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Ever been hit on during a customer service interaction? 💼 Struggling with Sunday scaries at a job you hate? Bruce Anthony and J. Aundrea dive into customer service disasters, quitting toxic jobs, and the viral "Passport Bros" trend where men seek "traditional" partners abroad. From cringe-worthy lawn guy stories to gender role debates, this episode unpacks why modern work and dating feel broken. Learn when to quit your job, avoid awkward workplace flirting, and why women are done with lazy partners. Perfect for anyone craving real talk about career burnout, dating dynamics, and societal shifts. #podcast #PassportBros #QuitYourJob #CustomerServiceDisasters #genderdynamics #WorkplaceBurnout #unsolicitedperspectives
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Chapters:
00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
00:45 Sibling Happy Hour: Spicy Takes & Drinks 🍹🌶️
01:47 Customer Service Disasters 😱💼🔥
04:51 Cringe-Worthy Encounters: Awkward Misfires & Mixed Signals 🤦♀️💬
13:34 Sips & Secrets: A Wine and Cheese Soirée 🍷🧀
22:13 Break Free: Spotting the Signs It’s Time to Quit Your Job 🚪💥
26:47 Rebelling Against Toxic Bosses ✊📢💥
27:32 Top Reasons to Say ‘I’m Done’: When It’s Time to Walk Away 👋💼
28:05 Burnt Out? You’re Not Alone 😴🔥💼
31:10 Sundays of Gloom: Conquering the Job Dread & Scaries 😨🌅
36:46 Money vs. Happiness: The Paycheck Trap 💰😔⚖️
39:37 Stuck in a Rut? Breaking Free from Limited Growth 🚀📉
41:46 Redefining Success: Creating Your Own Winning Formula 🌟💪
45:16 Passport Bros & Global Escapes: Rethinking Love & Tradition 🌍✈️
46:20 Modern Balance: Rethinking Gender Roles at Home 🏠⚖️
51:49 Respect is Key: Building Relationships on Mutual Ground 💑🤝
01:01:17 Final Flourish: Wrap-Up, Mic Drops & Last Thoughts 🎤🔚
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Introduction to 'Unsolicited Perspectives'
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but talking your job and dating, more specifically, Passport Bros. Let's get it.
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welcome first of all welcome this is unsolicited perspectives i'm your host bruce anthony here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcast subscribe to our youtube channel for our video podcast and youtube exclusive content rate review like comment share share with your friends share it with your family hell even share with enemies On today's episode, it's the Sibling Happy Hour. I'm here with my sis, J. Andrea. We're going to be dilly-dallying a little bit, and then we're going talking about should you quit your job, and then we're going to be talking about relationships and gender dynamics.
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But that's enough of the intro.
Awkward Experiences with Service Interactions
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Let's get to the show.
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What up, sis? What up, brother? What up? brother I can't call it. I can't call it. But you can call it because you got some things that you said that you wanted to get off your chest. Very rarely, ladies and gentlemen, does my sister hit me up before we do the show, days before we do the show and say, I got something to say.
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She didn't say, hey, Dre, I got something to say. She said, hey, Bruce, I got something to say. So I'm going to clear out and let you go. Yeah. have This is for literally everybody. I was going say this is directed towards men, but it's really not because the more people I've talked to, the more people who have dealt with this.
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It's literally for everybody. Have you ever been in a customer service situation? Okay. Maybe you're dropping your car off for oil change, you're going to the dentist, something like that.
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And the person that's supposed to be helping you and providing that service hits on you. And now this is a person you're gonna have to see again. And now this interaction has become awkward.
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tell you little story. okay yeah
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I have a neighbor, great neighbor that I adore. I love my neighbors, okay? He's got a cousin that mows his lawn.
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Knew I needed my lawn mowed. Said, hey, here's my cousin's number. I'm going give it to you. Go on, have him come mow your lawn. He'll give you a good price. He really did too. And did an excellent job. Like he came out I mean, mowed the lawn, weed, whipped, everything, blue to blew all the clippings. I did a great job for a really great price, a lot less than my old lawn guy. So I'm like, hey, this is my guy.
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This is my guy, right? I come out to pay the man.
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You married?
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I said, no. You got a man? No. You got my number. Here we go.
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ah guy Listen, I just wanted a normal customer service interaction. And this happens to people. I know this has happened to You've gone into a grocery store something. Oh, hey, sexy.
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And you're like, hey, Miss Pearl. And it's just like, I just really wanted a normal interaction, a normal customer service exchange of business and services and goods.
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And now every two weeks,
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I know I'm gonna have to deal with this. Every two weeks. Cause I'm not dropping the dude. That's what just getting ready to suggest. I was like, dude. He did a great job for a great price.
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I'm not dropping it. I'm just gonna deal with it now. And this is the situation. I'm not saying I'm hot stuff. I'm not. I know this has happened to literally probably everybody.
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Everybody has had an instance where supposed to have a normal interaction with somebody and they
Navigating Professional Boundaries
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hit on you. Y'all, please stop doing this when y'all at work. You are at work. You are at work, supposed to be providing a service. I know somebody's gonna say, well, I was changing a lady's carburetor and now she's my wife. I'm i'm happy for you, sir.
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Why does he sound like he was changing the carburetor in 1965? I don't know. But I'm so happy for you, sir. But you are one person. And I'm telling you, nine times out of ten, most people just want a normal interaction.
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When they're exchanging goods and services. That's it. And now you've made it awkward. And every two weeks, it's going to be awkward for the rest of the spring and summer. yeah And the fall.
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And a little bit of the fall. Okay. ah I'm sorry that you had to go through that. mean, that's what it is. I told him, I said, I'm i' straight for now. You had to shoot your shot. I get it.
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Why'd you say for now? That means you left the door open. Damn it. It's very hard because you never know. You got to be careful with your language. You never know.
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yeah So as I just had to be careful with my language. So that I said, yeah, I'm straight. straight for that i I get it. You guys, you' just out I get it. But now I know every interaction from here on out is going to be tinged a little bit.
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A little, it's going to be a little asterisk next to every, a little camby out there where something's going to be awkward and weird. Well, you know what the quick fix to that is. What?
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Just say you don't date men. I mean, yeah, but a lot of guys don't care about that. You know what their response is? Neither do I. yeah
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We got something in common. And no, I didn't give y'all that line. Don't start using that line when ladies say they don't date men. know somebody out there is going to use it. Cam'ron used it in one of his songs. Oh, he did? Okay. Cam'ron used it in one of his songs. Okay, so I don't know if I've experienced, maybe this, maybe I have, maybe not, but I'm different. Women, most the time, aren't that...
