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127. Empowerment through Affirmations: Why 'I Matter' Can Transform Your Life
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In this episode of the Spiritual Fitness podcast, Eric Bigger introduces Malene Kai Bell, a multifaceted writer and healer, highlighting the power of affirmations in her transformative journey. Malene shares how she discovered her writing talent at the age of 12 and began using it as a powerful tool for self-healing, eventually helping others on their healing journeys as well. She reflects on her upbringing in a challenging environment in Baltimore, which profoundly influenced her path to becoming a healer and teacher. Eric and Malene explore the therapeutic power of writing, the transformative energy of Reiki, and the impact of affirmations such as “I matter.”
Also in this episode:
- Malene emphasizes how writing serves as a powerful tool for self-healing by releasing pent-up emotions and gaining new perspectives.
- The concept from traditional Chinese medicine, which describes an energy organ that safeguards the heart, is crucial for emotional and overall health.
- Simple yet potent affirmations like “I matter” have a dramatic impact on one’s self-perception and emotional healing.
About the Guest:
Malene Kai Bell is a renowned writer, teacher, and healer, dedicated to empowering individuals through the transformative power of words and self-discovery. With a passion for helping others reclaim their sacred selves, Malene draws on her extensive knowledge of healing, spirituality, and personal growth to inspire her audience.
She is the author of You Are Loveable, a heartwarming children’s and women’s book that promotes self-worth, love, and empowerment. Malene’s latest work, Reclaim Your Sacred Self, guides readers on a journey of spiritual awakening and personal transformation.
Connect with Malene Kai Bell
Instagram: @Loveable.astory
Explore her books:
You Are Loveable – Learn more here
Reclaim Your Sacred Self – Find details here
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Work with me: https://www.ericbigger.com/workwithme?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=work_with_m...
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Transcript
Introduction to Spiritual Fitness Podcast
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Welcome to the Spiritual Fitness Podcast. I'm your host, Eric Bigger, and each week we will explore powerful practices, inspiring stories, and expert insights to guide you on your path to holistic health. By blending spirituality and physical wellness, we support you in strengthening your body and soul. Whether you're a seasoned spiritual seeker or just beginning your journey, the Spiritual Fitness Podcast is here to help you unlock your inner potential and live your most vibrant, purposeful life.
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It's Miracle Season.
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Spiritual Fitness podcast. Welcome back again. Another episode. And I'm so grateful.
Meet Malini Cappell
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So honored to have the one and only Malini Cappell. She's a writer. She's a teacher and healer. She's also an author who has so much to give to the world. She has a kid's book called Lovable. Said that, right? And then- Yeah, she has a new book that she's going to release soon. Reclaiming your sacred self, the heart protector. Malini, I like to call it money, guys. Off record, I had to give her a nickname. Money. Money sounds great. She's here. Yeah, she's from Baltimore, Maryland, my hometown. So welcome to Spiritual Fitness podcast. How are you today?
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Well, first of all, I'm good. Like I said, prior to starting, I'm a little nervous, but to your point, nervousness is good. It's excitement, but it also means, for me, what it means is that I'm prepared to come in and be honest and tell the truth. I'm probably going to reveal something to myself that I might not even know is there, and I'm just prepared to show up, even though I'm scared as shit to be yourself. yeah So it's okay.
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Hey guys, did you listen? Did you guys hear that? I'm nervous, but I'm going to shelve and be honest and tell the truth. Who knew nervousness could bring that? Oh, I love the authenticity, the rawness, the vulnerability. Before we get into like all the things you offer to the world.
Inspiration from Family and Self-Healing
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How did your journey of writing, healing, teaching begin? And where did it all start? And i're like, what age, what cycle did you knew that you had a power of writing, teaching, and helping people heal themselves? Yeah, that is a huge question.
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And I could start in so many different places, but I'll tell you the first thing that's coming to mind. So my grandmother was actually a writer. My grandmother on my father's side, she was a poet. Her name was Maddie Lee Chilcott. I'm saying her name because what kind of is that, right? Like it inspires me to write a poem, but I hadn't done that yet. So, you know, my grandmother was a writer. I knew that I had a gift.
