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Ep 01: Divine Invitation - The Birth of The Boldness Coach(TM)
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Major life events often become the catalysts for bold change, but true magic happens when we choose to embrace the mission. In this episode, join us as Vaneese shares her transformative journey—how she received a divine invitation to step into her role as The Boldness Coach(TM) and the internal resistance she faced for years before accepting this life-changing purpose.
Discover how Vaneese transformed the principles of Bold, Big, and Bad into a global movement. Through her teachings, women around the world are now shedding their fears and embracing a life where No Permission Is Needed.
Tune in to hear this inspiring story of spiritual awakening, relentless perseverance, and the ultimate acceptance of a bold destiny.
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Introduction to 'The Evolution of Bold'
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Welcome to the Evolution of Bold podcast, where we celebrate the power of women and their journey to greatness. I'm your host, Denise Johnson, also known as the boldness coach.
Journey of Self-Discovery and Empowerment
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I'm excited to take you on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and transformation. Whether you're just starting out or well into your journey, I'm here to guide you through the challenges, help you find your purpose, and to help you let go of anything that's holding you back. So take a deep breath, relax, and get ready to dive into some juicy topics that will inspire and empower you to find your level of bold and evolve into the best version of yourself.
Community Engagement and Motivation
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But before we get started, let's take care of a little bit of housekeeping. Make sure that you hit the subscribe button so that you can join a community of bold women who are transforming their lives. Make sure that you hit that notification button so that as new shows are released that you get notified. and also connect with us on social media. We want to hear your journey. We want to celebrate you on the journey. We want to support you on the journey. And also when you share, you inspire other women in the community to share their journey as well.
Origins of the Boldness Coach
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So now that we got the housekeeping out of the way, let's get into the juicy topic of today.
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Welcome to another episode. I'm going to be sharing with you my transformative journey of accepting a divine invitation to become the boldness coach and empower women around the world to live boldly, audaciously, and with no permission needed. So let's dive into the episode. In this first part of this episode, I'm talking about the birth, the resistance, and the purpose of the boldness coach. Then I'm going to move you into um what it means to be bold, big, and bad, and to live a life of no permission needed.
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So let's talk about the birth of the boldness coach and how this all came about. Let me just tell you, it's not something I woke up one day and said, ooh, I want to be the boldness coach. Let's do this. Oh no. A major life event happened. I went through a divorce. And so, you know, in going through that divorce, it really kind of put me in a space of who am I? What's my worth? Am I enough? um it It tackled my, you know, it broke down my self-esteem. Like it just put me in this place I had never been before.
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And I was teetering on the borderline of really going into depression. And so my friends came and rallied around me as best they all could, right? Because I'm that friend that you know always champions everybody else. you know i I always have a positive outlook and feedback you know um to help my friends. And I know my friends probably were panicking like, oh my goodness, she's the one that we go to, so we definitely gotta to go and help her, you know, and help her to get back on track, right? And I appreciate them for that, um because because of that friendship and the collective, I was able to ultimately get through it, right? But one friend in particular inviting me out to lunch, and that friend had never been married, um and to my knowledge, had not had any experience with, you know, someone going through divorce. so
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So as we were you know conversing over lunch, and we were talking you know just about how I was feeling. And I was just really feeling disempowered. And I said, I never want another woman to feel this way. you know I really wanna figure out you know what this all means and definitely how I can take this experience and be able to help other women. And she asked me a really interesting question. She said, okay, if you were invited to a party and um invited to a potluck party and you needed to bring a dish, what dish would you bring to the party?
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And what did what would you want people to experience from that dish? And what would you want people to say, you know, when they've left they've had your dish, they left the party, but they were just thinking about, you know, reflecting about your dish and how it made them feel?
Spiritual Awakening and Embracing the Role
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So that was a really interesting, you know, pivotal question for me. And what I said to her is, I would bring a dish of boldness. i want I would want you know people who ate my dish, and especially women who ate my dish, I would want them to feel bold and powered. I would want them to feel like, ooh, I could conquer and do anything.
