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#40 - Flirting with Burnout, My favorite pastime
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In this episode of Mindset Mutiny, I break down the slow, sneaky crawl of burnout—the mood swings, the exhaustion that sleep can’t fix, the body pain that makes even sitting unbearable. I share how I rationalized my own signs, pushed past my limits, and what it took to reset before crashing. I also open up about my current Sunday routine, the power of deliberate recovery, and how running keeps my mind sharp and my fire alive. If you’ve been feeling off, tired, or disconnected, this one’s for you. It’s time to stop flirting with burnout and start owning your comeback.
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Transcript
Introduction to Mindset Mutiny
00:00:21
Speaker
What's up everybody welcome back. This is mindset mutiny and I am your host Mike Ivanov What's up everybody listen today? We're gonna do whatever I want to do.
00:00:33
Speaker
I've got no script nothing to follow I feel like I want to kind of do more of that, right? Just kind of talk about what's going on in my week, what I'm doing, what's working, what's not working, some things of that nature.
00:00:48
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um You know, I do still love getting on here and and yelling at a motherfucker or two for sure. Definitely a favorite pastime of mine. But, you know, if you listen to the podcast and you've been following, these are messages to myself.
00:01:03
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This is the talk that I, you know, do one-on-one in the mirror. um And we'll do a whole separate discussion on discussion in the mirror. um And just so you guys all know, I do have full conversations with myself in the mirror and you can laugh it up or you can try it yourself. See what kind of result it delivers.
00:01:23
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But anyway, so today and, you know, over the last five weeks, I've been on a really deep training block.
Training for a 20-mile trail race
00:01:32
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I have 20 mile trail race coming up September 7th if I recall correctly.
00:01:38
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So I've been deep in prep for that, really kind of canceling out all the noise. stopping with all the distraction trying to keep off my phone as much as possible but more importantly Flirting with burnout and I don't want to get too much into that just yet But that's kind of what we're going to talk about today as far as the podcast goes is flirting with burnout um But today being a recovery day for me, I'd like to talk about that first
00:02:09
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And the best way to combat burnout is to take a full day, right? One day out of seven to recharge mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
00:02:25
Speaker
I'm not the best at this, okay? And over the last couple years, I've learned what burnout looks like. I've learned how to face it. I've learned how to delay it. I've learned how to recover from it.
00:02:40
Speaker
So when I hear a lot of people out there struggling with it, I feel like I can help in a big way. But let's just talk about today. so And I feel like I'm going to do this more in the future. I just want to talk about what's going on week to week.
00:02:53
Speaker
All right. And then if I get some, you know, golden nuggets in there, I'll mix those in and share that. I'll try something different. You know, uh, I don't have anybody asking me to do this. Um, but I have had some people reach out to me and some of the guys I've been coaching, we've been talking about burnout. So let's get after it.
00:03:13
Speaker
So i woke up this morning. It's a Sunday morning. And, uh, Well, as usual, pretty fucking smoked. um And it's supposed to be recovery day, but I have to get some mileage in. So I have like some weekly mileage requirements that I have to hit.
00:03:30
Speaker
It's been about 15 to 16 miles a week. On top of that, which is making it difficult, is, you know, I'm doing jujitsu twice a week.
Improving jiu-jitsu techniques
00:03:38
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But just recently, Kyle and i have decided to get to jujitsu about an hour early.
00:03:45
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So we'll get there an hour early and we'll train one-on-one with each other and the coaches. So Ethan and and Dave will show up and we'll get some one-on-one coaching going on, kind of talking about our game, where we're getting stuck, where we're struggling, where I can't pass somebody, where somebody's coming and passing me and smashing me.
00:04:04
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Trying to kind of like work on my game a little bit. um You know, Ethan brought up some great points about, you know, I seem to be able to take people's backs ah pretty well. And that's something we're going to incorporate into my game. So, you know, focusing on running and jiu-jitsu has been tough.
