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Empowering Moms to Prioritize Their Health for Generational Impact with Precious K Williams
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Join us on the Sol Well Podcast for a powerful conversation with Precious K. Williams, a mom coach and motivational wellness speaker. Discover how her experiences—from growing up in a blended family to becoming an instant mom—shaped her mission to help other mothers L.I.F.T. themselves first. Learn about the importance of holistic wellness, the power of community, and why it's crucial for moms to "take their turn". Precious gets real about the challenges of motherhood, overcoming burnout, and finding purpose in the struggle.
In this Episode,
- Her unique motherhood journey: Growing up in Chicago with Ghanaian roots, being part of a blended family, and becoming a bonus mom.
- Generational Health: Understanding the different areas of health beyond just the physical (mental, spiritual, social, etc.) and choosing not to inherit unhealthy patterns or burnout seen in previous generations.
- Moms on a Mission Wellness: The story behind her platform and the L.I.F.T. framework (Lighten load, Ignite spark, Freedom mindset, Take your turn) designed to help moms prioritize holistic well-being.
- Addressing Burnout: Recognizing the signs, getting real about the struggles (like wanting to drive away!), and finding purpose through those challenges.
- Faith & Wellness: Integrating spiritual health with physical and mental well-being, and the importance of being honest about struggles even within a faith context.
This episode is for you if:
- You feel overwhelmed, stressed, or burnt out in motherhood.
- You recognize unhealthy patterns passed down through generations and want to create a different legacy for your family.
- You struggle to prioritize your own health and well-being amidst family responsibilities.
- You're looking for a holistic approach to wellness that includes mental, spiritual, and emotional health, not just physical.
Guest Bio:
Precious K. Williams is a mom coach and motivational wellness speaker based in metropolitan Atlanta, GA. She is also the founder of "Simply Passionate Life" (SPL) and CEO of MomsonAMissionWellness, a lifestyle brand and wellness platform for moms on a mission to build generational health. Precious educates moms on how to L.I.F.T themselves first to create a ripple effect in the health of their families!
Her mission is to train moms on how to LIGHTEN their load, IGNITE their spark, and embrace a FREEDOM mindset, so they can finally TAKE their turn in their own lives and build generational health. Precious earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Health Science at Howard University and a Master’s Degree in Counseling at Georgia State University. Before becoming a mother she lost 75 lbs to transform her life and health. As a result, she is extremely passionate about education and holistic health promotion. With her experience as a loving mom of three and faithful wife of one, Precious coaches her clients and audience that generational health starts with you, "You can’t afford to put off your health another day; it’s mom’s turn!"
Connect with Precious
Instagram:www.instagram.com/preciouskwilliams
Website: www.preciouskwilliams.com/home
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Transcript
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Welcome to the Soul Well podcast, where moms of color find strength and community in the mental health space. Each week, we ignite inspiration as we set our intentions with affirmations and dive deep into honest conversations with fellow moms and mental health experts.
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We're here hold space for you, to shatter stigmas and elevate the voices of moms of color. We'll fight for policy change, empower you with mindful resources, and most importantly,
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remind you that you're never alone on this journey. It takes a village to raise a mother. Now let's meet at the well.
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Hey mamas and welcome back to the So Well Podcast. It's your host Autumn Colon and I am so excited to be back with you for another episode. Just a quick update. If you have been a listener for a while, you may have noticed we have been a little up and down with our podcast lately, but we are back on schedule.
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You can catch the So Well Podcast bi-weekly. We used to do every week and your girl, I'm a mom, I'm all the things. We have changed our schedule and we are now doing podcasts every other Tuesday. So twice a month, you can catch the Soul Well Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts.
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And we will be doing our normal guest episodes, the solo episodes. I'm excited to share some really great news about a new segment we have coming up soon.
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um But I'll stop yapping and get into the guest for today. Today's guest is Precious Kay Williams. She is a mom coach and motivational wellness speaker based in it metropolitan Atlanta.
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She is also the founder of Simply Passionate Life and CEO of Moms on a Mission Wellness, a lifestyle brand and wellness platform for moms on a mission to build generational health.
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Precious educates moms on how to l i f t lift themselves first to create a ripple effect in the health of their families. Her mission is to train moms on how to lighten their load, ignite their spark, and embrace a freedom mindset so they can finally take their turn in their own lives and build generational health.
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Precious earned her bachelor's degree in health science at Howard University and a master's degree in counseling at Georgia State University. Before becoming a mom, she lost 75 pounds, yes queen, to transform her life and health.
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As a result, she's extremely passionate about education and holistic health promotion. With her experience as a loving mom of three and faithful wife of one, Precious coaches her clients and audience That generational health starts with you.
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You can't afford to put off your health another day. It's mom's turn. And with that, let's jump into today's episode.
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Hey, mamas, and welcome back to the So Well podcast. I have my guest, Precious Katie Williams here with me today. Welcome, welcome, welcome. everyone. I'm super excited to be here. Thanks for having me, Autumn.
00:03:16
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Yay! I'm so excited. I was telling Precious before we hopped on, before we hit record, that I admire a lot of what she does with her brand and the moms that she supports online.
00:03:27
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um And so we're going to get into that a little bit later today. But to jump off our conversation, I want to have us start with our Moms Space segment, which is where I have my guests introduce themselves and share a little bit about their motherhood journey and or their experience of motherhood.
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wonderful hey y'all i am precious kay williams i love to describe myself outside of what i do first so i'm a lover of god i'm a jesus girl at heart um my family is from ghana west africa i was raised in chicago illinois graduated from howard university and i live in atlanta georgia so you're gonna hear all types of mixed accents in this conversation a little bit of nuck if you buck little bit of chicago mass choir um but you know as a millennial mom of african descent That has shaped my motherhood journey a lot.
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I was raised in a blended family. So my mom and dad were married after they had their own children and then had my sister and I. We all were raised in the same family.
00:04:29
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One big brainy bunch. Okay. Something I don't share a lot is that we didn't even know that they had other children. parents until we were teenagers. And so my culture, we talk about black folks keeping stuff private.
00:04:43
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Okay. um So we found that out in teenage years and mind blown, right? Like what? What do you mean? How does this work? What do you mean by that? Right? Like we know how that works, but how does that work?
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So just living and watching my mom raise my brothers like her own and watching my siblings who were not blood related, literally look out for each other as if they were.
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kind of shaped how I live my life today. um My husband was a single father when I met him. And so I went from being a companion past, traveling the country, traveling the world type woman to instant mom.
00:05:21
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And that journey was a very steep learning curve. I have a background in education. So I was familiar with child development. I have a counseling degree. Um, But it's different when it's your child.
