybe their blame on both sides. Like maybe something happened.
00:25:06
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I also know this kid, you know, you know, she, This child is great, but, you know, she would at this child would stand up for herself. Right. Or himself.
00:25:17
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Like, so like maybe, you know, maybe your child, maybe he feels like he wasn't totally in the wrong and.
00:25:27
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A few minutes went by and she's like, I think I should let you know I'm very good friends with this family. We're very tight and I just feel like you should know. And I about died because I was like, wait, what did you just hear me say? Like, I also think this is a great family.
00:25:45
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don't think less of this kid because they had a conflict with your kid. I'm trying to give you support, like of being like kids are kids. And maybe this was like... You know, I see that everybody's upset about it.
00:25:57
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You know, I was trying to be like supportive, but she heard me like totally. Bad mouth the other kid. Yes. Which was like. No good deed. Right.
00:26:08
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To this day, I still think about it because I do know that they're very good friends. And I'm just like. gosh, I hope that like, you don't really think I was badmouthing them because that wasn't the case at all.
00:26:21
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And i still hold on to that. So now I'm just like, I just need to be very careful about what I say. But that's not how I operate. I really do try to be nice.
00:26:33
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And I'm not trying to be hurtful to anybody. And I think that's the other thing of Maybe you don't know me very well to know that that's where you thought I was coming from. So it's like, I feel like I, it's tricky, right? I feel like I try to get people benefit. But this other friend of yours does know you well and does know you would never, ever intentionally hurt someone's feelings. So that makes it extra painful to have this person kind of give you the cold shoulder about that.
00:27:04
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nothing ginormous yeah from your perspective. And it's giant if it's ginormous from their perspective, like, reach out, please. Yes.
00:27:15
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And I think the other thing is I'm struggling with is that I think life is hard for a lot of people right now. I mean, we are we are in the TV industry and for people who are not in it,
00:27:28
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it is a It is a terrible time to be in TV. It's very, very difficult. Like, it it's x it's not doing well. It seems like a horrible business.
00:27:38
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I just got to tell you. Like, things are not good. You know, we it's it's not business as usual, and a lot of people are hurting. So we spend a lot of – we live in an area where there are a lot of production people, television people, people are writers, directors, you know – editors, people who do all the posts, like everybody's hurting and life is stressful. And I just feel like, I don't know, everybody may be even more sensitive and I may be one of them, but it's just like, I wish everybody could just take a beat.
00:28:12
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And I don't know, it just feels like everything's raw. And I'm just like, and there's, and even with this friend who's kind of cut me off, it's like, Even if I did something egregious, you're having a hard time, but life is stressful for me too. yeah yeah i do I not do things?
00:28:30
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yeah Yeah. Empathy. I mean, I'm sorry. it Hopefully we'll all shake out and hopefully she reaches out and, you know, you air your grievances and work it out because, you know, you are good friends.
Sharing Friendship Experiences
00:28:46
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It will work out, Nancy. I know it will. hurry I mean, this was a this was a deep one, but I would love to, you know, like...
00:28:54
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Well, to our listeners, like how do you react? like When someone hurts your feelings or you inadvertently hurt someone's feelings, like what do you typically do and how do you get through it? I mean, I think you heard some of us really address it right away. Some of us think about it a little bit. like I don't know what the right answer is, but for sure, it's not ignore it forever because- nothing ignoring is no good.
00:29:21
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All right, you guys, I'm gonna move us on. I'm gonna move us on and try to lighten it up a little bit before I like my go get into a puddle here.
Summer Audiobook Recommendations
00:29:32
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I've been obsessed with audibles.
00:29:34
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I am dyslexic and I do read but I really lean into an audible lately. And I've been taking them on walks and around the house, I've been listening and I have found some I have three reads or three reads that i ah just recently listened to that I really enjoyed. And I thought maybe I would share with you guys in case you wanted, you know, just a summer read, something light. Book club.
00:29:59
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Okay. So, um, ladies, I don't know if you've heard of these books, but the three that I found that i really finished and I liked is One Golden Summer by Carly Fortune, Funny Story by Emily Henry, and The Wedding People by Allison Espach.
00:30:18
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Okay. So if you guys are looking for like a fun read and easy, maybe a little sex, yeah Are these a good book that I could have in the car with my son, Grayson, on our way up to Canada or no?
00:30:33
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Would it be, like, awkward?
00:30:37
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I will tell you a couple. There's a couple, like, sex scenes, but you can always, like, like fast forward. I mean, the he's 21. I mean, he's Like, I mean, it's but...
00:30:51
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um Well, one he's almost 21, right? Isn't it? Isn't it August? Yes. Fast forward. Yeah, just fast forward. Put your earbuds in, Grayson. I have the best one. Yeah.
