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Speaker: People getting arrested for things they didn't do. People getting scammed out of money. And when you wake up and realize people calling you, sir, might actually be accurate. We're going to get into it. Let's get it.
Speaker: Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I am your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcast, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
Speaker: Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share your friends, share with your family, hell, even share your enemies. On today's episode, it's the Sibling Happy Hour. I'm here with my sis, J. Andrea. We're going talking about DUIs, some scams, and when you get called sir or ma'am.
Speaker: But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
Speaker: What up, sis? What up, brudda? I can't call it. I can't call it. Before we get started with the first story. Yeah. I got to tell a story. Now, we're going to get into my Cinco de Mayo experience in the third segment. But one of my good friends hung out with me yesterday.
Speaker: then And she was like, hey, before we go out and celebrate, do you want to get a pedicure? And I was like, yo, I'm going to be real honest with you. I've been saying that I'm going to get a pedicurere pedicure since my birthday last year.
Speaker: Oh, that's been some time. it it's been It's been quite some time because my birthday is less than two months away. but Yes. It's rapidly approaching. Yeah. And so I was like, yes, I would like to hop on that. So we go, we get pedicures, and it's cool. It's lovely, right? Mm-hmm.
Speaker: I need another pedicure because it was so much built up like calluses. Yeah. So so just for the audience.
Speaker: Oh, God, here we go. Like, you don't really need to give a descriptive detail of my feet to the audience. I'm not going to give. two I'm just going to give an illustration. OK, of this is this is a true story.
Speaker: So you had gotten a new bed. I don't know. I think you were a teenager. And so i lent you sheets because I had a queen size bed already. You were moving from a full to a queen. So I lent you sheets.
Speaker: I get the sheets back. Yeah. And they are shredded. Yeah. From your toenails. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. yeah You're very natural. It's just a very natural. and then also, you know, you're an athlete and then you work out. So, like, you do damage to your feet. Like, that's just you do a lot of damage to your feet.
Speaker: So, yes, I just wanted to let everybody know, like, he don't just be out here. just the feet crusty like no for for no reason. It's not happening in a vacuum. it's It's because he is hard on his feet through physical activity. Yes, yes, yes. Very hard on my feet through physical activity. And also the toenails haven't been an issue for quite a while because i got into a routine where every Sunday I would do I would soak my feet and I would use a pumice stone okay and scrub my feet
Speaker: and then do my toenails. Palmerstone is not like the scraper. That scraper wears a... That's that's that animal. That's what I truly need in life. Palmerstone, don't get it done.
Speaker: The thing about the scraper, i feel like the skin gets harder afterwards because it's it's so aggressive to the skin that once the skin heals, i feel like it heals harder.
Speaker: i don't personally like the scraper. i prefer just for them to use the like the pedicure file. Well, no. I'm like Myra from Martin. You got to go to work on my You got to go to work. You got to go to work on my feet. Got to get that power sand. So the toenails, I don't cut up sheets anymore.
Speaker: Okay, okay. But I do destroy socks. Because some heels on my socks, I'm going wear them out till there's a hole in them. Part of it is, once again, I'm working out. So I dig my feet, and especially my heels, into the ground a lot.
Speaker: Yes. Into my shoes. I'm walking a lot. so I know you're supposed as to walk. You're supposed to walk. toe to heel. No heel to toe. Yeah. And I do. With all all the force of... all your might. With all my might. So I'll be tearing up some socks. But yeah, I feel like though they did a good job that I had to... feel like I should go back again.
Speaker: Like, now. That is... Yeah. Yeah. and It just, I still have calluses. I was hoping it'd be all gone, but no, I feel like this is like a couple of treatments till I get my feet like smooth, smooth. It's it's like getting a tattoo sleeve, right? It takes a couple sessions. Okay, no yeah.
Speaker: um So until you get that, the finished product that you can actually show off. So that's... That's all that is. You know, regular maintenance, though.
Speaker: Like, how often? How often should I get a pedicure? Once a week? out No, I feel like that's too often. Maybe like every two to three weeks. But right now to get my feet right right. now to get you going. Yeah. Yeah, you might want to go every week. Yeah, I might i might go again next weekend. just to get You know, it was reasonably priced. you Yeah. i I don't know. I don't really know. because i don't I mean, it's not like you're getting polished or nothing like that. Like you're just getting Medicare. My friend was like... ah ah
Speaker: Because I was like, hey, you know, my what am I supposed to do? Because afterwards, you know, we're going go out and I got to wear my Jordans. She was like, wear your Jordans. yeah I was like, yeah, but i thought you're not supposed to wear shoes after you get a pedicure. She was like, and well, let me not assume, but I don't think you're going to get polish, are you? i was like, oh, no, no, I'm not going to But yeah, i thought i thought about my I thought about it for a little while.
Speaker: And I was like, hmm, maybe I might want to get some polish. do something a little different. You know? It was feisty. The dudes is out here, very heterosexual males, but still getting polish on their nails. It is not this connotation of you are a gay man if you get color on your fingernails and toes. Right. Most people just think you're emo.
Speaker: And i am a little emo. yeah know ah My boys used to say, Bruce Ludd them Feel My Pain rap songs. And I was like, oh, yeah. It's just emo rap. I feel like one of your favorites is Song Cry.
Speaker: but song cry oh Song Cry is literally one of my favorites. Just so happens that I was going through a similar thing. At the time that song came out, so yeah resonated personally.
Speaker: yeah But I've already thrown that young lady under the bus on this show several times. I'm not going to retell that story. Let's kind of transition. And the way we're going transition is you've been in the car with me one of the the the one time.
Speaker: yes There's been several times. But the one time you were really like, I'm done with you. Yeah. Is when I was drinking and driving. And at the age of 25 26, I just said, I'm never going to drink or drive again. It's one of the reasons why I got rid of my car.
Speaker: I just don't do it. One of the yeah fears of my drinking and driving was actually getting into an accident and hurting somebody else. Because there's just no explanation. Like, you there's no explanation...
Speaker: to get you out of trouble with it. Like, you're in trouble. Yeah, you're in trouble. yeah What should have been crossing my mind is a DWI and DUI. Yeah.
Speaker: And that leads me to this next story of something that happened in Tennessee. Now, we often talk about, at the end of the month, You know, cops is out. They got to make their quota. And I've talked to cops, and cops are like, there's no such thing as a quota. We don't have quotas. And I'm like, you're lying. You do have quotas. It may not be specified as meet your quota.
Speaker: Right. But you know, as a department, y'all got to get certain amount of time. have metrics that you have to achieve. Right. You can't just be in there with no arrests. No.
Speaker: So, a recent police officer in Tennessee just resigned. Now, Asa Pearl yes resigned after an investigation.
Speaker: What the investigation and the record showed was that there were 13 DUI arrests that later tested negative and 18 additional cases dismissed due to blood alcohol level being below the legal limit.
Speaker: So what does this mean? Sometimes cops will pull you over. And they'll give you a DUI. It's kind of like a phantom DUI. You weren't under the influence of alcohol. You weren't under influence of drugs.
Speaker: But they still give you a DUI. And so this was happening from 2020 to 2024. And what's crazy is the dismissals didn't appear in the personal file that was ah obtained by Fox 17 out in Tennessee.
