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Deepfakes, Squatter Rights & Are Your Friends Using You?

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When does helping people turn into getting played? In this Sibling Happy Hour episode of Unsolicited Perspectives, Bruce and J. Aundrea tackle Airbnb squatter nightmares, AI deepfake ads, celebrity beefs, and friendships that exploit your labor.

• 🤖 AI Gone Wrong: A Mark Cuban deepfake ad sparks a debate on lawsuits, intellectual property, and protecting creative ideas.

• 🎬 50 Cent vs. Diddy: Netflix’s Sean Combs: The Reckoning exposes celebrity image control, receipts, and petty revenge.

• 🏠 Airbnb Horror Story: A DC homeowner gets locked out by a guest claiming tenant rights after 32 days—living rent-free while the owner pays the bills.

• 🚗 Reddit AITA Drama: The “responsible friend” cancels a trip after being expected to drive, plan, and manage everything—raising questions about boundaries, reciprocity, and emotional labor.

If you’ve ever worried about Airbnb scams, side‑eyed AI deepfakes, binged celebrity documentaries, or felt undervalued by friends—this episode is for you. #SquattersRights #DiddyDocumentary #redditstories #AIDeepfake #aita #unsolicitedperspectives 

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Chapters:

00:00 Home Ownership, Event Planning & Sibling Chaos Begins 🏠🎉😅

00:18 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥

00:47 Sibling Happy Hour: Sips, Laughs & Sibling Shenanigans 🍹😂

02:23 AI Gone Wild: The Mark Cuban Deepfake Disaster 🤖💰⚠️

05:26 Intellectual Property Nightmares & Legal Landmines 📜⚖️😬

08:30 The Slogan Heist: Protecting Your Creative Ideas 💡🔒💸

11:04 50 Cent's Petty Revenge: The Diddy Documentary Drops 🎬😈🔥

14:02 Netflix Binge Confessions & Reality TV Traps 📺😂🍿

22:55 Living Rent-Free While the Owner Pays Everything 💸😡🚨

25:36 Good Intentions Weaponized: The 32-Day Trap 🪤💔😤

30:42 Innocent Scamming vs. Criminal Theft Explained 😇😈⚖️

32:41 Sky Lounge Finesse: The Art of Innocent Scamming ✈️😏🥂

35:46 Reddit Drama: Am I the Jerk for Canceling the Trip? 🚗😠💬

38:42 You Need New Friends: Recognizing When You're Being Used 👥💔🚪

46:06 Communication is Key: Setting Boundaries in Friendships 🗣️✋💯

48:57 Take Your Power Back: You Teach People How to Treat You 💪🔥👑

50:19 Thank You & Where to Find Us: The Unsolicited Wrap-Up 🎙️❤️✨

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00:00:00
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home ownership, and event planners.

Introduction to the Podcast

00:00:03
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We gonna get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:17
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcasts, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
00:00:36
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Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share it with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with enemies.

Sibling Happy Hour Segment

00:00:44
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On today's episode, it's the Sibling Happy Hour. I'm here with my sis, Jay Andrea.
00:00:49
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We're going be dilly-dadding a little bit. Then we're going to be talking about home ownership and squatters. And then we're going to be talking about it Am I the Jerk Reddit post. But that's enough of the intro.
00:01:00
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Let's get to the show.
00:01:09
Speaker
What up, sis? What up, brother? I can't call it. I can't call it. I'm still a little under the weather. So there was a couple of takes that we had to do for this intro, but that's all right. We got there. That's all right. And I noticed you you, you put, you put a, you put a lineup together today. That's gone.
00:01:27
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Really? Piss me off. So that's because what, what, because I have an issue with squatters rights. Like I have an issue with the fact that that exists and you know how I get on these, am I the jerks?
00:01:41
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You know how this fits. So I see what you're doing there. You're like, less I'm not feeling well. I'm going to get John to do most of the

Episode Topics Overview

00:01:50
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talking. I see. I got it. Look, I'm a producer, okay? That's what I keep telling people. I'm not a host. I'm a decent host. I'm a decent interviewer. But what I am is a producer, okay? No, what you are is somebody who knows how to push my buttons.
00:02:05
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Because, see, look, I'm already agitated. But we ain't even talked about the topics yet. They're already agitated. As soon as I saw Squatter right there and bold and italicized, I said, oh, no. Here we go. Not bold and italicized. Well, yes, I am still a little under weather.
00:02:26
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Normally, I would have pushed the cough button. But

