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#24 - Stop Crying, Start Conquering—The Truth About Victim Mentality
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Your life is your responsibility—period. If you’re waiting for a rescue that doesn’t exist, making excuses, or blaming the world for your situation, it’s time to face the truth: you are the problem, and you are the solution. In this episode of Mindset Mutiny, we dismantle the weak, self-defeating victim mentality and replace it with the mindset of a warrior. It’s time to rewrite your story, take full ownership, and build the life you were meant to live. No more waiting. No more excuses. You are either the hero of your life or the villain of your excuses. Choose.
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Intro
Introduction to Mindset Mutiny
00:00:20
Mike Ivanov
ah Welcome to the Mindset Mutiny. I am your host, Mike Ivanov. Join me as we challenge the status quo, break free from self-imposed limits, and redefine what's possible.
00:00:33
Mike Ivanov
What's up, everybody? Welcome back. We're in the new studio, having a hell of a time.
00:00:42
Mike Ivanov
Tonight, we got a special one here about canceling your victim mentality.
00:00:51
Mike Ivanov
This is something that robbed me of so much in my life until I became aware of it.
00:01:02
Mike Ivanov
It's a disease out there killing potential.
00:01:07
Mike Ivanov
It infects you without even you realizing it. It seeps into your mind, your decisions, your entire fucking life.
00:01:19
Mike Ivanov
Victim mentality. And today we're going to kill it.
Understanding Victim Mentality
00:01:26
Mike Ivanov
A victim mentality is a psychological mindset.
00:01:31
Mike Ivanov
It's where a person will consistently see themselves as a victim of circumstances. They blame external factors for their struggles instead of taking responsibility for their actions.
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Mike Ivanov
It's the belief that life is happening to you and that you have no control over your circumstances.
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Mike Ivanov
It's quite the opposite.
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Mike Ivanov
We are in control.
00:02:01
Mike Ivanov
At its core, victim mentality is a self-imposed mental fucking prison. It's a mindset that convinces you that no matter what you do, you're powerless to change your situation.
Embracing Responsibility and Change
00:02:19
Mike Ivanov
And that mindset... It'll always lead to blame, excuses, inaction. It will always trap people in a cycle of frustration and stagnation.
00:02:32
Mike Ivanov
That's where the anxiety starts. That's where the depression starts. Trust me. I've fucking been there.
00:02:42
Mike Ivanov
I used to always just feel like my entire life was happening to me. That I was a victim. As soon as I flipped the script and so went on the ah on the aggressive, went on the ah attack, stopped playing defense, that's when everything changed.
00:03:02
Mike Ivanov
It really was that I stopped making excuses. So every time this victim mentality would pop up, I'd present facts as to why I was feeling bad for myself.
00:03:15
Mike Ivanov
But before anybody loses their shit, right, because this is kind of can be controversial for some, calling people a victim. I'll just make something clear. We all have that victim mentality inside of us.
00:03:29
Mike Ivanov
Every single one of us. And if you're listening to this and you're sitting there shaking your head like, not me. i never think like that. Guess what? You're lying to yourself.
00:03:42
Mike Ivanov
And denial is the first sign of a victim.
00:03:47
Mike Ivanov
The ones who can admit that that voice exists, the ones who acknowledge it, they're already on their way there to killing it. You can't fix what you're not aware of.
00:04:01
Mike Ivanov
You don't know what you don't know. So I'll say this loud and clear. A lot of you currently or have and might in the future let a victim mentality run your life.
00:04:18
Mike Ivanov
You let it dictate your actions or should I say inaction? And I'll tell you something. I can see it from 20 miles away. You can't hide that shit from me.
The Hard Work Behind Success
00:04:32
Mike Ivanov
And the reason you can't is because I lived it.
00:04:37
Mike Ivanov
I was a big victim many times.
00:04:41
Mike Ivanov
So I can see it in people and I see it every single day.
00:04:47
Mike Ivanov
I know it so well because that weak-ass mindset was a part of my daily thinking.