00:04:20
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um You know, lifting is taking kind of a back seat. Due to recovery reasons, but I can tell you like the body is really loving jujitsu. It's really starting to change.
00:04:31
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um You know, i'm keeping the calorie counts up because of the running and the recovery, but on top of the running, now I've amped up jujitsu, right? so At the beginning of the year, right, I was doing jujitsu once a week. I was lifting and I wasn't really running a ton.
00:04:46
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And then, you know, I come into like May, I start to rent my running up and then we get a little bit more to jujitsu. Coach comes to me and says, hey, listen, I think you need to do it twice a week.
00:04:58
Speaker
I'm like, great, not something I really wanted to do, but you know when asked, I always oblige, and I know that if I wanna get better, i need to obviously ramp up the intensity. So then I started into two days a week, right?
00:05:10
Speaker
And then running, ah you know three to four days a week, And now I've added an extra 45 minutes to each class on the front end with training. So I'll do it twice a week. So we're about an hour and 45 minutes each time.
00:05:23
Speaker
So whatever an hour and 45 minutes times two is for you mathematicians, you can fucking tell me what that is. But that's about what I'm doing right now. And the run-in's hitting up to about 16 to 17, 18 miles a week.
Balancing physical training and a corporate job
00:05:36
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um Anyway, so just ramping that up so I can be prepared for the race, 20-mile trail race coming up in September. So recovery and burnout is a real thing.
00:05:47
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um on top of that, right, you say, all right, that's a lot of physical activity, but there's also a whole mental portion as well, right? So I am, you know, going to work, right? Got to like, you know, got a corporate job, which whatever, say what you want.
00:06:03
Speaker
um Could be 60 hours a week, we'll just call it a lot of responsibility. um So there's a mental kind of burden there. And then on top of that, you know, I've got Six full-time clients right now that I'm coaching and that's going unbelievable. That's really filling my tank I'm having a great time with that.
00:06:22
Speaker
I love seeing young men making some serious progress Watching them address their doubts fears and insecurities. So that's been really really great But you only have so much energy every day right when you start your day out and that's why it's really important that you say no to things that don't really Add to the mission, right? So my mission is continued growth.
00:06:41
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My mission is to continue to help others ah Lead myself so I can lead others Raise inner excellence and others, right? So that takes a lot of effort. So I have to be very careful with where I kind of use my time and So i'm getting off track here. So today, woke up tired, just like everybody else, right?
00:07:02
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I don't want to run, but you know what? I got i got i got some miles to hit. I got to get out there. So put my shoes on, head out, right? So I'm in Essex. I'm taking a nice run through Essex, heading down near Essex Falls.
00:07:15
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So ah head out. It's warm, about 75 degrees, and it starts to starts to kind of mist a little bit. turns into little bit a rain, but it was just an amazing... run right so short run for me four miles just needed to kind of check off the box there and and finish up with the weekly mileage but i took a new route and i really enjoyed it uh it was extremely wooded and then it would pop out by the ocean which is really great hadn't been on the road before so i enjoyed it getting my new shoes broken in uh which is real nice but my feet are all banged up from jiu-jitsu on the mat know i got a bunch of mat burn all over my feet
00:07:52
Speaker
So what's funny is, you know, like when you're running, you typically get upset when you get a blister or something like that. But my feet have just been so beat up since I started jujitsu that I just have open cuts and open like, don't want to say open sores. They're not open sores, but they're open like burns from the mat.
00:08:10
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So I've just been used to like walking around with a bunch of foot pain all the time. and And I got like a toe that's broken too. So like my toe next to my my little toe, it looks like a little mini sausage, man. I'm looking at it right now. This fucking thing is so swollen.
00:08:28
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But that was not a running injury. That was a jujitsu injury. So... So I've got this little sausage hanging on over here off my foot and just running with that can be challenging. but But dude, I'm having a great time. And like really why I say that is...
00:08:46
Speaker
I've gotten so used to the pain that now like it doesn't even really matter. Give me all the blisters you want. I'm just going to fucking keep moving. um So it's all like a perspective sort of thing. But anyway, my run was great.