00:02:54
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probably around the age of 12. Really? Yeah. So I had an assignment to do for school and I read it to my oldest brother Sean. since transition and his partner, Darrell. And it was just their reaction that made me feel like, oh, you know what? You have something here. And so from there, I just started writing poetry, short stories and things like that. The other thing I'll say is I used to say that poetry was my first language. And that feels really important to me because
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what I realized probably in my 20s is that, you know, poetry is the language of the heart, but also I'll say poetry is the language of the broken hearted, right? And so what I'll say is that before I could string together my story and my thoughts in full sentences via fiction, non and memoir, the words that they came to me the vehicle of voice for me was poetry because I couldn't string together my story in a linear way, right?
Writing as Emotional Processing and Healing
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So going back to this idea of, okay, when I was 12, I found out I could write, what I realized I always used my writing for initially was self healing. And then a little later,
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you know I began wanting to teach writing as a vehicle for healing others and helping others heal themselves as well. Wow, that's so much. That's great. Well said. For one, I like to think they always say comedians are the most painful people. Right. They're on stage and they're speaking, articulating, whatever. They're making fun of themselves. I've never heard that.
00:04:44
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poets of poetry is from a broken heart. Before we move on, can we just kind of unpack that a little? Like, how did you get to the root of that? Like, where did that acknowledgement come from? Because that's so profound. But it makes sense. Like Edgar, I listen to Alan Poe, I think some of his stuff I read when I was in school. Yeah. How did you connect the two? Like, that's deep. But it makes sense.
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Yeah. And let me say, you know, I can't speak for everybody, right? I can't say that all poets, you know, are writing because of a broken heart. I can say, well, for me, that was my mechanism for voice. And, you know, without going too deep, I share with you, you know, from Baltimore, we're up in Morgan Park and there was certainly, you know, violence in my home, right? And so that creates a real dynamic when you talk about having voice, right? Because for me, you know, i'm I'm thinking about going to Catholic school and maybe the night before having to wake up on Monday, my parents had a fight.
00:05:48
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The clear way to say it is my father put his hands all my wow right and the next morning there be no talk about it. right Just this growing up in that kind of dynamic.
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I didn't have a voice and I didn't really have a space to say not only what I'm feeling, but this is what is you know this is what is happening in me. This is what is happening to me. And the other thing I'll say is in a dynamic where there is abuse, the silencing is so painful, right? Because the silencing, now we have a kind of a term for it, it's it's a bit of gaslighting. But gaslighting, even that term doesn't fit when, you know, it's someone you love when it's coming from the one person, my mom, right, who is the only protector in the house, but who just didn't have the strength within herself to acknowledge that, yes, this is going on, and therefore I can't acknowledge it within you.
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And so for me, the page, the pen, the writing was my way to access that, to say, no, this shit is crazy. yeah And, you know, I don't know, like that was my outlet.
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Yeah, you know, run up in our environment. I'm from Baltimore as well. You don't talk about the bad stuff. You're just kind of like, oh, that's, yeah, this is what happens. Or the negative things, the violence is so normal and common that you don't even feel it. You're like, oh yeah, that's what's going to happen. But now I'm thinking because of those experiences, because of that pain or that trauma response, have you ever a written music?
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Oh, you thought about it? I mean, it sounds like you have so many lived stories in your mind that you can write about the not only heal your soul, but heal the soul of others because there's so many people that experience these things that we would never know. And some people transition and we still don't know. So it's fascinating that that was part of your journey to where you are today. And writing was, you know, the healing process. Have you ever written music?
