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Amber Rose, Nick Cannon, Political Ignorance & Bank Account Betrayal
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Bruce Anthony and Jay Aundrea are back for Episode 309, and this one has everything: burnout, political ignorance, weird dreams, and relationship money drama. Bruce opens up about burnout, why the podcast schedule has to shift, and what it really takes to keep producing this much content without running yourself into the ground. From there, the conversation slides into why going outside is expensive, exhausting, and sometimes not even worth it.
Then the energy turns all the way up as Bruce and Jay break down the Amber Rose and Nick Cannon controversy, the lazy talking point that “Democrats were the party of the KKK,” and why people keep using half-history to defend modern political nonsense. Bruce lays out the party realignment in plain language, tracing the shift from the Civil War era to Jim Crow, the New Deal, civil rights, and the Southern Strategy so nobody can hide behind slogans without context.
The back half of the episode gets weirder and messier in the best way, starting with one of Bruce’s most random dreams yet before turning into an “Am I The Jerk?” story about a man getting locked out of a shared bank account by his partner. This episode is funny, sharp, informed, and just chaotic enough to feel like home. #Burnout #PoliticalCommentary #PartyRealignment #AmberRose #NickCannon #MoneyDrama #RelationshipRedFlags #Gaslighting #currentevents #unsolicitedperspectives
Chapters:
00:00:00 That Don’t Make No Sense — Burnout, Politics & Money Drama 🤔🔥💸
00:02:13 Schedule Change Explained — Burnout, Workload & Reality 😩📉⚙️
00:04:53 The Truth About Solo Podcasting — It’s Harder Than It Looks 🎤😬💯
00:06:08 Why We Don’t Go Outside — Expensive & Not Even Fun 💸🏠😒
00:10:08 Stopping Movies To Google EVERYTHING — We Need Answers 😂📱🧠
00:16:23 Offset Shooting Breakdown + Rumors & Street Code Talk 🔫👀💬
00:21:08 Rapper Chaos Continues — Kidnapping, Robbery & Dumb Moves 😳🚔💸
00:25:56 Amber Rose Takes — Politics, Race & Wild Statements 🤯🗣️⚠️
00:33:06 Party Realignment Explained — The Truth They Ignore 🔄🏛️📖
00:36:11 Civil War → Jim Crow → New Deal — Timeline Breakdown 🕰️📚⚖️
00:40:01 Southern Strategy — How The Parties REALLY Flipped 🧠⚠️📊
00:40:56 The Real Takeaway — Same Names, Completely Different Parties 🔄🎯📖
00:42:56 Why This Narrative Persists — Half Truths & No Context 🤦🏾♂️📉🧠
00:46:44 Dream Breakdown — Why None Of This Made Sense 🤯🧠🤣
00:51:04 Bruce’s Type Explained — Dark, Mysterious & Specific 😏🔥👀
00:55:14 Am I The Jerk? — Locked Out Of Shared Bank Account 💳😳🚨
01:00:14 Jay’s Verdict — She’s Playing In Your Face 💯😡💸
01:04:44 Final Advice — Protect Your Money & Leave If Needed ⚠️💰🚪
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Introduction and Podcast Overview
00:00:00
Speaker
How many times have asked yourself this week? That don't make no sense. Let's be honest. None of this makes sense. We're going to get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:20
Speaker
Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in the important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcasts, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
00:00:39
Speaker
rate review like comment share share with your friends share with your family hell even share with your enemies on today's episode is a sibling happy i'm here with my sis jay andrea we're gonna be dilly down a little bit then we'll then we're gonna be talking about amber rose and nick cannon and then am i the jerk from of course my favorite site reddit but that's enough of the intro let's get to the show
00:01:13
Speaker
What up, sis? What up, brudda? I can call it. I can definitely call it. I didn't do my mouth exercises, ladies and gentlemen, when you are going to be talking for hour plus. There are some exercises and that I've learned that if you've noticed recently over the last couple of weeks that I haven't been stumbling over my words as much. I'm still going to stumble over my words, but not as much. Didn't do them before the show today.
Schedule Changes and Personal Insights
00:01:40
Speaker
We had to do three takes in the intro because I said unsolicited perspicuous. I don't know what word that was, but that's what i' was saying. so It who wasn't. It wasn't the word.
00:01:51
Speaker
No. That's okay. Yeah, okay. So I want to update the audience on something. ah My sister doesn't even know this. It doesn't really affect her. This is more or less for me, but it's something that I need to update everybody out there on.
00:02:07
Speaker
And that is our schedule change. We're going to be doing a schedule change. We are still going to be doing the sibling happy hour every week. But the Tuesday show is going to be every other week. Now, why am I doing a Tuesday show every other week? And that starts in May. There are not going to be any more Tuesday episodes for the rest of April, even though we just started April.
00:02:29
Speaker
Why? Why is that happening? I'm still going to give you all the content that you want. I will still occasionally do a show by myself, but I'm exhausted. We are filming, I don't know, four hours of content each week.
00:02:45
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On top of that, It takes one to three. So for every minute it takes a recording, it takes me three minutes to edit. It's a lot of work. This is not my full-time job.
00:02:57
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And I'm a little burnt out. Yeah, fair. So still going to be doing the Tuesday shows, just every other show. But this will also give me an opportunity to start doing some of the other projects that I want to do with this podcast. So limiting my work, but not really limiting my work.
00:03:15
Speaker
I want to start streaming. I want to start having Sunday fun days with Bruce. All that stuff that is the top tier for the membership program that nobody has signed up for, by the way. I've got a little bit of the lower tier memberships, but okay. But maybe the reason why you haven't signed up, because I haven't started doing the top tier stuff yet. I want to start doing that.
00:03:37
Speaker
So the show isn't changing. We're just adjusting, which is going to be better. Yeah, it's a pivot. And it's actually going to be better because now with this, I won't feel restricted to making sure the shows are not too much longer than 70 minutes, right? If me and my sister are on a roll like we were last week and the show goes 90 minutes, I'll be okay with it, especially if that's one of those weeks where you only get one of the free shows. So...
00:04:09
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Just bear with me, guys. i When I planned this out, I was not expecting it to be this heavy. The editing and the production has gotten way better than when we first started, but that takes way more time. so And I'm not paying nobody to do it because I actually enjoy that part of it. So we're just stepping back slightly. Also, the show's by myself.
00:04:33
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I understand a lot of y'all really like them. Really tough to do a show by yourself for an hour. Yes. Yeah. I couldn't. You could. I gotta let y'all know. I help with that. Not at all. So this is... There is no producer. I not do it. There is nobody that's listening as I'm recording. There's nobody that I can bounce stuff off of or anything. It's just me. And so it's a lot more research that I plan to do. I know sometimes it feels like I'm just off the cuff and I do.
00:05:05
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But there's there's research, especially when I'm doing lessons or something like that or giving you guys background and history. It's a lot of work. It's really intensive. And it's really difficult to do speaking in this microphone 60 minutes nonstop with nobody to bounce anything off of. For those people that could do it all the time by themselves, God bless you. God bless. are amazing. I yeah am not amazing. I'm just okay.
