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Do You Purr In Your Sleep?
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It’s hot everywhere, we've finally got almost everyone back at school, there’s been lots of travel as we wrap up summer and the fishes are TIRED!
They discuss pillow walls, CPAP machines, getting enough sleep and how to set yourself up to get GOOD sleep between too many screens and snoring husbands. We find out that Kathy purrs in her sleep and that against her vehement objections, Nancy does in fact snore.
Good Sleep for Good Health Article from the NIH
https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2021/04/good-sleep-good-health
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Transcript
Coping with Snoring and Restlessness
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So it saved us, because for a while there, he was keeping me up so much at night, I would sit there looking at him thinking, how much is it worth it to like smother him to death? Like, I cannot. Like, should I blow on his head? And then I still feel a pillow barrier.
00:00:19
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It's really bad. Like if he's been out and we're like extra tired, you know, I'll put the, pill I don't know what I think the pillow barrier at two in the morning is going to do, but I put up a pillow barrier and the next morning he'll be like, Lynn, I'm so sorry. I see the pillow barrier, of the pillow wall. You know, i I do that too. I don't know why I think plenty of pillow between us is going to do anything, but I do
Meet the Three Sisters
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the same thing. thing Welcome to Three Little Fishes, where three sisters who grew up in the Midwest together but have since spread across the country. I live in Los Angeles. I'm in Nashville. And I live in Philadelphia. We are all married with children. We've all had careers, but now we stay at home with our families. We've all been through ups and downs that come along with life and have always helped each other through.
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All right, y'all, let's jump in. Yeah.
Family and Study Abroad Preparations
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So is everybody recovered from the long weekend? No, you know, I've had rolling company or I've been out of town for like the last three weeks. So ah I had a great long weekend, we had company again, they left yesterday and now we're rolling into getting d1 out the door to study abroad so we're packing we're trying to cram all the things in we cooked a bunch yesterday just to kinda like do final like things so it's been a little hectic so I would say recovery is not happening until everybody gets out the door tomorrow night
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Yeah, that's a lot. What about you, Kathy? How was your guys' um week long weekend with Labor Day? I kind of been busy over the last two weeks as well. I've been traveling. well I went to see you for your birthday. And then I came home and I ended up going on a college trip with my middle son, just looking at colleges. And I just feel ah like a little bit tired. And when I came home,
00:02:59
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The house is all torn up because our puppy that we have that's now, I guess she's like five and a half months. Yes. What did that angelic puppy do? Did she do something naughty? You know, I always laughed when I heard like kids, you know, saying like the dog ate my homework. And I mean, this dog eats everything. I mean, if it's a piece of paper, if it's a paper towel, if it's anything, she grabs it.
00:03:30
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Did she eat your homework? Well, we did have a piece of paper that was important to us and she almost got it. And that's what made me think of that because I was like, oh my gosh, you are a nightmare. But she chewed in our kitchen. We have it kind of fenced off. So she has to roam the kitchen while she's been potty training everything. But she decided to chew the corner of our drywall. Oh, no.
00:03:59
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I have no idea why she started doing that. And my husband, your wall yeah, she ate the wall. And that just like a little piece, like she nodded that thing. And I just was like, how is it that this dog was able to do this without anyone noticing? I mean, that's a valid question. And were also,
00:04:24
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where and Also, was it like laced with like bacon grease? like I wonder what the appeal was. This looks tasty. I don't know. I don't know if like she was just out of sorts because I've been gone. Maybe she wasn't getting enough attention. I don't know. But this puppy has been like something I have to say. I don't remember our other dog doing anything like this.
00:04:48
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That's how I am with that with when we got our new cat. I was like, my old cat Rex would never do that. I mean, do you think that do you think that's really true? Or do you think we put on these blinders like we just forget, like, you know, an infant stage with kids, we just totally forget. but know I think yeah Peter has told me that I have forgotten what it was like to have a puppy. He says he remembers our other dog being very feisty, but Yeah, she she is a handful, that's for sure. How did you have to get the wall fixed? Did you call a painter? like What do you do about that? I actually kind of know how to fix drywall and paint a little bit. like i look get you I'm a painter.