00:08:59
Speaker
Finished up my run, got home here, and I had some things I had to take care of. Like most of you know, is Sunday for me is a time for kind of reset.
00:09:11
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I think I've gone over my routine Sundays. I've talked about the long run. I've talked about the farm, talked about head to the coffee shop and journaling. So pretty much all that stuff happened today. i headed over to the coffee shop, Little Wolf Coffee in Ipswich, probably one of the best places I've been. But, you know, I've been going there for a while.
Building a supportive community
00:09:31
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So I've gotten to know a lot of the people there, you know, the people that work there and and some of the customers, right? So I've built a little community in there, which has been,
00:09:40
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so great you know i can walk in there and uh be in a bad mood and i can leave there feeling great because the people in there are looking to me and they uh they know my baseline they know how upbeat i usually am so if uh if i need some energy they give it to me um but that's because i've been giving them energy every time i walk in there and that's important for me to state that because that's something that you can do in your daily life I'll probably talk about that further because wherever you can go, you can build a community, but it's on you to do so, right? And everybody kind of must get in and out of places and and not really enjoy what's around them. But I got to tell you, and you'll hear me say this again and again, people are the medicine.
00:10:21
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And I have finally realized that. So that's kind of how I move through life right now at this point in time. So anyway, sat down, had a Cortado, great coffee. it's all ah It's all roasted right on site.
00:10:35
Speaker
Actually, just across the parking lot, they have a second building where they do all the roasting and did some really good journaling today. was kind of plotting the course for the next couple of months. been working
Visit to the farm and dealing with loss
00:10:47
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on a lot of projects.
00:10:48
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So that is a that's been taking up a lot of my time. So went from there over to the farm. Saw the donkeys today and and all the ducks.
00:11:02
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couple of the guys tried to escape over to the clam box. and know I've mentioned that before, but these ducks will cross quite a busy road. And then head over to try to grab some clams and french fries from the restaurant across the street. So kind of funny anyway.
00:11:20
Speaker
and Excuse me. So anyway, I saw them and then I kind of headed over to see the donkeys. So a couple of years of corn for the donkeys. ah They were in great spirits. You know, it was kind of sad because one of the donkeys passed away and I've been feeding that donkey since 2020.
00:11:36
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So they got a new one now, which is pretty rare. It's a rare donkey, which I'm not too well versed on donkey collecting, but apparently it's a rare donkey, which is all rescue. All the animals are rescued there too. So it's really great. but Anyway,
00:11:57
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headed over there, got to my eggs. my Sorry, I got a little cough here. I'm trying to try not to ruin the whole podcast here with a cough, but I might have to take a break for some water here in a second.
00:12:11
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So I'm at Northern Lights Farm and I know I don't really share that too much because i don't anybody to know where it is because it's it's so special. um But I've been on and like a duck egg kick.
00:12:22
Speaker
They have duck eggs there and they are the best hard boiled. So you hard boil about 10 minutes. And they don't smell at all, right? Like a lot of hard-boiled eggs smell, chicken eggs, right? But these duck eggs, they're huge. And when you hard-boil them, the center kind of gets stays a little oozy, right Because it's such a big egg. So 10 minutes, boom, hard-boil them.
00:12:43
Speaker
And then you get a runny center out of them for the rest of the week that they you're eating them. But I got to tell you, I'm on a duck egg kick. And probably probably going to stay that way for a while, to be honest. ah Quite enjoyable. Give me second here.
00:13:02
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Alright, so I'm back here. said I had to grab the water before I start coughing again. lot of pollen out there, so kind of running can cause me some issues. I haven't figured out a way to get around that, but that's what we're dealing with right now. Stuffy nose and some pollen indigestion. I went blueberry picking yesterday too, so that probably didn't help me out too much.