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forthright, right? It's like, and I can't pick up on cues. I be thinking, oh, I met a nice woman today. She wants to be my friend. She asked me for my number and we exchanged numbers. And then next thing I know. That's exactly how I am. Yeah. And I'm like, oh, you want to, you want to hang out sometime? Sure. You want to hang out. And then next thing I know, they making a move and I'm like, wait a minute, hold up. I don't know what this is. I'm oblivious. Yes, I always think I've just made a new friend. And it's never that.
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it's an as it's written Nine times out of ten, it's never that. And I'm like, oh, that person was nice. You're making a new friend. They're real nice for reason. Because it's true. I feel like I'm like Forrest Gump. I miss those cues. i i'm very You have to say it like straight up or else I'm going miss it.
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Well, autism. ah ah up from the keys y'all I Okay, there was one scenario where I was at a bar o and a young lady was going meet me for a drink.
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It was going to be a date. And she was running late and the bartender was a female. okay And we're just chatting. You know me. If I have a couple of drinks, by the way, remind me to tell this story about what I did at the at the my building's like wine and cheese party on Wednesday. Oh, good lord.
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I'm writing it down. So you know me, after I had a couple of drinks, i become super friendly. Yes. And you're ah you're already friendly, but you get super friendly. You are you talk to people around you. You do. Okay.
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yeah and and me and And me and the bartender were vibing. And I was kind of like, you know, if this girl that it was I'm going on a date with, because he wass one them social media, not social media, one of them dating app dates. So I never met her in person. So like, she better look like her pictures.
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Yeah. She better look like her pictures. Yeah. And so I was like, if this don't work out, you know, might can holler at the bartender. So that when the girl arrives, a she looks like her pictures.
00:08:17
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A hundred pounds ago. Yes. And when I say like big, I'm like, she got to be three, three 25. Now now yall Listen, first of all, do not go on a date with somebody you have not FaceTime with.
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Please FaceTime. This was all the way back in, I think, 2013, 14. FaceTime was a thing, but not really. But not really. Yeah. It's still a lot more people had Androids back then and you couldn't really. Okay. I get that. I get that. Yeah. Yeah.
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But yeah, so like literally 100 pounds over a picture because, you know, like 200 pounds for a tall woman in today's day and age is not like him curvy. yeah I like them. I like all types of women. So it really doesn't matter.
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way But she came in and my face kind of dropped in the bartender kind of peeped it. Because it's the false advertising is what it is. But me and the bartender were still kind of, I thought it was just being chummy. The girl was like, so you would you know the bartender? I was like, no, i just none of the dates. Like, y'all being real.
Personal Stories of Quitting Jobs
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You need to holler at her or something? was like, what? It seems like she's trying to get at you. And i was like, really? No, I just think she's just friendly being a bartender. I've been a bartender before. You just be friendly. She's like, nah, she's trying to get at you. And i was like, oh, okay. But the bartender never crossed the boundaries. So i don't I don't think most men get that. I think that's more women get that. And women get that probably all the time because women are constantly getting hit on.
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Because... A lot of times men are just creeps. Yeah. and And I'm just like, you at work, like, please just be professional at work. And also this goes for, this goes for people too.
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Listen, that person is at work. Don't hit on them. That person is at work. Don't hit on them. I remember working at hard, you you know, we both worked in customer service, worked in restaurants and everything. And I remember, did um I'm the first face you see when you walk in. I'm the host.
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Boy, it was rough at that host stand. And I was just like, it's just a bunch of young college girls at that host stand. It was rough out there. And I was just like, guys, we're at work.
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We're trying to work. We're trying to make some money right now. And we have to smile at you. yeah We have to be nice and pleasant and ask how you're doing and stuff. But please, please, I'm at work.
00:10:48
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I just need people to be professional. People are not going to be professional. Sometimes people it looks sometimeshow he got to shoot their shot because you never know. You never know if you're see a person again. Right. Like you just never know.
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ah There was this woman that lived in my building. I want to say she was, i don't know what, maybe Middle Eastern. Maybe she was India, actually from India. Beautiful woman.
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yeah Beautiful. And one time I said something that I immediately when I said it I was like, oh, that's a creepy thing to say. And I said it out loud. So I got on the elevator. She was on the elevator and always warm. Hello. So we smile on the face. I'm like, i don't know she's being friendly or she feeling me.
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And I got on the elevator and her fragrance, whatever she was wearing where was body lotion and perfume just hit me. And it was just, you know, when somebody is wearing like a good fragrance, you like, oh, you smell real good. And it makes them even more attractive.
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Yes, I steal it. Like, I will literally be like, what you got on? ah Look, let me tell you something. got this body cream on right now, the bourbon body cream. I'm feeling myself because I smell so good. But anyway. bath and body works? Yeah, the bath and body works. I got it. So I get on the elevator and I was like, wow, you smell amazing.
00:11:58
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I was like, wow, that was really creepy. I'm sorry about that. She was like, no, actually, that's the that stay intent. It smelled good. Thank you for the compliment. I was like, You're welcome. I just don't want to be weird, but you the smell really good. You're making it weird by continuing to talk. Oh, ok I'm going to make things awkward. I have really, really am. so I was like, you know, one day I'm going hit on her.
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You know, I'm going to see. I've never, i haven't seen that woman again. I think
Recognizing When to Quit a Job
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I've seen her a couple of times in the lobby, but it's been, i don't think I've seen her since the pandemic. So sometimes you just got to take your shot. When it's there, you got to shoot it.
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But then when you shoot the shot and you get shot down, Be respectful and walk away. Yes. and then And then don't make it weird every time ah see you now.
00:12:46
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Well, no, maybe yeah he's only done it one time, right? This is the, it was the first time he's mowed my locker. Okay. So the second time, if he's still pressing, you're going to have to have a conversation and be like, Hey, look, this ain't going happen. Yeah.
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Yeah. But I'm going need you to respect it. And if it's your neighbor's family member, I think it'll be okay. Yeah, I think it'll be fine. Plus, yeah besides, I'm going to be around real soon. I'm going to be down there on the trip real soon.
00:13:14
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So if there's any conflict, you know I will resolve that immediately. Yes, I know. But I got to live here. Yeah, you do. You got to live where that's the reason why you got them guns up in the house. You might have to pop off. Look, I got the blicky on me at all times, so...
00:13:29
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I live in the South. Before we wrap up this dilly-dally, I want to talk about me. And and my friendliness when I've been drinking.