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It's different when the child lives with you. And so I think the way I approach motherhood and approach approach working with moms is highly informed by the fact that I know how good motherhood can be.
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Like I know how much of a splash of cold water turning into being a woman and then turning into being responsible for other humans can be.
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and so that's my motherhood journey is a lot of just being able to say the real things. Like there is no hood like motherhood. You're not always going like your kids. um You're not always going to like this job, but that doesn't mean I'm going to be damn good at it, you know? And I say damn sometimes, even though i love Jesus, you know, like, like it's okay to admit those things because the Lord even tells us to cast our cares upon him, you know? And so I'm not for pretending in motherhood and,
00:06:27
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Yeah. So I'm in my own blended family ah with three daughters, two biological. The third is the child I chose first, right? I knew her before she became my daughter.
00:06:38
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And so that's my baby. And that's a little bit of the background of my mommyhood journey. Awesome. I love that. a lot of different experiences. And I heard you say on this, um the Soul Web Podcast, we talk a lot about generational experiences, how those experiences impact our motherhood journeys. I heard you say you know, we like to keep things private and you grew up in a family that was close knit and it really in, you know, and it's, it impacts how you mother and also how you help moms as well.
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right Yeah. first be Yeah, absolutely. That's so and important. And one of the things that I was reading about you and in your work is you really do a big emphasis on generational health and what that means. And so that's a perfect segue, right? You talk about these generational,
00:07:22
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experiences, whether, you know, passing down information or not passing down information and being, you know, like whether you're mothering the same as the way your mother mother you. um But health is also integral and important in that. Can you talk a little bit about why that's important for you and why it's critical for moms?
00:07:39
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Yeah. So there are seven areas of health, right? A lot of times people think about physical health only. and And as we are moving into this new generation of millennials, Gen Z, we're talking more about mental health, right? And social health, but there is spiritual health, right? there Like there is social health. There um is environmental health. There's a lot of things that impact your wellness journey.
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And so growing up, with a mom who had me at 40 right she had me four days after her 40th birthday um i saw a woman that didn't quite click to me until recently that she was in her 50s doing the best she could what she had you know raising others as an immigrant first generation business owner like all these things so the context in which i saw her live life was not in a self-care you know take care of yourself boundaries type of way I thought I would do it in a way that was highly self-sacrificial, highly...
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oh ah high level of stress, high level burnout. Right. And, but the one thing that did pass down to me was her love for the Lord and her faith.
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And so my spiritual health and wellness journey has been passed down to me. And I will always be grateful for that because that's the foundation of which I grew on. But I did realize that I did not want to be a mom.
00:09:03
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that was burned out, overwhelmed, never rested, like didn't take vacations outside of going to take care of my family in another continent. Like I wanted to be a mom that prioritize her health and um that journey for me started before having kids I knew that if I wanted to be that type of woman or that type of mom I had to be that type of woman so I lost 75 pounds before having children um I prioritize and naturally right so I went did you know I started by taking inventory of my personal health journey
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Although I had a health science degree, I wasn't implying applying that information until I really had that come to precious moment and say, you know what, you're in your mid-20s now. Like, you cannot keep hiding from the camera and relying on angles. Like, no, you got to do the work.
00:09:53
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And so that nexus moment is really what... and changing my health story. You know, like I don't have high blood pressure. I don't have high cholesterol. You know, these are things that my mom has, but I don't have because of that decision to tell change the health story. So yeah, generational health is huge. And I do believe that we don't have to accept what has been passed down to us.
00:10:17
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The things our moms and grandmas had to handle because they didn't have a choice. We don't have to inherit. And I'm always honoring my mom for doing the best she could when she had.
00:10:28
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And honoring her means that I don't keep passing on that same struggle that she didn't have a choice, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely. And, you know, I actually resonate so much with their story and saying that I lost 75 pounds also, but it wasn't so yes it wasn't until after I had kids.
00:10:47
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And I love that you spoke about preparing yourself for motherhood. And I want to come back to that. but Because one of the things that I think is important is is taking care of your health and your story. the One of the things that you talk about, my grandmother was a pastor and she instilled in me faith and taking care and you know like you know honoring God and praying and having a spiritual life be the foundation for who you know for how you how you exist in this world, but that generational health that, you know, pounds of sugar in the sweet potato, know, you know, ham hock and the collard greens, you know, like I had to teach myself how to eat because I didn't know I grew up with, you know, with so much processed food in my experience, like I had to relearn a lot of that health. And I i can imagine that that, you know, could be similar for you when you're in your experience, having to teach yourself how to feed yourself in a healthy way so that you can,
00:11:39
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pass that on to your children, you don't have to say, I'm not passing on, you know, high blood pressure or diabetes. Like that doesn't have to be the narrative of my children. If I make that choice and that single change with me. Um, so I just wanted to say like, I relate to you on that.
00:11:52
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Uh, but my experience came after, and you spoke about preparing yourself for motherhood because you have your chosen child and then you, you know, had your biological children, i'm you know, I'm assuming after that. Right. Yeah.
00:12:04
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Yeah. Yeah. um Can you talk a little bit about more of that preparation in your motherhood experience and what but that was like? Yeah. So I love what you mentioned about generationally and what we are passed down, what's passed down to us that we can't necessarily help. And then you have to relearn and unlearn, right? But one thing I want to mention about both preparation and the process of choosing to build generational health is that it doesn't only impact your kids, but it does go backwards and impact your family.
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So like my mom doesn't cook with accent anymore. um mom doesn't like put a whole bunch of ah palm oil in everything anymore. You know, she can she knows how to make jollof rice with brown rice. Though she's like, I'm not choosing to do that.
00:12:47
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Like that's for you guys. I want to make jollof rice. But she may sometimes like make sure she doesn't always use smoke turkey in her stew. There are things that now that because I've chosen this path for myself or going for walks and things like that and drinking her water, like these are things that impact my children. that That's all they know.
00:13:04
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But it's also undoing some of that generational ah habits on for them too. So if you're a bonus parent it or someone who's listening to this because you just love the the creators of this podcast, don't feel like you have to until you have kids to have that motivation. like That's going to impact the generation that's still here and it is not over now.
00:13:22
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Is this, you know, your your legacy goes backwards and forward. um And the preparation part, honestly, it was so cut and dry. I knew that I didn't want my base weight to be 245. I knew that. I knew that when you have kids, you know, it gets harder as you get older.
00:13:39
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Like I said, I have a health science degree from Howard University, best university in the whole world. And so yeah I know what happens to the body, right? I know not only that, but hormonally.
00:13:50
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um I did research two years through this program called the McNair Program about ah heart disease in Black women. And so I already knew all these things, but it's not knowing is not enough.