AI Company Story and Ethical Concerns

00:02:30
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We're going to do it. Hey, I had to do a whole show on Tuesday by myself. Yeah. That bad boy was tough because I could barely talk. But yeah, we hear something interesting happened to me earlier today. And I told the person I was like, oh, this is going on the podcast. I was like, I'm filming today. This is going on. It's like you'll keep my name out of it. I was like, yeah, but you don't know exactly who the hell I'm talking about because this can only be you.
00:02:53
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Okay. So a friend of mine has created this very cool company, right? Okay. Yeah. And they are very much into AI. Very much into AI. All right.
00:03:04
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And they are very much horrible at telling a story. Okay. Okay. There's the three things. Three things lined up. Everybody hold on because I feel like they're all going to be connected. They are. They are going be connected.
00:03:19
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The first thing this person says to me is, yeah, my dad hit me up and he was like, yeah, this cat in the attic and AI. And I said, wait a minute.
00:03:30
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What? there was a cat in the What does a cat in the attic have to have to do and with him asking you about AI? okay And then he shows me a video that's an AI video of a cat in an attic. I said, why didn't you just tell me that you sent your father an AI video of a cat in an attic?
00:03:55
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and That's what I said. I said, no, what you said was your dad called you, said there was a cat in the attic and then asked you about AI. Yeah. Oh, yeah.
00:04:06
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I said, you're real excited about stuff. The reason why this person was real excited about stuff because they started a company, right? okay And then they said, i got Mark Cuban to ah advertise the company. And I said, Mark Cuban, the former Dallas Mavericks owner? her Yeah.
00:04:23
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How did you pull that off? Yeah, that's a big get. That's a big get. So they show me the video and it's Mark Cuban advertising their product. And I was like, wait a minute, is this real or is this AI?
00:04:37
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And he was like, well, the video is real. I said, das that's not what I asked you. said, is this video of them promoting your thing real? Yeah. well I mean, the video is real. He really did that. I said, I i bet you that he really did. But AI created an overlay to put your product in.
00:04:56
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Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. This is, yeah, yes. I said, so it's an AI video. It's not, it's not real. They're like, no, but i mean, it's Mark Cuban promoting I was like, do not post that.
00:05:07
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Do not post that. Do not post that. They're like, what? I was like, you will get sued. You will be sued. I was like, yeah I said, you're going have a company, then you're not gonna have a company. It's just going to be like when Smokey won and that dice game, I won. You what?
00:05:21
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I lost. Because going to get sued. Yeah. like By two entities. the

Copyright and Intellectual Property Issues

00:05:27
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Mark Cuban and then the company whose product he was actually promoting that you stole their intellectual property.
00:05:35
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Oh, the original video. Yes. Yes. Yes. So, no, don't do that. And I was like, yeah, bruh, that AI is for entertainment purposes only. It's not for you to go and generate income from advertisements. like people absolutely Absolutely not.
00:05:51
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People are really serious about Yeah. what I wouldn't just I don't just have ads post. Well, in some cases I do. I but most of the time I don't have just ads, just whatever ads posting on yeah the podcast. Like, yeah, majority of time it is screened.
00:06:08
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Yeah. People are really, you know, they're likely their likeness is important to them. And if you go make some money, they want their cut. Yes. Yes. So I was just like, I understand that you were happy that you started this thing. Don't do that.
00:06:22
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Don't also do that. That's a, that's a, let's talk a little bit better. Terrible idea. That's a terrible idea. But if he, or or she, I don't know, actually likes AI that much, put the story into a chat bot.
00:06:39
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And ask it to frame it in a way that'll make sense to other people. And then just read that so that we understand what you're talking about. Because I get it. you get You're excited. And so your your brain is moving faster than your mouth and things get jumbled up. Like, I get that.
00:06:58
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But if this is a habitual thing of, like, you are really bad at delivering information... Like, you gotta... You gotta work on that.
00:07:09
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You gotta work on that. This person is routinely bad at delivering information. Also, they're really bad of... receiving information, I give instructions.
00:07:19
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And before I can finish the instructions, it could be like, hey, ah let's walk over here. Okay. I said I didn't know didn't even finish. Let me finish. What I was going to say. And then steadily asking me questions about what's coming next.
00:07:36
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When I was like, if you just didn't say anything in the first place. You might've got the whole thing. You might've had a got everything you were you needed. But this person was so excited, one, for the company, which is really dope, and two, this person is so into AI.
00:07:52
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I was like, hey, you need to you need chill. don't yeah Don't post this. yeah I also came up with a slogan h that was that could be used for a portion of their company.
00:08:07
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Okay. And I so i told them, I was like, look, let me explain something to you about my business and my money. Mm-hmm. Don't play with it. If I see that that slogan is used anywhere.
00:08:21
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Yeah. And I haven't been credited and getting my money for it. I'm coming for you. Yeah. I know where you live. I know where your family live. I want my money. And it's been a running joke because this company has been like in the works for the last couple of years. And this tagline I came up with.
00:08:42
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It's actually brilliant. Yeah. Should I say it on the show? No. Well, I mean, it's already, if I say it on the show, then it's already been copyrighted, right? Isn't that how it works?
00:08:54
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I'm not 100% sure. But I have a friend who is a copyright attorney, and I will ask them. Yeah, ask them. Because yes I came up, it's a great slogan, something I never heard before. And I was like, boom, there you go. Yeah, yeah. But I told this person, I was like, let me, fuck let me Let me find out you're using it.
00:09:14
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It's going to be some furniture moving. Yeah. That's your whole ass. Yeah. It's going to be some furniture moving. Because you know I had... I i did not personally... worked on a project that I thought was a great startup idea.
00:09:26
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So I tried to get... are my partners to like really think about and start planning about pursuing this idea as a startup crickets.
00:09:40
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Okay. So I talked to my friend who is a copyright attorney. And they advise that what is actually the property is my code. Anyone can come up with an idea.
00:09:55
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Anyone can come up with a business name. But the actual material that would be copywritten is my code. So if I change the name of the product,
00:10:09
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I don't need to include anybody in anything. there There you go. who Because the basis for the whole product is the code that I wrote. So I don't know. I don't know about slogans.
00:10:24
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I don't know if that's something that can be. Because again, it's like, it was like, what was that? One of the the Hilton, ah Hilton, what's her name? Paris Hilton?
00:10:35
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That's it. Tried to copyright. That's hot. Even though like everybody says that. And I don't know. I think she tried to. But like you can't really do that.
00:10:46
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o so So I don't know. I'll ask them. I'll tell you the slogan off air because I thought it was genius. Yeah. And then I'll ask them and see what you what you need to do about that.
00:10:58
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Don't let your ideas go for free. Speaking of not letting ideas go