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um root no I like when I was younger, I was surrounded by people who made music, did hip hop, things like that. but I've written a few songs, but just in my own music. right and you know I've never studied music. I caught myself teaching myself the guitar about three years ago. I've not recorded a record, Eric, if that's what you're asking me tonight. now oh Well, there's a co-bot, Dr. Wayne Dyer. He says, never die with your music left in. Like get it out of you. So sometimes we got to write out story. We got to write out pain. We got to write out trauma out of us. What is your experience or knowing of the healing capabilities that's attached to writing? Because always people say writing is like mental release or mental therapy. What is your experience that you can give people listening in or watching
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that how journaling or writing something can really impact them in a way where it helps them heal and grow from a painful place. Yeah, I think it's a couple of different things. I know like right now, right? I've been doing a lot of journaling and sometimes the way that our journal is, for example, even i'm preparing fuller, I shouldn't even say preparing because I didn't prepare, but getting ready,
Journaling for Mental Clarity
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right? To have to talk with you, right? To be in communion and talk with you. I noticed there were some nasty little thoughts running around in my head.
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And so one of the things that I'll do is I'll dump it all on paper. Like, let me just, I want to see it. I want to write every little nasty little thing that's coming up because for me, partly it's a way to purge. So I purge first, but then I look back and you're able to see the absurdity of the mind, the mind, the thought, just talking all kinds of sideways. Right. And so that's one way I often use.
00:09:51
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you know, writing. If I'm not using the breath, I'm going to go to write. Let me see why am I feeling on this way, right? If I can't identify it, there's got to be something underneath. And so, you know, when I say journal, I'm not really thinking it's more stream of consciousness, right? Just letting it blah, blah, just throw up on the page if you will. So that's one way. There are other things, too. When I was younger, I would use both guided writing meditations,
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And I don't know what to call it, but there was this thing that I did several times. It really helped me. And it was this. I would tell a story in first person and then tell a story in second person. And then I'd rewrite the story the way that I wanted it to be. What I want to say is rewriting it the way I wanted it to be.
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I would allow one for intuition and spirit. I could very easily say, I rewrite the story and my parents are holding hands and they walk away happily together. No, it's not rewriting it just from from logic. It's tapping into that intuition. It ain't even sometimes it was tapping into that inner child, right? To kind of hear that voice because there's something there that just wouldn't let go.
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There was something there within my inner child that felt like she didn't do X. And so in rewriting it both, you know, first, just write it as it happened. Second, give yourself a little bit of distance by writing it from third person. Right. In front of myself is she.
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And then thirdly, after that, right? After getting some distance, just pulling it back together, right? And using that intuition, it kind of happens like magic to kind of pull on, well, what's the wisdom there? What did you want to have happen? And I will say in doing that, it allowed me to forgive things that didn't even belong to me anyway, right? But things that, for whatever reason, I was holding myself ransom for.
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literally holding myself, Francis. You know, watching, listening to something this morning, don't let the deep of your mind ride through life. You really tap into some real energetics here. I want to share this with you and I don't know if you've ever experienced this.
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Cause when people speak or talk, I can kind of feel through what's really going on. So I've never heard the term spiritual writer, but I'm thinking that's what you might have a gift of. Hear me, I'm just trying to recall what you just said. So imagine there's a scenario that played out in your home with your mom and dad or significant others or elders or whatever you witness, right?
00:12:29
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and say it was negative, the outcome that you actually experienced. So when you go back into that writing phase, first,
Writing and Energetic Healing
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second, third person, and you're saying intuition, I'm thinking that what's happening or what did happen is that you felt the energy, the way you wrote, what really wanted to happen, and what should have happened is you're so connected to that portal at that time.
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that whatever energies and entities moving through them robbed it from happening. And you get what I'm saying? I do able to kind of pull out Oh, this was supposed to happen. Mom, was something negated that or stop that from happening because And I always say, there's really no pain, suffering or evil people in the world. There's just people acting out their pain, right? And when you're acting out for clean energy and entities are moving through you. Sometimes, you know, we call it spiritual warfare. Some people call it eating the devil. There's other energies that's moving through you that's not even you.
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So all of those people were forgiven. We got to forgive the spirit that's moving through them because it's not the person, it's the energy that's in them. So I believe you were pulling out from that movie that you witnessed what really happened from the spiritual realm, from a healthy way and put it on paper to kind of be there to take back to life.