00:05:36
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yeah We're both just okay. this that Is that the moniker for the show? Hey, unsolicited perspectives. I can not say perspectives today. Unsolicited perspectives. We are just okay.
00:05:54
Speaker
Yeah, just okay. Yeah, so that's what's going on. Jay, that's the first time you heard it, but I realized in my personal life. Yeah. Like, ah i I'm so beat, I don't be i don't go outside.
00:06:08
Speaker
yeah One of my friends texted me the other day was just like, hey, I miss you. And I was like, you know what? You got a good point. You live right down the road. i have not seen you in three months. Yeah. Yeah, that's fair.
00:06:19
Speaker
i haven't been outside because I don't go outside. Actually, no, that's not true. I have been outside more... recently yeah typically am. ah so I'm going to cut back on that just because's just because i like I like being in
Family and Social Life
00:06:40
Speaker
the house and outside is expensive. Outside is so... That's another reason I'm... Yeah, you're right. Outside is is mad expensive, yo.
00:06:49
Speaker
Wow, I'm taking it back Deadass. Right. Deadass. Mad expensive, yo. Like, especially... i It's expensive in Atlanta. It's expensive in D.C. Yes. Before I even put on my drawers after getting out the shower, I done spent $100. I haven't even stepped outside and put my clothes on yet. $100 is out of my pocket. Right. It flies out of your pocket, out of the window, into the ether. I don't even know where the money goes. But...
00:07:15
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Yeah, i can't I can't go outside no more. And I don't be having fun like that either. i don' You know, the last time, my birthday, i had a really good time my birthday. I was outside. ah People met me for lunch, and then people met me for not really dinner, but after hours. And that my birthday, I was outside. That was fun. i That was fun. Yeah.
00:07:37
Speaker
yeah But most of the time, man, I just be like, hey, why you invite me to this? And I got to spend money and I'm not having fun. Especially if I'm spending money and not having fun. It's like, what is going on? i left an event early Sunday. Which you're like, why did you do something Easter Sunday? Maybe that was why it wasn't fun. But it was advertised as a fun day on Sunday. Right. It was advertised as a fun day. yeah It was advertised as a fun day. And I went and I'm just like, y'all ready? Or... yeah I had a drink. I people
Violence and Rumors in the Music Industry
00:08:20
Speaker
watched. I'm ready to go home. Well, I will say this. We are planning a siblings weekend.
00:08:26
Speaker
Yes. I'm not going to let the audience out there know because then they'd be like, oh, they're going to be outside. We're going to come outside. No. Yeah. no No. But maybe... Because I talked to a mutual friend of ours from Atlanta who might fly in that weekend.
00:08:42
Speaker
And if they do, I guess we're going to be having a party at your place. well Oh, cool. Yeah. I guess that's just what want to do. You know what? that's That's one of them occasions. that's Really, I love being Black because what going to do? Throw something on the grill. Throw something on the grill?
00:09:00
Speaker
Throw something right on the grill. You don't even have a grill. Yes, I definitely do. It's on the deck. Oh, okay. Never saw it. Yeah. ah But we are planning... Bright red.
00:09:11
Speaker
Yeah. Okay. ah All right. Whatever. ah ah You know, look, I'm old. I be missing stuff. don't Don't ask me about nothing. But I am looking forward to that, and we will have fun.
00:09:23
Speaker
But we planned it, like, two months in advance. yeah And it's like, all right, okay. and it's with And it's with y'all, right? Like, I know that's guaranteed fun because we could sit up in the house...
00:09:36
Speaker
Not do nothing. Just have some drinks. Watch a Jason Statham movie and be killing. Be falling on the ground. Now that's some stuff if our brother ever wanted to, but he's never going want to. If we streamed us just watching something simple, that's entertaining as hell. Or at least I think so.
00:09:57
Speaker
I do too. Yeah. I mean, we stop and get on Google every five seconds to research something. ah because Because one of us has to be right. Okay. One of us has to be right. So we will stop the movie and Google what exactly where exactly is Budapest.
00:10:18
Speaker
ah Okay. Time out. Maybe you feel like you need to be right. I feel like everybody needs to be correct. That's the same thing. No, please don't do that. That's the same. Don't piss me off. That's the same thing.
00:10:37
Speaker
It's the same thing. No, I just want everybody to be correct. I don't need to be right. If I'm wrong, cool. I just want everybody to be correct. Okay. Okay.
00:10:49
Speaker
Yeah, that's that's how i feel. Anyway, ladies and gentlemen, that same all of that was to say that I am burnt out. yes Yeah, yeah. 300 episodes plus after hours, plus talking straight-ish when I was doing it, plus the little message. YouTube exclusives. YouTube exclusives. Hey, look, don't tell me y'all don't have enough content. And, oh, here's another reason why I'm scaling back. I've noticed from people who...
00:11:16
Speaker
our audience are in who listen to the show, who are fans of the show, ah who have contact with me, either through, they know me personally through or through DM or through emails, email on the website, what what have you, that they're like, I enjoy the show, and they're always a week or two behind. And and to the people that I know personally, they're just like, yeah, it's just a lot that y'all put out.
00:11:40
Speaker
So I try to keep up. But, you know, life. And I'm like, yo, we are putting out we are putting out a ton of content just to try to keep up with two hours a week.
00:11:51
Speaker
Yes, it is tough to do. So i think this is I think things will be streamed better, viewed better if we reduce. So yes that's all that is. Plus, ladies and gentlemen, a little burnt out.
00:12:06
Speaker
Yeah. And I don't want the shows to get bad because I'm tired. That is absolutely fair. Yeah. You got to put you first. i I mean, l i I don't want people to get the wrong idea. Like, I don't enjoy this. I do. I get it.
00:12:21
Speaker
Doing this show with you is so fine. Yeah. But there's a line between it's a lot and overwhelming. Right. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's it's fine if it's a lot.
00:12:35
Speaker
It gets to be a problem when it's overwhelming. And so then that's what leads to burnout. And if you push yourself to the point where you do burnout, then the entire thing suffers. Not just one show. Because I know me.
00:12:52
Speaker
I have a history of this. I'll set a goal. I'll go full bore to get that goal, right? Sacrifice everything to accomplish that goal. this is an set It's an obsession.
00:13:05
Speaker
Accomplice that goal and then just be like, to hell with everything that I just did. So it it it I could see me if I don't take a little step back and recalibrate being like one day getting to episode 399
Race, Politics, and Party Ideologies
00:13:20
Speaker
and you'd be like, yeah, we about to hit 400 and like, I'm quitting the show.
00:13:24
Speaker
I could see me doing something like that if I don't take a ah step back. So, ladies and gentlemen, if y'all are fans, yeah obviously, if you're listening, you're watching, you must be fans. Look, we're still giving you that content. Just a little, just a little less of it.