50 Cent's Docuseries on Diddy

00:11:04
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for free. a Lord have mercy. You haven't had time because you are busy. I'm going to do it this weekend. But you know, 50 Cent just dropped a new docuseries, right?
00:11:16
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Oh, God. The queen of petty. now This is petty. 50 Cent dropped a new docuseries. It's a four part Netflix series called Sean Combs The Reckoning. It tracks Diddy's rise, his abuse allegations and events leading up to his arrest and conviction.
00:11:39
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It
00:11:41
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50 was on Good Morning America with the documentary producer. And the woman, I think it was Ryan Roberts, said, you just you don't like Diddy. And he was like, well, no, it's it's not like that.
00:11:53
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It's just because, you know, I mean, he's okay. It's just I didn't like it when he offered to take me shopping. 50 has told this story. so many times that Diddy offered to take him shopping and he has been so offended by it for 20 plus years. yeah He is has just been waiting his time to be petty and he couldn't put out this documentary and some of the footage is damning to Diddy.
00:12:19
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So Diddy's response was, I'm going sue Netflix And 50 Cent because that footage that they obtained, because there's some footage leading up to his arrest. hmm. The footage he's saying, the footage that that they obtained was obtained illegally, but stolen and that it violates his privacy and potentially his attorney, client privilege and his work product protections.
00:12:43
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But this is Netflix. So I was thinking to myself, there's like there's no way in hell Netflix is going to commission a documentary series. Did and Did not verify. And they got yeah they and and and I've been reading a little bit about it.
00:12:58
Speaker
And supposedly, Diddy has been planning to do a documentary on himself since he was 19. And that's the reason why cameras are always around. There's always something filming. And 50 Cent got the footage. And so... ah Ladies and gentlemen, I'm going give a review of the docuseries. I'm going watch it this weekend. And when the show releases on Tuesday, in one of the segments, I'm going to give a review about it. But Petty 50.
00:13:22
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Yeah. Yes. Well, you go yeah I won't. No, I will not. Why not? Because I don't care about Sean Combs.
00:13:34
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I mean, OK, but do you care about 50 sis pettiness? I also don't care. about 50 Cent's pettiness. Okay. Will I eventually probably watch it because it'll be on my timeline and everybody will be talking about it and I'll have FOMO and I'll probably watch it one evening?
00:13:52
Speaker
Yes. when You know when I know for sure you're probably going to watch it? When's that? When I'm there in two weeks. And you gonna put it on and make me watch it? I'm not gonna make you watch it. I'm just gonna put it on.
00:14:05
Speaker
And I know you gonna walk past, what is this that you watching? And I'm like, that Diddy documentary. I'm not watching this. And next thing you know, you gonna be sitting down being like, this is crazy. I know you. this That's what's gonna happen. That's 100% what happens to me every single time.
00:14:19
Speaker
That's how I get dragged in to the shows our mother watches. Mm-hmm. Well... I'll be like, what is this shenanigans you watching? And then I'll be like, she said what to who now?
00:14:32
Speaker
Okay, so he's the investigator. Is that what you're saying? And they're an attorney, but they're not really an attorney. Right. Yeah, and then that's the next thing you know, I'm watching that show all seasons.
00:14:42
Speaker
There are so many memes and reels out of dudes sitting down working or doing something else while there significant others, ah wives, girlfriends, what have you. typically a heterosexual relationship.
00:14:56
Speaker
Yeah. Or watching one of the... one of the Love Island or any of those. Something like that. Something like that. Yes. And then all sudden he's like, what happened? And then slowly, slowly getting into it. Yes. That's our mom with TV. Yeah. Yeah. It just ropes you in. And next thing you know, I'm watching some British drama about I don't even know what.
00:15:21
Speaker
and And I'm into it deeply. Well, I'm looking forward to watching this Netflix documentary because 50 Cent is one of the pettiest people. The only person I feel like that could compete with him in far as pettiness is Cam'ron because nothing was as funny as when he had Omar Gooden come in and do a fake movie.
00:15:45
Speaker
Yeah, that that's that's almost like when I heard about that, i was like, okay, that's bordering on hurtful. Like, yeah, because you play like you're that's not like a prank. Like you're really I thought I was working a legitimate job.
00:16:04
Speaker
That is my career. Like in Cameron's defense. It all started because Cameron called him Omar Gooden Jr. A slip of the tongue. Yes. right Yes. it It was an accident. And Omar Gooden Jr. wouldn't let it go. i kept making you just did it.
00:16:23
Speaker
I did. Please don't make me. You know what, Omar Gooden Jr.? You can make diss records after me. don't care. Put me on blast. That'd be cool. That'd be cool. That'd be pretty cool. And the diss tracks against Cam'ron was kind of dope. Even Cam'ron was like, yo, you can rap, but you got to stop. Because he made like four diss tracks. So Cam'ron finally was all right, I'm going to go ahead and dead all was like, all right, Kendrick Lamar, relax. But Omar Gooden was doing that for a reason.
00:16:51
Speaker
oh His album dropped shortly after that. And he's got a song on there that I was like, yo, this is actually pretty good. I think I sent it to you, but you've been so busy you ain't been paying attention. I haven't looked at it. My text messages are backing up. eat My personal emails, DMs. I'm so sorry to everybody, but I just don't have the bandwidth for anything right now. But I'm almost there. I'm almost almost there.
00:17:18
Speaker
yeah What you will have the bandwidth for, though, is this next topic when we get into the squatting

