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Know Your Values To Live Your Life
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Daniel Hauge founder of passion4achievement.com has faced more than his fair share of hard times in his early years. As he reached adulthood, he also reached a cross roads, with two distinct choices. Continue on the road to self-destruction or turn his life around.
Daniel chose the later and embarked on an learning journey that enabled him to discover how he really wanted to live. That jouney led to the launch of Passion 4 Achievement, a coaching service that supports entrepreneurs and high achievers to achieve their highest level of performance whilst staying true to their values and priorities.
In this episode, of Fit For My Age Daniel and Michael Millward discuss the basics of identifying what your values are. They also some of the challenges that people face when trying to live a life based on their personal values.
Michael and Daniel also describe the mental and physical health and well-being benefit of a value-based life.
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Introduction and Podcast Setup
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Made on Zencaster. Hello and welcome to Fit for My Age, the health and wellbeing podcast from Abisida. I am your host, Michael Millward, the managing director of Abisida. As the jingle at the start of this podcast says, Fit for My Age is made on Zencaster. Zencaster is the all-in-one podcasting platform on which you can create your podcast in one place and then distribute it to all the major platforms like Spotify, Apple, and Google. It really does make creating content so easy.
Guest Introduction: Daniel Haugher
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Now that I've told you how wonderful Zencaster is for making podcasts, we should make one. One that will be well worth listening to, liking, downloading, and subscribing to. In this episode of Fit For My Age, my guest is Daniel Haugher from Passion4Achievement.com and that is Passion4Achievement.com. Hello, Daniel. Hello, Michael. Thanks for having me. I'm excited about this. I'm really excited about having you as a guest for my age as well. Thank you very much for agreeing to spare some time with me. I know that you're based in Denmark and anyone who fancies a trip to Denmark should use the Ultimate Travel Club to get trade prices on their flights and hotels. ah find You'll find a link and membership discount code in the description.
Daniel's Life Transformation
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Now, Daniel, please could we start by you explaining a little bit about your backstory and then we'll talk a little bit about the origins of passion for achievement. But who is Daniel Hauger? Absolutely. So my name is Daniel Hauger. I am, as you said, from Denmark. I have the passion for achievement ah company that I've been running since 2016, which is all about helping people maximize their their potential in a way that aligns with their values in life. So we basically basically help people get clear on what it is that they want and then we put in some systems that help them systematically and consistently produce those results. I personally got into all of this because I had a a very rough past and eventually I decided that I was gonna either go all in on this
00:02:45
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on this thing called life, or I was going to give up on life. And that is what started me on this path to to master my life and myself and and and this overall personal development journey. That's quite a situation to be in, to be deciding whether you're going to jump into life 100% or just jump out of life 100% and just exist rather than live. It must have been quite a traumatic experience to actually go through that decision making process.
00:03:21
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Yeah, absolutely. And I think that perhaps is why it took me so long to make that decision. But my life was getting off track rapidly and the dilemma just showed up and and demanded a decision to be taken. and Yeah, without going into too much detail, we were talking a bit of crime, a bit of drug abuse. I wasn't showing up to school, didn't have a job or anything. And and I was really on the on the wrong track. So it was it wasn't like I wanted to make a decision, I don't think, but I was kind of forced to it by my much circumstances.
The Role of Values in Life Decisions
00:03:58
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You're one of many people who find themselves in that situation. Some people make a decision which means they continue down that road. Other people like yourself make a decision which takes you on a completely different journey and you have a completely different life as a result of that. You've been able to take all of those experiences as well and create something which helps other people go down that more positive route as well. without having to have the traumatic experience that you went through to actually make that decision. But I wanted to to explore this the sort of framework that you have have developed when you talk about value systems. And I think values is ah is one of those words that is very easy to throw around, to trips off the tongue. it's you Every organization has its value statements.