Speaker: And the Tennessee Highway Patrol did not respond to questions about discipline. yeah because person just kind of resigned. But it raises concerns beyond just this one officer. It suggests that there is a DUI quota and that there was pressure tied to enforcement programs.
Speaker: So I'm going to get into kind of like this pressure system. But, yo, know that would be crazy to me because you have to spend money ehe to go to court to fight a DUI, and they're out here giving...
Speaker: Sober DUIs, that's what they're called. yes Sober DUIs. So how yeah you feel about all this? Well, it's not just the fact that those DUIs, the ones that you mentioned, were thrown out. 19 other ones were dismissed because he didn't come to court, the officer. He couldn't recall the events or the details of the arrest.
Speaker: So those were dropped. And it's like you're putting... Like, a DUI, DWI, those are not a joke. Like, you are putting people's... like, livelihoods and their freedom, definitely their pockets at risk, especially if you have a job that requires you to have a driver's license, right? Like, if you're a long-haul trucker or something like that, or it requires you to have a driver's license, this could mess with your livelihood.
Speaker: e And so it's just, again, another glaring... example of how broken the justice system is in this country. Go ahead and tell them how it is.
Speaker: I just did. you gotta let startggle Let's talk about the system of pressure and quotas that obviously Tennessee was under. So this there a program was referenced called Sober Up, and it's federally federally funded grant money.
Speaker: And Former troopers were quoted as saying that they felt pressure to make DUI arrests, especially during grant-funded overtime shifts.
Speaker: But here's a bigger problem. Tennessee recorded more than 2,500 sober DUI arrests since 2017. And when I, once again, a sober DUI is when individuals tested negative for both, for alcohol or for drugs.
Speaker: Mm-hmm. These aren't isolated incidences. This officer who resigned, this isn't just them, right? This is a systemic issue, specifically in the state of Tennessee.
Speaker: Specifically in that county, because I believe that district has the most sober DUIs arrests in Tennessee.
Speaker: Right. They've got the most, but still statewide. lot of sober DUIs that are that are like, don't drive in Tennessee. Right, just don't drive in Tennessee. Boy, oh boy, don't. And like, okay, if you want to say it feels like systemic pressure that's influenced by these federal grants, but it's not like, like, if they're giving you grants,
Speaker: to try and curtail drinking and driving. That doesn't necessarily, and this is the issues with the cops all the time, they feel like enforcement is punishment.
Speaker: Right. it That money could be used in education. It could be used in programs for ride shares. Like, doesn't necessarily have to be, we're going to pay you overtime to go bust people drinking and driving.
Speaker: It could be a police initiative where it's like a drive safe campaign or something. And like you could use it for the advertising and all of the things and to set up this program.
Speaker: Y'all could have used that grant money in any number of ways. But again, this highlights the problem with police that they are not community advocates. Mm hmm.
Speaker: They're not. And so in their mind, the only thing they could do to justify having this grant money is to make arrests. Because, again, they're not here really in service of the community At all.
Speaker: Or else somebody would have had the idea, hey, why don't we use the grant money, like you said, toward a social program that we aim toward, I don't know, youth or whatever. Like, it could be any number of things. Well, if you invest money into a program that helps society as a whole, a social program, that's socialism, which I guess wouldn't play out too well in the state of Tennessee.
Speaker: Right. Yeah, funny. This is funny. There was a, I believe it's a New York Times reporter, lives in Tennessee.
Speaker: okay And he just came out. He's like, I'm conservative. And I just found out just how bad this country is as far as racially. and And I was like, huh?
Speaker: So he tells a story of adopting the Ethiopian child, and a child growing up in Tennessee, and how that child faced extreme racism in Tennessee. yeah I'm not going to make this about race, but what I'm going to say is as we give suggestions for investing that money in the social programs, we must also realize what state this is.
Speaker: And when you talk about investing in social programs, they're going to take that as socialism. Tennessee, very conservative, probably not going to happen. But a larger question are you and I,
Speaker: Most people in Black and brown communities, most minorities, have a healthy distrust of law enforcement. Yes, as we should. Well, due to history, right? yeah Not saying all cops are bad.
Speaker: I don't even know if most are bad. The system is bad. Right, and if you work within the system... Case in point, this very scenario. So when this story breaks, people who do have this strong belief and trust in law enforcement may have been one of those 2,500 people that was pulled over since 2017. I got a sober DUI.
Speaker: So you start to lose trust within the law ah within law enforcement with the people that are like back to blue because they are showing that you are arresting people who are not intoxicated, who are not under the influence of drugs. at all.
Speaker: And that the fact that something oxymoronic... Well, sometimes not at all. Sometimes the blood alcohol limit might be under an arrestable offense. you Right. You can have a drink or two yeah and and and still not be charged with a DUI or DWI.
Speaker: Right, but the fact that something oxymoronic as a sober DUI exists yeah is the dumbest thing I've ever heard in my entire life.
Speaker: It's literally the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my entire life. That's like calling ah ah that person is, well, you can say that person is pretty ugly, but that's not what I mean by that.
Speaker: But you can say that ugly, pretty person, and you'd be like, what? That don't make no sense. How can you be an ugly, pretty person? How can you have a sober DUI? Yeah, it doesn't make sense. You can be an ugly, pretty person, though. Like, you're traditionally pretty, but your personality is ugly. But, like, I get what you're saying. But you know what I'm saying. I get what you're saying. How you going charge me for a crime I didn't commit?
Speaker: Exactly. and And we already don't trust y'all because y'all be charging us for crimes we don't commit. Mm-hmm. And so now you actually invented a crime that is not a crime so that you can arrest people?
Speaker: That don't make sense. Well, it doesn't. But I leave everybody with this question. Are we prior to prioritizing numbers over truth?
Speaker: I can tell you we've been doing that for a very long time. Yes. But this story is just another example of, hey, law enforcement system in this country ain't the greatest.
Speaker: And sometimes it ain't just hitting us. It's hitting you too. Mm-hmm. But while people who are getting caught up in the system like that, there's another way people are getting caught up and it hits your wallet.
Speaker: And going into that next.
Speaker: All right, Jay, I don't remember what episode it was, but a couple episodes ago, and it might actually been a YouTube exclusive now that I think about it. We were talking about two people going to a concert, buying tickets, right? eating Yes, I remember this. Yeah, and one person couldn't go, and the other person that that had both of the tickets or paid for both of the tickets it was like, you owe me money. When the person that said that they couldn't go had already paid them money.
Speaker: yeah And we were trying to come up with why did this person ask for for more money, essentially. yeah yeah and And I was like, well, maybe they decided not to go. And so they felt like because they couldn't go because they were going to go together, that that person should pay for their ticket. And you immediately went to, no.
Speaker: They was probably gonna try to resell that ticket and couldn't get the money back. So they was like, because I couldn't resell this ticket, you owe me. And I was like, oh, scamming? And I was like, yes, Heart of Atlanta. That's where my mind went.
Speaker: Yo, so I saw something on Instagram a couple of weeks back, and I posted it in my stories, and it was basically, and i'm paraphrasing, Black folks hate thieves.
Speaker: Yes. But love to buy stolen shit.
Speaker: Scammers. That's what this whole segment is about. Scammers. When you scam institutions, I could turn a blind eye to that. Like, ah you know, most institutions, they make more than enough money. There may be some trickle down. Like if you keep stealing from grocery stores, it affects the community.