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And when the woman or women who part her partook of my dish in in their reflection, I would want them to think about, ooh, that dish was so good. I need more of that in my life. And she says, okay, so that is what you get to work on. you know it it's In essence, it's kind of like creating the recipe for the dish, right? And so she said, how would you describe the dish? Like what words would you use to describe the dish or maybe the feeling of it or the impact of it, right? And I said, I would want it to have some boldness in it. And she's like, and what else? And I said, I would want it to be bad and I would want it to be big.
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you know And so as we were discussing that, it was like, hmm, I would want it to be bold. um and i I think I said I want it to be bad, big and bold or something like that. And then as I said it out loud, something inside of me started to wake up, like spiritual energetically started to wake up. And I was like, you know what? I want to invert those words. i would i I would want them to have the experience and feeling um of being bold, big, and bad. you know And I was like, that's got a ring to it. I need to figure this out. And we both was like, hmm, OK. That's the next step is figuring it out. And so you know we continue on with our lunch and went our separate ways. Well, as I was contemplating on bold, big, and bad, I really wanted to know like what it meant because I felt something from it. right So that was the first time the first sign of really kind of like,
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ah divine intervention, you know, right? And at the moment, i I didn't label it that way because I didn't know. And so as the days passed, I still, you know, after lunch, you know, with Madeleine, I was still just thinking about Bold Big Bad. And I'm like, hmm. So as I'm moving through you know the days that had passed, there was a moment where I was in my car going between destinations, and I had the radio off. So from time to time, I do turn everything off so that I can hear myself think. And so as I am reciting in my mind, bold, big, and bad, and I'm like, hmm, if I want to help women to be bold, big, and bad, then who do I need to be to be able to help women to do this?
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Y'all, the spirit dropped in and was like, oh, you you're going to be the boldness coach. And I said, say what now? And y'all know most of you, if you're a spiritual person, you know, and have been on any kind of spiritual journey, right? You know how you can get these whispers, these soft whispers. Sometimes it comes through your intuition. Sometimes you might hear it, you know, however that feels for you. but it was a vibration of energy through my my being, right? And it was like, you know, the boldness coach. it out And I literally was you know about to get into this you know a confrontational conversation, right? In my head, I thought that was what was about to happen. And I was like, the boldness coach, I was like, that's so bold. Like who goes around and calls them themselves the boldness coach? And the spirit was like you.
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And again, for those of you that have have had any type of um you know connection with a spirit where you've listened and felt write something, right it's typically you feel it or you hear it and then it moves on. It doesn't hang around and have a conversation with you. It just it does its thing. right And it's important for us to pay attention to our intuition because it's here and then it's gone. right And so, I was like, the boldness coach, y'all listen, I came home and and um it just stayed on me all afternoon. And so then when it came time for bed, you know um' I'm gonna be creative, right? And I'm still gonna try to be confrontational about this. So I wrote um the boldness coach on a piece of paper and I said to the spirit, I tell you what,
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I'm gonna go to sleep and I'm gonna put this on the pillow next to me. And if it's still on my mind and it still resonates in my being and has a resonance in my being in the morning, then you know then I will take it to the next level. How many of y'all at any moment in time got a download message and you you started to reject it? You was like, that can't be for me. That's gotta be for somebody else. Oh, no. Or you thought about that's gonna be hard and challenging. How was that supposed to happen? And you is instinctively start like, oh, I'm i'm not signing up for that. So that was my resistance coming up.
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because I was feeling like I'm not enough. Like, I just got divorced. I just got rejected. My self-esteem, you know, is in the toilet and i'm I'm struggling to try to keep myself out of depression. Like, I ain't got time for none of this. And so the next morning I woke up is still resonating in my soul. So I proceeded to go to find ways to prove that somebody else is already doing this. This ain't for me. So I went to GoDaddy and I typed in the bonus coach and the domain said it was available. Y'all, I could have threw my my shoe at the computer. I'm like, you have got to be kidding me. Like this is, this is real. Like it's available.