00:04:56
Mike Ivanov
This is how it shows up. This is the shit I used to say, like, oh, must be nice to be so fortunate. Like, what the fuck is that? Well, like somebody just, you know, blessed somebody with being fortunate?
00:05:09
Mike Ivanov
i don't know. Must be nice to have all that talent. Come on.
00:05:16
Mike Ivanov
Must be nice to have that great body like someone just fucking gifted it to them. That's the shit I used to say. i hear people say it all the time.
00:05:26
Mike Ivanov
I hear people say that shit about me. And I'm like, man, like i used to be at rock bottom.
00:05:34
Mike Ivanov
I had to earn all this shit. And I used to think just like you're thinking right now. Stop.
00:05:41
Mike Ivanov
You know, when say that to people, sometimes it goes well, sometimes it doesn't.
00:05:47
Mike Ivanov
And you know what? I used to always be like, yeah, that's nice. Must be nice. This is great. Blah, blah, blah Wish I had.
Personal Growth Through Action
00:05:53
Mike Ivanov
Wish I had. Right? You know what? It is fucking nice. Yeah, it is.
00:05:58
Mike Ivanov
Right? But you know what? That weak ven victim mentality doesn't register. The amount of discipline, sacrifice, relentless effort it takes to get there. So these people that I used to look at that were like, must be nice.
00:06:13
Mike Ivanov
I was dismissing. And not able to do the work that they were doing to get that. And as soon as I finally realized that I had this victim programming in my head that was blocking me from achieving what these people have achieved, that was the unlock.
00:06:38
Mike Ivanov
And I had to have somebody tell me that. Somebody had to say, hey, Mike, stop being such a fucking whiny little bitch. Go get what you want.
00:06:49
Mike Ivanov
That was so hard to hear. It was difficult. But it's the best thing I've ever heard. It changed my entire life.
00:07:03
Mike Ivanov
The victim cry wants it right away. That was me. Didn't want to do the work, but wanted all the success. The entitlement to the success.
00:07:15
Mike Ivanov
I never suffered for it.
00:07:20
Mike Ivanov
I wanted instant results.
00:07:23
Mike Ivanov
I wanted success without having to pay my dues.
00:07:30
Mike Ivanov
And let me break it to you. Not everyone gets a trophy in the real world. And you know what? That's fucking okay by me.
00:07:42
Mike Ivanov
Because you have a choice. You have the choice to tell that victim mindset to stay the fuck home.
00:07:51
Mike Ivanov
And yeah, it's hard. I know it is. It's a battle. It's a daily fight to shut that voice down.
00:08:06
Mike Ivanov
But let me tell you something else.
00:08:09
Mike Ivanov
Living life is even harder when you have that victim mentality. Life is tough right now.
00:08:19
Mike Ivanov
Try living it the rest of your life with a weak, powerless mindset.
00:08:26
Mike Ivanov
Try waking up every single day feeling like you're a passenger in your own life.
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Mike Ivanov
Try dealing with failure. When you believe you have no control over it.
00:08:43
Mike Ivanov
Try walking around thinking that everything is happening to you instead of because of you. That's the real fucking suffering. That's why people are fucking sick.
00:08:56
Mike Ivanov
That's why people have anxiety and depression.
00:09:01
Mike Ivanov
Because nobody has helped them figure out that they're holding themselves back.
00:09:08
Mike Ivanov
And not all anxiety and depression is from this, but mine was.
00:09:15
Mike Ivanov
Mine was watching everybody else succeed, wondering why I wasn't, and then making excuses as to why I didn't have the things that I wanted instead of just shutting the fuck up and doing the work.
00:09:29
Mike Ivanov
Living in a victim mentality with that mindset, that's real hell.
00:09:35
Mike Ivanov
Because when you think like a victim, every single problem feels 10 times worse than it actually is. Every setback, it feels permanent. Every challenge, it feels impossible.
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Mike Ivanov
Every mistake feels like the universe is out to get you.