00:05:32
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Like I wouldn't want to tackle probably a whole room, but I can fix like dings and scratches and things like that. And I think Peter did some painting when he was like in college and high school, like a little bit for side jobs. So if you guys hire out, I could use some help over here. He's a little handy sometimes.
00:05:54
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So we both kind of tackled it together because we also had to fix the bench as well, where we have a bench in our drop area that she gnawed on as well. So, because we're having company tomorrow and I'm like, we can't, yeah looks like you know,
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ah you don't You don't want a hole in your
Heat Wave Soccer Game Experience
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kitchen wall? What? yeah um Well, we had a busy weekend, and part of it was with soccer. And we are having the biggest heat wave out here. And I have decided I'm getting worse with how I feel about the heat. I feel like I'm on the sun. And I took Riley to his soccer game, which I normally love to watch Riley play soccer. But it was my... I just went, Tim sat this one out. I'm like, fine, I'll go. It's totally fine. And I'm literally watching this kid play soccer. Like I felt like I was on the sun, sweat.
00:06:55
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streaming down my back, my face, like I was like, this is my, can I say this? My H-E-L-L and I cannot even, I don't even know what to do with myself. And i Tim says that when I got home, I was very cranky and that I needed to figure out how to manage the heat and the sport.
00:07:16
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shit But I tell you what, it was a boo for me. It was a boo for me. No, that's too bad. It's been really hot here, too. It's terrible. We're kind of ready for fall. Yeah. I mean, I'm doing fall anyway soon. I'm going to pull off.
00:07:33
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Nobody Loves Fall Like You, which is another podcast with all your fall gnomes. And I mean, I never knew you liked so many gnomes. and Oh my gosh, so funny. um But it kind of got me thinking, or it kind of got us thinking, I feel like since we've started back with school, I am tired. And is it the heat? Is it the
Parenting Challenges with Teenagers
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routine? Is it me like getting older? Like, what is it?
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I gotta tell you, I can't remember a time when I was not exhausted. Like even going on holiday, I am exhausted all the time. I think it started when I started having kids and it's never gotten better. Maybe I've had some like little glimmers of like not being exhausted in the middle there where the kids were like independent and whatever. But now, I mean, even with the big kids, it's like, we're up late. Yeah, I feel like I'm more going on in our house. I feel the same. You know, when the kids were newborns, I mean, obviously that was
00:08:41
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endless nights, right, of no sleep. But that's to be expected, right? And you're holding a baby. So it's like, you don't care. Right. And it's really fine. It's not forever. It's short lived. That's exactly right.
00:08:54
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Right. You know, we have a running issue with our house is I feel like sleep is very important. Your brain functions better. It's part of your health. It helps you. You need a brain break, right? And so we have a 15 year old and he is busy with school during the week, busy with sports. We know teenagers want to stay up late, but then we also have to get up early for school.
00:09:17
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So I, and like all the electronics are this other layer. So we really struggle with like Riley wants autonomy of being like, I manage my body and manage my sleep. I don't need to worry. You don't need to worry about me, but my thing is, and I'm trying to do this because I think we as adults need it too, is when you're done with homework and you know, it's, it's ten and it's hit the 10 o'clock mark. I like all electronics to be off and to give your brain a break and like,
00:09:46
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kind of start to wind down and I don't, you don't necessarily have to go to bed. You can read a book, but I feel like you need to shut your brain off and let it kind of rest and have a break so you can get some good rest, some good solid REM sleep. But he really is pushing back is like, I think you are crazy. And I am 15 years old and this is BS.