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oh So I was agitated Wednesday night because something that was supposed to happen didn't go well. Not agitated like feelings hurt, but just agitated like, I don't understand why this didn't work.
00:13:51
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It's irritating. It's irritating. Yeah. Especially me. You know, i'm meticulous and I plan accordingly and I don't understand why things didn't work out the way was supposed to work out. Right. Right. So my building was having a wine and cheese party. And at first I didn't think I was going to be able to make it because the thing that I was doing got pushed back and it didn't work out the way I wanted it to. And so I was like, um I texted one of my friends that lives in the building, like, I'm to be able to make it.
00:14:17
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this, I got too much going on right now. And when the thing went left, I decided, let me go upstairs and go check it out. And it just so happened that I caught my friend coming off the elevator as I was coming off the elevator. I was like, look, we arrived just on time, CP time. yeah So I walk in there and the property manager's in there and one the leasing agents is in there. And there's a few people in there. you know I'm like, I haven't had a touch of alcohol yet. So immediately I'm like, let me pour the biggest glass of wine that I can. Yes.
00:14:46
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Yeah. And I not start drinking. Jay, at the end of the night, first of all, me and four other dudes closed down when everybody had left. Me and four other dudes closed down the joint.
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By the end of the night, I had given my phone number out to five different people. No. No. Four men and one woman. No. No. All new friends.
00:15:08
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You have to hang out with them now. No. Oh, no. That's the worst. Yes. Now, here's the thing. You know me. yeah I'm a sucker for good conversation.
00:15:20
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yeah And at this party, even my friend was like, you being messy as hell. Because I was being messy because I knew certain people's stories. And you know me. I'm going to start prying.
00:15:31
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and and and And I was prying and getting all this information because I'm a sucker for... Not superficial conversation, but in-depth conversation. We always have some in-depth conversation. God came up.
00:15:43
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Relationships came up. If you missing a tooth, I want to know why. Exactly. What happened? and and But I got, I'll bring it up in a certain way. And you know what? You know what I kept saying to everybody at the party?
00:15:55
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Hey, let me ask you question. And if I'm overstepping my bounds or being, I'm not meaning to be disrespectful. I'm just really interested in people. um Why did your wife leave you?
00:16:11
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You what I'm saying? Why did you break up with so-and-so? thought you had a roommate. What happened with your roommate? That is madness. Oh, I am messy as hell. And don't yeah nobody knows anything about me except the fact that I got a podcast. That went around really quickly because yeah the assistant property manager knows it and was like, hey, you know, we have a building right down the road that's an influencer building. You can get cheaper rent.
00:16:36
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living there and being an influencer. I was like, but not an influencer. You're like, no, yeah, you kind of are. i was like, no, i am not. I have a podcast. And I was like, that's an influencer. It was like, you might want to look into it.
00:16:48
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Not like we want you to move out because we like having you here. But I was like, oh, okay. And then everybody started saying, so you have a podcast? and i'm like, yeah, don't really like putting out with people like yeah that live that close to me because yeah I'm not really trying to have that.
00:17:02
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But right yeah, OK. And what do you talk about? I was like, well, you know, I talk about everything, really. Things that interest me. Give me an example. I did this interview and this interview. and my sister talked about this. Oh, wow. I'm going to subscribe. OK, check it out. Just know that I'll be real on that show. So you're going to get a different perspective of me. Yeah. And I solicited one. But no, I mean, I made a bunch of new friends.
00:17:22
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Luckily, nobody has texted me. Thank God. Maybe they also are on the other side like, oh my God, I got his number. I got a couple people number. I don't want It was the wine. Wine will do that.
00:17:37
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Yes. Wine will do that. Wine makes me, first of all, wine is dangerous. because Wine is extremely dangerous. This makes me really social, which I already am when alcohol hits my lips.
00:17:49
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And then it makes me feel sexy. It does. It does that. It's something about holding the glass and swirling it to let it breathe. and so It's something about it, but it does. It really does. if That's why it's dangerous.
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I'm back in my house after this whole scenario, and I'm like, man, I want some wine. And I poured myself some bourbon, and I was like, this ain't hitting It's not hitting the same. so I turned on Tank and Jodeci, and I was like, all right, now the vibe is back. The vibe is right.
Gender Dynamics in the Workplace
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The vibe is right. But I guess I got some new friends that I guess are just like me, don't want to hit up. But one person was like, hey man, let's start a group chat with all of us. And I was like, nah, that person got an Android. I don't really want to do a group chat with an Android user.
00:18:34
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That's a lot. That's a lot. We don't need to start a group chat. Honestly, when I meet somebody, at my for i ah I initiate. I initiate so that I can control where it goes.
00:18:48
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And I say, you know what? You got an Instagram? Let's follow each other. And that's how I get out of giving people my phone number. That's probably the best way. But then again, i get a lot of DMs from people and tags from people that I'm just like, don't feel like responding to this. But you can always be like, oh you know what? I'm the worst at my DMs.
00:19:06
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I never look at my DMs. Well, I've become the worst at my DMs because I'm just like, I don't and feel like responding to all this. I've become bad at it too. There's like maybe like 20 minutes in every day where I'll go and I'll look at them and see if there's anything like somebody's asking me or like anything pressing. If it's just memes and stuff, then I'm like, okay, I'll look at them when I have time, usually like before bed or something like that.
00:19:31
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But other that, I am so incredibly busy. I have a huge presentation to give tomorrow for my graduate research assistantship. And I'm just so busy. Like I'm the worst at my social media, but that's my excuse.
00:19:47
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Yeah, that's a good excuse. So I preemptively say, you know what, got social media, you got Instagram. Let me get your Instagram. And i'll ill I'll give out my Instagram all day long. But you going get my number.
00:19:59
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It's very rare that you get my number. Well, you know another reason why i was like, all right, because, you know, I don't like to give out my number either. And typically I'll be like, don't want to do that. I've said that before, especially in my big age now.
00:20:10
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But it was four, it was me included, three other black men. Yeah. that just wanted to, like, we were talking Superman and sinners and then, you know, movie sinners. And then, like, we was bonding as Black men. And there's not a lot of us living in this building. So it was like, okay, you know, like, i'm I'm cool with that. And they were cool brothers as well.
00:20:30
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Like, they're not, we didn't have not one barbershop conversation. yeah It was intellectual stimulating conversation. You know, I'm a sucker for that. About Superman, sure. what what I mean, yeah, it was actually. But on that note, mean,
00:20:44
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Ladies and gentlemen, you know, try not to shoot your shot with with people while you're working or while they're working. Yeah, let people live. Like, let people just have a normal... and I'm just coming into a quick trip to grab me ah a blue raspberry slush.