00:14:02
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You have to have the accountability and the community in order to be consistent. And so it was really about getting in the community of people who took care of their health, like in your mid-20s, not just going out to the club and drinking. Like I had to join different gyms. I started kickboxing, um join my youth young adult ministry, making sure that we had some health components in our young adult ministry, um making sure that we look at our bodies as the temple of the Holy Spirit, that you can't just talk about worshiping God with your lips, but then you're poisoning yourself the next minute with either sugar or alcohol, right? Like these things have to be addressed. And as women of God, we cannot continue to pretend like those things don't exist and they're not doing detrimental things to the mission he has for us.
00:14:48
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And so I think that for me, it was, it was at first really cut and dry that I got to get some of this weight off. Yeah. And then as I began the journey, I realized various components that I add in my coaching program today that were what made me successful, what made me lose the 75 pounds and never gain it back.
00:15:06
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And putting those pieces together, i won't pretend like during the time I knew exactly what I was doing, but now retrospectively, thankfully, I was able to put those things together and now help other people not have to go through the trial and error that I will.
00:15:21
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Yeah, yeah. Absolutely. And um so many things that you said there. The first thing that i that I absolutely love that you said is like how the generational like goes back. ah It goes back when you can see that your mom is like doing something to impact her life um and make a change. um And I know that that's beautiful to see and to witness and say, like oh, wow, like my mom's drinking water. She's going for a walk. I love that.
00:15:43
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um But another thing that you said and you spoke about, which segues into the next portion of our conversation, is about being on this mission. Right. And um you talk a lot about in your in your work, Moms on a Mission and your program. Can you talk a little bit about how that came together and what your program is and what it offers and what it means to you and moms that you work with?
00:16:05
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Yes, I can. i would love to. So once comes down it comes down to the belief that I have that with every child, something new is born in a mother, right? Every single one of my children from the first one that I met, you know, in May of 2011 and went into covenant with when I married her father in April of 2013.
00:16:28
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something new was born in me, just in that sign of that paper, putting that sand in there. We, but something different was born. And so when I had my first born is when I realized that I wanted to start putting my voice out into the world and created my personal brand and started just doing positive content. Right.
00:16:45
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Well, my second born was born in 2020. And so I was already making like faith, family, fitness, fun, like kind of surface level content. But and motherhood had been very good for me.
00:16:56
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you know So I came straight away from motherhood focused content. I did like family content, but I was running. Okay. I did faith content, but I never called myself a faith-based business.
00:17:09
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So once 2020 hit, it really hit me like, okay, there has got to be a way. Like I've been a ministry for over 10 years at this point. And there's nobody at that time that I could find talking about, I love the Lord, but I'm not liking my life.
00:17:26
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a what did that What do I do with this discontentment? How do I prioritize my health? How do I take my turn? And so I hired a business coach. I hired a coach and I said, come on now, this has got to be 2021. I said, this has got to be the year that I'm able to put this together because I cannot go back to being burned out.
00:17:46
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I cannot go back being burned out. sitting in the car wondering if I drive away, how far can I get before they notice I'm gone? You know, I can't go back to that. And in order to not go back to that, I need to, I found purpose in that.
00:18:01
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You know, I found that I need to help other women not feel that way. It doesn't make sense that I have this burning thing in my heart and I don't know how to make other women experience that same freedom.
00:18:12
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so So I hired a business coach and her name is Jasmine Chanel. And I did a program with her called Mom to Mogul. And it it really changed everything. Like I was able, she asked me the questions, like, why do people come to you? What are you, per like, what do you want to make sure people know before you leave this earth?
00:18:28
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You know? And what made you successful? Like losing 75 pounds and never getting it back. Like that's not, there's some, there there is some formula to it. So me, Jesus, her, sat down and,
00:18:40
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And I started going reverse engineering. Like what was the things that made me successful? And so that's where Moms in Mission Wellness came in. You know, that's where the lift framework comes in. So I teach women how to lighten their load, how to ignite their spark, how to embrace a freedom mindset, how to take their turn.
00:18:56
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I start with the spiritual weight and the mental weight. I help them see that, like, stop going straight to a diet, straight to workout plan. Like what is on your heart that's making food your...
00:19:07
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foodger Medicine. What's on your heart? Let's make it alcohol and drugs and medicine. What's on your heart? Let's make it Netflix till 2 a.m. Your medicine. Like, let's get that off your heart first.
00:19:18
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Let's give you the community and accountability, the safe space to say, you know what? If these kids leave these socks on this floor one more time, i'm I'm calling the police and send them away. right Like, just say it.
00:19:30
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And yeah without the disclaimer of, you know, I love my husband bad. You know what saying? kids are not everything. We know. We know, girl. Yeah. We get it get out Skip that part. You know what saying? Skip to part that got on your nerves.
00:19:42
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Because the truth of the matter is, the scripture about grumbling and complaining has absolutely nothing to do with actually grumbling and complaining. Right. and The scripture about grumbling and complaining is about working together and saying, do not work together and not grumbling and complaining and working together.
00:19:59
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It doesn't mean that you don't ever have a complaint. Right, right, right. And so why, how, if we never complain, how we to cast our cares upon the Lord because he cares for us? Got to make it plain.
00:20:10
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Hello, we got to stand out. That's it, right? God already knows, right? if If you couldn't complain, why did they let Joe, why did God let Joe complain for chapters on end, right? And so our community, our program really helps moms get a personalized approach to wellness that is more than weight loss.
00:20:29
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It's really about holistic health, um finding ho hobbies again, finding themselves again in motherhood, not walking alone. And so, Although I love Beachbody and I love Herbalife and i love all these amazing companies, this is something that was created by someone you know that has multiple degrees in this area, multiple life experience, and who's still in the walk with y'all.
00:20:52
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you know My kids aren't girls. My youngest is going to be five. You know what I'm saying? And so that's what makes us different. And that's what I'm going to keep doing as long as the Lord continues to keep me encouraged.
00:21:03
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Yeah, yeah. On the mission. But that is our program and our community in a nutshell. Thank you. Thank you so much for sharing that. I love that. And in that sharing, you mentioned something that I want to go back to because I love a story.
00:21:16
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You mentioned something about getting in the car and being like, how how how how far can I get? And I want to talk because our are our audience is ah protect predominantly mom.
00:21:28
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And so we we talk real talk here, right? Like what can you, can you talk about some of the things that you were doing in your life to perpetuate burnout, to perpetuate this this cycle of like, oh my God, I'm frustrated in my motherhood, right? that That then propelled you into doing this program Was it constantly working and not taking breaks? Was it just over-pouring out? Can you talk a little bit about that experience? Because I feel like moms need to hear that like you were at this place at some point building this program to then help moms to kind of say, like girl, I'm in the trenches.