00:13:24
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so anyway head over the farm finish that up and then i stop at the butcher shop so i got my farm fresh eggs for the week and i head over the butcher shop so i can grab i usually end up getting about 14 burgers i'll cook those off on the uh on the grill so i use a flat top griddle and i'll just i'll pack them in in containers of two and that's how i'll kind of approach my meals for the week now that's only good for about three to four days so you got to be kind of careful there you don't want to have any food spoil but that you know i hate wasting food so i used to get about 18 burgers but i'd end up with like one or two extra end up wasting them so that's a bit of a problem for me but anyway
00:14:07
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Ended up getting home and took my wife over to Woodman's. Had a couple lobster and clam lunch, which is super outside of my kind of character. I guess it doesn't fit my character, right? A little fried food, but...
00:14:24
Speaker
Devin's been wanting to go since we moved here so head over to Woodman's got a lobster some Ipswich fried clams and and now this brings me to now where we're sitting here I got a meal prep a little bit in a little bit here but let's get going and discuss and burnout right so My entire last couple years has been flirting with burnout.
Recognizing and managing burnout
00:14:52
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Sitting there dancing with the devil, I guess is what you could say.
00:14:59
Speaker
So couple months ago, I had pushed the farthest I could and have before. I put myself in bed for three days. I ignored all the warning signs.
00:15:13
Speaker
So what's interesting is when you really kind of dig into burnout, it's not just like about being tired. It's a slow collapse. kind of lose ground day by day.
00:15:26
Speaker
And now everybody has a different, like, let's just look at it like a gas tank. Everybody's gas tank is let's just say everybody, you can't say that because everybody doesn't have the same amount of gas.
00:15:40
Speaker
It's a bad example. The point being is that people are on the journey, they're on a little bit of a different journey than than others, right? So some people have, well, we'll say bigger gas tanks than others, right? So you can't compare my gas tank to somebody who just started working out, right? Or somebody who, you know, has only been doing this for a couple of years. You know, this has been something I've been focusing on for, you know, five, six years now.
00:16:03
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And, you know, obviously before that, You know, I played hockey and did things of that nature. So no stranger to, you know, pushing pushing that kind of that envelope.
00:16:15
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But I don't want to get it like confused because this kind of needs to apply to everybody. and need to at least make it apply to everybody. So we all have different size gas tanks and we also have different size engines, right? So some of us burn more gas than others to kind of do the same work.
00:16:30
Speaker
Now, what I need to be clear on is there's a difference between being tired and being burnt out. um which is a hard differentiator because a lot of people will want to like make the excuse that they're burnt out when they're actually not burnt out they just need to continue pushing so I have kind of flirted with this for so many years especially in the last two years I've really been paying attention to it and tracking it there's a major difference and I will break down kind of the symptoms of how it attacks me when I'm burnt out
00:17:03
Speaker
ah But, you know, I used to think that I was unstoppable, right? You know i thought that the more effort, the more I would grind, the more I would push would get me there. But the problem is, is that same fire that fuels like the push is the same fire that will burn you to ash if you're not careful. So burnout is very, very sneaky, kind of creeps into your life.
00:17:29
Speaker
And by the time you see it, It's kind of too late. and And that's been what I've been kind of dealing with, right? So I'll get an idea that I'm burnt out and then my mind will rationalize and say, no, you're not burnt out. I keep pushing.
00:17:44
Speaker
And I will. And then I'll get over that first stage or whatever. and uh and we'll get through it and then i'll come up to another symptom of burnout and i'll push through that and then i'll come up with another symptom of burnout i'll push through that and then before you know it you know you're in bed for three days or you're taking a week off or you know you've been a complete nasty asshole for the past two weeks while you're dealing with this shit right so for me burnout
00:18:12
Speaker
is a super sneaky little fucker. It really is. um And it's obvious, sometimes obvious to the people around you, but not obvious to you. So the reason I say that is I have some people around me that will,
00:18:27
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you know Be like, Mike, ah you know I'm not surprised that you're tired or that you're you know that you're telling me that you're burnt out. And again, I don't really use those words. I never really use the word burnt out.
