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Speaker: The 28th Angle Podcast.
Speaker: hey Hey, guys. see Welcome back. Happy hump Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday. Welcome back, everybody.
Speaker: How are you guys doing this week? This week? I'm okay. um Nothing special, I guess. Just another work week.
Speaker: Kind a stressful one, but just extra busy. Yeah. Extra busy. Busy week for all of us, I think, this week. Yeah.
Speaker: It's a busy month. It's a very busy month. left home 3 o'clock and got home at 7. Yeah. And none of it was to my benefit. None of it was for you.
Speaker: She was the errand girl today. I updated my board to say November Because I realized last episode I didn't do that. Oh. I didn't even think about that either.
Speaker: um but yeah i updated my thing that says fall now. We went to the Renaissance Fair last weekend. Yes. And it was a lot of fun. We went to one as well. Ours was medieval.
Speaker: um Shall we ahead and start the difference? Yeah. I was going to say that. Google it. They said it's a difference. who Who said there was a difference? Google.
Speaker: But it was really it was really cool, though, seeing all the costumes and everybody dressed up and whatnot. I got me a cloak for my Kenku cosplay coming up. we I got a cloak, too.
Speaker: I got to work on my mask very little.
Speaker: Yeah, your costume is pretty much complete now, right? It is done, except for the boots. Oh, right. I got them picked out. I just got order him i got I got resin on the top beak of my mask, but not the bottom. So I'll be doing a lot of that this weekend, coming up weekend.
Speaker: It's um my last free weekend to work on it. so
Speaker: True. All right. So for this episode, we're doing a twist on truth or dare. So, you know, we can't really do dares on a podcast. I mean, we could, but it wouldn't be as fun or as easy.
Speaker: um It would be a little weird. so So we are going to do truth or therapy. So it's kind of, um you know, you can pick truths for fun or embarrassing, silly little questions or truth to dig dig deeper about ourselves or each other or things like that. So we ready to get into it?
Speaker: yeah Yeah. Let's go. what are you laughing at, Shelley? Heather's camera went like this. I'm assuming it was a cat. Yeah, a cat jumped on the cat bed over here beside me, like really hard. That's why I looked over there.
Speaker: Okay. All right. Let's get into it.
Speaker: Three best friends twist and spin Victoria, Heather and Shelley Let the fun begin Stories to tell, laughs to ignite the 28th angle Shining bright Every week a brand new game Three voices, one wildfire
Speaker: All right. So I think Heather is going to go first. Yeah. we'll start with Victoria. Do you want to do a truth or therapy? I guess let's start with the truth.
Speaker: So I think as you guys know, like we all like we've talked about season one. We don't, I'm just going to say it again just in case, but we don't ever like put rules or guidelines to what we do and research. So there is a good chance to like our truth questions could be different from one another type thing.
Speaker: Cause I don't know what type of truth questions you guys picked obviously. Right. Yeah. yeah Yeah. Um, so I will ask you perspectives, three different sides. Yeah. Um,
Speaker: What is, feel like that's a therapy question, but I'm still going to ask. What is one habit that looks healthy on the outside, but it really isn't for you? um Oh, I don't know. i do feel like that kind of be might be more of a therapy question.
Speaker: Something that's healthy, that looks healthy on the outside, but it's not. For you personally. For me. I mean, i don't know, maybe like sleeping in as much as I do.
Speaker: You're supposed to get a lot of sleep. Right. I'm saying it looks healthy, but maybe it's wrong probably not so much.
Speaker: so I mean, ah I can see that. Shelly, what do you want? um Let's try truth. You want do truth? Let's see because my memory sucks, so we'll see.
Speaker: What is the weirdest self-care habit that you actually swear by? Oh, God. ah The weirdest? Oh, my. Heather.
Speaker: Heather.
Speaker: These questions aren't supposed to be easy. The weirdest self-care. That's what you said, right? um I would say the weirdest self-care that makes me feel good is a really, really, really hot shower.
Speaker: i don't know if that's... i can I mean, I don't know if I would consider it weird, but I can see. But a lot of people say it. in my house yeah yeah In my house, um my husband says it's boiling water.