00:13:51
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I understand this, but this is what I felt. And you rolled it out and you actually killed yourself. That is such a phenomenal practice, a tool. Do you do this with clients or that's just something you do for yourself? Well, I want to just, first of all, acknowledge the way you just broke that down before we move on. That was really powerful and you know to kind of push into that and echo that, yeah, we can move energy that way, right? As they say, thoughts are things, right? So, and there is no past or present. So even though I'm quote unquote looking back, any kind of forgiveness and wisdom that emerges from a story that like it releases and find that hole, right? That's also what I'm hearing and what you're saying. So for sure, right?
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so I used to put together these writing workshops for women. This was way before I knew anything about energy, anything about Reiki, etc. I didn't really have an understanding that, okay, we're moving stuff. right We are actually transforming things within a subtle body, within the ether, right we're moving things. and so The reason why I'm coming here is because It wasn't until I experienced breaking that I actually shifted away from teaching writing as healing, though it still is, right? And I moved more into
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energetic modalities. I mention it as because it was really a pivotal time for me, right, to realize, oh, this was the missing piece, right? Because I felt like, you know, I was trying to get these writing workshops off the ground. This was years ago. I mean, not even 2012. So I don't know, 2008 or I don't think 2008, like a long time ago. But what I want to say is that I ended up having a Reiki session with a woman who called my spiritual mom and she calls me, I shouldn't say call, who is my spiritual mom. And after that one Reiki session, it was just like, just this huge aha moment. Like, though things have moved, things can move and not transform completely. Right. And it was after that session with her that I was like, this is the missing piece.
00:16:13
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the energy modality, acknowledging this energy, acknowledging that we got this subtle body, et cetera, et cetera, because it was just like something just flipped on for me. For whatever reason, I just wanted to share that because it was and was such an important shift. So to answer your question, I don't necessarily teach writing workshops in that way, but I can use writing as a vehicle to support folks.
00:16:38
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Yeah, because and when you're speaking, you're opening up portals for me that I can see through. So I want to ask you, are you an innovative type of thinker? Are you innovative at all? I think so, because I'm a little rebellious. So if you got a rebel spirit, you know what I mean? like so yeah What was coming through when you was talking about stop the writing, I got it to Reiki. But then I had this flashback, this visual of you like with a client, they're laying down like they're on a Reiki session on the bed, however.
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and you already charge your hands up in your body, however you do it. You are less than charged their body average, but then what happened is that they're in this space and you're holding the energy. You have a notepad and you're doing Reiki, they're writing this story that's coming out of their body. You're healing them. I'm like, Oh, wow.
00:17:29
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And then when the session is done, you probably do a little thing over their body, and then they're done, then you give them this notepad and say, you see all this? We just, you know, that and they'd like start crying like, how did you know this? What is it? Oh, so it is right. So it's happening to some portals that I've never seen someone do Reiki through writing, but I feel like you have to open the power to kind of open that gate. And wherever someone has done it or not,
00:17:56
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i think you can do that. but I know you can do it. You know, it's like, yeah. And he's like, so tuned in. So that was just a nominal way. Whatever you were speaking, it was like something else was coming behind it that I could see. Sure. Oh, interesting.
00:18:12
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Well, I received that and we'll see. Let's check in a year from today and see what yeah kind of magic has happened. That's a magic in that soul for sure. So let's get to the terminology of reclaiming your sacred self. I think you said the heart protector, if I said that right.
00:18:31
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Where did that terminology generate from that diction? like What was those word choice that you decided
Reclaiming the Sacred Self
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to go with? And how did that come about? That's such a great, what is it? Transmission, awakening, portal, gateway type of vibration. Just that to reclaim your sacred self, the heart protector. It's like a store in a store. Yeah, so it's reclaiming the sacred self the way of the heart protector. Way of the heart protector.
00:19:01
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Yeah, all i' good. And I feel like three moments come to mind, right? So the first is um I shared with you yesterday that for about a year and a half I studied traditional Chinese medicine.