00:18:39
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And I rarely use the word tired. But when I use the word tired, it's a huge signal to me that like, hey, dude, you know something's wrong. As soon as that word comes out of my mouth, I need to kind of really keep an eye on that.
00:18:55
Speaker
Excuse me. So the way it shows up in my life, the first issue is my mood shifts.
00:19:08
Speaker
So I'll be like at the end of the day and I'll be at home after work and after coaching, whatever, I'll be sitting on the floor stretching and, uh,
00:19:20
Speaker
and I'll feel like my patients start to fade. You know, my wife will be talking to me and, you know, just trying to tell me how our day is or trying and talk to me about something that she read or whatever.
00:19:35
Speaker
And I can, find I find that I can't even listen. And I find that I start to get anxious, just like having to listen. So that tells me that I've kind of have no capacity left for anything that day.
00:19:52
Speaker
Now, the old me used to try to push through that. I would kind of stay up, try to ride that mood out, see if I could make it better. But, you know, we it's like 730 at night when this is happening.
00:20:04
Speaker
Now I just get up and go to bed. So that's the first like signal is a mood shift. So anybody that is out there pushing it needs to be conscious of the mood. And I always kind of register that every day. I make sure kind of like kind of like a self-check, right? Kind of run through like the the check sheet, you know?
00:20:26
Speaker
And mood doesn't always matter, right? Like so...
00:20:31
Speaker
and don't want you to think because your mood isn't a mood of like motivation and wanting to get out there and do all these things that you're burnt out. Doesn't mean I have so many different moods throughout my, you know, my day.
00:20:45
Speaker
But this like one particular feeling I've been able to identify as the first signal. All right. So don't think that, oh my mood's off today. I must be burnt out. That's that's fucking bullshit.
00:20:58
Speaker
And to be honest with you, if you're not if you're not like filling your day and you're sitting on the couch, you're scrolling on Instagram, you're doing this shit, you ain't fucking burnt out. Like, let's not play games, okay? This this actual episode is for people that are pushing it as hard as possible, okay?
00:21:20
Speaker
They're coming up empty at the end of the week. They're feeling fucking smoked, okay? That's that's what this is for. If you're just kind of cruising through life and you're feeling comfortable, well, like I always say, shut this shit off. And and maybe you already shut it off. So that'd be a good thing for everybody if you're a fucking faker.
00:21:37
Speaker
But anyway, mood shift, number one to pay attention to. Second is lack of patience. So I'll be... going through my day and you know a small little issue will come up and it'll be a complete fucking like it'll it'll it'll want me to I want to have a meltdown right and and of course I don't but I see oh wow wait a minute that was something simple why is my patience wearing thin right and then I will have earlier that week recognize the mood shift and then i see the lack of patience come in and that can come in in anything right
00:22:10
Speaker
It also shows up in like, um so I have like these little micro routines that I have, which are important because what I do as I'll build these routines, you know, and then I'll monitor the routine to make sure the routine is getting done.
00:22:24
Speaker
And when the routine isn't getting done, then I know, all right, like I got to back into what that is. So I have this one particular one where, so I have all these vitamins. I prep my vitamins for 14 days.
00:22:34
Speaker
And then I prep like, let's see, one, two, three, four, eight, nine,
00:22:41
Speaker
10 protein shakes i'll i'll prep them so i have like these little containers that i've that i fill up with like i'll do my my protein my collagen my glutamine and my creatine and i'll put it all in like a little container and what that does is that helps me get out of the house faster in the morning so i'm not opening up like nine or ten different things right so I'll do that.
00:23:02
Speaker
um But like when you come to like the last protein shake and it's gone, and then you've got to reprep these 11 or whatever, these 10 or 11, you may think that that sounds easy.
00:23:14
Speaker
And it is. Very simple task. But there are times where that seems like the most monumental problem, right? Where it's so difficult to do that task.
00:23:26
Speaker
And that's how I kind of pick up on like where my burnout is, what what my level of like energy is, right? So this is such an easy task to literally... add five components to one container.