Squatter Rights and Legal Challenges

00:17:25
Speaker
situation. And we're going to get into that next.
00:17:38
Speaker
All right, Jay, this next story comes from the D.C. Bureau reporter Felicia Ashley. And the title of the article is Squatter uses extended Airbnb stay to claim tenant rights, locking out the homeowner.
00:17:53
Speaker
um I'm already mad. Before I go into this long little thing about the whole story. long and little?
00:18:04
Speaker
It's long and little. and Okay. All right. Shut up. yeah yeah yeah I'm not at all there. i haven't been drinking. I haven't had a drinking.
00:18:20
Speaker
Look, I haven't had a drinking in a while. Yeah. For me. Well, you haven't been. You've been under the weather. And it's going around. Everybody, I know a lot of people that are feeling under weather not still sick I'm just congested more than anything. But anyway, ladies and gentlemen, before I get into this long and little description of what's going on, Jay, what it what why do you, what's your problem with squatters' rights?
00:18:42
Speaker
So there is a like documentary series on Netflix called World's Worst Roommate or so something like that. And it's basically horror squatters rights horror stories. And and like all the things these people had to go through to get these folks out of their house.
00:19:05
Speaker
And it just couldn't be me. Like, I would lose my mind. i What you mean you not leaving my house and you were refusing to pay me any more money? And those, ah so, and I think it's worst roommate or something like that because these were people who were renting a room.
00:19:23
Speaker
So they lived together with this person and tried, and acc claimed squatter's rights, wouldn't leave, barricaded themselves. No, I will burn this entire house down.
00:19:35
Speaker
You're going to burn your own home down to get them out. That's that's how much i Because how dare you? yeah I don't even know the purpose of squatters' rights.
00:19:47
Speaker
i Like, I don't even know the purpose. but Yeah, don't know either. But the fact that people abuse it to this extent, I would literally burn this whole thing down around you.
00:20:02
Speaker
You're going to get out. I think that you got a murder charge if you... if They gonna get out?
00:20:10
Speaker
Okay. All right. So let me tell everybody about the story. Imagine renting out your home on Airbnb, only to end up locked out of your own home. That's exactly what happened to this woman here in the D.C. area. And her story has turned into a months-long nightmare involving police, courts, and a guest who refuses to leave. Homeowner Roshan Douglas thought that she was helping someone in need. Back in February, she accepted a booking from a woman named Shadeja.
00:20:39
Speaker
Romero, Ms. Romero, who said her own home had been damaged in a fire. This reservation was for just over a month, 32 days. It's supposed to end on March 29th.
00:20:51
Speaker
Once that you cross that 30-day mark in D.C., though, a guest can start claiming tenant rights. And that's where everything went sideways. But, okay, all right. You got something to interject. Go ahead.
00:21:05
Speaker
No, because, see, you knew by booking for 32 days, you are already knew... Shadesha? Romero. Is it Shadeja? Are you sure? i That's what I'm looking at. Shadeja?
00:21:20
Speaker
Shadeja. Okay, Shadeja. Shadeja, but that I... Put a K, swap out the S with a K, and what name is that? Khadijah.
00:21:31
Speaker
Yeah. So, Shadeja. Shadeja, that's what I said. Shadeja doesn't sound right, Shadeja does. Well, Shadiza, Shadaza, Shadaza, Shemaja. I don't Whichever, whatever your name is, I don't really care because you can catch smoke.
00:21:50
Speaker
are All of it. When the booking ended, Romero didn't leave. Instead, she insisted that she now had tenant protections even though there was no lease, no rental agreement, just an Airbnb stay.
00:22:00
Speaker
Douglas kept stressing this was never a tenancy. It was a short-term rental. But Romero argued otherwise And the standoff began. Step by step, Douglas tried everything.
00:22:13
Speaker
She served a 30-day notice. She called the police. She went to court. And each time she was told the same thing. This wasn't trespassing anymore. It was a landlord-tenant dispute.
00:22:26
Speaker
At one point, Douglas even offered Romero $2,500 to leave. Romero signed a paper saying that she wasn't a tenant, then turned around and said the agreement no longer works for her and stayed put.
00:22:41
Speaker
Time She offered to pay the woman $2,500. Just leave my home. Please just leave my home. You don't know what kind of offer she'd have got from me?
00:22:52
Speaker
You're gonna burn the house down? I offer to whoop her ass. Don't, do not. but's Because, listen, the next time I call the police, is I'm gonna leave in handcuffs.
00:23:07
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Okay. It's an assault charge. You're gonna get out of my house. Desperate, Douglas put a huge sign on her house, declaring Romero was not authorized to be there.
00:23:20