00:22:02
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What was that like? I was in the trenches. I stay in the trenches. And the thing a beautiful thing about it is I coach myself with my own framework. oh Yes. Precious, are you lighting the load?
00:22:13
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Have you ignited your spark? Are you taking your turn? like are you Are you embracing mom guilt or do you have a freedom mindset? like I ask myself these questions regularly. But ah yes, in 2019, it was the year 2019, the year of our Lord.
00:22:27
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i was um I had two children at the time. You know how it's so funny that your most burned out point is when you start trying to have another child. You be like, girl, don't you recognize that you don't need no more kids? Here I go, because the Lord about the flesh being. anyway.
00:22:44
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What are you doing? Why would you do, why is you doing that? But it was right before I conceived my third youthful daughter. um And it's funny. Oh my God. so funny when you look back, but I, it was the beginning of school year. My first, my but my first daughter.
00:22:57
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So our, my bonus baby, her mom had just passed. And so it was a, it was a rough season. She started middle school. She was faring doing okay, but honey, the reality of the, I was the only mom now in her life.
00:23:12
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And, um the weight that I had on me. I had some things going on with me, with my sorority that I had just announced. It was just a lot, right? I had a lot of mental weight on me and hourly I was doing well. i had just been promoted at my job.
00:23:27
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I was a ministry at church. Me and my husband go together real bad. We didn't have no issues. But internally, it was, I was so weighed down. And the answers I would receive is I'm praying for you.
00:23:41
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have Pray about it. God sees you. It was amazing ah encouragement, right? Amazing empowerment, but there wasn't any actual solutions to how was feeling, right?
00:23:55
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And I didn't feel like anyone was able to help me ah with way how was feeling. So was one day they went in, you know how to let your kids go in the house after school? i was literally in the car with the ignition on, thinking it to myself, seriously, I can drive it to Tennessee.
00:24:11
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It'll take about two hours. And I mean, that my husband was in the house, so it wasn't like I was leaving them by themselves. But i was like, if I could just get away, i just need time to stop. And I don't want nothing to happen to nobody. i don't want nothing to happen to me. If just time could stop for a second so I can think, I just can't think.
00:24:30
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I felt like I just couldn't breathe. Like the car and at the time I realized, no, I'm having the anxiety attack. I called my sister and I was like, I can't do this. I can't do this. I can't do this. It was the expectations.
00:24:42
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It was the, I have to be perfect. My house is perfect. The grades need to perfect. My daughter's going to kindergarten. What's going on? Like I had all of that weight on me and it was just like, am I going to be able to do this for 18 Yeah.
00:25:01
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And that was the moment when I called two other friends after that, after I got my breath back. And I said, once I get out of this, I need to create something. Like this don't make no sense. I'm Googling, i'm all i'm figuring I'm doing all the things trying to figure out, you know, and even counseling, I just needed to know that this was not, like it wasn't something wrong with me.
00:25:22
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Like it wasn't something wrong with the way I was looking at life. Um, And God helped me. You know, God helped me to start asking for help. God helped me to start being honest. I said out loud that you don't always like your kids.
00:25:36
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You don't always like motherhood. That you can motherhood. being a mom without always liking the job, just like a doctor can love being a doctor and take PTO. Like, but our job does not often have that built in PTO system, you know? And so being able to say that out loud and people hearing me say that out loud was just freeing.
00:25:59
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It just broke the chains of perfectionism. It broke the chains of pretentiousness that often happens when you are a Christian and you're positive and you're happy. Like being able to say that and people like, oh, precious, the happy precious to saying that.
00:26:15
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And I felt like that breaking that chain off of me broke the chain off people around me. And so that we were able to have those conversations. um And so, yeah, I don't have, haven't had a,
00:26:27
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I'm going to drive away moment in a long time. But the beautiful thing about it is whenever I feel that weight rising up in me, I now have the tools. You know, I now know that it's time for me to take a break. I now know I have to reassess what's going on, what's on my plate.
00:26:42
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I now know I need to tap in. and then our so our routines in our household are set up to prevent me from getting back to that place again. Yes, yes. so many So many great nuggets in there. i'm like, ooh, which question going ask first?
00:26:56
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very frank One of the things that you said to me is you that i that stuck out to me and the things that you did immediately was village, reaching out to your village and reaching out to your support system.
00:27:07
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One of our mantras here on the um for the organization so well is it takes a village to raise a mother. And you called your friends, you reached out to your village, and I'm hypothesizing that Moms on a Mission was built because of that support that was needed in that in that moment. You being like, wow, in this instance, it's community, right, that that I need to, it's that taking a break.
00:27:33
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can you can Can you agree with that statement that it was like, that is, you know? Absolutely. They were able to attest. Like, they were the first people that were like, oh, my God, yeah. That would be great. But, of course, at the same at the same time, I was like, okay, i need seven I need time, right? So that was all. I didn't hire my business coach until March of the next year, you know? So think that's a signal anybody who is on a mission to help people. Like, it's okay to heal. It's okay to get a nugget from the Lord and let it sit there and until you're healed enough to actually do the work.
00:28:00
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You know what I'm saying? yeah Yeah, yeah. Yeah, they were like, you know, you got this, you know, they were encouraging me and they were walking with me and like, what do you need? You know? I think that I had that rich, like bonds with people, you know, that superseded just having to pretend, but not a lot people have that.
00:28:21
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You know what I'm saying? My son is from me. These girls that I called, their husbands were elders of my husband and our church. Like it was just, it was like trenches, you know what I'm saying? And so if you don't have that and you're constantly just showing up looking well,
00:28:35
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But not it's difficult. And there so platforms like SoulWell, platforms like Moms and Mission Wellness are so important because we have to get we have to take the mask off.
00:28:46
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We've got to have places where we can just be and no one's judging you giving you a scale or giving you a grade. Like, child, if it don't matter to God, why does it matter to you? like in my Right.
00:28:57
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my house is dirty like if i had to raise my voice and my children and i i repented and i told them that i did it like we don't have to sit here and pretend like we don't ever have you know moments yeah that's even 100 and so let jesus check me don't need you to check me exactly exactly hold me accountable right hold me accountable to the standards i set for myself but we're not helping women by setting the standard that's unrealistic and then not providing any support for that unrealistic standard.
00:29:28
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Right, exactly. Yes. And then another thing that you also said was, you know, now when you do have those moments of wanting to drive away, you now have the tools in order to be able to handle that.
00:29:43
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Can you talk a little bit about what the tools are that you're leaning on? And um if you're using them to to help moms in your program as well with those same tools. For sure. So like i said, our program is eight weeks synchronous, 12 weeks total. So eight weeks of working together in a small group of women towards the lift plan, the lift framework.