Speaker: But like if you you make trumped up car insurance claims, that makes the premium higher for everybody. You know about that personally, because you've dealt with that type of work.
Speaker: Yes. I don't like people scamming people out of their money. Yes. That, I feel like, is egregious. Yeah. i Like, I have never been a fan of stick-up people, of people who rob people of their personal possession.
Speaker: If you hit a store, if you get a lick and you hit a store, okay, the store is insured. They got loss prevention. They got loss prevention. They'll be okay. It still sucks, but they'll be okay. But when you, when somebody would back in their pickpocket.
Speaker: Yeah. And take their money from their vacation like that bothers me. Yes. There's a new scam in town. Technology breeds. It always is. Technology breeds more and more scams. Have you ever heard of ghost tapping? No. Okay.
Speaker: Okay. So it's a tap-to-pay scam using nearby wireless payment device. It triggers unauthorized charges on contactless cards or mobile wallets.
Speaker: It occurs in crowded places or rushed checkout situations and relies on proximity and distraction, not physical theft. So... We've heard of these scanners or ah terminals that people will put, like, at gas stations where you slide your card in or at 7-Elevens. Or at the ATM or something like that. They'll put the little fake thing. You put your card in. You think it's for the machine. It's not.
Speaker: Yes. Now they got some new thing where they can wirelessly take your information They just got to kind of be close to you. yeah And it's ah it's a portable, it's used by, you know, portable card readers. We've seen tampered payment terminals before, fake checkout setups, victims tap without confirming the amount.
Speaker: It can happen in crowded environments like markets, festivals, transit situations, concerts. Like I said, I was out and about yesterday celebrating Cinco de Mayo. hey This morning,
Speaker: I get an alert on my iPhone saying that somebody in New York City is trying to access my Apple account. Was that me? And at first, i was like, well, could be my VPN.
Speaker: Because sometimes I'll do New Jersey, New York. I was like, no, that's not even turned on. Apple was like, you need to change your password. So out and about yesterday, and I did see a charge on one of my bank accounts earlier today, but you know I'd be charged on a lot.
Speaker: So I just got to wait to see what it actually is once it posts because it's just pending. But I mean, yesterday was a prime example. There were thousands of people in the street yeah that could have got scammed. And now it's like, you can't do nothing. You think that you had this built-in like security, with just being able to tap your card and just be able to use your Apple Pay. And now people that came up with a way to wire so wirelessly steal your stuff.
Speaker: Yeah, it's not surprising. Like, as technology advances, so will scams. And the new thing is since AI can generate photos and video, young people will submit insurance claims for broken items.
Speaker: Really? And it's just an AI-generated image. Now, as insurance companies have caught on to this. So y'all not slick. And also, they're going catch you.
Speaker: So the thing that that always pops up with, okay, technology increases or advances, and then the scam advances, and then so does the security to meet it. So I am sure the new thing will be one of these RFD-blocking wallets now. Yes. Like, you know, that's... You know, so that everybody's going to go out and buy those, and then somebody's going find a way to hack that, and then somebody's going to come up with a new thing to protect you against that.
Speaker: It's the constant... That is the downside of technological advancement, is that somebody is going to use it to do harm. Yeah.
Speaker: It's like... Back in the day, we used to have to balance our checkbooks for the all yeah young folks out there. and And actually, this is actually almost outside of my generation as well.
Speaker: Because when I got my first bank accounts, online access was kind of available where you could track stuff. But I still was at the tail end of having to balance your checkbook.
Speaker: But we created the online access that gives us instantaneous access to all of our charges. yeah However, now people can take our money through the internet, right? Like that was a new thing. So this is just a natural progression of, like you said, technology and scamming. But you know some of the common signs that people need to be leery of...
Speaker: And pay attention to, because this is, a guys, we're reporting this to inform you, protect your money, right? Yes. Yeah. small There'll be small test charges. So monitor your online banking accounts and your credit cards. You should be doing that. Regularly. But yes, definitely when you go to large events, you're out in the public, big spaces, definitely check the next day, that night.
Speaker: Anytime you're requested to tap without showing the total, that should be a little sign like, hey, wait a minute, where is my total? What am I paying for? No receipt provided. That's another telltale sign. I need a receipt for what I just paid for.
Speaker: Pay attention for, once again, those suspicious charges after crowded events. And scammers are going to rely on you doing this because it's fast and quick and you're not paying attention. They're going to cause confusion during this whole process and hope that you lack the attention to focus in on some of those signs that I just told you about.
Speaker: Yeah. it's Look, it's a brand new world for scamming. And like I said, I don't like these, but I do like buying stolen stuff. But I don't want to buy stolen stuff that's stolen from people.
Speaker: Yeah. like for Like, I wouldn't buy... there's a There's, of course, these groups online where you can buy stolen credit card information. i'm not going to do that. If somebody...
Speaker: you know, knocked over a toilet paper truck, and now they selling Charmin for $5. The robbery has already happened.
Speaker: Okay, I can't change that. Right. But I could get a deal on some toilet paper.
Speaker: Hey, look, that would have been the lick if it were during the beginning of the pandemic, the way people was acting about that toilet paper. I swear people thought they was just going to be shitting themselves as much toilet paper as they was buying.
Speaker: But some ways to protect yourself, we're giving you this information, but the how can you protect yourself, right? Confirm the amount that you're paying for before tapping. That goes back to that no total thing. Know what your total is. Enable banking card alerts. The fact of the matter is you should be getting alerts for any time your card has been charged. I know.
Speaker: We use our cards a lot. That can be annoying getting all those alerts. But that's better than not paying attention and finding out you got ganked for thousands of dollars. And if you know what ganked is, you should be able to figure it out from the context. Yeah, just use the context. yeah You can set thresholds. So if you know that you be you spend $20, $30 a lot here and there, let's set the threshold for $100. any charge over you'll get an alert.
Speaker: So like anything like that, that you can easily set that up. I have it. So I get alerted every time there's a charge because I don't play that. now don't play that. Homie, don't play that.
Speaker: Avoid suspicious tap requests. Cover your wallet or phone in crowded spaces and report suspicious transactions immediately. Some things that tell you something that I do. hmm.
Speaker: I have a going out card. And it's really easy. If you want to, you can use your Cash App card. You can you go get a just a little Chime account. And that's the card I take when I go out.
Speaker: look Like, I don't take all my cards. I don't need them. I need my license and my going out card. And that's it. Also, oh you know what?
Speaker: Cash is still a thing. we got the wi I know people hate carrying cash. I know people hate dealing in cash, and it's so much easier and faster to tap. But here's my thing against the cash argument.
Speaker: say you Say you get robbed. They rob you your cash. You ain't getting your cash back. If these hackers get your account and charge, the bank is going to give you your money back.
Speaker: More than likely. the More than likely, yeah. Or the credit card companies. Credit card companies over bank companies, right? Like, yeah if you're going to go out, use your credit card over your debit card.
Speaker: Yes. Because credit card companies are way more likely to give your money back quicker. Yes. And it's okay to use your debit card if it's with a big bank. If you got mom and pop's Wachovia Bank that don't even exist no more.