Speaker: Yeah. Oh, yeah. Erin makes fun of me, too. For sure. Yep. All right, Shelly. Your turn to ask. Okay, Heather, truth or therapy? I'm going to go with therapy just because the last two were truth.
Speaker: Okay. ah when was the last time you cried and why, if you want to share it? I don't cry. What does that mean?
Speaker: Like even if you're by yourself. does watching a movie count? Because I think I cried the other day when I was watching a show. I just can't remember what show it was. I mean, think it was that special forces. It was a special forces because they had to write a letter.
Speaker: but this surviv my cry surviv no on time of surrender i think it was that special forces ah it was you know watch foria's show because they had to write a letter Yep.
Speaker: Like they had to pretend they were dead and they had to write a letter to their loved ones. I watched that. I cried too during that. That made me tear up. Yeah. They had to write. So there um is special forces and they have to, they're like not pretending, but kind of pretending like they're in special forces. So just like in special forces, they make them write a letter before they go out to do a mission um to their family, just in case they die on the mission. But that's what they made them do in the show too. Yeah. Oh my gosh.
Speaker: I cried during that too. yeah it was sad it was sad yeah okay victoria truth or therapy um i gotta go with therapy because i did truth last time okay
Speaker: what spell sorry smell you said smell i was like oh we're doing I don't know what happened there. What smell, sound, or place instantly calms you down?
Speaker: Smell what? Or place? Sound. Or place. Sound or place. Instantly calms you down. Like you're all revved up and. um Probably sage, I would say. Maybe. ah usually light sage if I need to like chill or calm down.
Speaker: so Okay. um Yeah, that's the only thing I can really think of. Okay. Your turn. All right. My turn. um Okay, Shelley. Oh, boy.
Speaker: Truth or We'll try. Therapy. Therapy.
Speaker: What's a behavioral pattern you've noticed in yourself that you'd like to change? Nail biting. I'm a nail biter and I've done it for all of my life.
Speaker: I like to change it. I've tried to stop. It's hard. yeah That's probably good one. It's hard. know it's all in your head, but yeah.
Speaker: I've never bit my nails, so.
Speaker: Heather, truth or therapy? on um Let's do truth this time. So if you had to read the last five things from your Google from your google search history out loud, what are they?
Speaker: Let's see. Because I don't know.
Speaker: Well, I think it would be a lot of cosplay stuff. D&D stuff? Yeah. Cosplay. Like quiver stuff.
Speaker: How Aaron's monk costume should look like. That's exactly what it is. Aside from my gym that I think I googled the hours for or something. know That's funny.
Speaker: That's cool.
Speaker: And it might be weird stuff. So. my turn mine's weird all the time your turn yeah mine's always some random stuff kids always come to me like google this brain rot so mine would who knows what mine would be literally i always have like if we're watching a show or a movie and i'll see somebody on there like who is that person so then i'm constantly okay who played this person in this movie yeah and then yeah anyways I don't watch movies enough for that, but yeah. Aaron's my movie person. He can usually tell me I don't need to Google He's your Google.
Speaker: Yeah. All right. Victoria, truth or therapy? i will go with therapy since I said truth for you last time.
Speaker: Okay. What is an emotion that you struggle to name or show? Did I say that right? What is an emotion? do What emotion do you struggle to name or show?
Speaker: ah Probably like, hmm.
Speaker: Like, what's the, what would it be called? um Like, needing help, maybe? Like, is that, i don't know what emotion that would be.
Speaker: What emotion is tied to that? I don't know. Apparently I don't even know the name of it. That's how much don't. I can't name or show it. I can't name or show it because I don't know. Maybe sadness or like I don't know. I just don't want people to worry about me. So, you know, I try to play it off like I'm fine all the time. So probably that.
Speaker: Yeah, I can see that. Yeah, i can I can see that 100%. All right, Shelly. Truth or therapy? We'll do therapy for 100, please.
Speaker: Oh, boy. Let's see. Easy one, Heather.