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Romero and others inside tossed the sheet out the window to cover it. Police eventually helped Davis cut the sign down, but still told her she had to wait for the courts. So while Douglas pays the mortgage, utilities, and mountain attorney fees, Romero remains inside living rent-free.
00:23:41
Speaker
Wow. Now that would piss you off. That, yes. Alone, right? Yeah, yeah. But there's more. An insult to injury, Douglas watches Romero's social media, showing her traveling, promoting a nonprofit, and posting about living her best life.
00:24:00
Speaker
Meanwhile, Douglas can't even step foot in her own home. As of now, Romero refuses to answer the door to reporters or police. Douglas is stuck waiting for the December 11th court date, hoping US Marshals will finally remove Romero and end this ordeal.
00:24:18
Speaker
Now, what i want everybody to pay attention to the dates. Okay. Because Romero booked in February. Yeah. supposed be over in March. Yeah. December 11th is a week away.
00:24:31
Speaker
Yeah. She have the whole year rent-free. But Michael, I thought they're not allowed to leave the property. So how is she traveling and stuff? my My understanding is that if they leave the property,
00:24:48
Speaker
you can you can then evict them. They're not allowed to leave the property. That might not be the case in D.C., I don't know. Each place has different things, but this case highlight highlights a little-known wrinkle in the local law of D.C.
00:25:03
Speaker
How a short-term rental can cross into a tenant territory after 30 days for Douglas has become costly and exhausting, an exhausting battle. And for anyone thinking of listing their home, it's a cautionary tale about how quickly a simple book can spiral into a nightmare. And so you're a homeowner.
00:25:19
Speaker
I am not. Yeah. You have not done Airbnb. I've stayed at an Airbnb that's two doors down from your house. Yeah. Yeah. To think that this could happen is crazy.
00:25:30
Speaker
It's nuts. um Especially because as the homeowner, I went into it with good intentions. You're telling me you lost your home in a fire.
00:25:42
Speaker
Yes, of course you can book my rental. I'm going into it with good intentions. You came into this from the start knowing what you were going to do. And that's why you set it up for 32 days because you knew from the start what you were going to do. That to me, like that's what makes it so bad. Like that's what makes this, the people abusing these laws that I honestly are there to protect tenants, but people abusing these laws because you're abusing people
00:26:18
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who chances are are renting to you or opening their home to you or whatever with good intentions. And you you came into this from the start intending to harm me and thus that's what pisses me off the most about it.
00:26:35
Speaker
And so na every single day, all day, I'm in front of that house with all my car doors open blasting country music.
00:26:47
Speaker
Well, it's a neighborhood. you I don't care. ok we got Listen, at every day we having a block party in the street.
00:26:58
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Okay. i will go I will vandalize my own home now to make you uncomfortable. I will cut the utilities off. So because I think the title is a little the title article is a little misleading. i don't think it's a squatter.
00:27:18
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quite the person is squatting but since it turns into a tenant landlord type of thing it is tough to evict people it is so i think that's the reason why you know she's able to leave house going on vacations which by the way look let me tell you something don't condone violence but neither do i i'm joking but like it makes you that way Especially when you've seen on their social media that they out there.
00:27:49
Speaker
First of all, how are you to be promoting a nonprofit and then stealing from somebody? Yes. Don't add insult to injury. But if you're on social media, guess what? So am I. And I'm on there and I'm plastering all your businesses. I'm going viral on TikTok.
00:28:05
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Reporting on this story. Everybody is gonna know exactly who you are. I'm glad we're talking about it now and I'm glad we're saying the name Shadija, Shadija Romero. I'm glad we're doing it now. Everybody needs to know if you see her nonprofit come across your screen leave some comments under there and tell and let people know that this person is a thief.
00:28:27
Speaker
Yeah Yeah, this person let people know that this person is a criminal. If you see her traveling and doing this and talking about living your best life, is leave a comment under there. You living your best life on somebody else's dime. Don't let people get away.
00:28:44
Speaker
with doing things like this. You got to continue to call out people who do this kind of thing, because if we don't, it just gives people carte blanche to continue to to hustle folks like this and to scam folks like this. And that's not right. That's that's the problem I have with it, the scamming.
00:29:03
Speaker
