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Episode 8: Motorcycle Diaries - advice for people in their 20's
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Stephy Steph and Bobby go on a motorbike journey (literally) and chat advice for people in their 20's. Excuse the audio, it is on bikes.
Both docs love motorbike journeys and they often have interesting convo's whilst on the bikes. Check this one out. Interesting, they almost hit a dear on this adventure. Listen in for the action!
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Transcript
Introduction to Motorcycle Diaries
00:00:00
Speaker
Hey guys, I'm Steppie Suss and this is Bobby and this is an episode of Motorcycle Diaries. Bobby, what are you talking about today? That's right, we are between two teen motorcycle diaries. I want to get into something. We are up here in the Arkansas mountains.
Advice for People in Their 20s
00:00:12
Speaker
I want to give advice for people in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond. Are you the one to give advice to someone in their 20s? Hasn't it been a minute since you were 20? Yes. Wow, seriously? It's been a minute since I was 20. It's been two minutes since you were 20.
00:00:29
Speaker
Oh, okay. You're not wrong. You're not wrong. So 20 year old. Let's just say one. Let's say you're not in college. You're figuring things out. I would say talk to as many people as humanly possible. Try to figure out what you're going to do. Don't be terrified at doing something that may not work out. Just get in there and muckety muck and check it out. What do you think of that advice?
00:00:53
Speaker
I love it. So your 20s is time to make those big mistakes in life and where I made a mistake is trying to be perfect in my 20s. I tried to have the perfect relationship nailed down. I tried to have the perfect application for the perfect school and I never really got to make those kind of identity defining mistakes
00:01:18
Speaker
I love what you're saying there because you can recover, you know, just strictly look at financial things, you know. You can mess things up financially when you're 20, you do it when you're 65, not such a great
Influences and Relationships in Your 20s
00:01:35
Speaker
thing. So I love that. Now, what about in your 30? I know we're not to 30 yet though. We got to, you know,
00:01:45
Speaker
Okay, so now let's say you're in college, you're at university in your 20s, you know, maybe you're in a major, you're trying to figure out a major, I would still say talk to as many people as you possibly can. Right, and be careful who and what influences you. It's just like falling in love. Be careful who you fall in love with and be careful who you put on a pedestal.
00:02:15
Speaker
because it may not be all that it's cracked up to be and it may not be so for instance like you know for me going through college and high school I really I really had a lot of you know the people I idolized were coaches and teachers and and I would look to them for advice on things but if you also look at it
00:02:39
Speaker
I'm asking them to give me advice on going to dental school or do things that they've never done before. Try to find people, it seems very obvious now, but try to find people that have done what you're doing and make them as different people to tell you what to do and then also get similar people to tell you their experience.
College Experiences and Independent Decisions
00:03:04
Speaker
While you're talking about that too, be careful with your friend group.
00:03:08
Speaker
because those are the people you're hanging around. And sometimes it's tough to select. I mean I was I went to school you know in an environment that was very different from my high school and it was just I just felt like you know it was just a different environment. It was tough to have and there's only like a handful of people going into pre-med and I was the only pre-med
00:03:34
Speaker
Yeah, well, here's what I would say, though. I'm glad it was an experience different from your high school because that's part of the college experience, too, is just getting outside of your comfort zone, something that's different. My boys ended up going to California for school from Texas, entirely different experience. I think that can serve you well. Yeah, I love that because, I mean, what I like about that decision is and I know a little bit more of the backstory on it.
00:04:02
Speaker
I love that decision because it got them outside of, it was enough distance, maybe that's what I'm looking for. At 20 years old, I was not ready to make decisions that went against what my parents wanted. And that held me back in ways that I didn't understand until I was 30.
00:04:24
Speaker
Yeah, that's interesting. And I guess at least with one of my chaps, it was quite clear that I would not have made the decision to go to California myself. We had a discussion about that. But then it was also, hey, you need to make this decision. I'll search you if you think this is the right thing for you. But that's what your 20s is about. Let's go ahead. Are we finished with 20s? Anything else you can?
00:04:53
Speaker
I'm just trying to think here, if I could do my 20s over again, I would try to find the courage to go against what my parents wanted. And it's not because the advice they had was bad advice, it's just because their set of experiences, if I wanted to be exactly like them, then I would have done exactly what they did. As my brother pointed out to me when I was 30, he's like,
00:05:23
Speaker
Why do you do everything mom and dad want you to do because he goes, I know you don't want to be like them. So he goes, you're just, you're, you're making decisions that they would want, but you don't want the life they have.
Health and Safety in Your 20s
00:05:35
Speaker
So what are you doing?
00:05:39
Speaker
That's really good advice. The last thing I will say as far as in the 20s, this is the motorcycle diaries. We're on motorcycles. We do get gritty. I would say watch your health pillars as far as, you know, try to make sure you're getting sleep and exercise and your diet. You can get away with a lot of garbage stuff when you're 20s, but be careful with drugs and alcohol.
00:06:05
Speaker
I love beer. You and I both play on beer league, hockey teams. We love IPAs, but alcohol, drugs can be a problem, and I think a lot of that kind of gets set in in late teens and in the 20s, so be careful with that stuff.