00:10:12
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So I don't know if I and Tim are the norm or not the norm, but I do worry that sleep, I think is so important important of our health as we're just talking about, I'm super tired and I'm crabby when I'm tired, not on purpose. It's just, it just happens, right? So where do you, where do you all stand in this area? Well, I, you know, it's funny you say the electronics because I'm kind of guilty myself of picking up my iPad a lot of in the evening, which I don't think I ever used to do 10 years ago, but I just find myself
00:10:56
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I'm, it's kind of getting to be like a habit and I need to just close it. But like our physician with the kids always, you know, when we have their checkups say, you should not have electronics at nighttime. You should just put them away. But it is hard to do. And yeah, I've told all my kids that they've heard it, you know, from a lot of different sources. And I don't know if they, I don't think they he'd buy it very much because to be honest like at school they use their laptops and they're like now school has started I mean they're constantly doing homework now so and they have to use their laptop so I don't know how you can completely avoid it I guess
00:11:46
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I don't have a fast hard and fast rule. I mean, I have two that are out of the house, so I have no idea what they're doing. The other one has hockey practice. He doesn't get home till 10 30 at night on Tuesdays and Thursdays, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Oftentimes we're out
Sleep Patterns and Electronics
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of town at tournaments, so we're up late and we're up early. and there's naps involved, and but the electronic thing, I just feel like at this point in our life, everybody kinda has to manage themselves. I don't think it's good for you to look at before bed, but I'm guilty of it too. Like I'll set my alarm and then I'll look at Facebook or I'll look at Instagram or I'll check my email and then I'm trying to go to sleep after that or I'm reading a book or I'm doing online shopping, which is like my favorite thing.
00:12:34
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So i I think we all are, I mean, I know my family is very guilty of doing the electronics and I don't have a rule about it. like i Back in the day, I tried to have the phones be downstairs, but then they needed them for school.
00:12:49
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because they're doing homework at 10 o'clock at night. right We wouldn't get home from dance or hockey or lacrosse or whatever until later. So i I do think just like as a society, we're probably disrupting our sleep schedule, like we're disrupting our sleep routine a little bit.
00:13:08
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I don't know what the answer is so it may be more of a struggle for our kids because of their schedule and their homework for sure is is is hard it is ah my point is i' try when he's done with his homework to try to be done but then how do you guys manage your sleep like so then you go to your room like is it Is it peaceful and zen in there when you shut your door? Like, is your husband a snore or not snore? Like, do you do you snore? And is he like, stop making noise? Like, what happens in your bedroom at night? Like, is it peaceful? Yeah. So let me just tell you, back in the day, I know for a fact my husband did not snore.
00:13:53
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Because like, I don't love it. And then about 10 years ago, I was i was like like, I walk around like a zombie kind of like all the time. with it I think that's probably maybe 10 years ago, maybe it was longer. I don't even remember now. But I was super crappy. I was visiting mom or I was talking to mom.
00:14:12
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And she does, she and dad do this thing where they have like this like amazing advice, but they'll say something like, I have an answer for you. Do you want me to share it with you? And I'm like, yeah, I want to hear your answer, mom. Spill it. She's like earplugs. You need earplugs.
00:14:32
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You need the silicone earplugs, not the foam earplugs. You need earplugs. It takes a little while to get used to, but try it. And I was like, OK, I'm happy to do anything because I was like walking in a fog at all times. And so i I did. I tried these earplugs. And she told me what brand to get, which is Max. I've tried all of them. Max are the best. She's right.
00:14:55
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And it takes a little time to get used to. But now even if I'm not with him, like when I was out of town at your house, I still wore them because I'm so used to like, trying to drown out the outside sounds. So it saved us because for a while there, he was keeping me up so much at night, I would sit there looking at him thinking, how much is it worth it to like smother him to death? Like, I cannot, like, should I blow on his head? And then I see the pillow barrier. like It's really bad. Like if he's been out and we're like extra tired, you know, I'll put the pill. I don't know what I think the pillow barrier at two in the morning is going to do. But I put up a pillow barrier and the next morning he'll be like, Lynn, I'm so sorry. I see the pillow barrier, the pillow wall.
00:15:43
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You know, i I do that too. I don't know why I think putting a pillow between us is gonna do anything. But I do the same thing. Well, maybe you think if they're gonna roll over, they're gonna feel and they're gonna be like, Oh, it's like an arm. So it's like it jostles them or something. I don't know. um Like, you know, we have I have a story with Tim, like, he is venison or sorry, Tim, you are. And He would be very loud. I don't like earplugs. Mom said that too, but I just could never relax with them, putting them in my ear. So it was not a good solution for me. And one night, several years ago, I woke up and I heard nothing. Tim was not making any noise. And I was like, no it was like sweet.