00:09:53
Mike Ivanov
Nobody's out to get you. Nobody's plotting against you. Nobody's waking up thinking, how can I make their life miserable today? That's the victim mindset lying to you.
00:10:05
Mike Ivanov
No one cares enough to be out to get you. You made that shit up in your head. It's fabricated. It's an excuse. You're running from the real work.
00:10:18
Mike Ivanov
And here's where it gets interesting.
00:10:22
Mike Ivanov
The second you embrace that you're in full control, the second you realize that every single action
Building Empowering Habits
00:10:28
Mike Ivanov
you take, regardless of feeling, takes power away from that victim bullshit.
00:10:36
Mike Ivanov
That's when the game changes. That's when you start winning. Because action, that is the antidote to victim mentality. Trust me.
00:10:48
Mike Ivanov
When I started putting one foot in front of the other and I started taking control of my life and I took ownership of everything around me, no matter what happened to me, it was how can Mike Ivanov have done this better?
00:11:03
Mike Ivanov
Bad shit happens. What am I going to learn from this? I didn't fucking blame the situation. I didn't look for somebody to point a finger at. ah see people do that all the time. They fail and they want to fucking place blame.
00:11:16
Mike Ivanov
Who gives a shit? Blame yourself. Figure how you could have done it better. Figure out you could have been the solution. That's what kills that victim shit.
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Mike Ivanov
can do this. You just got to be aware of it. Write down all your excuses. When you're feeling bad for yourself, call it out. Why am I feeling sorry for myself? That's that victim shit.
00:11:44
Mike Ivanov
That emotion, feeling bad for yourself, gets you nowhere. Take that feeling of feeling bad for yourself and convert it into fuel to do something.
00:11:56
Mike Ivanov
Like I said, take the action. Take the step forward. Because every time you take that step forward, no matter how small, you weaken that grip.
00:12:08
Mike Ivanov
You weaken that self-pitying voice.
00:12:15
Mike Ivanov
You go to the gym when you don't feel like it. That's a win. You get up early instead of hitting snooze. That's another win. You stop blaming others and take ownership.
00:12:29
Mike Ivanov
That's a win.
00:12:31
Mike Ivanov
And those small wins, like I always say, they stack up. They build momentum. They become habits. They become who you are.
00:12:42
Mike Ivanov
They are the fucking bricks. And when you live that way, when you prove to yourself over and over again that you're in control, that victim mentality dies.
00:12:58
Mike Ivanov
It has no oxygen left to breathe. It doesn't get a fucking vote anymore. So what's it going to be?
00:13:07
Mike Ivanov
Are you going to keep fueling your own misery by playing the victim? Are you going to starve that shit out by taking control your actions?
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Mike Ivanov
To be honest, your life depends on how you answer.
00:13:25
Mike Ivanov
And if you don't wake up and take control now,
00:13:29
Mike Ivanov
then get comfortable with staying weak, staying lost, and watching other people win while you keep making excuses.
00:13:40
Mike Ivanov
It's completely your choice. Understand that there is no one to blame except the person looking back at you in the mirror.
00:13:52
Mike Ivanov
Victims will continue to tell themselves the same story, continue to blame others. While everybody's looking at that person, they know the truth.
00:14:04
Mike Ivanov
I'm just willing to call it out so that those people can fix it, change their lives. I lived that shit. It's fucking miserable.
00:14:15
Mike Ivanov
God, there's signs. There's signs of that victim mentality.
Impacts of Victim Mentality
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Mike Ivanov
There's signs that well you know you can identify so you don't get overtaken by it. So for example, blaming others, right?
00:14:31
Mike Ivanov
It's my boss's fault. It's the government. It's my parents. and I wasn't born rich. Like all that fucking bullshit. Blaming others, number one, right?
00:14:42
Mike Ivanov
Feeling powerless, another one. Thinking that you don't have control over your life. You have 100% control. You control how you react to problems.