00:23:37
Speaker
Very, very simple. 10 or 11 times in a row, whatever. okay Or my vitamins that you know I just got to take open a bunch of vitamin bottles and and sort them out into 14 pill containers. right Sounds easy.
Signs and strategies to combat burnout
00:23:53
Speaker
But I've noticed that when I'm close to burnout or I'm dealing with a lack of recovery, I want to cry. Literally feels like I want to cry having to do that.
00:24:06
Speaker
No joke. That is what burnout starts to look like when those small tasks become monumental. But I use that as a signal, right? So like I said, I have these little routines that I use to try to like keep an eye on myself.
00:24:22
Speaker
And those things have happened over time. You know, ah just trying to figure out, first of all, it started with how can i be more efficient? Then it was like, all right, nobody wants to open 12 or 13 pill bottles before they go to sleep. So of course I have to prep that, right? If I'm going to be successful at taking my vitamin stack all the time.
00:24:40
Speaker
But now I've used it to detect like issues, right? So when my when I put the containers on my bar top and they sit there for a day or two, I'm like, oh man, like shit, like I should be doing that.
00:24:53
Speaker
And then I'm like, all right, why am I not doing that? Oh, that's right, because I'm starting to approach some level of lack of patience, lack of you know motivation, like I'm running on fumes, all right? So then I'll say, all right, listen, now we got to ramp up sleep.
00:25:09
Speaker
um there's always a response to some of these triggers, right? So the mood shift, first thing is I just get in bed, right? Most things can be fixed with more sleep, but none of you guys want to sleep.
00:25:25
Speaker
In fact, most of the time when I talk to people about sleep, I get the, oh I'm good on six hours. You know, I hear that from from guys at very high levels, you know? And I just kind of laugh and I'm like, yeah, dude, that's great.
00:25:41
Speaker
I'm glad you're so fucking tough and you can function on six hours of sleep. Imagine how good you would be on eight to nine hours of sleep is what I usually say to them. And I get a look, you know.
00:25:53
Speaker
I can tell you and I will promise you that most things i I am so bought in on is sleep. I've been studying sleep for the last four or five years. I can sleep the best.
00:26:05
Speaker
And I used to never be able to sleep. But I will tell you the more sleep I get, the more stress I can handle, the more I can perform, the better my brain functions, All of that. Sleep is the multiplier.
00:26:18
Speaker
So when I hear somebody tell me, oh yeah, you only need six. I'm like, right, great. I can run you into the ground. That's exactly what goes through my head.
00:26:27
Speaker
I laugh, okay? So if you're out there and you're talking that same shit that you can get get by on six hours of sleep or you know you start getting that FOMO that you want to stay up later, fuck that, get in bed.
00:26:40
Speaker
It's the best thing you can do to combat burnout. It's the best thing you can do to promote recovery. It's the best thing that you can do to be to set yourself up for success, okay? Okay.
00:26:53
Speaker
So what else happens when I pass through, so I've done this obviously and many times and I still do because sometimes it's required.
00:27:03
Speaker
Don't necessarily always do what I say, right? Or don't really do what I do, I guess is what I should say.
00:27:12
Speaker
Sometimes when you push through the mood shift, you push through the lack of patience. You can end up sleeping 9 to 10 hours, waking up and still feeling exhausted.
00:27:23
Speaker
Okay, that's the third sign. Which is one I still push through. Okay? Because I'm like, alright, you know, this is just a couple days. I got to get a couple more days of good sleep and then I should be good. Alright?
00:27:35
Speaker
Not recommended. But something that I would say a lot of high performers do, they can push through that.
00:27:43
Speaker
Just another sign. I can tell you that there's times where I'll lay in bed sleeping. I'm asleep, but the quality of the sleep is not good. And I can feel it, you know, and like the body is just unsettled.
00:27:58
Speaker
You know, the mind is asleep, but the body's still kind of stirring around, if that makes any sense. That's another sign that you're approaching burnout, okay?