00:31:05
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I mean, I really
TV Series Spotlight: Owen Wilson as a Golfer
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liked it. And then if you aren't into reading and you were looking for something else light, Tim and I just happened to come across on Apple...
00:31:15
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apple Stick with Owen Wilson. Have you guys heard of this show? No. It's series. I'm not bad for it. Golf, right? it's about It's like about a golfer, an ex-golfer. Yeah. And it's pretty good. So if you're looking for a new show and they're releasing it like every week, it's like a slow release.
00:31:33
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Oh, okay. Of the episodes. I want to revisit the sourdough starter with Kathy. Have you moved your sourdough starter? I sent you the directions.
00:31:45
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No. Okay. So sadly, no. in In fact, Grayson asked me about that because he enjoys sourdough bread. And I said, I have to get a new jar.
00:31:56
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And i actually looked at some yesterday at the gro at the grocery, but they come in like ah six or eight pack and I don't have that many jar. I mean, I'm not, you know, making this for the whole neighborhood.
00:32:11
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But, Kathy, those jars are not that expensive, and you'll find uses for them. It's always nice to have extra storage. I know, but- I use them all the time for leftovers. But um you could also buy- I'll actually attach the link. I just bought some new bigger ones for my sourdough.
00:32:31
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I think they're 32-ounce jars. I got two of them for like- you Yeah, send that to me. $6 or something. So I'll send that to you. say I actually had one. Yeah. You only need one, but I was thinking about- I thought it was too small.
00:32:46
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So yeah, I would appreciate if you'd send me- Sure. Kathy, I just want you to send pictures and maybe document this, like this journey of sourdough because you have like, I think that would be kind of neat for you document- now I don't know if I should do it because I'm getting ready to go up to Canada for a while. So- Like would I have to travel with me?
00:33:09
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I mean, and you could. Why not? You havet have a dog. You have your dog. You have your son. Why not sourdough? not? Really? um why not really Yeah.
00:33:20
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I mean, I think I took it up last year. and don't know. but yeah You're going to keep the fruit flies out, though, because it will have a lid, right? Yeah. Well, I have i have to get my new thing, Nancy.
00:33:31
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Are all your fuel all your fruit flies gone now? Did you kill them all? No. The crazy thing is, is Grayson said that our bag of potatoes had something, like a little fly in it. And I was like, what? What?
00:33:47
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I don't know. So you know I feel like I need to maybe put out like a little trap or something. So I was laughing because we actually got some fruit flies. I mean, it's just been so hot and everything is just kind of like, I think ah they're coming home with us from the grocery store.
00:34:04
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So um they're like secret hiking, they're hitchhiking and the fruit and like I'm washing the fruit and all the things. So um if you put a little bit of vinegar, apple cider vinegar in a glass and put plastic wrap over the top and then poke ah holes in the top of the plastic wrap with a fork, just a couple holes, they fly in there and then they die. And so we have a couple of traps that,
00:34:32
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on our kitchen counter. And a friend of mine was over for dinner on Sunday night and she listens to the pod and she was laughing because she was like, oh my gosh, the sourdough story is so funny. And she's like, and I said, you have fruit flies too? Because I see these little traps. I'm like, yep.
00:34:48
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So it's just that time of year where, you know, the fruit flies come out, but it's easy to catch them. Just put a couple of, you know, small, you know, glasses out with some saran wrap and some apple cider vinegar in there and you'll catch them. No problem.
00:35:05
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Okay. Yeah, it works. I do it too. It works. Yeah. I mean, some people have said you had to put like dish soap in there, but you do not just apple cider vinegar. It's all you need. I just want to circle back to last week. We kind of talked about summer and our summer fun.
00:35:21
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Um, But I did want to mention, i read an article, it was from the University of Rochester's Dermatology. They had five skin tips for summer, which I thought were good. And a lot of it's just common sense, but you have to stay hydrated because you know your body needs the fluids.
00:35:42
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I golfed with a girl last week and she like almost passed out while we playing golf. I was like, oh my gosh. Yeah. um Sunscreen that you have to have zinc oxide and make sure you reapply. And then you've got to eat like the antioxidants, like berries, fruit, leafy greens, stuff like that, that are good for you and moisturize.
00:36:07
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I mean, the hydration is tough, especially when you're working outside or you're playing outside and time gets away from you. So you almost have to hydrate before you go and then hydrate as you're out there.
00:36:20
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Keep the body going. Kathy, I'm also going to just really quickly ask you, you sent Lynn and I a text message about emu oil. Like you, what, what is this?
00:36:30
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Like, what is this? And where are you finding this stuff? Is it even vetted? Emu oil. Okay. So I was just looking and Yeah, we were looking at skincare products and it just happened to come up on like Google. And I was like, oh, because it talked about hair loss.