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And and i could in my mind, I could hear the Holy Spirit saying, I told you in the car yesterday, but you're the one Miss Lady that want to you know run stuff and do your own thing. And so I was like, wow. So as I really started to get clear, and that this is the direction and the path that I was going to be going. So my resistance hung around and all full transparency, my resistance hung around for a few years. But let me tell you how it wouldn't let me go, how this calling wouldn't let me go.
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So I would do little bits and pieces towards, um you know, unfolding and birthing the boldness coach. Like I went and got a logo done and I went and had fonts done and colors chosen. um But I still wasn't really out there telling people that I'm the boldness coach. I really wasn't out there living that I was the boldness coach, right? So y'all know I had to be dealt with, right? So we're going to continue on in this conversation. So ultimately, as I was you know still in my phase of resistance, and I really wasn't sure if this was my purpose, the last kind of crossover straw that, that or should I say bridge, the last crossover bridge that um became the connector for me was, if I am going to,
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um help women to be empowered to be bold, big, and bad. And if I am supposed to wear this moniker of being the boldness coach, then I need to embrace and embody that which I want to teach women about.
Reflecting on Life's Higher Callings
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And so that meant that now it was time for me to to cross over into really the embodiment of the of empowering women. and how that then unfolded, you know, was really fleshing out what does being bold, big, and bad really mean. But before I get into that that point of it, I want us to just put a pin in it for a second because I want to invite you in to into self-reflection and I want you to think about
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Has there been a major life event in your life, whether that's loss of a job of a loved one, a marriage, you know, anything that has been a major life event that really called you forth. and called you forth to step in and to become a person of a higher level, a higher caliber of a being or a higher caliber of from where you were to where you, you know, to the next level up. Have you ever made, you know, had a life event that happened to you in that way? And my question to you is,
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How did it really affect you? Have you responded to it, like answered? Have you stepped up to the calling of it? Have you stepped up to the invitation of it? And if you have not, the reflection of your life will we tell the truth on you. And here's what I mean. If you are still struggling in some areas financially, relationally, um excuse me, with health and wellness, um it could be in any other area. If you are still struggling in an area that you you know can really affect it and and do something about it and you're not, that could be a sign that because you have not accepted the invitation.
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of stepping into your higher self and doing what needs to get done to get on the other side of that. And perhaps also you have not accepted the invitation of of um the purpose and the calling and being the demonstration to help others get through what it is that you would ultimately get on the other side of. So I'm just telling you from my own personal experience, not what I've seen, not what I read, not what I heard, but what I actually went through. And trust me, on this side, it's so much more fun on this side. There's so much more joy and fulfillment on this side. And, you know, I just had to fight. I think I've fought because that's... What we're trained to do sometimes is is is to be is to resist things that we don't know anything about. right And if we don't have a demonstration around us, and nobody to talk to, talk this through, or nobody else around us being bold, you know or whatever that thing is, nobody else demonstrating that, we tend to stay in fear of where we are.
Understanding BOLD: Becoming Out Loud Daily
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So just want to bring that to you and put you in reflection around that. So now let's move into breaking down what does BOLD mean? So here's the essence of BOLD. BOLD stands for Becoming Out Loud Daily. And what BECOMING is, and and really the word and the meaning of BECOMING as it relates to this context, is BECOMING is moving from the lower level of possibility to the higher level of actuality. What this really means is is any change involving the realization of potentiality. That means that you change you're moving and changing into something from you know what was possible to what's actual. like You get into the potential of it. You actualize it. You become it. right You get connected and move through it. you can trans You can see the transition from who you were to who you are becoming.