00:14:55
Mike Ivanov
You control the actions that you take, the people you meet, the energy you allow in, the energy you give.
00:15:03
Mike Ivanov
You have control over how you show up, how you handle bad circumstances, what you learn from having the chips stacked against you. Can't feel powerless. I'm not going to buy that shit.
00:15:17
Mike Ivanov
Avoiding responsibility. You're not acknowledging your role in your situation.
00:15:24
Mike Ivanov
So if we're talking right now and you're shaking your head like this guy's an asshole, this guy doesn't understand my situation,
00:15:38
Mike Ivanov
I don't want to dismiss your situation. Everybody has different struggles.
00:15:45
Mike Ivanov
But stop avoiding the responsibility taking control of that situation. Stop letting that situation define the rest of your life. Stop giving it power. Stop letting it change your personality.
00:16:01
Mike Ivanov
Acknowledge that you have a responsibility to lead a certain life. Stop avoiding it.
00:16:11
Mike Ivanov
Sympathy seekers.
00:16:18
Mike Ivanov
There's always those people looking for validation.
00:16:22
Mike Ivanov
They look for validation for their struggles, but seek zero solutions.
00:16:31
Mike Ivanov
Imagine that.
00:16:35
Mike Ivanov
You just like run off of people feeling fucking bad for you.
00:16:42
Mike Ivanov
Wow. That's unhealthy. Sympathy. Won't get you there. Nobody has become successful and accomplished everything in their life by being fueled by sympathy.
00:17:02
Mike Ivanov
Fight back. Take that sympathy.
00:17:08
Mike Ivanov
Throw in the fucking garbage can. Nobody really wants it. Might feel good for a second. but it will drain you.
00:17:21
Mike Ivanov
It will leave you a shell of a human being. It leaves you a victim.
00:17:27
Mike Ivanov
Another one that's very important is negative self-talk.
00:17:32
Mike Ivanov
You'll hear people say, nothing ever works for me. I can't do this. Well, if you keep saying that, that will be true. The words we tell ourselves become who we are.
00:17:46
Mike Ivanov
You can take two people, who are identical skill sets, same upbringing, everything, right? One tells themselves a story of success. The other one tells themselves a story of that. They can't, the person who's telling themselves a story of success will be successful.
00:18:03
Mike Ivanov
Facts. Say what you want.
00:18:06
Mike Ivanov
Lastly, victims tend to resent successful people.
00:18:15
Mike Ivanov
They feel like other people have it easier while they have a hard situation that keeps them stuck.
00:18:25
Mike Ivanov
Stop it.
00:18:29
Mike Ivanov
So now we can touch on some of the pros and cons of a victim mentality, right? We always love, you know, going to the paper, make the pros and cons list. Well, I've done that today.
00:18:43
Mike Ivanov
So start with the cons. And there's a little trick with the pros because the pros aren't really pros. It's what we think the pros are, which actually work against us, right? All right. So the cons, you stay stuck.
00:18:59
Mike Ivanov
You don't believe you have control. You never take action.
00:19:04
Mike Ivanov
This can be emotionally draining. It will constantly frustrate you and the negativity will take a toll.
00:19:13
Mike Ivanov
That's where some of the depression could sneak in. Some of the anxiety. Some of the feelings of like, you know, life is never going to work for me.
00:19:24
Mike Ivanov
With that attitude, you will repel opportunity.
00:19:30
Mike Ivanov
People do not want to work with or help someone who always complains. Someone who feels like they have no control and they're a victim. People fucking run from that shit. Because...
00:19:42
Mike Ivanov
Negative energy is contagious. And so is so was positive energy.
00:19:51
Mike Ivanov
Nobody wants to catch that. You put one bad apple, right, with a whole bunch of good apples, turns them all bad. Right? So if you're stuck in this negative thought process and this victim mentality, people who could help you out of it will run from you.
00:20:11
Mike Ivanov
So you need to stop with that shit.