00:20:59
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You don't need to tell me. You don't need to shoot your shot from behind the counter. Yeah. I'm just trying to get my slush and go home. Just trying to get the slush and go home. But speaking of jobs, when is the right time for you to quit your job?
00:21:14
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We're going to get into that next.
00:21:21
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All all right, Jay, this article came across and I was like, hmm, this was interesting. I want to talk about it. It's six reasons it could be time to quit your job. According to an executive coach, the story is by Insider at Insider.com.
00:21:37
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The author is Perry. Ormont Bloomberg. Yeah. Okay.
Exploring 'Passport Bros' and Cultural Differences
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So the article outlines six key reasons why it might be time to quit your job according to executive coach Laura Gassner-Odding.
00:21:49
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um Look, it's going to be Laura and Perry from now on. I'm not going to say they're full government names, including the middle. You got them right. I did get them right, though. yeah It emphasizes that while stability is often prioritized in uncertain economic times, workers should assess their current roles critically to determine if they align with their personal and professional goals.
00:22:08
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The reasons discussed go beyond monetary considerations and focus on factors such as emotional well-being, career growth and alignment with life circumstances. The article also highlights the importance of defining success based on personal values rather than societal or external expectations.
00:22:26
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Now, you recently said, to hell with this job. Yes. and now And I have known for that. Look, let me tell you something. I haven't. I've been doing the same job for almost 20 years now, so I haven't quit.
00:22:38
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But before that time. Yeah. From 1999, no, no, no. no no From 2000 to 2003, I averaged six W-2s every time I did my taxes. Like I was known to be like, to quit a job. I'll never forget how I quit working at Best Buy.
00:22:56
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I was working at Best Buy, which at the time was my dream job. Because I was like- I'm going to be, I was in the computer section selling people computers. It wasn't on commission. So I didn't have to like oversell people and try to hustle them out.
00:23:09
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yeah And I was like, I remember that the the tagline when Best Buy first started, we don't try to sell you anything. We work for you. And I was like, yeah, that's what I want to be a part of. And when I got there, that wasn't the case because they was trying to hustle people on warranties.
00:23:25
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And I remember this one time I was selling this older couple, a computer. And um when I talk about older, they were like 70s, right? right And they were just like, hey, we just want to email our grandkids.
00:23:35
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It's like, look, if you're just emailing your grandkids, this little lower end computer is all you need. Yeah. So my manager walks up to me, the big manager, the manager of the entire store. I was like, yeah, we want to ring these people up.
00:23:49
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He's like, did you sell them the performance service plan? I was like, no, I didn't. Why not? We got to push those performance service plans. I was like, look, this, what they're using the computer for is minial minimal, minimal, yeah They don't need the performance service plan because the computer is so cheap. If it breaks in a year or two, they could just buy a new one. I'm not going to hustle these people out.
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He didn't like that response. But remember, I'm a college student. That's a history major. And well, yeah, and I had written for the school newspaper. And so I'm going to stand up for what I believe in. You go go yeah ten toes down. Ten toes down. i'm still like that, too, by the way. Yes. Yes. And so I had started working at Hard Rock. I had two jobs. i was working on Hard Rock and Best Buy.
00:24:28
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And so Best Buy said they had to have this big team meeting before the store opened one day. and it was the same day i was supposed to be working at Hard Rock. So I asked Hard Rock, I said, hey, I have another job.
00:24:38
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We got to do a meeting. Is it OK if I push back my start time an hour or so? I'll stay later. Managers at Hard Rock says, no problem. Thank you for giving us advance notice. We'll work with you. Come in when you can get here. I was like, yeah great.
00:24:52
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I walked to the Best Buy meeting. They open the door. We're not open. I'm not working that day. Yeah. The manager says, where's your shirt? Because you had to have the best boss shirt on. It's like, I'm not working today.
00:25:03
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Doesn't matter. You're supposed to have your shirt on. I was like, nobody told that to me. Nobody said, make sure to wear your shirt at this meeting. was like, why would I wear shirt at the meeting that I'm not working that day? I'm not working. that is the worst that's That's just them being a hard ass.
00:25:18
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That's what that is. Yeah. So the store is closed. We're having a meeting. And then the manager goes again. And he was is like, yes, some people don't have their shirt on. Now, granted, I'm the only one without the shirt on. So I'm the only one who did not get the memo.
00:25:30
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Nobody told me. Yeah. But it's like he's calling me out after he had already said something prior. So I said, hey, don't worry about it. I know it's me. You can go to hell.
00:25:42
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don't like this place anyway. Let me up out of here. I quit. Walked out. a what I was making my way to Hard Rock anyway. I was like, was just doing y'all a favor by still coming up in here. I just wanted the discounts.
00:25:53
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Because I don't know who you think I am. Right. Listen, I was out of i remember the first job that I really quit, like I walked out and quit. Like I didn't give two weeks notice. My first little job, I worked at the grocery store and I helped people put their bags in the car. don't remember that.
00:26:10
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Yeah, I worked at the grocery store and and one day a guy said, you too cute to be out here. And I said, you know what you write. So I put in my two weeks. Plus it was- I was 14, y'all. I was 14. So my next little job, I worked at a craft store.
00:26:28
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I'm going to say which one. don't remember that either. This was in high school. I was 15, and I worked at a craft store, and I had an event at school. And I told them, I have an event at school this night, so don't you know don't put me on schedule. I gave them plenty of time.
00:26:41
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a They put me on schedule. I went to my manager, I said, i have an event at school, you know, I'm 15, I'm a student. I have an event at school that I have to go to tonight.
00:26:52
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I'm not going to you know, I mean that night, I'm not going to be able to work. Well, you're scheduled, so you have to be here. I said, I don't have to be here. That's slavery. And it's frowned on in this part of the world.
00:27:03
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And she didn't like that. And I said, well, I don't have to be here at all. And I just took off my little smile. <unk> good chap ah say fifteen I 15. still live at home with my parents. You think I need this job?
00:27:16
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Ma'am, I'm 15 years old. I'm high school student. I could quit anytime. Look, you told her you're not the one or the two. Not even. All right, so as we told our versions of it, what are some key reasons to quit your job based on this article and based by based on not us deciding that we don't want to work, but by a real executive coach? Yes, yes.
00:27:39
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One of the key reasons is exhaustion and energy drain. If you work in an environment, if your work environment leaves you feeling drained daily due to interactions with your boss, colleagues, or even clients, it may hinder your ability to perform at your best and lead to a career stagnation.