00:13:39
Speaker
Just a little less. Yeah. Just a little less. But not by much. Not by much. I mean, if you do a month, a calendar month, which is four weeks, that's eight episodes that y'all, eight free episodes, mind you, that did y'all would normally get...
00:13:55
Speaker
Now it's just going to be six. It's not like I reduced it in half. You're right. I reduced it a quarter. Yeah. And it the shows, I think, it will be better. And I want to, and really, honestly, I just, I would, I like doing the interviews.
00:14:11
Speaker
Every now and then, I'll do a show by myself because I want to get something off my chest. But I like doing the interviews. The interviews are, I like doing those. I like i like talking to people when I feel like talking to people.
00:14:24
Speaker
But, Jay, speaking of being outside, you know one another reason why don't go outside, us aside from the money? what's ah What's that? The danger.
00:14:35
Speaker
Yeah. If I know anything about that living in Atlanta over Easter weekend, then I don't know who else would. Wait a minute. so Danger was happening on Easter weekend?
00:14:48
Speaker
Yeah. ah On Easter Sunday, there was a shooting at Piedmont Park. And unfortunately, a 16-year-old girl lost her life and 15-year-old girl was wounded. So not not on Easter. At at the park.
00:15:05
Speaker
Insane. yeah As Slim Charles said on The Wire, He was talking about a Sunday, but there are days that are off limits in the streets. And he was like, yeah, you could do a lot of stuff, but but never on a Sunday. There was a Sunday truce in Baltimore for decades where there was no violence because people were going go to church.
00:15:27
Speaker
Right? yeah Here you are on a holiday. Holidays also. I mean, maybe not Thanksgiving because people get to shooting at Thanksgiving. Right. ah But, you know, Christmas, Easter, religious holidays, people going to church celebrating with their family. Yeah. Ain't to be no violence.
00:15:44
Speaker
The reason why, because on Sundays, you know you got to drive your grandmama to church. Right. So it cant you can't have no beef in the streets. Not on Sunday. gay Not on Sunday. to take mama to church. Like, that's...
00:15:59
Speaker
Get up with me on Monday, 12, 12.01 Monday, 12.01 a.m. You can holler at me. Yes. But but from 12 to 11.59 p.m. on that Sunday, it's off limits. So I'm sorry to hear that. Somebody else got shot.
00:16:18
Speaker
Yes. Offset. The rapper Offset was hospitalized after being shot on the evening of Monday, April the 6th. the day after Easter, outside a Florida casino. he was currently He's currently in stable conditions with injuries that are considered non-life-threatening. The shooting occurred around 7 p.m. in the valet area at the Seminole Hard Rock Hotel and Casino in Hollywood, Florida. Authorities stated the shooting followed a physical fight that broke out near the valet area. Offset repeatedly suffered a gunshot wound to the leg. Police detained two individuals at the scene. Rapper a little t j
00:16:56
Speaker
Spelled T-J-A-Y.
00:17:01
Speaker
Lil T.J. was among those detained and was charged with disorderly conduct and operating a vehicle without a valid license. Lil T.J.' 's attorney has adopted denied his involvement in the actual shooting, stating that he has not been charged with any shooting-related crimes.
00:17:20
Speaker
Jay. Yeah. Rumor mills. Reckless speculation, ladies and gentlemen. Rumor mill is that Offset owes him money. hey That's the reason why I got shot.
00:17:36
Speaker
To compound on these rumors, a famous, well, a famous former NFL playmor player, Des Bryant, said that Offset owed him about 10 grand and he went to check him and Offset's boys came at him.
00:17:57
Speaker
Rumor... Why does Offset owe Des Bryant $10,000? ten thousand dollars Rumor has it Offset don't be paying his debts. That's the rumor mill in social media, that he yeah don't be paying his debts. And he got a lot of people that he owed money to, even casinos. So... You dodged a bullet, Cardi.
00:18:23
Speaker
Well, I would say that even though all these things are rumors... Yeah. His character has always been in question.
00:18:34
Speaker
Because of his marriage to Cardi.
00:18:38
Speaker
How many times he cheated? Elaborate. How many times he cheated? ah to Honestly, i don't think we'll ever know, but too many. he don't It seemed like he don't have a code. Right. Right.
00:18:51
Speaker
And you can't be from the streets and not have a code on anything. Right? Right. Like, like dudes who dudes will cheat on women and say, but I, you know, I still got codes. I pay my debts. You can't be a man that cheats on women and not pay your debts.
00:19:07
Speaker
Right. Pick a lane. Like,
Dreams and Financial Trust Discussions
00:19:11
Speaker
pick a struggle. You can't do both things. Kyrie Cephas. and And isn't he considered like the Mego that nobody really messes with?
00:19:23
Speaker
um um Well, Quavo and Takeoff were nephew and uncle, so it's a little different. so Offset and Takeoff were brothers.
00:19:39
Speaker
I don't think so. I could have that completely wrong. I know that Quavo was Takeoff's nephew, but they're like the same age, so they kind of grew up as brothers. um And I think Offset was ah was a friend, but I'm i am not 100% sure.
00:20:02
Speaker
But Quavo and Offset have had issues. Oh, yeah. I don't doubt it. Right. So I'm i'm just like... And what I'm saying is, it's like, by and large, you don't hear too many people talking about they had issues with Takeoff or Quavo. Oh, no, sorry.
00:20:20
Speaker
I got it reversed. Takeoff was Quavo's nephew. Okay. Sorry. Right. Oh, okay. They family. They family. They they family.
00:20:32
Speaker
But I don't know. Like, what do you think about all this? I mean, he got shot. They said in the leg. I heard it was in ass. But, yeah you know, leg, you know, whatever. And Lil Tay, he came out that... he came He got bonded out the next day. And... Because the charges isn't an attempt murder.
00:20:50
Speaker
And he was like, hey, man, I don't know what they was talking about. These some weirdos out here. And I'm just like, and this is crazy.
00:20:57
Speaker
What you... what' you mean Well, listen... I don't expect him to cop to it. Well, these kids nowadays, i he might drop a single. True, it's true.
00:21:09
Speaker
Y'all, check his Finstas. But he might have some videos up. But you got to pay your debts, baby. You can't be out here owing people money just walking around like you don't have a care in the world. like you if that If that's the reason why...
00:21:32
Speaker
And you say you say he's probably— These kids nowadays, and I call them a kid because and i know I'm older than Offset.
Conclusion and Listener Engagement
00:21:40
Speaker
these These rappers nowadays really be telling on themselves because another incident happened with Pooh Shiesty and Gucci Mane. I was just about to bring that up.
00:21:49
Speaker
Yeah, you know, Pooh Shiesty, a rapper that's assigned to Gucci Mane's label, wanted it out of his label. Gucci Mane was like, no, i'm not about to let you i'll should let you out of your deal. And decided to kidnap him and hold a ransom and try to force him. He tried a big red from the five heartbeats him.