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And that's a pivotal point, everybody, because becoming out loud has to do you know with with some of these components. It has to do with about being purposeful in your being and intentional in how you live. right So becoming is showing up in your authenticity. you know, intentionally being who you are. You got to know who you are. You got to really heighten your self-awareness and get curious and start really asking questions, maybe even taking assessments, maybe going to therapy, um maybe doing soul work so that you really get to start to get clear about who you really are so that you can start to embody that and embrace that and live from that premise.
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And I'm gonna give you a way to be able to support you when we get to the end of this podcast, right? But it's important that in your becoming that you get clear about being purposeful in your being. I am here for a purpose. I am here for a reason. And so when I show up in everything that I do, I'm here to contribute. I'm here to coach, teach and train. And that is really important to me. Sometimes I'm i'm giving advice in the grocery line. Sometimes I'm i'm in front of a corporate you know ah a corporate audience. Sometimes I'm on the stage. But every day I show up and give and and so and be in purpose every day. And I'm intentional about it.
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When I, before I leave my house, I think about who am I going to be outside of these doors. Now it's second nature to me, but before I really wanted to make sure that how I'm showing up is truly how I am even behind closed doors. so You got to get clear about your values. What are your values and what's important to you? What's driving you to behave and do the things you do. what What's driving you to be purposeful? What's driving you to be intentional? You got to get really clear about your values. And I was able to narrow mine down. you know um you know one of the One of my value areas is to um really contribute you know to the the the health and wellness of others mentally.
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you know, and to be a possibility, be a demonstration of a possibility to others. So that really drives me so that when I'm out in the world being, that I want to to make sure that somebody who ever sees me or comes across me, they have an experience of, oh, I can be that. Oh, I see her being that makes me think about what I could be. So you got to get clear about your values. And then there's soul alignment. Soul alignment has to do with you actually, you know, being in action and doing tasks and activities and things that align with your soul that give you joy, that feel good with you.
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you know, feel good in you. They don't feel like, they don't have to pull, it hasn't doesn't have to be pulled out of you. You know, nobody has to ah manipulate you into doing that. it's it It really just gives you joy on the inside. So when you are in your becoming and it feels good in your soul, it's I guess you can liken it to when people say, if you would, I want to make sure I'm getting this right, that if you would do the work you're doing for free, then, you know, because it feels that good to you, you just happen to get paid for it. So what I do, you know, and how I talk and share, you know, perspectives and, you know, and how I may empower and encourage people, I would do that for free. I just happen to get paid for it. But I get it it's in alignment with my soul, with my values and with my purpose, right?
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And having self-awareness is really important. you know Kind of being keen and watching who you are and pulling the layers back to discovering that. I want to show you you something. I have a ah binder here. um And this binder is yellow. So some of you may be listening to this um on audio. But I have a ah yellow binder. And this binder has tabs in it. It's different kind of tabs in it. And but this yellow binder and you can see the the thickness of the binder right if you're watching this on video. This is a book all about me. This is a book about venease. And it's got some interesting content in it. Again, I'll tell you at the end of the show um how I created this book and what I can do to support you and maybe you can create your own book about you.
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And so this is what helps me to stay intentional. you know it's It's a great tool that I use, but it was one of the tools that I created around self-awareness because I really wanted to know who am who am I at my core.
Exploring BIG: Building In Your Genius
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So that is about being bold. The next area that we move into is about being big. This has to do, and big stands for, building in your genius. This is you using your innate talents. This is what you were born with, right? And you're using them, or should I say you're leveraging them and your natural abilities to, you know,
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through strengths and you're using them to achieve your full potential, right? So I'm gonna back this up again. So building in your genius is about you using your innate talents, what you were born with and how you are leveraging you know these talents you know through your natural ability and strengths to achieve you know your full potential and to make a meaningful impact in the world. So let me give you and another simple example of this. I'm a talker, so can y'all believe that when I was in school, I think probably from um the age of 11, I think, until the age of, I think 15, I used to get in trouble in class for talking in class. I used to have to write lines for talking.