00:27:54
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Yeah. Yeah. That's real. Like, burnout is absolutely real. And there are so many, you know, having worked in corporate for over a decade, there are so many people in leadership who don't understand how real burnout, exhaustion, energy drain can be.
00:28:15
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And how it can affect every aspect of your life. A lot of times when I do leave a job. It's because they don't understand. Not only are you making it more difficult for me to work. By micromanaging. Or maybe it's more difficult for me to work here. Because of microaggressions or macroaggressions. But I'm burned out. And you don't care.
00:28:38
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Like the the best... leaders understand that they work for their employees. It's not the other way around. You're there as a resource. You're there to to lead, not to manage, not to micromanage, certainly, and not to make the job more difficult for your employees. You're supposed to be able to make it easier.
00:29:00
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for your employees by blocking things, you know standing in the way between them and the higher ups and things like that. like That's your role. And a lot of people don't understand that in leadership. and And when that employee gets burned out, once that light turns out, it's over.
00:29:20
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yeah yeah it's It's a quiet quitting until they actually quit. I have a friend of mine that worked for a company, well-known company that will remain nameless because I ain't getting sued. um And I remember one time I was hanging out with them and their boss called. I'm like, you got to take this phone call right now. it's like I was like, got to take it right now.
00:29:39
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And I could hear the boss yelling and cussing at him yeah through the phone. yeah And I was like, who are you letting talk to you like that because i would if i would go up to the office right now and slam through a window once again lazy gentlemen this is reason why i don't have a corporate job ah because i'm i'm gonna go i'm gonna take it to the physical yeah and the the this person stayed my friend stayed at the job for years yeah four years and so much so like this was a young person like 10 years younger than me and they had to have they they
00:30:11
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put like heart monitors on the chest because they started having heart palpitations. And I would look at he look at him and say, yo, bro, you are stressed out. This isn't good for your health. The reason why he finally left, get this.
00:30:23
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He got bonuses, right? For his job. Mm-hmm. The company tried to say, well, we gave you more bonus than what we already did. Ari paid him. We gave you more bonus than what we already did. So
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we're going to deduct $3,000 over the course of several checks to to get that money back.
00:30:40
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He was like, that well, first of all, you didn't overpay me. This was my bonus. And no, the hell, you're not going to deduct it. They did. He quit. He sued. He got his money back. Yep, absolutely. and So your work environment is is very important. And that's funny because that leads into the second example of why you might need to quit your job.
00:31:02
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And it's something that never even thought about. Reoccurring Sunday scaries. Yes. Feeling dread every Sunday evening about returning to work indicates a lack of inspiration or satisfaction in your role.
00:31:13
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Yes. Now it I had, I was, and I'm not going, I can't though. I can't throw this person under the bus, but okay. I can't, I definitely can't say the name and I can't say, I'm just going to say that we dated.
00:31:27
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I'm going to say that we dated. um Okay. Every Sunday, every single Sunday, she would cry hysterically. Mm-hmm. And I was like, what the hell is going on? I got to go to work tomorrow. And I'm like, yo, if it's that bad, quit.
00:31:42
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yeah Like if you're dreading, yeah like i have to work tomorrow. I don't have the Sunday scariest because I actually like my job and I would like it to be a little less intrusive, but I like my job.
00:31:54
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But yeah. So have you ever experienced the Sunday scaries? Absolutely. it It ruins your entire weekend. You really, when you work corporate and you don't like it job or not even corporate, when you don't like your job and you say you work Monday through Friday and you have Saturday and Sunday off, you have Saturday off because Sunday you spend with a knot in your stomach.
00:32:19
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dreading Monday morning. Not only that, not only do you get Sunday scaries, and I know people out there feel me on this, you get nightmares. oh You actually have nightmares about your job.
00:32:30
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And missing something, missing a deadline, or just, ah I remember looking and seeing that little red light on my phone that I had voicemails, or or just the dread of The thought of opening my email and my email inbox on Monday morning and seeing all the things that were in there.
00:32:52
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it it's It's a horrible feeling and you don't even get to enjoy your time off because all you're thinking about is I got to go back to this place. And it's even worse when you're remote because it's in your home. You see it. my My desk was in my room at the time.
00:33:11
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And so every day that I woke up, I saw my work computer. And it was just it was just a nightmare. And that that's 100% of the reason why I made a career pivot, because working in the same industry for as long as I have, and i and i've gone yeah know I've worked at several different companies, big companies, small companies.
00:33:31
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And i was like, I really can't. find any fulfillment anywhere. And I'm like, it's the job itself. That's why I need to make a career pivot. But a lot of times it is the environment.
00:33:44
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It's the people you work with, it's the people you work for and them making the job more difficult than it has to be. And it's it's it's literally the worst. I remember Our uncle, our uncle, when he retired, he said, you remember how that dread you used to feel on Sundays?
00:34:02
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don't feel that anymore. And I said, if you don't get off my phone. But that's true.
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But it's true. like you When you finally get to let that go, is is such a weight off.
00:34:16
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I wonder if, well, no, because obviously you talked about our uncle, and there wasn't soft man at all. Not to say that this would be soft anyway, but I wonder if this if it's more prevalent and gender roles with women. The reason why I said this is because I was watching a clip, Ryan Davis, i funny comedian.
00:34:36
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He's not paying me for this, but he just came out with a special that you can buy on his Patreon. Buy it. He's hilarious. I've gone to see him in person twice. Never regret it.
00:34:46
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Never regret it. He was talking about how women can have a job that pays them a million dollars an hour. This was a joke. A million dollars an hour. But because the environment isn't right, because they don't like the people, they'll quit their job.
00:35:01
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Yeah. While men are just simply saying they paying a million dollars an hour. Sign me up no matter what it is. Yeah. And so I'm like, OK, well, maybe there is some truth to it. Obviously, it doesn't.
00:35:14
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It's not it's generalized. Right. Like you can have specific instances where this is not the case. But women prefer happiness over everything.
00:35:26
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Yeah. And men don't necessarily we'll get into gender roles in the next and segment. But men don't necessarily consider happiness when making moves, generally speaking.
00:35:36
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Yeah, and that's why our life expectancy is longer. and no I mean, I'm dead ass. I'm dead ass. More men should prioritize their well-being over the monetary gain.
00:35:51
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Because if you if you take your job and you say, take the salary out of it, would I choose to be here? If the answer is no, then you should not be there.
00:36:03
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You shouldn't be there. You shouldn't, like your friend was male, the one that the boss was cussing at him. Absolutely unacceptable, yeah but willing to put up with it for the salary and the bonuses.