Well, I thought you liked scamming. I like innocent scamming. Well, okay. We're going to have to dig deeper into this. What is innocent scamming? Okay, for instance, one time i was at the airport again I went to the Sky Lounge, right?
00:29:24
Speaker
I was just going to see, you know, I had the little Sky Miles card or whatever. i didn't know how much it would cost, if it would cost anything for me to be in the Sky Lounge.
00:29:36
Speaker
while I wait for my flight. I'm behind a lady who's like diamond medallion plus dot dot, I don't know, like the top tier SkyMiles lady and she gets a free guest.
00:29:49
Speaker
Okay. Okay. And so the person behind the desk asked, do you have a free guest that's coming in with you? And I said, yeah, me.
00:30:00
Speaker
And she said, come on. And so I got into the Sky Lounge for free. That is innocent scamming. I did not know that lady. She did not know me. I did not want to pay to be in the Sky Lounge, but I wanted to be in the Sky Lounge. So I shot my shot. It worked. Innocent scamming. Nobody got hurt for that.
00:30:22
Speaker
okay I had a nice conversation with this lady. She was only in there for about 20 minutes. i had to be in there for like two hours. It was before they put them time limits on it. It was great.
00:30:33
Speaker
And I enjoyed myself. And there you go. That's innocent scamming. Okay. All right. Innocent scamming. Yes. Shadija, Radeja, whatever, Ms. Romero. Yeah, because you're thinking about it.
00:30:49
Speaker
That is... So if they booked your Airbnb, she got paid for February. She got paid for those 32 days. But since March on, and that's March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December. That's 10 months down. Yeah.
00:31:05
Speaker
For an entire year, I've been paying... for you to live for free, and knowing that you entered in to a good faith agreement with malicious intent.
00:31:18
Speaker
Nah. yeah because when Because when she gets this person out of her house, because she will, it eventually she will. When she gets this person out her house, she needs to sit file a civil suit. still what I don't know.
00:31:33
Speaker
There's got to be some recourse For a the the loss of her her money her time her there's got to be some recourse To protect this woman who is in this very unfortunate situation I want to know why the court case is taking so long Like I have a friend that's in real estate. I need to ask them the specifics of DC I've heard DC tenant landlord squatting laws is Crazy.
00:32:05
Speaker
Yeah, I've heard they're absolutely crazy people be squatting and just chilling and I'm thinking to myself Why I go squat somewhere and chill? Yeah, no, why not live somewhere for free, you know yeah and just like switch it up every three months Just keep hopping different places. So they won't cause people do that.
00:32:23
Speaker
Yeah, you know, that's almost innocent scamming just costing three months worth it's not innocent scamming if i'm caught if i'm causing harm to someone else it's not innocent scamming anymore you you don't know that you didn't cause harm to that lady she may not want to talk to your ass no she she asked me to sit with her she chatted me up i found out exchange information or nothing could have been a new friend hooked you up No, it was just, a she traveled a lot for work, so she got this high status and she was happy to invite me in. So that was innocent. She could have said no. She could have. Yeah.
00:33:05
Speaker
She could have said no. There was no loss to her for inviting me in. That was, that was what I'm saying. Like, yeah she didn't lose anything in that deal. Well, Ms. Douglas, I hope that in a week from today, at the week of this filming, that you will get some type of resolution.
00:33:23
Speaker
And I hope they don't tear up that house, because you know, that's the next thing. Folks like, we got to leave. We're going to tear this place apart. We're going to tear it They will pull out copper out the walls. I don't know why. just went to bubbles from the wire. I don't know. Because that's what happens. Right. Yeah, you know, so, hey, look. Take appliances, all kinds of, take furniture. mean, because everything in there, nothing belongs to this person.
00:33:52
Speaker
Right. It's all, he's Douglas' furniture. would have had some goons, hired some goons, posted up. On the block. not to Not to harm them, harm them, but to make sure they ain't tearing up my stuff.
00:34:07
Speaker
Yeah, you know, if you got some people that's always around your house u every time you come out, because she coming and leaving. Yeah. you know, she taking trips. You coming leaving. You got some people standing out there all the time making you real uncomfortable in your own home.
00:34:26
Speaker
It's not her own home.
00:34:29
Speaker
Right. It's not. Yeah. Omar Gooden Jr. own home. Look, I'm slipping today. OK, I'm getting older. What can I say? That is that is long and little. but I forgot about that one. log You know what? This segment is over because I'm tired of this shit. But next up.
00:34:47
Speaker
An interest interesting Reddit that is sure to piss my sister off. Am I a jerk? We're going to get into that next.
00:35:01
Speaker
All right, Jay, another Reddit post. Why?