00:19:15
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fast and I mean, still like just jaw dropping, fascinating in terms of their understanding of energy. And I love the way that they talk about energy because it's combined with nature, right? So it just makes sense. I'm a former teacher, so anything that's like simple, but like aha, it's just like, wow, you put two and two together so well. And so the reason why I'm mentioning that is because in addition to being fascinated with yin yang and the five elements,
00:19:44
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when I was studying the organs and you know their system, we have what is called the heart protector. We have an actual heart protector. And for me, someone who I shared right coming up, I won't say I didn't have a voice, because I wasn't like a little mouse, you understand? But I didn't have a voice in certain spaces. And for whatever reason, at some point,
00:20:13
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in my spiritual journey in particular, it was like, in my mind, it was kind of like, no, you're not supposed to protect yourself. You're supposed to be open, loving, giving, always on. You shut off your back. Like that makes you spiritual. And so to come across this, not only terminology, but this truth that within us, God gave us this thing called the heart protector, the metaphor that is so powerful for me.
00:20:43
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right It's powerful for me just in terms of my journey. It's powerful for me when I think about women who I'm speaking to in this book, women who are ambitious.
00:20:58
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loving, just allowing, right? Just being trampled over, that nothing is sacred, right? And so that's where the heart protector comes in, right? In fact, I read something that said ah the heart protector is like the heart's ninja, right? It is the gateway. And in Chinese medicine, if the heart protector is not well, your heart is not well.
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and your heart cannot shine forth, right? You cannot bring through the joy, the love, whatever it is that is needed, right? There's going to be an imbalance there, right? So that's the heart protector. We claim the sacred self really came out of... One second, before you get into it, I didn't let a heart protector is located. So if we call it an organ, it's the outer coding of the heart.
00:21:47
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I want to see something. Yes, go ahead. Last year, I got out of a relationship. I got rid of a lot of friendships and people. I could feel like I had this heart in my heart, like literally, like right here. It was hard. I didn't tell you. Yes. like Something is not. I'm good, but I was hurt. like I'm like, is that a heartbreak? like I've never felt that in my life. We did jobs for Tree, I did a cacao ceremony.
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And after I drink the cacao, it's like a plant medicine. And whatever happened like took the heart off of my heart. I started to could trust people again. But I remember for you to say that, I'm like, people are like, I've never heard of that. There's an organ that's around the heart that is the heart protector.
00:22:35
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Yeah, the heart protector. Yeah, thank you. Yeah. But to address that, because I think, you know, people probably will want to know. But we go along with the sacred, the first time. Save yourself all good. No. And I appreciate you sharing. There's all kinds of stuff that happens in the heart. I'm in love with the heart.
00:22:53
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Oh, and I don't mean like the beating part. It's good too, but it's just, you know, that spiritual heart and just the energy urban is looking through Chinese medicine. You got me thinking, man, oh it is so o s the so as muscle.
00:23:09
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Uh-huh. We adopt them more, your inner thigh, I believe, or pelvic. And it was getting like stressed, like that's what we store all our trauma and pain. and isn Like that get area and release energy. So this is interesting you're saying and that. So I guess I gotta do some more research. and orbi Yeah. Yeah.
00:23:27
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All right, so that's Heart Protector. We claim the sacred soul. I'm going to try not to be long-winded here. What I will say is that really emerged out of a really difficult experience for you. Talk about
Journey of Self-Worth and Affirmations
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relationships. I was in a relationship with the person who I believe was a narcissist, right? And as they say, law of attraction, right? oh I'm in this relationship and you know my work life gets very crazy. I end up being in a very toxic work environment.
00:23:56
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there's no doubt within me that there were parallels there, right? That because I was in that vibration of, you know, toxic romantic relationship, shit hit the fan at work, you know, I attracted just, I mean, wow wild, wild behaviors, right? And so,
00:24:14
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some of my spiritual tradition, I am not a Buddhist, but it's rooted in Buddhism. You pair that with Catholicism, where you know Jesus is all loving, you know just love, right as they say, quote unquote, kill them with kindness. For about three years, I was operating in this mode of ah kill them with kindness, and it was not working.
00:24:39
Speaker
And, you know, I was working with, you know, energy healers and things like that and it helped, but there was something immediate had to shift. And so what felt like out of the blue, but it wasn't out of the blue conditions and timing were right.
