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Speaker: Woo!
Speaker: Welcome to the Holistic Way Podcast.
Speaker: I'm your host Nikki aka Dominique, founder of the Holistic Body Club, Holistic Body Coach and Yoga Teacher.
Speaker: I hope you'll join me weekly as we discuss a holistic approach, fresh perspective and non-negotiable self-compassion.
Speaker: Understanding is empowering and self-kindness is the new sexy.
Speaker: It is my mission to introduce to you
Speaker: new ways to work with your mind, body and emotions rather than against them to create long-term results with more ease and fun.
Speaker: Hello gorgeous friend, I am bringing to you this episode from the beautiful land down under and I am currently living my best life and I'm sharing this not to rub it in but because I'm realizing how important it is
Speaker: for me as I'm living my dream life I'm in the place that I call my second home my home away from home it's warm it's sunny I get to go to the beach I get to work from this amazing place and at the same time I notice how I am still
Speaker: regulating my nervous system every single day and also processing some uncomfortable emotions every single day.
Speaker: So it might seem like when we get what we've been dreaming about, whether it's a dream body, whether it's
Speaker: a dream job, success in the business, the money we've been struggling to manifest, that everything is just okay and fine and then everything is done.
Speaker: But what most people don't realize is how important it is to not only regulate your nervous system and process your emotions before
Speaker: you manifest what it is that you're wanting to manifest, but also during the process when you're receiving everything you've been creating, everything you've been working hard to get to, but also after.
Speaker: So when you are actually experiencing
Speaker: the goal, the result that you've trained and worked so hard, whether it's physically, whether it's mentally, whether it's emotionally, how it is also important that we hold this energy when it is here.
Speaker: So I am going to speak about why it is important to do that before, making sure that the nervous system is ready for it.
Speaker: why it is important to do that during and why it is even more important to do that after.
Speaker: But I'm also going to give you my favorite tools to process emotions and regulate my nervous system daily.
Speaker: just like I did this morning when I woke up, just like I do during the day as I'm going to the beach, as I'm working from this gorgeous place for six weeks, while it is winter where I live.
Speaker: And again,
Speaker: Let this inspire you that your dream life, whatever it is that you've been craving, that you've wanted to achieve for so long, it is possible for you.
Speaker: If it is possible for me, it is possible for you too.
Speaker: And what you're going to learn today is going to help you achieve this with more ease and simplicity.
Speaker: So the first aspect that I want to speak about is making sure to work with your emotions but also your nervous system right now, even if you're not living your dream reality yet.
Speaker: And what I mean by that is that if you've been wanting to achieve something for so long, whether it's the dream body, whether it's a dream job, whether it's financial freedom, whether it's success in your business or creating a business that you're absolutely in love with.
Speaker: and you've been trying over and over again and you've kept falling back into the same patterns, there is a big chance that your nervous system is not feeling safe to achieve those things.
Speaker: There's a part of you that doesn't feel safe or that feels threatened by the desire itself.
Speaker: And while to your conscious mind that might be like, what?
Speaker: Why?
Speaker: Like, this is what I've been wanting for so long.
Speaker: Why is there a part that wouldn't want it?
Speaker: Because first of all, the body and the subconscious mind
Speaker: don't really like change.
Speaker: They like the status quo.
Speaker: Even if the status quo is deeply uncomfortable, there's a part of you that will want to keep things the same.
Speaker: Next, there's to your subconscious mind,
Speaker: and to your nervous system to your body probably an experience or a belief that makes having the thing you want deeply unsafe and i'm going to give you an example based on the holistic body because that's what i'm most passionate about let's say you've been wanting to lose weight for
Speaker: years.
Speaker: You've tried many diets, you've been on different plans, you've worked hard, but you kept falling off the diet, falling off the wagon, like they say.
Speaker: And you, even when you are capable of committing to those strict routine that you've set up your mind to, you don't actually see results long term.
Speaker: That's maybe because your subconscious mind has attached some unsafety to losing that weight, to having your dream body.
Speaker: For example, if your family is also overweight, you might feel like you wouldn't belong anymore if you lose that weight.
Speaker: Maybe there's a part of you that feels like she will be more vulnerable to the male gaze if she loses those extra kilos.
Speaker: There might be a part of you that feels scared to be too sexy, too confident, that feels scared to be judged if she has the dream life and the dream body and hasn't worked hard.
Speaker: Maybe there's a part of you that feels scared to upset people that work hard to get their dream body and you've just come along here and achieved it the fun and easy way because you signed up for the Holistic Body Club.