Speaker: Right. Don't card. you First Bank of Main Street. Yeah, don't use that card. Don't take that. Because you might not get it. But I mean, when I say cash, like, okay, say I'm going to a festival.
Speaker: I'll bring the amount of cash that I want to spend at that festival. If I get pickpocketed and lose that, I'm not losing all my money. yeah I lost the money that I brought for the festival. Yeah, you're right. But also, I have that going out card.
Speaker: I put the money I want to spend on that going out card. And that's the card that I use. i don't i'll bring all of my stuff because I know that things like this exist. Yeah.
Speaker: I knew as soon as I got this new iPhone and i was going to make a purchase and it was like, you know, enter your credit card information. And the fact that you can actually just tap the back of your card on the back of your phone.
Speaker: And it will I was like, oh, anybody can do anybody who gets close enough to my stuff could possibly get. my card information.
Speaker: And here we find that that is the case. If you're close enough to me, they can get my card information. That's fine. You're going to get this going out card, and it only has what I wanted to spend for going out.
Speaker: And important nuances, I feel like I really, I think I stressed it, but I really, really need to stress it. This is an in-person scam. This is not a remote hacking situation.
Speaker: If you're out and about, this can happen. And they don't necessarily need to be that close to you. So mind your personal space, cover your stuff, and just be leery of the fact that everyday spaces, you go to the mall. I guess people still go to the mall. You go to the mall or shopping center where there's a lot of people.
Speaker: It can happen. You go to a bar or a busy restaurant. It can happen. So just be leery of it and just be careful with people, like, being around you.
Speaker: Also, if you're not a person that is just, like, conscious of personal space and you be standing too close to people in line, don't do that. Look.
Speaker: Because but I will tell you to back up. But this is what I get mad about. Detour in the grocery store. Mm-hmm. I love to go to Aldi.
Speaker: Yeah. Sometimes people don't have their own carts, right? So there's always a cart at the checkout section, and the cashier will put their items in the cart, and they got to gather them from their cart when they pay and the whole stuff.
Speaker: hey They need to move forward. Because too often I'm trying to load my stuff on the conveyor belt and I'm three people behind. But the second person is so much further away from that first person. I'm like, they at the terminal, man. Move up a little bit so everybody can move back. Now that's when I will crowd somebody's space to hint, hey, look, move up.
Speaker: No, that's you being impatient. I'm the person that's standing six feet away from that person in front of me. We ain't in COVID no more. We don't got to be six feet away. I don't give a damn. I thought that was a good idea when they had it. that that That should honestly just be... Remember when you were in gym class in elementary school and in order to make sure you had enough space, you would do that thing where you stretch your arms out and spin like this and make sure you wouldn't hit the person next to you?
Speaker: That needs to be... ah you had that little bubble. well I don't remember nothing like that. So you wasn't doing jumping jacks and hitting people in the head. First of I haven't been in gym class for 35 years. so People need to back up. Why are you so close to me that can feel your breath on the back of my neck? I'm not that close. want to put your stuff on the conveyor belt? You need to wait.
Speaker: No, this stuff is heavy. No, that's your problem. That's not my problem. I'm not moving up. and getting close to somebody I don't want to get close to because you want to put your stuff on the belt. You should have been strong enough to carry. its at once That is a ridiculous. is art Let's move on to the next scam because what you just said is a scam. All right.
Speaker: This one is scary. yeah The other one was scary. This one is really scary. So there was a case out in Long Island. where Tiffany Seawright paid $3,300 deposit to Regal Auto auto House. Auto House.
Speaker: That's house? That is not house. In German, it house. Okay, well, we not in Germany speak American. Regal Auto a House at Long Island. However, the vehicle was never delivered.
Speaker: These people that operate Regal ah Auto House came up with every excuse in the book saying that it had to be oil changes that weren't happening, broken taillights. It was always something, right? Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: She made the purchase originally on on December 26th. She found a vehicle online through her son because it was going to be a gift for her son who was graduating high school.
Speaker: She signed a contract, financed it, paid that deposit of $3,300. Vehicle was never delivered to the house. Never got the house.
Speaker: She had to fight and claw for more than three weeks to to finally get all of her money returned. Now, this was all reported by CBS News in New York. It was a CBS investigate.
Speaker: Yeah. The loan company didn't do anything wrong. But what was happening was, is this woman... was being forced to make a payment on a car that she did not have. And she said, ain't paying nothing. I ain't got the car.
Speaker: So in turn, that was a ding to her credit. Yeah. So she had to get this all worked out. And this car dealership was not really trying to be forthcoming. Matter of fact, they didn't resolve the issue until she went to the news.
Speaker: the news reporter went to the location with her and her father, because now big man got to show up. Because what you doing with my daughter's money, right? right Right. And it was only then that they decided to return the deposit and then cancel the contract.
Speaker: And it was all done on that day that the news crews came up. And it's so funny to me, because she had the wherewithal to actually be like, look,
Speaker: I'm going to call the news. Some people might sue. But there's a lot of people out there that'll just be like, well, I'm going to get eventually, hopefully, or wouldn't know what to do in that situation. Because you can't go all Bruce mode.
Speaker: You can't take a baseball bat, walk up in there, smash and stuff, talking about where my money is, like Ice Cube did and and and straight out of Compton. You can't do all that stuff. But this is funny because these are legit scammers.
Speaker: Now, eventually, she got her money back. But what it what happens to them legally, criminally, to make them stop doing it again?
Speaker: Yeah, I don't know. Because they the reasoning that they gave why the vehicle wasn't ready or why they couldn't deliver it we in could have been legitimate reasons. They weren't in this case, but like how do you prove that?
Speaker: Well, we actually don't know that they weren't. Oh, okay. So where is the car? The car was still there.
Speaker: They just never... I think that they was just scamming. Yeah. Right? That they it was just scamming. that And you know, the reason why it led me as I was reading, as I was watching the news report, the reason why i'd sit I was like, oh yeah, they were scamming, is because as soon as the news crew came up there with cameras and questions,
Speaker: Oh, yeah, no, no, we're gonna go ahead and give you money. After weeks of her trying to do this, yeah they ducking and dodging her. yeah News crews come up there. Now, all of a sudden, we gonna get this paperwork done? No, you was trying to scam.
Speaker: That's what you was trying to do. And it's just funny, because you always heard these stories. of these used car salesmen being shady. And you're like, oh, that's a thing of the past. These people yeah not really doing it. No.
Speaker: No, they're still doing it. And they're still doing it in Long Island, New York. That's the reason why the only thing that good came out of Long Island was Rakim.
Speaker: That's accurate. yeah I don't know. And the iced tea. I mean, I got a few friends from along iced tea. The iced tea. and And I don't really think that has any connection to Long Island.
Speaker: but but Why is it called a Long Island iced tea? I don't know. I don't know. And I don't want to go down this rabbit hole. A-B-H-D. But yeah actually, I do want to go down this rabbit hole. So why don't I stall while you do a little research of where Long Island actually came from?
Speaker: Because now I want to know. where walk but that sit set that that as Exactly. Exactly. Looking that up. They did get the refund. They got all their money back. And her son did eventually get...
Speaker: the vehicle that he wanted. So that that is a good thing. But, whew, you just can get scammed by anybody. You really can. And it's just like, and she's better than me, to be honest, because the way I would have shown up there,
Speaker: every damn day. With all my paperwork. this This is a part i forgot to mention. She lives in Rochester. This is in Long Island. It's a six-hour drive.