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um Little did I know that I would, that that talking was really kind of the springboard to me becoming a comun um a communicator. So coaching, speaking, and training. And it's just kind of funny because that's not something as a kid that somebody would say like, oh, you know what? You probably are going to be a great speaker or a great communicator one day. So we're not going to let you get in trouble. But at that time, those societal rules, right? you know is to be quiet in class
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that Oh my goodness, it just makes me laugh when I think about it. However, when my son would get in trouble in class for and school for talking in class, and he would he gets he would get in trouble for that too, when he was in elementary school, you know I told the teacher, I'm sorry, I'm not gonna be able to discipline him on that, but what I can do is help him to learn how to master um you know when it's appropriate to say something, because I never know, he may grow up to be a communicator one day, and But I could see his genius, right? And he lives in his genius. So back to being big. You may say, well, how do I find out you know what my innate talent is? So first you want to have self-awareness and recognition. This is about you really understanding those natural talents and abilities. most Most times we undervalue them because they're so easy and effortless to us. And when people come to us and they ask us to assist them with things,
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Um, whether it's figuring out something, whether it's solving a problem, whether it's our opinion, whatever that is, we give it to them and we do it with such ease and effortlessness until we're just like, Oh, they said, that's so good. I knew you were the person that could help me with this. Cause you do this so well. And we're all just like, Oh, well, it's okay. No problem. You know, it's just what I do. Stop that. Stop that. There's a value to the effortlessness and ease in which you do your thing. That could be your gift and you get to really recognize and be aware of that, right? And there's ways that you can leverage that, you know, and tap into it at a higher level. But let's start at the basics. You got to be aware of it first.
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and you gotta honor it you know with that awareness, right? Next is alignment and authenticity. This is about you aligning um activities with your purpose. So I found out that, you know and I discovered, right? And then I embraced it and embodied that I'm a talker, I'm a communicator. And so, you know throughout my career, what I did was looked for opportunities where I could be in a position to communicate. So I'm the person that during any type of in-person class event, I'm the one that's going up to the front of the room because I want to catch all that good juiciness. And I also want to listen for opportunities where I can share, where I can clarify, where I can speak.
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So in my in the history of my career, or should I say the journey of my career up until this point, you know I only participate in opportunities that allow me to have a role or a contribution in in expressing my talent. you know And I'll give you an example. I remember you know at it ah points in my career, I would get invitations to write blog articles. And you know I'm great at words. I just don't enjoy sitting down writing you know articles. i I was just hemming high about it. I would wait till the last minute. I mean, it would be like pulling teeth.
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because it just wasn't fun for me. So as time evolved and i would you know I got more invitations to write and submit articles, I would tell people, I'm sorry, I don't do that. If you wanna call me and interview me and you write the article, we can make it happen that way. But if I have to write the article, yeah, ah no, that's not gonna happen. Because that's just not a natural expression of my talent is to sit down and write. But being in alignment and authenticity supports the bigness. Connection and relationships is important also when you are, you know, developing and stepping into and embracing your bigness. you really It's important to go and be around people that actually demonstrate that. And ladies, women, girls, it's important for us to be in environments where we are seeing
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that women own this about themselves because it allows us to be able to see what it looks like when you are really being unapologetic and how you're showing up in the world. And it also allows you to give yourself permission, you know, for you to be like, okay, you know what? I see how this happens. I see this unfolding. I'm going to try that for myself. So it's important to be big in life and build in your genius in every day and every way that connects with becoming. There's always an opportunity presenting itself throughout the day for you to step into your bigness.
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but you gotta to be aware and you gotta own that you have it in you and it's available for you already.