00:36:16
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And the only reason he left is because they started messing with the money. That's not enough. You should have left when the first time ah ah the voice got raised and a curse word came out.
00:36:26
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That would have, i would have been straight to HR. There's no way. You would have went straight to HR. I would have went straight to the face. But that's the reason why, you know, that's why you you stay where you at. Stay in your life.
00:36:38
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But speaking on money, though, another reason why you should leave your job based on this article is financial misalignment. Mm-hmm. If your salary only covers basic living expenses, need to make a certain number, right?
00:36:53
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But doesn't allow for discretionary spending or lifestyle upgrades. I want to make a number instead of I need to make a certain salary. I want to make a certain salary. It may be time for a change. Yeah, for sure.
00:37:05
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I love, me there's somebody close to us that says the only true way to get a raise is by switching jobs. Yeah, a lot a lot of times because you'll you'll put in the time, you'll put in the effort, you think that your effort will be rewarded.
00:37:24
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It's not. Listen, if you show up and show out at work, the only thing that you're going to do is bring yourself trouble. And what I mean by that is people will start to view you as one, indispensable in that role.
00:37:38
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you So they're not trying to let you move up or out into another role. They find you indispensable. And then they start to rely on you. And they start to put more and more on you without reevaluating your compensation. And a lot of people don't have that conversation of saying, okay, you're giving me more responsibility. Are we going to also talk about reevaluating my compensation? and no give me that money. Yeah, give me that money. No, because you think...
00:38:07
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Okay, if I just put my head down and grind, they'll see my my efforts and they'll see my work and they'll see my work product and I'll be rewarded. No, you won't.
00:38:18
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Only thing that you get is more work piled up on your desk. Well, work. It's the truth. Take everything you learn from that position and go find you one that's going to pay you what you're worth. And a lot of that also is people not negotiating for their salaries and asking him for what you're worth.
00:38:37
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you are You are bringing value to that company. Your presence is a value add and they need to compensate you appropriately for that. And that's my corporate jargon right now coming out. But that's the truth. You need to start asking for what you want.
00:38:52
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Stop undervaluing yourself. And a lot of times people are like, man, I'm just making ends meet and you're working 60 hours a week. yeah No, there is a company out there. There is a position out there for you that will pay you what you're worth.
00:39:08
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Go find it. So that was also another another one of the reasons to quit your job, of you being undervalued. But I feel like you wrapped that up perfectly. We don't need to go into much much detail. But my friend, when he left the job, he was definitely undervalued.
00:39:21
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Now he's at a different job. It's remote. He loves it. He makes more money. Yeah. These are things that you need to be thinking of. Also, limited growth potential is another reason why you
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should leave your job.
00:39:33
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Being boxed into narrow responsibilities or lacking opportunities for advancement can strife ambition. Seeking roles that align with your aspirations is essential. Look, yeah if you not, some people are worker bees.
00:39:45
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Some people want to go into the office. do their little job, go home, that's it. Some people don't want to advance. Some people don't want more responsibility. We know somebody close to us that never wants to be a manager.
00:39:56
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I love being a manager because one, it pays more money. And two, I like telling people what to do. That's not the real reason. I'm just a people person and I think I manage well because I'm a coach at heart.
00:40:09
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But Yeah. If your job is not giving you any opportunity advancement and you want advancement, it's time to leave. Now, if you don't want it, cool. But you do, you got to bounce.
00:40:20
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Yeah. And, and start with having that conversation and you know, when they're playing you, like, you know, when they're playing you, when you go to them and be like, Hey, I've been here for a while. i think my work product, you know, speaks for itself.
00:40:32
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I think I'm ready to take on more. And if they sell, yeah, six, six, ah oh I think we review, review time comes around. If they start doing that kind of thing, then they have no intention of moving you. They like you where you are and they have no intention of investing in you.
00:40:50
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But that's just also, again, it leads back to bad management. ah A good manager, a good supervisor wants their people to grow, wants to develop their people.
00:41:01
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So if somebody is trying to keep you down, keep your career down, at at the same level and in the same place because they rely on you being in that role instead of developing somebody else, but let you mentor somebody.
00:41:19
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If they like what you do, okay, great. I'll mentor someone to take over my position so that I can advance and do some something else, something that actually brings me some fulfillment, something that's actually challenging, something that actually feel
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rewarding to me.
00:41:35
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You gotta go. Got to go. So the the main thing from this article is define success personally. Yes. The article stresses the importance of creating a personalized definition of of success instead of adhering to outdated societal norms like climbing a corporate ladder for prestige alone.
00:41:55
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yeah So, yeah, if you want to climb that corporate ladder because that's what you want to do. Cool. yeah But there's some other factors that you need to take in place if you're really unhappy at your job. And guess what?
00:42:06
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I know the economy is kind of bad right now. The job market is I don't know what it really is, but you can get another job. Don't quit your job before getting a new job. I will say this because somebody on this podcast is notorious for quitting a job before she got a new one.
00:42:23
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And I said she so y'all know what the hell I'm talking about. I wouldn't do this. I said at the top of this that I'm known for this. Listen, if if if I'm in a situation and I can put up with a lot.
00:42:37
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I can put up with a lot. and And to certain extent, being Black in corporate America, being a woman in corporate America, being a Black woman in corporate America, there are certain things that...
00:42:51
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ah We know you're going have to there are microaggressions and macroaggressions and little things that going have to deal with. and And it's unfortunate. Always advocate for yourself. But if things get to the point where it's just untenable to stay, you got to go, even if that other opportunity is not there.
00:43:09
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I mean, it's going to come. It's going to come. Like now, if you bad at your job, you're going to And that's why you're miserable because they put you on a per performance improvement plan and all type of stuff are you you because you and you know you ain't do it you know you don't go you ain't showing up to work on time and you be leaving early and all kind of stuff. Long lunch breaks.
00:43:34
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Yeah, if you bad at your job, then that's your fault. worry But if you're actually someone who is performing well and is just being undervalued, Look for that other opportunity. Don't be afraid to take a risk and and look for that other opportunity because it is out there. There is a company that will value you and respect you and want to develop you.
00:43:59
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So just, go yeah, go find them. They're out there. But speaking of quitting, not your job. Not anymore.
00:44:09
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Don't quit your job anymore unless you, first of all, again, like I said, unless you got another job. But speaking of quitting, American Dudes is quitting American women. And we're going to get into that next.
00:44:28
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Jay, there was a emerging clash of situations that happened this week. Mm-hmm. And this is, I'll elaborate. So I had a conversation with somebody, ah female, about reason why her and her boyfriend broke up.