00:36:50
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like And I was like, my husband suffer is starting to suffer from that just a little bit. He's got like a little spot that I know he's self-conscious about. And I was like, oh, does this work? Maybe.
00:37:03
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Yeah. well it's like an know like Is it like an elixir? I well i this and i think it's popular. like it's It's not like they say it's good for that, but it's good for your skin because it's anti-inflammatory.
00:37:18
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um i think there's been a couple like articles about it and research, but I honestly don't know if it's true or not. yeah like I think there needs to be more research about it, but this one article says like,
00:37:33
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it could help increase hair growth by like 8% a month. Peter, i don't I don't know if this will work or not, but here, I bought you a gallon of it. yeah know we all trust we all We all try like the magic stuff, right? To make it younger.
00:37:49
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Why not? If you don't try it you never know. It's true. I feel like some of the holistic stuff really does work for certain people for whatever reason. Like,
00:38:00
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It might not universally work for everybody, but if you try it, it's not expensive and it works for you. i mean, yay. Give it a try. do want to mention one more thing because remember how we talked about dazzle dry for the pedicures?
Dazzle Dry Nail Polish Review
00:38:15
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Yeah.
00:38:15
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Well, I had gotten my pedicure a few weeks ago with Dazzle Dry. i just took off the nail polish. My toes are perfect. No like decalcification, no nastiness like I had with that gel. So wow that it worked.
00:38:32
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That's amazing. all I concur with that. Dazzle Dry does work and it did last just as long as the gel, in my opinion. Well, it didn't destroy my nails. which And it doesn't destroy your nails, which is great.
00:38:46
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so All right. now that you've Now that you've tried it out, I i can give it a try now. Thanks for Yeah, we took the hit for you, Nancy. Thanks for taking the hit. I appreciate it. All right, y'all. What's for dinner?
00:38:58
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So I've been thinking about this because I love summer and I think of the East Coast and lobster
Making Lobster Rolls with a Twist
00:39:06
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rolls. I love a good lobster roll. And the talk in my house right now, though, i don't ever make we don't have seafood at home because Johanna, our youngest, has a shell.
00:39:19
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She's not allergic with she's not going go into anaphylactic, but she has a sensitivity to it. So it makes her sick. So every time we tried, it's made her sick. But she the doctor said she could grow out of it. But the only way to know is if she can try.
00:39:33
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She can try it again. She really wants to try shellfish. And Tim is like, what, Nancy, why not? Why not let her? She's curious. Let's have her do it. And I'm just like, you know why I don't want to do it?
00:39:46
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Because I'm the one who has to deal with her being sick. Yeah. So I was thinking about a lobster roll, but trying to make it like with like imitation crab. Could you do that?
00:39:59
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Well, that's not trying it out if you do that. I'm trying to have a spin on it. I mean, you could make her sick and be like, see, Johanna, you can't have this. I mean, you could be hardcore.
00:40:11
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I do feel like some people have sensitivity to shrimp and they don't to crab. So you could find some sort of like shellfish that maybe she doesn't have a sensitivity to.
00:40:27
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Um, but I would definitely, I would have the waste basket near. i mean, I don't know if that, yeah, that's a new decision. I feel like I don't know if I would get on that bandwagon, but.
00:40:44
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Well, you have to ask Johanna she's willing to do it or not. I have her talk to Jack Schultz because her sensitivity not fun. Yeah. Do you guys, I mean, what are your feelings of lobster rolls? Do do we like them or not like them? I love lobster rolls.
00:40:58
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I can't have lobster. So no, I don't like them. Oh, right. Okay. So this might not be a good dinner for you either. i love them. All right. I mean, I only have them every once in while because they're so rich and so like, yeah it's a special treat.
00:41:12
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But I love them. Like a butter roll, toasted. I mean, can't you like, the out so you can adapt you can adapt it though to anything, right? Couldn't she like you like use shrimp or like imitation crab or like you could kind of like spin it however you wanted, right?
00:41:27
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I suppose you could. I guess. It wouldn't be very authentic, but yeah, you could. would be a lobster roll.
00:41:37
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Imitation crab roll does not sound as delicious, but you do you.
00:41:47
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So anyway, I'm throwing this out. Like I'm going to, like, I'm going to post a lobster roll with, you can put whatever you want in it. You can put crab in it. You can put shrimp in it.
00:42:00
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You can make it however you want. Yeah. Okay. Okay.
Upcoming July Break and Staying Connected
00:42:04
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All right, y'all, before we wrap, um, we wanted to just mention that the three little fishes are going to take a little break after today. We're going to be off for July and then we will return back in August.
00:42:20
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Yes. Happy summer, everybody. we need a break. We need a vacation. but We are going to miss you guys. so you know So in the meantime, if you see our reels pop up, send us a note.
00:42:36
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00:42:47
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Sisters out.