Motorcycling: Focus and Safety
00:06:24
Speaker
Yeah, and I guess I do. What say you? I had a different take on drugs and alcohol. Yeah, you didn't drink. You were a college runner. I almost did two greats.
00:06:34
Speaker
I don't want to say experiment, but I think it's okay. You're literally telling people to experiment with drugs and alcohol. Is that where we're going here? That's my experience. Part of talking to different types of people is to get different experiences. It'd be hard for me to tell this to my kid, but just thinking out loud,
00:07:02
Speaker
When I got to dental school, I had not really had a lot of alcohol and it was a culture shock for me. And there were things, you know, and it's different from not drinking because of, you know, maybe a religious kind of ordinance. Right. But because I had definitely the free will and capacity to drink. I just never did because I was worried it would make me slow.
00:07:28
Speaker
I was a former professional drinker by the time I got to dental school and you know it was not that big a deal and you know the problem is you drink it's hard to get up and do stuff the next day oh yeah oh my gosh if you're if you're on you dear dear dear dear dear there we go and no that's the cool thing about when you have a
00:07:55
Speaker
You know, YouTube, you could see the deer that came across there. Good eyes. You got eyes like a, like a fox. You could probably unpack some of that. I don't, I guess you guys, I guess this is not a video recording, this is just audio. No, this is a video recording if they're on YouTube. So probably when you're seeing that, you can recognize that those situations are what kills motorcyclists.
00:08:18
Speaker
The nice thing about what we're doing, although we're not paying as much attention because we're talking to you guys, what we are doing is going slow. For any of you guys doing this, and you can notice that we saw the deer is fairly late and we were still able to slow down thankfully. I slowed down almost to a stop because I knew that that deer was probably going to run across this road versus trying to blow past them.
00:08:43
Speaker
Yeah. And what I do like about it, motorcycling allows me to have focused attention. And that's in part why I like these talks that we have on the motorcycles, because it kind of gets me in the zone. And to pivot to the 20s, you know, there's going to be times where deer's going to come out at you.
00:09:07
Speaker
And you got to be in a position and be prepared to act quickly. I love your reaction time. It'll be interesting to see this video for us. There's times in life you got to react and you got to react quickly. So I'm glad to do that. It's also good to kind of bring up gratitude. You know, there's a lot about that situation that we got really lucky on. And it's my dad has ridden motorcycles for a long time.
00:09:37
Speaker
And he always talked about it's always good to have a little bit of respect and fear when you're out there. You don't want to be sad, but you want to respect that you're out of control. And the guy who invented or created the motorcycle safety course was actually killed by a deer in Texas because he hit the deer.
00:09:59
Speaker
Yeah, and you know, it just goes to show it doesn't matter how much of a skilled rider you are. It's just you get lucky or not.
Recap and Reflections
00:10:07
Speaker
Back there, we got lucky. Yep. And also taking precautions, but we did get lucky. Yep. And the good thing is, you know, you saw it, you verbalized it, you know, and on the video, it's probably going to look like a very easy situation. It'll look like nothing.
00:10:27
Speaker
They'd be like, Oh, you're on a bike. You know, you get zero mistakes. Yeah. I hit that deer, man. I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. Thanks for carrying all our camping stuff. By the way, Stephanie's on a BMW GS. She's carrying all the stuff. I'm on this gorgeous little machine. Back to our prior, it was, uh, you know, the whole thing with, with, uh, with drugs and alcohol and it doesn't make you feel very good.
00:10:54
Speaker
I didn't really get that. I was discovering that in dental school, which is a tough time to discover it. Yeah, exactly. Because once you're in your professional school, I didn't have a dad or a mom that went to professional school. So all of this is bonus points for me and my family. And so for me, I probably
00:11:20
Speaker
Would have been better treated very similar to how I treated high school and college, you know, just known to the books. As far as getting in, I mean, I still got into the residency programs I wanted to, but it was very, I got lucky. Yeah. No, I hear you. Being more strategic. And Steph, what I want to do, I want to end this off on the 20s talk.
00:11:45
Speaker
Just to say, you know, there's times in your 20s, you're going to have a deer come at you. And some of it's preparation as far as how you deal with it. Some of it's going to be luck as far as how you deal with it. Got some beautiful views right there. But man, we're with you. Talk to people. Be careful with your friends. And I would wrap it up and just say, I know you're trying to do that too, but I would say your top three things to your 20s, make mistakes.
00:12:15
Speaker
I have the courage to make mistakes. Go to the college that you want to go to. If your first big decision in life, go to the college you want to go to. If you can't afford it, there's financial help. Don't make mistakes, it'll kill you. And then the third thing is try to figure out who you are.
00:12:42
Speaker
And it's not all about the books and the studying. I know you need those things to get into the school or a professional school, but you got to take those years in your 20s. That's where the mistakes become harmonious with figuring out who you are, because you tend to figure out who you're not before you figure out who you are. Yep. I hear you. Well, listen, guys, if you like what we're talking about, thanks for joining us. Please hit the subscribe button later. Bye.