Embracing BAD: Being Audaciously Daring
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Next is about being bad. Bad is about being audaciously daring. What this means is embodying a bold and fearless approach to life and work. You know, one of the things that we're very comfortable with around, you know, um, or should I say, um, no, things that we're really comfortable with is being comfortable. And when we're comfortable, what we're doing is succumbing to fear. When we don't push ourselves, when we don't dare ourselves, when we don't, um, take deeper forward steps, when we don't, um,
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challenge you know ourselves. We stay in a place of comfort and comfort is supported by fear. And that means we be Netflix and chilling. We be hiding behind our phones. and We own the couch. We're not going out into spaces that require us to level up, to be in the room. You know, we're not doing that. And when you're not doing that, then what happens is, again, you stay in your comfort zone and you relax into fear. And then you complain about, you know, you people not recognizing you at work or you complain about, I'm not meeting any quality men or I don't, you know, I'm not connecting or networking with people who want to share information with me. Part of that is you got to check yourself so that you can really see how are you showing up in the world?
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because I'm gonna tell you something, every woman that we've read about who um is in any position of influence, you know whether they are in your community, in your church, in your family, um or women that we see out in the world, they've had to be audacious. They have had to have the nerve to go and do something and ask for something or become something. because they needed to get out of their comfort zone. And they probably imagined that it was something better on the other side from where they were. Or perhaps they imagined that if I'm going to get to that other side, I got to get out of here. And it's up to me to be able to do that.
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So it's important for you to really start to embody boldness and fearlessness as you approach life and work. Volunteer to be the person to work that project. Go to the front of the room. you know When you go into the meeting and the into a meeting room, stop sitting in the back, go in the front. Even if you're on Zoom, ask to be on the agenda. there are ways that you can show up. If you want to meet a ah quality man, go to environments where the quality men are, get your wardrobe together, get your hair together, you know, um spend a little money and show up in the environments by the VIP tickets versus sitting back way in the back on the with the cheap seats.
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you get to really step into being audaciously daring. And when we pull all this together and how we just kind of put a bow on it is we we we but we we top it off with being what no permission needed. This is about unapologetic action, everyone. This is about the essence of self-empowerment. This is about autonomy and the courage to take decisive action. And stop overthinking stuff. Stop over-preparing. You are enough. It's embracing and embodying that you're enough coupled with unapologetic action.
Journey to Self-Trust and Unapologetic Action
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I used to be one of those people that would overdo and overthink, you know, um, how I was showing up in the world and part of it was because I wasn't believing myself. I, I felt like if other people validated me, if other people approved me, then that means that I'm okay. And what that really also meant was that I didn't trust myself. And that was an eye opener for me when I looked through the lens of self-awareness, right? I didn't trust myself. And when I looked at that and said, well, if I don't trust myself, then you know who can I trust, right?
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And I really had to slow down and step back and take a look at, you know, where did I wanna go in life? And what was gonna, you know, who do I need to be to move through to get to the next level? And what action I needed to take? And how did that action need to unfold? And it needed to be unapologetic. So here are three things that can help you with moving into a space of no permission needed is you've got to move and act independently. without validation and improved approval. One of the things that i had I learned to do, and even to this day I still do, I stopped talking so much to people about what it is that I want to do. And I just got into action and start doing it. There are so many resources and tools out here. um There are so many ways that I can gather information and see other women you know in that space doing it till I don't need to go in to get okay from other people.
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And in my kind of curiosity, you know seeing different ways that women step into their lives and own who they are and become, um and and should I say they embody the essence of who they are, seeing all those different you know demonstrations or examples of that gave me the confidence to be able to say, I don't need to be like them, but I do get to be like myself and bring who I am you know bring who i am forward. So move and act independently without validation or approval from others. Also self-empowerment, you know, is a key component of no permission needed. You have to embrace your own authority. You are your authority. You do not, I repeat, you do not need to wait for somebody to be, to give you the okay.