00:24:54
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I sat down again, interesting that you're talking about writing, and started writing, right? Came up with this idea. And the idea, the question that I asked myself, I was thinking about work, the relationship was done, I knew, you know, that that was done, left that, but still the residual, ah you know, effect and and whatever lessons I needed to learn hadn't been learned. And so I sat down and, you know, I just asked myself, what is the value, right? What is a value of mine?
00:25:24
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that's important, right? Put that in the middle of the paper. Well, what is a higher value than that that on a spectrum want to continue, right? And so the value for me at that time and thinking about work was just being listened to. And the value above that for me was being heard. And I forget what the end was that, you know, it was beyond respect, et cetera. And then I took the spectrum backwards.
00:25:48
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right And so what's the step down from not being listened to? I don't remember what I said, but let's just say disrespect, abhorrent, all these words. And so after doing that, I looked and I said, okay, so what's the value proposition of where I'm working? Where does the culture fall? right And it was way behind my values.
00:26:12
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And so I didn't stop there because I knew, already knew that, right? I knew that this place was crazy. What ended up happening is instead of, yeah let's say, turning that mirror outward, I turned it inward. And so I took those values that I didn't like and I asked myself, OK, so where within me do I feel abhorrent? Where within me am I disrespecting myself? Where within me, right? All these things.
00:26:41
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And then from that, I began doing mirror work. And what emerged, I know this is a long story, but I'm just telling you. No, it's a great story. I know the weird word. I did Louisa 21 Days Mirror. I mean, come on, right? It's so good. I really love you. It's so good. And so I started doing the mirror work. And what I want to say is it's so powerful to look yourself in your eyes and affirm yourself
00:27:13
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It's not just that you're affirming yourself. For me, it's like you're finding the truth of who you are. While simultaneously, at least for me, what started coming up was there's the affirmation and then there's the counter to that. And so for me, I had to reckon, right? I had to have a reckoning with myself about those thoughts. And so what emerged from that, the affirmations that came from that and experience was one, I matter.
00:27:41
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my feelings matter, my opinions matter, but it was the I matter a part that really shifted things. So I don't know, I would say for several days, but I would say after about three days, Eric, of, you know, speaking into my soul, looking into my eyes, crying when I say I matter, right? Cause it's not like I matter, right? Like it's penetrated, you know, that truth.
00:28:11
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remembering who I am, that that shifted so many things for me to the point that the realization that my time was sacred, that I myself am sacred, that I matter is the equivalent of your sacred, right? Your time, what you're spending your time doing, being, saying no to or saying yes to, like this is your life. These words are not really expressing all the energy that kind of poured forth through that one revelation.
00:28:52
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But that's where reclaiming the secret cell came in because I realized, God damn, I'm going to say it like that. Like, baby, this is no, like.
00:29:04
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you matter, you deserve to take up space, you deserve to be treated this way. I don't like, you know, one sentence won't do it, but that's not true. I think the I matter for me was what unboxed it. And so from that experience came Reclaim the Sacred Self and the eight reclamations that go along with it.
00:29:26
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Like I said, when we speak, I pick up on things that that actually was what I did last year. I gave everything and everybody what they need wanted. and I'll let people be heard, felt and seen. I would need to take up space because I didn't want people to think I was better or I knew more. or I always try to fit in and realize God didn't make me to sit and make me to be outstanding and stand out because most of my peers wouldn't understand the downloads or sequences that's coming through my vessel. I try to move them small to benefit them. Their size of their life wasn't fitting into my paradigm and it was hurting me.
00:30:04
Speaker
ah but So I betrothed myself, failed myself while they went on with their life like nothing happened. But I was crying on the floor. I'm never doing this. And it's like when I was on the floor crying, I was just like, it's like somebody stabbed me. I was just like, just rolling around this tall, muscular man just crying. I said, my spirit's like, get up and go to the mirror. Talk to yourself. i ah Tears and all. And I said, I never betray you.
00:30:29
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And you say everything you said or to really bring it back to that frequency. I matter. It should be like a new I am to get what I'm saying. Oh, I mean, like, that yes, I do. Yes, I do. It resonates more. You know, it's like, yeah, I get I am. But I matter is I am.