00:30:03
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uh teaching you all the things that helped me to stay out of the burnout cycle right um and some of those tools are the mom care routine i have a list i have a mental list now because it's like routine but i help women create a physical list with our workbook and all that that what are the things that you go to when you need social health you need physical health you need spiritual health like what are the things you go to because when you're burned out it's not time to brainstorm yeah It's not time to think about what you need at that point. You got to have a list. you and And then the people in your life need also know.
00:30:36
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So when I'm on the verge and I might not be able to tell it, my husband's like, okay, call Emma. Call Crystal. Like, okay, precious, I booked you ah this. Or have you been to, you know, like he knows the things on my mom care plan as well, because it's something that we have put in place, you know, routines.
00:30:54
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So my husband does bedtime every night because I am a morning person. I wake up at 5 a.m. m By 8.45, 9 o'clock, my mom clock is off. And so if I want to be the type of mother that my kids remember.
00:31:06
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I can't be doing no heavy lifting at 9 o'clock. yeah And so I help women figure out their rhythm and work routines. Like one of my biggest, one of them, I call it a biggest success story though. Like I've had moms lose 50 pounds. I've had like moms lost 35 pounds. I have moms get new jobs and move across the country.
00:31:24
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Like I have those type of amazing stories, but one of the biggest success stories is a mom that's a teacher of the year, mom of one, just an amazing human. I had never been on a a trip alone.
00:31:36
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Her son was 10. had never been on a couple's trip. Her son was 10 and she was driving from one side of town to go pick up her son from school, take him to practice and then come home every day.
00:31:50
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Well, her husband worked 10 minutes from the school. And so I said, have you considered your husband picking your son up from school and taking him to practice? And then some days you go to the practice or some days you don't.
00:32:01
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And she was like, I had never considered that. One conversation with her husband and he was like, Yeah, I would love that. He was allowed to do that because that's the system they had set up that coming her identity.
00:32:17
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She found value in being the one to do it all. But that gave her husband and her son another opportunity to bond. And now that's two hours of her life that the pressure is relieved. She can get off of work as a teacher of the year, as a department chair, when she can get to practice when she can.
00:32:34
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and your family out of a place of overflow instead of rushing through traffic to do the things that we've just seen our moms do. And so those are type of conversations we have. Like in the eight weeks, they have three one-on-one sessions. So yes, it's group, but it's still time to look at your life and say, where are the routines?
00:32:52
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Where are the things that fill me up? So girl, she went on two trips after that. Yes. She was like, I'm free. Yes. She went on a trip with her mom to Daytona for the... ah racing, which I felt like was so cool, right? I don't even like racing. So it was something that lit her up.
00:33:09
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And then her and her husband went on the trip to Ireland or something for like, you know, the whole like festival, Irish festival, whatever. And so I was like, that's cool. And when her husband, her son was like, am I going? he was like She was like, no, next time. It's mommy's turn.
00:33:23
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Right. And so like confidence to say that too. because We're breaking that mom guilt through that time. yeah our key scripture is Hebrews 12, 11, one is just talking about now that we're surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight and sin that so easily besets us.
00:33:42
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And lot of times we think of sin such as like, Oh, I'm having threesomes and I'm having drinking parties. No, sometimes sin is, the the idolatry of us looking at our kids like they are everything that i the idol we creating ourselves by being our everything for our kids the pride of doing everything having everything been done our way and when someone shines a light on that me when i shine a light on that for you it can be a little painful but do it from a place of i get it it was hard at first realizing that my kids like certain things my husband does for bedtime more than me but after a while
00:34:18
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i was like
00:34:23
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past you sometimes you im saying sometimes the pyjamas don't fit
00:34:29
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yeah Break that. Break that because it doesn't have to be done my way. doesn't have to be done the way by me. And that freedom, it just allows you to focus and get your your i identity back.
00:34:42
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Give you some time back. And so there are so many stories, dozens of stories similar to that. um But I'm so proud of her now. She's still posting our app, like, when to get my nails done, like, hubby and son, the hubby and junior at practice, like,
00:34:57
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One thing I'll say, I know I answered this question long, but when you do these things, mom guilt tells you how, what kind of mother insert here. But then I want the freedom mindset what type of mother will, what what ah what a great mom to give your kids the opportunity to build with other people.
00:35:18
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What a unselfish act to let grandma and grandpa come in and build a relationship with them. What about an act to give God, mom, or uncle, or best friend from church, safe people that love you the opportunity to serve you?
00:35:32
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You know, it's like, don't think about the worst case scenario. Like, what about the best case scenario? And now, so God forbid, something was to happen to you, your kids have bonds with other people.
00:35:44
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God forbid, something's to happen My husband knows where the lotion is. Hello. My dad didn't know where lotion was. something happened my mother, grief, we have been in a world of trouble.
00:35:56
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No, no ashy elbows. Ashy elbows to get people hungry. You understand? Yes. And so generational health is, yeah, yeah the the workouts and the meal plans I give them and all that.
00:36:07
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But generational health is also like giving them holistic, well-rounded relationships with people other yourself. Yes. Yes. And also the one thing that I heard you say and that I heard you mention in this talking about is this this important aspect of mom care and caring and and having these components of mom care and pouring from the overflow and and not coming from lack and allowing them to have other experiences. And a lot of times moms, you know we leave with fear, right? We're like, oh my God, I think nobody else could do it because nobody's gonna do it like me, but you get freedom and being able to let go.
00:36:47
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And I heard you mention mom care specifically, and I want you to talk a little bit about the key components of mom care. But one of the things that I want to ask you before you get into mom care is to me, it sounds like a lot of this starts with mindset and getting out of the framework of, I need to do it all, be all, and then I'm burnt out and like, it can only be this way. It's a mindset shift really in your program that women are going through.
00:37:15
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Yeah, it is. is. And hard part, why we're talking about transparently The hard part for me as a content creator is explaining that. i I haven't yet. And I know once I figure it out, that's why I come on podcasts, honestly, because the ne the the organic nature of me speaking of what we do comes through.
00:37:34
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wow i've Once I figure out how in 90 seconds to let you know what you're going to and experience, I think that the world is going to change. And not because I'm special and perfect or anything, but then they'll be able to be like, this is what I do. I get what you're saying. So I think that's transparently, pray for me on that.
00:37:54
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I just need to explain that to people. But once I talk to people and have discovery calls and all that kind stuff, speaking engagements, times like this, was like, oh, yes, that's what I need. But yes, it's absolutely a mindset shift.
00:38:05
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I come from not only the biblical perspective, but also the psychological perspective. I have a master's in counseling from Georgia State. Like, I'm not just saying like, oh, feel happier.