00:16:30
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Jesus, like what is going on? Like there's nothing. So I laid there for Pete and I was like, Oh my God, he's making no noise at all. So then I'm trying to decide is his body, his chest going up or down. Right. is see yeah I tell. I can't tell over the covers because he likes to be in a cocoon. And so I was like, I have to figure out if he's okay. So I kind of get as close as I can to him. And at some point I'm kind of on top of him trying to get super close to his face.
00:17:00
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And then he wakes up.
00:17:03
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probably scared him I did. He screamed. I screamed. Oh, thank goodness. You're okay. And he was like, what is the matter with you? And I'm like, something's wrong. You have to go to the doctor because I can't live like this to think that you're dead. So he did go to the doctor and he has sleep apnea. So now he has to wear this contraption on his face, like to help him breathe. But I don't care because I know that he's like breathing in the middle of the night. Well, I actually had an experience too where I kind of felt like he was not breathing for like a few seconds or whatever.
Dealing with Sleep Apnea
00:17:41
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And I obsessed over it because that's what I do. I worry and obsess over it. And so I um made him go do a sleep test.
00:17:49
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Yeah. And he passed it, like by the hair of his 2-H and chin. I've never, I've never heard of anybody passing those. My mother in the hospital wears it. Nobody does. But annoyingly, because I had him do the sleep test, we now have to pay more for our health, our our life insurance, just because he had the test. Like what?
00:18:13
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he doesn't have sleep apnea, he passed the test, but yet our rates increased. Oh, so my rich was not impressed with me. He was like, we have more money that has to go out the door. And I'm like, I know. It's ridiculous.
00:18:30
Speaker
Insurance is a racket. It's just a racket. You need them, but they don't ever want to like do the right thing. It's annoying. I'm very grateful he doesn't have it. I think you you know, and it's amazing when you have those CPAPs and it does really help. And of course, it's super dangerous. But I was like, what the heck is going on here?
00:18:48
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I will confess that Tim did say to me that he goes, Nancy, just so you know, you also snore. And I'm like, no, I don't very confidently. Of course I do not snore. And he one time recorded me. Do you know when he recorded me to prove to me that I snored when I was like eight months pregnant with Riley and I was as big as a house. And he's like, see, you snore. Yeah.
00:19:12
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Kathy, I don't think that you snore, but I do think when we lived together back in the day, you do do like a poo bear. You go you like poo sound. Like I wonder, do you still do poo in your sleep? Well,
00:19:29
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I actually talked with Peter about this because I knew we were going to talk about sleep. And I asked him, I'm like, do I snore ever? He's like, no, but you do like purr or purr or whatever you want to call it.
00:19:44
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And sometimes that I talk, I'll like chat in my sleep. But I feel like purring is, you know, that's so soothing. I mean, that's, that's hilarious. You're like purring is okay. Snoring is not. Yeah. Snoring up early is very relaxing. Yeah. Everybody should do it. Yeah. Well, Peter snores terribly. And I always thought, I honestly didn't think he had like a sleep problem. Like i I didn't think he was not breathing. I literally didn't think he was not breathing. I just thought it was because, you know, as we age, you know, your throat gets looser. Like everything else, like everything else gets looser and like moving around. Now my throat's doing it. Amazing. But you gain a few pounds. I just thought it was like, you know, like speak, speak for yourself. Older.
00:20:43
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but he actually went and had a test done because it got really bad and he said he just wasn't feeling good like he'd wake up and he's like I felt like I didn't even rest I'm like okay then why don't you go get like checked out it turns out he does have sleep apnea and he is like on the chart of like mild to extreme he's extreme and I was like what he like stopped breathing like many times throughout a minute. I was like, are you serious? so it went in i I feel kind of bad that I was always like, you don't have sleep apnea.
00:21:25
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like now he wears the, you know, Darth Vader yeah apnea machine, which I call it. It's super hot, isn't it? But it's like it's, but I it's better than them not breathing in the middle of the night. And I think they do sleep better. But it's so funny. It's like here come the tubes like he is so not attractive. There are times I look over and I'm like, what is going on? I still sometimes I'm like, I think maybe that's why I put the pillow barrier. I can't see him. Oh, my gosh, it's so funny. You i can you know, Cameron Diaz, did you guys see this? Just recently made the news not too long ago, and she's advocating that everybody gets their own bedroom. Like, so you and your spouse have separate bedrooms and then you just come together whenever you want. But that way you don't have any of these issues and you would be so much happier. She swears to everybody. if they just could have their own bedroom.