00:30:53
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but Yes, it is. It doesn't matter before you say you I am, right? Yes. It doesn't matter to the I, the bet is you. How can you claim I am? Because we all do affirmations so we don't feel the things we're saying, because we don't matter. We don't feel worthy. It takes a painful point to expand our vessels, and our vessel to say, I don't want to drink from this style of home cup anymore. I want to get a spot. And I want to clean and perk. And I want expensive wine. Not, nice you know, liquor that I got from around the way because I can.
00:31:29
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so um I mean, this medicine that you're giving up and you're speaking on a day is so profound because I've never heard of it ever, ever in life. I've studied so many great people and writers. You don't hear the way you're giving up. So I know whatever is in your destiny of what you're evolving to expand to is going to be magic and miracles. And it is going to be reclaiming your sacred self because I matter. That's a shirt. I matter. What does that mean? Claiming your sacred self. What does that mean? Really tuning in and touching yourself, looking yourself in that mirror, looking in the soles of your eyes, speaking what you know you are without anybody's approval, without anybody's opinion. It's just a beautiful way to tap into yourself. Because I think and I realize is that
00:32:22
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in this personal development space, health and wellness, spirituality, we have all this known, we have all this insight, but we don't know how to embody it. We don't know how to integrate. And that was my thing. I had all this knowledge, but I couldn't integrate it in my vessel to push it out on the world. And and I think that's a true embodiment of anything, right? You embody like, no, I matter. Oh yeah, we're going to say no to that. We're going to say yes it is.
00:32:47
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Definitely. And I know you're my kinfolk, my family, and I told you I love you, but just because I love you doesn't mean I'm gonna tolerate you. That's right. So, unaware it is. I mean, that's beautiful. Thank you. And then you say, I matter, reclaim the sacred self, the heart protected to lovable. How do we get to lovable? Where does the kids and the lovable and the children books and all that come from? Like, how did that manifest?
Creating 'Lovable' and Inner Child Focus
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Man, Lovable was so much fun. I think, ah you know, I shouldn't play favorites, but I will say that the experience of creating Lovable was just so much fun. Again, talk about mirror work, right? I was working on that when you say 21 day um book, and I was in a really, I mean, we're always in a good place, right? If we know our truth, but let me just say I was in a really good place. Loved where I was living.
00:33:43
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Just everything just felt like, you know that feeling where it just everything like you wake up in the morning and it's like, why does the air look golden?
00:33:54
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It just feels like this is a great wish. Everything's well and diney. Yeah. Every day, just thank you, God. I couldn't have imagined this, God. Thank you. And so, I'll start short. Cross late, sitting on my bathroom sink, doing my mirror work, and lovable comes through. I don't remember the first thing. I just know, you know, it's like I am lovable. And then this playful rhyme came through and I just grabbed my paid and just started writing. and It was one of those things where I wrote it and it was a knowingness like, I don't care what happens, I've got to publish this. It was like just this knowingness. I've done, I would say, many projects and things like that, but that felt also good. like Yeah, gonna this has to happen. and so That's how Lovable was born.
00:34:43
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It looks like a children's book, but I call it a book for women and children. It has a universal message. And I do think it's for women because I also think it's speaking to that inner child.
00:34:56
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as well. You know, I could say more, but that's lovable in a nutshell. It was beautiful to make, not only just write, but also, you know, working with an artist. I had never, you know, published a children's book before. There were things that I didn't know, for example, I didn't know we would collaborate in terms of what the images should look like. That was amazing. That was fun to see that. You know what I mean? Like that whole process was just so much fun.
00:35:24
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I think that just the word you've expressed that if we could kind of take that story and that ideology, you people listening and who's going to watch you or watching, is that is a great analogy. If we can take that story and put it into our life. You said it was a great process. Yeah. Oh my God. Yeah, it was great. You know what I mean? Like, imagine if we felt that way about our lives.
00:35:49
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Right? Like, how? It's a journey. Life is a journey, right? But do we actually enjoy it all the time? No. But the process of it, once you have the information, if you would, it's going to be great. Regardless how its it is right now.