00:38:17
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Yeah. Yeah. We're talking about your triggers. We're talking about stresses. We're talking about the the the components of your nervous system and how stress impacts the body. I have a 5S system that I walk them through for them. We talk about mom care.
00:38:30
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And I'm not going to tell y'all all the five cause you guys Yeah, you got to get in the program for all the things, y'all. Yeah. It really is. extensive and it doesn't it doesn't stop so we they have lifetime access into my community so whenever we do a challenge or whenever things come up activities come up they can still key in and there's no monthly fee and the reason i do that is because i know moms will be like oh this summer such and such has summer camp so i'm gonna just cancel my no no no you in there okay and you know the wars are constantly revolving to come back in. And then, so with our retreats, they get discounts. Like that just helps me to continue the philanthropic aspect of this mission. um And you were asking me about the mindset. Yeah. Mindset. It really is all about the mindset. And so if Lyft started with the
00:39:20
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f then it would be freedom mindset first, right? I just like the word lift so much that I think about the mom lift. Yeah, and going to the next level and the fitness and other that kind of stuff. but But, and still, even with lightening your load,
00:39:36
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it still comes with a realization of what's on your plate. It still becomes with like reflection, you know, every person who starts my program writes a letter to themselves. um They print out pictures of their childhood self.
00:39:49
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Like it's really about embracing that you are one of the kids in your family. Like God, God's eyes, when he looked at your family, your house, your spouse, and you are still one of the children.
00:40:01
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You've only been here for 30 years, 40 years. forty years Yeah. Eternity. That's three or four days. Yeah. Hello. So like, stop thinking, oh, once I had kids, I know i ceased to exist as God's daughter.
00:40:14
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and No, you are so still so valuable. Not only ah you are even more of God's daughter because now the kids need you. Yeah. right and so You can't just put yourself on the back burner. Like you've got to put yourself back on the list.
00:40:31
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Even if it's hard for you put yourself first, even if you subscribe to, you know, and not saying subscribe, we know the word talks about out doing one another in service and, uh, and serving others and things of that sort.
00:40:42
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But it doesn't mean that you don't still love others as you love yourself. This is still mean that you have love for yourself and you have care for yourself. as god's daughter and so yes mindset is huge and it's incorporated every single part from playlist while you're working out from looking at the food you eat as as fuel for the body like everything we do comes back to like the power of renewing our mind um and not leaning on our own understanding and Yes, this I love that.
00:41:13
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I love that. And as as a girl who grew up in the church, and I specifically love the program for faith-based roots, right? And they're not it not just being the fluff that we see on ah you know from some people people online, like rooted in what God has set for us to be, to live in our best self in the way that he sees us.
00:41:33
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And so what is different from, why is mom care different from self-care? What is the difference in that? And you don't have to give me all the juicy details because we want people to go to the program and get to program. But like, is there a difference in that?
00:41:46
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I heard you say something about like boundaries, making sure your husband knows the plan and and all that. And I kind of feel like you're alluding to it. could Can you give us a little snippet of like what that means and that definition?
00:41:58
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Yeah, the definition not going give it away. Because the truth of my opinion is I want... I have a life mission that a million moms will learn here at the generational health message.
00:42:09
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That's another reason why I come on podcast. So like the point is you, I might lay of a seed. You might not come work with me for five years. Right. I may drop the seed and you go and you start taking, go into counseling or you go get a life, a different life coach. Right. Like I might not, this fast talking West African might not be for you, but I know there's a difference between knowing what to do and having someone hold your hand while you do it.
00:42:31
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Right. So I'm the guide. on the journey to walking through creating and keeping up with your mom care routine. So mom care and self care is self care is a burden.
00:42:43
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Self care still relies on the person who is given the care. And when you're caring for tiny humans, if you're married for a spouse all the time, a time it's time to take care of yourself.
00:42:54
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You're tired. you it's like, oh great. Another thing. Oh great. Oh great. I have to set an appointment. or Something else on the list. Something else on the list. Right? Self-care is important.
00:43:06
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Right. It is a ah little tap on the back, but I believe that mom care precedes self-care. Mom care is making sure that it happens. Mom care is work. It's creating a team. So it happens. So like my moms get ah resources to make sure that they schedule out their appointments.
00:43:21
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They get quarterly reminders to schedule their appointments. They have a list of like who is on your team so that you can say, I have my nutritionist. I have my dermatologist, my dentist, like same thing our kids have, like a child. Yeah.
00:43:34
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It's a mom care. And then you have a coach that's going to help you make sure you stay on the list. Right? um And so mom care comes down to not only knowing what you to for yourself, but needs to be assigning some tasks for other people.
00:43:48
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You know, what are those people's roles in your life? And believe it or not, sometimes it feels like very self-centered, but it's not. Because I have a mom care routine, I'm better able to tell my husband, like, it's been a second since you had your friends over to play.
00:44:02
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What did he play with them? Um, Uh, what's the name of that game? It's sitting up there, but like he plays this huge board game and they have a great time. He's such a nerd. Or like I'm able to tell him like, Hey, you haven't had your friends over to do that in a while.
00:44:14
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Or is that you have seats fight tonight? you want to go out? Like, because I am well taken care of. I remind him to take care of himself. My girls know when one of my, my daughter, especially my 10 year old, she'll say, I need a minute. And she'll go outside to take a fresh, like she's very, um, hyperactive.
00:44:32
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She'll go outside and run. Mom care is a modeling process. So yes, I have my team, but it's also helped my kids and my family know that like, we all require a care plan. We all need to know what are the things that help us when we're feeling burned out or overstimulated.
00:44:49
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You know what I'm saying? So yeah yeah yeah especially for that mom who's like, I'm a stay at home mom. My kids are my life. Fine. and I love that for you. Show them how to take care of themselves by taking care you.
00:45:02
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oh a You can't keep telling them. The kids don't do what you tell them to do. We know that. they We know that. They don't model. They do what show you them. If you can't yet, now by the time you finish working with me, you will have the the intrinsic motivation.
00:45:18
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But if you don't have the intrinsic motivation yet, get the call with me. Get the free mom care call with me so that you can at least see how it's going to impact the childhood memories they have of their mom.
00:45:31
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Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Yes. I remember. and And I'm so glad you said remember um speaking with someone and talking about, you know, and this happens not just with this particular person, but with a lot of moms,
00:45:43
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Our kids being the reminder. They're the you know the reminder of why we need to be taking care of ourselves. Oh, I see my daughter do this thing. And I'm like, oh, let me fix that. Because I don't want her to show up in the world that way. um And so if for nothing else, taking care of yourself. you if If you can't think of yourself because you just are so in love with your kids, right? like And they're the only thing.
