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Speaker: Hey there guys, I'm Steffi Steff and this is Bobby and this is... Hey! Hey Bobby, this is recording of... Hey! What? You said hey, so I'm gonna say back. That's right. I got my motorbike right now. You are starting up and do not back up because I'm right behind you. That'd be funny. Like a motorcycle diary. Which way am I going? Am I just backing up here? Cars are coming my way.
Speaker: Yeah, we're going to back up here first. So one of the great things about motorcycling, and especially when you have helmet comm units like we do, is to what you were just saying there, Steph, you really have to communicate and it is life or death. Motorcycling is dangerous. I think it's actually a lot safer. I'm going to get out of your way, Steph, just so you can go. I think it's a lot safer having two bikes when you have comm unit. I agree.
Speaker: and you've just got extra set of eyes. So it's really kind of helped us with communication skills. Part of why I want to do motorcycle diaries, we have different kinds of conversations on motorcycles. There we go. Well, here's what I want to talk about today. What does someone need to know about Stephanie R. Ganter? I just feel like the question, if I answer it, I feel like I'm being eager. No.
Speaker: You can't deny the question all the time. That's your mainstay. No, I'm not going to let you. I shouldn't or I can't. Well, here's the deal. The reason I asked for a couple of reasons. I'm reading this book by David Brooks. It's an audible. I forget the name of the book. I just started it. But it's something about basically really trying to
Speaker: learn things about people and be a better listener. I just want to say that the thing that you have to know about me is that I'm different. Tell me more about that. I'm different but I'm very similar to a lot of people. Oh, okay. How are you similar to people? I don't know. How about we start with what do people need to know about Bobby?
Speaker: No, I literally I literally wanted this to be about me listening you talk I just I feel like it's a weird question just to dive into because I won it's a question that you really need to Perculate on and really think about deeply versus a flippant answer But if I were I were to give a knee -jerk answer to this question It's very like
Speaker: I don't feel important enough to say, hey, what do people need to know about me? Well, I think that's what people need to know about you. I just.
Speaker: You've just answered the question. And the reason I say that, if they're listening to this, they know we've got a podcast and a YouTube channel, and yes, you are different. And I've seen that difference make an impact on people, and I've seen that difference kind of make things a bit of a challenge with other people.
Speaker: But I was just trying to figure out for her listeners, you know, what what makes Steph Ganner tick? I know like, you know, I'm trying to listen, but I'll answer all the questions for you if you want me to. I'm interested. What do you think makes me tick? Oh, you like learning and you like experiencing things and you want to do things your own way. You're not afraid of trying something different.
Speaker: like motorcycling you know you're on this Ducati motorcycle right now we're in beautiful Dallas beautiful day on a Saturday no European ever yeah you're not wrong okay wait this is not the Italian motorcycle adventure if you haven't checked that out get to YouTube and check that out but you ride motorcycles and you're you're a woman and that you know by definition makes you different than most people yeah no I would agree it
Speaker: Yeah, it's an odd question and I guess like so far I think what people need to know about me is like I'm just I'm just trying to figure it out and I think I have probably a sense of I don't know like I get a sense of like childlike wonder with learning these things and I don't care if I'm if I look silly and I think that
Speaker: I actually, I love seeing you learn things because you do have that childlike wonderment. Yeah. And it's like, oh, wow. Look at this. Yeah. It's exciting. Are you turning right here without a signal? So what's happening? Driving this Daisy right now. We talked about communication, how important it is. But yeah, I would say that. And what I would say what's been good for me, Steph, is that a lot of things that really are kind of exciting
Speaker: Was there excitement after a while? You stopped in here in red light? And so, you know, there are so many things that you, and I'm not saying you like used to have ganner, but as you move through the world, as you move through your day, there's a lot of things that you should just be flat out amazed and appreciative of and just go, oh, that's awesome. And I think we fail to appreciate that. Yeah. How are you going to improve your
Speaker: ability to have deep connection with people. That's why I'm reading this book, and part of it is listening. That's why I keep trying to, and part of it, frankly, was asking the question that I asked you. Yeah, but the, you know, I don't want to be too critical of you already, but the way you ask it is professorial, as in you have all the answers, and you're asking in a, you're like leading the witness kind of thing.