00:22:06
Speaker
Right. well He tried Vito Corleone, Johnny Fontaine him. So, yes, I was just about to bring that up. Federal prosecutors have charged Proust Shiesty and several others in connection with a January 2026 incident.
00:22:22
Speaker
That allegedly turned a routine music business meeting into a violent crime. Authorities claimed that the group lured victims tied to Gucci Man's 1017 records.
00:22:36
Speaker
Gucci Man himself rumored to have been in attendance in this kidnapping. To the studio under the guise of contract negotiations and held them at gunpoint. forced them to sign documents, and then robbed them of cash and valuables. Because it honestly, you're there.
00:22:54
Speaker
but know what I mean? I really just wanted y'all to sign these papers, but since you're here, go ahead and come up off that chain your mama got you.
00:23:05
Speaker
But these idiots... were posting wearing the stuff. Like, there was a ah watch that was stolen wearing the stuff on their Instagram pages. And I'm like, yo, y'all ain't got no fence nowhere. Like, back in my day, ladies and gentlemen, i'm talking hypothetically here. Back in my day, if you was going to hit for a lick, that's a robbery. And you got some stuff that you knew that you, like, ah say you robbed somebody for their starter jacket.
00:23:33
Speaker
Yes. You can't go walking around in that starter jacket. No, no. You got to sell that starter jacket. You got to, yeah. Yeah, I mean, i saw I saw this on Instagram, you know, and it's true. His name isn't Poo Trustworthy.
00:23:50
Speaker
You posted that. I fell out my seat laughing. So did I. did I. He is not Poo Shiesty. He's Poo Shiesty. So you get what you get with that.
00:24:08
Speaker
yeah yeah You wanted to have dealings with a gentleman named Poo Shiesty. And so you that's that's what's going to happen with that. Well, ladies and gentlemen, that's enough of the diddly-doddly that went long. But guess what? Since y'all only getting one show this week, that's okay.
00:24:27
Speaker
That's all right. But trans transferring from, or transitioning, not transferring. I don't know why you would transfer. Transitioning from one messy situation, we're going to talk about people trying to rewrite history. And we're going into that next.
00:24:53
Speaker
Jay. Yeah. Nick Cannon has got shows, podcasts, all types of stuff. And I am not one to point the finger because there's three fingers pointing back at me.
00:25:09
Speaker
Right. So I can't get upset with somebody starting a podcast and a show, interviewing people and trying to entertain yeah and educate people.
00:25:22
Speaker
Like that just that's what I'm trying to do, right? yes However, when you do those things, I would ask, please just be a little bit more researched because when you give out information, a lot of people now, because it's happened to me earlier today, a lot of people now are only going to absorb information about 10% of it. And they're going to screw up that 10%. Yes. people don't listen.
00:25:52
Speaker
Yeah. And people won't go do their own research. It's like a game of telephone. the the The message is going to get distorted by the end. Yes. That's exactly what it is. Ladies and gentlemen, what am I talking about? Nick Cannon's got a show called The Big Drive, and there was a little controversy because he had Amber Rose on his show. Now, Amber Rose, in and of herself, is a walking controversy.
00:26:12
Speaker
But what was controversialtroversy a controversial about this show? Amber Rose and Nick Cannon made some political claims about race,
00:26:22
Speaker
party history, and American politics. Rose argued that democrat Democrats don't care about Black people, positioning Republicans as more supportive.
00:26:33
Speaker
Cannon agreed and escalated claiming Democrats are the party of the KKK, Republicans are the party that freed the slaves. Now, both of those things are true.
00:26:48
Speaker
for 150 years ago. But some of the things that really kind of pissed me off is this pro-Republican framing by Rose, right? She stated that she used to be left-leaning and now she aligns with more conservative values, framed Republicans, as I said, better for people of color. ah and And what didn't get as much talk about from what Nick Cannon said, is what she said.
00:27:19
Speaker
She said that the N-word isn't that big a a deal big of a deal, feels like white people should be able to say the N-word, and lets her kids say the N-word. Now, Amber Rose is not Black. No. even be very clear.
00:27:32
Speaker
Even though she appropriated Black culture to gain her fame. And she will she loved to throw out, what is she, Guyanese or something like that? don't know. it Something like that. Something No, girl. All right. So, like I said, Nick Cannon made that statement that Democrats were the party of the KKK and that the Republicans under Lincoln freed the slaves.
00:28:03
Speaker
And he got destroyed in social media, regular media, because of the ignorance of that statement.
00:28:13
Speaker
Now, factually true, but the ignorance of the backstory and the history of that statement. At the end of the segment, I am going to explain why that statement is so ignorant by giving you guys a history lesson of how the two parties are not what they were from 150 years, more than 150 years ago now. It's almost 200. No, it's still 150 years, 160 years.
00:28:40
Speaker
but Jay, did you hear about this? If not... Okay, you did. what what What was going through your head when you heard about what Nick Cannon said?
00:28:54
Speaker
Jackass. Okay, that's all I'm saying that was going through your head. Y'all so tired. And let me explain why y'all so tired. Because y'all get money...
00:29:06
Speaker
And you don't want to pay taxes so you become conservative. And the back flips that you have to perform in order to reconcile that with your black. Name one single way.
00:29:23
Speaker
In modernity, don't you dare talk about emancipation because I will punch you in the face. Name one single way in modernity that Republicans are not even better for people of color because you can make a decent argument against the Democratic Party and and the things that they've done for people of color. You can make a decent argument about that. If you want to have that discussion, we can.
00:29:48
Speaker
But you name one single policy that put forth by the Republican Party in modernity that is even just good for people of color, fair for people of color.
00:30:04
Speaker
Put it, name one, name one, and you can't, and here's why you can't. One, it doesn't exist, and two, neither one of y'all read. Hmm.
00:30:16
Speaker
And so because you don't have an example of the ways in rich Republicans are better for people of color, you instead rely on this tired ass rhetoric of Democrats being the party of the KKK and Republicans being the ones that freed the slaves. Yes, but look at the ideology.
00:30:38
Speaker
and I'm sure you're going to get into this when you talk about it, look at the ideological stance of each of those parties at that time. And also, that was past my grandmama, great grandmama time, okay? Ain't nobody...
00:30:54
Speaker
look
00:30:56
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debt I'm talking in modernity, in the last 100 years. What has the Republican Party done that has been in in any way beneficial to people of color? Was it the war on drugs?
00:31:10
Speaker
Was it Reaganomics? a yeah Was it the the weapons of mass destruction and the war on terror? Any of that? No? No?
00:31:21
Speaker
ah Economic policy? No, not that. Hmm. Social policy. No, not that. Can't think of a single thing. And so that's why y'all keep falling back on this rhetoric, because, you know, you have to twist yourself into a pretzel to make it make sense instead of just telling the people, hey, I just want to save money on my taxes. And I know that it means that life is going to be harder for people who are not in my income bracket. But honestly, I don't give a damn. But I can't tell you that, honestly, because then I would lose my audience. But that is the truth.