00:20:16
Mike Ivanov
This whole mentality again reinforces anxiety and depression. It makes you feel powerless, which fuels that mental distress.
00:20:27
Mike Ivanov
And before you say, Mike, you don't know about anxiety, depression, just understand that I do. Can do some research on my background.
00:20:38
Mike Ivanov
I lived this. And when I was at my worst, the victim mentality just started to intensify.
00:20:47
Mike Ivanov
I felt so bad for myself.
00:20:51
Mike Ivanov
I felt like my situation was way worse than everybody else's. And all I did was waste time. The longer I stayed in that victim mode, the more time I lost.
00:21:04
Mike Ivanov
So if you stay in that mode, it will solidify. I've seen it. I've watched people go from high performance, grab a bad attitude. Before you know it, they've changed completely.
00:21:15
Mike Ivanov
Don't even recognize them. But I've also seen people go the other way. Victim mentality for a long time and then said, fuck this. I'm in charge. I'm not living this way anymore.
00:21:29
Mike Ivanov
I'm taking control of my life. I'm running towards everything. Everything is my responsibility. That's what I did. It changed my life and I want to help others do the same thing.
00:21:43
Mike Ivanov
And you can do it. You just have to stop thinking that way. Stop feeling bad for yourself. Stop thinking that your situation is worse than others. Own your situation.
00:21:54
Mike Ivanov
Do something about it. Take action. Move forward. Move through it. And you can do whatever you want. Life will start coming to you if you do start doing these things. Trust me.
00:22:08
Mike Ivanov
So the pros, which is why people like to stay in that victim mentality, right, is because it's comfortable. Blaming other people means that you don't have to make the hard changes.
00:22:22
Mike Ivanov
You can stay the same, comfortable, and blame everybody else and think that they need to change. Fuck that. You need to change. If you're not growing, you're not evolving, you're dying.
00:22:35
Mike Ivanov
And when the brain starts to not evolve and doesn't start to grow and sticks in kind of a rut solidifies it becomes harder to climb out of it people also like that victim mentality because they get a little tension like i said people give him sympathy at least for a little while
00:22:57
Mike Ivanov
same shit you avoid failure if you never try you never fail so people will stay there out of fear
00:23:09
Mike Ivanov
No sacrifice. You won't get anything on the backside. And again, that's why it removes the pressure. No responsibility means no accountability. But it also means no growth.
00:23:23
Mike Ivanov
So the problem is that these pros are illusions. They feel good temporarily, but they will destroy your future.
00:23:34
Mike Ivanov
So listen. Life is unfair.
00:23:41
Mike Ivanov
As soon as you understand that, it becomes that much easier. Who gives a fuck about a fair fight?
00:23:50
Mike Ivanov
Have you ever won a fight that was unfair? I have. And it's that much more satisfying. When all of the fucking chips are stacked against you and every reason is there to quit, every reason is there for you to lose, but you fucking win.
00:24:08
Mike Ivanov
There's no power like that. One opportunity like that will kill that victim mentality forever. But if you're not putting yourself in those situations where the chips are stacked against you and then you don't flip the switch and just take control and do everything possible to win, you won't experience it. But I'll tell you, that's where I want to be. I like the unfair.
Embracing Life's Unfairness
00:24:31
Mike Ivanov
Fucking awesome. Give it to me. I will win. I will find a way.
00:24:37
Mike Ivanov
But a victim mentality will keep you stuck in that unfair, right? Life is unfair. I say life is unfair. Fuck yeah. Let's bring it. Hell yeah.
00:24:47
Mike Ivanov
Great. Challenge. Absolutely. Makes me who I am. Builds character. Builds deeper trust with myself. So there's two ways to say it. Life is unfair.
00:24:59
Mike Ivanov
Great. Or life is unfair. Yeah. Which one? Which one do you want to pick? Remember, shit fucking happens, man.
00:25:11
Mike Ivanov
People betray you. People screw you over. People get advantages you'll never have.