00:22:28
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What is your takeaway?
Separate Bedrooms for Better Sleep?
00:22:31
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I feel like that's a slippery slope, because I feel like Peter and I, just with his work, sometimes he sleeps in a different bedroom, because he works really late at night. And I feel like disconnected from him sometimes when he has to do that, like you know several days in a row. Because it's like he'll work all day, and then he'll go in that room, and I don't ever see him.
00:22:56
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And then I'm like, oh, what's going on here? i kind of feel Sometimes like it's nice for like maybe a day or two. But then, I don't know. I think if it goes on for a long time, I'm not sure. like I think it's a personal thing. But I don't think for me. I actually have a couple of friends here in Nashville who do this. They have like separate wings of their house. um And then they just get together whenever they want.
00:23:24
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And they love it. I mean, they think it is like saving their marriage. They think it's amazing. I kind of feel the same way though, Kathy. I just, I don't want Rich to be someplace else because I don't see him that much anyway. You know, he travels a lot for work. He's, we're doing like side by side stuff a lot during the day, but I wouldn't, at night, it's kind of the time I get to talk to him.
00:23:48
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you know, we're not distracted by other things. And if he was in another room, what would I be doing texting him? and i feel like i'm Hey, how was your day? you know i I'm interested to see if Tim would like, I don't know. I don't think he minds sleeping with me. But I also am a little bit of a cuddler. And I seem to always gravitate like the running joke. It doesn't matter how big our the bed is. But I'm like right there.
00:24:14
Speaker
So it's like I'm constantly like next to him. So he probably feels like he's crowded all the time. So i don't I would be interested to be like, I'm like, no, I don't want a separate bedroom because I like to be able to touch him, you know, and just like know that he's there, which I don't know why. But I don't know if he feels like he needs to be touching me in the middle of the night. I think, you know, that's my own thing.
00:24:37
Speaker
Yeah, I don't know. My husband is a cuddler. I am not a cuddler in size bed. And I like to sleep on my own side. He tries to gravitate, but I kick him. I'm like,
00:24:51
Speaker
You're too hot. He's like a furnace. But I want him there. I just don't want him touching me when I'm saying. Yeah. I think Cameron Diaz even goes a step further if I'm remembering it right. And she even says that she even went mine separate houses. Like yeah you can be partners and have your own individual space, which is it's an interesting concept. But I feel like as a partnership for me, I don't want separate spaces because That's a lot to manage. So if it's your house and this is my house, I mean, what a luxury that would be. That's also a luxury to be like, this is my house. This is your house. See you at the end of the week. Yes. and i don't know yeah I don't know. I don't love that idea, but I do understand
00:25:39
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I do understand you do get to a certain time in your life where sleep is such an important thing and we're also sleep deprived and the routine is hard when you're busy and yeah town and you're back in town and you're working and you're stressed and you have all these like balls on the air and there's all these studies about how vital it is to have like good quality sleep and your routine is so important and I think in our age group and from now on it's like
00:26:10
Speaker
seven to eight hours every single night of quality sleep you're supposed to get. And you can catch up a little bit, but if you go for years without getting quality sleep, then it's detrimental to your mitochondria is not like replicating or whatever. Yeah. So I mean, it is just like added to the pile of crap we're supposed to do, like eat whole foods and get enough exercise and get your sleep. Do you know, I was listening to I don't know. I've sort of like thrown in the towel on a certain on a certain level and just been like, I'm doing the best I can. And I yeah me add one more thing to my plate. And if you make me take away my electronics before I go to bed, which is like quiet time, and no one's asking me anything of me, then I'm gonna snap. I want to be able to search my boy. um well Nobody wants to snap. We don't know I did it. You know, I listened to Goldie Hawn. She like is really into like mindfulness and um
00:27:07
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especially with young kids and teenagers. Because she looks amazing. She does look amazing. And she said a mindfulness trick is to just take time in the day to just make yourself smile. She's like, if you make yourself smile, you make your brain remember to smile. And smiling is also contagious. So like take some time during the day and smile. And I did that yesterday because I was feeling, you know I don't know, frustrated with something. I'm like, I just smiled. And I'm just going to channel Golda Hawn.