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And oftentimes we get into that space of waiting for somebody to validate us because we're overthinking, we're over preparing, and we're feeling like we're not enough. And the way to get to feeling like you are enough is to continue to do that thing that pulls you forth and and grows you up. And when you reflect on it and you have done it and achieved it, you feel like, oh, what else can I do? Let me try this next thing. You have to continue to keep doing it, right? And the next part of um helping you to get to no permission needed is accountability.
Accountability and Intuition
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You got to be true to yourself.
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One of the things that I used to get, I haven't haven't gotten this probably in the last year, and I just realized it as as I'm talking it through now, is that I used to get people women to come to me and they would say, you know I need an accountability coach. I need somebody to help me to stay on track. No, you don't. You know what that's about when you say you need accountability? That's about you not trusting yourself. That's about wanting to get external validation and external approval. You get to take full responsibility for your choices and the outcome of your choices. Take full responsibility. You can tell yourself the truth when you slack in.
00:34:43
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And ask yourself these pivotal questions. you know When you feel like you need accountability, ask yourself, you know um what you know what impact would this have on my life by me not following through on this action, by me not following through on this decision? How will this impact my life? What impact will this have? Is this going to impact my money? Is it going to impact my relationship? Is it going to impact my health and wellness? Is goingnna is it going to impact my sanity? and ask yourself after you answer that question, are you willing to pay that cost? And listen, if you say, Vanessa, I'm willing to pay the cost and I don't care about the impact in the negative way, then hey, you good. Then don't ask for accountability. But if you're reflecting and you're asking these questions, then I want you to really step up.
00:35:37
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step up and and really list out what unapologetic action do you need to take so that you have a reward versus a cost. And so these are the things that I had to contemplate in going through my divorce. And I got to step into you know these transformative principles. because I really wanted to be bold, big, and bad and be the demonstration and actually put these principles into play in my life so that when I stepped out into the world stage, coaching, speaking, and training, that i intention that I'm intentional and purposeful of how I show up to empower women to live boldly, to be audacious in their life, and to show up with no permission needed.
00:36:32
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And I'm happy to tell you and report on this side, you know, I i got through the period of my divorce and it took me some time. and And I mentioned before the years of resistance, but as soon as I made up my mind that the cost I was paying, it was expensive. And I was i was i was bankrupt. I was bankrupt and I needed to rebuild myself. And so in embracing that, telling the truth and embracing that, and then leveraging these transformative principles on the other side now, I'm in joy and I am in fulfillment. Listen, y'all, I could get a bumper sticker, a screen saver, a text message.
00:37:15
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um just of the joy that I've experienced in my life. And let me be clear, you know, joy can be experienced in anything, right? And it's not always a tangible thing, but the feeling and the essence of it and the trust that I have for myself is really impeccable. and Really listening to my intuition and know that when my intuition and my, that which is my spirit talking to me, that it's telling me the right thing. And when I learn to quiet my mind and trust my soul, it has just opened up so much more for me, right? Do I have dreams and desires? Absolutely, there's more to do. But I'll tell you right now, I'm in a place of fulfillment and happiness and joy. So I'm not thirsty. So I'm not just out here doing anything. And I have a responsibility that I accept it with being the boldness coach.
00:38:13
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So I hope this has inspired you in some way and that you are in reflection. And I just want to do a quick recap you know about some of the you know highlights of what I just shared with you. you know ah um And I just mentioned that a major life event can be a catalyst you know um for you to step into the magic of your life. Life is happening for you and not to you. There are lessons in every aspect of life and every day and every way. um You were born equipped um with enough. You can actually handle the calling and the purpose on your life, but you got to get busy and figure that out, right? um You were born with at least one gift. And if you were to tap into that one gift, you could change your life in an exponential way, not only for yourself, but for your family, for the community around you.
00:39:07
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Girl, stop being stanji. And next, dare to be audacious enough to just go for it. What do you have to lose? If you are in the place of being the worst, if you are in the place of the bottom, you don't have no way to go other than up into the top.