00:25:20
Mike Ivanov
Who cares? Worry about your fucking self. Control what you can control. Some people are born with money. Some have connections. Some never had, you know, to fight to do anything.
00:25:33
Mike Ivanov
But guess what?
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Mike Ivanov
None of that changes what you're capable of.
00:25:44
Mike Ivanov
Think about that.
00:25:47
Mike Ivanov
What everybody else has doesn't change what you can accomplish.
00:25:56
Mike Ivanov
So let me ask you a question.
00:26:02
Mike Ivanov
Are you going to let that be your excuse?
00:26:07
Mike Ivanov
Are you going to make it your fuel?
00:26:11
Mike Ivanov
Because sitting around blaming everything but yourself,
00:26:18
Mike Ivanov
that is the fastest way to guarantee that nothing ever changes.
00:26:25
Mike Ivanov
You're handing your power over to someone else.
00:26:29
Mike Ivanov
You're letting the world decide your fate while you just fucking sit there watching from the sidelines, whining about how unfair the game is. That's victim mentality and it's fucking pathetic.
00:26:47
Mike Ivanov
I know that that's a strong thing to say, but that's the stuff I had to tell myself to snap myself the fuck out of it. If I was gentle,
00:26:58
Mike Ivanov
with myself, I'd still be a victim.
00:27:04
Mike Ivanov
And you know what? Some people might not like hearing that.
00:27:10
Mike Ivanov
And you know what? Yeah. I cried a lot when I was telling myself that shit. Breaking that mentality was one of the hardest things I've ever done.
00:27:23
Mike Ivanov
And I'm sorry that I have to be so hard about it on you But I was hard about it to myself because that's what it took to get it done.
00:27:38
Mike Ivanov
So if you really ask yourself the truth, you're listening to this because you want to become better, whatever that is.
00:27:45
Mike Ivanov
And if you got to go through pain of hearing things you don't want to hear, it'll all be worth it.
00:27:52
Mike Ivanov
The whole point of everything that I'm doing here is because there was none of this when I needed the help.
00:28:00
Mike Ivanov
When I needed to hear these hard t truths that will smack you in the face, knock you on the ground, make you cry. I'm trying to pay it forward.
00:28:12
Mike Ivanov
And I get it. It's raw, of course. But when you have a mentality that's so dug in, it has to be treated aggressively.
00:28:23
Mike Ivanov
There is no way I can put my arm around you and get you to stop the victim mentality. There's just no way.
00:28:38
Mike Ivanov
If there was any other way, I would do it. But I know this way it works because it worked for me.
00:28:47
Mike Ivanov
That victim mentality is chatty. It keeps talking. It'll whisper in your ear that it's not your fault. It'll tell you you can't do anything about it.
00:29:00
Mike Ivanov
It'll tell you just to accept it.
00:29:04
Mike Ivanov
That's not true, but people eat that shit up because it's easier to believe than the truth. Because like I said, the truth, it's fucking brutal.
00:29:23
Mike Ivanov
I can remember having to sit with the truth. I, um,
00:29:30
Mike Ivanov
It's crazy to think about, but I had to write all the things down that I hated about myself. I wrote down all the excuses I was making, all the people I was blaming and why I was blaming it.
00:29:45
Mike Ivanov
and then once I wrote them down, I would read through them and I try to read through them. from a third person perspective. Because if you read through them like, hey, I wrote these and I'm going to defend them because we've talked about how people defend, you know, the worst parts of themselves to the point where they just rationalize anything, right?
00:30:02
Mike Ivanov
Somehow I was able to look at all these things and said, hey, listen, Mike, if I want to get better, I got to tell myself the truth. And if that means being a bully to myself, then that's what I got to do.
00:30:15
Mike Ivanov
So I was hard. I was truthful to the point where people would read the shit I wrote and be like, Mike, you know, you're you're being really hard on yourself. You know you shouldn't shouldn't say ah say that about yourself.
00:30:27
Mike Ivanov
I just say, well, if it's fucking true, it's true.