Friendship Dynamics and Boundaries

00:35:04
Speaker
I'm kind of lazy and couldn't come up with any other topics. and Reddit is always an easy place to come up with topics. Hey, ladies and gentlemen, I'm going tell y'all right now, there's going to be a show right before Christmas that's going be all Reddit posts. So yeah I hope you enjoy them. I know you do because that's when I get the most excited and pissed off. And I know that that's what people enjoy the most. Yeah, people enjoy you being aggravated. Yes. Or I do. And they enjoy my giddiness of you being aggravated. It's one another. All right. So here's the Reddit post. Am I a jerk to cancel a trip after realizing my friends wanted me to be the unpaid driver and planner?
00:35:46
Speaker
Before I read this, Jay, what are you? Are you the planner in a trip? i'm but I'm starting to like do that and that. And that's only because I've been inspired by friends of mine who are just excellent trip planners. And I always have the best time and they do the best job. So I'm trying to learn how to be a better trip planner And so, like, I planned my 40th to Panama and it went really, really well. And so, yes, I'm trying to take more of an active but I had never used to be in the past, no.
00:36:20
Speaker
right. So I am not. Yeah. At all. I'm not really... a planner planner anyway. I'm a, these are things I need to do. I'm a plan them out. But like, if it's in like an outing, like women get upset with me all the time with dating because it's just like, well, what do you want to do? I don't know. And then on the spur of a moment, I'll come up something like I'm better at.
00:36:44
Speaker
Let's just wait. Yes. I like to just wing it. I'm not going to plan. And I've gone on a couple of trips with people and they're like, well, let's do this. And they have a whole itinerary. And I'm just like, look, I'm go tell you right now.
00:36:56
Speaker
That shit is not appealing to me because I never know how I'm going to wake up and what mood I am. I like to wake up. Yeah. And see. You just like to feel the vibes. Right. But like that's that's not my style. like And so when I travel, I want to see the things. I want to see the tourist attractions or the museums or the whatever. I want to do the tours. I want to see the things. So I will create an itinerary. We'll have the where we're going to eat dinner. I'll make sure we have reservations. We're doing a photo shoot. I got the photographer book.
00:37:30
Speaker
but Down to the transportation. I got everything planned out. Yeah. So you sound like this person, but let me get back to the post. So some friends and I have been talking about taking a weekend trip together. I thought we would share the work and enjoy it equally. But during the planning stage, they kept assigning me tasks without checking if I agreed.
00:37:50
Speaker
They said I should create an itinerary because I have a good taste. They said I should be the driver because I have the biggest car. They said I should book the place because I understand travel sites better.
00:38:03
Speaker
When I questioned it, they said it was obvious i would do these things since I always handle the details. It started to feel like they wanted a personal travel assistant, not an equal friend.
00:38:14
Speaker
The final straw was when they sent a long list of places they wanted to visit and told me to organize the schedule for them. I canceled my participation and told them that they could handle the trip without me.
00:38:26
Speaker
They said I ruined the vibe and abandoned the group. Now they are posting happy friend quotes to try and guilt trip me. Am I the jerk? Nope. And you need new friends.
00:38:38
Speaker
you went You can't. Look, that cannot be your rationale for everything all the time. For these, yes, because by the time you get to the point where you're soliciting advice from strangers on the internet, typically it is because whatever relationship that's being affected by whatever's going on was never good to begin with.
00:39:05
Speaker
and And something happened, there's some catalyst, like the planning of this trip, that's making you realize, maybe my friends aren't my friends. Maybe this these relationships aren't equitable.
00:39:21
Speaker
Maybe I'm being used and I'm just now realizing it. I'm not really asking if I'm the jerk. What I'm asking is, am I tripping for seeing the situation for what it really is now?
00:39:36
Speaker
That's typically what the what the question is for most of these posts. I thought my partner, my friend, my parent, my sibling, whatever, was down for me, and then something happened, and I realized they might not be.
00:39:53
Speaker
yeah in fact, a lot of times, I realize they might not like me at all. Am I tripping? It's not about the trip. What it's about is They wanted you to do everything for them like you probably typically always do.
00:40:13
Speaker
And so they just assumed you would continue to do so. They assumed that the relationship that you have allowed to happen of them taking advantage of you would continue, but now you're realizing that you're being taken advantage of.
00:40:33
Speaker
You need new friends, especially because y'all just sent me to ah list of all the places you wanted to visit. So if you know where you wanna go, go ahead and set it up. Why do I have to set it up for you? i'm not I'm not your personal assistant.
00:40:49
Speaker
You know where you want to go, so you set it up. I don't understand. That don't make no sense. I would not have told my friends that I wanted to take a trip for my birthday and then expect them to plan it for me.
00:41:05
Speaker
That's ridiculous. If we're going somewhere together, this is a trip we're deciding to plan together, then we need to execute it together. It actually will go faster that way. What do you mean I understand travel sites better?
00:41:21
Speaker
It's the web, it's the world wide web. It's been around for- use it. Everybody use it. It's been around for a good while. You know who else has a big car? Enterprise, hers. I have good taste? Okay, fine. I'll pick the restaurants.
00:41:38
Speaker
Sure. That'll be my task. And your task will be to rent the car. And your task will be to book, you know, travel, like book, you know, wherever y'all to visit. Excursions or whatever. Excursions or whatever. And that's how we'll handle it. And if y'all are saying, no, we want you to do everything. And if you don't do everything, you're ruining the vibe.
00:42:02
Speaker
Well, the vibe is ruined. Now what? Hmm. Okay. So to answer the question,
00:42:14
Speaker
is she the jerk? Yes and no. For two reasons. Two reasons. There's two ways I'm looking at this. I agree everything that you have to say, right?
00:42:25
Speaker
and If they are expecting her to do this, do all of these tasks,
00:42:33
Speaker