00:28:09
Speaker
The fourth one for me, His body pain and like a restlessness. So after I experienced the mood shift, the lack of patience, the exhaustion from, you know, even after getting a deep sleep. Now these things are still going on.
00:28:24
Speaker
Then you stack on the body pain and the restlessness, right? So just overall, everything hurts. Everything. If you've ever experienced it you know exactly what I'm saying. It's like a deep aching pain and you can't really figure out why. You know, you you'll roll your body out. You'll hit the massage gun.
00:28:42
Speaker
You go to the chiropractor. you hit up, you know, ah hit up your acupuncturist and, you know, nothing nothing really fixes it. Okay. So your body is screaming at you and just trying to tell you like, hey, dude, pay attention.
00:28:56
Speaker
I keep pushing through that. And then what happens to me is I'm feeling all these things and I'll sit down with a friend of mine named Mike and I'll explain to him that I don't feel good.
00:29:08
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And I'll use the word tired and I never use the word. That's another signal myself. Like when I use the word tired, dude, you need to start to back it down. But I don't.
00:29:18
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So then he sits there with me and we run through everything I've done in the last couple weeks and then he goes, yeah uh so are you surprised you feel this way and we've been going through this fucking drill i mean if you asked him he'd probably say years if he asked me i'd probably say once in a while um but it's a helpful perspective right and it's another sign that's like hey dude back it down maybe maybe take a couple days off completely do nothing try to get as little steps as possible but i guess the ego wants to push through so i push through
00:29:54
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Okay, by rationalizing why I feel this way. And then the last and final issue for me is a lack or a loss of complete motivation and complete pleasure.
00:30:06
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Now, I never really look for motivation. I don't really give a fuck about it um because we all know it's kind of fleeting, right? so But you lose discipline too, right? When this happens to you, you just don't want to do anything.
00:30:18
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Okay, you want to sit around and swipe on your phone all day long and you don't want to move. So the loss of motivation, the loss of pleasure for things that I do. I've lost pleasure for doing this podcast. I've lost pleasure for running. I've lost pleasure for lifting.
00:30:33
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um Haven't lost any pleasure for jujitsu yet. I'll let you know when that day happens. And maybe we just need to do it more so that it does happen. But those are the signs.
00:30:44
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Those are the signs that you need to be aware of. So the mood shift, the lack of patience, the exhaustion after a deep sleep, the overall body pain and restlessness. Then you start to rationalize away the signs.
00:30:57
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You start kind of lying to yourself, trying to wonder why versus looking at what you've actually done and understanding that it's worn yourself out, right? And then the lack of motivation, the lack of pleasure, a feeling of wanting to do nothing.
00:31:12
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And then that's when I end up in bed for three days. Body is completely tapped the fuck out. The mind pushed it all the way through. And, you know, well, the body will get the rest. It'll it'll make you rest.
00:31:25
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Okay, I'll get like down to the point where i start getting flu symptoms. In the middle of the summertime, right? That's how I know that I have pushed too far. But sometimes, to be honest with you, and this will sound like some real psycho shit, is I'm pretty proud of myself for being able to do that.
00:31:44
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I'm pretty proud of myself for being able to push through all of the warning signs, push my body past what it can do, push my mind past what it can do, and then end ah end up in bed for three days.
00:31:57
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You know, shit, I guess it's not great, but it's pretty fucking awesome to know that you can do it. All right. So all of you need to know that when you're tired, you can still keep pushing.
00:32:09
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And listen, don't create these signs because you want to be burnt out. Okay. I don't want to be burnt out. In fact, that's the only reason I've figured this shit out is because I've never wanted to get to that point. So start kind of monitoring the moods.
00:32:22
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But, you know, don't use this as a fucking bandaid, right?
00:32:29
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So anyway,
00:32:32
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a lot of people forget that on top of the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual,
00:32:44
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can also break you in that way, right? um So that's why I always talk about being very deliberate with your time and being very intentional,
Importance of self-care and setting boundaries
00:32:54
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okay? I say no to a lot of things, and I will continue to say no to a lot of things.