00:30:32
Mike Ivanov
And the second I was able to see that these things that I wrote down were true, was able to start fixing them. And every little part that I fixed, that victim mentality started to die.
00:30:47
Mike Ivanov
And that victim mentality slowly turned into some momentum. Then came confidence. Then came more things that I checked off and fixed didn't like.
00:30:59
Mike Ivanov
Right? But it only happened because I had to tell myself the hard truth, which a lot of people still struggle to do.
00:31:09
Mike Ivanov
The truth will set you free.
00:31:14
Mike Ivanov
you don't have what you want. because you haven't worked hard enough. You're not where you want to be because you didn't make the sacrifices. So that right there, right? You're not where you want to be because you didn't make the sacrifices.
00:31:30
Mike Ivanov
People will get mad that I say that.
00:31:36
Mike Ivanov
You're not where you want to be because you didn't make sacrifices. I mean, it's pretty simple, but for some reason, People feel that when I say you're not sacrificing enough, they get upset. Well, why should i have to sacrifice things?
00:31:52
Mike Ivanov
Because that's how it works.
00:31:56
Mike Ivanov
You know? Nobody that's ever been successful accomplished great things will tell you they didn't sacrifice anything. Time, comfortability, sitting on the couch, watching Netflix, playing video games. They fucking sacrifice that shit.
00:32:10
Mike Ivanov
Eating all your comfort food, sacrifice it. You want to go to the bar or do you want to sit down and read a book? I don't know. The sacrifice to learn would be that you can't go out and drink. But people get upset, you know?
00:32:27
Mike Ivanov
Or when people keep failing because they keep making the same weak-ass decisions.
00:32:35
Mike Ivanov
And that's a hard pill to swallow.
00:32:40
Mike Ivanov
Because if you accept that, then you have to own it. And once you own it, you can't hide behind excuses anymore. That's why most people choose that victim bullshit.
00:32:53
Mike Ivanov
Yep. I said it. It's a choice. Because taking ownership, that's also a choice. But that means doing the work. That means being relentless. That means sacrificing everything for something further along down the road.
00:33:13
Mike Ivanov
It's waking up every day, facing the things that scare the shit out of you.
00:33:19
Mike Ivanov
Most people aren't ready to do that.
00:33:23
Mike Ivanov
They'd rather live the illusion that life is just unfair.
00:33:30
Mike Ivanov
They'd rather think that success is for other people, that they're just stuck.
00:33:37
Mike Ivanov
Fucking victim shit, man.
00:33:41
Mike Ivanov
But let's be real.
00:33:44
Mike Ivanov
You are not stuck.
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Mike Ivanov
You're choosing to stay stuck.
Personal Overcoming of Suicidal Thoughts
00:33:51
Mike Ivanov
You're comfortable in your excuses. And you know what's even crazier? Like I said, some people spend more energy justifying why they can't change than it would actually take to change.
00:34:07
Mike Ivanov
I've seen it. They'll fight tooth and nail to convince the world that their situation is impossible.
00:34:15
Mike Ivanov
But the only thing impossible
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Mike Ivanov
is making progress when you refuse to take responsibility. I want you to know you need to understand that you're responsible for your own damn life.
00:34:31
Mike Ivanov
It's not your parents' fault. It's not your boss. It's not the economy. It's not your past or anything else you want to point fingers at. You want different results. You take different actions.
00:34:43
Mike Ivanov
Period. And if you don't, then just stop pretending you want change. Because wanting change and actually doing what it takes to make it happen, those are two different things.
00:34:58
Mike Ivanov
Anyone can say they want to be successful. Anyone can say they want to be in shape. They want to make money. They want to be confident. They want to live a life they're proud of. But how many people actually do what's necessary?
00:35:14
Mike Ivanov
How many of you are willing to fucking suffer for what you want? To be uncomfortable. To sacrifice. To get up early. Stay up late. Push yourself.
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Mike Ivanov
Come up against those limits and pass them.