00:44:47
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and Because, you know, I'm messy and I like to ask a bunch of questions. You want another details. Yes, of course. And then I guess I put it in the ether. I put it in the atmosphere that I was interested about this. And then there was a Vice documentary about this guy Mass craze of passport bros going to Columbia. Now, we've talked about passport bros before.
00:45:08
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yeah i don't want to solely talk about passport bros. And I don't want to solely talk about the dynamic of relationships between men and women here in America because we've done that as well.
00:45:21
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I want to bring them all together. This is what I mean. So the the woman I spoke to, she was given a bunch of different reasons of why that she decided to break up.
00:45:32
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One of the reasons that she gave was that he didn't really have anything to say. he wasn't that intelligent. And a lot of the situations from this documentary, and I'll get into more specifics about the documentary ah later on, but one of the general things of a lot of these passport bros is that they feel like traditional roles and values are gone. Mm-hmm.
00:45:59
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And they are going to Columbia because a lot of those women believe in the traditional trad. tre They want to be trad wives, right? They believe in those traditional values at home.
00:46:10
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You also had this dynamic where women are not outpacing, have blown past men in education and in work.
00:46:22
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You also have another dynamic where women ah We're two generations removed. But at one generation, there were women that looked at their moms and all they were were housewives.
00:46:35
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and Teachers or nurses, that's all they could be, even if they had a college degree. They said that I didn't want to do that. That's where the feminist movement in 1970s took hold. Those women became mothers and had daughters, and they were still...
00:46:51
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homemakers as well still tended to the children cooking dinner, but also had careers. Yeah. And then they would look at their mother and was like, why isn't dad helping you? You have a job just like he has a job.
00:47:03
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Y'all are both kind of bringing in the same amount of money. Why is it the work around the house not being distributed evenly? Yeah. Yeah.
00:47:13
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And they're saying, well, that's not what I want to have. And a lot of men are just like, well, a lot of these passport bros going a lot of men. A lot of these, pass the majority of the passport bros are like, well, want that old 1950s situation where basically you have your place. And women are like, well wait a minute. Why would I have my place when um make more money than you? Right. Right.
00:47:37
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And I'm more educated than you are. What else are you bringing to the table? And when I had this conversation with the the the woman, I was like, you know, it's funny because when I was in a marriage, me and my ex-wife had cleaning duties.
00:47:51
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Yeah. Mine was, because I'm anal about it, pun intended, ah about the bathroom. Yes. yeah Right? Yeah. So mine was the bathroom. My job is clean the bathroom. She chose the kitchen.
00:48:04
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she would always talk about, and well, when we split, she would talk about how ah the the cleaning duties weren't fair. And I was like, that's the room that you chose. You chose the kitchen, I chose the bathroom.
00:48:15
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I didn't realize at the time, and I didn't realize I lived myself, the kitchen needs to be cleaned every day. Every single day. That's what I was doing this morning before the podcast. Right. Every single day. The bathroom, once a week, if you're anal like me, twice, maybe three times a week. Not because it's messy, just because, you know, you don't like a whole lot of germs the bathroom. You just don't want that.
00:48:35
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Right. It's not the same that the work disparity at home is insane. And I hear this a lot from my female friends who are wives and mothers. They all are career women. And then they come home and their husband is playing Call of Duty while they are getting the kids taken together, preparing dinner, doing all these other things.
00:48:55
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And men are like, I hope, but not really. So I found it interesting as a whole that there is this mass exodus of men saying, well, we're going to go other country to find our wives. And there are women here in this country is just like, be better.
00:49:10
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Yeah. Yeah, so here's the thing. It's not like there aren't women in the U.S. or in the West in general. Columbia's in the West, so I'll say in the U.S. in general who want don't want to be trad wives. They act like 100% of American women don't want to be trad wives. That's absolutely not the case.
00:49:32
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There are actually plenty of women in this country who would love for their sphere or their domain to be the home and the man provide and all the things, but the problem is they don't want to do that either.
00:49:49
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Okay? And the thing about going to places like Columbia, these places are chosen Intentionally. And it is not because the the women there want more traditional gender roles.
00:50:04
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It is because of financial control. The whole point of wanting to go back or make ah make America great again all that crap. The whole point is about maintaining financial control. the The fact that women can get educations and actually get jobs that align with their educations and actually ah where where we haven't yet, but we're working towards closing that gender wage gap and things like that. Like the fact that women can now be the breadwinner is the issue.
00:50:38
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The issue has always been financial. It's never been. And now because women are also working that 40, 50 hours a week, also contributing half toward the bills and the mortgage, they're expecting equity in the home.
00:50:59
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Yes. And what's the difference between equality and equity? ah Equality is sameness, uniformity, equity is fairness. Yes. Yes, it was equal that I had the bathroom and was cleaning the bathroom and she had the kitchen.
00:51:16
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So technically you had one room, she had another room. That's uniformity. That's equality. wasn't equitable. wasn't equity because she has to clean the kitchen every single day. And I only got to clean the bathroom once or twice twice a week. That's the difference. yeah And so, yeah, bro, you might mow the lawn once a week.
00:51:35
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Yeah. Are you unloading the dishes? Are you doing it? And so also there was another thing when I had this conversation with this woman, when she talked about like he, the reason why one of another reason why they broke up is because, you know, he just wasn't that bright.
00:51:51
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The idea that men don't have any thing of depth to have conversation about, right? Like, I can't always be barbershop. This is reason why a lot of my friends are now female. I'm collecting female friends like Thanos and Infinity Stones. like yeah and And not just females. If you were dude that's got more than just is LeBron James better than Michael Jordan, I'm past those conversations. Intellectually, it's not stimulating to me at all.
00:52:22
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I want to learn something from you. And if that's the dynamic of my relationships now, well, that's just the dynamic of my relationship. So I'm having the conversation with this woman and she's nodding her head because like, I understand what she's saying as far as there not being equity in the home, how she had to get on them to to clean or to clean right.
00:52:42
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and And, you know, that that there wasn't a whole lot of depth of the conversations. And then I conversely said, you know, a lot of men are not taught these things. yeah A lot of men, one time when I was staying with mom, i stayed with mom for a couple of months.
00:52:56
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And I was cleaning the tub. Now, you know, you've seen me clean the bathroom. Yes. I was cleaning the tub. Yes. And I couldn't get there with some mildew and I couldn't get all the mildew out. Mom comes behind me. I didn't know that she did. She comes behind me.