00:46:06
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If for nothing else, it's doing them a justice for you taking care of yourself as well. If you can't get past, like you need to, you can't take care Think about taking care of yourself for them, if that's what it takes. if that's what it is I mean, some people will say, you know, they didn't ask to be here. I'm there, everything.
00:46:23
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But you realize that. And for someone who is about to be an 18-year-old, you are not going to be their primary source of wisdom, strength, encouragement, and teaching. livelihood forever for more than half their life and you got them for eight and you know hello last eighteen years because they're around 14 from here comes one hand that you gotta to say you don't care ah around adolescent point their primary ah influence is their peers.
00:46:51
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So between zero and 13, your job is to help them be begin have the mindset to choose well and to trust you to be a what source of wisdom. Right?
00:47:02
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but I'm grateful that my 17-year-old still comes to us for advice and texts us in texas middle of the what should I say? Because we've created her, we've become trusting people. She trusts the way I handle my friendships.
00:47:13
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She's seen me with conflict with my friends. I have friends. yeah my My purpose, i have I have conflict. I have a business. i have things I'm passionate about. So she she can trust that I know what I'm talking about.
00:47:27
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So you can not just overabsorb yourself in your kid's life. And then what happens when they are moving on? someone I've read i read or watched someone say, you our job in parenting is to work ourselves out of a job.
00:47:40
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oh So if you're consistent constantly making it so that you will always be needed by your children, I want you to reevaluate that. and As they get older, you want to create them so that they will want you, desire you, but not necessarily need you to be fortunate.
00:48:00
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yes, that's so true. Cause I want my kids to be independent and going out the house is fine. I don't want my kid up under my foot in a fist face. She knows she can come back and she may come back cause she's in grad school. But I also want her to know that I believe that my mom and dad equipped me to do, you know, like I have options.
00:48:23
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Yeah, I have options. And that's important too. That's ipress another stage of motherhood that you're going go into. And when that's going to look completely different. um One of the things to just kind of like start to close in on our conversation, because it's really important to me that we talk about this, how we started is why is it important to raise awareness around about mom care and generational health overall, right? Like we we started out talking about generational health and what that means, but what is the importance of that and what is the importance of the work that you're doing? Yeah, this is not mom.
00:48:57
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Mommy wellness is community wellness. If we want stronger communities, healthier communities, public health, it really comes down to their mother. but A study about six years ago that the health and activity level of toddlers is directly tied to health and activity level of their mothers.
00:49:15
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Right? This is, you are your children's first home. You are their first model. Right? And so, especially in the African-American community, as moms, and this is not to make it weightier and heavier on you, but it's just the reality that, and the reality that fathers and community members need to be pouring in and providing that support so that moms don't feel so guilty when they take care of themselves.
00:49:37
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You want healthier families. You want healthier communities. You want to lower high blood pressure. Heart disease is still the number one killer of African-American families. people but especially African-American women in our country for the past 25 years.
00:49:51
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And so it is not just about spa days and yeah the mom feeling good or feeling warm and fuzzy. No, this is about our communities having longevity.
00:50:02
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This is about our kids not having childhood, that obesity being epidemic. This is about our communities, our our marriage is lasting. Y'all, these people are getting the divorces once the kids get to teenage years because they don't have any identity outside of the kids.
00:50:16
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So we're talking about our community's health. Stress is still the number one linked risk factor in most chronic illnesses. So if you're talking about what qualifies this lady, because I research health, you know, I know what these factors are.
00:50:31
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And if we want to be building generational wealth, who's going to live to experience it and appreciate it? You've got to build generational health and prioritize your health if you are going to appreciate and enjoy the spoils of your labor and building generational wealth.
00:50:49
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So community building and and preventing these chronic illnesses that continue to run rapid in our communities comes down to the way the mom eats, the way the mom sleeps, all of that.
00:51:01
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all of that right? It's so important. Of course, our fathers are important. So you, as a father listening to this, or if you're a wife listening to around your husband, they are going to lead the way. I could not do the work I do if it wasn't for my husband.
00:51:16
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I could not, I couldn't. Not only was he my ver the first v investor, because that 5K from my business coach came right about that savings account, okay? But he bought my first computer. He does the bedtime, know I'm saying? When I go have a speaking engagement, he's encouraging the kids like leave your mom alone while she get her makeup done like these are different things that if it wasn't for his leadership i wouldn't be able to do so those who are not moms and listen this podcast you have a part in the mom care bo routine you have a part in building generational health and you can't take it lightly the world right now is trying to do everything to dismantle public health and awareness we as a community have to do what it takes to make sure that we keep that at the forefront for ourselves
00:52:04
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Ooh, you're mute.
00:52:07
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And I was going to say yes, yes, yes. Because when moms heal, communities thrive and communities do well because moms, the pillars, we' right? We're the ones that are birthing communities. And so taking care of the moms in the community is a public health concern.
00:52:24
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um So thank you for raising that. And also, like just thank you for being here and sharing that. I want to also just kind of segue into something that I, i how I found you, um because I personally believe um balance is this thing that's unattainable. I personally believe in harmony and have kind of adopted this philosophy that harmony is like a song, right? You don't want to have a song without a Melanie that's harmonized and that's how we should approach life because balance um assumes equality and you can't be a hundred on all areas because it will be essentially unbalanced. And I found your program, the Harmony program, because of that. was just doing research online.
00:53:06
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And the Harmony Program and Retreat came up because you have such good branding. um And can you talk to me a little bit and to our audience about what the Harmony Program and Retreat is, what that is for moms, how how it how is that and what that is for our community? Talk about it.
00:53:23
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I just need to know, and I need you to know, that the Lord has sent you in my life on this day. Girl. Girl.
00:53:33
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Uh, so the harmony retreat is my baby. It is that that came from that burnout moment where I said, if I could just drive away and think, I just need time. I want my family to be fine or I'm going to cry. need to get myself again.
00:53:45
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I, uh, just want my family to be okay. I love them so much. I wouldn't want anything to happen to them. I want to be their mom. I just want to be good at it. You know, I don't want suck at this. You know, I don't want them to see, um like, I would want people in college to know me better than my kids.
00:53:59
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You know, i'm like I don't want people to know me as one way, but my kids know me as another way. And so I just was like, I just need somewhere to go that I could just like sit and talk to God about this.
00:54:10
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And I couldn't find it. And so i before I'd hired that business coach I was working with, it's so funny, Jasmine's going laugh when she if she listens to this, because i was I hired another business coach that I'm still very close with, um Marlena Banks.
00:54:24
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And hers was more like faith-based founders. So was more so like founders who have an idea, right? She's still amazing. still does great work. um And we just wrote my life album, basically my mission, of like what I want to do before I leave the earth. And I still have that.