Speaker: Oh. Why did she go all the way to Long Island to get a car? Her son found this specific car that he wanted. it was a That's where they found it. Baby, you're going to have find one. I think they just didn't feel like shipping it the six hours. Probably.
Speaker: ah That's what I think happened. But anyway. she had came before this third time. She came a second time. And if it was they didn't want to ship it, they could just be like, look, you can drive it home right now.
Speaker: Yeah. Like, ah what's the problem? yeah And if I come and it's not up. like up on the thing, y'all are actively working on it, I have questions. Yeah.
Speaker: So since I live six hours away, i am getting a hotel. And I'm showing up here every damn day asking where that car is. They did also, because of the news report, they she did get a refund refund. They had mailed it that day, supposedly.
Speaker: And they showed her the FedEx receipt. and they gave her $400 for her travel expenses. Yeah, you're gonna have to give me all the things because now I got the news here.
Speaker: Right. And the credit was straightened out. But yeah now two more important questions. What is the origin of Long Island iced tea? The origin of Long Island iced tea is disputed oh between two main stories.
Speaker: One, a 1920s Prohibition era creation by old man Bishop in Tennessee, or a 1970s invention by Robert Rosebud Butt at the Oak Beach Inn in Long Island, New York.
Speaker: The drink is known for mixing five spirits and to often look like tea, even though there are no tea ingredients. So it's said that Robert Rosebud Butt That's 1970s.
Speaker: That's the 1970s. Claimed to have invented the modern recipe in 1972 while working at the Oak Beach Inn as part of a cocktail competition requiring the use of triple sec.
Speaker: So possibly... Or Tennessee. Actually, believe both stories. And this is reason why I believe both stories. During the prohibition, this would seem like... the Long Island iced tea would seem like something that you would put together because you're like, i don't have enough alcohol for one drink. Yeah, got a little bit of everything. I got a little bit everything, so let me put this all together.
Speaker: So I believe that. I believe the person during Prohibition absolutely did that. And I also believe this person in 1970s was like, oh, man, I got to use triple sec. What can I use with triple sec that hasn't been done before? I'm going to throw all these ingredients. Because there is actually not a universal recipe for the Long Island iced tea.
Speaker: Right. So the nineteen twenty s slash 1940s one is Charles Old Man Bishop is said to have created the original potent mix during Prohibition on Long Island in Kingsport, Tennessee, using bourbon and maple syrup. And then his son, Ransom Bishop,
Speaker: allegedly modified it in the 1940s to include lemon, lime, and cola. So I think you're right. Both are true. The modern cocktail, I think, was the way we drink it today probably was invented by Rosebud yes in the 70s. Yes.
Speaker: And named a Long Island iced tea. But how does this fit into the segment? Because, ladies and gentlemen, you're like, y'all just went on a detour about Long Island Iced Teas when y'all were talking about scams. The Long Island Iced Tea is a scam. OK? Yes. First of all, the Long Island Iced Tea is a scam.
Speaker: That's first and foremost. How is it a scam? It's a scam because you think by mixing in all these liquors that you're going to get extra drunk. And it is potent. But the potency is mixing all these different liquors together.
Speaker: Because the actual alcohol content The actual amount of alcohol is still the same. It's still the same. It's still the same as a regular drink. It's still an eight-ounce glass. You think it's more, but it's not more.
Speaker: It's not. And that is the scam. And also... And this goes out to a certain individual that I know will be listening and watching this that loves Long Island iced teas.
Speaker: Once you hit 20 years old, you can no longer order a Long Island iced tea. That's a young person drinking. You do not, as a grown adult, go sit at a restaurant and then say, yeah, I I'm going get that strong island.
Speaker: Giving it a nickname. Nope, we don't do that anymore. We're classy up in here. OK? No more Long Island nice tees. OK? I've actually never had one in my life.
Speaker: Oh, man. So my boy went to Towson University. Mm-hmm. And there was this club in Baltimore called Hammerjacks. OK. OK. We would go almost every Thursday. We would come up from University Maryland. sounds a gay club, but okay. No, wasn't. ah I mean, Hammer Jacks? And Hammer Jacks.
Speaker: Yeah. hey wiz it It was one of those big box clubs. On Thursday nights was college night. Okay. You paid $15 for all you could drink Long Island iced teas.
Speaker: That's a recipe for disaster. Oh, yes. It was. at I loved that place. It was raunchy. but yeah yeah everybody knew Everybody knew the assignment. We coming in here to get drunk and grind on each other.
Speaker: Yes. That was also a scam. Yeah. It was also a scam. Yeah. Because they just got to give you a little bit of everything. Still the same 8-ounce glass, 12-ounce glass, whatever.
Speaker: it was in those little cups. Yeah. And it was always the worst liquor. You're drinking a combination of real liquor. Yeah. Yeah. And there's more sour mix and cola in there than anything else. Trust me, ladies and gentlemen. You feel like it's strong? It's strong because it's a mixing of all those different alcohols that's also cheap.
Speaker: It tastes strong. Yeah, it tastes strong. It burns because the alcohol is cheap. Yeah. But speaking of things that we did back in the day, I realized I can't do those things anymore.
Speaker: Oh, I've been known that. Yeah. And I won't. But it's a humbling experience nevertheless. Mm-hmm. And we're going to get into that next.
Speaker: Jay. Mm-hmm. A friend told me an interesting story the other day. Okay. Now, this person that I'm talking to, talking about, is in their late 30s. Okay. But they look young.
Speaker: They look young. Like you yeah wouldn't know that they were close to 40. Yeah. They were at a work event and they saw, you know, an attractive person.
Speaker: Mm-hmm. And that person's... said, how you doing today, sir? And he was taken aback by that. He said, I felt the type of way when she called me sir, because yeah I thought we were in the same dating sphere.
Speaker: But obviously, she saw me as a sir. Yeah, that's the delusion of old people. there's not oldies in his late 30s. Listen, if you ask anybody with a two in front of their age, okay, anything older than 29 is ancient. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: is ancient in Now, the truth of the matter is you're blessed to see advanced age because the alternative is not seeing it.
Speaker: That's true. ah But this is the delusion of people, especially folks over 40. Now, I get that a lot of millennials look good for their age because when you think about 40, 50, 60, you think the golden girls. Right? Right.
Speaker: and People don't look like that anymore. But there is a delusion that just because you don't look old, that you look young. And that is not the case.
Speaker: You just look your accurate age. Okay? Because people were severely unhealthy back then. This is true. And people are much healthier these days.
Speaker: And just have better...
Speaker: Also have better skin regimen routine. yeah Yeah. People are using their sunscreen in in a way where back in the day, you used to just bake your skin like you know what in order to tan and things like that.
Speaker: People are not doing these things anymore because now we know it causes skin cancer and and things like that. So it's like people are just living better. Medicine has advanced, technology has advanced, and things are making our lives easier, and it's easier to stay healthy, and all of these things.
Speaker: Please do not confuse that with being young. Because the fact of the matter is, we are, in fact, middle-aged. And young people know you're old.
Speaker: a Young people know you're old. So it' you think y'all are in the same sphere. That's because you're delusional. Young people know you're old.