00:53:11
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and cleans it and it's almost like it's brand new. Used the same stuff that I did. I'm like, mom, how'd you do that? I just know how to clean it. I was like, well I want to know how to clean it like that yeah because I tried my best. I used the same stuff and it didn't come out like you did. So there are times where women will say to a man, this is how you do it.
00:53:30
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Man, don't pick it up right away. I'll have a little bit of patience. so Pick it up. But men also had the patience to learn to pick up how to do things the right way. Yeah. a lot of times you'll have people weaponize their incompetence.
00:53:44
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I used to do it all the time. Yeah. And, or or just purposefully do things incorrectly so that she'll be like, fine, I'll just do it myself. you go to it mom all the time. Go wash those dishes.
00:53:57
Speaker
and And it's true. I mean, ah there are a lot of, I think a lot of men who grew up in households where they didn't have to do these things. They they took out the garbage and they mowed the lawn.
00:54:07
Speaker
Like that was their, they raked the leaves. Like that was their chore. Quote, unquote, men jobs. Yeah, men jobs. And so like that was their chore. And so learning how to load a dishwasher well properly, not just putting stuff in there anywhere. There's a there's a way to load the dishwasher effectively. Like, you know, still don't know.
00:54:29
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know, like knowing that cleaning the kitchen is also involves wiping down the counters, you know, cleaning the floor, cleaning out the fridge, cleaning off the stove. Like it also involves like, it's not just doing the dishes and not just doing the dishes that fit in the dishwasher and leaving the rest of them in the sink. Like it's, like, You know what I'm saying? But when you go behind them and be like, oh, do it this way, do it that way, whatever. It's nagging. It's this and that. Y'all, I don't do anything right. I'm going to at all.
00:54:59
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you know Be open to learn to learning new things. And that's for both people. Like, ladies, get out there and mow that lawn. Right. You know what I'm saying? Get open to to doing different things. is that And my thing is like,
00:55:16
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you know It's just me. so If something breaks down, if I need to change a ah ah socket or like is you know like, I have to learn how to do those things. you know these I take out the garbage.
00:55:31
Speaker
I don't mow the lawn. I'm allergic to grass, but I pay somebody to do it. You know, you pay somebody to do it. That's hitting on you. Right. But I rake the leaves.
00:55:41
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Right. You what I'm saying? So like it's, it's being open to learning things that are traditionally outside of your scope, you know, but but you got people, you have these passport bros who will want to one, take their,
00:56:04
Speaker
40 50 60 000 salaries down to colombia and live in luxury number one which is one of them able to do here that's one of the points that this documentary made that they are living in luxury because a million pesos is 250 yes and you can go a long way with a million pesos yes i've been to colombia it is very affordable your american dollar goes very far down there yeah but But they there' there it's about asserting control. It's about placing yourself on a pedestal.
00:56:40
Speaker
and a lot And if you find that you're not being placed on a pedestal in your home country, it might be because you ain't supposed to be. Well, so another thing from this documentary, and it warns these passport bros. It's like, you think these women are so inviting, and not to put this general across Colombian women, but you think these women are so inviting. There's been many cases where guys get drugged and robbed. But it could be a setup because they know that you coming down there to exploit them and they're not as dumb as you think they are. People aren't as dumb as you think they are.
00:57:11
Speaker
And a lot of these passport bros, They always want to call themselves red pillars and alpha males. First of all, I've gone in length about what I feel about alpha and beta. Everybody's an alpha or beta. It depends on the circumstances. yeah I am both of them.
00:57:28
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yeah Sometimes I will be in the front. Sometimes I play the back. Yes. I'm not weak in any way, but being a beta doesn't make you weak. Being a beta means like sometimes you just know what your place is in this current situation. Right.
00:57:40
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A lot of these dudes out here, by their definition, are beta men. They soft. They don't want to compete in today's environment. They think they should be handed everything, even though they don't know consciously that's what it is. yeah and and And women are passing us. And bruh, if you can't keep up, I feel sorry for you.
00:58:00
Speaker
Because these women ain't going to stop. And I don't know why y'all want them to stop. ah There is nothing more attractive to me. than a woman that got her own and is going out there and get it. i The majority of the time that I'm dating women in the last five, six years, they're either as intelligent as I am or more intelligent than I am.
00:58:27
Speaker
Now, that don't mean that I can't carry a conversation because I can still carry a conversation. But I i want to i yeah want to have those type of conversations. And bro that's how you keep a woman.
00:58:37
Speaker
Yeah, you can't just. Oh, I gave her that good. Good. Yeah. That own that a woman can be dignified. That is absolutely true. That's absolutely true. Yes. But but it only lasts for so long.
00:58:48
Speaker
Yeah. And when they want something serious. And when they're ready for that, you are not going be the one. Or they're going to try to make you the one because you digmatize them. And then when they realize that you can't carry a conversation, that you can't sit down for one hour with nothing else distracting you and have a good conversation that's enlightening, enthralling, engaging, they're going be like, why am I with this person?
00:59:13
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Because let me tell you something. Women can be digmatized by men that can do those things. Yes.
00:59:23
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yeah Just saying. yeah yeah there's a There's a work husband out there waiting to take your spot. Yep. And so so these passport bros, you know I don't knock them.
00:59:34
Speaker
Let them live their life. look Look, I don't knock anybody. that's the life you want to live, that's the life you want to live. But stop making excuses by saying that something is wrong with American women because they want to be better.
00:59:46
Speaker
like if you't If you can't support somebody because they want to be better, good riddance. If it threatens you that I have hopes and dreams and goals that I want to accomplish, that's weird. That's deeply weird.
01:00:01
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Yeah. As Tim wall says, y'all are weird. Yeah. Y'all are weird. But it's, uh, you know, I see you got in the notes here. It's like in Medin, Columbia, these men claim to find women who embody traditional values, provide domestic care and offer what they described as quote King treatment. It's a lot of court jesters out there expecting King treatment.
01:00:23
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That's good. Did you put him thing? That was fantastic. Yeah. So if anybody wants to watch this documentary, it's a it's on Vice. It's from Vice. The report is Password Bros in Columbia, part of a Follow the Leader documentary series hosted by Jameli Madix.
01:00:43
Speaker
Yeah, I think it's Jamali Maddox. Okay, close enough. ah Definitely go check that out. it's a It's a good watch. Vice does good work. They really do. Vice does great work. If you really want to know what's going on and about certain subjects, they they really do real investigative reporting. Yes.
01:01:02
Speaker
I really love Vice. But on that note, Jay, what do you want to tell these people out here?
01:01:08
Speaker
You at work. Be professional. I'm at work. Leave me alone.
01:01:19
Speaker
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