they're they're not they may not be the greatest of friends. And this is the reason why i said that. I used to have a friend that that was in our group who didn't drink.
00:42:43
Speaker
That meant that he was our designated driver. And that's kind of the reason why we kept him around. yeah When we didn't need him anymore, we didn't really hang out with him anymore.
00:42:59
Speaker
right And people use other people for various things. yes
00:43:05
Speaker
That could be this situation. Or it could be a situation where, and I've got caught up in this, where you just like doing that stuff, so i just figured because you like doing it that you didn't mind doing it.
00:43:18
Speaker
No, I don't like to do it all the time. I just do it all the time. Oh, my bad. yeah Let me start to participate more in this because I don't want that burden all on you.
00:43:30
Speaker
yeah If this person didn't really specify, hey, look,
00:43:38
Speaker
Y'all putting all this on me. Y'all ain't doing nothing. This isn't right. If they didn't say that before canceling their trip, then then yeah, they might be a jerk. But if they expressed it, hey, look, this ain't right.
00:43:52
Speaker
Y'all got me planning all of this. Y'all not doing nothing. i don't Even though I'm good at it, that doesn't mean that I want to do this. It seems more like a work than vacation.
00:44:03
Speaker
Yeah. If she did that and their response was, oh, just you killing the vibe, then no, she's not being a jerk. Well, it says in there. It says it. Did I miss it?
00:44:14
Speaker
When I questioned it, they said it was obvious I would do these things since I always handle the details. But question it that's I've been in that situation where I've said, well, you always handle these type of situations. That doesn't mean I like doing it.
00:44:32
Speaker
What was her response when they said... Yeah, yeah. Like, you know what i mean? That's what I'm getting at. if if If she said to them, well, I don't feel like this is fair. Well, you always do it. I'm out.
00:44:42
Speaker
Yeah. Then you might be a little bit of a jerk because communication, you know how... Ladies and gentlemen, y'all don't know, but my sister understands how I am about communication. Communication is so very, very important to me. is' I overly communicate, but I overly communicate so that there aren't any misunderstandings. Yes.
00:45:02
Speaker
ah You don't care if people misunderstand you. I don't. i do I do. Because I don't want to look back. and end friendships, relationships, or what have you.
00:45:15
Speaker
yeah Because there was a misunderstanding. I want my intentions to be absolutely clear. so If they came back to her, when they came back to her and they said, well, you always do it.
00:45:26
Speaker
If her response was shut down, move out. Yeah. You a little bit of a jerk about that because you needed to explain. Well, yeah, I may always do this, but that don't necessarily mean I like to do this.
00:45:38
Speaker
And y'all need to hold up your end. Now, if they come back with you like, oh, you killing the vibe. then you out. You're not a jerk. But if you haven't explained your position properly right and you bow out, then yeah, you might be a little bit on the jerk side. But that's me because I... Communication is so very, very important.
00:45:59
Speaker
And also, you got to take some ownership because they wouldn't have the impression that you would always do this if you didn't always do it. Right.
00:46:10
Speaker
Because you always do it, because you always take the lead in planning things, there that became the dynamic of your relationship. So just because it's it's not sitting right with you now,
00:46:27
Speaker
Again, like you said, you got to communicate that. Hey, I know that I typically always handle things, but I was kind of hoping that since this is something we're going to enjoy together, that we can all do this together.
00:46:42
Speaker
I don't want to take on the burden of planning everything. And if their response to you is not, say less, we got it. Like, okay, then I'll pick up this, you pick up that, byh but bop, bop, bop.
00:46:54
Speaker
Like, if their response is not that, then go ahead and bow and and recognize that these these people kept you around for a reason.
00:47:05
Speaker
be And also take some ownership and understand that you cannot Constantly take on the burden ah in your relationships like that They have to be equitable and you also have to participate in making sure that they're equity equitable Yeah, equitable ladies and gentlemen equitable That means that there's gonna be give and take yes, but like I always say 100% effort the relationship and in the relationship
00:47:37
Speaker
But sometimes it's going to be 70, 30. Yeah. yeah Sometimes it'll be 50, 50. Sometimes it's going to be 40, 60. yeah But we all putting in to make that 100 percent level, 100 percent effort. But that's why marriage vows are the way they are. Right. In sickness and in health and all of that for richer or for poorer, because et we understand that things happen. Life happens in relationships. I might be down.
00:48:06
Speaker
for a time and need more for you to step up more and provide more support. And then when I get back up, then you can take a step back to where you were before. And then, and I will support you in the same way. So that's really what the, what it's saying is like yeah exactly what you said is going to be a hundred percent, but it's not always going to be equal shares.
00:48:31
Speaker
Right. But the relationship, there still has to be some reciprocity. There still has to be some equity there. Reciprocity, that's a big SAT word, but y'all yeah y'all know y'all know what it means. Jay, yeah what do you want to tell these people before we get out of here?
00:48:49
Speaker
My advice
00:48:53
Speaker
is people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Mm-hmm.
00:49:01
Speaker
Period. Nobody is dogging you out. You are allowing yourself to be dogged out. m
00:49:11
Speaker
Take, you got to take some ownership of what's happening in your situations. Sometimes, and now I'm not talking about situations, obviously, where it is very difficult for a person to leave. they They've been cut off from resources. they We all know that that happens. I'm talking about in general, in friendships and relationships and things like that.
00:49:34
Speaker
Oh, my friend keep doing me dirty. No, you're allowing somebody who you call your friend to do you dirty.
00:49:43
Speaker
you have the power to change that dynamic by walking away from it freedom or communicating that you don't them like the way you're being treated now. freedom Take some power back.
00:49:56
Speaker
And that's the truth. Ruth.
00:50:00
Speaker
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00:50:13
Speaker
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00:51:37
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