00:31:59
Speaker
That's how i felt about that. Okay. all right. Well, so a lot of people. ah Sorry. There's a lot anger in there. But I yeah i get it.
00:32:11
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ah It's funny because Nick Cannon, you know, buffoons having a conversation about something they don't know nothing about. and and and And my problem is, is two buffoons having a conversation is something they they don't know anything about with a large platform.
00:32:26
Speaker
Yes. and And that's what bothers me. But like I said, they got different it's different from us. We're two buffoons, but we don't have a large platform.
00:32:38
Speaker
It's different.
00:32:42
Speaker
It is. It is different. It is different. Also, we are researched and and when we give our opinions, we are opinionated, but our research is based in fact, right? In fact, yes. Based in fact. So let's have a conversation.
00:32:59
Speaker
Let's have a real conversation about how the parties are different now. This is one of those topics where people love to throw out one sentence and act like they just explained 150 years, just like Nick Cannon did of American history. But that's not the case. That's not how this works. So let's clean it up. Let's be accurate because the difference between now and then comes down to one word, realignment.
00:33:25
Speaker
So here's a simple version. Back in the 1800s, Republicans were anti-slavery, big federal government, government based in the North, right? Democrats were pro-state's rights, slavery, strong in the South, including many who supported segregation.
00:33:47
Speaker
These are the 1800s. Today, today, just then and now, today, Republicans are conservative, small government messaging, strong in the South.
00:33:58
Speaker
Now, remember what I said where they were in the yeah Big federal government based in the North. So right there, yin and yang. They're in they're completely different.
00:34:10
Speaker
Democrats today, more progressive on civil rights, diverse coration correlation not correlation coalition, and strong in urban areas. yeah Same party names, completely different priorities and coalitions. Right.
00:34:27
Speaker
yeah They're not the same. So that is just a simple explanation of how the parties are different from then to today. So just based on that information alone, what Nick Cannon had to say was absolutely ridiculous.
00:34:43
Speaker
Yeah. And it's tired. Like, I'm tired of hearing those same two points that Democrats are the party of the KKK and the Republicans freed the slaves. I'm tired of the same two because y'all know good and hell well that if Abraham the Lincoln was alive today, that man would not be MAGA.
00:35:07
Speaker
no No, they wouldn't be MAGA. So please stop kidding yourselves. Yeah, they wouldn't be MAGA. And another thing that pissed me off is during this episode, if you're going to be an interviewer, and yes, I did.
00:35:23
Speaker
My first major in college was journalism. I conducted interviews for the school paper in high school. ah I did interviews. I've done a little bit of studying on how to do interviews. I'm not Oprah, but I also watched Oprah, Phil Donahue, Montel Williams, like, and I watched people interview.
00:35:44
Speaker
Yes. What you can't do is be keying throughout the whole interview and not pushing back on your interviewer when they say something that don't make no damn sense. And Nick Cannon was just keying. I guess he wanted to smash Amber Rose and a tattoo on her forehead. i don't know what it was because there was no pushback. And that's what pissed me off. But yeah.
00:36:07
Speaker
How did the parties change? I just told you that they did. But how did that happen? So let's go back to the Civil War era back in the 1860s, right? Abraham Lincoln, once again, it was a Republican, and he's leading against the fight against slavery. Republicans were party of the Union abolition. Democrats, especially Southern Democrats, defenders of the old system. So yes, historically, Nick Cannon was right.
00:36:34
Speaker
That part is absolutely true. But that's only Act One. Let's go to Act Two, Reconstruction through Jim Crow. So we're going talking about the late through the early 1900s. After the Civil War, Southern Democrats regained power. Why did they regain power?
00:36:55
Speaker
Republicans was like, look, man, this whole Reconstruction thing is taking a lot out of us. ah the South can handle it. And the South didn't handle it. What they did was once they regained power, they started enforce segregation laws, which became Jim Crow. Republicans lose their influence in the South.
00:37:17
Speaker
Southern Democrats take over. At this point, the South is solidly Democratic, but this is still the old ideological version of the party, right? It's still just the Democrats representing the South, representing Jim Crow. So there, but ah it's still kind of things. But here's Act Three.
00:37:38
Speaker
The New Deal shift in the 1930s. Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Democratic president, nominated four times for president, right? The man that was in the wheelchair, Eleanor may have been running the last three years when because he died in office, right? Yeah, she definitely probably was, for sure. yeah Yeah, i definitely probably was. He expanded government programs because he was dealing with the Great Depression. Yes. When he did that, he started attracting working-class voters, including many Black voters in the North.
00:38:15
Speaker
Now Democrats are becoming the party of big government and economic support. But the South still is Democratic, so the party is internally split.
00:38:25
Speaker
So you see how when Lincoln was the president, he was for big government. Republicans were for big government. But just 50, 60 years later, you see this ideology switch mainly because they needed to get people money and get people working. That's mainly what it was.
00:38:44
Speaker
But as Roscoe barks in the background, or Roni, Because she or or he are basically confirming that the information I'm giving you is true, is that Democrats then become big government like Republicans were 60 years later.
00:39:02
Speaker
So you see this shift, especially with black voters in the north. Then we go to the civil rights movement of the 1950s and the 60s. This is the turning point. My favorite president, Lyndon Baines Johnson, a Democrat, signs the Civil Rights Act and the Voting Rights Act.
00:39:20
Speaker
Many Southern Democrats oppose it. What was the result of this? Black voters move strongly towards Democrats. White Southern conservatives begin leaving the Democratic Party.
00:39:34
Speaker
This is where the ideology flips. It starts to become even more visible and they start to become Republicans. Yeah. This is why you see the Republicans dominate the South.
00:39:46
Speaker
The Democrats dominate everywhere else because they didn't want black people to get their rights. That's really what it was. Right. Yeah. It goes even further.
00:39:56
Speaker
Then we get into the Southern strategy. strategy This is the 1960s through the 1980s. Republicans began appealing to dis and disinfected Southern white voters, emphasizing on state rights.
00:40:13
Speaker
Does that sound familiar? william Sounds so familiar. That sounds like something that the Democrats were doing earlier. during the Civil War, but this is the Republicans doing it now.
00:40:27
Speaker
Mm-hmm. Also, law and order and cultural issues. These are all so, so, so very familiar. Mm-hmm. Over time, the South shifts from Democratic to Republican with conservatives consolidating in the Republican Party.
00:40:48
Speaker
Mm-hmm. So what does all this mean in simple talk? I feel like I just laid it out to where you could really understand it, but I'm going break it down even more for you. When people say Democrats were the party of the KKK, they're talking about a different version of the party from 150 years ago. When people say Republicans free to save, they're talking about a different part a different version of that party too. The names stayed the same.
00:41:14
Speaker
The ideology and the voter bases switched. yeah But here's the real takeaway in all of this. This is why these arguments feel slick, but incomplete.