Speaker: So do you see how there's potentially a part of you that feels threatened by the thing you want itself?
Speaker: That applies to all areas of your life and I have found in
Speaker: my own journey to building a life that I am proud of, that I'm excited to wake up to every day in the process of manifesting my dream body and the successful business that
Speaker: There were many parts of me that felt unsafe and that felt threatened by going there, by achieving the goals, by being financially independent, by feeling and being successful, by being strong and empowered.
Speaker: This is why it's important to work with your nervous system and your emotions before you manifest the dream life or the results that you've been wanting.
Speaker: It's going to be a key process in bringing those results in.
Speaker: Steadying your nervous system, making sure that your nervous system feels safe along the way and feels safe by what you want to achieve by looking at those emotions that are present in your subconscious mind, in your body, when you think about what you want to achieve.
Speaker: And that's not on a conscious level.
Speaker: The conscious mind is just 10% of all the activity happening in your brain and your body.
Speaker: So you will have to work with your body and with your nervous system, not your conscious mind.
Speaker: And I'll give you my favorite tools towards the end of this podcast so you can try them out for yourself.
Speaker: But if you want to pause here, I invite you to take out your journal and start journaling and asking your subconscious mind, not your conscious mind again, let the pen flow on the pages of your journal and ask yourself, why is my body and my subconscious mind threatened?
Speaker: by fill out what you're wanting to achieve in your life and see what comes up ask your body what do you feel unsafe about what is it that you're scared of happening when i achieve this
Speaker: And you'll notice that you will have many things come up and this is going to be your list to work through, to steady your nervous system and teach your body to feel safe, to have your dream body, to feel safe, be financially free, to be safe, have successful in your business and so on.
Speaker: So that's the first part.
Speaker: So that is very important.
Speaker: And I've already spoke about that quite a bit on the podcast, but it was important to me to really bring it to you again, maybe in different words, repetition is key.
Speaker: So it can really sink into your subconscious mind and your body and every single cell of your body.
Speaker: Let's move on to the next part.
Speaker: That's when you are seeing the results, the desires coming through.
Speaker: You could imagine, for example, if you've been manifesting financial freedom, that you've received some kind of information telling you the money's gonna come.
Speaker: Because whether it's a check, whether it's a new job, whether it's a new business,
Speaker: a new client, there's a time of like a gap between the moment you know and the moment the dream life is here or the manifestation, the creation is here.
Speaker: And in that moment,
Speaker: you'll notice that your nervous system is going to freak out.
Speaker: Because here's what you need to know.
Speaker: To the body, being excited about something or being anxious about something feels the same.
Speaker: the physical reaction in the body is almost exactly the same.
Speaker: So maybe your heart rate's coming up, maybe you feel restless, maybe you feel that surge of energy.
Speaker: So to the body, it's hard to tell them apart.
Speaker: What's the difference between excitement and anxiety is the attachment to it.
Speaker: So is it something that you're looking forward to?
Speaker: Is it something quote on quote off positive, something amazing that's happening?
Speaker: Or is it something that you are scared about, that you fear?
Speaker: If for the body it is the same, that means it will have a reaction on your nervous system, even if it's something that you've been desiring for so long, even if it's something super exciting, it's your dream life, it's the results, the desire that you've been working towards for maybe even years.
Speaker: And you will notice the discomfort come up.
Speaker: And in that moment, we need to steady the nervous system.
Speaker: So the nervous system and the body can feel safe when magical things happen, when miracles happen, when results and desires come to life.
Speaker: And this is where you're gonna get tested because this is what I realized.
Speaker: The moment that I knew that I was able to come here, my nervous system, my body freaked out.
Speaker: And the first few days, all I did was steady my nervous system with different tools.
Speaker: I made sure that my body felt safe.
Speaker: I had to process emotions that came up because the way emotions are created sometimes is by thought patterns.
Speaker: And the first reaction was, do I really deserve this?
Speaker: Should I really do that?
Speaker: Is this a good idea?
Speaker: And then my body reacted with, oh my God, what are we doing?
Speaker: So I had to work on my subconscious mind.
Speaker: I had to work on my thoughts.
Speaker: I had to work on steadying my nervous system and my body with the tools that I'm going to teach you later in this episode.
Speaker: I promise you when this moment happens for you and maybe already has happened in different areas of your life, maybe you've had experiences where things that you've been manifesting and creating for a while are coming to life.
Speaker: And maybe if you think back, you realize, oh, yes, I did have a reaction from my nervous system.
Speaker: And there was a part that didn't feel safe in me.