00:04:53
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It is just so easy but actually it's very key to the framework that you've developed and I think personally there are there are too many people I think who don't actually understand what their values are. They haven't sat down and worked them out. Absolutely agree and whatever we do whether it's a free PDF or it's a three month one-on-one coaching package or so something in between we always start when we're in this process of of helping people ah design a life that they wake up to every morning thinking this is incredible and we help people build this life and The first step is always clarity. And when we work on clarity, we always go with the but the value system of the person before we do anything else. and And just as you said, values can mean anything and everything. The way I see values,
00:05:48
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It is kind of like you have your life and then you have these pillars that are kind of holding up your life, right? So in a way you could say the the a tabletop is your life and then the legs are your your values and then some of these values most people will have ah very similar values but they're also some of these values that are completely different you know for some people they may value freedom way more than comfort and safety and for some people vice versa some people they want to
00:06:21
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be career people and work 80 hours a week. Some people want to travel a lot, right? So we have these values and the stronger these values are, the stronger these table legs are, the the more solid of a quality of life we will have. That is a great analogy really, because I'm thinking about, you know, you have the table, the tabletop is your life. The legs of the table are the the pillars, the values on which he you base your life. And then the thing that came to mind listening to you talk to that was like, where you've got a table, which has got one leg that is slightly slightly shorter than the others. And at the table rock slightly, and you've got a piece of paper wedged underneath that leg to try and keep it level. it's it's
00:07:07
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The analogy is just so perfect when you talk about values that if the table is level it's great but then you've got this one leg that's a few millimeters too short and you wedge something underneath it. it's it's Absolutely and I think you improved on it further with with the example of the one leg that is either too long or or too short it's not stable. This will impact the the overall quality of life. with just one leg being being less than optimal. For many people I think listening they can probably say yeah I've got a leg that isn't you know one of the legs on my table it makes the table a little bit rocky you know there's something that isn't quite there that isn't quite right and I'm thinking about the way in which values are used by people to define their lives and the assessments, the judgments that they make around what life is what their life is going to be like and how they use those to fit into society. And it's a big topic, a little word with a big topic. Let me let me expand on it a little bit, because I'm thinking
00:08:23
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that clarity around your value structure, how you are going to live your life, can bring you into conflict I should think at times with the people that are part of your social or work communities. So it's you've got to be brave i suspect to actually say these are my values this then means this is how i'm going to live because that can for a period of time at least mean life can be very awkward uncomfortable perhaps even look as if it's going to get lonely because you you your values aren't matching with the people around you yeah absolutely and and you said if someone
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comes to me and says, I may have a leg that is a bit a bit wobbly. If that happens, I am very surprised and impressed. If someone comes in into me and says, Daniel, I have these five, six primary values and number four is not doing as well as I would like, then that is the client that I will have met with the most solid case of clarity before working with us. What what I mean by that is, Most people don't even know what their legs are. They have no clue. So before we, yeah so, so, and this is something that is very, very crucial. You gotta know for me, I know confidence is very important that this is one example of what a value could be. I know I am a better partner, better brotherrick but a better friend, better stranger, better everything when I am confident. And then we can go further if you want to talk about that into what makes me confident and all of that. but
00:10:04
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But me just knowing that is a great first step. So so yeah, we got to get clear on what these these table legs are. And then you said that it can be uncomfortable. It can be awkward. It can be short term. It can be damaging. And that is absolutely the case. I have worked with, for example, let's say you're an entrepreneur, right? And you've built a huge company. Maybe you've worked on it for eight, nine, 10 years. Maybe it's a seven figure company, an eight figure company, even I've heard. And you realize that your number one value in life is freedom.
Balancing Personal and Business Values
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And maybe that was why you built the business in the first place because you you you figured it was going to give you a sense of freedom, but you've built your company in a way that sucks away all your freedom because maybe you've built an office culture that needs you in the office 70 hours a week. but Right. So that is very, very, as you said,
00:11:01
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uncomfortable, realizing that, oh my God, my number one value, I'm actively working away from, um I'm working myself away from, that is yeah uncomfortable for sure. And that's, I think that's why people don't want to dive too deep into their values because it's scary and uncomfortable. Yes, but essential at the same time. I mean, I was thinking, listening to you, that lots of people will be operating in organisations, for example, where they are
00:11:36
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They're to earn a living to be able to achieve a lifestyle, but are uncomfortable in the organization. And when they think about it, the reason for their own comfort, that discomfort might be that the values of the organization don't align with their personal values. And I'm thinking about A guy who he left school he and came in to um came in as a trainee into my department in the organization that I was working in. And brilliant chap, absolutely fantastic. Did all sorts of various different things and then went off around the world and had a career.
00:12:14
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I looked at his LinkedIn profile recently and on it he says he's really happy to be working in the organization that he's working in because he doesn't have to think about his values or the organization's values because they are perfectly aligned. I'm talking about this, I'm sort of like entwining my fingers perfectly as I'm talking about it. He's found himself a job that he loves in an organization that has values which align with his values so he doesn't have to worry about being someone else to be successful in that organization he can be himself and be successful because of the alignment of values absolutely and and when that happens it's a massive win for everybody it's a win for the company because your employee that feels
00:13:09
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aligned with your values will be more productive, more energetic, he will have less sick days, probably that's don't quote me on that. But I'm, um I'm betting he will have less sick days, there will be less conflict, he will be more ambitious, have more creative ideas. And so, and and obviously for the person, ah the individual, it's a win as well going to work every day feeling like, yep, I'm, I'm working surrounded by and and working towards everything that I value in life. That is a massive motivator and it's just a gigantic win all around.