00:41:26
Speaker
They take historical facts, strip them of context, then apply them to modern politics like nothing has changed. But parties don't stay static.
00:41:39
Speaker
Coalition's move where their interests are represented. So when you say that Republicans, and they did, they reparted their ass away from human rights. When you say Republicans are better for people of color, I say to you, history has shown that that they are the party that is, quote unquote, for state rights, slavery, Jim Crow, things like that.
00:42:10
Speaker
Yeah. States rights, remember, only when it serves them, because if they want to attack women's bodies, boy, they're going to do that at a federal level. ah ah And a state level, too. They'll attack it all over. They're fine with that.
00:42:28
Speaker
But so I hope now, ladies and gentlemen, y'all can understand why Nick Cannon was so ignorant. To know historical fact, But to not understand how that changed over a 150-year period, I gave you yeah multiple acts of how that happened.
00:42:49
Speaker
And when you break it down and you understand the Republican strategy in the 1960s that was implemented by Richard Nixon and then again by Ronald Reagan. And if you don't believe that there were...
00:43:03
Speaker
white voters that felt disenfranchised by the civil rights movement. Do a quick search on YouTube and just look at black people moving into white neighborhoods and you see the vitriol that it are in your parents or in your grandparents, or hell, maybe even in your lifetime.
00:43:28
Speaker
Yeah. Didn't happen that long ago. How pissed off they were just because a black family wanted to move into their neighborhood. They picketed. You don't even have to do that. You can just Google the images of Ruby Bridges.
00:43:42
Speaker
A six-year-old girl just trying to go to school. A six-year-old girl who, by the way, is a grown woman now and has an Instagram, so this is not something that's far off. I think Ruby Bridges is like 57. Yeah, younger than our parents.
00:43:58
Speaker
Yeah, this is not something that's far off. So you could just look at the photos of the the crowd, the white crowds around Black students trying to integrate schools, and you know what was popping off back then.
00:44:14
Speaker
Right. So Nick Cannon is probably not going to see this, and that's okay, because there are people out there that think like Nick Cannon, so you can learn from this.
00:44:25
Speaker
Don't be stupid. Do some history. Y'all arguing over team jerseys, not realizing the players didn't switch teams decades ago. no And that's an indictment on you, not anybody else.
00:44:47
Speaker
Jay, I had a crazy dream and you were in it. Oh boy. You and dad were in it. Okay. You know the best sleep that you get. We've talked about it before. I checked my alarm. I had to wake up at 7 o'clock this morning.
00:45:00
Speaker
I checked my alarm. It was 6.15. I said, all right, I got 45 minutes. Let me roll over. Somewhere in there, I fell into a deep sleep for that 45 minutes. That's where it happens. That's where it happened. And i don't know when it happened.
00:45:14
Speaker
I just know it happened because I remember my dream. So here's the dream.
00:45:20
Speaker
And I don't know what this means, but here's the dream. Dad is driving us to school. We're both in high school. Now, off top, this don't make no sense because we weren't in high school together. I graduated, then you came in a year after I graduated. We didn't get to we went to elementary school together. We didn't go to high school together. exactly.
00:45:40
Speaker
So dad is driving us and you say, because you're in the front seat, I'm in the back seat, probably because you call shotgun. And you say, you know what? Show doesn't get talked about enough.
00:45:51
Speaker
And I say, what? You say, charmed. And I go, charmed? hope What? He's like, yeah. And I was like, you know what? That's funny that you bring that up because I watch charm a lot.
00:46:08
Speaker
In the dream, I said this, but in real life also. Because it comes on TNT, and during the and NBA playoffs, the games are always on TNT. So the next morning when you turn on the TV, it's on TNT, and it's always charmed.
00:46:22
Speaker
yeah And then I said, low-key, I'd never turn the show off. I'd be in the middle of the episode and I would stop and watch. And then you said, well, yeah, they did some good casting and make sure people watch. And I was like, yeah, because I did have a crush on Alyssa Milano.
00:46:38
Speaker
So then that was our conversation about Charmed. Then we get to school. You disappear. Now it's just me. ok And for some reason on the way to school, I was tripping. I was like, yo, I can't remember my locker code.
00:46:54
Speaker
Which, by the way, somehow I remembered it. It was 11, 13, 15. That's not my real locker code, but it was in the dream. So I might need to play them numbers. yeah And somehow along, I'm hungover as well, going into high school, which never happened.
00:47:11
Speaker
Okay. Yeah, no. So my i for some strange reason, my books are on the ground. I'm wearing a hat and sunglasses to because I'm hungover. And my books are on the ground, and I'm about to start picking them up.
00:47:24
Speaker
And somebody comes in and just starts touching the book, touches everything that's mine. And I turn and look, and I'm like, man, what the hell you doing? And I look, and it's a person that has autism.
00:47:36
Speaker
And so they're just touching. And then they spray it down with hand sanitizer. And I was like, oh, that's considerate. And because i at first when they was touching my stuff, I didn't know they were had autism. I was about to, you know, press them.
00:47:49
Speaker
But then I was like, oh, man, oh you have autism. My bad. I'm tripping. And you just knew this in the dream. i ah Well, because of the way that they were touching my stuff.
00:48:03
Speaker
Okay. it it In a dream, it made sense, right? Okay, sure. But it didn't end there because as I'm getting ready to pick up my stuff, another person that has autism sprays hand sanitizer and then starts touching individual stuff. And I said, did dad drop me off on the autism exit and entrance of the school?
00:48:22
Speaker
was like, what the hell is going on? And that was a dream. Now, You say to yourself, Bruce, why the are you bringing this up? Yeah. One, I think dreams have meaning.
00:48:33
Speaker
They don't. They do. they They do. There have been whole studies done of it. like And that it's all bunk. That's what think. It's not bunk. Your dreams are random collections of images, things you did throughout the day, people you saw, things you remember. It's just randomness in your brain.
00:48:55
Speaker
They don't mean anything. Well, maybe I need to watch an episode of Charmed or something. Well, Charmed is... That is a good show. Like, that would they it definitely was a good show. Like, I'm not gonna lie about that. It was a good show. Like, it what like I don't think people talk about Charmed enough. They don't. Because if you sit down and you just watch for five minutes, you're gonna finish the rest of the show. You're gonna finish that episode. And if another one come on after it guess what? You ain't turning away.
00:49:20
Speaker
And you know what? As I was telling a friend about it this morning, about my dream, and the reason why I said I was to put it on the show, is because I just realized they're Charlie Angels, just witches. They're Charlie Angels. That's all they are. that Somebody was like, what if we came up with Charlie's Angels, but they're witches?
00:49:42
Speaker
Yeah. That's essentially... And we grab the fine-ass Alyssa Milano, who, by the way, I've had a crush on since it a boss. Like, I think... That's the reason. I think she is the reason I have a half a thing for Italian women.