Speaker: An easy one. If overthinking burned calories, how fit would you be right now? I'm mad I'd be a a bodybuilder.
Speaker: I overthink way too much. You guys even said it to me, Shelly. You're way overthinking this right now. Literally every time we start recording.
Speaker: Yeah, but I go way down. I lose it, but I'm trying to get better with it a little bit. A little bit. She's trying a little bit. um I think about... I overthink a lot.
Speaker: um but Especially... She's overthinking this question, literally.
Speaker: but Literally overthinking this answer right now. but Okay, next.
Speaker: You're next, Shelley.
Speaker: Oh my god, okay. Victoria. um Let's go Truth. Truth. Okay. Who in this group, the three of us,
Speaker: but good would you look but yeah would you least want to be stuck on an island with and why? Wow, that's mean. Wow.
Speaker: um I mean, I think this is obvious. I'm going to have to pick Shelly. was going to pick me anyway. I mean, I've been with Heather my entire life. So, like, what would be different now?
Speaker: I'm stuck on an island with her. She's literally in the womb with me. Yeah. Yeah, I think if you went with me, I'd be complaining the entire time. it wouldn't be fun. You'd probably want to kill me by like day three.
Speaker: I feel like I'd have to help you with everything.
Speaker: Pretty much. the Oh my goodness. How you start this fire? but Victoria, can you come do this? I can't do it.
Speaker: Oh my goodness. Heather? Yes. um Let's go with truth. true okay what is the weirdest or pettiest reason you've stopped talking to someone man i don't know you can go back as far as your childhood but i i mean as simple as they don't have good conversation i don't know i'll stop talking to them if they're boring to me i'm not gonna talk to them
Speaker: but They can't keep the conversation going. Right. guess I'm done with you. What's the point? I usually stop talking. Wow. Hear that, everybody?
Speaker: So if you have conversations with me, you're lucky. That's what I hear. exactly. If she still talks to you every day, congratulations. That's what I hear. Yeah.
Speaker: um okay my turn i think right okay yeah um so heather i guess i know you just went but truth or therapy let's do therapy i might as well therapy okay what's one thing you know you need to forgive yourself for but haven't yet well that's deep that's really deep
Speaker: Honestly, this may sound conceited, but I've forgiven myself for almost anything. So don't have any regrets that i But i mean that I mean, I don't think that sounds conceited. If you think about everything you've been through, I feel like you've kind of had a had to go through that process of like forgiving yourself for a lot of things along the way in your life. You know mean? So...
Speaker: Yeah, I feel like I've had to do therapy to know that none of it was my fault. so yeah yeah Yeah, that's what I mean. and So that makes sense to me.
Speaker: Shelly, truth or therapy? Truth, please. Truth.
Speaker: What's something you pretend to like for the sake of others, but you actually can't stand it
Speaker: It should be good. Oh, there's so many. No, I'm just kidding. Oh, pretend to like. Oh, man.
Speaker: There was like a show or something. No. Honestly, I can't think of anything right now.
Speaker: um Can we come back to that question? Yeah. Do you want a different one? Yeah, because I can't think of anything right now, actually. right. What, when was the last time you were truly deeply embarrassed and why?
Speaker: Truly deeply embarrassed. Oh, it's kind of silly. Ellie on his birthday party at that ah one place we went to. And then I had a kid behind me and I tripped or, well, I fell on my butt in the middle of the whole place.
Speaker: I was really embarrassed. And nobody helped me up. Nobody. didn't even know where Tony was. Yes. and Everybody was there. Well, my grandson was standing right behind me. I didn't realize he was like right under my legs. Oh, that's why tripped it. And then I stepped back. It sounds kind of familiar. And I remember Wayne was sitting at a table. No, Mario and Lynn were sitting at table.
Speaker: a table having something to eat my husband my son-in-law and daughter daughter and my other grandson were like over there somewhere and the other grandson was behind me and i fell and i'm like oh god my shoe went flying i'm like oh my god i i just fell but yeah nobody came to help me i think your mom actually came to help me i don't remember being that dramatic but Well, it was to me. i So I'm sure that part was just for you. but Yeah, because I felt like, you know, when something like that happens, like when you trip in public or whatever, because there's times where like, I'll trip on my shoe, you know, when your foot goes like this.