00:35:32
Mike Ivanov
You got to do all this shit while everyone else is coasting.
00:35:38
Mike Ivanov
One thing I understand is successful people They are not lucky.
00:35:47
Mike Ivanov
They are not special.
00:35:50
Mike Ivanov
They just refuse to let themselves off the hook. They don't sit around waiting to be motivated. They don't tell sob stories about why things are so hard for them.
00:36:03
Mike Ivanov
They put their head down and they work no matter how they feel. That's the difference. They don't let the emotions win. And if you're still listening to this and you're getting fucking pissed off about it, if you feel called out, good.
00:36:22
Mike Ivanov
Because that means you know I'm right.
00:36:26
Mike Ivanov
It means there's a part of you somewhere deep down that knows you're capable of more. And that part of you, that's the fire.
00:36:36
Mike Ivanov
That's the piece of you that is screaming to be set free.
00:36:42
Mike Ivanov
So the only question is,
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Mike Ivanov
are you going to listen? Are you going to keep lying to yourself?
00:36:56
Mike Ivanov
So let's put one thing into perspective right now. Most people who have a victim mentality, they think their situation is impossible.
00:37:07
Mike Ivanov
They think that they're dealing with something no one else could ever understand. And I'm not here to minimize that struggle. I know life gets dark.
00:37:18
Mike Ivanov
I know it gets painful. I know how it feels when you think there's no way out.
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Mike Ivanov
Because on October 2019, I sat in that exact place.
Conclusion: Choose Empowerment
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Mike Ivanov
i sat in that exact place
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Mike Ivanov
That day, i had to look my wife in the eyes and tell her something that no one ever wants to say.
00:37:54
Mike Ivanov
I had to tell her. I told her my deepest, darkest secret, something I'd been living with for almost a year.
00:38:14
Mike Ivanov
I had to tell her I was going to take my own life. I didn't see a way forward. I didn't think I had another fight in me. I thought my story was over.
00:38:27
Mike Ivanov
And in that moment,
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Mike Ivanov
my mind had made its decision. My mind wanted to destroy itself. There felt like no way out.
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Mike Ivanov
But there was.
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Mike Ivanov
After I said it aloud,
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Mike Ivanov
took some of the power away from it. That's what I want you to do with your victim mentality. I dug deep. I summoned everything I had.
00:39:07
Mike Ivanov
I had everything inside of me. And I made a choice. I overrode my own mind.
00:39:17
Mike Ivanov
That's why I'm so passionate about what I'm telling you. I stood up. I fought back. I refused to be a victim of my own pain.
00:39:34
Mike Ivanov
That day the old me died. A new version of me was born. A version that realized his power. A version that saw the truth.
00:39:47
Mike Ivanov
That I could use my struggle as fuel. That I could take all that darkness, all that suffering and turn it into fire. And I did. I climbed my way back to greatness.
00:40:00
Mike Ivanov
Not because I had to. Not because someone came to save me. But because I chose to. And I'm telling you right now.
00:40:12
Mike Ivanov
If I could come back from that, then you can overcome anything.
00:40:18
Mike Ivanov
I don't care how bad it feels right now. I don't care what you think is impossible.
00:40:26
Mike Ivanov
I don't care what you've convinced yourself you can't do.
00:40:33
Mike Ivanov
Because if I listen to that weak voice in my head, if I let that voice get the final vote,
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Mike Ivanov
I wouldn't be here right now.
00:40:49
Mike Ivanov
It's that simple.
00:40:53
Mike Ivanov
So if you listen to that weak voice,
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Mike Ivanov
you'll stay exactly where you are.
00:41:02
Mike Ivanov
But I want you to know that you have a choice right now.
00:41:08
Mike Ivanov
You either keep living in that victim mentality or you stand up. You take control and you rewrite your own story.
00:41:21
Mike Ivanov
No one is coming to save you. No one is going to hand you an easier life. You either rise or live a life full of regret.
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Mike Ivanov
So what's it going to be?