00:49:57
Speaker
Mm-hmm. Is her and the woman from Jungle Fever. Got it. Got it. I'm just going to put that out there. If you look like... Just to let the people know. people know. If you look like either one of them women, I'm going to tell you right now, I'll go through a lot of BS to make you happy.
00:50:20
Speaker
ah But yeah, that was my crazy-ass dream. I think it means something. Okay. I don't know what. Me neither. Just means you don't like people touching your stuff. ah Well, self i mean that's self-explanatory. I do not like people touching my stuff. But I'll making i'll make i'll make an exception if if you have autism.
00:50:44
Speaker
Okay. Good to know. Just in case anybody's wondering. yeah You see me out in the street? Don't pretend you have autism. Just touch my stuff. That's going to piss me off. Yes. Yeah. So a quick question.
00:51:01
Speaker
Where does Marissa Tomei fall in this? Oh, God. Okay. I forgot. Okay. So Marissa Tomei, it is... ah First of all, okay, let me get it. let me I got it all wrong. We talk about my fascination. See, I have a fascination with, I realize what it is.
00:51:22
Speaker
Exotic isn't the right word.
00:51:27
Speaker
It's different looking. This is what I mean by that. h I have a theory, but I'm not... go say there i I know what your theory is. You know what my theory is. It don't even make no sense. Just saying, aesthetically.
00:51:44
Speaker
if Tiana Taylor, to me, is extremely attractive. Gorgeous. Because she's exotic looking. Yeah, she looks like a cat. but So I like exotic looking women That you can't pigeonhole.
00:52:01
Speaker
You can't say that they are. They could be any color. They could be green. You know they fine. So it all started with Punky Brewster. Okay.
00:52:12
Speaker
But I think everybody my age had a crush on Punky Brewster. I, you know what? You're the only one I've ever heard that from, honestly. A rebellious, a rebellious hellion? Look, let me tell you something. If you're a rebellious hellion today, I thought you still got a shot with me.
00:52:35
Speaker
But we talking about specifically Italian women, right? So it started with Punky Brewster. it It went full bore into Alyssa Milano and Who's the Boss?
00:52:47
Speaker
Then it was Marissa Tomei, because she was on a different world. And then Jungle Fever happens in 1991. And I wish I could remember this woman's name. Now, what you're going to say is, and I don't like it, you believe in psychology, but you don't believe in psychology, right? Dreams is part of the psychology. But you're going to say this Freudian thing is that they resemble mom, which isn't even true, because they don't resemble mom. They're all fair skinned with dark hair. That is, I'm sorry. and her name is Annabella Schiora.
00:53:23
Speaker
She played Angie Tucci in Jungle Fever. That's a... Okay, she was also in Sopranos. She's also in Tulsa King. Is that the right actress?
00:53:39
Speaker
Let me see. Yes. Okay. Wait. I thought her name was something different. Annabella Sciorra. Oh, maybe she changed her name. Maybe her name was something different. i thought it was something... Anyway. No. Look, no.
00:53:52
Speaker
i Okay. Do I have an affinity with dark-haired women? Yes. But whether you you only got an option of three. It's either dark hair.
00:54:05
Speaker
It's dark hair or light hair or red hair. Dark hair, light hair, red hair. Yeah. You have an aversion to two and an affinity for one. An aversion. What is the... I thought you didn't like red... Oh, you don't want redheaded children. Yes. I don't want red and children.
00:54:25
Speaker
yeah But I also don't... Yeah, I mean... But, Dark... Look, I got a crush on one of my homegirls' homegirl who she won't introduce me to. And I'm like, you know I'm a good dude. don't you introduce me to her? And I'm going to show you a picture of her. She's breathtaking.
00:54:40
Speaker
I think she's... Costa Rican? Okay. breathtakingly beautiful. And I've met her before, but in older age, she's just getting finer. But yes, she is dark haired.
00:54:53
Speaker
Yeah. Mm-hmm. I like dark and mysterious. That's all that is. Okay. Anyway, yeah we're done dissecting me. I got it. Am I the jerk that I think that you'll find interesting because they typically piss you off. so They do. No different.
00:55:18
Speaker
It's just the audacity of people. Honestly, it's just the audacity. The audacity of this one is also crazy. So the title of this Am I the Jerk is Am I the Jerk for Confronting My Partner After I Lost Access to Our Shared Bank Account?
00:55:38
Speaker
Hmm. Depends on why you lost access. All right, so I'm a 32-year-old male, and I've been living with my partner, 30-year-old female, for almost two years. About a year in we set up a shared bank account for our joint expenses like rent, bills, and groceries. It wasn't our entire savings, just a practical setup where we both transferred a fixed them amount each month to keep things simple. We used one login on a mobile app that was linked to her number, but I still had access to it and could check balances anytime. Last week, I tried to log in to transfer my usual contribution and check the remaining balance. The password didn't work.
00:56:14
Speaker
At first, I thought I just mistyped it, so I tried again. Then tried resetting it, but the recovery code was going to her number, not mine. I asked her for it, but she said she didn't receive anything. It didn't make sense because it had always worked before.
00:56:29
Speaker
I tried again later that day and got the same result. At that point, I asked her directly if anything had changed. She said no and told me the app must just be glitching.
00:56:39
Speaker
That didn't sit right with me because everything else on the phone was working fine and I wasn't locked out of any of the other accounts. So I asked her to log in on her phone while I was there.
00:56:50
Speaker
She did, but I noticed the interface looked slightly different. The account was still there, but the contact details tied to it had been updated. The recovery number and an email were both hers now. Mine wasn't listed anywhere anymore. i asked her why my details were removed. She hesitated.
00:57:08
Speaker
then said she updated a few days ago because she wanted to manage the account herself and avoid confusion with notifications and access. She said since it was mostly for shared expenses anyway, it didn't really matter who handled it.
00:57:22
Speaker
That explanation didn't sit right with me. This wasn't just some app setting. We both put money into the account every month, and now I couldn't even see the balance without asking her. I told her that removing my access without even telling me wasn't just a small change. It completely shifted control. She said I was overreacting and that nothing had actually changed because the money was still being used for both of us. But from my side, something did change. I went from having direct access to something I contributed to to having to rely on her to show me anything. I asked her why she didn't just tell me before doing it. She said she didn't think it needed to be a discussion and assumed I would be fine with it.
00:58:02
Speaker
That's the part that bothered me the most. Not just the access itself, but the decision being made without me even knowing. I told her I wasn't comfortable continuing like that and that either we restored shared access or we stopped using that account and go back to handling things separately.
00:58:18
Speaker
She says I was making it a bigger issue than it needed to be and turning into a trust problem when it wasn't. Since then, things have been tense. She thinks I'm overreacting over something minor. I feel like I was quietly cut out of something we both agreed on.
00:58:34
Speaker
So, am I the joke jerk for confronting her after I realized I no ah no longer had access to the shared account? No. And something's up.