Speaker: um I feel like everybody's watching me yeah fall. Yeah, time stops. But like nobody, they're like, oh, and then they carry on with their day. Yeah. But yeah, that's how I felt. It was really embarrassing for me that day. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: Everybody falls at some point. don't think that happened, so. Well, yeah, you were really busy. You were busy, yeah. so um Yeah, Heather.
Speaker: um Okay, Victoria. Truth or a therapy? o Let's go with therapy. Okay.
Speaker: Let's see. to an emotional one. Just asked you one.
Speaker: um What is something you wish your younger self knew about mental health? um i don't I guess just that it's okay to reach out and ask for help or not really help, but like a diagnosis or go to the doctor for it or that it wasn't normal to feel the way that you feel.
Speaker: You know, that it was, it was something. Yeah. You're not crazy. yeah I can see that. Well, we grew up in a time where.
Speaker: Yeah. It wasn't really talked about. Yeah. Mental health was not a thing. I mean, it was a thing, but people weren't medicated for it. Really? No. Yeah. It wasn't going to the doctor for it. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: okay shell It was much harder to get a diagnosis of anything. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I'm going to go with truth, please. All right. Let's
Speaker: see. What is your toxic trait that you secretly find a little funny? Oh, my God. I'm needy.
Speaker: She finds that funny It's funny sometimes when I'm trying to be like, I'm trying to be cute to my husband, you know? Oh, can you tell them mirror But yeah, i'm i'm I'm annoyingly neat. I'm annoying, too. It can be annoying.
Speaker: See, I just, sometimes I do it like on purpose. I deeply agree with that statement. That I'm annoying? That you're needy. oh yeah. I am. I am. See, I can admit it. I know.
Speaker: but like, when I'm serious about something, like, there's no, like, you guys generally know that if I'm serious about something, like, I'm serious. I'm not needy about it. You know what i mean?
Speaker: So, yeah. I'm annoying and needy. and needy But I'm lovable. e But we seemed to all laughing off, I guess. yeah
Speaker: I mean, some days my husband rolls his eyes at me. I think he rolls his eyes a lot. Probably day. every every day yeah Let's see.
Speaker: Heather. Let's do therapy. ah let's see heather um let's do therapy Therapy.
Speaker: What would you tell your younger self if you could?
Speaker: don't know. Just to live my life, I guess. Don't worry about boys. don't know. but Yeah, that's for sure. It doesn't matter. You don't have a father figure. Don't worry about boys. You'll figure it out someday. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. sorry ah Let's go with truth. um What's a petty thing you still hold a grudge over?
Speaker: um
Speaker: i don't know why I'm laughing. I was going to say, do you have something in mind, Julie? Because i don't really think I know. Something petty that I still hold a grudge over. i used to hold grudges all the time, but I feel like I've tried to be better at that.
Speaker: So i don't think I really have an answer for that. want different one? Sure.
Speaker: and don't have very many, but actually I'll give you,
Speaker: i'll give you this one. I've, I asked Heather already. What is the weirdest pet weirdest or pettiest reason you stopped talking to someone? I mean, stop talking.
Speaker: I don't really want to say it's petty, but usually if I find out they lie to me or something, I'll stop talking to them. But I'm going to be honest. i don't really talk to people, so I can't stop talking to people.
Speaker: ah talkly We have to make appointments with her. we talk to her on Fridays and Sundays. Yeah, it's a special day.
Speaker: Actually, they probably just agreed to this podcast just to have conversations with me more consistently. but Oh, my God. That's hilarious.
Speaker: Yeah. um yeah So, I don't know. It's my turn, then? Yep. Your turn. All right, Shelly. Therapy?
Speaker: Truth or therapy? Truth. Truth, please.
Speaker: Hmm. What? What?