Speaker: So as he was telling me the story, and I was like, yeah, being called serves a trigger for me. Because I live in a high rise where there are people that live in here who are older, my age, and younger.
Speaker: And i'll hold the elev I hold the elevator for everybody. I'm very... you would describe as nice. Just sometimes too nice, but just nice all the damn time. It's annoying, but it's just who I am in my nature.
Speaker: And people are always like, thank you, sir. And I and i want to tell them, hey, ain't gonna be too many more of them damn sirs, okay? Because I ain't that damn old. But yeah, I'm about to be 46. Like, I'm about to be 46.
Speaker: That's still, I still don't want to be called sir. No, I earned my ma'am. I don't... I earned it. I earned it. I made it to this big age.
Speaker: I earned the respect that comes with the life experience that I have. Yeah, but it's it's, as you said, it's a humbling experience because it's not just about respect. It's also saying you're old.
Speaker: Yeah. it's also an indicator of your age. Yeah, I am middle age. well That is the truth. I am middle age. I am a middle aged woman.
Speaker: That is the truth. I don't care how my skin looks and yada, yada, yada. Okay, that's great. But when I, I can't do 20 year old shit.
Speaker: No, I can't. at Listen, a friend of mine had a birthday party. I said, what time we meeting up at the lounge? and And she said, I'll probably be there around 1030. No. I said, PM?
Speaker: No. That's what time I was planning on coming back home. Yeah. Are you kidding me? No, I got to be in bed. I don't care that the next day is Sunday. I got stuff to do on my Sunday. Okay.
Speaker: I don't want to be in bed all day. So, like... That's the worst, too, when you're in bed all day. I didn't waste the whole... I only get a certain amount of days off, and I'm going to waste them away in bed? Right. Trying to recover from the night before. So I'm here in the house getting ready, 8, 8.30, 9 o'clock, drinking coffee.
Speaker: so that I could just be up and present for this birthday party. No, I'm not young no more. No, I don't have Megan knees. I have sciatic pain.
Speaker: Yo, this hit me like a thunderbolt yesterday. was out with my friend. She's always freaking old. She is. She's in the mid early to mid-30s. So it was an age difference.
Speaker: And our our our brother came out. Mm-hmm. And our cousin came out. And i'm all I'm the oldest one there. And Sigid Amaya was a celebration. and i knew it was going be a celebration. I didn't know it was going to be as big as it was.
Speaker: Yeah. I didn't know it was going to be as big as it was. Well, it's also, it fell on Taco Tuesday, so. Yeah, well, everybody was out. And yeah ah my homegirl was like, you see some attractive ladies? And I was like, I see attractive women who are too young for me.
Speaker: who She was like, wait a minute. Like, what do you think? for First of all, she forgot how old I was. She's like, well, y'all are 42. I said, ma'am, I'm going to, you was at my 45th birthday party. yeah I'm going to be 46. She's like, ugh. Yeah.
Speaker: She was like, well, how young can you go? and ive And I said, that feels like R. Kelly-ish to me. Well, how young are we tall? I was like, I can go 10 years younger. And that's a stretch.
Speaker: That's a stretch for me. yeah How much older? I was like, I could only really go a year, maybe two years older. When I start to see ah an eight and a nine behind that four, don't forget about that five, I become disinterested.
Speaker: And so I was like, there's nothing out here for me. let's just We just out here vibing, having a good time. I'm not out here to try to holler. And I wouldn't have been out there to try to holler because I'm like, everybody, it's really loud. It is extremely loud.
Speaker: This is also how a middle-aged person speaks, yes. I just wanted a place to sit down. Again, if one thing about being over 40, I'm going to have me a little seat.
Speaker: and And I was like...
Speaker: This kind feels like I'm being boring because i don't know what to do with myself. Yeah. Because there's too many people, it's too loud, and I can't sit down.
Speaker: I kind of don't want to be here anymore. Yeah. Oh, I won't go if there's not a section booked. I won't go because I got to have me a little seat. I'm not going. I'm too old to be fighting through a crowd to get to the bar, to try to get the bartender's attention and get a No, you need to come over here with my bottle.
Speaker: not the one I'm sharing with everybody in in this place. ah Our table's bottle, and y'all pour, y'all bring these mixers over here. I'm not getting up and going back.
Speaker: No, I can do that at home. and That was another thing. That was another problem. I didn't even really get drunk because I could only get a drink every hour. Yeah. Because the bar, the bar every every restaurant...
Speaker: was poorly staffed. I don't think... Because it was this big this this big shopping center near me. You've been there. It's big shopping center with... It's not even a shopping center. it's It's a... I don't even know what to call it.
Speaker: There are like 12 different restaurants yeah in this area that has car access but not really... It's more of you're going park somewhere and then walk around the area and visit all these restaurants. I wouldn't even know what to even describe it as. It's just a walkable area. Yeah. Just an area, you know. It's an it's a neighborhood. Yeah.
Speaker: But anyway, so none of the restaurants I think realized that it was going to be this many people out on the streets. Yeah. And so they were understabbed, so I couldn't get the drinks like I wanted to. Look, I had a good time because of the people that i were hanging out with.
Speaker: yeah I will not do it again because it was too much. That's how I feel about Mardi Gras. I enjoyed being with the people that I was with. i had a great time. I won't do it again. I'm too old.
Speaker: See, and and that's one of the things that I wish I had done when I was younger, that I would have appreciated that experience way more. Because what I also saw is that the people that were younger were just getting shit-faced.
Speaker: And also, that's not something I do anymore. I'm very measured in my... I will get drunk, not shit-faced. I'm more of a buzz, hit that buzz, and coached.
Speaker: Just maintaining the buzz. depends if I drove or not. But like... We were just talking about DUIs. Yeah, it depends. If I drove, no, I'm not. If I didn't, I might have a little more. But again, like, I'm not gonna get drunk because I know I got stuff to do the next day. got errands to run.
Speaker: I gotta get this laundry done. Like, I got things to do the next day. Like, I don't want to be hungover. And the older you get, the harder it is to get over a hangover.
Speaker: So I don't get hungover anymore because I only drink certain liquors and I don't mix them with anything that has to do with sugar.
Speaker: Yeah. It is always club soda. I don't care if it's bourbon, it'll be club soda. And if I'm cheating, if I'm on one of my cheat days, then it'll be ginger ale. But out it'll be club soda. It'll be some, it'll be a water, carbonated water.
Speaker: Yeah. There is another part to what happened yesterday to let me know that I'm not going out in the streets this summer. Because I said I was going to. i said going to out the streets this summer.
Speaker: I'm going to be out in the streets until about 9 p.m. Yeah, I'm going to be these middle-aged streets. right And what that means is I'm gonna be doing age-appropriate hood rat things. Like, it's not gonna be I'm gonna have a section, not gonna be out late, this is gonna be age appropriate, I'm gonna be outside, but it will be age appropriate.
Speaker: The wildest I'll get is brunch. I think brunch, because yeah brunch to me is an all-day thing in D.C. They don't do brunch right down here, so you can't do it down here. yeah So, when you have a bunch of drunk people You are going to have some disagreements.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: There's something about the men nowadays that I just don't jive with. e and And I will preface all this by saying I don't know if I have a healthy way of dealing with certain things. What I mean by that is is I have this very guarded relationship of I will not allow somebody to get me out of my emotions.