00:13:46
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Yes, I can, I can see how all, when you talk about, we need to start by understanding our personal value systems. Those will be defined by our experiences, our education, all sorts of different things come in to help us decide how we want to live. And that's what we talk about, I suppose, with values is how do we want to live? And then that becomes our own Ten Commandments, our own rules and lines. You know, these are the barriers. I will not behave like this. I will treat other people like that. That becomes that structure for our decision making about how we're going to live. Absolutely. And when you are crystal clear on what your values are, it becomes way easier to make decisions around how you're going to design your life. So yes, what we could do with people is we
00:14:42
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We kind of paint a picture quite literally. we We want them to have a crystal clear vision, a crystal clear image in their heads, in their minds of what would the ideal life look like? What would the ideal amount of confidence look like? What would it feel like to have the the relationship that you want? What would it feel like? and And I'm not a relationship expert. I'm also not a personal finance expert or anything. I'm i'm more the guy that goes in and and helps you paint this vision. Because once you have that, honestly, I think it's the number one advantage to have. And it's incredible what people will do when they have clarity.
00:15:16
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I agree with you. From a corporate perspective, I can remember being in organizations where the concept of corporate values first came in and we sat down and worked out what our corporate values would be. And a few months after they were introduced and we got all the posters and the little cards and the mugs and all the things to promote what our corporate values were. sitting in a management meeting and we're trying to make all sorts of decisions. And there's talk about the figures and the logistics of the issue, the HR issues and everything around it. So they're all very complicated. Everybody's sitting and presenting their side of the argument why somebody else's decision or suggestion would be bad from their perspective.
00:16:01
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All this sort of stuff. We got all these separate little camps within it. And then we stopped and said, well, let's make our decision based upon the values that we've been promoting. Decision was made within five minutes. We got the clarity. We got the something that bound everyone together. rather than our separate business functions we'd all bought into a set of values. And that was what we were going to implement. Life became simpler as a result of having that clarity. Absolutely. I love that. That makes perfect sense because now instead of having 20 different value systems that come up with 20 different, or maybe even more different ideas, if you have a value system, and this is the value system that we agree on, that we're going to be basing our decisions on,
00:16:50
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that's just That just makes everything
Navigating Societal Expectations
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easier. I don't imagine if you have these value systems, not just in and the in the boardroom, but also for your health, your your career, your your free time. you know and what Yeah. I mean, I'm thinking back of my career and some of the times where I've had to be an HR person for individuals who were seeing their value systems Attacked I suppose they didn't know that they were talking about their value systems, but we now know that that's what they were talking about people who'd got Ambitions people who'd saw themselves doing things differently but had been told by friends by family by work colleagues and People like us, people from where we live, people from this part of town don't do what you want, what you say you want to do. We don't have those sorts of careers. We don't behave in that sort of way. Don't rock the boat. Don't be different. Don't try to change. Just accept your lot. And yet, I think what you're talking about in terms of values is that once you work out what your values are, achieving your ambitions becomes
00:18:00
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not easier because ambitions are always difficult to fulfill, but you have a clearer idea of what you need to do in order to achieve those ambitions in a way that will maintain your happiness in life because you're doing it within your value structure. Yeah, exactly. achieving huge ambitions will will never be easy but it it can be a lot simpler than it is for for most people. i think I believe a value system makes it not easy but certainly easier and also a lot simpler and and and to your story about the people who were told that people like you can't do this, people like you shouldn't have these kind of dreams or ambitions or
00:18:47
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interests. i i had One of my best friends growing up, he would always, he said a lot of ah suspicious stuff, but this one thing he said, I i really take him to heart, he always said, have a plan or someone else has a plan for you. I think if you do not have any kind of plan, you don't know your your values, you don't have any ambitions, any goals you've written down, you don't have any vision, you don't have anything you're kind of moving towards. And then someone else comes and tells you, by the way, you should go over there, you should sit down, you should stop talking and you should stay there for 50 years. It becomes a lot easier to kind of just accept that and go, okay, I guess that's my role in life. If you don't have something to kind of, well, you don't have any other alternative. For me right now, if someone told me that,
00:19:38
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I was not going to do X or a Y, i'd be like what but I'm already working towards this dream of mine. and I'm moving at rapid speeds and I am progressing and I'm hitting every single goal or at least every single intention of mine. I'm um um progressing. And so who are you to tell me that? But if you don't have that, if you don't, if you're not moving towards something meaningful to you, then it becomes very easy to just accept, okay, I'm bad in school. I'll never amount to anything or, Okay I'm a factory worker and my boss tells me that's what I'll always be. So I actually think clarity on what you want and painting this crystal clear vision. I think that's the antidote to
00:20:20
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Well, haters, oh really, antidote to limiting beliefs is the antidote to all of that. Yes, it sounds very much like going through this this process, seeing life as the table and leveling off the table, making sure each leg is is secure. It's achieving this clarity of how you want to live actually gives you choices. It gives you the ah the opportunity to make choices about how you want to live, how you will live, how you will achieve the way in which you live, because you have given yourself that clarity.