Speaker: And next time that happens, I invite you to use these tools to make it a normal part of your life to create miracles and create magic.
Speaker: And the next part is after, when you are experiencing that creation, that manifestation, that miracle, that magic, that dream life of yours, and to be able to hold this energy, to hold the energy in your body, whether it's
Speaker: new clients can you hold the energy of new clients can you hold the energy of that abundance that's flowing in can you hold the energy of having a body that you love that you're proud of the food freedom that you've been craving for years and months
Speaker: Can you hold that energy?
Speaker: Can you normalize it in your nervous system and in your body so you can create results like this on repeat for the rest of your life?
Speaker: Do you start to notice, understand?
Speaker: Does your body start to recognize the truth and the importance of working with your body, with your nervous system,
Speaker: before during and after creating those results that you're desiring again whether that's your dream body your dream life your dream business the financial abundance that you've been craving do you see how this is going to be key on your journey
Speaker: So I want to make sure that I give you some of my favourite tools to do that.
Speaker: But first, it's important to understand that this is not a done once practice.
Speaker: You'll have to work with your nervous system over and over again daily, maybe even multiple times a day.
Speaker: Same goes with your emotions.
Speaker: Processing your emotions will become a loyal friend on your journey to create the life and the results that you've been wanting.
Speaker: So one of my favorite tools and by now you probably heard me speak about that over and over again because it is truly incredible, so effective, so easy to use and that's tapping.
Speaker: EFT is short for emotional freedom technique and it's a technique where you tap
Speaker: on different acupressure points to let the energy move through your body.
Speaker: If that's something you're interested in, there's different videos on my Instagram account.
Speaker: Please feel free to Google it, to reach out to me.
Speaker: It's honestly...
Speaker: the tool that has changed my life and if you've heard a previous episode where I was speaking to Tara Brunette about EFT I underestimated this tool massively when I did my certification I was like oh you know whatever yeah and I never used it until she
Speaker: shared a session that she used about creating and manifesting your dream body and it was like a lightning bolt moving through my body.
Speaker: It changed everything in that moment
Speaker: I can't remember what the topic was, but I remember it was something that I had struggled with for years and was super intense, and it was just gone within 15 minutes.
Speaker: And that's what I've been experiencing over and over and over again using tapping these last few years, months.
Speaker: and I promise it will change your life too.
Speaker: So not only do I use it to process emotions, I also use it to access my subconscious mind and to steady and regulate my nervous system.
Speaker: If there's one thing you take away from this podcast, let it be to use EFT.
Speaker: Even though there's so many golden nuggets in this episode, EFT is going to change your life.
Speaker: Using it to steady your nervous system and your emotions is going to change your life, whatever it is that you're wanting to accomplish.
Speaker: And what you'll notice is once you start using this tool that your body will have its innate way of showing that it is releasing energy that is regulating your nervous system.
Speaker: In my case, I tend to get the hiccups when I do tapping.
Speaker: Sometimes I burp massively.
Speaker: For some people, they yawn.
Speaker: Others have their belly making weird noises.
Speaker: that's a sign of your body releasing the energy, releasing anything that's trapped and regulating your nervous system.
Speaker: Especially if being in flight or flight or even freeze for so long, it can show some different physical expressions.
Speaker: So just notice what's happening.
Speaker: Tapping is quite a safe way for you to regulate your nervous system even if you've been in freeze for a very long time or even fight or flight.
Speaker: Some of the tools will be too strong for your nervous system if it's very dysregulated but tapping is a very safe way that you can do so regardless of where you are on your journey.
Speaker: The second tool that I like to use is shaking.
Speaker: So really just shaking your body.
Speaker: If you've ever noticed a dog that played with other dogs, they usually have the tendency afterwards to just shake from tail to head, then just move on.
Speaker: And that's a built-in mechanism dogs have to release excess energy
Speaker: of the body of the nervous system.
Speaker: It's something that we can use too.
Speaker: Unfortunately, it looks a bit weird if you start taking your body from head to toes in a meeting, but it is a very helpful tool.
Speaker: So if you're in a place where you get that freedom in that space to move a little bit,
Speaker: Make sure to shake.
Speaker: You can start with your hands, one hand, one arm, and then start doing the other.
Speaker: Shake your upper body, shake your legs, one leg, the other leg.
Speaker: Shake your hips and see how it shifts and it moves the energy in your body.
Speaker: And here too you might have some physical expression of the energy releasing.
Speaker: It doesn't have to, but I've noticed for myself that I have these different reactions like yawning, like the hiccups that are happening naturally.