Speaker: I won't give them that type of satisfaction. Yeah, you're not going to get me out my character. No. Even if I'm steaming inside, I'll never let you see that. Yeah, because I know that's what you want is my reaction. Right. So I just won't do it.
Speaker: Me being as big as I am, I've always kept kind of like an even keel when dealing with women. yeah I don't yell. i don't scream. i don't do big movements. Can't do all that stuff being as big as I am.
Speaker: i don't We can have a disagreement. We can have a discussion. We can even have an argument, but I don't want you to ever be fearful of me. Right. But some of these dudes just don't agree with that type of stuff. So we were at the bar.
Speaker: It was me and our cousin. And it was the end night. We were just waiting for some food. It was the end of the night for us. It was only 9 p.m., but it was the end of the night for us. But that's the end. Yeah. yeah And this drunk dude over to our left is getting into it with this group. And I can hear it getting louder and louder.
Speaker: And these things have been happening. Yeah. But he's getting in it, and I'm looking over, and it's all women. So now I'm really paying attention. Because yelling and screaming is one thing, but this dude is yelling and screaming So aggressively that I'm like, if he if to anything physical happens, I'm going to have to run over.
Speaker: Which is the third time this week that I've had to almost interject so myself into a situation where I thought a man was going to get physical with a woman. I'll tell those two other stories later, but I'm going focus in on this one right now.
Speaker: So he leaves, he goes to sit behind him, he goes to sit behind us in a booth, right? I don't know why. I didn't make eye contact with this person. I didn't acknowledge to this person that I wanted to speak to him in any way.
Speaker: Right. But he comes up to me and then he wants to start talking ish about the women. And so I immediately say, hey, man, I saw that bull that you was doing with the women. Get out my face. I don't really have nothing to talk to you about. I'm not trying to hear your side of the story. Ain't going to be no chauvinistic camaraderie over here. Yeah, that's not that's not the way it is, right? Yeah. was like, you need to go sit down.
Speaker: He's like, no, no, man. just I was like hey, man, I really don't need to hear. Like, I'm not trying to have no conversation with you right now. Me and my cousin here vibing. You in my space. You need to get up. Yeah. And go sit down. Or you need to go sit down, right? Yeah.
Speaker: He's not listening to me. So then I stand up and I come out of the stool. yeah And I'm walking towards him, and as I'm walking towards him, because he comes up to my chest, he's backing up into the booth, so I'm walking him back to the booth.
Speaker: yeah And I'm explaining it to him, man, I done told you. This is about to be a problem that you don't want to have. Just go enjoy the rest of your night in the booth. yeah Then other people, I don't know where these people come from. They weren't bouncers, they weren't security.
Speaker: I think they were just other patrons that were seeing
Speaker: I was ready. he he He had chose the right one. yeah And they came to kind of break it up. As they come to break it up, he starts getting louder. Of course.
Speaker: And I'm like, man, Because now there are people that'll stand between him, so he feels like there's less of a physical threat. Yes. You are incorrect. Look, let me tell you, I told him, I said, man, I will bow through all these people and rip your eyeball out.
Speaker: I won't hesitate do something like that. And then his boy was sitting at the booth and was coming up. I noticed immediately that his boy was trying to come up and just be like, hey, he's drunk because he's saying these things to me. I was like, man, you need to choose better friends. But my cousin was right there on our side.
Speaker: And was like, hey, man, what happened to you? He was like, the other dude got up. He was like, when it was just you and him, it's just you and him. When that other dude got up, hey, man, what you doing? Yeah. Everything calms down because eventually the bartender brings security and they're flashing these really bright lights and they're coming straight at us.
Speaker: And they say, you, out of here. Not talking to me, talking to him. yeah So I go back and sit down at the bar, and there was this guy sitting next to me and our cousin. And he was like, that dude was talking ish to you?
Speaker: And I was like, yeah. if He said, To you? Because I had a t-shirt on. wasn't in my sweatshirt, so the muscles bulge and the arms are big. is That dude must be crazy. I was like, something was going on.
Speaker: And I was just like, oh, I don't need to in this. It's alcohol. yeah And I was like, i don't need to be in this element. I'm going be 46 years old. I got a lot to lose. I grabbed this dude. I don't know how angry I'm going to get in the moment.
Speaker: Am I really going hurt him that badly? What is that going to do? I'm in the state of Virginia. I'm getting locked up that night. I got i had to get up this morning, which was a struggle to get up this morning, and work.
Speaker: And I'm just like, oh, I'm too old for all of this. Them calling me Sir Fitz. It fits. Yeah. Give me that respect. The only reason that people truly hate it right, is exactly what you said. It's an indicator of age.
Speaker: And what do we think of when we think about getting older? It's our own mortality. And nobody wants to think about that. That part of getting older is knowing that you inching closer and closer to the upper room. Nobody wants to think about that.
Speaker: ok So people want to hold on to their youthfulness for as long as possible. And that's valid. I get that. ah Generally speaking, i don't ever look at death.
Speaker: I'm like, da look, Death is gonna come regardless. Ain't no reason for me to be shook about it. Ain't no reason for me to be worried about it. I don't know when it's gonna happen. I don't know how it's gonna happen. I don't have no control over it.
Speaker: I do have some, but yeah no real, real control over it. That's not what crosses my mind. What crosses my mind is my ego and that I'm aged out from certain women.
Speaker: yeah That's that's yeah what breaks my heart. is like I call it Shanna Sharpe syndrome. Yeah, well, no. Because Shannon Sharf is 10 years older than me.
Speaker: And there's no way in hell I would mess with a 24-year-old. I had an opportunity earlier this year to mess with two mid-20-year-old women. And I was like, ma'am, I could literally be your father. No, you couldn't. Yes. Yes. Yes, I can. Yes, I could. Yes. i'm ah I'm older than even a big brother. Yeah.
Speaker: I could be your daddy. Yeah. So, no, but also... I called i called a ah young man, young man. well, I do that all the time. Because I had to let him know, like, I asked, us sir how how old are you?
Speaker: I think he said 23 or 24. said, young man, you have a blessed day. I know that you are out your mind.
Speaker: Well, well and you look younger than what I look, so I get that. But still, I don't like being called sir. And also, I'm not going to out these streets no more. Like, i can you believe that? At my big age, I almost got into a fight.
Speaker: I almost got into it when I was in Houston. Did I tell you about that? No, you did not. Yeah, I got into it with a guy. ah You know, we had our little section. were at the at the club. and We were sitting around. It was it was me.
Speaker: It was the four the ah three other ladies I came with and another lady that was related to one of them. so And who lived in Houston. And so we're all hanging around. This really drunk guy comes up.
Speaker: and tries to talk to one of them. And he was being very rude. She had this really beautiful long hair. He kept asking if it was hers and all this stuff, like just being very rude.
Speaker: And so I can see the conversation between the two of them get more and more contentious. Mm-hmm. And so one of the ladies gets up to go find security because this guy is not leaving. He's getting more and more rude.
Speaker: And I'm like, I stand up at this point. And I look at the man, I say, this is not going well for you. You need to roll.