Embracing Transformative Boldness
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I was bankrupt emotionally, spiritually spiritually, physically. You know, I was bankrupt and I had nothing left. So the beauty of that is I was like, okay, I am surrendering because I do want to embody being bold, big and bad. So you can do that. um No permission is needed about you pursuing your goals. You know, be on take unapologetic action. Stop asking people. Stop talking to people, especially people that ain't living up to par. Stop telling them. And I'm not saying that you need to stop being you know with your friends and cut off your family and divorce them. You know, that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying to you is that
00:40:14
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really tap into yourself, find the right relationships, the right community. And until you find that, then trust and believe in yourself and really take unapologetic action and do the thing that you want to do and the thing that calls you forth, right? So I mentioned to you before that I wanted to share with you how I can support you a little bit deeper into this. And I'm going to need your help and your okay and your permission to be able to do this. If you are interested in really learning how to use these principles of being bold, big, and bad in your own life, and you want to use you want to learn about them from a perspective of you know personal application, you know how you want to you know transition in your life and transform and elevate in your life, then I can help you do that through either poaching,
00:41:05
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one on one, or I can help you do that in a master class, where you know I can come and present these tools to you, as well as give you actionable steps along the way to help you to get clear, and I can do a master class in a ah limited amount of time. Or I can create a course for you, and I can make this course a little bit hybrid where you do some self work, and then you come to a live class, and maybe we will have a few classes where I do live coaching, you know, in the group, you know, of that live class.
00:41:39
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so um You help me out. Help me out to help you because you know part of the Evolution of Bold podcast show is to help you to transform um into being your boldest self and finding your level of bold. So that's how I can help you. And before we go, I want to share two more things with you. I want to get you ready for next week, for the next show that drops. So here's a little bit about what the next show is going to be about.
Teaser for Next Episode on Self-Identity
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um The next episode, I am ripping off the band-aid and you say, on what? I'm talking about self-identity.
00:42:16
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So I'm going to be asking the pivotal question. I should say asking and answering the pivotal question about whose identity are you living? So I'm going to be asking the question of you and I'm going to be telling you about, you know, the identities that I was living. Whoo. Ciao. That one's going to be some popcorn and some type of libation that's a little stronger than tea or coffee, but I'm just forewarning you. That's going to be a two-part episode, so you want to make sure that you hit the subscription button before you go so that you can join the community of other amazing women who are transforming into their boldness.
00:42:53
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You also want to hit that notification button. You don't want to miss an episode. So hit that notification button so that it lets you know when the new episode has dropped. Also connect with us on the different social channel channels. I am interested in hearing what were the ahas that came up for you from this podcast. And I would love to see your ahas in the comments, um you know whether it's you know in the feed of the podcast show or whether you know it's on any of the social platforms. But share your comments, share your ahas, because there's another sister that's watching and listening to this. And she may need a safe space to be able to talk about her ahas. Or she may read your comment and and realize that I'm not in this by myself, that there are others out there like me that are having these types of experiences.
00:43:43
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So I just want to thank you for your time and listening to the show. And um let's just get ready for the next show. Thank you for being here. And always, always strive to be bold, big, and bad. All right, see you next show. Thank you for joining me on today's episode of the Evolution of Bold podcast. I hope you found the conversation as inspiring and empowering as I did. It's always a pleasure to share the stories of my journey along with those of other remarkable women who have shown us what it means to live life boldly. I'd love to know what stood out to you the most. Your feedback is really important to me, so please leave a comment in the feed or on one of our social media channels.
00:44:28
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And don't forget to hit the subscribe and notification button before you go. Stay connected with us for more insights and exclusive content. Keep evolving, stay bold, and always live your truth. Thanks for listening and stay tuned for our next show. Until next time, I'm Denise Johnson, the Boldness Coach, cheering you on in your journey towards your level of bold.