Speaker: I think i I already know the answer to this, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Are you sure? Yeah. If you had a free pass to cheat on your partner and they would 100% never find out, would you do it?
Speaker: No.
Speaker: Yeah, I didn't think so. No, absolutely not.
Speaker: That's funny. right, Heather. Truth or therapy? ah Let's do truth. Okay. What? Let's see. Which ones do I have left?
Speaker: What's the most embarrassing thing that's happened to you that you haven't shared on the podcast yet? yeah Honestly, I don't know why I'm laughing. I don't know. itlas on all of them just laugh
Speaker: I'm just like, aha you have to add to that. don't know. I can't think of like an embarrassing moment that. I don't really care what people feel about, think about.
Speaker: um was going to say she's been through so much. nothing She's been through so many crazy people. like i don't Have ever walked into a wall or anything like that while looking at your phone?
Speaker: No. I didn't. I have to. Shelly's answering instead. i mean, we're coming up on time anyway, so i i'll do you want another one? Sure. ah What's the most judgmental snap decision thought you had about someone today?
Speaker: Today? worked from home today. ah but you were out all day? Yeah, you told us that story the parking mean... Did you judge her?
Speaker: I think I judged the kid that was with her because... He was like fighting with the other person. I didn't know if it was a girl or a boy, so not being disrespectful, but they were like fighting with the other person. You don't even know how to do this. You don't know how to do this. And I was like, what is going on right now?
Speaker: And then the kid like put the, the battery, the jumper cables on my battery wrong. And so the other kid was like yelling at him for it. And I was like, Oh my gosh.
Speaker: But he was one saying, no, let me do it. Let me do it. I know how to do it. Let me do it. and I was like, I would have judged him too then. Like, yeah like like who are you? Go for it.
Speaker: As long as you're not going to kill my car, go for it. Right? But wow my battery is a little weird, so I see why he didn't put it on right, but he like barely touched the battery with it. so Like the connector to jump the their car.
Speaker: I guess they were probably already stressed out in general maybe, but it's the only excuse I got for them. I don't think they were stressed out. They were sitting there jamming to music with the car. Oh, okay. Did I take that? that's why Oh my gosh.
Speaker: She was like, I didn't think it was going to die. All I did was play music. But you're playing music from 3.30 to 5.30. Oh my God, yeah. It was like
Speaker: right at 5 when that happened. so that sucks for them.
Speaker: And if that was you out there, she was judging you, just so you know.
Speaker: Really just, judge I'd just be judging the way that they were talking to each other because like, chill out. Yeah, I was just like, I just, I sat in my driver's seat and just was watching was like, okay.
Speaker: All right. So last round. i was going to say, do you want to do one run? Yeah, let's do one more run. One more faster run. Yep. um Well, then I will just do the quick fire questions and then you can both answer real quick.
Speaker: That sounds fun. Yeah. What is what mental health red flag have you ignored before? Like for ourselves? Postpartum? It could be for others. It doesn't matter.
Speaker: They lived with their mother.
Speaker: i don't know. You don't have an answer for that? Postpartum would be my only answer. Like I ignored those. Like I don't know what kind of answer you're looking for, I guess.
Speaker: Yeah, i don't know. Like red flag in a relationship or yeah. Or on myself. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker: What is... You already answered this, and never mind.
Speaker: Uh... A word that sums up your week emotionally. How about that? Oof. This week? Stress. I was stressed this week.
Speaker: Long. was long. This week was long. All right. Do you guys want to ask? Do you want me to ask the rest or you mean do you guys want to go to your question? Okay. ahead We can finish those and then maybe we can ask you one each and then we'll end it.
Speaker: What um therapy homework, what is ah therapy homework that you always skip? I don't know if you guys would have an answer for that or not. I've never been to therapy. I skip all my therapy homework.
Speaker: So does Shelly, apparently, because she just doesn't go. She just doesn't go. ah but oh One thing that instantly calms you down, Shelly can answer that. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: age um The smell of coffee, like the coffee grinds. That's a good one. Coffee does like calm me down too. like I love the smell coffee. I open the can and go. I have an instant of coffee.