00:32:58
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And it's because I have to protect my energy because i have so many things to do that if somebody wants me to go to a party, I'm probably going to say no. I'm not going to fucking barbecues. I'm not doing it.
00:33:10
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um It's just, it's a waste of my fucking time, right? I don't want to put myself in a place where, you know, I'm going to have to drink some fucking alcohol. I'm going to have to talk to people that, you know, I don't know, aren't drinking the same Kool-Aid as me.
00:33:25
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um I'm going to be,
00:33:30
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I guess I could just say I could be running, I could be doing jujitsu, I could be reading, I could be studying, I could be helping my clients. um So if it's not part of the mission, it's not gonna fucking happen, all right?
00:33:40
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and And that's how you also avoid burnout because a lot of people schedule themselves like crazy. You know, I look at somebody's schedules of like what they're doing on the weekends and it's, all they're doing all weekend is pleasing everybody else. Going to this party, going to that party, you know, hanging out over here, hanging out over there, doing this, doing that. and it's like, bro, like,
00:33:59
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Like, what are you doing to get better on the weekend? what are you doing to, like, help yourself? You know, are you meal prepping? Are you setting yourself up for the win? And it's like most most of these guys are doing all this shit on the weekend, and they enter the week completely fucking smoked because they've served everybody else instead of serving themselves, right? You can't help others until you can help yourself. Right?
00:34:20
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It's the same reason that on the airline, they tell you to put your own fucking oxygen mask on first. Okay? You got to be able to help yourself first. So again, ah or alleviate or avoid the burnout or at least set yourself up to win.
00:34:37
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You got to say no. It's that simple. So there are some things that you can do to combat this burnout. And I talked about them as we entered this podcast today.
00:34:50
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And listen, the farm isn't going to be for everybody. You know, a run isn't going to relax everyone. Okay, so you need to find your own routine. But it needs to be something that brings peace.
00:35:03
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And you need to be intentional about your recovery. So on days that you're recovering, and, you know, I have found that one day a week is is great for me.
00:35:16
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But if you're just getting started, you know, and you need take a couple days a week, that's completely cool.
00:35:22
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but like a rest day isn't fucking boozing on the weekend, right? All right. A rest day is like sitting on the couch, rolling out your, you know, your muscles, going out to the farm and getting some healthy food for the week, reading a book, sitting with people that you love, right?
00:35:42
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Going to the farm, pet some animals, feed some animals, do something like that, right? Go to the beach, look at the tidal pools, Whatever works for you is what you need to do. But I will tell you, I think a lot of people need to get back to things that they did as a kid that they loved.
00:35:58
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And that will kind of rejuvenate them. But burnout's real. I hate to admit it. And I'm sorry I've been coughing here. But
00:36:09
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excuse me. Burnout's real. I want to get on here and talk about it. Send me a message if you have any questions.
Value of community support in understanding burnout
00:36:16
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I have been learning about burnout for years now, and I have a good handle on it.
00:36:22
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And I've been able to get a good handle on it because I have good people around me that I discuss it with, compare notes, look at what they're doing, look at what I'm doing. It's all about finding like-minded individuals that you can compare your journey with.
00:36:35
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um If I had not had other people like me to talk about this with, probably wouldn't have progressed on it as quickly as I have. But I'm really good at keeping that motherfucker away now.
00:36:48
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Really good at flirting with burnout. In fact... it becomes some, like a dangerous dance that I like to do. ah like to kind of see how far past the edge I can go and then how I can use sleep, diet,
00:37:08
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mindset to recover from it. ah So super cool shit. If you have any questions, you know how to reach me. But again, thanks for your time today. And I think in the future, we're just goingnna gonna go week to week, talking about what's going on.
00:37:20
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So for the rest of this week coming up, I've got a busy one, lot of running, lot of jujitsu. It's a busy week for my clients. There's some guys with some big things coming up, and I think we've got a few W's ah showing up this week for the fellas. So we will catch you all later. And again, please subscribe.
00:37:40
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