00:27:37
Speaker
and like do some like mindfulness, just smile. and like yeah somebody If somebody's bothering me on the road, just turn to them and smile instead of being like, why are you tailgating me?
00:27:50
Speaker
Right? No joke out there. Well, I feel like for me, sleep is definitely, like if I don't get enough sleep, I am so crabby. Like I can handle maybe a day or two of it. Well, I can handle like a day or two of it. But if it continues like a few nights in a row of not getting good sleep, then I get really crabby. So I think you just have to figure out what works for you. Like, you know how you were talking about mom said the silicone earplugs?
00:28:19
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yeah I do not like those because they stick in my hair and then I do pull the wad out and then I have a hair attached to it yeah and I don't have fine hair anyway and I don't need to lose more hair. yeah So I use the foams for me even though Peter's snoring is better with the CPAP that CPAP still makes noise so I just do that and I also use like a sleep machine which is good. Kathy, I have been a roommate with you like when we meet each other on trips and I am aware of all your noise. You have like an airplane, noise machine going, you're like, earplugs going in. I mean, you have a whole system, but I feel like it works for you and you're able to, oh, and your mask, it says, shh. Yes. Yes. Well, I think, you know, before
00:29:10
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He got that CPAP. He used to snore so bad. I was trying to block out anything I could, you know, try everything just to like be able to get some rest. So that's what I found works for me. And now I think I've just been doing it for so many years that I'm, I need it now. Like I tried to like not have anything and it just is like, I lay there going, it's too quiet. you So I don't know.
Relaxation Techniques for Sleep
00:29:41
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I think whatever tricks work for you to help you relax better. I, um, I like to sit in a hot tub before bed. It helps like just relax all my muscles or take a hot shower. So whatever you can do to like quiet your mind, I think is a good thing for teens, for kids, for adults, for everybody, because across the board, it's, it's important. You know, things I do are, I usually try and like relax my shoulders because I get like really, I hold a lot of stress in my shoulders. So I just try and relax all my muscles. And then I count backwards from a hundred if I'm like really having a hard time. And that actually seems to work, but I did look up from the national Institute of health, just some, what they said are some good night sleep tips. So I was just going to tell you about, I'm just saying,
00:30:36
Speaker
We should all stick to a sleep schedule because it's important. like you know You wake up at the same time, go to bed at the same time, and they say even on the weekends, you should kind of stick to a schedule and get your body in rhythm. Exercise, which is super important for everybody, not just for sleep, but for your health.
00:30:57
Speaker
um getting outside and getting sunlight, avoid caffeine, nicotine. I mean, a lot of people are very sensitive and I actually am sensitive to caffeine too. I don't know if you girls are as well. I would say catt like giving out my coffee is a no starter for me. but yeah But you drink coffee at night? and um No, I don't drink it at night. No. Yeah. They say you shouldn't take long naps, which I do like a nap every now and then if I can sneak one in. But I do think that that does affect you if you take a long nap. I think they say the optimal is like what, 20 minutes or something like that.
00:31:37
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Yeah, I think so. They say avoid alcohol and large meals. So I don't know about you know avoiding alcohol every night, but I don't think that affects me sleeping, but maybe.
00:31:54
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I refuse to believe it does. And then, you know, like they said, limit electronics, like we talked about earlier, you know, electronic thing is coming back and then um just have a good environment. Like you want it to be zen, like Nancy was saying, like try and make your living area nice and peaceful.
00:32:15
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um And then if you're still having problems, maybe you do need to see your healthcare care provider, they say, um but hopefully you can get a good night's rest because everybody needs it. Yeah. You know, I love climbing into my bed at night. ah We have a very nice mattress. I would say if anybody, you know,
00:32:39
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wants to spend money in their house by a good mattress and we have a nest in our bedroom and it go it's during the day it's at 72 but about an hour before like about 9pm we have it set and it automatically turns the air on to 67.