Speaker: It's what? Eucalyptus calms me down. Oh, I love eucalyptus. Oh, yeah, that one too. That's what I have in my bathroom for when I take baths. The last question I feel like I already know the answer to, but it says self-care, overrated or underrated? Underrated. Underrated.
Speaker: and i Underrated. Everybody should i do self-care. I don't do enough of it. don't have time to do it. I need to get on it and do more of it.
Speaker: I usually lose my mind and then my house makes sure that I get some self-care time after I rage out on them or something. but All right. So we'll do one more for each of you and then we'll move on. So Heather, truth or therapy?
Speaker: ah For the last one. Therapy. What's one thing you're genuinely genuinely proud of yourself for, but feel like you don't get it to talk about enough?
Speaker: I mean, I'm proud of myself for moving on on my own and genuinely not only just living, but succeeding by myself. Yeah, that is a good one.
Speaker: I mean, I don't know. i mean, I know there's a lot of people that do it, but I had never had to in my life until I was forced to. so You were forced into it very quickly. Yeah. Yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker: All right, Shelly, you want to ask her? Oh, ask her? um Yeah, she just asked us a bunch. I figured we'd just ask her the last two and then. can i Can I give you a therapy one? Because i don't have any truth. Sure. You're forced to pick therapy. Sorry.
Speaker: but What is something or what's something you used to stress about that you've learned to let go of?
Speaker: I almost want to say having control, but and was never like that terrible on it. But I think I think my most recent answer would be money. I probably used to stress about that more than ah should have. You should.
Speaker: Comparative to now. Yeah. I still do. mean, I stress about it, but not like I used to. Yeah. That's good. Same. right. So.
Speaker: Awesome. That's fun. Any last questions you want to throw out there? from your let's see. I feel like one of my truths was what's the dumbest way you've ever injured yourself.
Speaker: And I just have a really good answer for that. Cause I broke my foot on my birthday playing Wii sports, jumping hurdles. So I just feel like that fit that one really well.
Speaker: Yeah. Shelly was there. Um, so yeah, that was the only one I wanted to mention.
Speaker: I fell down a flight of stairs. Stupidly. The one question that is under my funny list that I thought was would have been cool to ask is, what's a what's a thought you've had in the shower that you that made you question your sanity? Yeah.
Speaker: I don't really have an answer to that. but I don't either. i don't either. Think of like Wayne and Alistair because they're like, they're so much like each other when they're like doing stuff like taking a shower that they have full blown conversations with themselves. And if you're like out loud, like if you're standing in the bathroom while they're taking a shower, there's whole conversations going on that they're talking out loud.
Speaker: Literally out loud. Wow. Wayne and Alistair, they both do it. like And so it's just funny. So that's what I think about. like I do always have the most thoughts. Like, the most thoughts. Like, man, I should have told Aaron that. Oh, man, I should have told him this. And then if I don't say it then, I'm just going to forget. So by the time I get out the shower, he doesn't get to know. It's gone.
Speaker: If he was in the shop if he was in like the bathroom and I could talk to him while I in there, he'd probably get a lot more information from me. and That's funny. That's probably those conversations like, but I swear I told you. you didn't tell like Tony said that to me a few times. i'm like, I swear we had a whole conversation about it.
Speaker: I have one of those phone things that has said on the wall that you put your phone in for the shower. So I probably would just text it. Yeah. texas
Speaker: But yeah, all right. I think we're trying to keep it a little bit shorter this week, although it's 135, 36 minutes. So not bad, but yeah. Yeah, it's good. It's fine. All right. we think Thank you guys for hanging out.
Speaker: Yeah, that was a lot of fun. I had fun doing that. yeah We definitely want to get into more deeper conversations from time to time. Not all the time, but you know just here and there, getting some deeper conversations is always a good thing. So thanks for joining us.
Speaker: Thanks for hanging out. And we'll see you guys again next week.
Speaker: Thanks for the laughs, the time we spent Every word, every moment, man Take it in, let it tangle Always remember Look at life from every