Speaker: We're taking a left here? Yeah. OK. There we go. Signals. There we go. Love it. Well, and I would say that's just the lens through which you see things. We've always got to be mindful of our own biases. I'm just asking a question that was raised by this author, and it seemed to be a
Speaker: interesting way to look at it. Because that's what it comes down to. What do I really need to know about this person or with something that's not so much on the... So I guess what this book is pushing you to do is to be efficient in your depth
Speaker: No, actually I'm glad you brought that up. It's actually pushing it to be the exact opposite and it talks about the risks of efficiency. People just don't have small chat like they used to. They kind of referenced if you're just kind of sitting around waiting to pick your kids up at high school board or middle school board, just small chat.
Speaker: But I would argue against how you're going about it. I think... Yes, of course you would. I think if you're trying to get to know somebody, it's like a piece of art. You don't just get to know someone. The relationship you have with someone, you actually create this new thing together. And I'm not talking about a romantic relationship. I'm just talking about any relationship. If there's death there,
Speaker: Right, there's an ebb and a flow. You're just creating something together versus just coming up and interviewing someone and saying, you know, what do I need to know about you? Or even asking the question to yourself, what do I need to know about this person? It'll come up, it's too strategic, it's too exacting. Yes, you might evoke a feeling of depth, but you'll miss out on the personal feeling of depth and discovery. Would you feel better if I asked you the question, what do you think you need to know about yourself?
Speaker: Is that a better question? Yeah, perhaps. I don't know. It comes across mechanical. Just for our listeners, Steph often refuses to answer questions. I don't think I've ever had a question that I've asked you where you go, oh, that's a good question. I'm getting in your line here. There are good questions, for sure. And I'm not saying the questions you ask are not good.
Speaker: It's just the way you ask them, it seems professorial and like you know the answer. No, it just doesn't got a voice. No. And you're asking like the young Padawan to, it's like a test. Like, oh, are you going to say something wise? Are you going to say something that is suitable for your age and experience? Okay. I'm going to ask you a different question. Just partly why reject your questions. You're such a twit. All right. What question do you think I should ask you?
Speaker: No, I think I should be asking you the question. How about that question? Are you literally even refusing that question? No, I should be asking you the question. Okay. All right. We're trying to learn something about Stephanie R. Ganter. Well, I think that part of what you've learned about me today is that I don't like professorial, kind of, I know more than you and what you have to learn from me.
Speaker: Wow. Which, in a way, through this experience, you learned something about me. Oh, you learned an awful lot. Yes, I agree. Mission accomplished. Good. I think also we've learned something about you as well. Oh. Oh. Look at these cool stories. Yeah, we're going through deep elm in downtown Dallas. Beautiful Sunday. No, Saturday.
Speaker: Just saw this guy with this weird combination of shirts on. He had a kiss rock and roll band shirt underneath and some wild old tie -dye shirt on top of that. It was wild. Let me just say that. But interesting smells. One of the things I love about motorcycles, not to get off on a tangent here, but you can smell things that you wouldn't smell when you're inside of a car.
Speaker: it's just pretty pretty intense you know we just got done with our Thailand experience smelling things at Thailand oh my gosh you know lots of good some bad smells but it's pretty cool so there
Speaker: Well, this has been, What Do We Get To Learn About Stephanie R. Ganther? And we appreciate you guys joining us. Yes, any closing? Yeah, the way you say Stephanie R. Ganther. Alright, this is what we learned about Stephanie stuff. Thanks for joining us, guys. If you like what we're talking about, hit the subscribe. Bye.