00:58:46
Speaker
No, and something is absolutely up. Because I'm sorry, I'm contributing money to this account, but I can't access it. That makes no sense. And then you gaslighting me into making it seem like it's not a big deal and telling me that I've made it now a trust issue. No, it started as a trust issue when you did this without notifying me to a account that I put money into. And i don't know about you, but I don't play about my coins. Yeah.
00:59:16
Speaker
You playing about them when you was playing Sonic. I don't play about my coins. I don't play. You don't play about I don't play about my coins. So you need to restore my access to the account because I need to be able to make sure that the money is going to our shared expenses and not something stupid. Because what it seems like to me Is you doing something funny with my money and you don't want me to see it?
00:59:47
Speaker
And the fact that you didn't think that that would be a discussion?
00:59:54
Speaker
Bro, not only do you need to no longer contribute to that account, you need to reassess whether this relationship gonna last because she up to something. She up to something and with your money.
01:00:09
Speaker
What you mean I can't look at the account that I am contributing to? do you mean I don't have access? First of all, you can set up joint accounts where both of you have logins and access. Like that, it doesn't need to be just one person's info on the account.
01:00:29
Speaker
there are There are accounts you can set up with four people are all joint owner owners. Like they are are there's no reason, none, why you should not have access to that account.
01:00:42
Speaker
Unless she's hiding something. And the gaslighting is letting me know that she's definitely hiding something. Nah, don't contribute to that no more. So i always and I always tell people, like, if you're in a relationship and you move in together, start that joint account.
01:01:00
Speaker
a Because you have joint bills, right? Yes, yes. Start that joint account. And me and my ex, we did that, my ex-wife, we did that early. I established that early. I said, we live together, we got joint bills. We had a joint account, and then eventually when we got married, we had to joint account for all of our joint bills,
01:01:22
Speaker
And for all the stuff that we were doing together, like going out and for trips that we were going plan to be. wow And there was a savings. All right. So each month we had a set number that we would put in and that was to cover everything.
01:01:41
Speaker
And both of us had access to this account. Yes. Both of us monitored this account. Yes. If one day i had walked in and she was like, hey, I was trying to access the account, and I tried to play funny with it, because first,
01:01:56
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She played funny with Like, what you mean? must be a glitch. Oh, it must be glitch. she lied. So you lying. So you lying. I forgot. I didn't even catch that. So you lying because you knew you already did this. You knew you already did this. Send me on a wild goose chase. That's an old expression. Send me on a wild goose chase. It's apt.
01:02:15
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It is apt. When you know you did this and then going play in my face afterwards. Yeah, she up to something and it's no good. i There is nothing good. She is double dutching, hopscotching, four squaring, playing all up in your face. Now, devil's advocate.
01:02:37
Speaker
You always say the devil don't need an advocate. It's not truly a devil's advocate. It's just an expression. But she could be. Using that joint money that they set aside, you know, for her stuff and setting aside extra for trip that she might have surprised. And that might be the reason why she doesn't want him to have access. no Because you can't siphon that money out of the account moving into another account for something like that.
01:03:04
Speaker
ah Didn't. eat No, because here's the thing. Even if that were the case, that still needs to be a discussion. Because what if I didn't want my money going towards some vacation? You're right. You're right. You're right you say what you said. When we got bills. Mm hmm.
01:03:21
Speaker
so this a kind of done So she lying, she playing in your face. She's talking about, oh, it doesn't matter who handle it since it's shared expenses anyway.
01:03:35
Speaker
That logic don't make no sense. It's shared expenses, so we both need to be handling it. If it was just your expenses, then I could say, yeah, doesn't matter. It's just your stuff.
01:03:49
Speaker
So you can handle your stuff, but it's shared expenses. This is a joint account. We are partners, which means we need to both have access. And the fact that you fighting so hard to not give me access.
01:04:08
Speaker
Lest me know you up to something. Yeah, no, she up to something. I don't know what it is. It could be something simple as she's short on cash. She's siphoning that money over.
01:04:18
Speaker
But if y'all were like me and my ex and put in an exact amount to cover expenses and everything and you start siphoning money off, that means rent ain't getting paid. That means utilities ain't getting paid. That means the cell phone ain't getting paid. You got to check them Check them bills.
01:04:34
Speaker
You can't. Look.
01:04:37
Speaker
Bro, you need to leave. I'm going be real honest with you. You need to leave because i don't know the reason why she changed it, but there's the fact that she lied about it at first.
01:04:48
Speaker
here I definitely wouldn't put any more money in the account. Matter of fact, I'd be asking for my money that I put in for the bills that hadn't been paid yet. to I'd be like, look, deduct the money from those bills.
01:05:02
Speaker
that haven't been paid yet, give me my money back and I'm going to just write. We're going to write checks. We're going back to writing checks. Yeah. I'm going to write you a check. Let me cashier's check. Because you ain't going to, we ain't putting money. I go to Western Union. Don't play me.
01:05:17
Speaker
I'll pay the $25 for a money order. Don't play with me. Money orders so damn expensive. Why is it expensive to send your money? Right. Damn, make no damn sense. That don't even make sense.
01:05:29
Speaker
Sir, you are not the jerk. No. But I feel like you should be a bigger jerk because they I would be pressing her. Yeah. ain't gonna gas like me. Man, you said y'all been together for a couple of years.
01:05:41
Speaker
That is, it's over. No, it's over. So it's over. Yeah. It's over. So you go. No, ain't no way. She doing something funny with your money. Mm-hmm. Mm-mm. Jay, what do you want to tell these people out here before we get out of here?
01:05:54
Speaker
Y'all, stop letting people play in your face. What? Y'all can see them double dutching, pass and go, collecting $200, all kind of stuff in your face. And you just looking ah everywhere, but what's in front of you? You were playing lot monoply today, weren't you?
01:06:14
Speaker
No, actually, I've been extremely busy all day, so I have not done enough for me to do that. But, like, people, like, y'all are letting people play in your face.
01:06:27
Speaker
Stop it. You know, listen, if it gets to the point where you're asking people online if you're crazy or not, just nine times out of ten, you're not tripping.
01:06:39
Speaker
Well, no, there's been some times in here that people been chipping. Nine times out of ten. think it's higher. I think it's lower than that. to Nine times out of ten. No, the ones that you have brought to me.
01:06:53
Speaker
Okay. Most of the time, these people are not tripping. It's the people around you that are tripping, and they're gaslighting you and making you think you're tripping. That's the purpose of gaslighting. Right, but it but that this is a sample size that's specific to me riling you up because it's good for the show. So this is not...
01:07:14
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This is not indicative of ah the majorities of am I the jerks or am I the assholes from Reddit. Well, of the ones that we've done, nine times out of ten, I don't think the person is being a jerk. I think everybody around you is playing in your face and making you think you're crazy and you're not. You're not crazy. Follow your gut. and Follow your intuition.
01:07:40
Speaker
Break up with that girl because she's doing something funny with your money and y'all cannot be. playing with your coins in 2026, please stop doing You ain't never lied. But on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening.
01:07:53
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