00:21:00
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Absolutely. About how you want to live. Yeah. It reminds me of being in a new HR job, meeting a vice president of sales, starting a recruitment process with him. And I'm saying to me, Michael, tell me about the salespeople that we're going to recruit. And I'm in this new job and thinking, there is no way I'm going to come up with the right answer to that question so let's just cut to the chase and you tell me what it is that we're looking for in the salespeople that we we're going to be recruiting.
Motivation and Personal Goals
00:21:34
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He said the worst type of salesperson is the salesperson who's only interested in accumulating money because they have
00:21:43
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no reason for the money and they have no value system around it there will do whatever it takes to make the money but if you find a salesperson who has a reason to earn a lot of money either they have an expensive hobby or they have a large family and they said to me or they have an expensive ex-wife like me then they have a reason to make the money because they have something that they want to spend it on And so we ended up with salespeople who had expensive hobbies. They were motivated by the hobby, not the money, but working hard, working long hours, put them in the situation where they could earn the money to enjoy the hobby that they wanted to enjoy or finance the the family, whatever it was, but they had to have
00:22:37
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a clear reason, some clarity around why they wanted to do that job, why they wanted to work hard, why they wanted to earn that amount of money. And in the same way, I suppose, you might have clients, probably do have clients who will say, This is the lifestyle that I want. It doesn't take a lot of money. I don't need to have the fancy career. I just need work that is going to enable me to have this lifestyle, fulfill my lifestyle aspirations, and I will be happy. It doesn't matter that somebody else wants to earn lots of money.
00:23:16
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it's not a Life is not a competition, it's just each person working out what it is that they want from life, how they want to to live that life, and that all starts with, as you say, the clarity. Absolutely, and I love that story of the salespeople. I mean if ah if you put two salespeople against each other not saying you should but let's say we did for an experiment and one person said I just want to make money and the other person has this crystal clear image of a very specific boat that he wants to take to a very specific place with his wife and three children and do this very specific thing like maybe you want to go to the Bahamas or whatever I promise you that that second guy is gonna work harder and he's gonna be he's gonna make he's gonna make more sales 100% so yeah
00:24:05
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Yeah. You know, when we started this conversation, Daniel, I was interested, a little bit skeptical, even though I've been in HR a long time.
Concluding Thoughts and Resources
00:24:15
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It's like, what are we going to explore? The 25 minutes has flown by. I can say that, yeah, I get it. I understand. I can see that so many people, through no fault of their own, don't get me wrong, through no fault of their own, lack this clarity about how they want to live their life.
00:24:39
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And as a result of that, they're just drifting, like you say, your friend from school. If you haven't got a plan for yourself, somebody else will create a plan for you. And unfortunately, I think too many people allow other people to plan what happens in their life. And I think that's unfortunate. You know, if somebody is listening to this and and wants to find out more, Daniel, where should they go? whats Tell us a little bit more about your website, passionforachievement dot.com. Absolutely. So my company website is, as you said, passion, then the number four, achievement but.com. So passionforachievement.com. And on there, there will be a 100% free PDF. It's called the Seven Pillars for World Class Life. It's it's kind of a clarity tool. You can read it and you can
00:25:31
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reach some of my suggestions to what some of these values are but also my tips on how you can identify as some of your own values. And it's a clearly tool and it's i said free. There's no email up in anything. It's just a gift for people to to enjoy if they want to. It's brilliant. Thank you very much. We'll put a link to the website in the description as well. ah Daniel, ah thank you so much. It's been really very interesting. I really appreciate your time and helping me to make such an interesting episode of Fit for My Age. Thank you very much. Thank you, Michael. This has been great. Absolutely.
00:26:08
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Thank you. I am Michael Millward, the managing director of Abisida, and I have been having a fit for my age conversation with Daniel Hauger of passionforachievement.com. You can find out more about both of us at abocida.co.uk. There is a link in the description. I must remember to thank the team at matchmaker dot.fm for introducing me to Daniel. If you are a podcaster looking for interesting guests, or if like Daniel you have something very interesting to say, matchmaker dot.fm is where matches of great hosts like me and fantastic guests like Daniel are made.
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