Speaker: So if that happens, no, that's a normal reaction, that's a great reaction.
Speaker: That means your body is really shifting the energy.
Speaker: But even if you don't have those reactions, that's completely okay.
Speaker: All of our bodies are different and they release energy in a different way.
Speaker: You might feel very tired afterwards.
Speaker: That can also be.
Speaker: So make sure to be gentle with yourself and to always drink enough water when you do these kind of exercises.
Speaker: The next that I like to do and I recognize that sometimes that's a little bit more difficult, maybe if you're more in the freeze state of your nervous system where you find it hard to move, to take action, then that might be a bit of a big step but maybe you can start with the tapping, you can start with the shaking and then you can try and
Speaker: get outside to ground yourself in nature and especially putting your naked feet, your bare feet on the ground on Mother Earth so you can let the excess energy or the freeze response move out through your feet and into Mother Earth that will transmute that for you.
Speaker: Honestly, this is one of the tools that I was a bit skeptical about because as woo-woo and as much of a believer I am, there's a part of me that was always still a bit skeptical.
Speaker: But once I really started to do those, I started to notice the shifts and I started to also notice how my body was craving it more and more.
Speaker: And the last tool that I'm absolutely a fan of is exposure to cold water.
Speaker: And I'll have to give you a disclaimer at the end because it isn't suited for everybody.
Speaker: exposure to cold water or the shocking your system with cold water can be done in various ways it could be just taking a cold shower maybe get gradually so maybe starting with medium cold and then getting colder making sure that you really allow the water to flow
Speaker: over your chest area, your throat area where those different nerves are moving through.
Speaker: It could be even taking a bowl with cold water, maybe even some ice and if it feels safe for you, you can just
Speaker: plunge your face into the cold water that's not something i use because i like the full exposure so call the plunges but i've seen many people do it just with the face because it's more accessible for most people depending on your living situation you might not be able to get a
Speaker: cold plunge.
Speaker: So important disclaimer here, this is not a tool for you if your nervous system is too dysregulated.
Speaker: If you tend to be stuck in that freeze response, for example, where you find it hard to get
Speaker: up and do things and take action or even the opposite if you're too activated and you're constantly in that sense of flight and fight and you notice too much tension in your body already this might have the reverse effect and stress your body even more because what we're attaining with this technique is that we give some um
Speaker: healthy stress to the body so it can grow, so it can get accustomed to the discomfort and widening the window of tolerance.
Speaker: But if you're already on the edges of your nervous system, then it will be too much for you.
Speaker: So make sure to listen to your body.
Speaker: If you're unsure, please reach out to a professional.
Speaker: You can reach out to me.
Speaker: I'm happy to discuss it with you and see if there's something more suitable and to let you know if I would feel safe doing that or recommending that to you or if I would say, no, let's try different things.
Speaker: In the end, it's really important that you listen to your body.
Speaker: This is your responsibility and it's my responsibility to tell you to be careful with that tool.
Speaker: I absolutely love it and I know many people who love it, but I also know that there was a time where this tool called plunges, called exposure, called showers would have been too much for me and would have had an opposite reaction than what I was looking for.
Speaker: Try out these tools.
Speaker: Let me know how you go.
Speaker: Journal on the questions whether it's safe or not for your body to have your desires.
Speaker: If there's any fears or threats that are attached to having what you're manifesting.
Speaker: And please reach out, share what has come up for you.
Speaker: Share how you've been going with the tools.
Speaker: reach out if you need support with some of the tools i know there are so many different tools you could use breath work you could do yoga these are my favorite inside the holistic body club i share many more tools that my clients can use and if
Speaker: Healing your relationship with food and your body is something that you feel called to if you're ready to say goodbye to emotional eating, sugar cravings, and food guilt, then the Holistic Body Club might be exactly what you need because I use all these tools, all these concepts that I talked about in today's podcast episode
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Speaker: that is about 45 minutes long depending on what we're talking about maybe it might take a bit longer and in that session I'll really tune into a specific situation that you've been struggling with that you need one-on-one help with so if you've been called to join the holistic body club
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Speaker: I hope you enjoyed today's podcast episode.
Speaker: It was lovely to chat to you and I wish you a lovely day.
Speaker: I hope wherever you are, there's some sunshine today and that you get to get outside and ground your feet into the earth.
Speaker: So you're seeing your loved, my soul friend.
Speaker: Bye-bye.
Speaker: Thank you, beautiful soul, for being here with me this week.
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Speaker: See you next time.