Speaker: No, no, I'm just saying, I'm just saying. No, no, no, no, no. This isn't going well for you. You need to go. like that's Like, that's my go-to, like, of just like, hey, cut your losses, bruh. Because a lot of it is ego thing, and like, when you when they desire a woman who does not want them back, and so then they dig in ah It's an ego thing. And so I just need, I kind of just insert a little reality check.
Speaker: Hey, if you think this is going well, you're wrong. And now it's time for you to cut your losses and leave because at this point you're embarrassing yourself.
Speaker: He gets up, goes to another table, starts harassing them. Well, there were men at that table.
Speaker: And the only thing I saw at the corner of my eye was him getting grabbed by his shirt, security coming over, and they escort this man out. yeah And it's like,
Speaker: Sometimes it's safe to do that. I felt in that moment that it was safe for me to do that. I'm in a public place. There are other, there's security there. i felt like it was safe for me to do that.
Speaker: Not in every situation it safe for you to assert yourself like that. So I would say, you know, for anybody out there, you know, as far as like women, why didn't the women that he was in the group, well, they weren' they were probably trying and he wasn't getting it, right?
Speaker: But it's not always safe to assert yourself in situations as a woman. But if you find that it is, embarrass the hell out these people. Embarrass the hell out these people.
Speaker: ah You know, it's funny that you bring that up because yesterday, As I was out celebrating, I was walking, I went to the restroom, I was walking past this table, and this dude was sitting at a table with two young ladies. One was on her phone, not paying attention. The other one, he was trying to holler at, and she had like a little pen.
Speaker: So he like, oh, there's weed in that. and she And she got, I could tell he had been bothering her. She's like, there's no weed in it. She said it just like that. There's no weed in it. Yeah. Yeah. So he was sitting at the table behind them, right? Not behind them, but next to them. So yeah i ah I was paying attention peeping.
Speaker: And he was still at the other booth trying to get her attention. And I was just like, bruh, like, it's annoying. Yeah. it's an ah well This is annoying. It's annoying being emotionally aware now of how annoying that I used to be, because I used to be one of them type of cats.
Speaker: Yeah. But there was a... I was having a conversation with a guy in the gym earlier today, and there was an attractive woman in there. And he was like, are you going to talk to her? I said, no. Why would I go talk to her?
Speaker: Because she's attractive. Maybe she might be interested. interested Maybe. Maybe not. i yeah I'm going to have to catch her out and about. You know, this is local gym. It's in the area. I've seen her before. Maybe I'll catch her out and about. But what I'm not going to do right is try to go up there and holler at her in the gym.
Speaker: yeah Why not? Okay, to have to break this down for you. Yes. Say she is interested. That's the best case scenario. Great. Maybe we even start hanging out. Eventually, things are not going to work out, given my track record. And neither one of us are going to work want to work out at that gym. OK, that's best case scenario.
Speaker: All right. Worst case scenario is I come off as a creeper, make her uncomfortable coming to the gym and she stops coming to that gym. yeah Or she tries to change her times to make it inconvenient for her. Yeah. But knowing that she won't run into me just so that she won't have to deal with that experience again because she might not, because she doesn't know me personally and doesn't know that I won't bother her.
Speaker: Yes. Oh, yeah. I guess I never thought about it like that. Yeah, bro. Like, you gotta read the room. Like, if you're out in a social setting, maybe. For a lot of people, reading the room...
Speaker: Like, they're unable to do it because of their ego. Because they desire someone that you can't see. She got headphones in.
Speaker: She ain't even take them off. She just moved one it said, excuse me, what? What do you need? if that If that's the response... But they don't. I'm just trying to tell you have a good day.
Speaker: You know, you should smile. You're too cute to be looking on me. That has never worked. Never worked. that's Never. Y'all, please stop telling women to smile. My God, please stop telling women to smile. You know, things. That has been never, ever worked.
Speaker: Things got better for me with age. Yes. So that's the reason why I'm a sir now. Because young Bruce, wild. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: Older Bruce, ah sir, a little bit more respectful. yeah i catch you I catch you when I catch you or this just wasn't the time. Yeah. it's like I'm not going make it inconvenient or uncomfortable for you.
Speaker: The quote you said on a prior show, if you're driving in a car and you see somebody attractive walking, the good Lord did not mean for y'all to meet. Nope.
Speaker: That's how it is. Nope. Sorry. Not let you come at a stoplight and she's walking past and looking in and waving. Then you could take that opportunity. Yeah. anyway oh and ah Can I can I talk to you for a second? Do you have time?
Speaker: But but you're in an automobile and I have no protection. No protection. Yeah. Do not drive up on me. Is that what you want to leave everybody with before we get out of here?
Speaker: I actually wanted to leave with a question. i saw this on Instagram and I thought it was very funny. You can tell whether someone is a boomer, Gen X or millennial by how they finish the song lyric.
Speaker: Okay. Blame it on. the Oh, there's two that came to my mind right now. was the very first one? ah i Just say it.
Speaker: I think it was blaming on the rain. It was either going to blaming the rain or blaming on alcohol. Okay. You're solidly a millennial. I am apparently... Gen X slash boomer because I said blaming on the boogie. That was my very first. I wouldn't even thought about blaming on the boogie. Yeah. If you say blame it on, I'm saying I said the boogie instantly.
Speaker: So apparently I am much, much a generation or two older than I thought I was. Because blame it on the alcohol, none of none of that came to mind, which is what was supposed to be my answer as a millennial.
Speaker: Nope, it was blame it on the boogie. But you're only four years away from Gen X anyway. Right. So, I mean, technically, they moved the parameters from 1976 to 1985 for the Zillennials, which I'm like, all right, now this is getting ridiculous. Now it's getting ridiculous. That's a whole new generation. When it was 79 to 82, that seemed about right. Right.
Speaker: Yeah. Like, but that zone between 79 and 85 is like a nebulous area. Yeah, it is a nebulous area. But blame it on, because I i was going to say blame it on the rain.
Speaker: Mm-hmm.
Speaker: And then I was like, blame it on alcohol. Which means you're a zillennial, because blame it on the rain to me is definitely a Gen X answer. Blame it on the alcohol is a millennial answer. Blame it on the rain isn't even the lyrics, though.
Speaker: Yeah, it is. Blame it on the rain. No, that's not the song I was thinking of. That's the reason why I paused. It's can you stand the rain, not blame it on the rain.
Speaker: Blame it on, that's Milli Vanilli. Yeah, no, I wasn't even thinking on Milli Vanilli. I was thinking of New Edition. Which still very Gen X.
Speaker: ah Uh... Okay. yeah But then, when I realized, I was like, wait minute, those aren't the lyrics, my mind immediately, it was it was in split seconds, blame on the alcohol.
Speaker: Yeah. Nope. No. I instantly, when I saw the video, she said blame it on, I said the boogie. Boogie never, never crossed my mind. Not at all. But ladies and gentlemen, what he when came when did you guess?
Speaker: Do you even those songs? Because there's going to be a whole grouping of people that don't know any of those songs that are just like, what songs are those? give yeah you No Blame It on the Alcohol. Yes. But you might not know Can You Stay in the Rain, which is what I was thinking of. blame You might not know Milli Vanilli in Blame It on the Rain. You might not know Blame It on the Rain. Yeah. And you might not know Blame It on the Boogie.
Speaker: But on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching. And until next time, as always, I'll holler.
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