00:36:04
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I always say when you have great contrast, there's great reward on the other side. Like everything needs to transform our soul. All the negativity, all the shame. He was talking to a guy and he was like, a client of his was telling him like, oh, I'm getting a divorce. He's like, great. Then thatll cause of like apple hold the like, yeah, it's great. You're going to be so rich and so wealthy after that, but just not right now.
00:36:28
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Yeah. Know that those things is such a great moment of transformation, right? To take the other side of that, right? And lovable, the process is such an analogy to use in life. Like, what do we love about our life? Like, when a person is going through the most, you know, they call something called pattern interrupt.
00:36:50
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and just know We We're going to be paying. Hey, what do you love about your life? And of course, to the person crying, shut up. What are you saying? Would I just interrupt your pattern? yeah you hey The word love. Damn, what do I love about my life? Loveable. Oh, that I'm breathing. Right? And I'm learning this with people that we don't always have to give into what's happening. Even though we're aware, we can kind of look at where we're at and say, you know what, what's good about this pain that I might be in door right now?
00:37:18
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yeah Bro, I get to learn and I'm gonna be okay. But if you don't have that support, if you don't have that awareness, it's hard, right? And I think that's why people like you are here on earth to raise collective a consciousness through writing books and through telling your story. And I always tell my mom, I'm like, Mom, are you going to tell your story? Because if yeah you want certain things, at least I did for my mom, but I didn't know if her story. And so I got older than I had. her be you know, we forgive her and apologize because I put all this weight on her from things I didn't know. Yeah. And so we don't know what we don't know. And so we can judge what we see and not really understand what's behind what we see. And I think you're doing is paying a beautiful picture of not only what you see, but what you get to know about what you see. Yeah. I'm this, but this will happen with this speech.
00:38:07
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that She, everyone, she was saying she's an introvert. Okay. yeah When an introvert speaks, she goes nuts and she's up your heart protection. How do you receive or take in clients? Where can we find your material, your books? How can we connect to you and get in your space to learn and work with you? What's that look like?
Where to Find Malini's Work
00:38:32
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So in terms of the book, Loveable, I have a website. It's YouAreLoveable.com. You can order the book there. I'm also working on a curriculum. Actually, I'm done with the curriculum. So I don't know if there are any teachers listening or counselors, but yeah, you can order it there. It's also on Amazon, Barnes & Noble's.
00:38:51
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and probably find it anywhere online. Before we claim the sacred cell, I've given myself the date of November 24th in terms of finishing it. So it's still a work in progress, but you can learn more about the book and you know sign up for updates.
00:39:09
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at reclaimthesakertself.com. In terms about Reiki and energy healing work, right now, I am in transition. And so I'm not doing any of that right now. Not until I'm crystal clear. I love that. That's how I'm crystal clear. Oh, yeah. What's the social media? can I got to follow you.
00:39:33
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Disclaimer, my social media is wack, but nonetheless, it just is. ah Yeah, maybe I shouldn't say that. I have two social media platforms. So one is, it is lovable, period, a story you can find out on Instagram. And then my personal page on Instagram is millenia, M-A-L-E-N-E.
00:39:55
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underscore K-A-I, so you can find it there. I like it. I like it. I affirm it. With two or more gathered, let's go. So it's good. It works. Any words you want to leave the audience, any positivity or motivation or inspiration, you can leave with the people that resonate as we sign off. I would love if you have any. I think just two. One,
00:40:22
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that it's okay. You are okay exactly how you are. I'm using a that word okay and not excellent. Great. Like we don't need the adjectives. We would create it perfectly. It's okay and you are okay exactly as you are. And that's it.
00:40:44
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Hey guys, here first, in here last, here forever. You are okay. We are okay. It is all right. So it is. This is another spiritual fitness podcast episode. I like that for her money. Malini, Kyle Bell, please follow her. Get into her vortex and connect and write. Come heal through reading, learning her way of being into the world. Thank you again. Eric, like yeah thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Peace.
00:41:15
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