00:54:40
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And the retreat was like, put on there. Five years later, after I build my business and everything, like and she just said, don't plan the retreat. Leave it. Don't do anything with it. Just leave it there.
00:54:51
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And so after nine cohorts of my business of my coaching program, I said, it's time, right? It's time. So this October, we went by a lake, had Pilates, chef, worship music by one of my favorite artists, Jamie Grace.
00:55:06
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And we just went through the curriculum that helps women realize that balance a myth. Harmony is attainable and that God, Jesus, is like the ultimate director of it.
00:55:18
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You know, like sometimes the altos are taking the lead sometime and that might be your kids. Because altos have to be the kids because they allow us to Yeah, it's going to be.
00:55:28
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They strong. They're strong, okay? They're strong. And then sometimes it might be your business. It's a Sopranos. and then Sometimes it might be your spouse who is a tenor. like And there are going to be many times where they're like at the same ah like ah volume and everything is like so boom, boom, boom, boom. And sometimes going like it's acapella.
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You know what I'm saying? yeah The biggest thing is that having the right direction, having communication. Sometimes I sing in the choir and praise team. So like sometimes you don't even have to talk to each other. You can just look at each other, right? And communicate.
00:56:02
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And so with within in our families and as moms in the mission, sometimes we have that tug and it's like an enigma uh like my mentor says it's that dichotomy it is not because something's wrong it' because we're not communicating you know i can tell my spouse and my kids i'll tell them like hey this what's going on mommy has a speaking engagement this weekend x y and z hey tenor i need you do this hey surprise like we're able to communicate and it's like Hands in team Williams, you know, im saying.
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And so when you have that communication and letting God be that director that weight comes off of you. And so the harmony retreat is something that we have currently twice a year future. I want to have it as often as possible child. If I can get a house,
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um gone in and The house that we just literally had y'all rolling up in there every weekend, like a ah the but's got hotel, motel holiday in. end up Programming regularly. i would love that, you know, because yeah sometimes you'd be like, I need to go now.
00:57:06
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Like, if but yeah I got to get out now. If I don't get out now, something is not going to something is going to go wrong. um but yeah that's the harmony retreat and it's my baby so coaching clients um have access to the retreat as a ah discount and then people who come into my program in 2035 and beyond have like an opportunity to upgrade so you can do my program traditionally or you can upgrade where the retreat is included um and i'm just excited about what god is doing i'm excited for people like you who googled it and it came up because that just you people see somebody of you online especially who's boisterous it shows up that i the way i do and think that we're just so confident and always have it no like i need to hear these types of things just the same so if you're a mompreneur are listening to this
00:57:54
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You're not alone. God sees you. you know You're raising babies and running your business. Don't give up. Yes. and That was actually perfect because my next question was going be if you could share one message of encouragement or wisdom to moms right now that are looking to prioritize themselves or run a business or whatever, like what would that be?
00:58:16
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Yeah. That piece of advice to be something that a single friend told me at my wedding shower is do not forget your God's daughter first. And at that time I was just like, oh, that's so sweet.
00:58:28
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But it's so true. and when ah When you get married, you lose your last name. When you have kids, you lose your first name. You become mommy. You become Mrs. Williams.
00:58:39
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You become, you know, my last name was pretty cool before I got married. And so that's why the K is there. And always, people always say, do you want me say the K? Yes, please. Precious. Yes, please. yeah you see oh um But don't forget your God's daughter first and he loves you.
00:58:54
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And you you don't have, those two things can exist. You can be mommy and Mrs. and daughter and friend and boss, but you're insert name here first.
00:59:05
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And so just remember that. And lastly, like if you love your family, you've got to take care of their mother. You cannot continue to think that you taking care of them and never taking care of you is serving them.
00:59:19
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or you taking care of them and never giving them the honor, the gift, and the privilege to take care of you back, it's not serving them either. So on the list, I do have intake sessions I have regularly.
00:59:36
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Just DM me on any platform. You can go to my website and set it up as well. But don't let... guilt or resources or anything stop you.
00:59:46
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Um, cause if you know, if the kids needed it, you would find a way. Yes, yes, yes, yes, absolutely. And for those of you who are driving and you're listening to this or on the treadmill or whatever, all of the links to precious content will be available. We're going to link to the program. We're going to link to all of the great things that she's doing and the, and the resources that she's mentioned here today, ah whether that's the harmony retreat or the lift program and the moms on the mission, all the things that's going to be there for you all in the show notes.
01:00:18
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Um, is there anything that you have that's upcoming that you want to promote or share or talk about before we close out? So this season is heavy on the coaching. So I, as you can hear, I speak.
01:00:30
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So if you're, um, If you're a church, a community group, or anything needs a speaker to come in, you're like oh, precious, I need that message. I do discuss building generational health and beating burnout with groups. So send for me, I'm there.
01:00:45
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So that's something you to website, speaker, but under work with me, speaker request, and put that request in. And then we're onboarding new clients. So In the past, I had my cohorts start and stop at a certain point, and now we're onboarding monthly. So if you come in, you're like, okay, you know, Precious, I just really need to get involved. We'll onboard you and get you into a group.
01:01:08
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So don't, especially summer. This is a time, if you know y'all are listening to this, just like you set up them summer camps, put yourself on a plan, okay?
01:01:18
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Put yourself on a plan with me and get in a cohort. So you can, part while they're going to camp, you can also be prioritizing your health. Go to mommy camp. Go to mommy camp. Don't get me started.
01:01:31
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Okay. Don't get me started. I love it though.
01:01:37
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i love it though Yes. No, I think it's October. So um that's the last thing. Our next year is October. Those payment plans are also open as well. So get on your list.
01:01:48
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Don't put yourself last, you know, factor yourself in that family budget and that family calendar. And I want to see you as a part of our family. Yes. Awesome. Thank you so much. Lastly, we have our bonus section where I ask all of my guests, really simple, to share an affirmation, scripture, or intention for our listeners to close the episode.
01:02:13
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Oh, boy. So many ideas. Let me see.
01:02:18
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so Okay. um I am worthy of the love I give everyone else. That is beautiful. i am worthy love give everyone of the love I give everyone else.
01:02:31
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Thank you so much for sharing that. That's something that I needed to hear today. I hope that your story and your mission um connects with one of our listeners. I'm sure it will. um But I'm so thankful for you for being here um and for speaking with our guests. And for those of you that are listening, you need to put yourself on the list.
01:02:50
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um If this wasn't a reminder to you, I'm going to say it over and over on every episode. Put yourself... At the very top of the list, your family, like precious Kay Williams said, deserves their caregiver to be taken care of.
01:03:03
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um Thank you for listening to the So Well podcast. I'm so, so, so honored to have you all as listeners. Until next time, stay well and stay whole.
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