00:32:56
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So our better, very cool at night. And um we also have room darkening shades. I feel like that combination is sort of a sweet spot. It's not, you know, perfect. We don't sleep totally soundly every single night, but I think just setting that environment really does help us yeah sort of, you know, at least start off the process, you know, and ah on a good foot. So those tips too.
00:33:24
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Yeah. I also try and tell Peter, like, I don't want to talk about work. Like, you know, when he comes up at 10 o'clock, like, can we just save it for like another day? yeah Because once we start talking about stuff like that, that just forget it. I'm, I'm awake.
00:33:43
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or finances. I don't want to talk about finances either. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I have a tendency to try and do the to-do list with my husband before
Creating a Peaceful Bedroom Environment
00:33:51
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we go to bed. And he'll look at me like, stop talking. Yeah, that sounds real relaxing. Hey, Rich, I have this. What do you think? He'll be like, no, no, no, no, no, I know. I'm like, I know it's a bad habit. But it's like, I finally have a captive audience and I want to talk.
00:34:13
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It's like, can we talk about anything but your to-do list? Yes. Yes, we can. Right. Yeah. A good, solid, peaceful environment is essential for quality night's sleep. I agree. Good tips. All right. Well, these tips will be posted in the ah podcast notes so you can read about it in the National Institute of Health. Let me ask you girls let me ask you girls this. What is bringing you joy or what are you looking forward
Enjoying a Quieter Home
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to?
00:34:41
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Well, my confession about that would be, and it sounds bad, so don't come at me, but I have been so busy with people. Tomorrow, my son and my oldest are leaving for overseas for study abroad. He's gonna go with her and get her all settled in and squared away. So it'll just be, you know, our son, the two dogs, the cat, and the house.
00:35:08
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and Oh, so you mean your husband is going is going overseas with your oldest? Yes. And our other daughter's already at school. So the house is going to be really quiet. I mean, there's still busyness, you know, because we have two dogs and a cat and a son still here, but no one's going to be in from out of town and it's going to be much more quiet. I'm actually really looking forward to, I'm going to whisper because he's still here. But I'm kind of looking forward it to like having the house quiet Now I have some activities going on and I'm going to, I'll tell you about my fun, but um yeah, I'm kind of looking for a quiet house. That's going to be good.
00:35:49
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Um, honey, don't let the door hit you on the way out. I'm going to really enjoy missing you. What about you, Kathy? Anything bringing you joy or something that you're looking forward to? Um, yes. Uh, we are headed to Fort Worth, Texas next week to see my oldest.
Excitement for Family Visit
00:36:13
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Fun for parents weekend. So I'm really excited to go down there.
00:36:19
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Yeah, super fun. Well, I'll tell you what kind of brought me a little little smile to my face yesterday, um which is just a little thing. But I had to go run some errands before I was picking somebody up from school. But I knew that the last time I drove my car, I was like on fumes. And so I'm like, Okay, I got to get going because I have to get gas before I can do anything else. I get in my car and it's filled up. and Like that never rarely happens. And I was like, this is like bringing me flowers. It was like amazing. So I was super, that made me smile. So thank you, Tim, for filling out my car. I know, I gotta say that's not like my favorite thing to do either. My husband washed my car yesterday, which was very nice. Nice. That's sweet.
00:37:10
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All right, girls, what's for dinner? ah We're gonna put a link at the end of in the show notes for everybody for like a turkey sweet potato chili that I'm going to make. And it's sort of appropriate because I'm going to read what it says it's got. So turkey has tryptophan that is a good thing for sleep. And um it also sweet potatoes are rich of vitamin C magnesium potassium, which also helps with restorative sleep. So this recipe is not only low fat, high protein, high fiber, but it also potentially could help you with your restful, so restorative sleep. so All right, let's hope we all need to give it a little bit of a try. Sounds good. Sounds good. Well, we want to thank you for listening to our podcast and letting us sisters jump into your day. Please make sure to follow, rate and review us. We want your feedback.
00:38:07
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We hope you all have a lovely weekend. Sisters out.